#and just in the fact that he literally said once “is this a social cue?’’ and ayda has said virtually the same thing

[live-from-new-york-its]

ayda aguefort is abed nadir to me send tweet

[celesteleoves]

hcs of bakugou / todoroki being a hardcore simp for reader maybe?

“I WANNA BE YOURS.”

KATSUKI BAKUGOU/SHOTO TODOROKI x fem!reader.

summary: what the request said!

warnings: swearing (bakugou…), mentions of todoroki’s childhood (very brief), that’s it i believe!

a/n: i love this request. i hope i wrote this to your liking!

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BAKUGOU KATSUKI —

he is a very subtle simp. you probably wouldn’t even think he liked you if you guys weren’t already dating. the way he shows his love for you is… questionable.

he does the simple things like following you around like a lost puppy (even though he swears he does NOT) .

he’ll definitely demand you never leave his side so he can always be there to protect you.

“you’re so weak, you need me to be there to protect you at all times.”

you’ll just nod, enjoying your boyfriends presence. (he’s actually geeking over you aswell and the fact you grace him with your presence).

he takes you everywhere with him and doesn’t care about what anyone says. oh, aizawa paired him up with kirishima? you’re coming with. you can’t stay a second away from him before he’s rushing around like a headless chicken looking for you.

your biggest fan by far, anything you do he’s practically on the floor worshipping you. then the next second he’ll be calling your outfit disgusting in the sweetest way possible.

he’ll also deny the fact he’s a simp for you. one time, kirishima caught the poor boy gazing at you, dare i say LOVINGLY, across the room as you did a mundane task.

kirishima has never grinned wider than he did when he noticed this. your boyfriend noticed the quiet chuckles leaving his friend and turned towards him.

“what the fuck are you laughing at?”

“you stalking y/n!”

“I WAS NOT STARING AT HER.” sure… liar. you literally just outed yourself…

bakugou loved you, even though he shows it in his weird, weird ways.

SHOTO TODOROKI —

the sweetest, sweetest boyfriend ever. literally the ideal boyfriend anyone could have SIMPLY because of how doting he is towards his partner.

he’s absolutely enamoured with you. he isn’t shameful about it either! (referencing one of my other head-canons) .

this boy will downright show his love for you.

we all know shoto has a hard time with social cues, he blames it on his childhood and the lack of social times he had – always being isolated.

that’s also the reason why he doesn’t understand why he can’t stare you down like a hawk and not expect people to be slightly worried… why is he staring at you like he wants to eat you?

cuteness aggression is a thing. you both get it when you’re with each other.

you can’t believe you managed to secure this boy. he never opened up to just anyone, yet for you he made an exception. you flew that all the time.

meanwhile your boyfriend is still in denial you two are dating. every time you bring up your realtionship he’s blushing like a maniac and shying away from you.

your classmates notice the little things. such as you placing your phone face up only for it to be face down a couple seconds later because todoroki fixed it for you knowing you don’t want people staring at every notification on your phone (this is so me guys i’m sorry).

he is very attentive, he’s such a simp. he’ll pick up on the little things. sometimes, you feel like he knows you better than you know yourself.

there was definitely one time you had been making yourself a snack in the kitchen, forgetting to get one of your favourite piece of food for the snack .

once your snack was made, you frowned at the missing piece of your food you wanted.

starting to get upset, you looked around for something to make up for this.

“here.” a soft voice spoke causing you to relax at the sound of todorokis gentle tone.

“i can’t find my-”

“y/n. here.”

you looked at your boyfriends hand, noticing he was holding multiple variations of the missing food item you craved.

your lips trembled at his thoughtfulness and you pulled your boyfriend in for a hug as he returned it with a soft smile on his face.

he’s too sweet for you and such a simp!

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a/n: guys, bare with me if there is spelling errors. this was not proof-read! i hope this was good enough, it was kind of short.

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[lyzelky]

The Crate

*Walks into room, collapses on face* It's been 3000 years but I finally finished it. Here you go! (If you noticed the artstyle changed halfway through, no you didn't, lmao) A comic featuring Astarion shooting his shot, and Tav missing the point entirely. Also a bonus snippet of my long fic where this comic is inspired by!

Local asshole already smitten, just doesn't realize it yet.

"Come on,” She says brightly to Astarion, “I think I saw some crates this way.” She half expects the elf to whine and request to rest alongside the others, but surprisingly he does as she asks. “So…what exactly, are we looking for?” He asks as she navigates her way towards a small pile of boxes. “Food, water… medicine, hopefully a bedroll or two.” She shrugs and opens one eagerly, only to wilt in disappointment when all she finds is rags. "Are you going to help or just stand there, by the way?” Astarion has not moved to actually assist with any of the actual searching; instead he’s chosen to lean against a nearby wall and observe. “I’m not just…standing here,” He scoffs, “I’m keeping watch.” “On what?” She asks flatly, “Afraid that there’s going to be some more gnomes with knives in these boxes?” This actually pulls a small huff of laughter from him. “No darling, but I am keeping an eye on you.” She opens another box and scowls down at it’s junk contents before what he’s said hits her. Tav looks up at him, mostly confused and honestly a little hurt. “I… Do you think I’m going to steal supplies, or something?” He’s still wearing that smirk— but at her question something in it falters, one sculpted brow quirking as he considers her. “…No, darling. I don’t think you’ve got that in you.” His tone is for once quite matter-of-fact, and tinged with the barest hint of amusement. Coupled with the strange way he continues to stare at her, it becomes increasingly apparent that some type of social cue has soared clear over her head.

Thank you all for reading!! So glad to have this done with, it was literally keeping me up at night. I've got some more stuffed planned, though maybe not as long as this, lol.

[harmonysanreads]

If there is anything to be said about both Alhaitham and Neuvillette as Yanderes, it's that, in my opinion, I think an overthinking Darling would be ideal for them. Alhaitham because he can manipulate them, while for Neuvillette, he'd end up unintentionally doing so due to his personality and straightforward nature, since he'd probably cause her to start spiraling. For both Neuvillette and Alhaitham, the possibility of the things they can do to Darling that would likely scare her more than the actual things they would do to Darling. But that's just my two cents. What do you think?

Oh my God anon, this is literally me 💀

I'm with you on this one, the MOMENT Alhaitham realizes that you cannot stop your brain from overanalyzing even the most normal social cue, he's drafting numerous plans that'll make you crumble in the long run. For how little he speaks, his mastery over words is envying. Do you remember what happened in his story quest? He destroyed an entire collective consciousness with one. sentence. He knows that people, in general, feel this inclining to ‘figure him out’. He's SO GOOD at giving signals in a way that the fact that they were mixed will only register to you after the heat of the moment. And by then, you won't even be certain if that was actually his intention or just you overthinking. It's crazy, and while you're having three existential crises at once he has the audacity to pretend like he had no hand in it! Will probably even tell you to just ‘stop thinking’ in the flattest voice if you lash out.

For Neuvillette I think, it'll be more effective if you're unaware of his soft-side and under the impression that he's this stiff, strict and reserved authoritative figure who must not be offended at all cost. Aka, when your and his intentions are juxtaposed. While Neuvillette may only want to get acquainted with you a bit more, he's imprecise in making his intentions clear, so your mind will be jumping to all sorts of conclusions. Heavens forbid if the interaction happens in the Opera Epiclese? It'll birth even more misunderstandings due to his unflinching attitude towards the court rules.

[depressedbeano]

Toji Fushiguro: Dull Roses

“I’m sorry.” 

