#and they're just generally very mean & unkind to be around !

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"Heart Eyes (😻)" - Ramshackle

Trio x Reader (separately)

Romantic and general stuff

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Vinnie

A grand gift giver. Not necessarily in what she gifts, because she's a hobo and can only scrounge up so much, but she makes a big show of it, hiding it under layers of cloth upon a wooden "pedestal", she presents it with open arms and a loud "Taa-daaa!!" She's truly proud of herself for making do with what she has.

Casual and cool for you, often speaking on your behalf and can practically read your mind just through observing every shift in your facial expressions. She can tell, when you slightly furrow your brows and slowly your walking pace, that you're likely insanely uncomfortable, and your eyes darting around just means you're looking for a way out. She'll lazily wrap an arm around your shoulder and keep you upright, assuring you that she can easily take down any threats with her "massive guns" while showing off her biceps. It gets a laugh out of you and probably provides some temporary relief and that's all that matters.

Defensive and naturally protective over those she really cares for, but will not baby you or hold your hand the whole way. You don't know how to pick-pocket? Tough luck. She'll give you a few tips and wish you luck before throwing you to the wolves, but if you get caught, it's your burden to bear and you're getting yourself out of jail.

And she stands by that- until she's scheming ways to break you out, only slightly worried for your well-being. She was just saying that back there so you'd put yourself out there for once, have some confidence- not get yourself actually thrown into jail!

She's quick to bail you out via breaking and entering your cell and dragging you along before someone notices. The police force can be pretty lousy sometimes, so she tells you not to worry about being tracked down and imprisoned again. She's surprisingly decent at soothing any worries with crude, carefree laughter and a heavy-handed pat on the back.

As a partner, not much changes. It's like dating a best friend you occasionally kiss or hug and can hold at night, but that's about it. Sometimes feels more like a partnership, just with more feelings involved. Either way, they're very present and there, and she'll occasionally get all quiet to say some oddly sentimental piece before returning to whatever needs her attention.

Brash, but never unkind. Despite your mistakes, she's always there to help you up and urge you to try again. May joke that you're a dunce after a particularly silly slip up, but behind the jokes and playful banter is concern and care for your safety, she only wants you to be able to hold your own if needed.

Skipp

He's my favorite

A sweetheart through and through- friends or lovers he remains kind, doting, and very compassionate. He's loyal and good at making you laugh, effectively easing any worries in stressful situations.

He's also an experienced scrap, like the rest of the trio. He knows the town's layout fairly well and has which alleyways lead to where mapped out in his head, which comes in handy whenever they're being pursued by cops or an angry mob of people- a common occurrence.

Tender-hearted and sentimental by nature, he values handmade gifts and heartfelt gestures over anything. He's pretty resourceful and can probably make some sick arts and crafts out of stuff he found on the ground and a couple sticks. It's impressive. He also values quality time with the people he loves. Probably considers and time spent together quality time, even if it's spent in a jail cell or ducking behind trash cans.

Often gives out apple related nicknames and compliments. Quite fond of cheesy names and gestures, despite his friends' lengthy complaints.

Very affectionate and gives friendly cheek kisses to friends, although typically only if the mood calls for it (ie. Mourning Stone's "death" by being run over by a carriage). Despite that, plenty of physical displays of affection are quite foreign to him, and he isn't one to initiate anything farther than a hug.

Grateful for his close companions and isn't afraid to make it known. Always shares food, even if it's half a crumbling cookie . He'll break it apart, offer it to you with a bright smile, and it's almost impossible to say no.

It's hard to tick him off, for he's pretty forgiving and has the patience of a saint, but can clearly defend himself and others and is good at utilizing what he has, which is normally his mandolin. Typically a pacifist, although those persistent in harming or berating the innocent and his friends will be wallet-less by the end of the day and possibly receive a solid whack from his instrument.

He's pretty good at making his feelings known, not just through words but facial expressions and actions. If he likes you, he may as well gaze at you with literal hearts in his eyes and give you the moon. He brings you bits of food and pretty trinkets "just because", most likely just to see you smile. Also gushes over you in private or to the others. They likely play a part as wingmen, since he practically begs them for advice. In the end, he'll gather the nicest flowers he can find and make a pretty impressive arrangement out of dry leaves and slightly wilted flowers, as well as apples and any other in-season fruits he can find around to help convey his feelings.

Stone

THE nonchalant dreadhead.

Cannot and will not make any romantic feelings known unless you do it first. He's also a little dense when it comes to any flirting that isn't insanely forward. He probably thinks you're being weird or want his money, which he doesn't have, and only gives you a look in response. It's almost painful having a crush on him.

If he ever develops the tiniest of feelings for anyone, he tries to drink them away, drowning them in energy drinks to either make them go away or simply to cope with the realization. It only results in him spewing it all later by the side of some building, and they only worsen if you're there to for whatever reason offer a clean rag or pat his back. He'll surely cringe over it later.

Doesn't do much to "court" you. He may thrust a singular rose at you, but upon closer inspection every thorn has been picked off and it's still in solid condition. Maybe he puts more thought into it than he'd like to admit. Either way, it's sweet.

Generally very closed off. He likes his privacy and has plenty of things to hide, but it's not like he downright hates you just because he doesn't think sharing is caring. May feel a little regretful for pushing them away but drinks so much he forgets it within the next hour. Probably tells people to screw off on more than one occasion so that he can have some crying time alone in some empty alleyway (I just find the imagery really funny).

Under the gruff and angsty exterior, he's rather shy and sentimental and does value those around him. He has a harder time showing it, but may sit a few feet away in silence for a bit. He considers it an attempt at bonding. If you're looking for a specific item, he'll go out of his way to find it on his next walk and just leave it out for you to find, quietly aiding your search. Your response may pull a reluctant, fleeting smile from him.

Not very vulnerable, ever. It changes and improves with time but he's still real awkward about certain topics involving his past or any relations. He may build up some pretty tall walls but with enough time and trust, they're easy to break down. Best way to show you're actually a very chill and normal person is probably to let your guard down first- no need to repeatedly prove yourself to nobody, but rather be comfortable and don't be off-put by him. It's surprisingly reassuring to have someone look at him as less of a closed-off, moody teen, even if that's sorta what he is.

Shares his cigarettes with due time, wordlessly offering a hit or two whenever you're alone. He shares with the entire group but it's a good teller that he tolerates you.

Sentimental and therefore kinda affectionate when sober, which is almost never. He'll begrudgingly accept it with a flushed face but is pretty hesitant to return it. Not big on PDA, the most he'll do is grab your arm or an article of clothing if he thinks you need to run at any point. When asleep in the cramped tent, his hand may snake over yours or across your torso, though it's entirely unintentional and he will claim you're making it up if you ever mention such an act.

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A/N: these are kinda just my interpretations of the characters, I have a hard time writing romance tho so it's probably quite off

Also couldn't think of a stupid fitting title so I works for now 💀

STOP TUMBLR KEEPS DELETING MY PROGRESS IM ACTUALLY GONNA CHOKE MYSELF OUT BRO STOP IVE REDONE THIS LIKE TJREE TIMES NOW IM GONNA CRASH OUT OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD

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Idk how to explain it like coherently but one of the reasons I'm not a huge fan of Tommy dating buck is that he just seems.. Mean? I'm watching the season 8 Halloween episode and especially when it comes to bucks little quirks and everything, he just seems so dismissive. Even Eddie feels a little extra rude in this ep but in general when it comes to bucks whole "curses are real and I'm being haunted" thing, he's more.. Endeared? Is that the word? Like Eddie doesn't really believe in it all, but when buck gets wound up, he seems to have a nice balance of finding buck kinda cute and keeping him from spinning out too bad over it, but Tommy just seems cruel about it, like he thinks buck is stupid? Idk am I reading into this too much? I'm a lil out of it tbf fjdlxsl

It's funny, because I just saw a tweet yesterday talking about this scene and in it, OP said, "Eddie is laughing at the idea of a curse, Tommy is laughing at Buck," and I've been mulling it over ever since.

