#autistic boat wifes

[bwaah]

sisters

[our-aroace-experience]

My mom is approaching 70 and is in what I can only describe as a Queer Platonic Relationship. My whole life my mom has been ambivalent about romance, and I suspect that if she were young today she’d describe herself as aro. She and my dad were happily married before he passed away, but even so, I don’t really have memories of them being over romantic. Their friends and and family didn’t believe them at first when they announced their marriage (when she was 36!) bc they “didn’t act like a couple”. They worked well as partners and both wanted kids, but there was always something different about their relationship compared to the relationships of my friends’ parents. Since my dad’s death she has shown zero interest in getting remarried and has been happily single for more than a decade.

My mom has an incredibly full life. She’s got lots of friends of all ages, fulfilling hobbies, and a shitty little dog that she loves to pieces. I never worry about her being bored and lonely.

She has this neighbor in her apartment building. They help each other out the way couples do with tasks like grocery shopping, attending family events together, and they co parent the shitty little dog, but she swears up and down that there’s nothing romantic between them. They help each other with medication, hospital visits, and navigating the scary changes of getting old together. She and my grandpa used to argue about her getting remarried to this neighbor bc he didn’t want her to be “lonely”. My mom insisted that she’s not lonely and the relationship was not romantic. There’s love and companionship, but it’s “not like that”.

Back when I started to show interest in dating as a teen my mom was so confused. “You actually want to go on dates? My mom used to force me to date and I hated it.” When I came out as gay as an adult she was like “That’s cool. I still don’t get why you wanna date people.”

My dad once told me a story about how early in their marriage, my mom once accidentally “dated” a different man without realizing that he was taking her out on dates. From her perspective she just was having fun outings with a friend. When the guy “came clean” and told my dad “I’m dating your wife” he just laughed because my mom had been excitedly telling him all about their “dates”. She missed every single clue that this guy had been laying down for her that he was interested. “He invited me to have breakfast on his boat! I’m so excited for the birdwatching that time of day!” (My mom also might be a little autistic but that’s neither here nor there). She just is not a romantically inclined thinker.

I love my mom very much and I’m so lucky to have her as a role model. She’s taught me that happiness is extremely versatile. You don’t have to follow a traditional set route for a complete life with meaningful relationships. Romance is a social construct as much as anything, and you are free to engage with it on your own terms. Don’t be afraid to live and love the way you want to. Your life will be fuller and happier for it.

I’m so happy you’ve had a positive experience, and your mum sounds lovely!

[kneelingshadowsalome]

okay okay…how would konig propose to reader?would he do it because he really loves her or he wants a wife? i keep trying to wrap my head around him being romantic, but idk if he is able to be tbh

You know, I’m reading this biography of Arnold Schwarzenegger (Total Recall… lol) and he proposed to Maria Shriver on a lake holiday ;__; Like, they were in this boat Arnold was rowing around and I thought: this is so König coded!

So yep König would take his girl on a boat ride so that she can’t escape when he pops the question. He also wants to propose in the most romantic, intimate possible setting! It doesn't hurt that it's midsummer too, the birds are singing and bees are buzzing and flowers are blooming and there’s a soft breeze playing in her hair, perhaps she’s wearing a dress again because it’s so hot.

König has a tendency of losing his shirt every now and then, but this time, he will intentionally leave it on the shore as the day is one of the hottest summer days yet, and he knows he will get sweaty when he rows that little boat. His Engel suspects nothing, the cutest girl in the world just takes in the lake view, not paying attention to how this guy is rowing a little too enthusiastically for it to be a short simple joy ride on a hot summer day…

And then he just suddenly stops, deciding this is as good a spot as any, puts the oars away and reaches for his pocket. He doesn’t even get to say the words before her hands fly on her mouth when she sees he’s pulling out a ring. König was supposed to drop on one knee and ask for her hand but Engel starts to cry from happiness and he is so excited to go to her and put the ring on her finger that he capsizes the whole thing.

Our overexcited hero then has to save his angel from drowning and the ring slips and ends up somewhere at the bottom of the lake. König spends the rest of the afternoon diving to get it back while Engel relaxes on the grass, naked, trying to dry their clothes in the sun and admiring what a great lung capacity her future husband has O_o deep diving for the ring for like 15 times before he finally finds it and brings it to her, rising from the lake like some Olympian God, muscles wet and bronzed in the sun, smiling so, so wide when he finally gets on one knee before his lady ❤️ They’re both naked like Adam & Eve in paradise, the world around them is like it was the first day when God created it... It’s not what König had planned, but in a way it’s even more romantic than his original idea!

And as for your question does he truly love reader or simply wants a wife… Well, both!? People always say it’s girls who traditionally dream about getting married but in König’s case, he was the boy who dreamed he would some day win a girl and get to take them home as a prize take care of them.

He has never been a dating kinda guy, if König gets up close and personal with you, his main goal is to propose at some point. (Imagine if you wanted a relationship but didn’t want to get married because of this reason or that, didn’t see it necessary or smth, and König would be like… "Ok…" and internally cry himself to sleep :'( )

Not relevant to this but Arnold 'The Austrian Oak' also blurted to Maria’s mom that her daughter has "a nice butt" first time he met the Kennedy family. I cackled. I think that's so autistic/awkward/cringefail König coded too.

[duchezss]

My favorite details/moments from Trolls Band Together because I have a problem.

Lemme just get this out of the way and say the soundtrack is a certified banger oh my god.

When brozone tries and hits the perfect family harmony the first time the colors that they get outlined in are all separate, the three colors don't blend at all.

Just Floyd comforting Branch....😭 😭

Branch's little hops when him and Floyd were talking about the bunker WAHHHH.

The real emotions of Branch missing his brothers while simultaneously not wanting to see them like???

"There goes my back" when JD was throwing Branch LMAOO.

