#at this point half the notes on this post are just a blocklist

[funkylittlebats]

Men will be like "I'm not babygirl" and then literally ask his totally platonic male best friend to hold him while he's dying

[0w0tsuki]

Both "Transandrophobia" and "Transmisandry" come before "Transmisoginy" when you search for it, with"Transandrophobia" being one of the top results when you type in "trans" into the search bar. The average post from the top Transandrophobia blogs where they Critique and Analyze cropped screen caps of transfem's posts behind their back will get thousands of notes of praise for RATIONAL and REASONABLE they are for speculating that a throwaway line about "trans girls taking the piss" is actually a joke in direct reference to an anon led sexual harassment campaign of a trans man.

And due to the new tagging policy all that's needed is to mention the word for it to come up in the tags. Which has resulted in half of the #transmisoginy tag being mired with trans androbros crying about how their not transmisoginists, or that they're affected by transmisoginy, or that TME/TMA distinctions are just interagating them about their genitals. Which is by the way AFTER I've used the notes of the posts by the aforementioned top transandro blogs as a blocklist to block these chuds by the thousands. I STILL have to to sift through trans andro post after transandro posts to find a post discussing transmisoginy IN THE GOD DAMN TRANSMISOGINY TAG!

It's been nearly half a year since @/humans announced that they were "working vewwy had :(" to unban the #tgirl tag when they've proved that they can unban tags within a week. Meanwhile the #tboy tag was never flagged to begin with. Hell. Trans women can't even post a selfie in the #transisbeautiful tag without risking attracting the attention of sissy porn chaser blogs.

And EVERYTIME we point out transmisoginy whether it's the "megapope was right" discourse, calls to "critique" gender affirming care for transfems under the pretense that it affirms the patriarchy, obvious "best of both worlds " trap jokes, or a crossdressing cis femboy streamer being treated Height of Gender™ who "no one else does it like". EVERY TIME we point this shit out we are met with condescending TMEs treating it as the Transfem Crusade of the week. Who belittle, talk down to us, and position themselves as the educator to us aabout our own oppression. Who tell us that we are taking things out of context, that were overreacting, that we don't have any reading comprehension, that we don't understand basic theory, and that we're just looking for anything to be angry about.

But no keep crying about how trans men are ignored and talked over meanwhile transwomen are overprioritized and "dominate" the trans conversation. Because surely we haven't been told enough about how we take up too much space.

[fulltacs]

fuck it. free the blocklist.

tw for ableism, death threats, cw for general rage-inducing behavior

this is not exhaustive, this is a starting point. BLOCK these people, do not interact.

- literally anyone who interacts with @/ladygoth at this point. I don’t doubt that she and her friends are responsible for at least half of the hate anons received by darkfic writers

- as for the people who were “protecting” codslut/Myka… they’ve all been in my notifs liking my update post and un-liking sheheals post and deleting anything they might’ve said on the situation. yay, I guess. I may have unblocked you, but the other nosy people following everything certainly didn’t.

- on a related note, anyone who goes by “Myka” or “Hannah” gets blocked ON SIGHT (half-joking). I don’t care if that’s your name (please don’t put your real name on the internet) you better make up a new one 😤

- /bookobsessedram, /mothymunson, @starry-eyedblog , /ghostsbimbo, @ghostlywhiskey and @ghostly-whiskey, /angelofacidx, and @ladyxtiger were all involved in being assholes in the discord as seen here. not pictured: /bjornthebearguy and someone going by “spiders” in the server (not to be confused with /notspiders, my bad). and i’m sorely disappointed in /bunnyreaper, as mod, for letting them continue to chase people off, even though it had been brought to their attention before.

AND ESPECIALLY @simonrillleyyysss and @simonrillleyyyysss2 and @joostyklein (all their known alts). As a matter of fact, fuck everyone who’s friends with them (including /konigsblog). Jordi, G***, whatever the fuck you’re going by, I am so fucking sick of seeing your name in my DMs. So many people messaged me to say it was you and your gang’s hateful behavior that drove them away from the fandom, and I can vouch for some of them because I was there the whole time. What the fuck is wrong with you guys. I have a hard time believing your apology means ANYTHING when you used the discord to lead a brigade on Bo back in January, and CLEARLY HAVEN’T STOPPED being an asshole since then (“I still don’t like soapskneebrace either way”). Bo and Madi were not your only victims, again, there were quite a few others who came forward. You bullied anyone who disagreed with you and at the end of the day you only care about your follower count.