On the surface, you might say, There's literally no evidence for that interpretation, you just think that because you hate the guy, and you would be correct on both accounts.

I don't like Tommy as a person because least of all, Tommy is canonically unkind, to say nothing of his worse qualities and in the scene itself, there is no evidence whatsoever for that interpretation, so it would be easy to dismiss it as character bias.

But I think to a large extent, OP was on the right track, and I think the evidence for it comes from each character's prior interactions with Buck.

Because historically, Eddie has always been dismissive of the idea that jinxes or curses are real, no matter who it is. He's teased the whole team about it in at least two different episodes based around those subjects.

But that teasing, however pointed, has always come from a place of camaraderie, love, and respect. These are His People. They've been through so much shit together, so he's allowed to make fun of them when they're being silly, just like they make fun of him.

And yeah, you're right in that Eddie often finds himself soft-domming Buck calming Buck down when he gets wound up. He knows how to talk to Buck in a way that eases the spiral.

So it's easy to look at that scene and explain Eddie's behavior away as, "Buck's spiraling out hard and Eddie is being extra nonchalant so that it can calm him down."

Because Buck actually does take a lot of his cues from Eddie, whether he realizes it or not.

Tommy's behavior feels different because he's a character with limited screen time, but with that limited screen time, we've been shown that he is always dismissive or belittling of other people's feelings.

Chimney's feelings in his Begins episode, Hen's feelings in her Begins episode, and every single interaction he has with Buck.

During the interaction with Eddie and Marisol, Tommy makes a very pointed comment about a closet, all but trying to out Buck right there in the middle of the restaurant.

Then, without so much as a conversation about what happened, he's tells Buck, "You're not ready," and leaves him behind. He decides Buck's feelings for him.

When Bobby is hurt, Buck tries to open up and be vulnerable with him, and Tommy's only response is the innuendo-ladened, "I hope you have Daddy issues."

Et cetera, et cetera.

Tommy has been crafted to be a character that cares primarily about his own wants, needs, and feelings with little to no regard about those things when it comes to other people.

The only time we see him emotionally vulnerable is when he's breaking up with Buck and we've never once seen someone be emotionally vulnerable with him where that vulnerability was met with understanding and kindness. He's downright cruel when it's Chimney and Hen and he's dismissive when it's Buck.

He takes himself too seriously and doesn't entertain or join in with the sillier antics of the 118 crew because he doesn't want to be seen as childish. There's a lot of insecurity in Tommy, even at his big age, and it shows in his treatment of others.

It genuinely makes me wonder why a man like Tommy would even date a man like Buck, because Buck is a wonderful guy, but he is also a silly little goose. He has big emotions and many spirals and a lot of anxiety that doesn't really get talked about, but most of all, he's still a big kid at heart. He still finds joy in the sillier things in life, like dressing up for a bachelor party, and he wants a partner that finds joy in it, too.

Tommy is not that man. He's never been that man, he won't ever be that man, and he very obviously finds those traits undesirable in other people. Their incompatibility should've been apparent early on to him in particular.

So, yeah, when you examine each of their characters, take their two histories with Buck into account, and then look at that scene in the hospital, it's a lot easier to swallow Eddie's reaction than it is to swallow Tommy's.

We know even before that scene that Eddie loves Buck. He's shown it throughout their entire friendship. He's shown up for Buck emotionally, he's talked Buck off more than one ledge, he meets Buck where he's at, silly costumes and all. He and Buck have been emotionally vulnerable with each other more than once.

In many ways, you could say Eddie has earned the right to laugh.

Tommy hasn't done any of those things, though, and he's shown more than once that he doesn't really care about Buck's comfort or his feelings.

That's why his laughter feels mean.

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hi

wanted to ask for some tips

i want to write a fic abput lrvi taking place during and after no regrets and i wonder if you have any advuce for charactersing levi

I can try, haha.

The thing to always remember about Levi is that, while he doesn't express his emotions outwardly very well, he's still a deeply emotional character. I think, in fact, that Levi is the most emotional character in AoT. I think he feels things more deeply than anyone, at a more profound level. So that's always something to keep in mind when characterizing him. Don't let his stoicism fool you, in other words. The key with writing him I think is to find that very subtle, but hugely important balance, in his lack of outward expression with what he's actually feeling inside. People mistake Levi's lack of outward emotion with a lack of feeling, and it's a completely false perception. You'll often see people describe Levi as "cold", but that's the wrong word. Cold, again, implies a lack of feeling, a lack of emotion and passion. That's not Levi. He's the opposite of cold. Passion means suffering, and Levi is deeply passionate. He's passionate about people's lives, about their well being, about their dreams. He gives everything to protect those things. He suffers to protect those things and to uphold their worth. Again, people mistake Levi's flat expressions as being indicative of him feeling nothing, and that's just not true, at all. His lack of outward expression is a result of him experiencing deep trauma. It's developed as a coping mechanism for the deep well of pain he feels at the suffering and loss of people he cares for, and for people in general.

I would suggest writing from Levi's perspective if you can as a way to handle that, so that we see things from Levi's perspective. So even as characters outside of Levi view his lack of outward expression one way, you counter that by showing the reader what Levi is actually thinking and feeling. Isayama had the advantage of working in a visual medium. He was able to show us Levi's micro-expressions as a way of showing us how much he was actually affected by what was going on around him. In prose writing, you're going to need to rely more on Levi's inner thoughts to convey those things.

It's also important to understand that with Levi, actions speak louder than words. Levi's not good at expressing himself. He's awkward and often unsophisticated in the way he uses language, and as a result, he often has difficulty articulating what he actually means and it comes out sounding mean or unkind when he doesn't intend for it to. But we know what his actual feelings are based on the actions he takes. Think of the moment in the RtS arc, when Levi says he "hates" weak people, and then promptly works himself to total exhaustion protecting those same people from all the titans he can. Levi doesn't mean here that he actually hates the new recruits. What he means is that he hates the situation, he hates that these people that are wholly unprepared and untrained to deal with titans, are being thrown into a nightmare scenario in which they're being forced to engage with a seemingly endless horde of them. He calls the situation "pathetic". What he really means is that it's horrible. The situation is absurd and unbelievable in its badness. Again, if Levi literally meant he hated the new recruits for being weak, he would have felt contempt toward them for that weakness and left them to fend for themselves. He wouldn't have driven himself to exhaustion trying to protect them, and he wouldn't have acted with so much urgency to try and get them behind the wall when Zeke started hurling boulders at them. He didn't hate the new recruits, he cared deeply for them, and couldn't believe the irony of them being placed into such an untenable situation on their very first mission as scouts.

So it's that kind of balance you have to try and find when writing Levi. He'll say something that on its surface seems mean or unkind or rude, but his actions reveal that he actually feels and thinks the opposite.

So yeah, again, try to do that, and also try and show Levi's inner emotions by writing from his perspective. Let us know what Levi is thinking and feeling, even as he's unable to properly put it into words or convey expected facial expressions.