The entire design of Mount Rageous is so whimsical and gorgeous I'm in love.

When the whole screen shakes when JD hits the counter eh oh el.

"If there was a brother I'd do this for...I'd be Floyd" WAHHHH.

The old MTV style music video Watch Me Work has.

Floyd singing with the posters of brozone floating around 😭

"Tiny, Poppy, Branch, and this random dude" I SPIT OUT MY DRINK LMAO.

"Are you a narc?" OH I LOST IT IM SO DEAD.

All of Branch's old hairstyles being references to Justin Timberlake's real hairstyles.

"Poppy seed" awwwww.

Branch's little "yay" is so cute.

The ongoing ring pop joke is actually so funny I'm sorry.

The way Bruce and JD just throw Branch on command.

Bruce still being considered the heart throb even though he's got a dad bod, a wife, and children 😭

THE BLEEPED OUT CURSE WORD I WAS IN TEARS.

The amount of songs they fit into Brozone's back is actually impressive, and the way they mesh so well together??? Legitness.

"That's not an idea, those are shoulder pads" I just can't...

When Floyd's hair started turning white and he was going transparent....WAHHH 😭 😭 WHEN I GET YOU VELVET AND VEENER WHEN I GET YOU......(But also the details to show how fast his health was declining? Someone cooked)

Branch's iconic clue board.

Bruce holding tiny diamond since he's also a dad.

Branch trying to be brave and talk to the clown but as soon as Viva came at him he backed up. That's such a real response I love is so much??

Clay's hair being green? Which kinda hints that JD or someone made him dye his hair yellow when he was younger.

Viva calling Clay "Mr. Clay" is actually the cutest thing everrr

Clay and Bruce's handshake, I also kinda like that it implies that they were really close, kinda like how Branch and Floyd were close. I think it really separates JD from them.

Also everyone's reaction to JD being super cold while everyone fawns over Branch.

Clay's so smart 😭 (and autistic) I love him so much.

All the brothers cute dancing in It Takes Two ❤️

The very real response of Viva not wanting to talk about her trauma and also not wanting Poppy to leave.

"I don't wanna lose my brother either" I feel like no one talks about how brave Clay is. He's in the same boat as Viva, he thinks Bergens still attack trolls, and he's going out into the world for the first time in who knows how's long. Just because he wants to help save Floyd, like that's so sweet???

Floyd's dead face was way funnier than it should've been.

"I thought ghosts just floated away" the delivery on this line is unmatched.

Floyd speaking one younger brother to Veener was so 😭, especially cause you know he felt like Veener did when Brozone was still active (on a lesser degree ofc) I can't.

We don't talk enough about how fire all of the choreos are, like they got professional dancers to make these dances, AND YOU CAN TELL OML.

JD's need for perfection constantly getting in the way of the greatness they all could achieve.

Branch being the voice for all younger siblings out there who will never be respected by their families hit me. But I also think there's something to say about the JD's of the world. The older siblings they took charge because they felt they had to. All parties end up getting hurt.

Also Branch actually wanting them to be a family so sweet. It really embodies the naive hope of wanting to stay together that youngest children have, but it's not unattainable. You can still be close with your siblings into adulthood, no matter how much time has passed, and that's what this movie represents as it's core.

"I didn't think we'd both find ourselves tied up on this honeymoon" WHATTTTT.

BRANCH AND FLOYD HUGGING THROUGH THE GLASS WAHHHHHHHH. Also Floyd being the only brother to respect that's he's grown....I just love them so much 😭

The whole interaction of all the brothers reuniting while in the diamonds is so funny for no reason lol.

Viva understanding she was wrong and striving to do better for her sister >>>

BRO THE ENTIRE CLIMAX IS SO GOOD??? THE TENSION?? THE MUSIC??? IT'S JUST PERFECTION. THE SONGS CHOICES WERE SO GOOD, AND THE WAY THEY REARRANGED WATCH ME WORK TO BE SO INTENSE IS BRILLIANT. THE SONG JUST KEEPS BUILDING AND THE STAKES GET HIGHER, IT'S WAY TO GOOD.

"Actually I've got two really brave sisters" When the message of this movie is that found family and blood family are just as important as each other, and that no matter what you get to pick who your family is >>> 😭

When Clay falls hard while in the diamond, Bruce and JD immediately check on him, meanwhile he's just focused on Floyd. The older brotherism... 😭

The message of this movie also being that perfection isn't important, but rather balance, harmony, and communication are key. ❤️

The acapella opening of Better Place....just.....wow.....

Clay's adlibs eating everyone up??? Kid Cudi I was not familiar with your game hold on.....

When they hit the perfect family harmony all their colors start mixing, showing their respect for individualism and also for the group.

The way Floyd eyes light up when they're all singing is just 😭

Branch building the bunker for all of them 💔, Floyd remembering the waterslide, all of them hugging?? Just peak filmmaking idk.

"Jail it is" also apparently someone did the math and in our world the twins would get over 6 life sentences for their crimes hello???

All of the boyband references are so funny idc.

Clay being excited to get to know Branch 😭 also JD reading a book in the back that presumably Clay recommended him?? That's so cute? He's really trying y'all, they're all trying, and that just warms my heart 😭

*NSYNC making their first song in over 20 years for this movie is actually the craziest thing ever I'm obsessed. Also they all designed their little trolls which I think is so cute.

The last songs....just bangers....I can't even, I sound like a broken record, why is every song in this movie so good.

Fav adlibs speedrun (from the last two songs): Floyd little "yeah yeah", Clay's "dohhh, ohhh," one of the nsync members "show the wayyy", Bruce's "so excited", Branch's "ohh" & "ayeee"

The layering when they all sing together is too good. It sounds so gorgeous and if you listen closely you can hear each persons vocals.