The craziest part is that most of the people we watched you bully are open about their autism diagnosis. And this was just a casual observation I made, not even an accusation, but five minutes later you make your first-ever very casual not-at-all-sus claim of having autism.

do you think we were born fucking yesterday. Trying to get ahead of ableism accusations by suddenly claiming to be autistic, even if true, is not gonna have the effect you thought it would, cause I wasn’t the only person who clocked that as WEIRD. (Internalized ableism is still ableism, btw.)

Just shut the fuck up. For once. It’s THAT SIMPLE. Leave everyone alone. Make your little posts without feeling the need to be assholes to other people.

Fun fact: I have received no death or rape threats in my anon mail, and maybe that’s because I’m not a very big blog. Or maybe it’s cause I know what all your fucking faces look like (hello, internet safety where?). I said fuck all y’all yesterday and I stand by that. Hopefully your time here is met with the same amount of love you’ve shown your peers.

[nangbaby]

Hi!

This is about the blocking debate

First off,you're very brave! I also strongly disagree with those 44000 notes but I was too scared to post a dissenting opinion there. So thank you for writing yours.

You know,if people attack some seemingly harmless words that fiercely,then either it was indeed an awful bigoted take,or it was some truth others don't want to face. This is the latter. (the way you and OP anon are the only ppl against blocking,out of thousands,yet they still feel the need to keep defending their position)

For my part,I 70% agree with you.

I have bpd so I feel that rejection very personally,whenever people just TALK about blocking others. It hurts so much to hear how disposable other humans are to them. And I feel rejected too.

The disagreement with you is only on the "if they speak publicly anyone has the right to engage" line. Personally I believe that exactly then,it is ok to block. If someone engages with you and you do not want to respond,you are free to not respond. And if too many people attempt to "debate" or bother you then at some point you can't just ignore,you NEED to block,for your mental health. Sometimes there is just one or two messages,but you look at the words they use and how they talk to you and just know: no,this person is not someone I want to do any emotional labor for (honestly,it's usually men that fall into that group to me,because they rarely debate in good faith. it's just to annoy or to intimidate or to get attention)

But otherwise. When people talk about "free blocklists". When they block preventively. When they feel so entitled as to block someone because they like a character as opposed to another. That type of shit makes me so mad. It's not fucking normal to not be able to even tolerate different people existing in the same space as you.

They talk as if everyone they block is some sort of nazi and that they feel unsafe. But when you go on their profiles you see that they just blocked half of the people using a character tag because they "were annoying". That is self-harm,not self-care. Closing the blinds on an entire world just because you want everything on the internet catered to you. Literally how devoid of curiosity are these people?? And ignoring is easy. Blocking is not the same. It means "this person will never have something of value to be said". Sometimes,I agree. There is really nothing there for me. But as often as it happens on tumblr or twitter,it's just treating everyone else except from yourself as NPCs instead of complex multifaceted humans. At least observe others a bit before you block.

I fully fully disagree on restraining orders though. Those should be obtained much more easily,for women. And should never expire.

Anyway,tl;dr: I don't understand current blocking culture either. Sometimes it's right to do and necessary. But all the time? hell no.

Thank you for your words and for letting me see them.

I'll take the 70% agreement and let the 30% part I disagree with stand on it's own.

Fundamentally, I worry blocking culture only serves to make ignorance permanent. Heck, I've seen this happen in fandom after fandom when people "warn" about other people and in the end, lies are allowed to spread because the people telling the truth are mass blocked.

But apparently, lots of people disagree with us, and I don't see the tide turning any time soon.

[ars0nism]

okay, final post on this. my thing with terfs isnt the terfs. im 18, ive been through a lot, i can handle a couple of terfs on my page. what bothers me is the young people, especially young girls & transmascs, that fall into the terf rabbithole on accident.