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[mylittleredgirl]

finally, m*a*s*h update!

season four disc two! ("quo vadis, captain chandler" to "dear ma")

there is a LOT going on in the frank and margaret department

i kind of tipped my hand here when i posted about my new obsession, but even if you are not circling the drain on this doomed ship... the Unresolved Breakup Tension is fuckin WILD in this disc

she literally punches him in the face!!! how was that not a breakup!

but then he buys her something or does something to charm or impress her, and it works! then he blows it again!! rinse and repeat!!!! i am 👀🍿

sam and diane from cheers are still theeee platonic ideal of slap-slap-kiss but these clowns definitely walked so they could run

i literally jumped off the couch when his wife found out, aaaaa it's so juicy

I'M SORRY i realize this doesn't speak well of me as a person, but those long close-ups on her face as she voluntarily eavesdrops on him dismissing their relationship (twice!!) and her heart gets fully crushed??? i could eat popcorn to this all day.

this is the kind of dysfunctional relationship that my artist friends would choose in our youth so that we could Suffer and Make Art, so i really hope margaret is writing terrible poetry about it

anyway, we're peroxide-roots deep into GIRL WHY??!??

and then bj very gently explains to radar that well, see, frank and margaret both kinda suck and we're in the middle of nowhere, so they're all they've got

and i had to spend three or four days staring at the ceiling about it, because YEAH. it's not just that they're each other's only rank-appropriate source of star-spangled orgasms

(and they both care far more about military hierarchy than they do about marital fidelity)

but they are so consistently unkind to everyone around them that they have no other choice for any human connection full stop.

i'm not even talking about their ongoing bullying war with hawkeye and trapper or bj, because that's dirty pool on both sides, but i could count on one hand the number of times either of them have interacted with a subordinate nurse or enlisted man without threatening them. like they literally would not have anyone else to talk to.

but the reveal that she still wants to MARRY HIM? oh god. ohhhh honey. noooo.

that fake proposal prank was so genuinely mean. mostly because they ruined her hot date! 👏 let 👏 margaret 👏 fuck 👏 random 👏 dudes 👏

"isn't general barker the one who wanted you to spank him?" lmaoooo

OKAY i swear i can talk about other things:

hawkeye continues to just NOT pull without trapper here. the nurses are fully dismissing or ignoring his efforts, and honestly is he even trying that hard?? have we seen him get even one date?

i've been trying to come up with an "intricate rituals" joke about hawkeye and trapper but where the rituals are... girls. you get me.

i re-watched the pilot and the desk ep (for frank/margaret reasons DON'T JUDGE ME), and hawkeye and trapper LITERALLY end the pilot handcuffed together, and in the next episode talk about sharing a nurse. how am i supposed to take this???

speaking of nurses, you know that little 🙄 you have to ignore in 2024 whenever the women on m*a*s*h get called honey and sweetheart and baby on the job (though tbh i worked on a construction site and an ad sales office in the 2010's and got the same treatment -- but in the modern day it's done ironically babe)

BUT when potter calls margaret "good girl" after he gets shot??? total opposite feeling. i literally had to pause and take a moment. he's her dad now.

also when he tucks radar in???? everyone's dad actually

in loving memory of radar's other dad though, two important points:

how proud would henry have been of drunk & disorderly radar??

and henry's "i've always wondered if i might be radar's dad" bit is genuinely 900% funnier now that we know radar's mom looks EXACTLY like him.

i don't think i have ever circled back to talk about klinger, who became so so so awesome

it's so funny that in klinger's very first appearance and 30 times since then, he has been told straight up that wearing women's clothes will never work to get him out of the army. there's no explanation for his commitment to this particular form of passive resistance except that he genuinely loves it

the swamp rats built a still and klinger got a sewing machine and learned a craft. he's so good at it!! his looks are 🔥

i feel uncomfortable when i see him in fatigues tbh. it happened a few times in this disc and i would like it to Stop actually

also precious baby father mulcahey... Protect Him.

i LOVE that everyone showed up for his church service when the grand poobah chaplain was in town. they love each other!!! (also the life magazine jeep shoot!!!)

"quo vadis, captain chandler" was really good. i'm still over colonel flagg's whole deal but i now understand why everyone loves sidney freedman, and the guest actor they had playing not-jesus was incredible

bj continues to be the best little brother hawkeye could have asked for

also he maybe invented cpr?

i didn't say much about him here but I LOVE HIM and also his off-screen wife

forward and onward!!!

[wardensantoineandevka]

It really is so funny the ONE person going around harassing everyone for having any opinion about Imogen that doesn't priorize framing her as a Suffering Martyrdom And One Of Angelic Intent, i.e. any post trying to unpack and examine what she is fighting against in herself in her journey to become the good person she wants to be and is working toward, keeps going "we don't care about your stupid opinions" and yet has spent literally a year ruminating on other people's opinions and creates multiple burners just to block evade to tell people about it

second funniest thing is how they're constantly complaining about people prioritizing men, and then thinking that Matt (a man) liking a tweet that says the same thing a lot of these people they're harassing have BEEN saying for, well, the entire campaign is the ultimate validation, like, what happened to "of course you're prioritizing a MAN".

in general, it's actually funny this entire discourse is happening because, like, actually a lot of people on both sides are saying the same thing vis a vis Imogen's flaws, it's just that there's a disagreement because some people (especially, especially, especially the person referenced above) perceive unpacking her flaws and what she is fighting to make better in herself without spending every other sentence going "but she's a good person and she wants to be kind" equals attacking and hating on her. she does want to be these things, nobody being attacked has said otherwise, and this idea that trying to understand what parts of Imogen are preventing her from ALREADY being the person she is trying to work toward—you wouldn't need to strive for it if you believed yourself already that person—is criticism or hating on her simply bc it doesn't focus on her better intent and what she intends to be is kind of ridiculous. honestly, we can't quantify what "good" means here without first examining what she is working with and what pitfalls she is avoiding. to understand what "good" looks like for her, what does "bad" look like for and in her?

it's simply interesting to many to really examine what she's fighting against in herself on this journey toward being better and good. it's very opening line of Anna Karenina in that way, and striving to understand what she's rising up out of isn't criticism or hating on her simply bc it doesn't spend half it's word length reminding everyone she's trying to be good. (especially when the post is trying to be focused and not bog down on every thought ever. talking about carrot cake doesn't mean op thinks yellow cake is a travesty.)

And, anyway, if you're going to keep pointing at a tweet comparing her to villains in Exandria as some ultimate gotcha, you have to let people actually talk about the ways in which she IS similar to those villains (just as all PCs are similar to many villains, really, 'tis the point of a villain), tendency toward self-focus and ambition and unkindness and hunger for power and uncharitableness and all. for her to want to be kind and good and to choose instead to be kind and good, she does have to face that part of her feels an impulse otherwise and that part of her tries to draw her to make the lesser choices. she is trying to ignore that impulse, to varying degrees of success in each moment but with an overall trend upward, but that part exists and is what people want to talk about to help track and contextualize her trajectory. without that part of her that is self-centered and mean and uncharitable etc., her choice to strive to be good and kind instead is meaningless.

[inkabelledesigns]

-holds head in hands- Girl I have been pushed around enough this month, oh my gosh.

New thing I'm discovering about myself: I have boundaries over leftover nights! I guess this isn't completely new, but I'm feeling it rather intensely tonight. At home, if I can't remember when something is from, I won't touch it, I will dispose of it because that probably means it's been in there too long and is a health hazard. But it is a whole different ball game when I'm at a family member's house. I've been visiting with some family lot this summer, and they're snowbirds. They stay in one place for the summer then another for the rest of the year. And when they're getting ready to fly, it means we have to clean out the fridge and freezer, which is hell on earth. They save everything, and while that's fine and dandy for them, you cannot feed me food from before I got here. I don't trust how long it's been in that fridge after this one particular incident with broccoli from them as a teenager, I won't do it. I'm too afraid of the mold and germs, whether they're real or not.

