#and thats fine! i love that for you! but you dont have to uplift your ship by downplaying the rest of that character’s relationships!

[powerpolyculeshowdown]

I (@leverage-ot3) want to appreciate both orv fans and leverage fans for getting this far!!! obviously we both have a lot of fans and support and we should be friends not enemies!!!

I see a lot of people being like idek who those [leverage ot3 characters] are and someone called them clowns (derogatory) in the tags but please be nice!!! we can be rivals but also appreciate one another!!! I for one am very interested in orv now after all your propaganda and I really hope some of you have read the propaganda posts about leverage and are interested!

I’ve learned about a lot of new polyships because of this competition and I’d love to consume more of that media!!! let’s appreciate each other, not being each other down 💖💖💖

for those of you that don’t know: leverage is where the term competence porn was popularized. they are SOOOOO good at what they do (crime)!!! the woman in the ship is canon autistic but also the leader of international leverage crews and is canon the best thief in the world! the black man is referenced many times as the smartest man they have ever known and kicks the shit out of negative black man stereotypes! he is nerdy and kind and emotionally intelligent and full of love and is also buff! and eliot has done very bad things but the theme of the show has always been redemption! they all love each other and respect each other very much and spend time learning about each other’s interests and uplifting each other

also each episode is 45 minutes of rich powerful people eating shit and then going to jail 🫡🫡🫡

i accidentally clicked on this pic and idk how to delete it cause mobile is weird help. i dont wanna close and reopen the answer so just have this for free as a treat

anyway yeah ive seen confusion from both sides tbf but leverage has been getting that since round 1 which i think is hilarious because yall are very a strong fandom clearly theres so many of you voting and there have been a lot since round 1, yet i still get tags from ppl who dont know what leverage is. which in itself is fine but pls dont be rude yall!! thats not what we're about

[confusedkeyssys]

Tone tag masterlist!!!!! :]]]

I know we just posted, but the idea popped up and I had to post this before I forget

Here's a masterlist of tone tags and their meanings, along with examples :] Note that it's only the ones I know so far and please feel free to tell us if I missed anything!

Click the "Keep reading" for the masterlist <3

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/j - Joking - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is a joking one, or to indicate that something is a joke and/or someone is joking {Ex: "I lit the dog on fire again /j" "You're a damn fool timothy /j"}

/hj - Half-Joking - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is one that is half or partially joking, or to indicate that something is partially a joke or someone is partially joking {Ex: "My dog will bite you /hj" "Well then i guess i'm santa claus /hj"}

/hsrs - Half-Serious - Means the same thing as /hj, but usually has more serious undertones, or more on the serious side {Ex: "Aw darn it the cat broke another fine china /hsrs" "they have no idea what that is /hsrs"

/srs - Serious - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is serious, or that one is not joking, and that what is being discussed is not a joke {Ex: "My sister just ran outside to catch a worm /srs" "I lost my limited edition jesus christ plushie /srs"}

/pos - Positive - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is a positive one, that what is said is in a positive or non-insulting manner, or that something is positive and uplifting {Ex: "HE LOOKS LIKE A WORM /pos" "Jason just got like 6 dollars in xer bank account /pos"}

/neu - Neutral - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is a neutral one, that what is said is in neither a negative or positive manner, or that someone is neutral on a topic {Ex: "i think umber needs to get off the subreddit /neu" "Oh my god he has a baby face /neu"

/neg - Negative - Used to indicate when the tone of text/speech is a negative one, that what is said is in a negative or insulting manner, or that something is negative and gloomy {Ex: "Their haircut looks like walter white /neg" "THIS SODA TASTES LIKE ARTIFICIAL FLAVOURING /neg"}

/sar or /sarc - Sarcasm - Used to indicate when the tone or text/speech is a sarcastic one, that what is said is in a sarcastic manner, or that what is said is sarcasm {Ex: "i love being single /sar" "Yeah sure you totally dont like xim /sarc"}

/ref - Reference - Used to indicate that something is a reference to something else, like a show, movie, book, video game, or other {usually fictional} work {Ex: "Thats because ey have 70 alternate accounts /ref" "sorry my girlboss but your princess is in another castle /ref"

/lyr - Lyric{s} - Used to indicate that what was said are the lyrics of a particular song {Ex: "A PETTY LINE OF WHITE NOISE PACK UP YOUR BAGS AND THROW OUT THE TOYS /lyr" "i kissed a girl and i liked it the taste of her cherry chapstick /lyr"}

/p - Platonic - Used to indicate when something that can be interpreted as romantic is platonic and not with romantic tone or gesture, or to indicate that something is platonic {Ex: "god i love you so much /p" "Yeah rai're my damn wife /p"

Thats all of them for now :] I know I definitely missed some, and I suggest doing your own research into tone tags and tone tag carrds and these can also be very helpful {Also, tone tags are also sometimes called "Tone indicators" if that helps at all}

Edit: An anon sent a large list of tone tags to add to the masterlist so I'm putting them here! {Ty, anon!} {I'm also copypasting them and not adding descriptions because I'm lazy but I'll probably get to it later(Hopefully-)}

/j = joking /hj = half joking /mj = mostly joking /nj = not joking /ij = inside joke /s or /sarc = sarcastic / sarcasm /nsar or /nsarc = not sarcastic /srs = serious /msrs = mostly serious /nsrs = not serious /g or /gen = genuine /gq or /genq = genuine question /rt or /rh = rhetorical question /naq = not a question /lh = light hearted /t = teasing /nm = not mad /u = upset /lu = little upset /vu = very upset /nu = not upset /ay = at you /nay = not at you /nbr = not being rude /nbm = not being mean /nbh = nobody here /sbh = somebody here /th = threat /nath = not a threat /cb = clickbait /f = fake /nf = not fake /q = quote /l or /ly or /lyr = lyrics /c = copypasta /m = metaphor / metaphorically /li or /lit = literal / literally /hyp = hyperbole /p = platonic /r = romantic /fl = flirting /nfl = not flirting /sx or /x = sexual intent /nsx or /ns = not sexual intent /pc or /pos = positive connotation /nc or /neg = negative connotation /neu = neutral connotation /vpos = very positive /vneg = very negative /e = embarrassed /nabr = not a brag /br = bragging /nafx = not a flex /fx = flex /st or /state = statement /nao = not an order /ao = an order /nav = not a vent /ny = not yelling /ot = off topic /irre = irrelevant /unre = unrelated /npa = not passive aggressive /pa = passive aggressive /c or /conf = confused /av = a vent /nav = not a vent /ex = exaggerated /aff = affectionate (i.e. I hate you /aff) /tech = technical /h = helpful /ns = not sure /fi = figuratively /curi = curious /sg or /sug = suggestion /tys = typing stim /stim = stim /sat = satire

