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learning abt friendship decay and "not reaching out to your friends for months at a time unprompted is not neurotypical behaviour" has me feeling a certain way
#experiencing some BIG FEELINGS OVER THIS REVELATION#listen i have never ever been bothered abt not seeing someone in a while or making time to talk to them bc in my mind its like not thst muc#time has passed. i mean it with every fibre of my being that when im like 'oh its ok even though we havent talked in a while and have our#own things going on it doesnt mean we're not friends anymore since we left things on a good note 8 months ago' i sincerely believe that#and for the longest time i just thought everybody makes peace with it at some point and not automatically assuming the other person doesnt#wanna talk to me anymore or smth. my longest lasting friendships are with ppl who work the same way i just thouhght that was normal#whatever organ everybody has that makes them reach out to their friends and plan hang outs i probably dont have it#i was already hesitant to ask out Alex bc i spend almost every waking hour doing smth that isnt talking to ppl unless they happen to be in#the vicinity. and at first it was bc i planned on making sure i had everything set up so i dont get stressed out and do it one at a time#but then i find out theres a friendship decay mechanic? and after dating and marrying someone you lose -10 friendship points for every#day u dont talk to them?? actually ive probably been losing friendship points this whole time without knowing bc of this?????#and i notice a lot of my own habits are also reflected in how i play bc ive been avoiding getting close to pierre and marnie since its more#of a professional relationship. like i know theyre npcs but im approaching it the way i would in real life its fucking nuts#i think its a little relieving im playing /as/ a character than myself bc as im playing im just making up little interactions in my head#than approaching things the way i would myself so it takes a bit of the stress off trying to put myself in there as a spectator. but well#being in a relationship demands a certain amount of energy even more so when theyre things that already take up energy on its own#like making time to talk to your partner and make sure they know theyre loved. i dont always have energy to put all my mental focus into it#and this is true for real life so im not really bothered by not dating anyone. but when its a game and i want my character to be with someo#and i know its fully optional and i know i could just apply the same logic to this i dont /want/ to. sometimes i want to experience#the same things other people do at least to a certain degree without the same emotional andmental stakes#no offense krobus#yapping#stardew#stardew valley#puppy plays sdv#sdv#this game has me by the ankles man
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GhostGaz Week - 2nd chances // road trip
This one is more of a dialogue based character study than anything else, I think. I felt unhinged writing it even though very little happens.
@ghostgazweek
CW: use of cigarettes, littering, discussions of gender and sexuality, past dating experiences, brief reference to simon riley's terrible awful service experiences
Gaz doesn’t hate land transport, but he’d much rather be on a helicopter than in this silent car with Ghost right now. He’s viciously bored. If it was Price, he’d know how to carry a conversation. But fresh off his third milk run with Ghost, he’s floundering. He checks the clock and groans. There’s another hour before they hit the tarmac and head home.
Desperation for something to talk about makes him blurt, “You ever been in love?”
Ghost doesn’t give much indication that he’s heard, eyes never leaving the road, hand relaxed on the top of the steering wheel. Sometimes Gaz wishes he was a photographer. The Ghost in the driver’s seat would make a great campaign poster. He’s bulky with all his gear. Solid. The picture of a man. This is the guy protecting the innocent by risking himself. A skull faced badass.
“Take the wheel,” Ghost says.
Used to the routine by now, Gaz leans over the arm rest to hold the car steady while Ghost pulls pulls a cigarette from a pack and lights it. But where he usually only lifts his balaclava over the bridge of his nose, he reaches up to take the whole thing off. It’s the work of a moment for him to light the cigarette and open the window. Gaz finds himself looking between the empty road and Ghost’s scarred jaw and the shape of his nose.
“Thanks.”
“Yeah,” Gaz says, settling back into his seat. He tries not to stare, but it’s hard. Without the mask, Ghost is still the picture of a man. Just... different.
“Why’d you ask?”
“Huh?”
Ghost tilts his head to make brief eye contact, then looks back at the road. “Why’d you ask if I’ve ever been in love?”
Oh. “Just… curious, I guess,” Gaz flounders. “I feel like we should know each other better by now.”
