#and faegender meaning my gender is Fae

[fae-vixen]

Happy Pride Month to Everyone with Xenogenders and Everyone who's gender is connected to their Nonhuman or Alterhuman Identity!!

[my-heart-is-but-a-gentle-moon]

This, is a personal faegender board I made for myself, describing me in a true to myself way 💗 this sunday, when I was sick (still am actually ^^’ but it gave me time to think 💗💞💗). 

Photos were uploaded with the owners’ permission- all I did was edit these beauties and assemble them in this way so that it would match with my values, views of the world, and my inner truth. 

Faegender - There are two, cohesive meanings to this.

The First - A gender that changes with the seasons, equinoxes and moonphases. 

And the Second, that resonates far more deeply with who I am (also, this second one has a purple stripe in the flag as well in order to seperate and identify the two different communities that resonate with the same name in different ways) - A gender for those who recognize that being autistic has impacted their gender/the perception of their gender, and who specifically identify with the Changeling [A type of fae] myth (A myth that was inspired by the autistic traits many ‘changelings’ in the past encompassed, created to explain our- the autistics’, existence and of us, reclaiming it in a positive way)

 Credits/Sources : 

Moonlight Fairy // Quote 

The Empath 

Faegender Flag

Quote // Pink Skied Beach 

Earth/Animal Fairy // Flower Quote 

I Just Want Magic To Be Real 

Purple Moon // Quote

[quilted-patch-kit]

@queer-positive @queerlection @queerautism @autismus-obscurus @autismserenity @spreading-trans-nonbinary-love

Story?

I was thinking about my most favourite myth ever -- the Changeling myth, and how it's super duper plainly about autistic kids/people.

I consider being autistic to have, as it does with all aspects of my life, my perceptions and experiences, to have an effect on my gender as well.

The word 'Faegender' popped into my head as Changelings are fae.

It's fantastic, I love it!

I do a search on here, and in general, and it seems 'genderfae' is a thing, but not faegender.

Cool!

Except after a little more digging around I find it IS already a thing?

But I can find almost ZERO references to it anywhere.

Like, it exists, but mostly technically?

And the meaning doesn't even have anything to do with fae?!?

"A gender that changes with the seasons, equinoxes, and moon phases."

Thats a perfectly good and fine gender but what does it have to do with fae????

:( I'm upset because it's such a perfect word for what I feel(I do know about autigender, but this feels like a better fit somehow?), but it's apparently already being used?

Except it seems like it isn't? Like 98% of the almost zero references I found to it were posts mocking it's existence? And the couple that weren't seemed to be using it in the context of 'I use fae/faer pronouns' rather than the stated meaning of the gender?

But SOMEBODY must be using it, right, or it wouldn't already exist!

Is this a situation where the two meanings could coexist?

Like, "an otherworldly gender connected to feelings of being fae. May be connected to being autistic/neurodivergent or may not be."

(I'm sure plenty of people who feel a connection of some sort to fae aren't ND so I wouldn't want to say they couldn't use it!)

@temp-nb-blog (I can't believe I almost forgot to tag you!)