[cainightfics]

these anons are so annoying, it also frustrates me because tyrelliot is nowhere near as bad as some ships that came from this show (like people who shipped elliot and mr robot) and yet some self righteous people compare the two like it's even remotely the same thing. sorry to mention that people who shipped elliot and mr robot even existed but god I really don't understand why people conflate it with tyrelliot. mr robot is the alter that elliot developed because of his sexual abuse growing up, and tyrell is an evil guy who was in love with him. I wish people would direct their attention elsewhere when there are much worse things being written in this fandom. feel free to not share this btw, it's reasonable to not want to make any posts where people might start arguing about mr robot x elliot. just wanted to share my thoughts. TLDR, tyrelliot shouldn't be argued about as being problematic when there are much worse popular ships in this fandom, and your fics are really good

adding more to my message from before sorry; also don't think that I mean anybody deserves harassment, I'm just saying that when there are actual upsetting and distasteful fics about elliot being abused, you of all people definitely don't deserve harassment under the guise of being upset that you write fic about "Elliot and his abuser" when those fics absolutely exist and you do not write them. anyway have a good night

thanks for your input. im pretty much a live and let live sort of person with this, since the internet makes it pretty easy to just block out anything you dont want to see, and i wish other people did the same. i honestly dont think tyrelliot is bad like... AT ALL LMFAO. but i guess some people do, which is fine. i just dont see the point in messaging me about it numerous times a week for over a month lol. thats just so weird and corny to me

but yeah like in the end my issue with this whole thing is that separating ships into morally and objectively "good" vs "bad" leads to this atomization of intent and characterization where 1) the definition of what is "bad" becomes a slippery slope where anything can become "problematic" and 2) it promotes and uplifts pairings or situations where everything is perfect and conflict doesnt exist-- the antithesis of good/interesting writing. like i have literally no interest whatsoever in "good representation" or "wholesome ships" because thats frankly not what i watch tv or read books for lol. it will never be my thing. also i am just SO FUCKING BORED of rating art based off of whether it lives up to someones (very subjective!) ideas of morality. like can we PLEASEEEEE talk about something else

also, i know what that person is trying to do when they call me a proshipper. everybody knows that that word is synonymous with being a pedo these days lmfao, given that thats central to the idea of pro vs anti shipping (besides incest). i think its pretty wild to insinuate im like... aligned with pedophiles in any way given that if you read my fics you would know i have a whole chapter dedicated to tyrell and elliot MURDERING A PEDOPHILE lol.

i could go on and on about how this very lazy way of thinking thats currently dominating fanspaces is the result of neoliberal identity politics, or consumption as morals, or the capitalist drive to increase both social division and profit by making people identify with brands, groups, or media properties. i wont be an annoying marxist rn and get into all that, but ill say im pretty much in agreement with john paul brammer here:

[softness-and-shattering]

Ok I had a thing about this and Im sharing in case this is you too.

In fiction, peace happens at the very end only. If theres peace in the middle, its usually intensified to contrast a big scare or sad about to come. Like in GoT they make extra sure you love a character right before they kill them off.

And its possible that this trains ones brain to believe that lots of happiness inherently means bad things are about to happen.

Heres the important part, that only applies to fiction. Yeah it sounds obvious, but stories are how we understand and interpret the world and our lives. So we map our lives onto stories. Its just a human thing that happens.

So if this is you like it was me, you need to affirm to yourself that life has no narrative structure. Its random and its luck and somewhat skill but its mostly luck.

Good times do not mean bad times are coming. You dont have to pay for your happiness with sadness. If you feel like you have more than your fair share of goodness, enjoy it! Misery will not create justice. Misery is not activism.

If you have actual wealth or power, use it to uplift others as best you can. If you dont, thats fine. Either way, enjoy your happiness. Let yourself enjoy it really and truly and deeply. Theres no destined miserable plot point on the horizon. Life has no narrative structure. Go be happy.

[theuniverseawakens347]

You ppl piss me off so much w your drugs. WEED IS FINE BUT NOT HOW “ GOV REGULATED SHOPS GROW IT” … AND CERTAIN “carel” PURE BREDS… YA LYING CUNTS… THE WHOLE WAREHOUSE IN DOWNTOWN… YA KNOW YA GOT MOLDY LOW GRADE N YA SELLING IT AND STEALING OFF NIPSEY BC LAURENLONDON DONT LIKE WEED OR THENIMAGINE SHE JUST WANT THE MONEY… ANGELINA “ mom too” IDC HOW TO SPELL NIP MOM* NAME YA KNOW WHO IM TALKING ABOUT..

SHROOMS ARE FINE…. UT NOW YA LIKE LETS MIXED W LSD SOIL IN DO THE SHROOM CAPSULE PROCESS.. MICRODSE IS APPROPRIATE BUT IF YOU DO MORE THAN THAT.. U FRYBYA BRAIN N THEN HAVE A FUCK UP HIGH…

IF YOU CANT DO SMALL AMOUNTS OF ANYTHING YOU A ADDICT ..

if not using for a coping mechanism … if you’re coping and can’t change the routine.. UR AN ADDICT OR PIC UP SOMETHING ELSE THAT IS HARMING YOUNINSTEAD OF UPLIFTING YOU … LEE SAYING IM HARMING MYSLEF BY NEGLECTINGNREAL LIFE THINGS AND DOING ART …. BITCH ART ISNLITERALLY MY FUCKING LIFE… YA KNOW THIS WESTLEY USING LEES BODY … AND JOHN AS JULAN.. 2. VIVICCA AS HOWARD FOR NICKI MUHAMMAD PAYS OF ANYONE IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD TO NOT HIRE ME BC YOU DUMBASS CUNT OF A MOM GIVE THEM MY LOCATION ALWAYS SO I CAN WORK AT UR PIMP SEX RING LOCATIONS AND YA SUE N MY NAME AS DARNIECE BUT KEEP THE MONEY AND LITTLE MAN ME TO FEED FUCKTARD COI AND KIMORA AND INDIA LOVE WHO WILLINGLEE SLUT OUT FOR YOH … THATS WHY DARNIECE PLAYED STUPID AND GRANNY TOOK THE CHIN… JUST LYING ON MY RICH FAMILY NAME OR MY NAME PAULA TO PIMP TRISTAN OR BREAK HIS HEART TO GET BACK AT POPS FOR CHEATING … OR LIKING TRISTAN MORE THAN JENESSE UR SEED BY REGINA KING

[chappell-roans]

yeah like, its amazing that women are now allowed to make big box office movies I just wish people were more honest about the actual quality. legally blonde and mean girls touched on the intricacy of female friendships and the way women and girls walk through the world but they were also well written and showed it through the plot and relationships and made far deeper commentary because of it. legally blonde especially. I can keep sending my thoughts in if you dont mind, I really wanted to talk to someone about this.

