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What if quarantine happened in & this #Blackberry is all we had with #Friendster, #BlackPlanet & #AsianAvenue? #BBM #BlackberryMessenger changed the game until the #TMobileSidekick came along... what was your favorite device? Took me forever to move over to an IPhone... 😅 (at Worldwide) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAi_FhPA9Ua/?igshid=1cpta08c7qajo

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Day 1

Dear Best Friend,

It all started sometime in the 2003/2004 range, and it might have been Myspace with a bit of Asianavenue. But I ran into you on your old social media profile, and as I read through your profile. I thought, what an interesting person.

What started as a crush never came to be anything more than friendship. At the time I was too young to understand how I see the universe today. The universe sends people to be role players in your life, at the time I thought it was love beyond friendship.

Years would pass and things would happen to make us drift apart for a few years. Then sometime in 2010/2011 we both would experience a similar situation for the first time in our lives.  Devastated and down, we both found our way back into each other’s lives. The crush from the past was still lingering within me, but it would not take long to see the actual value of our relationship.

Through heartbreak, I would learn the value of loving you as my best friend. The term best friend I do not toss around lightly. It is for the ones I care for most and trust, my guides in this thing called life. I once thought that being a best friend meant being there in the past and present. But you have shown me a completely different definition to a best friend.

You have been my biggest supporter. We have grown and become two very successful individuals. 10 years ago we were lost, broken, broke, and confused. Maybe it was heartbreak, maybe it was Bieber, or maybe it was just the both of us pushing each other. We competed with our salaries, but we both accomplished what we aimed for. No matter how much we make or who makes more, it won’t ever matter.

I can’t wait until the baby is here so I can celebrate with you and your husband. Hopefully we can see each other and I can see the baby. I love you best friend, you are the epitome of the term best friend. I will always be grateful for the way you support me.

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Throwback snack ytd, fries made from potatoes with seasoning butter, parsley and salt & pepper 😋 #sunwaypyramid #asianavenue #frenchfries #frites

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27.06.2017 - Crispy Crust Fish & Chips #throwback #dinner #asianavenue #sunwaypyramid #crispycrust #fishchips #asian #Delicious #food #Malaysia #foodgasm #foodlover #foodporn #foodpost #foodstagram #instafood #instapost #instapic #instaphoto #instamag #fotd (at Crispy Crust)

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[diaryofanangryasianguy]

re: your last post - did you have an asianavenue account also LOL

No lol

I’m from Cali and I didn’t know anyone that had one over here. I know folks like in the Midwest had one but idk. It was just Xanga and AIM all day lol

Angry Asian Guy

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Sosyal Medya Bağımlılığı Bilinen ilk sosyal medya platformu 1997’de kurulan ve kullanıcılarına profil oluşturma, mesaj gönderme gibi özelikleri olan “sixdegrees.com” adlı platformdur. 2001 yılından sonra kurulan Blackplanet, Asianavenue, Migente, Cyworld gibi sosyal ağ platformları, arkadaşlık kurmak isteyen kişilerin kullanımına farklı özellikler sunmuştur. İlerleyen yıllarda sosyal ağların…

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the gap

(CNN: Minneapolis Police Department's Third Precinct was set on fire by protestors during the night of May 28, 2020)

This is maybe a mark of my persistent immaturity, but I’m slowly (probably too slowly) realizing that I’ve mistaken my individual god-given ability to form an opinion to mean that I’m the actual audience for everything. I don’t know if it has to do with the exorbitant number of hours in my childhood that I spent watching TV and reading books instead of living in real life. Or whether it’s my self-centered nature that I just never grew out of. Or perhaps it’s the unshakeable result of my young adulthood being bathed in the explosion of social media where every platform (AIM, AsianAvenue, Xanga, Geocities, Wordpress, Yelp, Flickr, Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) seemed like another microphone specifically designed to help me share my reaction, review, or analysis about everything I could possibly encounter in my life. 

Part of me wonders if I am maybe too eager to be off the hook, but Jia Tolentino makes a pretty compelling case for that last reason in her delightful but at times painful collection of essays, Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self Delusion. 

