#and basically everyone is doing ivf because they just Can't

[frenchifries]

so stupid how peak fertility is like 18-27 when those are the years you're supposed to be chilling and doing whatever you want and then by the time you're in your mid-to-late 30s and finally more settled in life and ready to be a parent you're a "geriatric" pregnancy with sharply elevated risk of complications and also you probably won't be able to get pregnant without medical intervention anyway

[sensei-venus]

@gemini-sensei , because now I’m on a Yasmine and Moon role🫣

Some times I like to imagine that when Poly! Moon and Yasmine decide to start trying for a baby with Reader they try it more old fashion like.

They go through all the loops for a good sperm donor (in this case I would imagine it is a friend of there’s, so they have access to the goods at a drop of the hat.) and they feel ready to start actually trying. But they want to do it differently then doing professional IVF. They want to all be more connected during the process.

That’s why Yasmine goes online and buys a dildo with a cum pump built in.

Instead of putting fake cum into the pump they put the real sperm into the small pump and they take turns fucking into Reader.

They try to make the whole process as enjoyable as possible for everyone to enjoy. They take turns pounding her poor pussy from all kinds of different positions. They make sure to fuck as deep as they can into her tight wet pussy. They rut up against her trying to make sure the head of the fake cock sits directly on her tight cervix. They make sure they are basically bullying the fat head into her womb.

Most of the time one of them is fucking her wide open and the other is holding her or at least touching her to make her comfortable and relaxed. The pace is always different, from slow to fast, hard to soft.

They both tell her all kinds of things and whisper how good she is doing, how they know this time it will take. How pretty she is and how they can’t wait for her to get all fat with their baby soon. She whimpers, all she can do is nod as they split her wide open on their fake cock all night long until it takes.

They rut against her cervix as they squeeze the pump's balloon sending rope after rope of hot cum into her tight cunt. It spill out but they know she’s full. She’s filled the brim by the end of it. Moon always makes sure to have a plug on hand so that she can stuff it into the women’s raw frothy pussy. To make sure their attempts have the best chance of taking.

They all lay down after a good round and cuddle together, placing kisses along Reader’s skin. Mumbling and whispering about what they hope for the baby.

Moon wants the baby to have Reader’s nose and full cheeks. While Yasmine wants them to have her eyes and lip shape. Reader just can’t help but think about her baby in general. She can’t wait to grow with it, to feel the first kicks, to one day hold the little thing in her arms with her beautiful wives by her side.

They all can't wait to see if their newest round of fucking takes with the next pregnancy test.

[gaykarstaagforever]

Get ready for the "pronatalists," coming to a political election near you in the next several years.

They're an unofficial Silicon Valley cult that is basically just good-old-fashioned eugenicists, including the thing where they say it isn't their fault SCIENCE and MATH say rich white people are the best humans.

They unironically think Elon Musk is the paragon of human existence, and like him, a big part of their thing is romanticizing autism...or what they CALL autism, but isn't autism, it's just them being selfish assholes and declaring themselves beyond criticism because it is a "condition." Which they openly think is also the next stage of human evolution, which is why they have to quickly breed their superior genes into the race that will "save the world" from too many poor brown people existing. Because them liking money a lot is going to help save us from climate change...? It immediately gets muddled, once they've declared their practical white supremacy.

But all this, OF COURSE, isn't racist. They're just "realists" about how bad the Earth will be when uneducated brown non-billionaires who don't even own companies get to make decisions! Because it's a paradise now, since it's being run by white billionaires.

Huh.

They think of themselves as left-wing, but the progressive left hates them for obvious reasons, so they are now affiliating with the far-right. For obvious reasons.

The only things that separate them from Fundamentalist Evangelicals is that they are atheists, pro-queer, hate Trump, and are pro-choice. But the pro-choice thing is really only about them wanting the right to discard "substandard" fertilized eggs, because they use AI to tell them which embryos will be "more intelligent" than the others.

...An odd thing to claim, considering IQ is not an actual measure of anything besides how well you do one time on a test, and you CERTAINLY can't predict it by looking at genes. But the US refuses to regulate this kind of gene selection, so of course eugenicists are going to take advantage of it.

The atheism thing seems noble and progressive until you realize it is just very rich people justifying why they don't have to follow the same ethical code as everyone else.