I winced and controlled my facial expressions carefully to avoid giving away more. I've learnt how to control my body language and social cues in various events to be presentable. An only child born in a rich family would give you that. And somehow, these social cues waver when it comes to him. 

"You're not." I uttered. I thought I was being stoic, but in fact, I wasn't. I got teary, my lips trembled, and most importantly, I started snapping my fingers as a form of an anxiety tic. 

“Baby-” He stepped forward with his arms open, but I took two steps backwards. A literal execution of ‘one step forward, two steps backwards’. He put his arms down in defeat and hurt flashed through his eyes. 

“Pack your clothes and leave. I never want to see you again.” I said with an eerie calmness. Yet, my lips continued to tremble as I was trying hard not to cry. 

“Please listen to me. I didn’t mean it. I was angry and I wasn’t in my head.” He continued to step forward with caution. I laughed bitterly and ran my fingers through my hair out of frustration.

“You are a good fuck, but that doesn’t mean you can control my life!” He shouted, mere seconds ago. 

His words flashed through my mind. Repetitively. Every time I thought of it, my head and chest squeezed painfully. I tried to make the pain go away by rubbing my temples and chest lightly, but the pain was still there. I felt suffocated just by his words. 

Toji and I shared an apartment, a place we called ‘home’. We were together for three years until he asked me to move in with him. It has been two years since then. 

Toji came home with a darkened aura around him. It was written all over his face that he had a rough day. Not a normal corporate rough day, but a rough rough day. He threw his shoes away and pulled his tie back so harshly that I could hear his clothes tearing. I walked up to him and caressed his cheeks, “Bad day, huh?” I asked softly. 

He grunted as a form of response and left me standing at the door to shower. I followed him silently into our bedroom. “Is there anything that I can do to help?” I asked again in a soft tone. 

He shook his head but didn’t look at me. It was like he couldn’t see me. I found it weird but didn’t want to press further, so I just prepared the tub for him while he stripped naked silently. 

Two hours later, he exited the tub with a towel hanging around his torso. He seemed better but his eyebrows continued to furrow. His telltale that he was still upset. I made him his favourite chamomile tea, one that always relaxes him and makes him sleep better at night. I pushed the mug towards him at the dining table. 

“Toji? Do you want to talk about it? You know bottling up your emotions will just make your overthinking worse right?” I asked while caressing his back. He grunted again and took a sip of his chamomile tea, still not looking at me. 

“Or do you want to have a movie marathon and we’ll just talk about it tomorrow? You could pick the movie while I prepare us some snacks-” I continued while shuffling through the discs in the bottom drawer of the TV cabinet. “Dear lord, can you just shut up for one second!” Toji yelled. 

I flinched and halted my movements. 

“The moment I came home, you just pestered me about my day and never stopped talking. I just wanted peace of mind from this shitty day for fuck’s sake! You want to know what happened? I got laid off! Happy?” He exploded and rambled on. His raised tone was loud enough to make me shiver. 

I told myself that he was just angry. He was just lashing out. He rarely lashes out so this is just him exploding all at once. “Toji-” I stepped forward to console him. But his next words stopped me. 

“I am working so hard for our future and you are staying home doing whatever the fuck you are doing. Here you are, asking me so many questions when all I wanted was just peace and quiet.” 

“You are a good fuck, but that doesn’t mean you can control my life!” He shouted. Silence filled the room afterwards. 

“No, those were your true words. You meant it. I am a hindrance to your life and a whore. You made it very clear.” I whispered. Finally, he looked me in the eyes. Whatever signs of his anger washed away, replaced by remorse and guilt. I wrapped my arms around myself and finally let the tears run down my face. Hurt and anger flashed across his face at my words. Anger towards himself, I could tell. 

“No, baby, I didn’t mean it. You are not a hindrance and definitely not a whore. You are my life and I will never forgive myself for saying those words. I love you so much, you know that.” He explained himself hurriedly and stepped forward eagerly to console me. 

I laughed to myself at his words, aggressively wiping my tears off my face. “Get out this instant.” I said, pointing at the door with a sharp tone. 

He tried to explain himself, and I wouldn’t listen to his explanation. So, I did what I had to do. I walked into our bedroom with intention, packed my clothes and went back out.

“I’ll leave. This is your apartment, I have no right to stay.” I mustered without looking at him. I can’t look at him, or else, I will be tempted to forgive him. He probably exploded out of anger, out of frustration, he probably didn’t mean them but they hurt all the same. 

With intention or not, the damage was there. 

“Bye Fushiguro, take care of yourself.” I bid farewell, not missing the way he winced at how I called him by his last name instead. 

—

Two weeks later 

I opened my rented room's door to a mailman, holding a bouquet of roses with a letter addressed to me. From Toji. As usual, for the past two weeks now. 

I sighed, “Sir, any chance you could send this back to the sender?” I asked while leaning against the doorframe, arms crossed. 

The mailman shook his head, “No can do. He made it very clear that you will receive it unless I want to lose my job.” He answered with annoyance and fear. 

“I am going to kill you, Toji Fushiguro.” I mustered under my breath as I closed the door. I couldn’t help but smile at the bouquet and letter. It was another series of apologies from him, wrapped with warmth and love. 

But I hold grudges and am pretty petty. The thought of his last words made my head throb. So, I put the bouquet in one corner with the rest of the bouquets and opened up the letter. 

— 

Another two weeks later 

“Baby.” A gruff voice came from the other side of the door, slurred as well. Toji Fushiguro is drunk and at my doorstep. 

“Baby! Please!” He begged with a strained voice, accompanied by hiccups whilst banging on my door aggressively. He has been outside for 15 minutes now. “What?” I asked with annoyance on my side of the door, not wanting to deal with his drunk and sorry ass. 

“I missed you- hiccups no, I miss you. Please let me in. I want to see you. I haven’t hiccups been able to sl-sleep.” He slurred his words with hiccups in between, still banging on my door. At this rate, my neighbors are going to file a complaint about the noise disturbance and not to mention, the existence of a broody suspicious man banging on a woman’s door. 

I opened the door and his body warmth engulfed me with his head automatically nuzzling against my neck since he was leaning on my door earlier. He was so heavy that I had to hold onto my doorknob for support to make sure both of us did not fall. 

“How much did you have? For fuck’s sake.” I grumbled as I maneuvered us into my bedroom and dropped him carefully on my bed with his head well-positioned on my pillow.  “Not enough to numb hiccups m-myself, I could still feel the p-pain when you left.” 

“I am sorry, baby.” The only words he said without slurring and hiccuping before he went into a slumber. 

I caressed his face and trailed the wrinkles on his face to the back of his ears. His eye bags are darker, his wrinkles are deeper, and his eyebrows are furrowed even though he’s asleep. He looks miserable. With a sigh, I got up to clean up his mess. 

—

Toji woke up with a throbbing head, he could feel the veins in his neck and temples pulsating. “Fuck.” He threw an arm over his forehead in hopes of relieving the throbbing sensation but it was no help. Beside him, were a cup of water and medicines for his hangover. 

“Great, you’re awake. Now, leave.” I demanded with a fake firmness with my arms crossed. Though his presence here calms me, his harsh words still float in my mind. With that, I decided that he only deserved cold treatment from me. 

Despite his throbbing head, he insisted on walking towards me with his forearm on his forehead to avoid the blinding lights in his eyes. “Let me explain, please. I was wrong. Please give me a chance to at least beg for your forgiveness.” 