Also I just need to talk about the music production and mixing for a second. This movie has three version of Better Place, all of which are unique. The main one is the NSYNC version, which is notable for it's little rap section. The Family Harmony version use's the intro/pre-chorus as the main part of the song. It also lets the song slowly built, and adds instrumentals as the song progresses. The Reunion version doesn't use the intro/pre-chorus, but rather mainly focuses on the chorus. It also uses the bridge from the main song as the post-chorus/refrain. Just a very creative use of the song tbh. Also the instrumental differences between Watch Me Work and Mount Rageous? Like it's the same song, but the way they add more classical elements and more layers to build the tension and the song as a whole?? I have no words. Perfection.

Obsessed with this movie. If you haven't seen it pls go watch it.

[thiefbird]

E, n, u for the letters ask please! 🖖

E - Have you added anything cracky/hilarious to your fandom? If so, what?

Yes, but not recently! These were back in early early high school. I wrote a very short, very bad Draco Malfoy/Apple(as in the fruit) fic once. I hope to god it has been lost to time. I will not tell anyone what my fanfiction dot net username was. I also wrote a Doctor Who/Supernatural/Sherlock/X Files/Star Trek: The Original Series/Warehouse 13/The Yellow Submarine(not Beatles RPF because the only character was Jeremy Hillary Boob, PhD aka The Nowhere Man)/Invader Zim crackfic extravaganza in collab with @gabrielnovakgoestomyschool (there may have been another fandom that I forgot). I do not know if it has survived the passage of time. I almost hope it did. They were all in this incredibly Escher-esque grocery store trying to get milk. I guess recently I accidentally wrote "Loghain Mac Tit" instead of "Loghain Mac Tir" when starting a post, took one look at it, and just posted it without further elaboration. I don't know if anyone ELSE thought it was funny, but I definitely did.

N - Name three things you wish you saw more or in your main fandom (or a fandom of choice).

U - Three favorite characters from three different fandoms, and why they’re your favorites.

Anders - I love an underdog, I love a revolutionary, I love a pathetic tall man who looks like he hasn't slept in a month, I love a man who will make Those Sounds when he kisses me. Also he loves cats and complaining; same, Anders. More seriously, I think he's a deeply misunderstood character by both those around him in canon, by his writing team and Bioware as a whole, and by the general fandom(not any of my beloved mutuals, we are all in the Right About Anders club); despite this, I do think he is a cohesive character. I just don't necessarily think that he is a cohesive character on purpose. I love the implications of his bonding with Justice, and the avenues it opens up for writing. I fully believe that Anders believes that he corrupted Justice into Vengeance, and that Vengeance is a demon; I just don't believe it's true.

Stephen Maturin - Ohhh, Stephen, my beloved. Patrick O'Brian cooked you up in a lab specifically to make me insane (nevermind the fact that I was three years old when he died) - mine is a fated obsession, to the point that I actually had a crazy-dramatic, toxic relationship with an autistic Trinity College naturalist for four and a half years directly out of high school; my brain simply had not fully learned that Stephen Maturin existed (I'd seen the movie once or twice and listened to the soundtrack ad nauseum because of my mother but never payed much attention), and fixated on the next best thing. Here is my Stephen Maturin propaganda: He's a tiny, angry little man who calls animals and friends and his wife alike "honey" and "my dear" and "acushla/a chuisle" (I will never forget the "awwwwwwww" that came from my mouth the one time he called Tom Pullings honey). He calls his best friend "soul" and "joy", and his other best friend "honey-bun". He's an International Super Spy, one of the most effective in the British service, and refuses to be paid for it because he hates tyranny so much (he does not like English colonialism either, but he has decided that England is the best way to beat Napoleon). He's an Irish and Catalan revolutionary (I did say I love a revolutionary), who is somewhat in hiding in the first book because of his associations with The Society of United Irishmen, and therefore connections to the Irish Uprising of 1798. Despite this impressive resume, this man has never met a boat or ship he is not in danger of not falling out of - he has been at sea for the better part of twenty years by the end of the series, and he still must be Carefully Watched to make sure he does not drown, or get soaked through to the skin. He is an acclaimed surgeon, with a miraculous success rate. He is also a renowned natural philosopher who has discovered multiple species, including a giant tortoise. He is the least tidy or fastidious man in all of creation, and is constantly covered in blood and/or winestains and/or crumbs. He pours alcohol over surgical sites not because he knows of germ theory, but because he thinks it'll help with pain. The only non-familial friend he's had longer than Jack Aubrey(who lives longer than the first book. Sorry James, ily) is Adhemar de la Mothe, a known and flamboyantly queer Parisian. He regularly says that he does not see the harm in sodomy so long as no one is harassing the ship's boys, and that anything that adds more love to the world seems a good thing. He loses his mind over a woman, and the more awful she is to him the more he loses it.