SO.

heres my quick & easy guide on how i personally check for terfs. PLEASE check for these signs. to protect yourself. ofc not all things immediately mean terf, but this is my personal checklist

rad and or fem in the url (IMMEDIATE red flag)

labrys lesbian flag (somewhat of a red flag, could be innocent young lesbian roped into it. if theyre an adult its a red flag)

if you click on the search icon it will show a bunch of commonly used tags. look at the tags. common tags wpuld be radfem, radical feminism, terfism, gender critical etc

look at where they reblog from. who theyre following if its public. what posts they like if thats public. look at the bios of these. if the terf doesnt have a bio and is trying to be stealthy, oftentimes the people they agree with are open about it. block both while youre at it

queer slur discourse (also done outside of terf circles but far more common among terfs, especially coupled with the "not queer, im lesbian" stuff (though thats understandable and not inherently terfy) and in combination with other red flags)

exclusionism (not inherently terfy but still a good point to look out for)

fixation on wombs and vulvas (immediate red flag no one but terfs is that obsessed with their reproductive organs)

the "LGB" community, or even the "remove the L" because they dont want to associate with gay & bi people

really big hatred of the concept of "genital preference". sexuality is only about genitals to them.

intense man hatred. they hate men so much. (also not an immediate red flag because yeah some of it is warranted but you can tell the difference between joking about trauma/standing up against the patriarchy and straight up... being a terf)

the term "ssa". stands for same sex attraction. (pretty big one i think. i personally have only heard it from terfs.)

febfem. bisexuals who only date women. (also one i didnt know about until like half an hour ago. also a big one)

this is one specific to the current time and might be obsolete soon but if theyre vocal amber heard supporters. those are ALL terfs.

terfs are also often swerfs. hating on sex workers (not the system, the system is fucked and we should recognize it) is terfy !

they like to refer to us (trans people) as a cult. which, to be honest, after this experience, im more likely to call them a cult. (if a terf disagrees with you, get ready for closing anon & gross bullshit in your notes. we have mutual circles, they have them too)

and of course green flags for trans people & trans allies, if they have these the odds of it being a terf are. a lot smaller

pronouns in bio

some variation of lgbtq+

following trans blogs

inclusive

mature fucking human being

and if you're in doubt whether or not its a terf, its better to block an innocent person than to interact with a terf, id say. odds are the innocent person doesnt care.

BUT!

let's say you said something they didn't like and now your post is circling in their shitty little group chat. what then? my suggestion would be to

CLOSE ANON ASKS. once their cult has found your page and realizes you post about trans things, or worse, are trans, they will harass you. anon gives a lot of confidence to send death threats. dont let them.

Block all of them. No, it's not gonna stop new ones from harassing you in their place, but it does make for a pretty nice blocklist.

If you need to, don't hesitate to step away from tumblr for a while. Not everyone can handle harassment, and it's okay to step away if it's too much.

Remember you're worth so much more than any of these terfs. Remember being trans is something to be proud of, remember you are loved, and most importantly, remember they're just terfs on the internet. laugh at them. make fun of them. they may say shitty things, but they can't actually hurt you. (anything that can hurt you, like doxxing, is illegal. get law enforcement if possible if you think you're in actual physical danger)

Best of all is to ignore it. Don't keep talking about it ("take your own advice" im working on it). it's not fun to harass someone who just ignores you.

If you really can't cope, it's okay to close your blog. You don't have to stay. Make a new blog. Only tell your mutuals.

(also, side note, i have a blocklist filled with terfs. i am absolutely down to share this blocklist with you, if you want somewhere to get started)

[csmeaner]

I figured this would be better to send as a submission rather than an ask as I know tumblr likes to eat asks with URLs up.

As Tessa Mag now currently goes by they/them pronouns and only by the name Marsh, my writing will reflect as such.

I do remember the Marsh incident that happened in 2020, though many of the tweets are deleted as they tried to cover it up and half-assed an apology. However, if you just search ‘Tessa Mag’ on Twitter you will get a lot of tweets from back in 2020 of people discussing the issue and many black and brown artists who have never even interacted with them mentioning they’ve been blocked by them.