My heart ached for this, Toji never begs. No matter how hard I try, I can’t shake the uneasiness away. I had a feeling that if I didn’t listen to him, I would be miserable too. I would be overthinking and drowning in my spirals of self-doubt. 

At last, I nodded as a sign for him to continue. 

“That day, I got laid off. I entered the office, thinking that there would be good news for me because my colleagues had told me it could be a promotion. A promotion means a raise and that means I could save more money and we could finally get married.” He explained all in one breath as if I would run away if he didn’t. My eyes watered at the word ‘married’. 

“I got laid off because the company was not doing well. They had to cut down staff to save costs and I got the brunt of it. Afterwards, everything just went downhill for me. I tripped over a chair, lost my wallet, got scolded by a random old man on the streets for scaring off his dog and more.” I snorted and crossed my arms tighter at his explanation. At every sentence, he took a step closer to me carefully. I never stopped him. 

“When I got home, all I could think of was how I was a failure. Because if I was a competent staff, I wouldn’t be laid off. I wouldn’t have to worry about our financial difficulties and we could still get married.” His voice strained with a silent sob. Finally, he came to me and held onto my arms, wrapping his fingers over mine. 

“I was occupied with self-doubt. I wasn’t thinking straight. I was spiralling. Eventually, I exploded.” Subconsciously, I leaned towards him, wanting to be close to him despite my heart aching for him. 

“By the time I realised, you were already crying. I regretted everything and I hate myself for it. For you leaving. I always had anger issues and you never cared about them because you knew that I was trying my best. You always care for me in ways that I didn’t know I needed.” He confessed and I couldn’t hide my sobs anymore. I hid my face in my face as he embraced me while smoothing a hand on my back. 

“I am sorry. I am so fucking sorry. I know it’s hard for you to trust me right now, but all I am asking for is a chance. Just tell me yes or no, and I will respect what you want.” 

“Even if you don’t want to see me anymore.” He whispered. 

He knelt and held onto my calves, kissing them while holding onto my hands. He knelt like I was his queen. 

“Okay.” I answered in a small voice. He was confused by my answer so I knelt to his level and crashed my lips onto his. Our kiss wasn’t soft, it was full of hunger. Seconds later, I pulled away but he didn’t like that so he held onto me tightly. “I forgive you, Toji.” 

“Well, the kiss gave it away. Would be weird for you not to with that mindblowing kiss.” He joked, the corners of his lips twitching upwards. His breath fanning above my lips. “Don’t push it, Fushiguro.” I laughed as I straddled his lap. 

“Now, make it up to me in bed.” 

“Gladly, my queen.” He smirked. He carried me princess-style, plopped me onto the bed, and started trailing kisses on my stomach to my cleavage. 

[linphd]

Their S/O is a bimbo | Headcanons

female reader

-> Makeup, long nails, extravagant personality and fashionable outfits. Yep, here you are. Maybe you’re just a little bit dumb, but if you got into U.A you’re clearly very clever !

-> Shoto Todoroki, Katsuki Bakugou, Fumikage Tokoyami.

warning : a little big suggestive but it’s barely there!!! except for Tokoyami it’s rather suggestive overall hihi

Shoto Todoroki

how you started dating :

Didn’t realize he thought you were the prettiest person ever because he never really socialized outside of his house. He also only talked to you because your quirk was very strong and he saw you as some sort of rival.

Once he got socialized enough, and thus hung out with everyone, he realized -with the help of his friends- that he liked you. Would often catch fire when he saw you wearing other clothes than the school uniform. You found it adorable.

Straight up confessed to you when you had asked him to help with your training. « Midoriya told me it was the right thing to do. », « He’s right. I like you too. And I think you’re really hot. » He blinked. « Oh, am I not cold enough ? » and it sounded very funny to you.

while dating :

You teasing a lot and him going with the flow. Suddenly making out at a party at the dorms because you got randomly horny after Denki and Mina pranked everyone by sneaking in alcohol ? Sure, he will kiss you back. Would even caress your back how you like it so you can hug him all happy afterwards.

« Shotooooo ! Very hot today. Love your tank tops. » you would say, standing next to him. « Hi, love. You’re very pretty too. » cue to you kissing his cheek -he liked it a lot so you were used to little pecks not to make him uncomfortable, even though he never really minded following your flow.

Yet, sometimes you felt as if he was only doing so because he had no idea about social cues, and you didn’t want him to feel awkward once he learned about them. But when he got used to it, you liked to tease him a lot, even though he knew now when you were joking and when you weren’t.

Obviously, his family knows about you but only his siblings have met you. You’re not personally ready to meet his mom that seemed very traumatized to you and his dad, well… wouldn’t like someone distracting his son from hero work. Even less someone like you. You were… very distracting to say the least. Shoto learned it fast.

Katsuki Bakugou

how you started dating :

Actually, Katsuki never really cared about your looks. Sure, you were good-looking, but such as Momo, for instance, it didn’t matter to him. He liked your quirk. And you were often directly fighting him and bragging about your strength. As confident as him !

Never really realized he liked you before the boys pointed it out while they were talking about the girls in 1A. He would always get mad when someone would comment something about you, without even noticing. But still, it’s how he understood that he only saw you as his rival cause you could be a distraction from being number one.

It was at a party at the dorms to celebrate his rescue -that you took part of- that he confessed. He actually only started with : « Have you seen how short that dress is ? Do you want everyone seeing your panties ? ». You would pout a bit and pull them down. « Only saying that cause I don’t want pervs to try something. Me, personally, I don’t mind it. » and you started talking more.

while dating :

What first stroke you was the fact that quickly, Katsuki realized how pretty you were and how you two looked together for other people, and became rather insecure. Always drying his hands on his jeans before holding yours so you wouldn’t get sweat on your rings. Watching if his pants weren’t too low.

He would also remember how he never got any Valentine’s Day card in middle school, unlike Izuku. « Snap out of it. You’re hot af. Literally if I see you around with your hero costume I can’t focus. » you said. He arched an eyebrow. « What do you mean ? » he asked.

« It’s the face you do before fixing something on you. I don’t like it. I dated you for how you were and how you looked. » you said, poking his skin with the tip of your nail to make him stop -cause he didn’t like how it felt. « You’re smart for a dumb girl. » he only replied, rolling his eyes and holding your hand -without drying his before.

Overall just him showing his parents are fashion designers. « Got you those rings, they match that pink top you put on with the long sleeves. ». He would never say anything about how you dress but he would make everyone else understand that it’s not for them. « Stop putting your boobs in my face. », « It’s you laying on me to fall asleep. Also, you always put your damn pecs in mine and they’re just like boobs. Fuck off. »

Fumikage Tokoyami

how you started dating :

Well… opposites attract. He never really got any girl’s attention so he was flustered when you would casually tell him he was handsome and all. Thought it was a friendly joke. It really wasn’t. Even when you were straightforward he thought it was just your personality.

Sure, you were beautiful. But he never bothered being attracted to someone or even trying to pursue a relationship. He was very insecure about the fact that he had a bird face, and he thought he was too discreet for flirting anyways.

Well, maybe he was discreet, but you weren’t. Faced him to tell him you really weren’t joking and you really liked him. Proceeded to make a list of why you liked him. Made Dark Shadow emotional and applaud the speech. Also made you and Fumikage date after that.

while dating :

You think it’s so funny that he never really cared about girls and all because now he gets flustered at anything rather suggestive. Took off his cape during a training ? « Damn, Fumi, that was hot. », « (Y/N), we’re on the same team, don’t distract me ! How can we win if you do that ?! » leaving you giggling.