Go for it I’m always down for good conversation. I’ve just been horrible at replying to asks because of work being busy lately, so don’t take it personally please bc I love this and am so happy my blog has somehow become a way to facilitate healthy conversation even in a small way.

But yes I agree. I think that movies can be feminist statements without overtly saying “this is a feminist statement.” And like, I keep repeating, I genuinely enjoyed Barbie even though it had tonal whiplash and it was much stronger imo in the comedy than the drama parts of the movie. I go back to Legally Blonde and Mean Girls a lot. Thats actually one of the reasons I still haven’t seen the new Mean Girls, beyond being biased thanks to nostalgia lol.

And back to your point about quality, YES. Like, we can and should talk about diversity and uplift all voices, women and POC and like Hollywood is not nearly where it should be. (And we should also talk about international and independent film more, which is happening more, which is a great thing. But those are sooo different from like. Being top 3 box office. Like pretending that Barbie and Past Lives are similar in any way is wild to me—not that people are, but it’s such a limited conversation.) Like, to me it shouldn’t be offensive to find Oppenheimer to be a better and more serious movie than Barbie. It’s not because it’s “for boys” (which is bullshit and we keeeep enforcing gendering when like, gender is a huge factor in a lot of things, and a lot of oppression, but this shouldn’t be boy movie/girl movie). It’s because it’s better lol. (And people are more than welcome to disagree; some do! Ultimately these things are taste.)

But yeah. Idk. Cinema is one of the biggest forms of media and so what it says and who makes it matters a LOT. As does who doesn’t have that access. But having a real conversation about quality also matters. Like, Barbie aside, to me, Lady Bird isn’t the best coming of age film about women and parental relationships of the 2010s. 20th Century Women and Boyhood are. (Lady Bird is maybe 3rd, if I’m being generous.) Are they better movies because they’re made by men? No it’s because they’re better movies to me. And that’s fine. Idk. It just limits conversation a lot.

All this said, I’m trying to attempt to balance out my movie watching even a little and watch more films directed by women and minorities. I’ve seen all Greta’s films (and they’re good! Not great but good) and there are SO MANY MORE OUT THERE. And I’m glad they’re getting a bit of a push at the Oscars, too.

[comfort-characters-writing-you]

Hewwo I hope you dont mind amother request-

First of thank you so so much for this- Ive been waiting for something like this with tma characters for so so long youre doing gods work here /lh

Secondly may I request?

Fandom and Character: tma Michael "Distortion" (pre spiral is totally fine too- i dont know if I misunderstood wether or not you write for the distortion as well)

Letter or voicemail: a letter would be lovely!

Name: Vessel

Pronouns: it/its xe/xem

Gender: unaligned nonbinary

Pet names: love, sweetness, sweetheart, dearest, darling things like that also spiral and swirl

Relationship: spouses

What the letter is about: just something uplifting- im really going through it lately mental illness and stuff- Im close to getting diagnoesed with schizophrenia and while its nice to have confirmation... man- as well as depression and all that jazz-

Other details: uh Im 5'5, chubby, have shoulder lenght neon green hair, dark brown eyes, i have an office job I despise kinda goes into the mental illness stuff- when im home I usually just watch youtube or twitch or play some games (pokemon most of the time) i draw and am currently starting getting commissions which is nice and I love singing even tho Im not the best and yeah thats kinda it

Again thank you so much for this and dont pressure yourself

Hello! Thank you for the request, and yes, I do write Micheal Distortion, I should have made that clear. Sorry! I will reblog this with a version with a more readable font as well.

[bookwyrminspiration]

the council incompetence rant may sound interesting, but its been kind of a while since i worked on it and looking back i dont think i had as much of a point as i thought i did bvkfhskj

but the gist of it was that i was annoyed at the fact that the council were incompetent despite being individually demonstrated to be competent, and/or someone to look out for, if that makes sense.

although now i want to amend that my gripe with this issue is less about that are more about the fact they are often described as doing right or competent things, but as a whole.......are not good or competent at all.

and specifically when it comes to the council, i feel like the later books have started to have an air of complacency around them, and they are much kinder to the council than before.

for example, bronte suddenly becomes a good figure instead of an actual or even semi-threat (which i feel he worked very well as) and while thats not a bad thing in and of itself, we dont see this development happen with our own eyes (maybe through sophie's weekly lessons with him, etc?) and instead are just hit with a 180 he did off-screen, and then suddenly he's a "good guy", and i love his little speech to sophie about the dire wolf pin as much as the next person, but he's also just making excuses for having child soldiers, which i like decidedly less so. but thats. not acknowledged. its treated as some uplifting moment, instead of the reality of a government recruiting a bunch of children to fight their wars.

and the council in general just...lack the vibe and presence they had at the start? i think the ability restrictor was a fantastic idea (in terms of a plot device, not an in-world decision, although it has its merit even there) and really did wonders to how far the council were willing to go if they felt threatened, and we've gotten other hints all throughout the series that they arent something to be messed with, but i feel we never really see that in action, instead getting....either nothing, them being stupid and absurd, or fuzzy-feelings fluff. which i....kind of hate.

im not sure how to fully accurately describe it, but it feels like the council have been...kidified.

- pyro

bold of you to assume I'm not interested by everything and anything all of the time. The world is vast and I'd like to hear everything I can about it!! Maybe looking back you'll find some new points to structure your argument around. Here, I'll give you a thesis statement! While The Council, the governing body intended to protect and serve the people of The Lost Cities, maintains a vice grip on power and control over the people, the use of that influence remains unused and abused without regard to the well being of those it claims to serve; repeatedly throughout the series, councilors make decisions that negatively impact both the main characters and their society as a whole, ranging from social status to physical wellbeing, demonstrating a thorough and ingrained incompetence in their methods. (I wrote that before reading the rest of your ask so pardon me if it's a little off)

oo that's a really good point--as normal people these councilors function perfectly fine within society, but once they're given influence their incompetency become more prominent. But you're very right, the way the council is introduced is like they're this perfect governing body and always make the right calls. There's no "this is our government and this is how it works but here's what could be better," instead Sophie is told "look here's our government they're so cool!! none of your human problems!!" and then there were...several of the human problems. And that attitude is carried throughout the series, even though it's now been acknowledged things aren't working.