I don’t have personal screenshots of the incident and it is now difficult to find them due to deleted tweets, but this is the rough recollection of what happened in case it jogs anyone else’s memory who may have relevant screenshots:

Marsh posts a comic on Twitter in late August of 2020 about fandom attitude towards creators that was tone deaf in its timing, right after/during the uproar against the She Ra creators after the fandom learned of the “inside joke” the team had about Bow (the black character) “working the fields” (which related back to Jim Crow era caricatures of black people working farms)

Users point out how tone deaf the comic is and Marsh begins to backpedal claiming that it was never about She Ra and that it is about JKR instead, which didn’t make complete sense as the comic they posted explicitly stated cartoon creator (along with its timing)

Additionally, many users suddenly find themselves blocked by Marsh - especially black Twitter users, who have never even interacted with Marsh, but simply state that they are black in their Twitter bio

Addendum to the above point, here are two Twitter users (with a few more in the replies) I found during my search who still have their tweets up mentioning being blocked by Marsh: one, two

Marsh claimed they were using fandom blockchains, while some users blocked pointed out they don’t interact with fandom or are in any relevant fandoms at all

Marsh mentioned having over 45k people blocked in total (though I am unable to find the tweet to this again as it was deleted); otherwise they tried to defend themself by saying “if you block users randomly, black users are by default going to be your second most blocked race next to white users”

They also eventually privated their Twitter account due to the backlash

Eventually they come out with a few apologies, most of them were half-assed and now deleted, and it should be noted that Marsh did not unblock the black creators they had on their blocklist while making their apologies about their antiblackness

Here is the one apology of theirs that I could find, where they finally cleared out their blocklist, and you can see some of the backlash from other users in the replies

Aside from that it seems Marsh has a history of this sort of behavior, as a user pointed out that Marsh made another incredibly tone deaf thread back in 2019. The OP of that tweet also gives more context to those specific tweets here.

If anyone else has further proof, evidence, screenshots, what-have-you, please add on!

[spnshameblog]

one of the funniest things that has ever happened to me on here was when i joined this smaller fandom. so i didnt really make an effort to get to know people in that fandom and i basically made a sideblog to keep the stuff separate from my main bc i was expecting it to be a fixation i was going to get over within a few weeks/months.

so anyways i had noticed some weird/toxic behaviours in the fandom and i saw a few smaller callout posts about that, but i wasnt keeping track of names and it wasnt my main fandom so i didnt really pay it any mind until something really fucky happened and i got upset bc nobody called it out? so i made one really angry post about how fucked up that behaviour was and within hours i had gained hundreds of followers, people thanking me for speaking up, people making their own posts about the situation etc etc. i had basically started a huge fight in a fandom i wasnt even really in

but thats not the funny thing. after my post really gained momentum i got messaged by this one blogger who was CONVINCED i was calling out her, specifically. and i literally did not know who that person was. i told her so, but she didnt believe me, kept insisting i was vagueing her in the post. it felt like she was almost more pissed off by the fact that i "claimed" to not know her than by my callout post. and i just went 'babe i didnt know who you were up until now, but if you feel called out by the post, it might as well have been about you, so bye' and i blocked her and ended the conversation.

so anyways i kept gaining followers, to the point where that sideblog had nearly as much followers as my main (it still has more than this blog, which is the one i actually use most often lol) and i looked through some of the notes and people kept theorising who i was vagueing and kept throwing around names, but the name of the girl came up most often. apparently that girl had been the most popular blogger in the fandom since forever and people had been gassing her up and defending her behaviour this entire time and thats why she couldnt accept the fact that i literally didnt know who she was.

i left the fandom soon after that bc it had become apparent just how many people in the fandom were willing to protect super toxic people and i really only spent like two months there. and in that two months i managed to contribute to basically splitting the fandom in half, got harrassed by a fandom mom with an inflated ego, landed on multiple public blocklists and gained almost as many followers as i had in the decade ive had my main blog. oh and someone threatened to leak my ip address lmao. all that for what was basically the fandom equivalent of a sidequest lmao.

[starstuffandalotofcoffee]

Tumblr took that one piece of information about goblins being antisemitic caricatures in some specific historical context and has just been running with it for like 5 years now and indiscriminately applying it to any gross or creepy character. Preschool level literary and artistic analysis mixed with a desperate need to look woke i guess but still 🙄

Yeah...it goes so far beyond that though, and it’s not just limited to fantasy although as someone who consumes mostly fantasy/sci fi and whose Tumblr fandom presence is mainly in those circles that’s a big part of what I see. It’s like people unconsciously picked up on the concept that Jewish people are the ethnic group most targeted for hate crimes in the U.S., but are also are a small group with sufficient internal diversity such that experiences within the group can vary wildly so you often won’t get huge amounts of pushback, and went culturally-Christian buckwild.