The silence is near painful as Ghost takes a drag from his cigarette, and then another. Gaz can’t decide what’s worse - if he’s being ignored or if Ghost is actively offended. He’s about to apologize when he gets an answer.
“Been in love a few times. Puppy love 'fore I joined up, told myself I woulda proposed to ‘er if things were different, but probably not. Was all over the place.” He takes another drag, exhales as he talks. “Had a crush on another private in basic, gave it a go when we graduated. Dated in secret for about a year before I broke things off. Hurt a bit but tha’s a part of it all, yeah?”
“Why’d you break up?”
“Didn’t like being his secret,” Ghost says around another puff of smoke. “He didn’t like my daddy issues.”
Gaz feels his eyebrows crawl up beneath is cap. “Didn’t know you liked men.”
That makes Ghost - Simon? - laugh. “Yeah, well, now we know each other better, I guess.”
Gaz's ears burn a bit. Into the silence, he offers, “Me too. I mean… I’m… not strictly heterosexual…?”
“You askin’ me?” the man snorts a laugh. “’ve seen your beauty serums, Gaz. I know you ain’t straight. Best egg in the carton.”
Gaz scrunches his nose, he can't help it. “What does that even mean?”
Ghost grins that grin. The one that makes Price shoot his whiskey. “You ever have dreams where you’re a girl?”
“What?” Gaz blanches. Five years ago, he’d have answered, doesn’t everybody? But he’s learned his lesson since then. “No.”
Ghost’s grin doesn’t falter. “I do.”
“Bullshit,” Gaz says, because what? What even is this conversation?
“Third love of my life made me go to therapy,” Ghost continues, like he didn’t just rock Gaz’s world on its axis. “Learned a lot. Admittedly before the Ghost thing. Broke up because the therapy was working. And then all the Ghost shit happened.”
“Of course.” What else is there to say?
“Flirted with someone a couple times in the last six months, but either I’ve been too subtle or they’re not interested.”
Gaz gropes around for an appropriate response because I've only ever seen you stare silently at people feels a bit rude. “Maybe it’s the mask? You’re hard to read.”
“Maybe so,” is the answer he gets. “What about you? Ever been in love, Garrick?”
The question shouldn’t startle him, but it does. He stumbles over his answer. “I dunno. Maybe. Had crushes when I was kid. Dated in sixth form, but I don’t know if that counts.”
“Why not?”
“Well, I was a kid, yeah? Everything feels intense when you’re young,” Gaz shrugs. “Doesn’t mean it’s love.”
Ghost is quiet for a moment, nodding to himself. Finally he says, “M’ therapist says that just because it’s a kid that feels it don't make the feelings less valid. If anything, feelings are more intense for kids. Puppy love is still love.”
The realization that Ghost is a romantic snaps into place. He sits with that for a beat before saying, “Well, she cheated on me with my mate, so that ended. Took a long time for me to get over that one.”
“That’s shite,” Ghost mumbles. “You datin’ now?”
“Not much time for a civilian relationship,” Gaz admits with a shrug. “And I’m not… out on base. I’m not not, just… I don’t really care to have people in my business.”
“Fair,” Ghost answers. He flicks his cigarette out the window. “Well, if you ever do think about dating on base, keep me in mind.”
Gaz might pull something in his neck, he snaps to look at Ghost so fast. “Huh?”
Ghost just laughs.
#GhostGazWeek#dragonnarrativewrites fanfiction#gaz appreciation nation#manic pixie dream ghost#ghostgaz#none of these stories this week have been linked to each other#i just headcannon simon and kyle as queer in so many ways#and simon has the tism rizz that means intentional flirting is very difficult for him#he's been flirting with kyle since they met#except the “flirting” is standing in the same room no talking no eye contact just vibes#“hold the wheel while i grab a smoke” is practically a proposition to him#he took off his mask because in his head they're already in a polycule with price and roach#obviously being in a polycule and “dating” are not the same in his head but they're related#price does not know about this polycule yet but he will#roach was the one who defined the terms queerplatonic and polycule to simon#obviously simon would like for things to be less platonic
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Reblog for bigger sample size maybe? I really wanna know!
Watching tv, u grow up feeling like everybody starts dating in highschool at the latest and that that's what's supposed to happen, but it's really so different for everyone. I now know plenty of people in their 20s who have never dated anyone.