You knew he found you already attractive with the baggiest and ugliest clothes you could find. Cause « It’s not only your looks that are attractive, you know. I’m attracted to your personality and soul. » So it was very entertaining for you to go on a date with him with a rather nice view on your breasts without warning him beforehand.

It is lovely seeing you both outside, you all pastel and extravagant and him in all black, trying to seem invisible. On another note, you guys would share jewelry. He wouldn’t wear those little butterflies of yours or whatever, but you had some matching simple rings or necklaces. Which made you think about piercings -cause you had some, which he really liked.

« … So we both know you like my piercings. And we joked about how you could take them off with your beak. » you started. « That was very weird. But I wonder where you’re going with this ? » so you smiled and continued. « I wanna get my nipple pierced cause it’s pretty. Soooooo, you knoooooow… » you giggled. « Love, I…. don’t know what to do with that you just said…. »

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[twin-disaster-tutel-brainrot]

So I wanted to write a short post about Splinter's relationship with Donnie, but I realised I need to give it more context, so here we are. This is going to be an analysis on the similarities between Splinter and Donnie, and how those similarities affect their relationship.

Let's start with the easiest example, given to us in "Breaking purple":

(sorry for the bad quality gif)

Donnie, as we know, isn't good at understanding his own emotions and expressing them, and he's also not that good at understanding other's emotions. This video essay explains his low empathy really well.

Donnie doesn't know how to deal with emotions, so he does the next best thing - looks at adult example and copies it.

Splinter, while loving his sons and wanting the best for them, is objectively not the best father. He was thrown into fatherhood with no preparation after being imprisoned for over a decade and turning into a rat. He clearly has depression, has no friends, no support system, etc. And the only reference he has for parenting is his grandpa.

So similarity one, they're not good at dealing with emotions.

The second similarity is they're both bad at lying. And, more importantly, bad at noticing when they're being lied to:

(Arguably, you can say they were all too focused on trying to get away with their own lie, but I digress.)

Donnie needs to be said stuff directly. He's shown to not get sarcasm quite often:

And Splinter is shown multiple times to be quite unobservant:

Like, this gif is from when he grounds them, and he just accepts that those four flour sacks are his sons and moves on.

Which leads us to the third similarity, of them both missing obvious social cues. Donnie because of his social skills, and Splinter because he's unobservant.

There's more similarities, like their love of dancing for example, but the reason I gave those similarities is because I want to talk about their relationship.

Splinter, again, wasn't a very good father. He didn't know how to raise his children, but you can see he did make an effort. They all never hesitate to hug him, to call him Dad, and even when they find out Lou Jitsu is their biological father, they never doubt his role as their dad for a second. Which shows that even though he was neglectful, he did have a positive impact on their lives. They love him, and he loves them.

But, one line stood out to me the most, and that's this Donnie line:

Why? Because Splinter always looks extremely proud of his sons, and it sounds odd that he never told Donnie he's proud of him. And we know he desperately want to hear him say it:

So Splinter never told him he's proud of him, but he's also going to say it three times in this episode, only finishing the sentence once when Donnie isn't close enough to hear. Not only that, but the first instance is because Donnie made him a booster, which looks like a very minor thing, so he has no issue saying he's proud of them even because of the tiniest thing.

If so, then why is Donnie missing the verbal validation so much?

Splinter is not good with knowing when to express his feelings and how, and he's not really observant. Just like he never actually said he's proud of Donnie to Donnie's face in this episode, my guess he never said it to his face in the past too. Like, he tried, but he never actually finished the sentences when Donnie could hear, and he probably didn't even notice.

I'm also guessing he used acts to show how proud he is (for example, the fact he didn't hesitate to choose the Turtle Tank for the demolition derby shows how proud he is of Donnie's work), but because of Donnie's need to be told everything literally, he didn't feel the validation from him at all.

I feel like out of the four turtles, Donnie has the rockiest relationship with Splinter. He logs every interaction they have, doesn't immediately trust him when he offers to spend time together, gets mad at him the most often out of the four of them, etc. But you can also see he loves his dad, and he outright tells him this in "Turtle-dega Nights: The Ballad of Rat Man":

Anyways, I'm just really passionate about showing Splinter isn't just an abusive uncaring father, and showing that the turtles know this.

(Just learned there's an "alt text" option for images so I just removed the image id and turned it into alt text instead.)

[gay-disabled-characters-showdown]

LGBTQ+ Disabled Characters Showdown Round 2, Wave 1, Poll 14

A character being totally canon LGBTQ+ and disabled was not required to be in this competition. Please check qualifications and propaganda before asking why a character is included.

Check out the other polls in this wave and prior here.

Ashton Greymoore-Critical Role

Qualifications:

chronic pain due to literally shattering into pieces and being put back together with molten gold. canon nonbinary [he/they]. i don’t have the spoons for a ramble on their character arc but i am holding them gently in my little hands.

Has chronic pain and TBI and goes by he/they pronouns

They are canonically depicted with chronic pain. This a major part of their character development and how they interact with other characters in the campaign. The actor who portrays them is also bisexual and deals with chronic pain; Taliesin Jaffe.

Propaganda:

they’re a punk-rock punk rock!! he has cool quantum powers and a huge glass hammer!! they’re slowly learning to live with the mortifying ordeal of having people that care about them and that he cares about in turn!! what’s not to love

A literal jaded punk rock. They were soft once... and then they turnd into stone. His body was shattered and glued back together by his enby housemate with melted gold. They have a hole in their head covered with glass through which you can see the brain and the chaos magic that brought them back from the brink of death. They're Constantly in pain and sometimes they don't remember who they screwed over(they crime) and what their relationship is like with people. He's a barbarian and when he rages he warps time, space, gravity or probability around him. Strongest member of their group/family Bells Hells. There's strength, but there's pain. There's pain, but there's strength. I love him very much. I'm not enby, they still give me gender envy (just like every other of his creator's characters). His coping mechanisms are not healthy in any way and he means a lot to me.

See above. Also, Ashton uses he/they pronouns and is canonically aromantic.

The qualifications and propaganda paragraphs correspond, @hawkeyeloveshawkeye is the third submitter.

Robin Buckley-Stranger Things

Qualifications:

Canon lesbian and VERY heavily coded to be neurodivergent in some way (but it's the '80s so she's not catching a diagnosis any time soon). And by very heavily coded I mean literally says the words "I don't really have a filter, or a strong grasp of social cues."

Propaganda:

Canon lesbian with an iconic coming out scene! Is also described as hyper, knows a shit ton about languages (and in fact knows 4 including English) and films and rabies, is bothered by certain textures, is distracted easily but also notices a lot of smaller details, talks very fast, and doesn't have a good grasp of social cues. Also of note is that she mentions taking 6 months longer to walk than most babies, which is notable because developmental delays usually accompany autism. Robin is also noted to be less coordinated or balanced than her peers (to the point that there are a couple moments where another character reassures her about doing something requiring coordination) as well as being a "weird runner." This could possibly point to dyspraxia, which in addition to being it's own thing, is also known to have high rates of comorbidity in those who have ADHD and/or ASD. With all of this in mind, a lot of people see her as having ADHD or Autism, or even having them both. Again, it's not like she can just get diagnosed in the show to confirm it given the time period (hell, it's hard for people, particularly women, to get diagnosed even today). Additionally the lack of vocabulary to properly explain her experiences, or for other characters to do the same in regards to Robin is also due to the time frame (See: "she's hyper", "a weird runner". That being said the first time has the character saying it later befriend her and the latter ends up being used in a more fond manner. Even Robin herself mentions thinking that her whole life is "one big error", because, again she doesn't have any resources to show her what might be going on). As a nice side note, her friends generally treat her well, such as the aforementioned instance of reassuring her in an area she feels less confident in, and her friends in general enjoy her company and stick by her if need be, which I thought was nice (One of whom she has come out to, which makes it all the more meaningful in conservative small town Indiana in the '80s because... yeah.) Basically, there's a lot of evidence and also I just really like her character so here we are. Given season four is where a lot of this comes up, I am whacking away anyone who said she got annoying in season four.