I guess its treated in such a way that it's like ah yes, all this suffering and injustice just slipped under our notice but now that we're aware we're gonna fix it. Except they're not gonna fix it because they don't care about that, they care about how their public image may be affected.

yes!! an air of complacency!! that's a great way to put it. I think i touched on that a little bit in one of my posts about the Black Swan becoming less effective in their goals when they started working with the council, but not enough. Now that the council is a bigger part of the story and Sophie's started to get more into the politics of this world, she gets more contact with them. Especially since the Black Swan is kind of working with them now. it's as if they've sacrificed some of their complaints for the sake of working more openly and with access to some of the council's resources, but they gave too much and now it's like...hey are you actually concerned about those things still?? The Council is still doing all those things you didn't like but they gave you access to some info so is it not important anymore or what?

oo Bronte! this is a great point. I think I've made a post about he changed more than anyone else in the series, really. But this happens in like a single moment and we see none of the other thoughts behind it. Sophie inflicts happy emotions on him and he breaks down and suddenly...he likes her for not judging him? I feel like there has to be more to that switch than just not condemning him, and we didn't see any of that. What about that moment motivated him to set aside thousands of years of suspicion and bitterness to warm up to this one child?

and that whole child soldier thing is one of those details that's has two main facets, in a way. It's whether or not we take it literally in the context of canon, I suppose. Because on one hand, the government and world is relying on a group of teenagers to fix it and giving them these huge responsibilities, which is Not Good and opens up a critique of the system in that way. But also, this is a kids series. And so the main characters are going to be kids and they're going to be put into situations they wouldn't normally be to satiate the story-telling. So while it may not be intentional to have child soldiers in this world, it's a consequence of the medium, if that makes sense. Like I 100% understand Shannon's perspective on this one, but that doesn't make it any less uncomfortable to think about outside of the writer's perspective.

oh you're very right; they're vibe has definitely changed. I think beforehand they were used as a presence to incite fear. Here are these powerful leaders and little Sophie who doesn't know what's happening has to face them and earn their approval--they had power over us and the story in that way. Sophie wanted to fit in and as such wanted to earn that approval, so there were stakes when she interacted with them. But now she's separated herself from that desire and doesn't see The Council as all that important or meaningful anymore, so they've lost that presence. They're a nuisance now, something to bother the plot and hinder progress.

But they're still important to the world, so they can't be completely thrown out. I think maybe it would've been a smoother transition if they took on a different role in place of their previous one, as opposed to just loosing it and still existing there. Shannon's approach to them (they're to be respected, don't mess with them, follow the rules, etc.) has stayed the same while Sophie's opinion has changed, so it feels a little off at times.

They were willing to put untested technology that scared them on a child!! That was a majority decision!! That's a scary thing for a government to have the power to do, but now it's like they have no real influence over where the plot happens, they're just being used for continuity. The ability restrictor was so good plot-wise, but I don't think we've ever gotten something like that from them since on a level that leaves an impression. Technically, Sophie was never told to stop wearing it, and yet it was never brought up again. But I don't think that'll be addressed ever.

"the council has been kidified." Excellent verbiage, pyro. They're honestly have been! I don't think they're made any propositions that are actually quality, so instead it's like there these group of bumbling leaders who are always wrong...where's the flavor? Where's the intrigue? I want them to have good opinions and make smart calls from time to time, as it would make it harder and harder to tell good from bad. The always fighting with them is getting old, I have to admit.

I want more from the council! There's so much potential in having a corrupt/bad government that's convinced they're right, especially with the main character interacting with/working for them on a regular basis!! The possibilities, ahhh!!

[lesbow]

i wanna talk about claire & douxie

so im on episode 4 and just got to the scene where claire uses her shadow magic to create a portal for them to go see the lady of the lake. this scene is claire’s moment of development and i loved it for her. i dont wanna take away from that but i also loved it because of claire and douxie’s bond during it. im sure there will be several other posts about how awesome this was claire bc it really was, so i guess just take this as another perspective on the scene.

before i start i would just like to say: this post is about their strictly platonic relationship. i dont ship them and honestly dont know how i feel about them as a ship in general since douxie is significantly older than them (”college aged”) and i dont really think its right. especially bc on the wiki it says claire is only 15-16 (im guessing 16 since its been A Minute since s1 of trollhunters lol) and in the show douxie canonly says he’s 19-esque. so pls dont go reading this in ya know that kind of lense bc thats not my intention.

alright so now that i’ve got that out the way

from the start douxie has obviously gravitated towards claire because of their shared understanding of magic. when they first drop in camelot, he confides in her the most and whenever she gets upset he takes it strongly, seemingly as a personal hit. like when he tried to talk about the brightside of jim being imprisoned and then claire bursts into tears (bc obviously lol it really wasnt a great situation to be in). but i really wanna talk about the scene in episode 4 when claire starts to become more comfortable with her magic. 

douxie comes up with the plan in the first place because he has full confidence in claire’s abilities. he starts off by talking about how amazing her powers are and that she shouldn’t be afraid of herself. he expresses not one ounce of doubt abt how strong claire is and fully supports her, even when claire refuses to herself. 

seeing morgana die and knowing they share the same magic was an understandably awful thing for claire to witness, and she is obviously traumatized from it as she still has nightmares and visions about morgana’s death. but then douxie, who has complete & utter faith in her, encourages her to use her magic. so she tries just because he asked. claire tho who still feels uncertain asks for his help in return, and douxie is completely shocked by it. i have expressed several times how much i hate merlin and i am NOT afraid to do it again bc i 100% blame his constant degradation for douxie’s low self esteem. 

which also leads me to believe that douxie connects with claire, not only bc of their use of magic but because he also sees himself in her. they both have little confidence in their powers that stem somewhat from their predecessors. douxie vs merlin’s nonstop insults and claire vs morgana’s seemingly inevitable evilness. he sees himself in her because he was her (and still is) and subconsciously, as most of us do, wants to become the support he wish he had. 

but helping those younger than you/who were in your shoes also has a way of making you reflect on yourself too. which is why, even tho he was fully prepared to give claire emotional encouragement, he was blindsided when she asked for his teaching. he wants to help raise claire’s confidence, but has yet to work on his own. 

when the rock.... wall...... thingies.... insult douxie and agree on him being subpar, claire (and archie but this aint about him) immediately fires back at them to cool it. and while douxie didn’t disagree with the rockwallthingies, he clearly appreciated claire standing up for him and smiles about it. her sticking up for him helps give him the boost he needed to teach her what he knows. 

while attempting the portal, douxie gives her constant words of encouragement. and when claire, who is gradually becoming more and more unstable, confesses that she is afraid, his tone changes and becomes softer. he is still confident in her abilities, but also knows how overwhelming they can be and doesn’t hesitate to switch from determined support to warm reassurance. 

things turn for the worse tho when claire ends up giving into her fear and the shadow portal swallows her. 