(Tbh I don't hang out with many people older than me so I haven't heard much from those demographics yet (I'm 22))
Also please tell me about your first date and/or first partner! If u want to :)
#i know 40s and up is a very large demographic#but considering the average ages of people on this site and the average ages that people begin to date#i thought it'd make sense to do this way#cause y know the 40s and up category will probably have very little votes#or u could prove me wrong ig#poll#dating poll#polls#im dating someone for the first time now at 22#they were my first date too and my first kiss#we've been friends for half a year and were already saying i love you before we started dating haha#we actually went on a date a while ago and i said i didn't have romantic feelings for them#i was wrong <3
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are you enjoying your um. birthday dinner
#gallery#sketchbook#ocs#oc: oli#i had initially intended for them to be wearing clothes but i couldnt decide on what & i was already up way too late#but ykw this is in character too tbh. so#HOW HAVE I HAD THIS OC FOR NINE YEARS. HELLO#technically not nine yet. their birthday is 6/11 but i made them 6/14#(i didnt decide on their birthday until A While Later so i didnt realize. how close those dates were lmao)#shame that u cannot see their fangs but there was no way to do it without making it look silly#that is the true vampire curse .#they got a new tattoo!! ive been considering it for a while but this is the first time ive drawn it. surely i will not regret this#(the other one is an eye on their wrist that i alwayyys forget to draw so maybe ill just keep that to their fl/ss version specifically)#spicy#i guess? kinda?#blood cw#blood tw#oopsie forgot i should probably tag for that. sorry
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okay, while i unironically love the idea of buddie fakeout makeouts, what i really want out of their undercover poker date is them both just... acting like themselves.
and sure, it wouldn't be the first time people have assumed they're together. neither of them usually think much of it (and they definitely haven't ever talked about it seriously, although buck likes to tease eddie for being a cheap date when it's his turn to get the bill). sometimes they'll deny it, but a lot of the time anymore they won't bother when it's a stranger - feels kinda mean to embarrass somebody about it, when it's not actually a big deal.
anyway, there's no good reason to deny it this time either. if they're here on a date, that's fewer questions anyone will ask. if they both lean into it a little, well, it's easier for buck to whisper in eddie's ear than risk being overheard; it's easier for eddie to pass buck information on the bartender who definitely knows more than he's saying under the guise of a lingering touch.
they don't kiss. there's no big dramatic reveal, except that after it's all over they go back to eddie's like they usually do and while eddie's unlocking the door buck shoves his hands in his pockets and something about the soft, tired fondness in eddie's face when he glances back makes him blurt, 'i had a really nice time tonight.'
it is, objectively, a weird thing to say to his best friend. it's the kind of thing that you say after a date. he half expects eddie to burst out laughing. not in a mean way, just. you know. it's funny, the idea of it. the idea that anything about tonight could possibly have been real.
except eddie looks at buck all golden and bashful in the porch light and finds himself saying, 'yeah. me too.'
and both of them privately and simultaneously think, ah. shit.