Here are two incredibly insightful excerpts from her essay, “The I in the Internet”:

“In part out of a desire to preserve what’s worthwhile from the decay that surrounds it, I’ve been thinking about five intersecting problems: first, how the internet is built to distend our sense of identity; second, how it encourages us to overvalue our opinions; third, how it maximizes our sense of opposition; fourth, how it cheapens our understanding of solidarity; and finally, how it destroys our sense of scale.”

“In the run-up to the 2016 election and increasingly so afterward, I started to feel that there was almost nothing I could do about ninety-five percent of the things I cared about other than form an opinion-- and that the conditions that allowed me to live in mild everyday hysterics about an unlimited supply of terrible information were related to the conditions that were, at the same time, consolidating power, sucking wealth upward, far outside my grasp.” 

I think regardless of where an individual is on their personal journey with experiencing racism or becoming anti-racist, the events of the past few weeks have surfaced various realizations. That has certainly been the case for me. 

I want to make an effort to write more about my process in hopes that it’s helpful to others who are also processing. I’ll start by sharing four of my realizations here. 

The first one is really basic. I value my own opinion too damn much. 

This sounds kind of embarrassing to say out loud but I had to take myself aside last week and give myself an earful. Haha, I know, that sounds like someone who’s been sheltering in place for too long. But in all seriousness, I really did have to chew myself out. It went something like this.

Why am I trying so hard to decide which parts of a protest I am okay with? Why am I trying to figure out where I land on some kind of protest supporter likert scale? It feels like I need a 50 question Buzzfeed quiz to tell me what kind of protest I fully support so I can feel less hypocritical and internally consistent within myself. It feels like I’m mentally creating some kind of Pantone color card deck for political protests and then holding my brain and my heart up to each swatch, desperately trying to find a match. Why? 

Why am I treating such an emotional and painful protest like some kind of a la carte brunch menu I can order from? Was the protest peaceful? Socially distant? Were folks wearing masks? Did they obtain the proper permits? Did they cause any traffic or block any freeways? Okay but were any ambulances blocked or did anyone lose their job because of the traffic? Did the signs seem hopeful and solution-oriented or did they mostly say “Fuck the Police” and “ACAB”? Did they blatantly break curfew? But was the curfew announced with enough notice? Did they set any fires? Was it buildings or just dumpsters and trashcans? Did they destroy any cars? Were they cop cars or civilian cars? How much graffiti is there to clean up? Did it seem like the protestors provoked the violence or did the police? Do you have videos of that? Was there looting? Okay but was it just big box stores like Target that were being looted or was it looting of mom and pop businesses too? 

Like I can hear myself ordering a protest like, “Yeah, so I’m going to go with the non-permitted protest but with clearly identified local organizers who I recognize. I’m okay with you leaving in smashed windows and burning buildings but if they’re mom and pops, can we make sure it’s only places with good insurance policies? Hmmm and maybe lemme add a side of major freeway blockage but only if no one gets hurt and it’s for less than an hour. Oh, and can I substitute the graffiti for dumpster fires? Oh yeah and can you also make sure there are catchy slogans on a few signs or cute pictures of kids holding signs so it doesn’t all feel too bleak? Like, why the fuck do I do this? 

Why do I think my personal judgement of a protest is of upmost importance? Why do nonBlack people feel appointed to judge and assess the efficacy or nature of a Black Lives Matter protest? Why do we critique the strategy of a political movement? It’s like we’re that casual viewer of ice skating who gets super vocal with their crappy commentary on ice skating every four years during the Winter Olympics? Do you really think you’re qualified to judge that triple lutz? Get the fuck out of here. 

Or worse, when the judgement comes out in a protective voice? Like, oh no, I’m worried the white people in power and watching at home are going to dismiss it because of the rioting and looting, it’s going to look so bad. That it wasn’t strategic to the cause because it was a bad look. Like what the hell? Why are we still protecting and upholding the broken situation of power being held in whiteness?  

How many times have you read or heard someone say they believe Black Lives Matter and support the “peaceful protesters” but want to be clear that they do not condone the rioting and looting? Condone? Do people realize how condescending that word is? I mean, who is giving you that power to condone or not condone? Does the movement need our approval? 