The pro-queer thing also barely counts, because they STILL expect superior white gays / asexuals to use IVF and surrogacy to gift their awesome genes to the future. They've cut out the need for sex to do eugenics. I guess that's kind of a new innovation on the ancient stupidity.

I for one don't trust anyone who looks at Sam Altman and says "this is the Ubermensch." Including Sam himself. Who is of course a fan of all this.

And they hate Trump because everyone with a brain hates Trump, because he's an awful person, all the time, to everyone. Other rich people have always hated Trump. He brags about it. Being rich and hating Trump doesn't make you a hero.

This wouldn't be worth talking about, because these freaks have been around for years, and obviously they have been unpopular with people on both sides of the spectrum. But now, oh boy!, they've realized they are rich and have big dreams for the Earth, so they are of course getting into politics. As Republicans, of course, because any rich person who demands the right to tell the rest of us how to live ends up over there. That's most of their thing.

The family The Guardian talked to lives in my home state of Pennsylvania, because we're purple enough to let you be weird, but red enough to help you be white. I can't wait for this movement to join the coalition of angry extremists that is already the state Republican party, and start pouring money into their master plan to re-Caucasian America. Because everything must be Texas. Because Elon LOVES Texas.

Also they abuse their children. At least, this couple does.

Posting this bothers me, because talking about them is exactly what these people want. So much so that I wonder how much of this is even true, or just them being ridiculous for attention.

But the dad hitting his 2 year old in public, in front of the reporter, like he doesn't even know that's at least bad optics, is the kind of terrible that genuinely comes from a person's black little heart.

[respondingwithvariedcivility]

Alright, let's give this a shot.

Our trans guy here is named Shane. He doesn't introduce himself because that's not part of the format. If you watch the original video (which I don't recommend, jubilee is garbage), his name shows up on screen.

You are correct in pointing out that Shane is just using the Ben Shapiro style of "debating" on Ben Shapiro. This is, I would argue, the point. Shane even points this out in his speech. He asks point-blank how it feels to have this tactic in your face. (around 1:43 in the video) Shane isn't interested in a real debate, because Ben Shapiro isn't.

It's also true that Shane would be unable to have an abortion. That is his opening statement. That is why he brings up his past as an SA victim. This is something that affects him directly. It's why he comes out swinging.

But, and here is where we start disagreeing, Shane doesn't ask why his own body isn't legislated. Shane is trans. His body is extremely legislated and he knows it. Both his reproductive system and his gender expression are subject to laws passed predominantly by white cis men. And so he asks why Ben's body isn't legislated. If Shane was pregnant, possibly as a result of SA, he could be denied the health care he needs, because legislation values a barely developed clump of cells over his bodily autonomy. If Ben Shapiro was the only person on Earth who could donate the blood required to save a newborn baby, no one could force him (legally) to give his blood. Legislation values his bodily autonomy over saving this life. (Obviously this specific instance is not gendered: women can deny giving blood just as well. However, they cannot deny giving their body to carry a child to term, regardless of the risks involved for them or the fetus.) That's the point Shane is making. Only one population group has their body free of legislation. Any others, including cis women and trans men, but also a vast array of other groups, for example intersex people, have their bodies legislated. And the people arguing for and passing that legislation do not care about who they affect with it. They give it ridiculously little thought. (See also: lawmakers lacking basic knowledge about reproductive organs) And, as Shane points out, this also means they don't consider people like him, people who are survivors of SA, or somehow falls out of the scope of a cis woman willingly getting pregnant.

As a final point: The queer community is affected by an abortion ban. Queer Women exist. Intersex people exist. Trans Men like Shane exist. They are all directly affected by an abortion ban. Abortion legislation has also affected IVF, something a lot of women with fertility issues, as well as queer couples, rely on to have children. If someone gets pregnant and doesn't have access to health care, this affects not only them, but also their partners, their social circle, and their children (current and future). An abortion ban affects everyone. I don't say this to take away from pregnant women (queer or not), who undoubtedly suffer the most, but I am pointing this out because the waters can't be muddied if the mud is affected too. It's an ecosystem.

Also, it really wouldn't kill you to use the correct pronouns for someone.