Speaking of Diana Villiers - Oh, Diana. I am fully in understanding with Stephen over you. A beautiful, headstrong woman who can ride better than most men, stuck in the most boring atmosphere of Southern England with her aunt and cousins after the death of her husband and her father both made her leave India - I cannot blame her for many of her actions. Diana is a fascinating character, and to me she is proof of Patrick O'Brian's writing ability. Most authors of Men Go To War books don't really seem to know how to write women very well (C.S. Forester I am looking at you. I do not know who Maria is outside of her fawning over Hornblower), but Diana is a fully fledged person from the moment we meet her setting her horse over a gate, despite the fact that we never see any of the events of the twenty books through her eyes. Not only is she a fully realised character, but she is one that shows his understanding of the setting he writes in. Diana Villiers is coping with grief - not only grief for her husband and her father, but for her independence. Her life in India, keeping house for her father from her mid-teens, would have been almost as different as one can imagine from the life of a poor relation take in on charity by a widowed aunt. She feels stifled in the English countryside, forced to play second fiddle to her cousins in order to keep the peace and a roof over her head. I cannot blame her for toying with men's hearts as a source of entertainment. Going into keeping with Canning is Diana's attempt to regain at least some measure of independence, and it is successful, to some extent. She has money, she is back in a country she finds familiar and exciting - but she also has a jealous, suspicious lover who employs their servants as spies to watch her activities, and little company because she is herself a scandal. Stephen's proposal offers her a way out of her situation; it also, to her, seems like a loss of freedom, not only because Stephen loves her, but also because she loves him, and that terrifies her. So she instead runs away with Johnson to America. Johnson, of course, is worse than Canning, and she leaves him temporarily, but then her freedom in England is threatened, again, this time by suspicions of intelligence work (I always wonder just how she got tied up so tightly in Mrs Wogan's subterfuge; did Johnson have something to do with it?), and surprise! Johnson is there to whisk her away from the danger. But he's worse still, and Stephen manages to intervene(yay Stephen) and get her away and back to Europe. This just keeps happening. Diana wants something that is almost entirely impossible for a woman in the period she lives in: liberty. Anything that could interfere with her freedom and independence is avoided at any cost - even her own feelings for Stephen. Especially her feelings for Stephen. She also, to me as someone with BPD/cPTSD now pretty well in remission, reads as a very empathetic and accurate portrayal of someone with BPD/cPTSD. Personally I think Being A Woman In The Late 1700s is enough reason on its own to have it(and we don't know enough of Diana's life before the Peace of Amiens to speculate on other Sources Of Trauma other than the death of her husband and father), but a lot of her hot-and-cold feels so familiar to me. She can be so cruel, and mean it fully in the moment she's saying it, but almost immediately regret her cruelty while still doubling down because she feels she has no other options.

Wow. This got really long. I hope everyone enjoys my Aubreyad Opinions Of The Day

[ladylaviniya]

Please someone lobotomise me. I don't want to have big human thoughts. I'm done. Just put me in a care home and let me go through dementia as I enjoy puzzles all day. I'd rather be at peace and forget things than have to continue feeling like I'm constantly drowning.

I hate myself and I hate that I struggle to fit into society.

I just want to be loved and I thought I'd be married with kids by now (yes I'm only 22 but I'm a Christian virgin who struggles with the physical feelings of being comfortable with sex other than the smut I write and read.)

I thought men were real- I thought men were romantic and worshipped women. I didn't realise how objectified and then shamed we are by men who behave like animals.

I don't want to work and I think that's a massive reason I'm having such a bad breakdown. I want to be a Pilates wife. I want to be at home baking and cooking and meal planning and loving a husband. I want to mend his work uniform and sit and rub his feet while he oats my head and tells me I'm his angel.

I don't want to work in disability care where my tolerance is so minimal to loud, overstimulated (overstimulating for me) aggressive clients. Or work with babies that scream and cry and hit along with angry parents that yell at you the moment something goes wrong. I wish job employment agencies would stop trying to pressure me into these roles. I KNOW THEYRE UNDERSTAFFED ALREADY SO IM NOT RIDING A SINKING BOAT- no THANKS

I just want my dad. I just want to go home. I just want to be 6 years old. I want to go to preschook again and do painting.

I don't want to work from 5pm-5am and walking Brisbane streets at night all alone going from one cleaning place to another just for one client to write passive aggressive comments in the Communication booklet and my boss to start telling other co-workers that I'm having meltdowns and I'm high maintenance.

I'm autistic and I just want to be treated like a toddler or a dog because that's kinder than what's happening now.

I just want a husband to look after me and protect me.

I want to just make cute little videos and not have to worry my pretty head about money.

I DONT WANT designer bags or clothes. I just want to have a house I'm allowed to decorate and make dresses or bake for church. And a husband who comes from work and pats my head and tells me I'm a good girl. At this rate I don't even care if he's fucking a receptionist on the side.

I get it how these are such white woman tears. But fuck I think every woman should have this dream off they WANT without any shame.

I know it's a "grow up this is reality, you're describing something that doesn't exist." WHY CANT IT EXIST. FUCK.

I don't blame feminism. Feminism is amazing and I love her.

I blame classism.

People can't survive on just single home incomes anymore and that's fucked up to me.

"but women had jobs too you're just describing the rich wom-"

Women with jobs were mostly young single women waiting to get married or women who never wanted to get married but needed a liveable income. YES some entire families worked to survive poverty back in the day, I wont disregard that, but FUCK

you would think being so advanced as we are considering we mass produce via machine etc, human life would be "easier" BUT IT ISNT.

And I'm TIRED. I really am. I've been depressed since the day I was born but because it's so normal to me I forget how depressed I am and then feel bad when I burn the fuck out.

[hearth4days]

🎥 do you have any favorite scenes from your hyperfixation?

🏳‍🌈 do you have any headcanons (lgbt, race, neuro, etc) that are important to you?

(for mha and slash or abuseken 👁️)

Doing a cut because jesus I can't shut up 😭

BNHA has so many scenes aaaaa. Being mostly a villain fan, I've mostly got fights to work with, which is unfortunate when I am not a fighting scenes type of guy

I will say I really loved the Stain fight. A lot of the villains have their scary factor turned down a lot, but Stain was really striking as a villain from the jump. I was watching with my mom at the time, and he wasn't on screen for three seconds before we were both having a very strong "ew" reaction. He's my scrungly now, but I can still appreciate that Hori genuinely made him a threat throughout his whole first arc. It was a good kicking-off point for the rest of the story's themes, and he's such a cool villain

I also really love all of Dabi's backstory scenes. I kind of like that none of them are from his perspective, thematically he's never had any say in his life, so I think it works that we only really hear about his trauma from the people that traumatized him. I think the anime carried it all out very well considering how dirty they usually do all the villains