I was dizzy from reading the articles my nervous neoliberals friends (of all races) were posting on my social media feeds blaming the riots on “outside agitators” and anarchists. And then I started to read all the counter articles being shared about how there’s a historical pattern of this media tactic to blame rioting and looting on outside agitators, anarchists, and ANTIFA in order to distract and delegitimize the movement as a whole. And then Trump started to blame ANTIFA! Wait, why was Trump and my neoliberal friends agreeing on something? Was this signaling the inevitable end of the Democratic Party? Haha but honestly, I appreciated that dizziness and that panicky frenzy because it snapped me out of trying to rationalize everything and helped me realize that trying to figure out whether I was “okay with rioting and looting” was the wrong fucking question. 

Delegitimize to who? What is the purpose of a riot? What would be considered the success or failure of a riot? Do we subconsciously think protests are at their core some kind of performance for us? An audition for our allegiance? A persuasive act to convince people to join their movement? A ploy to get politicians to change their hearts and minds? How have we gotten it so twisted? Since when is someone smashing a window an appeal towards intellectual persuasion? Isn’t it a clear signal that we’re past that?

I really had to scrutinize why I was reading so many different takes on rioting and looting in a desperate search to try to find a framework I could comfortably agree with. How many articles like “In Defense of Looting” (a really good article btw) did I need to read before I could feel confident in justifying my attitude towards looting? Like how oppressed does a group of people need to be in order to justify looting? Ugh. Was that the question I was asking? And was that really the best question for me to be focused on? 

Eventually I had to say to myself, “Yo, you are not actually the audience for these protests and your opinion is not the most important outcome here.” I mean, yes, let me be clear in saying that it’s important for me to form a personal opinion so that I can move from spectator to co-conspirator in fighting and challenging racism. And yes, I need to put in the work to form a thoughtful opinion that isn’t just the result of scrolling social media for a few hours each day. I do think folks can cause harm trying to do antiracism work when it’s built on emotional impulse or plain ignorance. But at the end of the day my specific opinion on the ethics of rioting and looting is not what ultimately matters in this Black Lives Matter movement. 

Why? 

This is my second realization. Simply put: The rioting and looting was effective. 

I genuinely believe that the images of people protesting in the street, the smashed windows and the buildings set on fire did something to people’s collective imagination. I wonder how much of the protests and riots were also a release of frustration towards an unjust economic system and a untrustworthy government. Was it just pent up energy or was it because as a country we saw 36 million people file for unemployment in the previous two months leading up to the protests? People will probably write their entire PhD dissertations on this topic one day. 

No matter what the analysis is of the factors that led up to the protests, the riots are the reason why the protests received extended news coverage and brain space despite our comically short news cycle and atrophied modern attention span. The rioting provoked a shockingly unrestrained display of police brutality that lasted for several days afterwards. The gross violence (tear gas, pepper spray, rubber bullets, beating with batons, shoving, driving cars into, you name it) from police officers towards protestors (even the peaceful ones, if you’re still playing that game!) of seemingly all backgrounds was well documented on video and live-tweeted by individuals and the press (many of whom were also attacked and arrested) which I think drove more and more people to show up for the subsequent protests in their outrage. 

I sincerely believe that the shift in power we are seeing right now is the direct result of both the visceral theft and property damage that happened in many of the riots across the country (notably not sparing wealthy neighborhoods) and the documented police violence against a diverse group of protesters. This change in power dynamic is evident not only in the conversations around the role of police in our country but also in the willingness of employees (at all levels) to speak out boldly and demand high-level resignations and changes in behavior. It has only been two weeks since the protests began but folks have already begun to tally its accomplishments so far. I’ve been honestly surprised by the reach of the protests, expanding far past police brutality, to impact tech, journalism, literature/poetry, food media, sports, and even leisure brands -- not by way of so-called “solidarity PR statements” but in resignations, changes in leadership, and super specific transparency about racism in decisions around hiring, pay, and promotions. The physical toppling of racist historical statues has so long overdue. 

I don’t want to spend any more energy figuring out a way to like rioting and looting. I stand up for where it’s pushed our country.

Okay, I can already hear your pushback. But Becky, isn’t this using the end to justify the means?

Here’s my third realization. Yes, sometimes the end justifies the means. 