But they are so pushy about leftovers. They're pushy about food in general, and I tolerate it, because they're family, and I know they need to feel good about everyone being fed. But this is my boundary, this is the thing I won't let you push me on. I will not compromise, I will repeatedly hold my ground. You let me pick my leftovers and fill my plate myself. I don't want help, I will not let you slip things onto it that I can't verify the cook date of, no no no, I will not do it. Let me have some autonomy.

I'm exhausted. I'm so tired of having to hold my ground, to the point where I want to cry. It's frustrating. I don't have a lot of hangups about food, I was praised as a child for being willing to try so much stuff and not being "picky". Which is saying something, I'm autistic, we have a reputation for that that is messy and often unkind. But regardless, I'm supposed to be "easy". But this is the thing I'm not easy about. I've done everything else right, I've been nothing less than graceful and agreeable and kind about every other social convention and thing I'm supposed to do with family. This makes me feel like I'm being punished. And this isn't the last time I have to deal with it. There's one more day of leftovers before I can finally be free. I hate feeling unsafe about food, that is literally one of the worst things to put me through. If I don't have security about that, I am a mess. I don't want to be a mess, I don't want to have another breakdown in front of people I love.

I've been getting pushed about all sorts of things all summer by a wide variety of people, and I can't take much more of it. I just want people to stop pushing me. I don't want to have to defend myself anymore, why is it so hard for some people to accept that no means no? I'm so anxious about the coming weekend, I'm about to be dealing with a different side of my family that has their own series of complications and social nuances to navigate. I want to see them, just like I wanted to see the side I've been seeing now, but I'm so, so tired. I can't take much more of this. I thought I was gonna be okay, but I think I need a little time to not be okay before I can socialize again, and I'm not going to get it, or at least, enough of it to recover in time.

The plus side is, soon I get to sleep in my own bed again, without worrying about waking anyone up. And that means I can be surrounded by all the plushies I desire. I want to hold my big ones very tightly. Just, gotta hang in there a little longer. We will get through this, we will be okay. Just, don't be surprised if I'm running on empty for a while.

[modernbutch]

like ok i'm gonna say something that might sound mean and unfair and i do not mean it to be and do not hesitate to call me out if i am. i am totally anti other low support needs autistic people like myself falling back on their autism as an excuse to be rude, inconsiderate, unkind, and/or outright cruel. completely rejecting like all social norms as a fuck you to neurotypical people is not going to liberate us or whatever. it's just isolating. adhering to these norms when interacting with neurotypical people is expressing respect and consideration for them in a way that they understand even if we see it differently. being respectful and considerate to other people requires meeting them on their level (to a reasonable extent, of course)

THAT SAID. i am sick and tired of people accusing autistic people who are clearly making an effort to be conscientious of falling back on their autism when they make some kind of social error or interpersonal transgression. i am not trying to like be passive aggressive or vague or whatever here. i really try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt with this stuff and i do think it is genuinely difficult for NT people to wrap their heads around. but it's also quite disheartening to have had my friends say to me "but YOU'RE autistic and YOU'RE not annoying/rude/mean/whatever!" when i've been like "hey i know it's super annoying but that person is definitely autistic and that is a Real True Explanation (not an excuse! but sometimes an excuse tbh especially for people with higher support needs who also aren't receiving that support in the college environment we're in) for their behavior."

and this is the thing. i AM annoying and rude and mean on occasion. it's not necessarily all because i'm autistic and whatever and i certainly never want to use my autism as a shield so i can just do whatever the fuck i want in every social situation. but like. autism is literally defined by a difficulty in making sense of social norms, interactions, and relationships. i literally feel like i'm switching to speaking a second language when i interact with people, including other autistic people. there is a very real gap in communication that we need to work harder than other people to bridge, and it's completely to unfair to assume that when autistic people fuck up, it's because they're not trying hard enough or at all.

autism is literally The Social Fuckup Disorder. it's not just a feeling of isolation, or sensory issues, or special interests, or whatever (and the internet has totally contributed to the whole cutesy autism creature fuckery that further enables people my age to think like this). it's like the identifier of autism has become socially acceptable and even trendy but actually exhibiting autistic traits is still completely out of the question. neurotypical people love to posture as being accepting of autistic people when they're not and don't try to be. even worse are the people who suspect they may be autistic primarily because they feel that social isolation, or are autistic and higher-functioning, and think they're better than other autistic people, or feel the need to position themselves as being Good Autistic People. i've found (and i really want to emphasize here that this is only my personal experience and i'm really not trying to speak for All Autistic People) that a certain degree of assimilation is often doable and necessary if you want to make meaningful connections and generally avoid unpleasant interactions with people, but like. it's still fucking rough. and i wish that neurotypical people would extend to us the same patience and effort to bridge gaps in understanding that we do for them. i'm glad that people are more accepting of outwardly autistic traits like stimming and poor eye contact and stuff now but like the nuances of social interaction with autistic people are still completely obscure to the vast majority of NT people and it's really not for lack of effort on autistic people's part!

[sushisocks]

Hey there! I believe you said in another post that the final confrontation would be unlikely to happen if lenny and sean were alive, so i'd like to ask if you could expand on that pls(if u havent already and i just didnt see it lol)

Btw on a side note im actually super invested in your sean content😭😭the fandom seems to only talk ab him to label as an idiot, so as a fellow sean lover the way you characterize him has me so in love❤️❤️❤️❤️

Oh Anon you are SO LOVELY!!! Thank you not only in giving me the opportunity to rant more about Sean and Lenny (which I am always so willing to do), but also for your super kind words!! Sean is very dear to me, and I'm glad my reading into him as much as I do strikes a chord with other people ;;u;;

The way the general fandom often characterizes him isn't very surprising to me, given his personality & the surface level impressions he gives, but maybe for now I'll save THAT rant for another time, else we stay here forever lmaoo

So, to start answering your question, I believe you're talking about my post from a few months ago, where I talk about how I believe Sean & Lenny would've sided with Arthur & John if they'd lived to see the final confrontation. In it I mention how I find that final confrontation a lot more unlikely were Lenny & Sean to survive that far and stick around for the entire thing.

Now, WHY do I believe this? I touch on it briefly in that original post, but let's really get into it here!!

Okay to start off, there's a LOT of ways I see things going, in regards to Sean and Lenny, were they both to survive, because it adds SO MANY variables, but let's start at the very top.

At a meta level, it is important to recognize that RDR2 is a prequel to RDR1. This meant from the get that RDR2, as it is canonically, was bound to a certain outcome, to set up for RDR1. This ALSO means, that every step from the start of RDR2 was very much there not only to lay the groundwork for the end of RDR2 but also add another emotional layer to RDR1. This is all certainly things we are aware of already, but I think it's important to have that context in mind while we talk about alternative outcomes.

Because, see, Sean and Lenny HAD to die for the outcome in RDR2 to be the one it is. Not only them, but Hosea, Kieran, Molly, and Susan's deaths are ALL integral and important to the story, they ALL make a difference and contribute in pushing the story a certain way, and in reinforcing the steadily increasing hopelessness which infest the gang from Sean's death and out.

So if we're like "what if none of them died?" there are suddenly a LOT of new variables for every mission and every scenario we know from the game, which need to be considered. This is true EVEN if the change in survival count is only reduced to Lenny & Sean.

