#and focusing on living in a house and my shitty job doesnt solve those problems or make them less problem or easier to ignore! | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

autisticlee · 3 months ago

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I hate when someone vents about things they struggle with, and someone replies "be grateful for/focus on the things you have" yeah I get it. but that doesn't cancel out things you DONT have but need. it doesn't make your needs that arent being met just go away or suddenly be met!

#just because i have a roof over my head currently and make a little money from a family job that has many issues does not #cancel out my other needs that arent met (health issues not taken care of. no social support. etc)#and focusing on living in a house and my shitty job doesnt solve those problems or make them less problem or easier to ignore!#lee rambles #“it could be worse/others have it worse” goes along with it. it dismisses valid struggles and tries to trivialize them #tries to make the person feel bad about struggling or tells them to ignore important things in their life they cant ignore #maybe you can say it to a rich healthy privileged snob. but its said more to under privileged and struggling people!!!#just because someone is struggling with somethibg vital to life doesnt mean they take other things for granted or whatever #i dont take the fact that my parents let me live in their house rent free and cover half my food cost for granted. i think about it daily #but it doesnt make my other needs neglected go away or the bad parts of living in their house that infringes on my needs go away!#can we stop telling people these things?! unless theyre truly a spoiled brat that has all basic needs met. go say it exclusively to them!#and even then! you gotta be careful. if someone is married to a rich guy and seemingly gets everything but is asbused #telling them to “be grateful” for everything will make them feel trapped and helpless. so maybe stop saying it in general idk

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