This feels like it’s an awful statement to make publicly and in writing. It’s usually used to shut down an argument. And usually yes, I think using the end to justify the means can lead to some pretty terrible behavior and abuse like murder, terrorism, and military occupation, just to name a few. It’s probably the most common trope for Marvel/DC villains and their nefarious schemes. So no, I don’t think the end always justifies the means. And I think I’d generally still debate against it on an intellectual level or in an ethical discussion. But I also think about other stances in which I would also uphold it. For example, I don’t believe that an abused woman should be charged with a crime if she murders her abuser in an attempt to escape. And I will for the rest of my life struggle with the harm (historic and current) that has been done to so many communities across the world in the name of “spreading the Christian gospel” even though I still believe that somewhere in the bible’s pages is a true story of the world and God. Even if it often gets lost in translation and in money/power grabs is it still worth the end? Is it worth increasing access to Christian truths? 

And if we really think critically, it doesn’t take long to move beyond these more extreme macro examples. There are much smaller ways in which we exhibit our ability to use the end to justify the means. Like maybe we wouldn’t argue with someone that it’s a defensible ethical framework, but it ends up being the de-facto ethical framework of our privileged lives. 

Think for a moment about the way we use our iPhones and other electronics with such freedom from ethical dilemma while knowing about the terrible working conditions in the factories that manufacture them. We don’t say out loud, “Having convenient and well designed hardware to access the internet and contact other people justifies x number of suicides at Foxconn factories each year.” Think about how slowly we’ve moved to break up with Amazon despite countless, well-documented reasons to do so. We don’t say out loud, “Being able to get packages in less than 2 days at prices that are cheaper than anywhere else justifies the awful working conditions for warehouse workers who struggle to get adequate bathroom breaks.” What about the way we simultaneously grieve the destruction of the public school system but continue to choose to send our kids to private schools, charter schools, or out-of-neighborhood schools that have better ratings. Isn’t that using the end (doing what’s best for your kid) to justify the means (contributing to the continued racial and economic segregation in public schools)? We just don’t talk about it like that.  

Look, I’m not saying I’m above it, I’m just identifying it plainly. We don’t talk about our privileged life choices out loud like this. It feels too shameful. But on some level, aren’t we essentially doing that calculus in our heads? Even if it’s subconsciously? Like we see the dissonance between our value system and some of our choices but then we say, “Yeah, I know it’s not great, but I guess I don’t feel bad enough to make any major changes to it? Maybe I can try to ignore it? Or make a partial concession to appease my conscience but not actually address the problem?” We certainly don’t label it as justifying the means to an end. I mean that just sounds extra shitty. But we live it, don’t we? 

Wait, there’s one more. 

Haven’t I known about police murdering Black and Brown people for years now? I know for some folks in our country the murder of George Floyd is the first one to really land in their consciousness. But for me, Oscar Grant’s murder was the first unjust police murder that I really learned about. (Sidenote: Believe it or not, I first learned about Rodney King’s murder and the LA riots because of Oscar Grant’s murder. The riots in Oakland prompted me to start reading and researching the history. I don’t know how I managed to not learn about it at any other time in my life.) 

Oscar Grant was murdered back in 2009 (rest in power), the year we first moved to Oakland. What has been my ethical framework for thinking about police for the past ten years? Why haven’t I learned or read about abolition despite working in non-profits to improve the economic and educational outcomes for Black and Brown communities for over ten years? Why is this the first time I have been considering the call to “Defund the Police?” Do you see it? 

My fourth realization. The argument against defunding the police also happens to be an example of using the end to justify the means. 

This feels really ugly to type out in detail but in the spirit of inviting honesty in dialogue-- here’s what I think has been happening with me. By not educating myself on and joining the movement to defund the police (and the larger goal of abolishing prisons, the military, imperialism), I have essentially been communicating that while I understood that Black and Brown (and trans and disabled) people were being murdered and assaulted by police in disproportionate numbers, I personally tolerated the institution of policing because I felt that the police could provide some semblance of security to me (real or imagined) in the hypothetical event that my own safety was threatened. 

I can see now that my apparent willingness to accept the status quo of policing in this country, shown through my lack of sustained outrage, education, and action was incongruent with how sick I felt about the injustice whenever I thought of it or encountered it in my work. Being an Asian female and living in a wealthy neighborhood has meant that I’ve had no personal interactions with the police. I have never had to call for armed intervention/protection. Those are my privileges and I had mastered the skill of compartmentalizing my life. And even as I supported local campaigns against additional funding being used to build new jails, as I advocated for alternatives to detainment for those in the juvenile justice system, and as I tried to build educational options and career pathways for young adults with criminal justice system involvement, I did not personally pursue a complete dismantling of a system that I knew to be corrupt, broken, and deadly.      