How different do you not think Shady Belle would have felt, initially, without Sean's death hanging over it? What about the bank job -- would Lenny & Sean end up on the boat to Guarma? What would've happened to them there, then? Would either of them be caught by the Pinkertons instead, with John or in his stead maybe? What other options would there have been, where would they end up at the end of that?

And already here we have to consider how those experiences might've impacted them psychologically, because of who they are.

In the post I mentioned earlier, I talk about how Lenny is new to the gang and probably isn't as stuck in it mentally as Arthur and John, nor do Sean and Lenny have the same emotional attachment/baggage in regards to Dutch. They're loyal of course, because they feel a sense of obligation to the gang, because it provides them with safety, friends, and allies, in an otherwise unkind world.

But what then happens when that changes?

How do you expect Sean and Lenny to respond when the gang starts turning on itself? When Dutch visibly starts losing it? When people start snapping at each other and threatening one another in the middle of camp?

(I have a half-formed thought here about how people would ABSOLUTELY be snapping and talking down to Sean in a way more cruel way towards the end of the game, for trying to keep things light and easy, yknow, fulfilling his role in the gang. I can only imagine what that'd end up doing to him, tbh.)

And, I'll be repeating myself from other posts here, but how do you think Lenny, a young black man painfully aware of the social structure as it exists in America at that point in time, would react to realizing what Dutch's plan with the Wapiti is? Same goes for Sean, who has SEVERAL instances through the game showing him just as politically aware as Lenny - certainly moreso than Arthur.

Would the outcome for the Wapiti tribe be the same, do you think, if Charles had more people than a very sick and tired Arthur to lean on, willing to help? Would Lenny in particular want to stick around to see Dutch attempt to drive the tribe into the ground for his own gain?

Also, I'm sorry but like, Lenny has a camp interaction with Dutch where he disagrees with him (about Miller, Dutch's favorite author) and explains why in a very well-articulated manner. In one instance, Dutch gets straight up offended by it, bcz Lenny can argue very well (and is RIGHT mind you lol).

I do absolutely believe that Lenny would not just sit around quietly in Beaver Hollow. I'd expect him to be among the most vocal in their discontent with the situation, and probably the best at arguing against Dutch.

That is, up until a certain point. Lenny is a young black boy, and Dutch is a white authority figure. Watch Dutch snap and yell at him, like he does John in Ch6 for example, and see how much longer Lenny sticks around fr. The trade is loyalty for safety and the same in kind. Why do you think members start leaving when things start looking their worst? And don't you think Lenny would be among the first to see the writing on the wall?

Though that is hinging on that very specific vibe in Beaver Hollow, where they're all scattered and losing their ties to one another. Add then in Sean, who is VITAL as social glue, and for making conversations easier. If he, and Lenny, and Mary-Beth, Tilly, Arthur, Charles, etc etc, insert your favorites here, managed to retain some of that community feeling, despite it all, then I absolutely see Lenny sticking around for them.

Same goes for Sean, tbh. I can see him leaving earlier, bcz the trade stops being equal and bcz he's not being taken seriously, and I can see him staying, for his friends.

There IS also a version of things where things are similar and I do see Sean siding with Dutch; but that is a very sad and lonely Sean, who is VERY different from where he's at in Clemens Point, and I think that's an unfair perspective to take for him in general.

Okay so, now we're back to that final confrontation, after I said I found it unlikely, why is that? Because, with every question I've posed thus far, about what Lenny & Sean's reactions might've been to canon events after their deaths, I have essentially presented a variable that comes with their survival to those points. Them being there for it, HAS to mean a change, has to mean something different happens, because their deaths are direct contributors to the path we already know the story takes WITHOUT their presences.

Now, what are those differences and changes? I honestly can't answer; something being different earlier or later can butterfly-effect into something completely new or remarkably similar to what we already know. I could sit here all day and wax poetic about all the different options and possibilities for where things could go, were ANY character to survive past their death point, BUT thankfully, that is what fanfiction is for, lol.

I hope this satisfied some of your curiosity, dear anon!! It was a lot of fun for me to write and think about, so thank you very much for asking!!!

[dandyshucks]

idk why i'm dancing around it. i think i just get scared of "spoiling" things but this is not a typical novel, and anyhow i don't even write typical novels anymore.

anyways. S/I brainstorming/info under the cut including the previous idea i had for them that i've decided to abandon

so Ky is a fae. he works as a camp counselor (both in the typical sense and in a literal counselor/therapist sense) at Deadwood (my worldbuild's year-round camp for misfits and monsters). and there's a bunch of other info there but it all gets sort of complex so i'm not going to get into all of that rn fsdjkl

but the S/I... the initial idea I had was for them to be a fae taken in by humans (sort of a changeling situation) and they'd always feel wrong bc of . being a fae and having all their fae instincts and behaviours punished. and ummm it sort of would reflect my experience as growing up with undiagnosed autism in a household/family where two of my siblings were diagnosed at a young age (and my other sibling was diagnosed with ADHD but apparently i just. somehow flew under the radar bc i was ... different and didn't make enough of a fuss i guess. but also making a fuss was punished so uhhhh.... but i digress!). there was some other symbolism to it but i dont even remember at this point fdjskl i'd have to go look at my notes and i'm not interested in doing that tbh LOL

anyways the new direction: S/I meets Ky and learns about fae, and starts thinking "ohh maybe i'm a fae too and THAT is why i feel so out of place". and um. no. theyre not fae. they are just different and society is unkind to ppl who are different. as much as they may wish for there to be a good explanation for the mistreatment and social outcasting they've endured, there is none. sometimes things just suck and you just go through shit and it doesn't mean anything.

but this new direction also has a fun new thing to go along with it ! where S/I can go with Ky to the fae realm and not immediately fit in bc they're still only human so Ky has to show them the ropes and keep them out of trouble, and I think that has some very fun possibilities to it. Ky could bring them to court balls and other events.... and there's some interesting ideas for how that would go if theyre human, moreso than if they were a fae.

I DUNNOOOO i feel silly about all of this now. i keep avoiding talking about anything ever bc i feel like i get too story-focused on anything other than guzbug but i love stories and storytelling... and this is my blog dhgsjkl i make this space whatever i want it to be. i do feel sometimes (...oftentimes) like i rly do not belong in this general space so i try hard to just sit in my corner and focus on my own things so that i dont look around and notice how out-of-place i am, but sometimes i still get anxious or panicky sdfjkl

[butmakeitgayblog]

Can you share some perspectives from Gus's pov in AWTR like how he sees his babygirl smiling and enjoying life again after dating Clarke?

It just feels like a miracle seeing Lexa smiling for no discernable reason at all these days

Lexa was always a very serious child. Very thoughtful and observant, her big green eyes always taking in the world around her and evaluating everything she sees until she understands it. She wasn't exactly a cautious baby, just methodical. Observant before taking the leap. And that trait carried on all the way through school and... after.

It used to be that Lexa only smiled when she had a direct reason. It used to be that unless she was on stage or leading a Sunday school class in a song, Lexa generally had a rather stoic expression to her face. She wasn't unkind by any means. Pleasant enough, if not a bit standoffish, but she just never was the kind of kid - or adult - who carried themselves lightly.

But then that little hoodlum started hanging around the shop, and slowly it was a bit like Gus didn't really recognize his daughter anymore.

It wasn't a sudden change. More gradual, but it was still something that stuck out from day one. It was all in the little things that you wouldn't realize unless you were looking for them.