(i tried my best to gif what happens bc i dont think a screenshot would do it justice)

once claire succumbs to her fear and her magic swallows her whole, douxie hyperventilates. i’d even say he was panicking bc this was the one thing neither of them wanted to happen. its both of their fears happening all at once. douxie’s initial fear of being a bad teacher/influence/magic user in general and claire’s fear that her magic will overpower her, both being proven right in the worst way possible. 

what douxie doesnt realize yet is that his teaching didnt fail. while claire is in the shadow realm, she sees morgana’s corpse again and freezes up. but then she pauses as soon as she remembers douxie’s words ��dont let fear control you. stay true to yourself.” and with the help of his previous support, she gains the courage to finally face what she’s been afraid of and brings herself back to them. while douxie is terrified that he’s failed claire, it’s actually his words that help her succeed.

once claire comes back, douxie is immediately up and grabs her face to check for injuries. he crowds her so much, archie even has to tell him to relax and give her space. douxie is skilled in magic, but he has no idea what shadow magic and all it entails is actually like, so it isnt unreasonable for his imagination to have run wild with all the dangers claire could’ve been exposed to.

claire rambles about what happened (rambling claire is the most adorable claire) but douxie misreads her curiosity as anxiety and goes to comfort her again. “we understand if you dont want to go back in” its just constant constant support from this guy! (which is funnily enough the exact opposite of what he received from merlin.) he sees her eyes are glued to morgana’s spell book and gently pushes it away. in his mind, what happened in the shadow realm was most likely a bad experience and instead of trying to force her to do it again, he tells her to not feel rushed to go back in. he gets that what he thought was encouragement might’ve actually been pressure and doesn’t hesitate to make sure claire knows that they, and he, will support whatever she wants to do. 

claire quickly tells him that’s not the case and that she’s fine. and whether or not she’s aware of his insecurities yet, she lets him know his influence was actually a great help. 

the positive words surprise douxie and make him smile. once again, claire’s kindness has uplifted his spirits. 

between these two its just a back and forth of nonstop support. douxie helps claire not be afraid of her own magic, and claire helps douxie not fall into self deprecation. as the show goes on i think they will grow to have a very strong sibling-like bond and i cant wait to see it.

[xhorass]

one of these days I’ll get my thoughts together and actually write a post explaining why, weirdly enough, ot3s and other poly ships in general are more...accessible? appealing? might be the word? to me as an arospec person (the TLDR is: fuck amatonormativity) but for the moment I’m just gonna rant about fjo/restgard bc it’s my blog and I can do what I want

fjo/restgard actively opposes the idea that you have to put down other relationships of any type and focus on one and one only as the most important. because yeah, I see this shit constantly in fandom, that Jester should be with one or the other because they understand her more, they care about her more, which is shitty no matter what kind of relationship you’re talking about. news flash: even if you only ship one romantically, you can acknowledge the other as a strong platonic relationship! what a fucking concept! (this is not cr specific btw, this is...in every fandom, because again, amatonormativity)

and not only does it do that, but it’s also one of the few ships where the platonic aspect is CRUCIAL to how it works. fjo/restgard doesn’t exist without the Beau & Fjord friendship. it just doesn’t. their platonic bond is just as important, and it’s what makes the three of them just fit together so well

...I cannot believe I am getting annoyed by something so dumb

[iraprince]

I found your "thinking out loud" comic, and it hit hard. Ive never been good at articulating my feelings and seeing something that so closely mirrored my own experience was comforting and validating as I was trying to get better. However, I had thought I had gotten through crisis mode and was on the long, difficult rode of recovery and self acceptance. I was wrong. What Im dealing with now is crisis mode. My old problems are getting worse,(part 1 of 2 i know doing this is lame but *shrugs*)

(Part 2) New problems i haven't had to deal with before are showing up, and I don't know how to handle it all. Like you, it's easy for me to see why this is happening. Ive been struggling and wanting to die for awhile. But I've never been able to face these feelings. I've always avoided my feelings or locked them away, so now that I'm actually trying to get better, im facing years worth of unresolved bullshit. And i just don't know if I'm going to make it though all this alive.

i really really get this and i feel like there’s no way for me as a stranger to give u like, life changing advice that’s going to clear everything up. but i can tell u that for me what was really important was like.... i know we hear “mleh mleh just take it one day at a time uwu <3” all the time and it’s like great thanks but every “one day” sucks shit and then the day after that also sucks shit and i’m aware the day after that day will continue to suck shit and — you get what i mean. it’s not really uplifting.

but what worked better for me was realizing that u cant tackle everything that sucks all at once. you HAVE to be okay with other shit sliding while you tackle the One Thing thats fucking up your day more than anything else. right now i’m pretty even keeled and i wouldn’t say Most of my days are fucked up at all, which is insane and i absolutely never would have imagined that for myself. but a couple years ago? 90% of my life was a mess while i worked on the One thing i needed to keep things together, which was “don’t kill yourself, don’t lose your job.” i was managing to get out of bed, go to work, come home — and i lived in ABSOLUTE filth and didn’t take care of myself and barely had a social life even tho i was living in a house with literally 5 other people, almost all of whom i liked perfectly fine. but i was working on the one thing. i zeroed 100% in one “dont kill yourself, don’t lose your job” and i made it through those years and if i’d tried to make my goal “don’t kill yourself don’t lose your job get healthy find a way to socialize besides drinking and keep your space clean and organized” i think i would have accomplished 0% of that instead of 10%.

idk. it’s hard for me to think of a way to phrase this that doesn’t come off as “when you’re mentally ill u can just let everything go to shit and nobody can tell u to try harder bc u cant help it!”, which is the mindset i had in the years BEFORE the years i just described and it Does Not Fucking Work, it hurts the people around you, and it almost killed me. but what i mean is you just really have to have gentle standards for yourself. you have to be okay with expecting less when you’re doing really really badly — and that doesn’t mean not holding yourself accountable and that doesn’t mean never pushing yourself, bc nobody is coming to save you, nobody can make you get better but you, you HAVE to push and you have to do the hard work and you have to fight. but you also have to be realistic about how much of that fight you can do per day and sometimes the amount of fight in your body is really low and weak and... that’s just how it is. sometimes you manage one weak little slap in the face of your illness and it looks like “i woke up, i got up to pee, i drank a few sips of water, and i went straight the fuck back to sleep so i wouldn’t think about killing myself.”

you HAVE to keep fighting to want more for yourself than that. you have to fight and claw and scream and scratch to convince yourself that you deserve better than living like that every day. but you also have to learn to understand that you don’t have that energy every day and sometimes it’s going to look like “i cant do this today. i don’t feel like fighting today, i don’t love myself today, i don’t feel like i want to be better today. but this is storing up energy so i can start screaming again the day after tomorrow.”

all i can tell u is that this isn’t going to beat u, i feel confident abt that even as a complete stranger. bc i’m proud of what i’ve done for myself but i’m not stronger or smarter than anyone else at baseline, i don’t think anyone is stronger or tougher or has ANYTHING at the core that anyone else doesn’t have, from like, a Spirit and Heart standpoint as hokey as that sounds. i can’t tell you it’ll be easy or fast bc it wasn’t for me. but literally every single day i’m glad i didn’t kill myself and sometimes i break down crying over how glad i am that i didn’t do it, out of nowhere in the middle of my day, and i believe in that for you.

[ccsthemovie2]

Character: The Cardcaptor herself?