My opinion was that Black Lives Matter. But my lived priorities, the focus of my career, and my ability to tolerate injustice did not live up to my opinion.  

I think there was probably also a lack of imagination and trust on my part. I was far too dismissive of radical ideas that felt peripheral to immediate problem solving and I didn’t seek out diverse Black voices to inform my thinking and focused on listening to voices that affirmed my opinion. I did not invest enough time in forming an ethos for my career or for my personal life. I want to take responsibility for that.  

So yeah, I think that’s the part we are less willing to say out loud. We’ll talk about getting rid of qualified immunity or imagine the type of training we think police need instead of talking about abolishing the police department under the guise of being realistic. But I think we do that because ultimately, we are implicitly justifying the means (the police’s racist and murderous behavior), for our mostly imagined, selfish end. Now that I’ve examined it, I find myself more and more able to commit myself to the movement to defund the police. And like most paradigm shifts, I’m finding that it’s informing so many other aspects of my thinking.   

The question I want to pose to you is this:

What’s happening in the gap between the ethical framework that you espouse (i.e. your overvalued opinion that you’ll defend in a conversation or social media post) and the ethical framework that you actually live? 

That gap is sometimes wider than we’d like to admit or care to examine. (Spoiler alert: The thing happening in the gap is probably racism, mixed with some classism, ableism and a fear of losing the comforts of your privileged life that you’ve managed to build/acquire in this capitalist setup.) 

I feel like the work in studying that gap has always been important but it seems especially critical now as we’re pushed to form opinions and talk about our opinions with such urgency and frequency.

Henri Nouwen is known for saying, “You don’t think your way into a new kind of living but you live your way into a new kind of thinking.”

I believe that Black Lives Matter. And I also want to live like Black Lives Matter. 

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I am leaving you a testimonial...... like how people did back in the day for social media. Like AsianAvenue, Friendster, MySpace.... etc etc. WISHING A HAPPY BIRTHDAY! To a mentor. He helped me dance back in the day, and made understand how dancing is, feels like, and just have the love and passion for it. A comicbook geek! From going to Wonder-Con, Comic-Con & every other Convention we can go to and geek out too. A collector, from late night pick ups, to just going on hunts to city to city. Music & hip-hop, performer! Jerk! A guy that can make me smile, laugh at. Make jokes about him. And my personal photographer at times. Don’t forget. A brother and dear friend too the end. I LOVE YAH LYLIE! Happy freaking birthday too yah brotha... BROTHA!!!!!!!!!! #post1505 #vinciepooh #lylestylez #maybirthday #khaoticgroovemintz #itsgonnabemay #kgz #thebeamsabercrew #bayareageeks #glassescrew (at Solano Town Center) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAt6tSrAPAc/?igshid=1cj5i37selro8

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I also just changed my theme to make it more season appropriate lol

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Being Forty Tomorrow

I do feel that I have to engage in this university that we all need to be in, basically.  Why?  Because you need the experience, you need the study, and you basically need it to avoid boredom. I think growing up, boredom became the main problem, and this is probably why I played over four thousand games of StarCraft 2. And this university I have is found on this game. Now, there are other things I engage myself into, it’s not like am always on battle.net looking for opponents, there are other things that I wanna learn. And the plight has been the same with typing, I’ve been blogging since two thousand three, and I still remember its genesis, I remember walking the streets looking for an internet café, so I could write notes on AsianAvenue. It wasn’t much of a decision then, it was just that I was so juiced about it, and this occurred right after I finished college, I really wanted to implement what I went through with my two-year course in Sheridan College. And this is probably why I have this huge software to kinda’ appease what I actually finished with my diploma. Computers at that time was just fun and games, but now the innovation of it is so big that I can only flirt with it. You have Tesla now, which is a software car, and am sure that, that’s gonna be the next big buy for people, Larry Elison is already saying that Ford and GM are both done, because Tesla is the next buy, and its sales have been quietly dominating the car industry. And this happened with the iPhone, phones became software, and people all over it bought it. It’s really funny, because Tesla is not a cheap car, but regardless how hurtful it is to your wallet that thing still gets bought.