Things like Lexa wearing a little smile, something private and entirely for herself, as she made him breakfast before he'd head over to the shop at the ass crack of dawn to start the baking for the day. More sighing and pacing around the shop during opening than usual, like she has this nervous energy in the early mornings that she can't seem to work out.

She starts humming again.

He'd forgotten how much she used to do that.

It used to fill his days from beginning to end, but after that final trip home...

It's just nice to hear it more again.

And then the two start actually dating and good lord, his daughter really does become a person he's never met before. Now she's this girl who takes risks and stays out all night just to come home the next day sporting hickeys and laughs so loud he can hear her all the way downstairs. They're the kind of laughs that sit low in the belly and leaves her breathless, tears in her eyes, but the good kind for a change. He'd thought he'd never get to hear it again. Hadn't heard it once since the day his wife died. But Clarke, she... she brings that out in Lexa. She makes Lexa happy.

And at first, that's terrifying. But he figures if Lexa can welcome the change, maybe he can too

[pokemon-teacology]

Is there Pokehistory classes? Asking for future reference, I’m on a personal journey to try and prove the Ruinous Pokémon exist, and I feel this may help. Or if you know any possible info, that’d be appreciated too! (@Poketablet-venturer)

There are! Paldea's Naranja-Uva Academy (Ive picked up that the younger students will pick a fruit based on their assigned section and stick with it, but us older uni level students hav been calling it Naruva for a while now) has history lessons at all levels!

Though it depends on your level, really. If you're enrolled in the school at a younger age (11-17) for standard school time, you'll be going over more general history, while only briefly touching on Pokémon specifically. However, once you reach 18 and you start degree level work, you can definitely specify!

I've got a buddy doing a degree in Pokémon History at the moment! I've asked them and done a bit of research, and last year their modules were as follows:

• An Introduction to History

• Hands-on History: Sources and their Historians

(both classes are shared between general history and Pokémon history students)

• Pokémon Myths and Legends (a class focused on legendary Pokémon and mythicals)

• Pokémon Legends and Myths (a hilariously similar name, this module is about stories based around Pokémon and how they affect and shape cultures, for example the Darkest Day in Galar and how the energies created by this ancient powerful creature made Pokémon massive and the rightful king of Galar vanquished the creature and harnessed its power into energy so that Pokémon could continue being massive, just only in certain places and only for a little bit, as a treat.)

• The Basics of Archaeology: Preserving the Past

• An introduction to Pokémon biology

Side note: we also had a class with this name in the Pokéology degree scheme, but it has a different module code (BR-16320 for us and HY-86520 for the history guys) and teachers. While ours went in-depth about how Pokémon biological systems work, such as breathing, diets, evolution methods, and slow-evolution, it's my understanding that the module in the history department goes over the basics in terms of historical findings.

This includes but is not limited to: how different types of Pokémon are preserved, the basics of evolution and how it was seen by ancient cultures, and slow-evolution, since having a basic idea of how to recognise and research past ancestors of the Pokémon we have today is important to knowing what sorts of Pokémon were important to past cultures.

I've got to say, I'm fascinated by your theory of the ruinous Pokémon being real! I've not really thought about it myself, but I'm curious as to what you plan on doing if you find them! The stories are about how human selfishness and cruelty brought them to life, and how they're suffering because it's all that they know, and they think the humanity is cruel and unkind always, so I'd hope that your mission after finding them is to teach them that that isn't the case :)

From what I've heard, they're sealed away using some ancient chain? There's a couple sets of ruins out of the way in paldea that nobody can get into, not with the usual methods or by Pokémon means. I've heard not even teleporting Pokémon can get inside. The story states that the king who sealed them away hid the keys to the seals all throughout the region. Since there were four Pokémon, there are four chambers, and four sets of seals, I dunno how many seals there are, but it's a start to go off of! The history teacher here who's name I can never remember is very scary, but she loves this shit from what I can recall. If you come here, definitely speak to her about it.

All in all, I really recommend this place! Naruva is genuinely such a fun environment when you're doing your degree here, the staff in the school are lovely, and Mesagoza is a really nice city to live in for that first year. I'm in a little house just in the outskirts this year, so I get the best of both worlds in terms of walking distance and peace and quiet.

But anyway!! I hope this gave you a bit of insight into what you might be studying here if you choose to take your degree in Pokémon history!

[oc-aita]

AITA? (Sorry in advance that this is long)

My (?14) best friend H (M15) and I had been friends for 3 years now, but we'd gone to different schools the whole time. He didn't know my classmates, family, or other friends, and I counted that as a blessing.

I'm your stereotypical 'mean girl' type at school. Or at least, I'm friends with those girls. I'm mostly just complacent in their bullying. But I've allowed, ignored, and excused all kinds of shit ever since we were little. Mostly they're just badmouthing kids, but there's other aspects, too. I won't go into too many details, but if you know anything about the social hell that is bullying, you can guess a sample of the stuff that happens. I will say in my defense personally that at least I don't let them be particularly awful? Like, yeah, we're unkind, screwed up people to the kids my friends deemed as 'targets', but the particularly vile shit my friends try to say to them always gets my explicit condemnation.

I don't like being mean, I consider myself a nice person internally, but I'm actually stuck with my friend group. I have a controlling dad who wants me to act a certain way and hang with certain people, and even my friendship with H is highly secretive and behind his back, despite his flawless reputation and general fitting-the-bill of a guy my dad might allow me around. I've only ever expressed once that my friends are kinda mean (understatement, I know), and my dad freaked out at me. In short, I'm not allowed to not be friends with them. I'm not even allowed to be nice to their targets against their will.

I told H that once I entered his high school (he's a grade ahead of me) that he was going to think differently of me once he met my friends, but he brushed me off, saying he knew what kind of person I was and that nothing could be that bad. I tried to argue, but he assured me otherwise and dropped the subject. But due to a long series of contrivances, myself, H, and two of the kids my friends target most often, who will be known as R (F15) and C (M15) from here on, have been working together on what's effectively a series of projects, and will be for a while. R is our team leader, and C is her right hand man. They both fucking hate me, and I don't blame them at all.

R's pretty non-confrontational, and tries her best to keep everyone civil. She doesn't like me in the slightest, but doesn't want to have the team dogpile me for it, because she's really just too nice for her own good. We communicate as we have to, and that's that. C, however, makes it very clear to everyone that he never intends to forgive me or act as if I've been anything but awful to him - even though I haven't said pretty much anything personally, I'm sort of the de facto face of my friendgroup, which is more than bad enough. I won't act like he's even a little unjust for it, and honestly I deserve every word and more for never standing up for him, R, and everyone else.

At first H just assumed he was just holding some meaningless grudge and assumed C was a spiteful, shallow person, but after enough time I told H that he really should talk to C about why he dislikes me so much. For a while I didn't hear anything about the topic, but a couple days ago H called me, pissed off. He explained that C had told him all the things I'd overseen my friends do and say to him, as well as listed every instance of my direct interactions with him and R. To my surprise, I also learned of the things my friends had done when I wasn't there - and I was appalled. They were even worse when I wasn't around. They were vitriolic, cruel, and even took physical actions against them. To make a long story short, they once even broke something of C's that was really, really important knowing it would be hard to replace as well as expensive for his low-income family. I did my best to explain that I never would have approved of such a thing, as well as why I'm around those kinds of people at all, but H said that I was just making excuses and that, clearly, since I was friends with him, my dad can't control me as much as I act like. I wanted to point out that my dad knows my friends' parents and stuff like that, but he wouldn't let me, and I'm honestly not sure he's wrong about that anymore. Maybe I just assumed I was as powerless against my dad as I'd felt? I can't say. Either way, he told me my behavior was deplorable regardless of my explicit actions, and that he didn't feel like he could talk to me anymore for the time being outside of project work.