[astrok1dz]

John Doe x autistic Emo reader ‼️‼️🙏🙏💥💥

TYSM FOR THE REQUEST 😭😭

cws: pure fluff, not proofread

Well, Doe isn’t exactly emo..

But for You?

We all know Doe will do ANYTHING for you

And that may go as far as killing, but he would also do much simpler things!

Once he found out stalking you coincidentally the music you were into, he couldn’t help but listening to it on loop

Not really because he liked the music

No, no. He would like it imo, even if he didn’t he would force himself to adore it for you

But he would just sit there listening to whatever song you recommended and thinking about you singing it at the top of your lungs

You’d just look so beautiful. Your face scrunched up with joy, your lovely voice singing along…

Heaven, basically.

You also CANNOT tell me he wouldn’t research EVERYTHING about every single band you like and subgenres you’re into.

He might just outsmart you, but he will stop if you want it to be Your Thing™️

“Did you know that [fav band] actually-” he will complete the fact for you.

“YES YES YES MY LOVE! ISN’T IT SUPER INTERESTING?! I TOTALLY SEE WHY YOU LOVE THEM!”

He would try to learn about make up just to do yours (if you do your make up)

has probably ate lipstick or eyeliner

…more than once

but he will totally learn!

would ADORE to sit on your lap and do your eyeliner (very very messy, but he’s trying his best)

Will memorise every single word you say when you rant about your interests, whether it’s emo music or anything else

he doesn’t exactly understand some social cues, so if you ever rant to him about it, he will be the most understanding person ever

someone bullied you? said something awful about your special interests? was ableist towards you? no need to worry! they’re (quite literally) dead now!!

All in all, Doe is way more understanding than you’d expect him to be, and does anything to know more about your music taste and interests

He’s happy as long as you’re happy

[tortugatalks]

𝗖𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗹𝗲-𝗟𝗶𝘁 𝗗𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗞 𝗩𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀|ᴴᶜˢ

a.n. wine and dine? wine and dine! paisley paver and rex will be exempt from these hcs ahahem... i have yet to fully watch their eps, but they'll be here soon! trust 🤝

𓆉 gender neutral reader

𓆉 established romantic relationship

𓆉 no warnings!

Zach Varmitech

━ wild rats, wild varmints—ugh! it's enough to drive any evil genius insane! what better way to rid yourself of these burdens than to have a nice candle-lit dinner with your love? and you know what...? that actually sounds like a feasible idea! that settles it. he'll call in his zachbots and have them prepare the table and food for you and him. up in the city sky within his skyscraper, that's where! this is a night truly well deserved after all. your host? him of course!

━ type of guy that thinks he has it all planned out, but in execution? mmm, perhaps not. ever seen those really long tables in the movies? where two people sit opposite of one another and there's this entire space left in between? yeah, you both will be seated at one of those. it looks formidable and exquisite, sure, but when you two actually talk to each other? mans is just yelling out 'WHAT?'s whenever you speak and it's really not that efficient. he ultimately, and rather begrudgingly, has a zachbot seat you closer to him. does it kill the vibe? for him, probably, but for you? not so much!

━ his zachbots will be your waiters for tonight ooh la la, but like, c'mon, they're not entirely the best at double meanings and social cues. can't read the room! you'll have zach call them over to "fetch" him a bottle of wine and the bots take it a little too literally. it's chaos, but honestly? you'd be lying if you said you weren't having the time of your life.

━ little romantic moments with the self proclaimed genius inventor are few and far between, but in this moment, he likes to indulge in the fact that he's the one in control. no distractions, no green boy or blue boy to be seen; just you two. tries to be sauvé, and it works out for him at the start, but there's bound to be a few slip ups here and there. i.e. when he mistakenly initiates a flower protocol that instantly has his bots waltzing in with bouquets. they're decorated in pretty black wraps and ribbons, and for a second his face is crimson. he panics and yells that now wasn't the time and he tries ever so hard to get you to think that the flowers that just so happened to be your favorites "weren't" for you.

Donita Donata

━ she's worked terribly hard. fashion designing, evil schemes, organizing runway shows; it's an exhaustion that has her extremely burned out! so... why not plan a dinner date just for her? yes!! tell her about it and there's already sparkles in her eyes. she talks a lot about the kind of scented candles you'll have, the luxury wine, the appetizers—oh, she just has to call in dabio! and it must be in her glamorous mansion too! she gets so into it and completely forgets that you were the one who was supposed to be planning the night, but oh well!

━ dresses up nicely in luxurious clothes she knows you'll like! she's quick to put together something for you too, and without a doubt, its definitely matching. even dabio gets his own little fancy suit! (he'll be your lovely waiter for the night, of course!)

━ all lights are dimmed to a light pink once the clock strikes night time. if you're to pull out her chair and get her cozy in her seat, she'll let out a low but a loving hum. consider her impressed! bonus points if you compliment her, but c'mon, she already knows she owns the look! through it all, the mood is relaxing. conversations consist of casual flirtatious comments, plans for the future and so on and so forth. loves maintaining eye contact with you, so when you speak, you'll typically see her resting her chin on the palm of her hand with her elbow resting on the table, eyes trained on your face. if you're one to fluster easily, she'll have herself a fond laugh <3

━ would absolutely love to slow dance with you. stand up from your seat, offer her your hand and she'll be pleasantly surprised! she'll rock with you in your arms and give you tiny squeezes here and there. she loves toeing with the line of propriety and can be a bit of a tease every now and then!

Dabio

━ the sweetest ever! he hardly has any time for himself considering that he's always assisting donita with her fashion work. you gotta convince her to lay him off work for a bit, if just for one day! much to your surprise, she gives in to your wishes. just one day, though, but that's all you need before you're off planning a relaxing homemade date night for the both of you. tell dabio about it and he's just as happy, if not more than you! very excited and can't wait to spend the evening with you. he insists that he helps you cook, and you just can't say no to him <3

━ the dinner date isn't as fancy as the former two, but it holds a lot of love. despite not being on the job, dabio is ever the gentleman! he's fully decked out in the clothes donita made for him, he pulls out your chair for you, gifts you flowers, compliments you—the works! but of course, the dinner date is meant for him as much as he treats it like it's for you. if you happen to have a gift for him, he'll be on cloud nine! rest assured, whatever it is, he'll cherish it forever (or for as much as he possibly can!)

━ dinner talk is filled to the brim with laughter and conversations about practically anything you two can think of! he, however, loves to listen to you talk. whether it's about your day or your interests, dabio patiently and intently listens to everything you have to say while he eats and chimes in with a few comments of his own.

━ serve him some wine or offer to get up and get him a second serving and this guy has got hearts in his eyes! he absolutely adores your kindness and is very much appreciative, but don't think for a second that he won't do the same for you. he treats you like royalty and c'mon, to him it's only fair!