All of All for One's scenes in the final war arc were incredible. I've liked All for One since 2020/2021ish, so it was nice for Horikoshi to actually acknowledge the history he had that no one but me remembered enough to care about. I reallllly like that he's also a part of the league's theming of just horrific trauma and circumstance while still illustrating that people can be past saving. I think the fandom missed a lot of depth to the story with all the ableist and biased takes that came out of all of that. Also it was just funny to see a toddler murdering people. And I appreciated him being gay for Yoichi in his final moments

Abuse-ken doesn't really have scenes as much as songs :// but I think the best story-wise is Want to be Cremated. Zoy's perspective is a fun one, because while he is supposed to be sympathetic and as much a victim of circumstance, he is also like a pretty shitty person. And he's well aware of this, but he can't seem to help himself until the boiling point of his beloved wife killing herself because of him. I love him so bad. I could go on but I think I've already gone over this song a million times hfhxjsjs

I cannot comprehend how people make quirkless!Spinner anything but POC. 90% of the time he is some average-looking white boy when. That defeats the entire point of his character. I'm white myself, so I leave it alone most of the time, but it is just silly to me. Also he has to be autistic. And he has BPD. Those I can back up with canon. But I also like giving him DID with a fuck ton of fictives because I am the fictive heavy Spinner guy of course

On the DID boat, Dabi is 100% a system and I will stand by that. I think it's an incomplete reading of his character to ignore all of the signs of CSA his character and backstory show, both in his home life and with the whole Ujiko situation, not to mention the inherent trauma of being a Todoroki that I don't think I need to explain. There's obvious signs of different alters even in canon which my friend @/x-neurotoxin-x has gotten into more than I probably could

I hate that the fandom immediately jumped to NPD and ASPD with All for One in an ableist way, because I actually have both of those and I see it in him a lot. Especially the NPD oh my lord. He was born from nothing with nothing, and only his little brother to take care of. The main cause of NPD is emotional and physical neglect, which he experienced severely in both aspects. And then of course, how quirks and his role as a big brother affected his personality as he grew up and slowly came into power as a villain. He sees Yoichi the only way he really can with his background, a belonging. He has to take quirks to survive, he has to be willing to fight people to keep the two of them safe. The only way he got any safety from that was violence and manipulation, and treating himself as powerful. At the same time, we see through his narration of his trauma and his gayass last words to Yoichi, he does not actually think of himself as good. He villainizes himself even a few seconds out of the womb, he calls himself a demon and remains nameless, he claims he is nothing without Yoichi. He has so much NPD but people were assholes about it so now I sound like an asshole if I say it

Stain has to be trans <3 because I say so <3 To be real though, he looks very trans when you take Vigilantes into account. Fym you "fully accepted yourself" and then proceeded to cut your hair 🤨/hj Also I will not get into my headcanonned backstory because this post is long enough, but I also like giving him NPD purely because he has this whole thing of not wanting praise or recognition, and treating himself like a martyr for his goals. I could write a whole essay on him. Also I like giving him religious delusions and a god complex. He is so so silly. Yet another case of That Is Obviously A Black Man, but it's mostly just. Look at his hair y'all. That is not white guy hair

Kurogiri has always been aroace to me and I will not hear otherwise. I have never shipped it with anyone in any way that is not one-sided. Also I have to use it/its for it or I will die

Breaking my personal faves only rule to mention Jin. It is so wonderful that he almost canonically has DID. I love him so much. Genuinely the best DID rep ever

*Record scratch* Different media Hellooooo Ito is canonically a trans guy that's crazyyy. Anyway he is also a system for personal reasons that are not canon at all

Zoy is also a system

So is Frannie. Believe me

[notascreepyasyouthink]

You dont have to answer this if you don't want to, but what helped you break free from the mormon religion? What was the big push? I just think it's all super interesting and awesome to see people with the strength to get out. I'm proud of you in case no one else said it.

thank you so much, anon!! to be honest, there were a lot of factors that went into me leaving, but a lot of it had to do with me being queer.

up until i was a teenager, i didn't realize exactly how miserable being in the church made me. my entire life i had been told that i couldn't be as happy on the outside, that the rest of the world was cruel and uncaring in comparison. but i felt so disconnected from everything. i never really fit the norm. i hated wearing dresses because of gender dysphoria and the way they felt on my skin. i got bullied and ostracized by the girls my age because i was noticeably queer and autistic.

the first time i met another trans person was in my ward when i was about 9, and she basically got kicked out of the congregation when she came out and started wearing skirts to church. we were good friends and i got really upset because i didn't understand why the rest of the adults were so rude to her. my mom sat me down and had a long talk about how her skirt and long hair were "inappropriate in the house of the lord" and that she was "ruining heavenly father's creation" by transitioning. (she also said that her wife would leave her, but last i heard from them, they're still together!)

all of that never felt right to me, but because the church was all i knew, i stayed. but then i had a few important realizations and friendships. i realized i was queer when i was in high school, i started exploring my identity, and i made some friends who were in the same boat i was. and halfway through high school, most of my friend group wasn't mormon. then i realized how much happier i was around them. i could be genuine around these friends, and they were genuine with me.

and it just hit me how unhappy i was in the church. i couldn't stand to be a part of a religion that advocated against me any longer.

i decided to leave when i was about 16. when i did, i told all of my friends on the outside and we celebrated together. i felt so relieved for the first time in my life. i found a community of people who loved me unconditionally, and i learned that life outside of the church could be so much better than i thought.

sorry, that was a bit of a rant, but thanks for asking, i never mind talking about my experience leaving.

[kadampalife]

Exploring the mind-body connection

Strolling on Hampstead Heath recently, an old schoolfriend was telling me how he and his wife have been trying to get out of England for five years now, trying unsuccessfully to get a place in France. The other old schoolfriend we were with was nurturing fantasies of buying a sailing boat, learning to sail, and sailing off around the world with his wife and severely autistic son – again, just to…

[ravens-rambling]

I am about to cry. I am so beyond scared, not only for my own life, but for my sister and mother too.

