#basically by now I only trust bee duo puffy and foolish around tommy

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there's something about how a lot of the more antagonistic dsmp characters view tommy as a "possession," or something to use/own (c!dream, c!wilbur, c!quackity, c!techno, hell even c!bad with wanting to use him for the eggpire....) but all in different ways. tommy isn't a person, he's a toy/doll/knight/pawn. others in the dream smp are people, but so is tommy

Oh yeah! That's actually a really interesting topic so I hope you don't mind me talking about it for a bit...

So, universe wide a lot of people view Tommy as a "hero" because that's what he was painted as to them, which is what brought them to build up unreasonable expectations for him and then be probptly let down when they found out he wasn't as perfect as he was supposed to be (which is one of the things that influenced the general public opinion of Tommy in season 2), that said there are 3 people I'd say that took it a step further:

Dream himself considers Tommy as his favourite plaything, but it's more then just that. Tommy is Dream's only remaining attachment and, with that, comes a whole degree of possessivness and added value given to Tommy. Dream himself described Tommy as the key to absolute power and, in the past, referenced having power over him as enough to make him a God. Tommy isn't just a pawn, because that would mean that being attached to him would make Dream weak (in his own worldview of course), he's special, but not special enough to be a person. He's the key to power and Dream's favourite toy all wrapped up in one which is why he offered him to become immortals together....

Then we got Wilbur. This one is a bit complicated, but I want to remind everyone that all 3 of this people "care or cared" about Tommy in their completely twisted and unhealthy way, that doesn't change anything. That said Wilbur is scared, he's scared of being alone and he's scared of beng insignificant. Tommy is his solution for both of them. Tommy is the only person that truly stuck with him through everything, even when he completely disagreed with what he was doing. Tommy is loyal to a fault, but that's not the only thing he also used to admire Wilbur as basically an idol. If there is anyone who ever made Wilbur feel like he held the world in his hands it's definitely Tommy (and he seems to want to go back to that with the enphasis he put on Tommy truting him, with them being family and with making decisions for him). So, once again, Tommy is less of a person for him and more of a coping mechanism.

Then lastly we have Techno. Techno definitely dehumanized Tommy both by assigning him the "hero" label and by basically treating him as a weapon while they were together. He "cared" about him, but he only started somewhat respecting him once he was violent enough and obedient enough. It took him almost their whole stay together to be even a bit honest with Tommy ("what's the need in being honest with a tool after all?" That's the kind of vibe it gave me) and, even then, he never really took Tommy's own very clear boundaries into consideration at any point (Tommy had been clear from the very beginning that their alliance was under the condition of not harming either Tubbo or L'Manburg) because he didn't care enough to try and compromise. He didn't care enough not to ally himself with Tommy's abuser or even to listen to Tommy during the Community House scene when he begged him to switch sides with him. Tommy wasn't Tommy to him, he was more of a convenient tool.

You did mention Quackity as well in all of this, but he actually doesn't seem to fit this mold, mostly because Quackity's manipulation itself is based on seeing people as people. Find their vulnerabilities and exploit them, that's sh*tty, but still not dehumanizing. That doesn't necessarily means that Quackity respects him or that he's not gonna try and manipulate him, but it is an important difference nonetheless.