Like, just off the top of my head: my mother has been an LOTR fan since the 70s. My sister stayed up to listen to Evermore when it dropped despite having work the next morning. I’m one of four kids and three of us play Dungeons & Dragons regularly, and both of the D&D games I’m in regularly are at least half Jewish. None of these things are in any way inherently antisemitic, in my opinion, and many, many Jewish people like them.

Also I’ve seen like 20 times more discourse about goblins or Ferengi or making a character with green skin than about, say, Shakespeare and specifically The Merchant of Venice, or (with the caveat that I haven’t seen it), The Umbrella Academy. [note: I enjoy a lot of Shakespeare, who was antisemitic in a time when Jews were literally banned from Britain; I refuse to watch the Umbrella Academy because come the fuck on]. It’s almost like the things these people cancel are things they already didn’t like, or things people they don’t like enjoy, and ‘problematic’ ironically becomes a way to justify being a really hateful person while simultaneously making it much harder to address real-world bigotry because of alert fatigue. (see also the recent ‘crypto-terf’ blocklist for an example of that whole fucked up way of being). (also with the major caveat that the complex relationship between Jews and whiteness aside I am personally someone who looks white, a lot of the white people wringing their hands over goblins ignore or even defend biological essentialism regarding a tendency towards violence, or noble savage stereotypes in sci fi and fantasy which is...interesting.)

Some of it is preschool level literary analysis and Woke Points, sure, but I think a lot of people are just too chickenshit to address that antisemitism in history didn’t look like veiled references to goblins. It looked like their own white European ancestors kicking mine out of various countries and launching violent genocidal attacks. Sure, modern-day antisemitism sometimes takes the form of dogwhistles, but also like, the synagogue I went to when I lived in the midwest was vandalized with swastikas on the eve of Rosh Hashana, as was my local train and park when I lived in NYC, and the kol nidre appeal I heard in 2019 referenced that the cost of a security guard, after Tree of Life, is a significant expense. A lot of white Christians have the luxury of looking away from the obvious stuff, and boy, do they luxuriate in it.

My slightly wild theory, and believe me, I’m very aware of the irony in this, also goes back to my general belief that a lot of people really want to seem smart and they think this involves uncovering conspiracies, or focusing on ‘insidious’ secret bigotry. Of course, this means that they outright ignore the stuff in front of their faces; it’s why people will talk about goblins and Ferengi but not actual antisemitism [sidebar: did you know the ‘The American people are not intellectual, to put it mildly’ line came from an interview in which someone claimed the Jewish people perpetuated a ‘counter-holocaust’ against Germany?], similar to how people will happily reblog posts about those White Bitch Karens and feel woke never caring that they were written by white men. When wokeness is a competition, you need to feel like you have extra insight when the uncomfortable fact is bigotry in all its forms is usually much more obvious and blatant and when you’re not the target and when the perpetuator is a creator you like, it takes some actual strength of character and effort not to look away, let alone to address it. It doesn’t take that strength of character and effort to regurgitate tired talking points in yet another flaccid call-out post.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

4 days ago.

people are harassing an autistic queer child because he said that a racist thing was racist.

in a four day old post.

literally, people went into the notes of a post, found his comment from half a week ago, and decided that him saying "racism is bad" is a perfectly justified reason to send him threats, call him slurs, mock him, harass him, and completely shift to point of the post from something about boba tea to "haha idiot r*tard f*ggot says something is racist. let's send him death threats now"

how sick do you have to be to do that? what the hell is wrong with you? how can you be so heartless and cruel to even think about doing that to someone?

it's not just nazis and cryptos, either. there's hundreds of people reblogging that harassment.

for the love of fuck, PLEASE check who you're reblogging from. this whole mess could have been avoided if you just checked and saw that the person who started it, the guy who said to stfu, was a nazi. then, just simply don't reblog from him. less people would see him harassing a child and decide to join in.

please, do something. get shinmigami eyes. use a blocklist. use post filters. stop reblogging from fash, terfs, cryptos, etc.

[fairylynel]

It's a struggle to know that these people who met me and were close to me when I was in the worst time of my life, dealing with so much at home and mentally, suffering from an eating disorder and self-harm, and the image that they have of me is when I was the most hateful, spiteful, lonely and insecure.