#911#buddie#eddie diaz#evan buckley#my fic#sort of#i just think these two would go for a WHILE before it occurs to either of them that they're already dating and have been for a while
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the anger and hatred i feel for the "robin wouldn't date nancy cause of steve" rhetoric is literally unmatched by any other force on planet earth
#I will murder each and every one of you with a chainsaw this isn't even about shipping this is about the way you guys talk about shit#I will fucking have your head I will grow a garden of violets and lavender and use your mashed up bones as fertilizer#I will drown you in a pool of your own blood#I will carpet bomb your house I will visit a rage upon you so horrendous it will make the rapture look like a nice family vacation#I want you people to eat shit#<-that. is all copypasted from discord bitching#but anyway. steve has moved the fuck on and if he hasn't he should it's been like 2 years#and while there's obviously a statute of limitations on dating friend's exes st*ncy ending has exceeded that#now we're at the point where it would only matter if it was a shitty ex which nancy is NOT.#“she broke steve's heart🥺” this literally ain't about him idc quit making robin's dating life about steve#also you guys just don't get lesbians if anyone is gonna date a friend's ex it IS a lesbian#you literally don't have to like ronance but I am so tired of people talking about it like this situation would be wrong somehow#they're literally already friends dating isn't even that much of a jump#also you guys have no sense of fun I like messy shit you could make that messy if you wanted#stranger things#ronance#anyway. tis the misogyny hydra again I think
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sooo today is my 16th anniversary with the husbando ♡
#the anniversary of our first date specifically#which is what we celebrate since we got married after being together for so long and we didn't have a wedding#it was a very cute date#we met working in a pet store and we talked a lot about video games#and i mentioned my love for tomb raider so he invited me over to play the newest game (tr anniversary)#(he was also very smooth and told me i looked like lara)#i had already beaten it at this point and i was not smooth so i said that lmao#not fully putting together two and two that it was just a reason to get together#but he was like 'well then you can show me how to play it' and i was like yeah#so he picked me up after his shift and i got to meet his roommates#and one of them told me that husbando was so excited i agreed to come over bc he had been crushing on me for a while#and we played like 30 minutes of tomb raider and then started making out lmao the rest of the night was making out and sorta watching tv#it was a great night ♡#one of many to come ♡♡♡#t: wench.txt
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Me and a friend made NV Year 12 bingo cards. Here's mine:
#explanations going top down#Janice deserves a VA just as much if not more than her mother#I'm a Fey truther 🤡#Kate Jones liked my IG post. need i say more?#if Charles gets a vocal appearance i think there's a high chance he gets an official VA#Silas <3#this was shuffled but dad lore being the free space is perfect cause i already told y'all#I'm waiting for the CC/SM wedding. all the interns are invited! oh wait#i will be the only one hoping for a 1983 mention because i didn't make a viral post for nothing#i crave the awkward sourness of a cecilos charlevin double date#also the babies playing together while their dads all bicker#they made a fnaf episode. what can't they do?#and yes. i do hope for DB merch and a new novel#because DB girlies only have the road sign!! i want pins damnit!#and it's been another 3 years. they could do an October book launch again (FOW just wanted to be different)#the title is for manifesting shoosh#wtnv#welcome to night vale
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video editing is turning my brain into mush, take a wip of lae and my deep gnome druid pomona
#bg3#wip#myart#the program I am using is not blender and while it makes simple videos a lot easier-- it seems more complex videos cause it to implode#complex in the relative sense because the video is not that complicated. I just need a better fucking program.#anyway. I was going to do the pieces for illamin and cadence next but there have been large developments with both their characters.#I think because they are the most important person in each other's story-- it makes no sense for romance to get thrown in On Top of that.#so illamin will simply Already have someone she is dating so that a romance doesn't-#-take the spotlight away from her friendship with cadence. her relationship with her dad.#-and the complicated dislike she has for the guy trying to flirt with her dad.#I also now have a different ending to her and cadence's story that I like much better than what I had before.#so their piece will come later. I have to think about how I want to lay it out.#instead I am going to focus on my deep gnome pomona!#she is a friend of jantar's! and a scientist :) she studies illithid biology. so you can see how she might become relevant.#she's incredibly smart but also incredibly blunt and annoying. like. a lesbian spongebob. and lae is her squidward LMAO.