[sextonsharpwinhalstead]

IF anything, I wish they would have written him as an annoyance to April [not in the SA sense, but relentless] and maybe have Ethan check him. Since they leaned so heavily on jealous Ethan, which is hot but also sad at the same time. Also, April curving him and being like, WTF why is he so interested the first few times was funny, and it would've been great to see more because Yaya is fine AF; she deserves two men, one in love with her and one who can't have her that she keeps up at night. Plus she's a NYer I know she has it in her two curve the best of them. They still could've put him with Natalie later in the season since Dominc said he wanted to explore the darkness inside the character and April and Ethan def had enough to break up over without CM. They were on two very different pages with the IVF/baby situation. BTW I've been going through your blog looking for troll material and boy did those Sextoi v. Sexcel gif you grief in 2019 lol. Sad. BTW have you seen the spoilers if not do you want to see them I know everyone is not down with them so I ask first.

ETA: I just realized CM has spoken his language and talked about his family and why he has that dumb ass name, eaten something cultural with Natalie and her mom gave him a Persian spice set. Something they haven't done with ETHAN in SEVEN YEARS. And I know dxxn well Yaya being who she is, she would've had no problem learning some Korean so she could say something. I'm willing to be she coached everyone on Portuguese and Spanish. NBC has the money for a damn chef to cook food from each of their cultures, but they're talking about eating Chilli and Sushi. Too many things to be mad at with this show.

I love this idea! At least April would've kept her damn dignity.

Yeah 2019 was basically a moment for me. I started to really pull away from Tumblr and that day in particular was truly f*cked up. 4 HOURS worth of asks in my inbox over that shit. You would've thought I said that April and Marcel should burn Ethan alive and then screw on his dead body because I hate the AMBW dynamic. And legit there was like five of us but people were acting like I had gun to the showrunners head and I was making all of it happen...it was ridiculous and made me really step back and ask myself if being apart of fandom even mattered.

I was glad they had an spot where they divulged why Crockett's name was so horrible lol. But it felt very...idk. Anyway it was a cool night because Crockett (Darioush) and Helen from New Amsterdam were both speaking Farsi because both are Iranian.

But yes in seven seasons they won't even verify Ethan's ethnic identity. Not even when his dad died, it was all military which is what they always rely on when they want to give him depth. Also...where the hell was his mom? What happened to her and why is she never mentioned past Emily's adoption or his father's affair?

Once again you're noticing some of the glaring issues within the OC universe which seems to be why people are leaving at ridiculous rates. We aren't even to the mid session finale and we very already lost 3 characters.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Gonna add, as an aro, it's also totally fine to go on a date with somebody you're not romantically attracted to!

I mean, you should make sure that the other person is aware that that's what's going on (for both your sakes), but if you are an arospec person who wants to date, or even an alloro who just feels like gifting your best friend a bushel of roses and taking them for a platonic candlelit dinner— because you both just feel like going on a date— that is absolutely fine. There is nothing wrong with that!

Not everyone has the same boundaries. Personally, as an ace person, I can only think of a few situations where I might be willing to have sex (eg. if I wanted to have a kid but didn't want to/couldn't do IVF), but that's because I don't think I would enjoy it. However as an aro, there are some romance-coded activities that I think I would enjoy.

But there are other aces out there who do enjoy sex as an activity— even if they are not attracted to their partners— and so decide to do it. And others who view it as a basically neutral activity but are fine doing it if their partner wants to.

Yeah, there are obviously situations where sex where one partner isn't attracted to the other can be really fucked up. Such as if the one partner is having sex because they feel forced or pressured into it, rather than because they genuinely want to. That is shitty.

And it can often be hard to tell from the outside whether somebody in a relationship is being (actively or passively) pressured into sex with their partner or whether they are actually into it. Some people put on a brave face, or even lie to themselves out of a belief that they are the ones in the wrong.

I think a big reason for the worry over aces who have sex is that these relationships seem to muddy the waters even further. Saying "both partners need to be attracted to each other" can feel like the bare minimum you need to insist. I've seen posts from people claiming that the ace community is full of rape apologists, because any sex where one partner is not attracted to the other has to be rape, even if that partner consented.

It would be simpler, in terms of being able to determine which relationships are healthy and which aren't, if we were able to make clear binary statements and decree that any relationship that doesn't meet a set criteria must be Bad and Unhealthy, and we don't need to bother asking the people involved in it how they feel about that.

