#and i can't delete facebook bc i have a friend i only talk through there and i don't wanna lose contact

[kulvefaggoth]

Symbolically following in the footsteps of miquella by erasing any reflection of my physical form from public view

[quanxui]

i might have to go anon for this, but yup

aaa thank you, ate you're my life's saviour lmao. and it's so cool that you have little to no social messaging apps !! i mean, i only hav it bc of sch and fam ig but aside from that ill delete it in a heartbeat. my mother told me it'd be better to have no gadgets at all, or phones to be specific, and it's something im looking forward to do as i age hehe i imagine answering telephone calls or writing silly letters to my olden friends hihi, the idea's so cute tbh

anyway, im conflicted with myself whether im just sensitive or what flkfskd and the person im talking about is in my small circle 🧍‍♂️🧍‍♀️🧍 at first, my feelings towards them was fine until i hav found their replies a bit hostile and callous, example: edi wow, sml, and more, especially sml after i tell a story huhu, ik they do it bc ofc someone influenced them and it sort of rubbed them into always and automatically reply that, lik a habit/mannerism or defense mechanism idk they're nice but that's how they casually talk, and i don't really lik it bc it is soooo unnecessary, insensitive, and childish. omgh wait, this is a big a toll to discuss about urgsvhj but yes, i feel wonky about it, i hate that we hav our small gc and id get to interact with them daily with the feeling of needing to stay on guard yk?? it's tiring !! ::((

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omg! first of all, you're not sensitive at all. people have got to stop using those phrases!! especially online because it's more difficult to “hear” someone's tone and things could go wrong. but yeah, you're not being sensitive. i'm sure a big number of people also find those phrases offensive even me!

personally, i'd tell my story to my other friends separately. id interact with the friend as little as possible, sabi nga niya “share mo lang” edi sige wag na i-share yan sa kanya. also if they do that online only, and you guys meet up personally then sure, tell them the story in person. talk to them & interact with them in person! if they're like that in both irl and online, lol leave them out of your stories. leaving them out would or could bring a lot of drama though and it's childish hahahahh

the mature thing to do (i think? cause im not sure about my maturity ahsgajdgdh) would be to talk to them about it. i don't know the character of this person so i can't predict how they'd answer but maybe you can imagine it? and then, depending on that, you tell them through group chat (when they do it) or you privately message them.

“hey friend! i'm not really sure how to tell you this but your use of skl etc. honestly hurts me. i'm not sure if you're being sarcastic or you really don't like my stories but even so, being sarcastic hurts me. if you have any problems with it, maybe tell me? did i do or say something wrong?” something like that i guess?? or when you want to do it in the group chat you could just say, “hey friend that actually hurts, did you really mean it?” and “i'm sorry i don't get if you're being sarcastic or what but it hurts.” not these exact words but something like this?

you could also talk to other friends about it so they'd understand your point of view before you confront the friend. as friends should, i'm sure they'd understand. you could tell them in person too! that feels more heartfelt and better! or thru video call?

this got too long but i really really hope this helps!! or it comforts you in some way? good luck to you and your friends! i hope you & the other friend come to an understanding, friendships are really really nice to have!

as for my online habits... i still have facebook for school, i just didn't download it on my phone & instead go on the computer to open it so that it's separated in some sense? i still don't interact that much though cause i open facebook once or twice a day to check announcements & instead go straight to the Classroom or to my emails. i made good acquaintances through group projects so we could help each other but that's about it. as for relatives, i have a telephone & a cellphone number and my other family members relay the messages or stories told online to me during dinner. or i ask relatives about it when we see each other, if im really curious. they have been bugging me about it but i won't budge. i'd get a flip phone if i could read manga & read emails & watch youtube there but right now i'm satisfied with my old phone!

and i actually have instagram and interact a bit there. my hs friend group has long separated from each other but i talk to some friends there & i like looking at pictures there so it's all good! i also open it on the computer sometimes. sometimes i even chat with some old friends on genshin lmao >.< i do have this cousin who would message my whole family if he had something urgent to tell me. it's so funny walking around the house and having people stop & tell me the same message!

[anasuisprisonwife]

I tried to rant like a week ago but it didn't go through. But do you have any advice on getting friends online when nobody really will talk to you bc of some person spreading rumors? I can't talk to anybody on an app and I'm just lost. Thanks.

aww anon, i’m sorry to hear. that sounds like some booty. reminder that i’m not a professional. this is just how i would handle this situation personally based on my own experiences and therapy. i hope this helps, or maybe it’s poop. im cutting it short cuz my explanation got a lil lengthy:

first and foremost in a situation like this, and even in many other situations, u gotta remind urself that u can’t change others, but you can change the way that you react to others. As like any rumor, i can guarantee the hype and spread of it will die down eventually to the point where no one’s interested enough to talk about it, and it’s forgotten about completely. i have a friend who went through a similar issue on facebook. i told her to ignore it and everyone forgot about it in a week lmao.