HEY SORRY THIS ONE TOOK SO LONG i got writers block for it at some point i guess. its not as complete as i want it to be but i want to actually give you an answer jgjhfvjhfvjh

ANYWAY SAKURA TIIIME LETS GO . clear card post anime cutoff spoilers are referenced!

Why I like them:

she’s wonderful. love so much her subversion of the chosen one trope, chosen not by the world or fate but by an individual, stuck at the center of the web and making the best of it. time and time again she is asked to use her power in the true clow tradition of taking and overpowering, and she says NO i am going to BE KIND and it is wonderful! transforming every card, bringing the whole magic system into an uplifted, kinder place.

i see that last battle with eriol as....well, the answer was to use kero and yue’s power to change light and dark, right? so i think it’s something eriol expected her to figure out on her own, for the last mark of her being recognized as clow’s successor being her ability to say “kero, yue, i need your power, please” and for them to unquestioningly do it. but she doesn’t, she would never, and they choose to offer her THEIR help. she wouldn’t put them in danger, she wouldn’t take from them.

Why I don’t:

what could you possibly hate about sakura? i do, however, dislike how clear card sort of writes her as a danger to herself. i dont like the implication that power itself is the corrupting thing and not the way people treat those with power. i want to see sakura being absolutely fine no matter how strong she gets because the people around her know she won’t lash out if they give her loving criticism, and i want to see her be at the center of decisions concerning herself from now on. 

Favorite episode (scene if movie):

a LOTTTTT of scenes but the first three that come to my mind right now are “i want us to be friends, not master or anything like that” , her transforming the nothing into the hope, and her asking eriol to help her play the piano so she could give a present to the cards. IT’S ABOUT THE KINDNESS!!!!!

OH ALSO WHEN SHE PREPARES HERSELF TO REMEMBER ALL OF HER DEAR FRIENDS IN THE DREAM CARD EPISODE SO THAT SHE CAN BUST 90% OF THE WAY OUT OF CALAMITYWORLD WITHOUT THE BELL ALL BY HERSELF.

OH ALSO IN THE MANGA WHEN SHE CRASHES HEADFIRST INTO THE TRUTH OF CLOW’S DEATH AND ERIOL AND FUJITAKA’S BIRTHS.

OH AND IN THE ANIME WHEN SHE ACTIVATES HER STAR CIRCLE THE FIRST TIME AND TRANSFORMS HER FIRST CARD. AND ALSO WHEN SHE MAKES LI A YUKATA AND/OR SCARF. AND ALSO------ (theres a lot) (i could just keep listing scenes honestly)

Favorite season/movie:

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm sakura card arc but it’s a tough call.

Favorite line: 

hoeeeeeeeeee????? hanyannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, etc etc. she has a lot of really great sounds.

Favorite outfit: 

HOW CAN I CHOOOOOSE?????? uhhhhhm anime judgement, anime back in time/vs eriol fight, the silent card capture outfit, that illustration where shes got suspenders. idk 90% of her outfits are THE BEST

OTP: 

listen it took me a while but sakusyao good okay. i talked abt it in my syaoran answer already but they’re good.

Brotp: 

SO many good choices here. her and kero!! her and yukito and yue!!! her and tomoyo!!! the literal bro-tp, her and touya!!!! her and all her friends in class!!!

okay i couldnt get myself to expand as much as the words actually are in my head but, some points as i format this n hit post -i love that she’s enthusiastic abt her friendship with tomoyo, reaches for her when the teacher says to pair off, runs to her when she’s upset. i love that we see them be best friends, not just we are told that they are and in practice sakura just nervous-smiles to tomoyo’s obsession. i think sometimes their friendship can get a little bit lost in the Gimmick so it makes me cherish those times it shines out.

-i love her lil baby crush on yukito so long as we are all on the same page that its Not Something That Should Be Reciprocated. yukito is being nice to kids bc well duh theyre kids and also this is the best way to get FREE CANDY and also uhhhm,,, if touya is in the area then thats a coincidence,,,,,,, but he gets to be like an extra brother to sakura and watch her grow up! 

Head Canon:

uhhhhhm she has adhd

Unpopular opinion: 

while i havent really seen it i feel like theres definitely room for ppl to think of sakura as a ‘mary-sue’ or a character who hasnt ‘earned’ her power and had everything arranged just so in order that she gets it, and like.......yeah that’s the point of the story. sakura did nothing to ‘earn’ her successorship and she has to rise to the occasion anyway and that’s not a bad thing, that’s an interesting story. 

A wish: 

GET THAT BEAR BACK OH MY GODDDDDDDDDDD.  

An oh-god-please-dont-ever-happen: 

yknow i had “bad things :((” as filler text here but i think i was right

 5 words to best describe them: 

it’ll DEFINITELY be all right! 

My nickname for them:

uhm im not sure if i have one? or if i do im forgetting something obvious

[jojosbabe]

Shipping rules,hcs,and ask box info.

If you want some hcs made for you. Feel free to ask.

Ask box is open.

I am not big on canon characters shipped together. But i will do some if asked nicely. I mostly do self shipping. And self ship requests. As thats really the only thing i do.

Some characters if you ask for hcs for i dont know as much so i mostly do parts 1-4 as 5 i only can do mista and maybe abba. Maybe ghiaccio. But im not good with those characters as much. But any characters from 1-4 im very good with. So feel free to ask.

Ships i will do and am comfortable with

Jonathan x erina

Ceaser x Joseph x suzie q

Ceaser x Joseph

Joseph x suzie q

Joseph x avdol (tho this one i do more platonically but i can do a romantic ship if you'd like. I don't really pair avdol with anyone really)

Koichi x yukako (this one i take with a grain of salt buuuut i can do it if you'd like)

Jotaro x dolphins . Joking,just joking . I can write personal opinions and general hcs bout jotaros married life if you'd like. But since he did marry and have a kid. I kind aleave joot joot out of shipping hcs unless its for self shipping purposes.

Dio with almost anything and anyone cuz that bitch a horny vampire and canonlly bi so.....he's cool . I dont mind indulging with dio. But i love dio self shippers. Y'all rock my za wardo!

I hc Joseph as bisexual. Don't hate me plz. He's the only one i hc as queer/lgbt. Ok? I just vibe with grandpa. He's jiji. *hugs Joseph* . I don't really hc anyone else as queer so plz no hate.

I do not tolerate harassment and disrespect. If you do not like my hcs or anything i write. Take your business elsewhere. I will not write for anyone who sends anon hate. Or hate in general.

Pairs i will not do and do not feel comfy with:

Jotokak ( i have my reasons and personal feelings about this.)

Avpol (i don't really care for it. And i dont see polnareff that way. Nor avdol. I see them as friends and if anything avdol is like a mentor for polnareff. Since he is older than pol pol technically. I am not as squick or cringe with this as i am with other pairs.)