Am I the asshole for how I handled the situation? I know how R and C were treated is fundamentally wrong, but is there anything better I could have done?

[struggle-but-its-all-ocean-floor]

Okay I'm using this ask to share some thoughts (not hate!) regarding Tae's album.

I've always had difficulty "getting" Taehyung, and he's the member I relate least to despite his vibes matching mine pretty well. But his songs kinda hit home for me, and I was looking forward to his album because it could be something entirely unique in terms of the sound. His voice is amazing, his love for jazz could really shine- maybe even sth operatic. I loved all the solo albums thus far, as well as the solo songs (except dreamers because I don't touch the whole Qatar world cup stuff), but Love Me Again just completely disappointed me.

The lyrics are unimaginative and repetitive, and the melody is just...weird? I barely could finish watching it once. It's not generic, just forgettable (whereas f.e. Harry Styles' music is maybe generic by virtue of being pop but definitely not forgettable).

The MV is a thing I can't be bothered to analyse because the song gives me no motivation to go look at it. The MV for Set Me Free pt 2 wasn't overly complex (compared to Like Crazy, other BTS productions or the AgustD trilogy), but the song was so good you wanted to connect the lyrics to the poem on his chest & the choreography. There was depth. Layers!

If it was sth Tae had his fingers in, I'd just accept it but learning now that he wasn't actually involved is just confusing. After witnessing the care, love and soul the other members put into their releases, it feels off-putting (say what you will about seven but the sheer meme-ness of the MV is worth its existence. Also JK being constantly infantilized by ppl younger than him, and him doing such a song is very liberating). Like this album was just something he thought he had to do because the others were doing it? An afterthought. Maybe I'm being unkind, maybe I shouldn't expect BTS to always write emotionally cathartic pieces about the human experience.

But after crying to The Astronaut, being shocked by JitB, pondering life to Indigo, getting my world rocked by Face and going through every human emotion ever conceived with D-Day this fell flat. Every other BTS member has proven with their solo albums that they're more, that they have depth and complexity in both who they are and how they use music. That there's a point to what they're doing. I'm holding off on JK because I'm somewhat hopeful he will release a full album, and from what we've seen from him (Magic Shop, Decalcomania, Still With You etc) he could do something just as emotionally meaning as his hyungs (The pressure on him is insane).

I've never not cared about a release. I've never checked out of promotions. I won't go around spreading my opinions. One because I just don't care that much, and two because I feel like Taehyung's fans tend to be more toxic - even non solo just regular Tae biased army.

Tl;dr: If you don't want to have a deep song (which is fine) at least don't make it boring both musically and visually, and don't just hint at concepts (through clothes or set design) but commit.

Well, I understand what you mean. I just listened to Love Me Again and Rainy Days again, and they're pretty nice songs, but not really my style. Having both pre-releases be so similar is a bit unexciting too, as are the MVs are. Overall nothing V has done lately has been exciting to me. But that's okay. There's tons of BTS content I haven't watched. I haven't even watched Yoongi's D-Day tour. I'm busy and it feels like too much pressure to watch everything even if no one is making me. I didn't expect to care about V's debut since I wasn't looking forward to it (in the sense that I just didn't care much, no offense to V, I do love him but he feels distant from me) so I'm not disappointed, but I think he had the potential to do a lot more and it's still a bit sad he likely won't blow it out of the park with his debut, like Jikook did, in very different ways (even if I had major complaints with their debuts, they did surprise people and challenge people's images of them).

Thanks for the ask! You shouldn't worry about sharing your opinions. If you knew the amount of hate asks I deleted when I shared my not so positive Seven opinions... There was one private message and a reply to my post as well...

[kittyoverlord]

I work as an admin at my local public defender's office. As such, a lot of my job is basically customer service for people who are in jail, some of whom are guilty of very horrible things.

Over my time here, I feel like I actually am treated better by the people I serve now than when I worked in retail. Most people are understandably frustrated, but know my own power is limited, and as one of the few organizations whose job it is to be nice to "criminals", they are more often relieved to not be dealing with someone who is treating them like a monster. I generally am not interested in what someone is being charged with, but there have been times I've helped someone out and them spotted that their charges are really bad and been like, "oh, I wonder if they actually did that. Welp, not my problem."

The attorneys who I work with are the ones who actually have to speak to people about their case, some of whom are genuinely guilty of what they are accused of, and while there are some clients who fit the skeevy stereotypes and attorneys are not fond of interacting with, most clients are not actually despicable all the time, and even if their crimes are horrible, it's not difficult to meet with them and work on their case becuase they're easy to work with. (this based on the stories I hear from the attorneys that I work with)

I also have the weird experience of knowing someone who killed his best friend. When I was in highschool, there was a camping trip involving home-made drugs that went bad and this guy who had just graduated stabbed his friend in a psychotic episode. His sentence ended up being light because the victims family understood how horrible of a situation it was, and that the guy didn't mean to do it, but that didn't mean I was prepared when I saw him working in a local grocery store a couple years after the incident. His face lit up with recognition (we were in the same social circles and fairly friendly), he said hi, and gave me a hug. I still think about it because at the time all I had on my mind was, "you killed someone." Now having interacted with a lot of people who have caused another's death, I'm more of the mind set of "We probably interact with more 'murderers' on a daily basis than we realize, and ultimately we are no more or less in danger because of that fact."

This all to say, criminal activity does not equate to being an unkind person or having a bad personality. Kindness/niceness/criminality all exist in different spectrums and intersect in interesting ways. I've had supervisors who were ultimately "nice" in the way that they said things, but "unkind" in the way that their policies discriminated against me. I've known many people who are "mean" but use that to better the lives of the people around them, thus ultimately being "kind" people. We have this image from media and copaganda that the worst criminals are shadowy figures who are anti-social and mean and you can spot them from a mile away. The statistics show that most abuse of all varieties is done by close family and friends. That is not a fun statistic, but it's the truth. People who do horrible things are generally good at hiding them, and that is not a judgement on you for not seeing, it is a judgement on them for their actions.

I want to step away from the art-vs-artist side of the Gaiman issue for a bit, and talk about, well, the rest of it. Because those emotions you're feeling would be the same without the art; the art just adds another layer.

Source: I worked with a guy who turned out to be heavily involved in an international, multi-state sex-slavery/trafficking ring.

He was really nice.

Yeah.

It hits like a dumptruck of shit. You don't feel stable in your world anymore. How could someone you interacted with, liked, also be a truly horrible person? How could your judgement be that bad? How can real people, not stylized cartoon bogeymen, be actually doing this shit?

You have to sit with the fact that you couldn't, or probably couldn't, have known. You should have no guilt as part of this horror — but guilt is almost certainly part of that mess you're feeling, because our brains do this associative thing, and somehow "I liked [the version of] the guy [that I knew]", or his creations, becomes "I made a horrible mistake and should feel guilty."

You didn't, loves, you didn't.

We're human, and we can only go by the information we have. And the information we have is only the smallest glimpse into someone else's life.

I didn't work closely with the guy I knew at work, but we chatted. He wasn't just nice; he was one of the only people outside my tiny department who seemed genuinely nice in a workplace that was rapidly becoming incredibly toxic. He loaned me a bike trainer. Occasionally he'd see me at the bus stop and give me a lift home.

Yup. I was a young woman in my twenties and rode in this guy's car. More than once.

