#and it means everything 2 me

[hinamie]

tiger lily

[madootles]

dramatic eyes. dramatic lips. drama on the cheeks.

sketch

[toomanywordsnllines]

How do I imagine the GRS dynamic🤨? Well quite simply you see *proceeds to give you a 10 hour essay about it*

1º pic is how I love to imagine Ghost and Roach's dynamic, quite clingy to each other

2º pic - Soap and Roach are that duo that cannot be left unsupervised for more than 30 seconds - Ghost is their third wheel ALWAYS

3º pic -It says "Taking your bf on a date. Get fucked xoxo" while Roach looks evily to the camera with a middle finger and Soap is doing a peace sign. Ghost is looking very sadly to his phone.

Roach is the kind of best friend to take Soap on dates and kiss Soap just to spite Ghost

[orangechickenpillow]

WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THIS LOOK AT MY POOR SWEET BABY OH MY GOD PLEASE

[windwenn]

Stop that right now jimothy

[08-47]

it shall be cuboided soon

[necromosss]

🌿 companions 🌿

[egophiliac]

swipes everything else off of the table to yell about diasomnia flower bookmarks

(I gave Silver one too :D)

[homosandhomies]

everyone please take a moment to appreciate tara sitting on nick’s shoulders

[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[reunitedinterlude]

dnp's younow - december 19, 2018 (x)

coat-gate

[hinamie]

i mean he's got all the outfits now might as well show them off

bonus:

jjk atla!au with @philosophiums

[skunkes]

[fernhelm]

[pleucas]

the walk home

[jkvjimin]

(82/∞) the perfect nose for butterflies to land on it ♡