But, ultimately, you need to allow consenting adults the freedom to make their own decisions.

Yes, sometimes that is going to end badly. Sometimes consenting adults fall into abusive or toxic relationships, and sometimes they choose to stay there. Sometimes ace people end up having sex they don't want because they feel like they can't say no. That is fucked up, and shitty, and everyone needs to do what they can to make sure that that doesn't happen, and to help the people it happens to.

But, that doesn't mean we should forbid all ace people from having any sexual relationships, on the grounds that "even if you say you're okay with it, and even if you genuinely believe that to be the case, I don't think that you're capable of making judgements about what's best for yourself."

Not being able to feel sexual attraction doesn't make us incapable of giving consent.

I’m completely ace and i feel iffy about other aces who have sex, Whenever Itry to understand why they have sex I just feel like it’s not fair if their partner is into it but they’re not. I wouldn’t go on a date with someone I’m not romantically into even if I felt like going on a date, why should someone have sex with someone they’re not into? Its okay if you like someone sexually, you’re just not ace and that’s okay!

Bestie being sexually attracted to someone isn’t a prerequisite to enjoying sex with them. Allo people have enjoyable sex with people who aren’t their type all the time. Let asexuals enjoy sex for reasons other than thinking their partner is hot.

[eeveelutionsforequality]

It's not like I want or need to date, but if I had to cite the reasons that I'm not dating then that's amongst them, alongside a bunch of other flaws and situational shit, and a general lack of ability to connect to or interest in other people - I am more the kind of person who prefers to be alone, but sometimes it's nice to pretend that dating would be at all enjoyable for anyone involved.

My crush is single but he deserves better than me. I don't have to worry about getting knocked up, that area has never worked properly. My libido is a Tyrannosaurus Rex (or some other metaphor for great big annoyance) that even makes my dysphoria go "You know what, I know how to pick my battles."

I used to get (and still sometimes get... often from certain people I know, tbh) all that "You're basically a butch lesbian." "You can't like both." (I'm bi) "You should be a lesbian, women are better than men." kind of stuff pressuring me to be a lesbian, along with partners (male and female) doing all the "I love you exactly how you are, you don't need to change." "You're so pretty, you'd look really ugly as a guy." "We can be happy like this, why would you even want to change?" "I get that dysphoria sucks but can't you get counseling instead of mutilating yourself?" "How will we have kids?" (which leads into the "I already told you that I can't and don't want to." "Yeah but we could try IVF or something." "I don't want to." "Not even for me? Don't you love me?" fight... well, if you can call them shouting and me saying "It's still a no." during the rare silences a fight)

But I also get called a "psychopathic, emotionally detached, robot bitch who will never love anything and is incapable of even pretending to give a shit" by the same people, which is usually because I tend to date jackasses, but can also be that people project expectations onto me and are then angry that the real me is nothing special - I am a person who seems warm when you first meet me but is actually pretty cold under that, so I don't blame everyone... just the jackasses. I think that I'm a combination of somebody who brings out the worst in people and somebody who hangs out with the wrong crowd. So it's not entirely my shitty self-esteem issues regarding gender that stop me dating, it's also the fact that if anybody is good enough to not want to cleave my head in, they're also too good for me to inflict myself upon them.

Yeah, idk maybe with these "extrans" type radfems it's a combination of some of them never having been trans and having mistaken body dysmorphia for gender dysphoria, maybe some had dysphoria but not severe enough for transition to have been a viable solution for them, maybe some are trans guys - or rather have the dysphoria and the brain differences and all that to the extent that other trans guys do but have fooled themselves or pressured themselves into repressing and fighting that. I really don't know - the scientist in me wants to start scanning brains xD

Tumblr deleted this the first time I wrote it, it was probably better worded then, sorry. I'm incredibly tired and dissociated and rambley though rn.

EDIT: Just remembered the bit missed while rewriting this, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that the people in your school were so disgusting and cruel towards you, you didn't deserve that, and I'm really glad that you're not there any more. I hope that the people in your life now are infinitely better people, because people like those girls don't deserve to be around you.

~ Vape

I’m pretty much done having any hopes for the transmed community, TBH. It’s all falling apart in the most depressing way and only makes me want to drink my sorrows away.