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if escape rooms as team building exercises became popular im not sure if id be more excited or terrified
#if it isnt already anyway.. i can see it happening as a school frosh thing. idk if it would catch on as a workplace thing#i kind of find the concept of being locked in with strangers and working to find a way out weirdly exhilarating though#at least compared to icebreakers cause i dont have to spend 10 minutes racking my brain for something to blurt out abt myself#as a bonus u could like. put people into groups and give prizes to whoever escapes first second third etc. apparently they also do themed#escape rooms.. maybe let people pick a theme? or voluntary sign up? actually this would be really fun for smth like a blind friend date#although if i found out i was locked in a room with an online friend id be too excited to actually escape LOL#ive never done an escape room before so sadly i cant speak from experience. its like up there on things i want to try next to rug tufting#workshop and visiting new art exhibits or conventions. i seriously need to get out more if it wasnt for the horrors <- school and anxiety#i was planning to invite cass to a drop-in art workshop in town but neither of us could go bc typography is making us go thru hell and back#AND THEY HAD A BUTTON MACHINE TOO#im nostalgic bc i miss working in groups and not being awkward abt it or worrying abt schedule conflicts#i realized that i learn best in groups and its a little corny but i like sharing ideas and talking through a problem#in elementary i could just sit down with friends for review and come out of it energized *and* more familiar with the material#and i could technically still do it now. but as adults we're more picky abt who we work with on top of being way more busy outside school#maybe im lonely. im shy and grew up not talking to ppl unless i absolutely have to so its hard to make friends on my own i guess#only thing getting me thru it is telling myself that humans like helping and that my cringe is overblown in my head. but its hard#hence the escape rooms. i have been able to talk to 2(!!) people though!! mostly abt school stuff but im glad to be on friendly terms#i dont really know how to be happy these days cause im constantly scaring myself abt my portfolio and finding places to work#not being ambitious is part of not wanting to put energy into something that wont work out while also not having the passion to do literall#anything else.. i should probably talk to my counsellor ugh#yapping
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HI GDBLR I NEED TO FIND OUT curiosity killed the aviancataclysm and the only way to bring him back is by satisfaction
#geometry dash#gdtumblr#gdblr#personally i have it installed AND kept up-to-date but it's been disabled for a while now (feels like its been 2 months already#used to have it on but then was informed that it may be slightly more beneficial to have it off for my current skill level#because some lvls have clicks aligned with 60fps or somethng like that i FORGOT!!!! and cbf might make me die to bugs instead of helping#and i was like YEAH THAT MAKES. SENSE ! <- suffers from a severe case of newb syndrome. hardest still a medium.#and so far they are completely right the mod does not make a difference for me because not skilled enough for it to matter 😭😭 but still#chat what do we think of this
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i’ll fight anyone who disagrees with me on this, but jason todd is the perfect example of the ‘didn’t know that they were dating’ trope.
#batman#jason todd#jason peter todd#red hood#oblivious jason todd#imo jason todd is a loser (said affectionately) when it comes to romantic relationships#everyone knows that jason is dating someone except for jason himself#jason was never the angry robin#jason thinks he’s having unrequited feelings for his friend that he needs to quickly get over before he loses his friend forever#but he doesn’t realize that he’s already dating his friend and that they’ve been dating for a while
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So I'm toying with the idea of making a very sfw G rated dating sim just so I don't forget how to code since they seem relatively easy to make (I will almost certainly regret this) but I don't want to design unique characters for it so what fandom should it be
Honestly with how uncomfortable I am writing relationships and flirting combined with the fact I've never played a dating sim it's going to end up being Get Friendzoned Simulator but that also sounds fun to make so I'm doing it
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And also Get Friendzoned Simulator fits the vibe of @comicaurora so well. I love how all the romance is optional if you choose to read into it and doesn't gunk up the plot if you don't want it to but there's also enough to duct tape together into ships. I legitimately love it so much. If you haven't, you should read it here https://comicaurora.com/aurora/0-1-1/ or at the account I tagged eariler!
#what do i tag this#Get Friendzoned Simulator#sure that's the tag for this other big ongoing project I don't have time for#comic aurora#aurora comic#tcw#star wars#dating sim#??? I guess???#star wars the clone wars#not art#coding#I'm gonna try to do it in Unity but I may have forgotten how to do Unity already it's been a while.#Worst goes to worst I dust off my old scratch account from 4th grade#When I'm done should I even share it here. would yall like that? CAN I even share it here??#I have other fandoms I promise I've just seen funny concepts for these that I want to do#Oh wait I forgot to tag#greek mythology#the first time these last three tags are an edit my bad
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in a hilarious turn of events my flatmate didn't even know I use any pronouns....