Okuyasu x josuke. (This is a hard no for me as i see them like brothers and it feels hella weird for me. They are the best friends duo i need to see. Hella positive and uplifting for dudes. Not toxic at all. And if they are paired up in a romantic way i feel they lose that importance. Plus again it feels weird to me)

I WILL NOT DO ANYONE PAIRED WITH GIORNO OR NARANCIA. AS THOSE ARE BABIES TO ME. I DO NOT FEEL COMFY ABOUT THAT. (If you want self shipping i know some people that may take your requests but i do not feel comfy with those sweethearts ok?)

Like i said i don't really ship canon characters together with each other.

I'd rather do x readers and self shipping. Its really the only shipping i do anymore.

Its way more fun and inclusive.

I DO NOT DO NSFW HCS AND OR REQUESTS FOR MINORS! IF YOUR UNDER 18. I WILL REFUSE TO DO NSFW. FLUFF IS FINE BUT NOT NSFW. ALL CHARACTERS WILL BE AGED UP AND ARE OF AGE OF CONSENT.

IF YOU ARE NOT OF AGE AND YOU DO NOT LISTEN TO THE RULES YOU WILL BE BLOCKED.

I will only do 1 or 2 requests at a time.

I do hcs and fun dabbles. Nothing heavy or full on novels or long x readers. As i can only focus so much.

I may do matchups eventually but for now the ask box is for hcs requests and self shipping purposes.

Again nsfw content is for adults 18+ only. And will be tagged accordingly.

Im trying to keep this safe,fun and open as i can.

While setting boundaries for myself and others.

I appreciate your time. Please read this if you wish to request something.

I have lots of jojo husbandos. But polnareff is the one i self ship with the most and is absolutely baaaaaaabe. 💖 (love me some pol pol. So i get passionate about him. Srry if i vent about this lovely Frenchman)

Also if you wanna show me your art you are most welcome to. Even if its a ship i dont like. I appreciate all art. As long as its not disgusting or disturbing i.e guro,blood mention, etc . If so give me some warning.

Any other questions feel free to ask.

Much love jojo fans i love you.

-jojosbabe *mwah kiss*

[almasidaliano]

Mental Health Matters

i am not okay. .. and that is okay. it's okay not to be okay sometimes. it's all okay, even if it hurts. you have to always remind yourself that it's okay even when it hurts because it is always going to hurt.

imagine waking up, and for no reason at all wanting to die. imagine every day being that way until they start to run together and then it just becomes this on going day that goes on forever, and you go from waking up every morning to greeting the sun with a sign because once again you've failed to die.

i'm not always sad, i always have SAD learn the difference. SAD: Social Anxiety Disorder. thought that was it? nope. ready for the list?

SAD - SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER GAD - GENERAL ANXIETY DISORDER SP - SOCIAL PHOBIA CLINICAL DEPRESSION GENERAL DEPRESSION SEASONAL DEPRESSION (DID - DISSOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER BPD - BI POLAR DISORDER) PTSD - POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER INSOMNIA BULIMIA NERVOSA

welcome to my mental health rant. as if life doesn't already fuck us enough. the best people are mad. so i try not to let it fuck with me too much. but everyday is a battle. i mean a full blown war, one that isn't always visible from the outside.

anxiety is like extremely heightened awareness. you are just aware of everything, every possible variable that could apply to a scenario pops into my head and just spins. making decisions feels impossible. trying to express myself. having so many forms of anxiety means i question and overthink everything. i get flustered easily. i chuckle nervously a lot. since i have been diagnosed since i was a freshman, ive learned some coping skills to get through the days. they backfire though because most people think i am fine and dandy.

the depression is killer. no cap, i think i could handle it if it weren't for the anxiety. like when im trying to get myself out of bed, i don't need depression on my  chest and anxiety in my ear about all the bad things life brings, and how im a failure for not getting up, pros and cons of life. there is so much pressure to live and it damn near impossible to die. like deadass, when you fr tryna get out this mf, life laughs at you in the face.

FUCK BIG PHARMA.

if i need meds i can medicate myself. the meds they would give me made it worse. it was like i was a zombie. numb and fatigued. that's when the light dimmed. and family just knew they would help and so they dimmed and dimmed and dimmed my light. i lost drive, i lost will power. all that was left was this empty vessel.

can you imagine asking for help and being gaslighted? or dismissed. they threw pills at the problem. i said they didn't work they said keep taking them. then they said you need to talk to someone- crazy i kept trying to talk to them. no one had time to hold me together; still my pieces always managed to keep them steady.

when it becomes to much i just stop. i just don't. sometimes i don't really resonate with my vessel. they call that dissociative identity. i dont really think i dissociate though so....

the waves of bipolar disorder are hectic for even myself. i dont know where the emotions be coming from. i dont know why its like click pop off. i have no idea. thats how my body responds. i try to just be quiet, but silence makes me ache i have to get it out. i think its cause i have so much buried already. i feel like a burden or an issue when i try to express myself so i tend to keep it to myself if possible. i feel the anger. my body gets hot. if i suppress the anger i cry, then the depressions back. depression is never without anxiety and that mf gotta make it impossible for me to calm down then its like how do i explain this right? so people know whats going on? lol i try to explain my feelings but it just be seeming like everyone thinks im overdramatic and doing too much. its exhausting to have to feel so much all the time.

trauma makes life the hardest. the ptsd takes your mind back to those moments. how do you climb out of your mind? when you open your eyes and you know where you are but it's not what you see. when you can see, inreality but that's not what you think. when the people with you keep trying to ground you with their voices and you hear them, but they sound distant. trying to get to them, its like they can't get to you. so you feel it again. like a fresh new wound. and then you try not to relapse because its old news, with new bruises.

appetite left when my confidence did. i still throw up from time to time. everything comes in waves now. i try to eat, but it typically makes me nauseous or i get full fast. i rarely ever have a taste for anything, i be drinking stuff steadily.

i stopped sleeping because the night terrors were too much. minds are this unlimited storage space and i would love to empty mine out. i swear i am horder of memories. i think ive forgotten things, i try to forget them, and yet they find a way to wound me again. letting go is the major key to mental health. letting things be what they will be.

one thing i have learned, happiness does not last. it won't. nothing can. nothing does. that doesn't make it any less worth it though. you have to push for something. and knowing this is what happiness, to some extent is supposed to feel like, its a reminder that everyday i fight that battle and i win. and i will find happiness within again. and it will leave again. and i will let it go. and welcome it when it comes back, thats how the cycle goes.

this was just a rant. be nice to everybody because you don't know how close they are to the edge. and if you know someone who jumps, for once support them. meaning rejoice their memory, don't say they shouldve been stronger or they were selfish. let them know they are loved and never alone. because when you are on that ledge, all that's running through your mind is all the people who will be hurting now, all the things you didn't get to do, you sit there contemplating if you are really capable of being selfish now.

people don't kill themselves because they feel like no one's there; that isn't what is meant when they say i feel alone. they mean in a room full of people. they mean when they go to their support system and still feel the same so they just decide to act like its all cool and end the conversation. its like, i know what i have and its all i need. family love support is all we need. administered correctly, i think it could save any life. blood don't always constitute family. and love is hard to find. if the support isn't sturdy, the bridge comes falling down. just be sure to tell your mental health friends youre proud of them for staying. ask them to always stay. and if ever they cannot go on, whisper into the air "you did good."

believe it or not we all feel the same pain. its just dressed up in different ways. so be mindful, pay attention. when someone's talking, do more than listen; comprehend them. support and uplift them. if there's a friend in need, be sure to be the thing theyre missing.

keep going. its not too late.