When I tell this story that part usually makes people gasp. "You must feel so scared about what could have happened to you!" "You're so lucky nothing happened!"

No, that's not how it worked. I was never in danger. This guy targeted Korean women with little-to-no English who were coerced and powerless. A white, fluent, US citizen coworker wasn't a potential victim. I got to be a person, not prey.

Y'know that little warning bell that goes off, when you're around someone who might be a danger to you? That animal sense that says "Something is off here, watch out"?

Yeah, that doesn't ping if the preferred prey isn't around.

That's what rattled me the most about this. I liked to think of myself as willing to stand up for people with less power than me. I worked with Japanese exchange students in college and put myself bodily between them and creeps, and I sure as hell got that little alarm when some asian-schoolgirl fetishist schmoozed on them. But we were all there.

I had to learn that the alarm won't go off when the hunter isn't hunting. That it's not the solid indicator I might've thought it was. That sometimes this is what the privilege of not being prey does; it completely masks your ability to detect the horrors that are going on.

A lot of people point out that 'people like that' have amazing charisma and ability to lie and manipulate, and that's true. Anyone who's gotten away with this shit for decades is going to be way smoother than the pathetic little hangers-on I dealt with in university. But it's not just that. I seriously, deeply believe that he saw me as a person, and he did not extend personhood to his victims. We didn't have a fake coworker relationship. We had a real one. And just like I don't know the ins-and-outs of most of my coworkers lives, I had no idea that what he did on his down time was perpetrate horrors.

I know this is getting off the topic, but it's so very important. Especially as a message to cis guys: please understand that you won't recognize a creep the way you might think you will. If you're not the preferred prey, the hind-brain alarm won't go off. You have to listen to victims, not your gut feeling that the person seems perfectly nice and normal. It doesn't mean there's never a false accusation, but face the fact that it's usually real, and you don't have enough information to say otherwise.

So, yeah. It fucking sucks. Writing about this twists my insides into tense knots, and it was almost a decade ago. I was never in danger. No one I knew was hurt!

Just countless, powerless women, horrifically abused by someone who was nice to me.

You don't trust your own judgement quite the same way, after. And as utterly shitty as it is, as twisted up and unstead-in-the-world as I felt the day I found out — I don't actually think that's a bad thing.

I think we all need to question our own judgement. It makes us better people.

I don't see villains around every corner just because I knew one, once. But I do own the fact that I can't know, really know, about anyone except those closest to me. They have their own full lives. They'll go from the pinnacles of kindness to the depths of depravity — and I won't know.

It's not a failing. It's just being human. Something to remember before you slap labels on people, before you condemn them or idolize them. Think about how much you can't know, and how flawed our judgement always is.

Grieve for victims, and the feeling of betrayal. But maybe let yourself off the hook, and be a bit slower to skewer others on it.

[the-firebird69]

There are other things happening here and abroad on it is Wednesday night overseas and they're ahead of us

-this place is going to bust out open wide today and the morlock is going to be hunted and it is for what they're saying and doing and yeah okay John remillard interrupts and he says and we're going to say it to you I said well be careful saying stuff and Denny's going to say no then he's saying we're going to do stuff and our son says good I get to kill you I hate you true try something on him he's going to hit you a bunch of times and we will help him with it and not you Trump at all believe it or not

-they're a bunch of uppity old senile retards and it sounds and looks very bad because it is we need to move in on them right now

-we need to give the announcements out and here in Charlotte county the sheriff's department has decided to fire John remillard and it is the government of Florida it's a governor's office and it's being handed down today. And he's saying he wants to try and do it while he's at the laundromat so everybody is prepping

-also the police department is going to get shaken up local police also report to the governor's office and his firing several people from there and no not his grandfather

-is also trying to prevent prepare eviction papers for John remillard and Dave and he is serious about it and he has several other papers ready for idiots in the neighborhood and is going to try and have Stan allow them into the apartments people say it might happen

-there's other items happening around town the comptroller is laying off half the building department no they're laying off the remainder as they won't let them do anything and they're unkind they're mean they're stupid they don't have any real reasons just think that have the power and they don't and they're out and they're going to be running around they're trying to do it while he's at the laundromat

-we do have reinforcements moving in now we need more but we are moving in

-several other things they are trying to pressure the clones to move this morning while he's at the laundromat and they've been doing this each and every time sometimes they line three up sometimes four sometimes 10 it doesn't do anything and they're fighting themselves and they're ridiculous assholes and they need to leave they do it all the time and frankly we're all sick of it the world is sick of it and they're moving in too to mess up these losers and I mean you too Mac and your brother Ben and really you know your s*** now

-there's a huge chance for success Stan says probably not it's so remote and what you do is really backwards and we use it but boy is that s*** annoying just imagine being a boy a young person going in and listening to all that horse s*** I don't know about you but I wouldn't put up with it so he's reporting everything and we have a lot of agents working with him and he's reporting every single stupid comment and look and a lot of people that look at them wrong die everyday make comments they die every day bushels of them and today is no exception we're going to nail tons of you

-also today in Charlotte county there is an alert on books people want to bring fake books in and there's an alert on the water and other health systems and we are mobilizing to come and take it over and force you out the power generation too sewer treatment all of which you're falling down on repetitively in hospitals too you'll be forced out and you'll have nowhere to go and nothing to threaten he had to leave or you'll be brought to prison it's going on today

-the pseudo empire is listening who is wanted and they're saying to haul you in for real and they're telling people why and they want it done today and that kind of thing they're offering bounties on you with stuff and it's going to work people need it and they're hiring deputies who hate you

-there's a few uses for some people and they can do it but for real there's other news and it's pretty big but he's got stuff to do

Frank Castle hardcastle

There's a few things we got now there's a couple others as comptroller he can fire practically anyone and he's doing it using the law and you guys break the law it's either you go or you go to jail and today he said if you come back you're going to jail and he's fired about five people from the board of sleckman and five more from the councilman and it's only 12 on each board and that's punta Gorda and soon he's going up to Port Charlotte to do it and the idea is not to arrest him and hold him but they like to do that to clear people out and it's just not going to work it went backwards when they did it before and they're doing it the right way and they seem to have forgotten we have a couple other things to note we do not want our son to be dejected treated like a mental patient forced to buy things he can't afford and forced into poverty and all those things you keep doing we need you out of here pretty much all of you we do not want you here pestering him at all and you insisted on it and you still do and you're going to go to hell fairly soon you are not going to come back we do have a plan to do that to you as you see many of you die in movies that are upcoming pretty quick some of you have this long drawn-out death that gets rid of your entire clan and family and clones and that would be the selfish pig Trump and he doesn't have enough to get to be president now which is good he's just going to get worn out

-several things to note we are moving out right now but the comptroller is also laying off people in the tax assessor's office and they did last week and he's doing it again he laid off five there's 20 each town and he's going to lay five more off each town and you're ridiculous people you don't go into work anyways he's also laying off several people from the State Assembly he's doing that with the power of the governor and Jason approved it and it's mostly trumpsters and their reps who go to the state Congress and Senate they're in the process also of laying off the US senators and without a vote and it goes to an alternate which is not you people you have about 70 out of 110 congressman and that's not good it's 40 to 70 so they are going to lay off 20 that brings you to 50 to 60 which is still not good they're going to lay off centers it's 80 out of 150 which is not as bad they're laying off 10 it makes it even and they're doing it today none of them are trumpsters that are replacing them that's going forwards today is very big so we're going to publish

Thor Freya

Olympus

Is Justin time we really need this and a lot of it is Tommy f he's hitting the living crap out of these guys and we have to too

Biden