My sister is autistic and has no idea what sex even is. If she gets raped now she'll be forced to carry it to term. And, not only that, she has a really bad heart. The doctors told my parents when she was born with this bad heart that she'll most likely never have any bio children in her life, simply because her heart can't handle it. It'll shut down. So, if she's ever raped, pregnant, and forced to give birth, she will die.

She will die because these assholes decided to vote for that orange turd.

My mother is paralyzed from the waist down. If she ever gets into a situation where she is raped she won't be able to defend herself from her attackers. And then, because she's so weak and fragile, if she gets pregnant and be forced to give birth that labor will kill her. There is no doubt in my mind that it will kill her.

But, of course, despite knowing that, she voted for that orange turd. How she thought that was a good idea, I have no idea, considering when she was just 15 years old she was raped by a 21 year old man and gave birth. So for her to vote for a rapist is beyond me.

And then me, if I'm ever raped and pregnant, I know I will kill myself. There is no doubt in my mind that I will do it. I won't be able to handle it. I just know I will do it. And, I know hell get rid of my medical care. If he does, I will have nothing. No medical care.

And then my dad... Oh, my dad. I so wish I could cut him from my life. Not only is he abusive to all of us. But, he's a Facebook Boomer. He is completely red. He thinks the orange turd is the savior of this country.

I hope he becomes proud of himself if his daughters and wife ever gets raped and pregnant that our blood will be on his hands. I hope he becomes so DAMN proud of himself.

I am so fucking scared for my life. I am so beyond scared. My grandma and aunt is thinking of moving to another country and I so wish I was on that boat with them. To think that people would vote for a rapist, homophobic, fucking asshole over a black woman is just... I am so flabbergasted. I am shocked. I thought for sure that we had this in the bag after seeing the news that people walked away from his rallies. I thought for sure that every woman in this country would stand up and vote for another woman who made it clear that she was going to stand for our rights.

And, I just know, in the near future, I won't be able to marry another female partner. I won't have the right to do that. I won't have the right to my own body.

To anyone who would dare vote for that fucking asshole I hope you are proud of the many womens blood that's now on your hands. I hope you can stand tall knowing that your female friends and family members blood is now on your hands.

I hope you're really fucking proud of yourself.

[game-stationed]

That's it everybody's getting little Nate fun facts now

Awesome Nate art by @/sweet-teath bullet points below cut

I can't remember if I've linked his bio here or not so I'll do that first for basic backstory info (click the folded-over triangle on the top left for more info)

For someone that's worked in the medical field his whole adult life, being no stranger to blood and guts (in real life, they don't really phase him, even), he's horribly squeamish about horror films - yeah, even super campy ones.

He HATES phone calls. Getting them, answering them, being on them, anything. If it wasn't required, he wouldn't even have a phone in his office. He'd prefer a written or printed memo above anything else.

He took his wife's surname when they got married! He was more than happy to ditch his old one.

His favorite foods are pretty much any sort of safe, consistent comfort foods that are easy to make. Yeah he's autistic yeah it's undiagnosed

He's slightly farsighted. It doesn't bug him too much now, but he would need glasses eventually.

His PhD (He's an actual doctor! The title isn't just for show.) is specifically in biomedical engineering. It was a job path that made him feel fulfilled and useful in being able to, hopefully, help others.

He's rather picky about being referred to as "Dr. Schaeffer" by colleagues, disliking being referred to by just his first name or without the title. The only real exception to this, as far as fellow Playtime Co. workers would go, would be that he allows Leith to call him just "Nate."

One job path he considered prior to aiming for his doctorate was that of a writer, potentially a poet. He always had an affinity for poetry and prose. However, he decided against this path for various reasons: he considered himself too unskilled in the craft to turn it into a career, he figured it would be too difficult to make a good stable income off, and thought it would not feel as productive or fulfilling as it didn't directly help others.

Nate has a ton of symbolic objects tied to him within his story, but some of the biggest ones that represent specifically him are the sun, fire, the color red, and ship captains/boats. Probably some more, too, but those are the really big ones.

He's maintained the same shitty haircut for years after (accidentally) having a particularly bad haircut for his wedding - more or less ruining all the wedding photos, though there weren't really all that many pictures, anyways. While he was growing that haircut out, his wife mentioned liking how shaggy it was getting, and he kept it in a similar style from then on.

He never really had much interest in Playtime Co. products, even before learning of the experiments they were doing. He wasn't opposed to them by any means, he just didn't have an interest in toys made for kids. If asked what his favorite toy from them was, he'd eventually land on Cat-Bee.

He suffers from both insomnia and hypersomnia. He's very, very tired. Always. Not much seems to alleviate this.

He has fallen asleep at work before on rare occasions, overworking himself and feeling like there just isn't much reason to go home anymore. It just felt like time wasted to sit idly at home by himself, really. After losing his wife, he lost most of his hobbies and interests as well, anyways.

His gender identity and sexuality are not any further labelled than "man" and declarations of how dearly he loves his wife but, on other occasions, weird offhanded mentions of both female and male lovers in his distant past that he fails to elaborate on. He's the type of guy to mention something really out of pocket about it and move on like he never said anything. He genuinely doesn't think anything of it.

If he was an animal he'd be a basset hound. To me

[kiwi-peaches-blog]

Fic recommendations

Disclaimer: none of the below are my own work, they're just a few of my favourite pieces. If any author doesn't like their work linked here, please dm me and I will take it down.