Gaston Gourmand

━ prepare to have yourself the most delicious and exquisite dinner you've ever had. having a dinner date was his idea and he takes it as an opportunity to woo you with his killer culinary skills and romantic gestures. the location he chooses isn't the most grandiose, but it's sweet with you in mind. he opts to dine somewhere familiar: out in the open (preferably next to a lake or river) in the foldout cafe area of his camper—string lights galore! surprise, surprise, he doesn't tell you what he has planned, but you know he's up to something with the way his tone dances as he speaks. all he does manage to tell you is for you to dress in comfortable clothes come night time! doesn't have to be anything particularly fancy—you'll look great in anything!

━ doesn't take long before he gets started on the cooking. everything will be made a la gourmand! he would like for you to feast on a rare dish, but it seems that whenever he does try to go and hunt something, green grape and blueberry are always there. he mulls over the thought a bit and ultimately decides that he doesn't want to go through all that for tonight at all. besides, he has exceptional cooking skills! whatever he makes will be jaw dropping and drool inducing either way.

━ very cheesy in execution. he does that thing where he covers your eyes with his hands as he leads you to his makeshift café. he pays close attention to your reactions and his heart swells with pride once you catch a whiff of a dish that smells particularly tasty! once he takes his hands off your face, he puffs out his chest with every compliment you throw at him. he may not look the part, but gourmand is determined to impress you!

━ as your dearly devoted partner, he takes full responsibility in serving you and making you feel content through and through. doesn't expect you to eat all proper, rather, he enjoys seeing you scarf down your dinner plate. he loves to talk big, his ego blinding, but he does like hearing you talk. he lets you get your own way in everything you do, not expecting anything other than the same from you in return <3

[jrwi-autistic-swag]

Round 4/Semi-final Poll:

Pictures and propaganda are under the cut!

Peter Sqloint (Apotheosis)

LOOK AT HIM. LOOK AT HIS BIG BROWN AUTISTIC EYES. LOOK AT HIM SILLY LITTLE EXISTENCE. HE LITERALLY IS THE "me and the bitch I pulled by being autistic" WITH RUMI. HE IS SO SILLY

His special interest is rocks, he named his pet lizard lizard, he pulled quite possibly THE BADDEST bitch…like?!

I mean just look at him, he’s just a little goober and like yippee as hell

listen. listen. listen. there is no other character more autistic than peter sqloint. his special interest is rocks and lizards. he used unfathomable otherworldly power to duplicate his lizard. half the campaign was spent talking about rocks and trying to find a good log for his lizard. he is the most autistic autist and i’ve ever seen in my life. he canonically has trouble maintaining eye contact and making eye contact in general. listen to me. he is autism incarnate. i would die for him

have you seen his rock collection? or his missing of social cues and norms? and also the fact he is a charlie slimecicle character? literally nobody more autism than him

Have you seen him? He is the definition of the meme “me and the bad bitch I pulled by being autistic”

Dakota Cole (Prime Defenders)

ITS DAKOTA !!!!!! HIS WHOLE THING IS NOT GETTING SOCIAL QUEUES AND BEING LOUD AND JUMPING INTO THINGS HEADFIRST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LIKE !!!!! HES THE AUTISM BITCH !!!!!! AND HES SO SWAGFUL !!!!!!!!!!! HE HAS A SKATEBOARD AND HIS HERO SUIT HAS HIS MIDDIFF EXPOSED !!!!! HES THE SILLIEST !!! EVER !!!!!!!! PLEASE LET MY GUY WIN. PLEAAASSSSEEEEEEEE. I KNNNOOOOOWOWWWWWWW SOME MOTHERFUCKER FROM RIPTIDE IS GONNA HAVE LEAGUES OF PEOPLE CAMPAINING FOR THEM BUT LIKE !!!!!!!!! DAKOTA !!!!!!!!! CMOOONNNNNN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! slash sillay

Canon(?), from what I know hes based off one of Grizz's autistic cousins. He literally got overstimulated and stimmed with his bongos season 2 episode 1. Just generally gets overstimulated all the time. Stims, literally stims all the time. Hes said "yipee" before when he was happy. He literally eats like 2 foods (beef stroganoff and pizza). Hes so silly and is literally me and Im autistic so.

Literally just a guy! Sensory issues, Special Interest (Super-Heros), Cant Understand Emotions/Change/Social Ques, High Energy, He Literally Yippied Once

sensory issues (headphones to block sound, sunglasses to block light. takes time to calm down), he has red hair, he is somehow the most sensitive prime defender while being almost vyncent levels of oblivious. very set on his routines (s1, training every morning consistently), he just has that swag about him have you seen him

Wears headphones in season two because otherwise he gets overstimulated and goes into a feral state

every prime defender is autistic send tweet

He is me fr fr. He has noise cancelling headphones that he has to put on to not get overwhelmed. He's got so much autism, he doesn't. On a scale of not autistic to autistic, he's God.

Grizz said that he based him of an autistic relative. He has cannon sensory issues and other traits

Uh the fact that Griz is portraying some of Dakota's personality based off an autistic family member. He has noise cancelling headphones if he gets overwhelmed/overstimulated. THERES SO MUCH I COULD GO ON

[random0lover]

I can’t stand having to go into stores or food places. It literally makes my heart sink down into my chest, I’m so socially awkward/anxious. It’s not that I can’t handle having to talk to the employees or anything it’s the fact that I’m always over analyzing everything around me and over thinking everything I’m going to have to say so I come in feeling like I would rather just have to go home instead of dealing with the situation.

Venting below

Probably will delete later

For example this morning my brothers wanted a strawberry shake each so I did a mobile order for a place near by cause I know they usually have the machine going and all that by that time so it should be fine. Well the morning shift there at the beginning of the week have always been kinda weird towards me but this morning I come in (after it let me order said shakes) and I come up to the counter and everyone is just ignoring me and I’m kinda just standing there waiting (which I didn’t mind) until a guy walks by and looks at me and when he stops I tell him I have a mobile order.

And he kinda just laughs at me? And says “yeah we can’t make that right now *cue another laugh* the machines down” and this is the point where I’m trying to decide what I’m going to do so I look down at my phone and then back up and he’s squinting his eyes at me with his head slightly tilted? Like he’s looking at me like I’m weird or something? Anyways I ask him how could I go about getting a refund and then he laughs at me again and says “what?” And I repeat myself and he just shrugs and says you’ll have to ask her (there was a lady behind him who I’m assuming is his manager or the shift lead) and laughs again when he turns away to tell her. At this point istg I’m crazy cause I’m like did I do something wrong or am I being weird 🤦🏻‍♀️

But the lady turns around and says “what” so I tell her the same thing about the order and I make sure to tell her that I’m not upset and that I know it’s not her fault but that I’m just wanting to get a refund which I’ve had to do there before because they didn’t have an item I mobile ordered before and they gave me a refund just fine. And I kid you not this woman looks at me and tell me that it’s not her fault with major attitude which is when I once again tell her that I’m not upset or angry and that I just want a refund and she says that she can’t do that and that I’ll have to call the number on their app or they can give me something else (mind you the app says you have to contact the store you ordered the items from for a refund 💀). So I leave because my nerves were up really bad and I knew she wasn’t going to help me. I called them when I got home though and they said I could come back in two hours when they turn the machine on even though I was told the machine is broken not just turned off 😭 I just don’t know how to feel about all of that y’know? I’ve been in there plenty of times and I’m always polite so I don’t know what I did…

I’m just wondering if I went about something wrong? I thought I waited patiently and made it clear I wasn’t upset about the shakes, I didn’t raise my voice or anything. What makes it even worse though is the guy was attractive and I understand to some people that doesn’t matter but when you’re getting laughed at it sucks but getting laughed at by an attractive person? That makes me want to crawl into a hole and die

[deviantartdramahub]

So, DADramaNow, you're not just attacking Club purely out of ableism? Lol okay, lemme show you in more depth detail why we know that isn't true.