#i thought when she was talking abt how her parents thought i was gonna come out as trans and kept checking my name/pronouns-#that the joke was that im ALREADY trans but in ways they dont know abt.... but nope she genuinely didnt know 🤭#to be fair. i dont rly let anyone in on my gender business unless we're close enough to be dating or its an anonymous online space#like im legally cis and thats fine. idc abt ppl using my name + she/her bc thats not my gender identity its just AN identity that i use-#to navigate the world without ppl being fucking nosy bc i pass as + am sociopolitically treated as a woman (if butch lol)#to ppl who are friends ill joke that my gender is dyke (true) and to friends whose gender falls on a similar spectrum-#or who are transmasc ill talk a little more honestly abt it bc theyre usually able to understand better than anyone else#other butch dykes w a weird gender going on are the only motherfuckers who actually Get It but theyre hard to come by tbh#to be frank i dont fucking know whats going on w my gender. and i dont rly care enough to do the introspection to figure it out rn#i have so many other problems in my life and im lucky that most of my beef w gender can be solved by presenting butch + binding#and using any pronouns around other queer ppl. its actually incredibly funny to me when ppl she/her me bc its like tch. this chump hasnt#unlocked my level of gender yet. pronouns and names in general are so far disconnected from the way i exist in the world...#its just smth thats fun for me to play around with + makes me feel weird sometimes but in ways i havent distilled yet yknow#and this has been my approach to gender for like?? 4-5 years now??? and likely will continue to be for a long while..#anyway. its not actually that surprising my flatmate doesnt know bc shes cis so ive never felt compelled to have a deeper conversation#abt gender with her. but also i could sweeaaar its been mentioned bc almost all our other friends are trans lol#and also ive been introducing myself at queer sports socials w any pronouns and i swear i talked abt that w her..... whatever#and my pronouns are on discord and shes def seen my tumblr before but maybe i didnt have them in my bio at the time... i digress#i kind of prefer cis ppl she/hering me tbh. theyre not able to they them or he him or whatever else me in a way that matters.....#altho i do find it fascinating when she or other ppl elect to use neutral or masculine terms for me. raising an eyebrow and taking notes#like when she got a job and joked abt me being her househusband.. pulling up the fem/masc tally chart and chalking a line up#a la nona the ninth.... ive been trying to figure out whos inhabiting this body my entire fucking life with no luck girl#ANYWAY just smth to think abt. im so tired i think my brain is gonna start seeping out my eyeballs#im gonna watch some more pluto and read and then -> 🛌#another 6:30 start tomorrow woohoo#.diaries#zzzzz
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Now that the new mini arc is finally starting Imma make a couple predictions. Angelina is now a bizarre doll and ✨coincidentally✨at the hotel. Grelle is also there. For drama's sake you know how it goes.
#this is totally not just because angelina was the best part of early kuro and i desperately need to see her as a zombie#I'm especially confident in this after the recent arc and this a perfect time for a callback to the reaper arc#like c'mon there's just no way red isn't a bizarre doll undertaker had complete free access to her undamaged corpse#also speaking of which I'm surprised the orphanage mini arc is over already we didn't even learn anything about the lab finny came from 💀#saved for a later date or??#pleeeeaase i need to know more about my boy :<#at least we got snake's backstory tho#but am i the only one who felt that arc was a bit rushed?#while simultaneously only getting like ten pages a month the pacing is so weird XD#also as much as I want to see Soma and the Midfords again I doubt we'll see them this arc#maybe next arc#lord i do miss them though how long has it been?#i think soma is more likely to come back sooner than lizzy#I'd be surprised if he doesn't return by at least 2026#or however how long this current arc's gonna take idk#but that's just my thoughts#I'm not really worried because I think yana plans on keeping this story alive for the next couple of decades#so we have a lot of time for loose ends to get tied up#kuroshitsuji#kuroshitsuji spoilers#< since a bunch of anime onlies have appeared with the new season#rambles
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my most controversial opinion about rebecca’s character is that they focused much more on her finding romance than actually healing from her trauma and abuse
#i cheered when she said she was becoming happier with being alone#only for them to immediately do the psychic arc#i think starting s2 w her having a boyfriend and being on dating apps was such a stark shift from s1#there was no real discussion about her wanting romance in s1? it was about her healing !!#she had one night stand and that’s it!#but s2 ans s3 became so focused on romance for her.#while also saying she doesn’t need therapy like please god#I don’t mind her having romance!!! but they really centered romance so heavily in her arc#like I think s2 should’ve been the season where she works herself up to dating someone again#rather than already dating someone by ep1#let her reconnect with sassy and her mom and Nora (yes she did in like three eps but those relationships needed more focus)
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