in the meantime, i would state ur peace, once, that the rumors going around are just rumors, nothing more, and then ignore all these comments completely and go about ur posting and interacting as if nothing’s happened. this will most likely  speed up the process of people forgetting the rumor as well. for example, i see some hate anons on tumblr that feed upon the responses that they’re getting, which turns into a back and forth of useless arguing, which then snowballs into other people interacting and arguing as well. some people are never willing to hear others’ opinions. it’s just a fact we all gotta accept. delete the anon and move on peacefully in ur life. don’t let it escalate into something bigger than it already is by reacting. there are always going to be people out there with misinformation. the world isn’t in black and white, and it’s not ur job to fix that. EVEN when it comes to misinformation about you. there are bad people and good people, but there are bad people with good in them and good people with bad in them. it’s up to u to decide who you’ll surround urself with tho.

at the end of the day u gotta remind urself, “these people don’t know me. they don’t know what kind of person i am on the inside, or what i’ve been thru in my life, aside from this one silly rumor going around. that’s not a true portrayal of the person i am. so they’re wrong, and they can just be wrong. these aren’t the kind of people i want to spend my time with anyway, so fuck those people.”

it’s WAY easier said than done, and it’s not an overnight process, but it’s so important to realize that other people’s opinions about u don’t matter at all. whether it’s the opinion of ur friends, ur parents (this is a really hard one i’ve had to work on myself), or even the god damn pope. arguing in defense of urself is only going to waste ur precious energy and get u frustrated over people that mean nothing in your world, and that u probably won’t want in ur world anyway based on the way they’re behaving. (i’m assuming these are random folks online bothering you, not people u know in real life).

once the rumors die down, which they absolutely will, things will mostly be back to normal and you’ll probably be able to socialize more frequently. if u come across someone who wants to bring up bullshit, then move on and find other people who are worth being in ur life.

[itsmyonlydaytobefancy]

11.16.17

Im feeling things again and tbh, I drank a bit too much champagne.

Im feeling things about the boy again. We share memes every once in a while and we even shared surrealist memes which is AMAZING. But I still feel like he's trying to get rid of me Yknow? But I can't tell. I can't tell if he needs a bit of a push type thing, or maybe needs some space , or if he's trying to get rid of me. Hhhhhh just still really feel like we clicked so much!!! And even if we arent romantically involved,I still think he's a great person and want to keep him as a friend. Or like, a cuddle buddy?(He seems soft enough to be one lol) He seems so good and polite! I could melt!!! I did melt going on the two dates with him.!!!!!!

Hhhhhhhhhhhhh I still hope we could have a little something more, even though it doesn't seem like it.

Anyways, I'm trying to think more about myself and bettering and making myself happier, but it's a bit hard to make yourself happier when you feel so lonely. Sure, I have some friends, but they're pretty distant (physically or otherwise).

I feel like I need someone to hug me. Someone who really gets me. Like, even ppl I call my Friends don't really get me. And even the person I call my sister is like, not totally getting me (I don't think. Even though she tries. And I try to understand her.i love her so much jfc).

Like maybe what I'm looking for is a real functional romantic relationship? Maybe even one that gets me out of my mom's house? Idk, i just.... It feels stupid to say but I really want someone to love me rn. I want a partner. Romantic+ (+ not necessary;get atleast the romantic part together). Like, hhhh it feels like I shouldn't be looking for someone bc I'm trying to focus on myself, but at the same time, someone else should be a part of me, and I a part of them y'feel?

I feel like everyone is sad, but at least a lot of them have someone to keep them a float . IT SOUNDS AWFUL KINDA RELYING ON SOMEONE, BUT IT'S NOT RELYING ON SOMEONE IF YOURE IN LOVE YKNOW? Like, I feel almost picky, but SoMe ppl I find on say, okcupid or whatever, just, I don't feel a connection with.

I haven't talked to anyone since this guy from bumble found me on Facebook. Like, I deleted my bumble and he.found.me. And he made an excuse! To see me!!! Two times!!!

He took me on two dates and I felt like it was time to go in for a cheek kiss!! And he was like "oh no, I was afraid something like this was gonna happen" and he continued to say that he's been going through a lot( Which I agree with, the poor boy.) But he brought up how we both seemed to not being doing well in school. So maybe that was a real turn off for him!!!

I don't want to be a turn off. I mean TO BE REAL, I DON'T HAVE MUCH GOING FOR ME BUT STILL. I'm just.... My heart is totally snatched by this boy whether he likes it or not.

U hhhhhhhhhhhhh I just. I REALLY FEEL A CONNECTION WITH THIS GUY. I JUST REALLY DO. ITS SO S T R O N G ITS CRAZY. I just wonder if he feels the same thing and he's trying to fight it or something?

I guess only time will tell. EVEN THOUGH I LIKE TO THINK I HAVE STRONG INTUITION AND STUFF. But like srsly I feel like it's almost like a magnet. And he kinda feels it too.

MAYBE IT'S JUST MY MIND BUT OH MY GOD. THREE WEEKS LATER AFTER OUR FIRST DATE IN STILL S H O O K.