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Here they're making fun of Club bc he doesn't always understand sarcasm or humor. One of the most well known things about autism is that it makes you struggle to understand tones or social cues. That of course will be an especial problem on the internet, unless you use tone tags. This makes it clear they're making fun of one of his struggles he has due to autism. They're making fun of something pretty much all autistic people struggle with at least a few times in their life. In fact, it might happen to you even if you don't have autism, it's a simple, small, innocent mistake. The fact that they're making fun of Club for this is just malicious.

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You do know not all autistic people are "high-functioning", right?? It's called a spectrum for a reason. NO autistic person deserves to be made fun of for their ability, no matter how high or low it is. Even if Eduard's just a fictional character, it's messed up that you say this and not take into consideration he's not able to.

 1 note <- Here they say "psycho" is an ableist term...

0 notes <- But here you had no trouble calling Tri a "psychopath"??

Not only is it hypocrisy, but also looking pretty damn ableist.

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Here's them downplaying ableism just bc there's more than one oppressed group. Seriously?? Trust me, as a bi person AND an autistic person, I want both groups to be accepted. But trying to silence and downplay disabled people won't help with SHIT.

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Maybe you should consider the fact he focuses on autism and incontinence is bc those are the things he has experience with?? He himself has autism and has an incontinent step-brother. Even then, he still attempted to include others bc he does truly want to be inclusive, I remember a post he made where he asked people what other disabilities they wanted to see included. I requested for him to introduce a dyslexic character, bc my sister has dyslexia. And guess what? HE DID. Because he truly does care. He just mainly does autistic and incontinent characters bc that's WHAT HE HAS EXPERIENCE WITH! YOU are the ableists for thinking autistic and incontinent people shouldn't be represented!

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Don't be so judge-mental on the poor kid just because he has incontinence and mind your own damn business, jfc...

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Club is NOTHING like that sicko you're talking about, they sound disgusting and I know Club would NEVER do something like that. (Unless those things you said are lies and Nightflight's just another innocent victim of yours, but idk. -_-

But anyways, saying all autistic people are automatically bad bc of that person is completely stupid.

 3 notes

Here they seem to be talking about disabled children like they're burdens.

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Another example of the 5th link.

 5 notes

They literally use "mister autistic" as an insult against him. They also full on say the r-slur without censoring it whatsoever.

Anyways, I'm sure, in fact 100% sure, there's more in depth proof their hatred of Club is purely ableism, but once again, DADramaNow does a shit job at running their group, and this is what Club's tag links to:

Not Found

So looking for proof was difficult, though I think I've gathered up enough, at least for now.

Anyways, pedophilia is a harmful stereotype pf autistic people, and DADramaNow is projecting this stereotype onto Club, bc they're very fucked up and bigoted people. There's no denying it now,Mod S and co.

Their unfortunate dismissal of disability hits even harder knowing many of them in their group identify as having autism. They don’t come off as it and don’t treat others with it kindly, which makes me lose incentive to acknowledge they may have it. It’s as if everything to them is a matter of identity.

[maschotch]

So I just started watching cm for the first time and I was indifferent to JJ ar first but then she came back and by god I don’t like her. And then I stumbled upon your blog and I knew I was in the right place, becayse I have so much I want to say about her, dear god.

She said at one point that she likes being the point of contact of the families, and yet every time she is asked to interview someone or talk to someone, she has absolutely no empathy whatsoever. Literally anyone else can always get much further than her. I just watched the episode where she asks Reid to stop being him and he still tries to help her throughout that entire episode and I just,,, I want her gone.

I want her to stop interacting with everyone because all she does is be a dick to them. And I cannot stress enough how much I don’t care about the storylines that involve her. Not to mention the way she “apologised” to Reid about the situation, as in she did not apologise at all, she was just annoyed she evern had to say sorry. And also the fact that I know she hangs around for the rest of the show infuriates me.

lmaoo congrats and condolences for starting cm. i love to hear other people’s opinions, and it’s always fascinating with a new viewer. its been more than a decade since my first impressions so its a refreshing reminder that wait criminal minds maybe is good actually

but god jj is fucking UNBEARABLE. every time she’s on screen i get so angry, even if she’s not doing anything. her being there is just a reminder of all the awful shit she says to everyone. i am once again questioning how she managed to get and keep her job. she’s easily the worst at dealing with people and, as much as she makes fun of reid, definitely the worst at reading social cues. every time she rolls her eyes i have to withhold the urge to just close my laptop and stop watching

[medicinemane]

Saw a post saying how anyone who doesn't have any friends, it's just cause they're mean

Good to know my isolation is just cause I'm a mean person

It's got nothing to do with stuff like how my mom wouldn't let me go anywhere with anyone after school because she was so certain something terrible would happen (one of the few times I did that, she was constantly making me call to check in)

It's got nothing to do with the fact that after I admitted to the school that I was suicidal, one of the people I was closer to ended up breaking all ties with me because she just didn't know what to do to help. She never like... asked me, I could have said... I don't know, actually ever hanging out might help. It wouldn't fix me, but the company would be nice

In high school, basically everyone liked me pretty well, but I just wasn't close with any of them. They were all like "hey, good to see you" when they'd see me at school, but there was a zero percent chance of ever doing stuff outside school

Also... it's not like people mean different things with the word friends, it's not like it's on of those words that's stretched out to mean anything from friendly acquaintance and drinking buddy, all the way to a real best friend who you're super close with

It couldn't be that people saying how they didn't have friends aren't saying they've never been close to anyone in their life, it's that they've been extremely isolated and never been more than superficially close to someone

You know, right after I graduated, (and here's that exact problem, I call her my friend cause we got along, but we obviously weren't that close) my friend and I had agreed to just go get some coffee together, but then her long distance boyfriend got jealous

So I said to her "Listen, I literally haven't seen anyone all summer, I'm real nervous about college and this is really the only chance I'm going to have to actually talk with anyone, I'd really appreciate if we could just hang out"

She said not to make her choose, and obviously I'm not going to pressure someone (she later broke up with her boyfriend, who'd have guess he was a prick?). We never spoke again, not cause I was mad, she just never talked to me again... not really sure what I should have done differently that would have kept us friends (and once again, I call us friends, but I also 100% would say we were never friends, and it's all down to what kind of friend I'm talking)

You know, another thing this post said is how no one likes you if you're always trauma dumping, and perhaps that's the catch 22 here. This very post shows why I'm alone. For the record though, I'm not saying this stuff so anyone feels sorry for me, I kind of don't care

I'm saying this stuff to give examples, I'm saying this stuff to give perspective, I'm saying this stuff because this isn't the first time I've heard someone say this on here. A while back I saw people dunking on someone on reddit for basically being super depressed and saying roughly "no friends at 16, my life is over", and the whole thread on here was people saying how clearly he was a creep and a horrible person and a whiny loser and that's why

I give these details to give context, to give specifics

I've been friendless most of my life because I'm mean (the only people I've ever been close to are a few people I've met here)... well you're probably right

I'm not so sure you're that kind yourself though

You mock people for feeling isolated, you diagnose them as awful people. Why should I value your opinion

You want to know what I think? I think that this is that classic situation where it's no longer so nice to make fun of people for being mentally ill or developmentally disabled or things like that, so people push to make it that no, they just don't like people who are weird

You'd never hate someone for being autistic or something like that, but having no friends is just so creepy, and totally not something that people who have trouble with social cues might deal with

Like do you see what I'm saying?