I hated myself so much and I was (and still sort of am) so rejection sensitive, I lashed out so much and people around me had to go through my mood swings, clingyness and calls for attention and I understand that they hate me, I understand that I hurt them, I understand and know that I did so many fucked up things.

I selfishly wish that they knew that I worked really hard to change and I still do. I am trying to break the patterns and bad habits that I did every day. I know it's so selfish, because it's still my need for validation speaking louder.

I wish that they could forgive me for the way I acted and spoke. But I know I will never get that, it would be so unfair to even ask that from them.

Every now and then, I just remember that I was that person, so toxic and hurtful. Everyday I try to move farther and farther from the person I was, but I need to remind myself that I still did those things, I still hurt people who will, probably forever, see me like that.

I have blocked them in most, if not all, social media, for example, because I know that if I didn't do that, I would be 'lurking' and feed the horrible need I have to know everything someone could possibly say about me.

I have millions of accounts blocked actually, especially on Twitter, because I have tried to not interact with anything that can trigger a depressive episode, a panic or anxiety attack. I did that as soon as I joined back to Twitter, because I knew that if I didn't, I would be hurting myself and others again.

I subscribed to dozens of blocklists and even used a block chain add-on and it got, frankly, ridiculous to the point that whenever a friend retweeted or quoted something, I most likely couldn't see it, because it was an account that I blocked without even knowing who they were/are.

The hilarious thing is that I have dropped Twitter entirely, because I started to get so anxious over there that it was not worth it. My account still exists just in case I actually ever want to go back, but I haven't logged in for 2/3 weeks now. All that work to make me feel comfortable and incapable of bothering people was all thrown to the garbage! But it's for the best honestly, if there was a way where I could just access my messages so I could just talk to my friends, I would just do THAT. But otherwise, Twitter is a platform that's just not worth it to me.

But I'm sure that if any of them noticed that I have blocked them, maybe they think I'm just running from them. There's nothing I can do about that, there's truly nothing I can about the way they perceive my actions now. I can't possibly explain why I do what I do now.

It fucking hurts so much that I was so shitty, but it probably hurt those people even more. There are moments where I think about my last attempt and the note and letter I wrote and it was literally me just apologizing over and over, it barely made any sense. I can't find those anymore, I think my mother threw them away, but I wish that I kept it.

This gigantic post is just rambling and venting (was usual), but the tl;dr is that I truly regret everything that happened and the two and half years I spent on therapy, my medication and the work I'm doing right now, after learning healthy coping mechanisms allow me that even at the worst possible times, it's impossible to revert to that person I was.

Yes, I can still be very petty and insecure, my therapist would have to be a miracle worker to fix all my "flaws", but I no longer act on it as much, or at least, towards other people. When my anxiety gets really BAD, I stop what I'm doing and write, do breathing exercises. I still have some toxic thoughts, but I have WAY MORE patience, tolerance and I am no longer impulsive to the point of saying everything that I think or to do hurtful things.

[drake-the-incubus]

Unpopular opinion: Most callout posts nowadays are just people finding a reason to whine about things without doing research on what the topic is about.

strongly agree | agree | neutral | disagree | strongly disagree

So you’re right! You’re absolutely right. I’ve gone through twenty call out posts, and they’re... nit picky. I can’t trust shit in them and half the time it’s wrong.

It’s not a tool of protection but rather dog piling and honestly it’s scary how well it works.

I saw one about shipping the other month, and while I don’t care much for what ships are what, I found myself gag at the end.

At the end of it, on a small sidenote which wasn’t even MENTIONED they talked about the person being abusive.

I was horrified and had to go down a rabbit hole because that was important.

Like half the things people spend hours on don’t even matter half the time. Like really, they don’t mention it. I’ve seen someone say, “saying queer” is a horrible offence.

Being pansexual is biphobic.

Being ace/aro is homophobic.

Nonbinary folks are transphobic.

Being trans is misogynistic.

At this point I see a form of oppression or bigotry thrown around and I spend five hours on the one topic to make sure if it’s okay.

Fuck I saw someone calling POCD pedophilia just the other day, and as someone who knows how distressing it can be to deal with intrusive thoughts, and having my psychology knowledge, I was horrified.

People will really go out, use what should be informative words, as buzzwords, and sling around misinformation as a way to condemn people they dislike.