-Almasi

ps: should ever anyone need, you can always find a friend in me.

[sadrien]

About the homophobia in the fandom, I get it, but I watched the show before I got into the fandom, and when I watched the show, I started out shipping the lovesquare, because that was what the show centered around. I honestly enjoy the fandom, and don't give a shit if other people ship outside the love square. They're fictional characters, do what you want with them. Just understand I don't personally ship ships outside the love square, and that's fine because 1/? (Call me blue anon idk)

2/ particularly enjoy ships outside the love square. (except rose and juleka) I don't have to reblog content that I don't ship. I understand that someone put time and effort into that work, and I can appreciate that, but I am not obligated to support them. I am happy that they are contributing to the fandom, but I'm not exactly dying to read more. The show and many of its followers came for the love square, so you can't really get upset when that's the biggest ship. I'm happy that

3/ you can find enjoyment and identify with the characters, but just like we shouldn't shove the love square on you, you shouldn't shove other ships on us. It's okay to ship different things and see things differently, but you can't get angry when the ships outside the main ship get less attention, because that's what the majority came here for. You are looking for homophobia where there it isnt. No one is obligated to promote work they aren't interested in. I don't have to ship everything youdo

i know that some responses on that post may have made it seem otherwise and i can only speak for myself, but i am not saying you shouldnt ship the love square

i do ship the love square! i love the love square! i dont reblog ships im not invested in, and im not saying anyone else has to either. while id appreciate it if people uplifted works with lgbt+ characters, i cant force anyone to or to make them ship something theyre not interested in 

im not mad that non love square ships get less attention. is it annoying? kind of, but thats what you deal with when you ship a rarepair. thats not where im seeing the homophobia, even if there may be internal homophobia effecting some of those things 

im seeing the homophobia in the pride zine getting a death threat, in the comments me and other content creators get when characters arent cishet or the ship isnt a straight ship. to reference something i experienced, when i casually said in wanna chat that adrien was trans, i got a lot of shit for it, but i also got people who just didnt understand why he “had to be trans”. i got a lot of people being transphobic when they didnt realize it, who didnt really have malicious intent, but still said hurtful things 

now transphobia and homophobia are different, but it really isnt just a ship thing. as my friend erin said, she has a fic where the love square is the ship, but people got upset when she said that marinette was bi 

no one is obligated to ship something they arent interested in and they arent required to ship something they dont like. but i think we all should take a look at how we react to lgbt+ headcanons and gay ships, and also question why we think they may be improbable

my answer may not be the best, im balancing this and homework at the moment, but like i mentioned in your other ask, feel free to dm me if you have anything youd like to discuss

[sereniv]

People who are mixed need to stop being so focused on whether or not we are poc, but rather where you fit in a narrative.

Because to some people you'll be poc, to others you won't. But what is consistent is your unique experiences and what you feel comfortable identifying as and making sure you know your place in a conversation

I dont identify with poc because I feel like I shouldn't, that's just how I feel about myself. But others have said I could claim it or I am.

I make sure that when I'm talking its about my experiences, and to uplift non white appearing ppl and people who have experience that is more relevant

Not to mention you can connect to a heritage and not identify as it. And theres some people who are more comfortable with that. Identifying as their heritage doesn't fit, but acknowledging it and getting involved is still important to them

Poc and white(ness) are real in our society right now and its a complex thing

but for people who are mixed, especially those who are trying to connect, focus on your community and your connection. Stand up for yourself and your identity. And know that you'll probably have ppl who don't accept you or feel uncomfortable around you.

People like Rachel Dolezal who didn't even have any black ancestory (i think?) didn't struggle. didn't uplift others.

I've seen that actual mixed ppl who are legit about their identity, struggle with identity issues and care about the communities they are in. people like pretendians, they take the spotlight they take the culture, theres no real thought into it

ofc theres probably accepting, but if you're worried about all this then you're probably fine

Bottom line is that identity is your own, but you have to also consider where you are in a conversation. recognize privilege, recognize your experiences, understand other peoples point of view but ultimately stop worrying about if youre allowed to be poc

I used to worry about that crap, and its like what does it serve anyone? Why is it important? to some its important and thats fine, and poc safe places are definitely fine

but everyone is so different, that there is no real definition to it.

Honor your ancestors (unless they were terrible lol) and explore your heritage, whether its German or Maori, love your parts and don't separate them. Mixed is exactly that. a mix. You can even identify as white and mixed. Its about how you want people to perceive you or the info you want to give out.

it sucks how there’s people both white and poc who think anything below 1/2 with people who have european heritage consider them white i saw a post that someone with 1/4 chinese heritage asked if it’s ok to identify as a poc but op said no and that someone sent an anon ask later saying that the “white” person just wants to be oppressed so badly and that them just celebrating lunar new year and knowing your full asian grandparent isn’t enough and that they can just hide behind being white and not actually support asians even though the original ask was basically just asking it was ok to identify as mixed and they said that they acknowledged that they were white passing and it makes me sad that a poc said this too (the anon who sent the ask about how they wanted to be oppressed claimed they were half asian and the op is a poc)

these are the types of things that make me feel conflicted about my race i normally identify with my ancestry and as a mixed and poc but i do acknowledge i have white passing privilege but then when i see these types of posts i just wanna stop because it makes me feel guilty and that i’m “too white” i am 1/4 non white and 3/4 white and i normally ignore when white people dictate race but when it comes from other poc i just feel guilty and that i don’t want poc to feel invalidated about that it’s these types of posts that cause me to have a racial identify crisis every month and i know some poc with european ancestry do just identify as white but there are some who do identify as poc like why does gatekeeping happen so much within our community 😞

First, unfollow those people. There’s no reason for you to follow people that make you feel bad about yourself.

Also, a big thing that I want to express to everyone with mixed ancestry is to stop asking other people if you’re “allowed” to identify as anything. No one can dictate how you identify. That is purely up to you and has to be based on your feelings and experiences. There’s no guiding document or governing body that oversees all mixed people’s identities. No matter what you choose, there will be someone, somewhere that disagrees with your choice. It truly does not matter!