Posted 14/03/2022

Updated 02/04/2022

Marvel

Matt Murdock

Memory

Appreciation

Moan for me

The devil of hell's shower

Lingered affection (series)

Rooftop rendezvous- part 1 part 2 part 3

Ghost of you

Amour sans fin

Billy Russo

Billy Russo fics

Billy Russo fics 2

Billy Russo fics 3

A woman scorned & A woman reborn ( series)

Love and war - Part 1 Part 2 ( series)

Imagine being a vigilante and occasionally taking small jobs for Billy Russo- part 1 part 2 part 3 part 4 part 5

Frank Castle

Slipping though my fingers

Liar- Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 (series)

Love in the art of flowers- pink yellow white lavender red (series)

Gentle Giant

I pray that you will see the light ( reader is Frank's oldest child, gn)

Ready? (teen autistic reader)

Over

The big, bad, punisher

After dark

Complicated

Kiss it better

Familiarity

Sam Wilson

Forever

Doctor Who

The Master (Dhawan)

Remastered series- the crimson horror nightmare in silver new earth the pandorica opens the halloween apocalypse the husbands of river song

In sickness and health

Missy

Our own

Call me missy

13th Doctor

You're bleeding

I'm not going anywhere

The doctor's wife

Hannibal

Hannibal Lector + Will Graham + Reader

Hannibal rewrite (Hannibal x Will x reader series)

Hannibal masterlist part 1

Hannibal masterlist part 2

Will Graham

Lonely

Stay away from Hannibal Lector

Hunger Games

Finnick Odair

Pancakes and promises

Hold you close

Riverdale

FP Jones

Oh dear ( series)

The whyte wyrm

Peaky Blinders

Shelby sister

Fearful

Poison

Little lady blinder (series)

Tommy Shelby

The woman on the boat ( Series 6 spoilers!)

My problem doesn't come home much (oc)

Tell me Promises

Seasonal love

Sweet creature

Arthur Shelby

Is this my shirt?

Alfie Solomons

Choking on sapphires (series very long)

Vodka veins

The little things

The Walking dead

Daryl Dixon

The beginning is the end is the beginning ( series)

Late in the day ( series)

In silence- part 1 part 2 part 3 part 4

Not this time

Plan A

Something found

Vanished - gone masks

Negan Smith

Lie to me

Rick Grimes

Frost

Bloodletting

Westworld

Logan Delos

Ex machina

Main street

Fight me you attractive stranger

Here comes the sun-iverse (series)

[prisonhannibal]

ive never watched hannibal but like every single one of my friends that have say i remind them a lot of will. what does that mean doc. am i gay

Will is introverted, extremely smart, and funny (a lot of sarcasm), but he can be hostile, harsh and straight up aggressive. He doesn't seek out many relationships with other people, he lives in a house that looks pretty isolated with a billion dogs because he likes to take care of stray dogs. He's an outdoor type and loves to fish and fix things like boat motors. He hates eye contact and describes himself as autistic, and he has an empathy disorder (extreme empathy). I'm sure you know that he uh kills people, but he has an instinct to protect and a moral compass, even if it's a weird one. His wife called him a "sweet man" who's doing the right thing (although she basically only knew him when he wasn't in contact with hannibal lol). he has like a lot of mental illness like he's experiencing psychosis for pretty much an entire season, but prefers to hide his feelings and try to deal with it on his own. also he thinks he's straight for most of the show lmaoooo lol roflmao hahaha and all that. like I said he is very, very smart (that's how he can be such a sneaky manipulative bitch!!), but i guess he didn't have a gaydar smh

[natjennie]

I posted 11,501 times in 2022

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I tagged 4,479 of my posts in 2022

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Longest Tag: 135 characters

#gorgug handshake meme me. autistic. has a hard time knowing when you're supposed to talk. confused always. says sorry after everything.

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

that stupid fuckign red piece of silk is gonna make its way to stede i swear to god. the logic in this show doesnt make sense we know it doesnt. its possible. ed just threw it out into the wind. stedes gonna fish it out of the ocean with his oar and Know that he needs to get back because something is wrong. he's gonna dry it out and press it and do tiny little needlework repairs on it and fold it neatly back into a pocket square for ed, taking care of his washed up, thrown away little heart and making it whole again. not because ed asked him to but because he wants to. and ed's gonna see that people care about him, even after everything he's done. and it's gonna be okay again.

12,649 notes - Posted March 25, 2022

#4

tracy chapman really unlocked something with fast car. you cant listen to fast car without Feeling. every person who has ever and will ever listen to fast car has felt the same feeling as every other person who has or will listen to it. fast car is an experience. it should be listed in the dsm5. felt too much while listening to fast car.

17,457 notes - Posted June 24, 2022

#3

its actually kind of funny to think about the fact that stede didnt know he was gay. because bestie ur whole crew is. im like 98% sure lucius has tried to suck stede's dick at least once. everyone's limp wristing all over the place. you're flying pride flags baby. queer people flock to each other. who else is "uncomfortable in a married state" and leaves their rich wife and kids to be a pirate. literally only gay people. what did you THINK you were doing stede.

26,976 notes - Posted April 3, 2022

#2

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38,078 notes - Posted March 20, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

love the way david jenkins refuses to apologize for shit just not making sense. how do they get places so quickly? doesnt matter. why is ed wearing full leather wouldnt he be sweating like hell? oh yeah it'd be awful to be a pirate in that, but it's hot, next question. he does not hesitate to just be like. eh who gives a shit. they're in love, who cares about how the boat got there. it's all fake anyway. here watch taika and rhys kiss.

51,946 notes - Posted March 25, 2022

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[appleteeth]

(Subject to change, in no particular order)

Stede Bonnet (Our Flag Means Death)

My beautiful, soft, idiot romantic hero. He literally ran away to be gay and do crimes. The most autistic character and, importantly, one who is loved for all of his nd traits. It's the role Rhys was born to play, there is nobody else who could have pulled it off.

Werewolf Alpha Anton (awoo) (What We Do In The Shadows)

The tired dad energy. The desperation to keep everyone behaving themselves. The indignation at the vampires. He needs a long stay in one of those fancy kennels to get some sleep.