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Dear diary,

I wrote something on Facebook a little while ago when I was in a really dark place...

I wrote “maybe it’s easier to take abuse when one isn’t so sensitive”.  I’m not even sure if I deleted it.  I thought about it. 

But that place was so, so dark.  I was stuck there for a while. I’m thankful I’m currently in a place where I can look back at it without getting sucked into that toxic emotional vortex of negativity. 

I think I was maybe trying to indirectly reach out? Maybe. 

It’s so unfortunate when I see people say things on their Facebook like “people need to stop being so fucking dramatic on their pages” like...uh...do you even remember shit like MySpace? Xanga? AsianAvenue?! These were OUR pages that we owned. We can do whatever and post whatever the fuck we want. And if you don’t like it you can totally unfollow! 

At the same time, too though...to get angry at someone else’s troubles being on your feed shows what kind of person you are. Like...well then why are you friends with this person? Why don’t you reach out and ask them what’s going on? The person clearly doesn’t know where else to go for help and are crying out for it. Now, don’t get me wrong...there are some people who are just seeking attention and those are problems that are deeper rooted in their subconscious and they may just need professional help but...we are all struggling in our own ways. And for myself well...

Still been having issues with the falling out that happened a couple of years ago with a handful of friends that I thought were going to be lifelong roots of mine. You know the kind...the kind of friends you thought you’d babysit their kids for and grow old together as nearby townies who have barbecues every once in a while with a game of Bingo or mahjong because that’s what Filipinos do when they age. Even when we’re second generation American. But I digest. 

Nobody talks about platonic love enough.  So many of the movies and books out there put so much emphasis on *monogamous, romantic* relationships and what to do before, during, and after. Nobody tells you what to do when you and your platonic friends have a break up! I’m so glad that that’s slowly changing, though. Things like “Master of None” showing the relationships between new friends and old friends intermingled with trying to find romantic love, etc. Or even “Friends from College”...although I had issues with the series STARTING with adultery but that’s another conversation to have with myself on here. 

But well...going through what had happened with those platonic friends helped me to realize and understand what it’s like to let go for myself. And I have found that

it’s really fucking hard. 

I guess I’m just so used to / want stability and loyalty, but well...things change. 

People change into becoming more of themselves. 

Does that make sense? 

It’s like...when we’re younger we’re still feeling things out...and we dip our toes into a certain pool and are like “ooo...this feels sorta nice. It’s the right temperature, calm, and peaceful.” Or whereas some people are like “Let’s dive into these raging waters and see if I can come out the other side still alive!” 

Whatever kind of body of water is appealing to you, you try it out, then after a while you get used to it, you discover what’s beneath the surface--if you’re paying attention--and you find out where the warm pockets are, where it’s cold, where things are visible, whether or not there’s vegetation here or there--things like that. Our personalities, our individual characters are shaped just like that over time. We are all just explorers of our inner truths...making new discoveries with each passing day. 

And well...I chose to go into calmer waters while they went to a river or the ocean. And that’s that. And I’ve slowly been accepting that. 

Now, along the way of that I’ve made friends with people who dip into my pool for a bit every once in a while and then go off and do their own thing. But they keep coming back. And I do the same with them. I leave my pool and ride with them in their river. (Maybe I need to remember to come back to my own pool...again, another conversation to have with myself later on.) Point is...we keep coming back to each other. 

And that...that is how relationships (platonic, romantic, polyamorous, what have you) grow and thrive. You leave each other for a while to learn and grow then you come back and help each other learn and grow from what you’ve seen because each of you has something different to share and you want to share it with the people you love and care about because what you experienced made you that happy or taught you something so valuable you thought to yourself “man...I’m gonna savor all of this, soak it all up, and bring it back to these people that I love”. 

Yes.

Let’s have more of that. 

[lovealwaysheidy]

Always

Curious to know more about Tumblr. Friends of Friends say IT'S THE BEST!! Was an AsianAvenue & MySpace junkie for years..still kinda am 😉 until I found Facebook. Then out of nowhere came social media apps like Snapchat and Instagram..nice!💞 So here I am trying yet another new thing, not because of the trend, but really for the fun of something different! Here's to technology 🍻 -Ciao!