I'm not every trying to be like "oh, everyone who says this hate all mentally ill people", I'm saying so often people who firmly believe their compassionate forget things like that maybe the people around them have depth and don't broadcast things like mental illness, and then they end up making fun of people for their mental illness without even intending to

You have no idea how much it feels like if I'm too depressed, for too long, too openly, everyone will just get tired of dealing with me like that one friend of mine did

I often get uncomfortable if I start opening up at all about how I'm doing, so I'll just redirect to a new subject (if it's directly with anyone, obviously I spew whatever garbage onto my blog, sometimes I need to scream and that's the only mouth I have)

Anyway, I didn't want to reblog the original post because... well a couple of reasons

One, I don't really like arguing, especially with people I don't think there's any chance of changing their minds

Two, I kind of prefer to talk about ideas rather than getting bogged down in a specific post. Like I said, this isn't the first time I've seen this thinking on here, it won't be the last I'm sure

Also it's not a full on reason, but I didn't want to put the person who put that post on my dash on blast. I was thinking of queuing it to create some temporal distance to make it less likely anyone thought I was pointing a finger specifically at them, but... I find myself just wanting to say this now

So there it is, I just find it cruel to blame people for their own isolation based on literally nothing but the phrase "I have no friends", which literally is the full evidence being used here

You've got no idea of their background, or their family, or any abuse, of anything going on for them like mental illness or physical disability. I mean, even if they have literally nothing up with them, perfect happy kid, maybe they just didn't find anyone they connected with, maybe their family moved a lot

You're making an awful lot of pretty damning assumptions about someone based on one phrase

Also I saw in some screenshoted tags someone had shared one person saying roughly "if you're a pleasant person, then people will be there for you in the dark times"... but you don't know that, you don't. People get tired of dealing with you, or maybe someone just doesn't have very nice people around them. Like that would be great, but be realistic, you can't say that, you don't know

Maybe try putting yourself in other people's shoes or even... learning a single detail, before you start insulting them... just a general suggestion

Anyway... there you have it, a long rambling, stream of consciousness post. I didn't intend to write that much, but I kept coming to things I thought were relevant

So there you are, you want to say "if you don't have friends it's because you're mean", well then I'm your villain. I had no friends growing up, I'm the exact person you're describing, so there it is

[armchairsoapbox]

I didn’t say Toshiro deserves hate. I just disagree with your specific reasoning.

If you don’t know how to ask for personal space or to express unhappiness that’s something you have to work on. Not even for the other person, necessarily, but for yourself, too.

Relationships, and I mean this in the broadest sense, require work. Not all relationships are worth that work, and maybe we might feel that some relationships are better to walk away from versus having difficult conversations — which is not, by the way, a criticism, because we do decide who is worth our time, and not everyone we meet will warrant the effort.

But if you want to build or maintain a relationship, a friendship, anything like that? It absolutely requires work, including difficult or awkward conversations. I’ve had conversations where I’ve had to ask close friends for space, because I’m overstimulated and I need the world to stop bothering me for a while. I’ve yelled at a friend for leaving me behind on a hike with no water, and then for how they even planned the trip (read: how they did no planning whatsoever) we were both on. Hell, I’ve had to tell a casual acquaintance that while I sympathised with his social awkwardness it wasn’t his fault, he still needed to change certain behaviours because he was creeping people out. Do you really think that’s a fun or easy conversation? But I did it, and without being mean or a bully, too.

What’s the alternative? Should I stew silently and get angry with them for not reading my mind, or for not picking up on the signals? How is that any kind of healthy communication? Mind you, I’m not just communicating for their sake, or for the sake of the friendship; I’m often doing it for my own sake too, because if eg. I need space or alone time, I have to ask even if asking is hard because that’s how I can get the space I need. Or because if there’s something that irritates the hell out of me, I need it to stop, and if the person doing it hasn’t already noticed, I might as well tell them.

So here’s what it works out to: I cannot expect the people around me to be able to read my mind, or to even read subtle cues. It is on me to do my share of the work to set and maintain my boundaries, to express my needs or my feelings. It’s not that I don’t expect others to be considerate of me, it’s just the realistic fact that if the other person really doesn’t notice or realise, what else am I going to do? Either I have to be the one to say what I’m feeling, or I stew in resentment. The latter isn’t just unproductive, it’s also toxic for the relationship, and if these relationships matter to me, that just means I have to start the ball rolling, and trust that the person I am talking to will try to meet me halfway once they know how I feel.

And yeah, you know what? It’s not just hard, but it’s possible to mess it up, too. I have lost friends because I have said the wrong thing, or said it the wrong way. There’s always a risk. But that’s also true of relationships in general, because any kind of real relationship involves vulnerability. All we can do is to try and learn and keep going.

That’s what I think and how I feel, generally.

Let’s bring this back to Dungeon Meshi. Laios cannot read the room. We don’t even need to talk about how he’s autism-coded, because it doesn’t matter for Toshiro. Since the message isn’t getting through, Toshiro can:

Change his approach and try to be clearer.

Stew in frustration.

Leave.

Notice Toshiro faces this choice, not Laios - and that’s not because I’m trying to protect Laios, it’s because the man literally does not know there is any problem to begin with. He can’t offer to try and meet Toshiro halfway because he doesn’t even know that Toshiro is unhappy with him. Blaming Laios for that does nothing to resolve Toshiro’s situation, either, because Toshiro can blame Laios all day but Laios can’t begin to try and make things better unless he realises things are bad to begin with.

And that’s the thing: I do think Laios should (and would) make the effort once he’s understood how Toshiro really feels. But he can’t do that unless Toshiro expresses himself. And Toshiro is just as much a victim of his inhibitions, which prevent him from being happier and from better communicating his feelings and preferences, as Laios is.

You say it’s not easy. That’s true. That’s never been in contention. I say that it not being easy doesn’t mean we don’t have to do it anyway. Or you could stew in silent frustration and wish the world was other than what it is. It’s up to you.

The hate this guy receives from new fans is so weird. Either they hate him for “getting in the way” with their ship (which is not even canon????) or the way he didn’t “speak up” about not being able to stand Laios’.

Like ok then. Go on and tell your seatmate, your coworker, your neighbor, or your cousin that you don’t like how overfriendly they are. That they can’t read the room. That you don’t like it when they insert themselves in situations when you just want to be left alone.

Go on. Tell it straight to them. Is it easy for you to do it? We can’t even confront the barista for a wrong order most of the time, and you get mad when a character, who comes from a different culture and social class, and is just an absolute introvert, cant be upfront to their friend and fellow party member that their energy is too much? Yall a clown.

TBF, you can feel for Laios when he felt his heart break during his fight with Shuro/Toshiro. You can even get mad and feel hurt if you have a similar experience. But to call out a character when you cant even 100% do what you want them to do? Pfft. And I’m not labeling Shuro as autistic because he doesnt need to be in the spectrum in order for him to NOT get hated (you can label him if you consider him as one though)