#as a trans person

[pierrotdoesnteat]

i think i need to go for a drunken walk while poorly dressed and cry in the graveyard

[thefruityguy]

With the way things are going, I'm this close to saying fuck it and shifting to an altered version of Coraline.

[alex-just-vibing]

one thing me and my older sibling agree on is that there is no way miya is cis

like look. this is a gender crisis just waiting to happen.

[swingingthehatchetnow]

Just watched Starship for the first time

At first I didn’t like it.

Now I think it’s a metaphor for being trans

[perytonpred]

Why the fuck is everyone talking about jk Rowling's transphobia for Hogwarts Legacy like my guy you are IGNORING the rampant antisemitism all over????

Like bro as far as transphobia, the game is actually relatively lacking. If you bring up Sirona Ryan, quiet, Sirona is a LOVELY girls name and Ryan is a very common last name.

But the Antisemitism! That is the problem. The shofar, a Jewish horn, is one of the goblin artefacts, used to "annoy wizards" and has been "silenced with a hunk of gorgonzola cheese"

Here's the kicker.

Gorgonzola is specifically a non-kosher cheese.

Most cheeses are kosher.

This required RESEARCH.

Anyway the game is antisemitic and JK rowling getting paid funds transphobic bullshit in the UK so um. Don't buy it. Don't even pirate it. Just don't play the fucking Nazi wizard game.

[blu3cl0v3rs]

"Trans people shouldn't be in bathrooms"

Bro my only issue is someone keeps getting their piss on the toilet seat and won't clean it off. Plus, when I identified as a girl I used the guy's bathroom bc there was no one in it and the girl's was full.

A bathroom is a bathroom, just don't get your piss on the seat.

[auguste-rlg]

i feel completely and utterly alone like i have absolutely nothing in common with anyone

[ryan-sometimes]

TERF shocked to discover that the real world is not an online echo chamber, and that instead the average woman either supports or just doesn’t care about trans people the way they do

[thefruityguy]

Thanksgiving is like playing that one stealth mission where you can't get caught under any circumstances lmao

[princesskuragina]

My last post was being snarky but here's my genuine pronoun etiquette opinion in case you actually want to know: it's pretty much never a good idea to directly ask someone their pronouns in front of a group of people, especially if you're in a position of authority, i.e. a teacher. The stakes of this question are very high for some people and you are putting them on the spot to decide what they want to share and what is safe to share. If you have decided you want to ask for pronouns at all, you can introduce yourself with your own to remind people that they can share theirs if they want to. And for the love of god whatever you do please do not just single out the most gender non-conforming or "trans looking" (to you) person and ask only them and no one else

[corvid-feathers]

you speak the truth, a trans woman is beautiful whether she has boobs or not.

i don’t see literally any positivity or rep for trans women without boobs so. if youre a pre-hrt transfem (regardless of if you intend to get hrt or not!) and you are flat chested, i love you. having boobs doesnt make you any more or less trans and certainly doesnt make you more or less beautiful. you deserve to see yourself represented in trans women and transfems in art and media too! transfems arent just suddenly pretty when/if they sprout titties!! your body is woman/fem/trans enough. i love you.

[ukrainian-groove-metal]

I love the "came back wrong" trope but from the opposite side.

Imagine you are dead. And then you are RIPPED from the embrace of decay into the world of the living again. Your memories are hazy and you don't recognize any of these people, but they act like they're close to you? Like they love you? So you try to get your memories back, to act like you belong here, but everybody tries to forget you died. And you can't. It is omnipresent. And just trying to grapple with that fact pushes the people who "love" you away, and they're incapable of understanding, and they're so confused, what's wrong N̶̄̀O̶͛͗T̷̉́ ̷͋͝Y̴̎̌Ȍ̴̈U̸̓R NÄM̴̃͑E̵̾̇? And you just need them to understand, you aren't that person! You aren't! You don't know who that person is! You don't know why any of this is happening, but they're unwilling to bend, they keep insisting you are that person, your memories will come back, everything will be normal again, and you want to scream and cry and claw yourself open to show them you're different. Your existence as a being wholly separate from whoever you "used to be" is a sin unto itself. All you can do is scrabble for life and to them, you're killing whoever they loved to do it.

just. lots of fun in that concept, you know?

[bpdshan]

the funniest thing that’s happened to me recently is that someone seemingly tried to update my pronouns on the medical system but accidentally made it so that my actual name is now “They Them”

[hejanic]

t4t bunnies

[as8bakwthesage]

"It looked like trying desperately to perform the right kind of femininity so that straight guys would be attracted to me."

...

Ohhhhh nooooooooooooo, why did that hit me right in the chest??

Something I've been trying to articulate to myself for a while here, but I wish there were more discussion about the particular experiences of trans men who are attracted to men. Especially the way that it relates to our experiences before coming out and during transition.

A lot of the conversations I see online and in academia focus on the experiences and overlap between trans men and butch lesbians, which is just not a narrative that resonates with me. There has been no point in my life at which I identified as a lesbian, or even as particularly attracted to women in general (something something sexuality is complicated). And it is only recently that I've really been able to let myself jive with being a butch man.

So, what did that experience look like for me?

It looked like trying desperately to perform the right kind of femininity so that straight guys would be attracted to me. Admittedly, it was a "not like other girls" sort of femininity, but I suspect a lot of trans guys and straight women will understand me when I say that this particular kind of femininity is still... very constricting. You gotta be "tough" of course, and have the right sorts of interests, and not care too much about your looks, but at the end of the day still be pretty, not too loud, and pretty willing to give ground for straight men to feel cool. You absolutely cannot be butch, because butch is for lesbians, and you want to be attractive to men.

And then I came out, and now I was a man, so I was free of all of that, right? Right?

Well, turns out there's a whole lot to unpack and unlearn there, and doing that takes a long time. For the first several years of my transition, I was still stuck in this mindset of needing to adhere to all the same constraints I had been under before. The guy I was dating at the time didn't help with this, and I almost said that's another story, but it isn't. The fact that I was willing to keep dating a guy who wanted me to stay pretty and feminine, who told me that body hair was gross, and who in a thousand other little ways made it very clear that I would only stay lovable if I stayed feminine... the fact that I was ok with that, it says a lot about where my mind was at.

I'm sure that a lot of lesbians can relate to some of this, and yet. Becoming who I am, genuinely relaxing into myself and unfolding in the way that I needed to, that process was undeniably and indelibly marked by my experiences as someone who has always been attracted to and wanted to attract men.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

is this nonbinary person actually "male presenting", or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of maleness?

is this nonbinary person actually "female presenting", or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of femaleness?

perhaps they're just "presenting" as themselves and your binary biases are clouding your judgement?