I mean in full disclosure, without ASKING first, someone said I was a MAP/MAP supporter by having one follow me. On which I, a CSA survivor, who never interacted with anything with it and didn’t even involve myself, was put onto a blocklist. Someone who was a mutual at the time informed me of it, and I had to go in and see.

I didn’t even know, there was no verification, the person just followed me. I never got taken off of it. I spoke to them about it, and even told them how distressing it was, and they hardly addressed it.

I’ve seen callouts about someone pointing out there was a rapist in a community, for stalking.

I’ve seen a callout accusing someone of stalking, for them using stat tracker on their blog to tell their stalker to fuck off.

I’ve seen people be called transphobic, for SUPPORTING NON-DYSPHORICS AND NONBINARY PEOPLE.

I’ve been told outright, I’m ableist, for calling myself autigender, because my autism messes with my gender perception. And also accused of saying every autistic person is autigender, and that I’m saying my gender is autism gender. I didn’t realize your gender was cis or trans either.

So anon, I agree, to an extent.

I’ve seen callouts mentioning people who literally support Nazi rhetoric. I’ve seen people condemned for racism and it proven with no change in pace. I’ve seen people condemn child predators, rapists and abusers. On another blog I’ve called out exploitive and abusive tactics in a community I’m in.

I can agree most callouts are shit. I can say I haven’t seen one prioritize abusive/predatory behaviour in a while that I haven’t made or wasn’t made in a specific community, but I can’t strongly agree. Because it erases the issues at hand.

On one hand, fuck callout culture, on the other, I enjoy being warned of Nazis, racists, predators and unsavoury folk in that category.

Part of the issue with callout posts are, accepting with a lack of information.

People lie on the net, and the issue with accepting callout posts is, not knowing when the post is wrong, or not reading past the beginning and accepting it without evidence.

Note, some callouts are made to disenfranchise those who are marginalized, because it’s easy to paint them in a bad light.

I think it should be mandatory for everyone to learn how to spot cherry picking, obscuring information, and false information on a callout post.

If you’re not researching topics in the post, and verifying information, you’re part of the problem.

Also then there comes in, fake callouts. Callouts made for fun, or made as a joke, taken seriously.

Half of these callouts are reblogged by folks who go and say, “critical consumption” and “critical reading skills” whilst I’m watching them blur what a predator is or a pedophile.

A 30 y/o pursuing a 22 y/o can be extremely creepy, but I’m sorry, that’s not pedophilia, and saying it is, a) infantizes the 22 y/o, b) waters down the definition of pedophilia.

I’ve seen 18 y/o’s get called pedos for dating 17 y/o’s in callouts, or heaven forbid they’re a year n a half older and date a 16 y/o. All three of which can graduate and go to college depending on life circumstances.

I’ve seen a 20 y/o still be in high school because they failed so much, he was in my class.

I’ve seen a 26 y/o paint a 16 y/o as a pedophile for having a crush on a fictional... 16 y/o.

I’ve seen ppl condemn 16 y/o’s for making sex jokes, acting like it’s unhealthy of them, and then paint an adult as predatory for making a sex joke, on... their social media, “because of course minors follow them”.

Which is stupid. I don’t even have a lot of followers... I don’t know any ages. I don’t know their stances except shinigami eyes doesn’t label them as red.

And I block porn bots on sight.

I don’t know how a blog with over 20,000 followers or more is supposed to keep track, but apparently.

Necrophiles are okay so long as they don’t support a “homophobic relationship” which is a gay twink being submissive in a relationship with a Dom hunk. Because that’s not realistic.

HC’ing Asians/Autistic people as Asexual is dehumanizing, the callout post screams as ace Asian and ace autistic folks.

So all in all, I can agree, and disagree. Most callouts I see are bullshit. But I don’t know about most callouts. It’s not defineable because I can’t look at every callout made these days I don’t know where to look. But they were once capable of harm reduction and someone thought to weaponize them. But that happened during a lot of old rules added to websites. Road to hell... yadda yadda.

I’m sorry for the word vomit, I’m not great at articulation, I’m like dead tired and decided to answer this.

MAP discourse, Discourse about shipping, discourse about pedophiles ain’t tolerated on this post. I’m not engaging, fuck off. I mentioned it as examples, but fuck, they’re triggering to actually get into and I don’t feel like throwing up into the toilet.

Actually discourse can fuck off entirely, discourse is dumb.