Murray Hewitt (Flight of the Concords)

The most pathetic of Rhys's pathetic characters. Worst band manager in history. Will cry to get a record deal. Has the backbone of a wet digestive biscuit.

Steve Rutherford (Wrecked)

Nazi killer. Pirate fucker. Cool guy. Champion chest player. The best maniac to ever get hunted for sport. He went from 1-2 episode guest-star to one of the main cast, and he deliver a fucking punchline without screaming it, unlike the rest of the cast

Mary Ledbetter (Short Poppies)

The cuntiest of all cunty characters. Pure evil and incredibly petty. She reminds me of so many awful women who want to spend their retirements ruining everyone else's lives. Pray for her poor husband, he's probably going to end up under the patio.

His impression of himself when he was in the army (Stand-up specials)

(gif by @ wastingyourgum)

Another incredibly pathetic character, but this time with boyish enthusiasm and complete ineptitude. Got lost within his own camp, whined at his commanding officer when the person he shot at with imaginary bullets didn't play dead, could not spot a tank during observation training, and rescued a grand total of 3 sheep. So bad at army-ing he got told to go to university instead. Legend.

Pabu-Chan (Big in Japan)

The all-pronoun icon themselves. I'm already a sucker for a cute Japanese mascot, so for one to be so fucking adorable and a big pavlova to boot - it's like she was made with me in mind. Nobody tell Rhys that Yuru-chara are supposed to be silent.

Angus Nutsford (The Boat That Rocked)

I have such a fondness for this character because not only is he based on Kenny Everett in his early pirate radio days, but Rhys pulls off this fucking stellar scene where he confesses to having been with another man. And you know that it was meant to be played as a joke because that's the sort of film it is, but Rhys did the whole thing with a quiet dignity whilst also still being funny. I dunno, maybe I've got my Rhys-tinted glasses on but it never seemed like he played this character being bi as a joke.

Also, he had the best fucking line of the film ("Try and fuck your way out of this one!") which of course was ad-libbed because Richard Curtis could never.

Casper (Relax I'm From The Future)

(gif by @ ratchet)

I've so far only seen the trailer and I've decided I love this mess of a time traveller. He does a little dance when he eats, he smokes a joint, he goes partying at a metal gig, he gets beaten up at least twice. I've only had Casper for a few days but if anything were to etc etc etc.

Terry Pole (Short Poppies)

Two reasons:

1. Rhys literally created Terry Pole so he could show off his legs.

2. His wife says this character, out of everyone in Short Poppies, is most like him.

The cocky little shit.

@ whoever sees this, who are your top 10 favourite Rhys Darby characters and why?

[kasienda]

@steelblaidd - yes! For a whole second nursing session!! :)

D - A pairing you wish you liked but just can’t.

Previously answered here.

E - Have you added anything cracky/hilarious to your fandom? If so, what?

Umm... I tried, but it didn't come out all that funny imo.

I did pull off a humorous story in Sailor Moon, but it's not to the level of crack.

M - Name a character that you’d like to have for a friend.

Previously answered here, but here's a second take.

If Alya could give me a lot of things that I need, I think I could give Kagami a lot of things that she needs. Someone who can listen, loves the bluntness, lots of patience, cooing over her art, just acceptance for exactly who she is, and we can geek out over manga together and how stupid everyone else is over boys!

R - Which friendship/platonic relationship is your favorite in fandom?

There's a lot of adorable friendships in this fandom. The characters are just so human and wholesome. And the development of the miracu-class is one of the neatest things. Like watch origins or dark cupid and you can see they pick on each other, don't get involved, have their own cliques, etc. And then fast forward to like Guilt Trip. And they're just THERE for each other. There's adorable group hugs and love it any time they have a party of the Couffaine boat. I just love them as a community that grew into a really tight knit group.

The friendship I get most excited to see developed is still Adrien&Nino though, followed closely by Alya&Marinette and the four of them in general. And I also love the chaos of Marinette&Kagami.

T - Do you have any hard and fast headcanons that you will die defending? 

I don't know about die to defend, but here's a few.

I hate the Luka & Juleka sibling retcon making them twins. I very much want them to be half siblings because their mom is into flings and not stable relationships. That moment when Juleka was filming Luka crying over his break up with Marinette, and doing nothing to make him feel better??? CLASSIC younger sibling!! LOVE IT!! Give it to me.

Similarly, with the huge spread of age differences in Alya's siblings, I need some of them to be step or half siblings. I headcanon Nora as a Alya's step sibling, and the twins as Alya's half siblings. I figure Nora is the daughter of her dad's second wife, and the siblings are the product of her mother's second husband.

I very much see Adrien as asexual or demisexual, especially when his love/attraction/admiration for Ladybug is contrasted with Marinette drooling over an ad. Haha! He could also be autistic, but he also doesn't necessarily have to be, but I enjoy reading autistic Adrien a lot.

Hardly unique to my head, but Marinette definitely reads as ADHD.

Y - What are your secondhand fandoms (i.e., fandoms you aren’t in personally but are tangentially familiar with because your friends/people on your dash are in them)?

More than a few!

Fandoms that I am a fan of, but do not consider myself to have ever been IN the fandom and often love to see running across my dash and will even read fic for: ATLA, SpyxFamily, The Owl House, Dragon Prince, Good Omens, Harry Potter, Zelda - BotW

Fandoms that I have consumed at least some of the source material, but haven't been able to get into, but still often enjoy seeing art and reading discourse for: SheRa, Star Wars, Korra, Voltron, FF7, Batman, Superman, Invader Zim, Steven Universe

Fandoms that I am ONLY familiar with BECAUSE of tumblr: Dracula, Bat Fam, Julie and the Phantoms, Supernatural

I'm sure there are others in each category that I'm missing, especially that last one as I don't always remember the name of those ones.

This was fun ya'll! Thank you for all the asks!

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