#and also learn to not tag your venting into the main tag of whatever you're venting about. like it's just common decency

[ranger-kellyn]

y'all know you can just. not. pay attention to speedrunners, right? like. you can just ignore them. you don't have to put out this huge manifesto of why they're letting "capitalist work ethic bleed into their games". like. you can just ignore them and move on and play the games at your own speed. some people like the grind. some people like chill aspects. one is not better than the other

[raayllum]

25. a piece of advice for taking care of yourself in fandom spaces

I have two pieces of advice basically that loop back into each other honestly.

Don't ultimately care about what anyone else says or thinks

Not caring about or trying to manage what other people think of you or your thoughts ≠ being rude or disrespectful, that doesn't mean it never happen - tone and frustration are absolutely real and I express the latter occasionally,

Other people are gonna ship things you don't or ship the same thing but in a way you don't like or just have opinions that are coming from a fundamentally different perspective or reading of the text and... none of it really matters. You don't have to conform to popular fandom if it doesn't fit what you think (that's basically been me in every fandom But TDP, so it's quite refreshing, and even then I very much felt like a lil island in the immediate s4 aftermath), you can ship whatever you want and so can anyone else. I think the most important thing with this is being self aware, though... like yeah I could hypothetically get annoyed over characters in TDP being childish, but coming-of-age stories are about kids and maturation, so like. I can vent in the proper tags but it may just mean the show isn't ultimately for me, y'know? Or at least that it's something I gotta learn to live with if I wanna engage with the show in a way that balances the salt and the sweetness

Additionally, one of the side effects I've found of being '''popular''' within TDP fandom is that my opinion will be taken as gospel or made out to be more than what it is, which is just my subjective opinion / interpretations, the same as anyone else's. Obviously I think my opinions are Right / grounded in the text (as do many people about their own opinions, whether they align with mine or not), but that doesn't mean everyone else is wrong, like... it's a children's cartoon show, if you're getting regularly butt hurt about what other people think or if they do or don't agree with you or whether ur ideas are popular or not you're not gonna have a good time, and fandom is a hobby. It's supposed to be a good time

Avoid taking things personally at all costs

In a similar vein to "don't care what anyone else thinks/says" that goes double for what they think or say about you / what you think. For me this means that unless I get 1) name dropped or 2) something that is so specific me it couldn't apply to someone else, I assume it's not about me. "Rayllum shippers / stans are so annoying"? Not about me and even if I am annoying - isn't everyone sometimes? Being annoying isn't a death sentence lol. "I hope the fandom takes this well"? Not about me. "People who defend S4 just can't admit TDP has flaws"? Not about me. "Snake boi Callum content is so dumb" is about a tag categorization I started for Callum's characterization, but has since more than taken on a life on its own... and isn't about me.

And even when it is personal, it says a lot more about what frustrates the OP or what they're trying to potentially wrangle than it does about me. Like someone disagrees with me or thinks I'm dumb, specifically? Okay, I know I've thought that about people on occasion, I try not to post it or make it obvious, but I can't control what you do. There were a couple of ZK bnf I thought were horrendously bad at meta that I knew by name bc they were everywhere, and it just meant forming my own atla communities/tags and/or stepping away from the fandom.

On a similar note, I'm still gonna keep doing my thing and I encourage people to block me and/or blacklist tags I use if they don't wanna see my stuff. I know how annoying it can be in fandom to feel like you still see stuff you don't want to if it's everywhere, which is also why I don't put all my stuff in the main tags either, but I'm not going to Stop Posting unless I... want to, which won't be happening.

I guess this all basically amounts to:

Focus on finding your people in fandom, cause they are out there

If you find yourself being annoyed by the fandom every day, or find yourself feeling like you have to rebut every little thing that annoys you (for ex, people saying they don't like Rayllum doesn't bother me, that's a neutral opinion. Ppl saying they shouldn't be in the show feels like more of a theme misread, however) work on stepping away and letting things go

Cultivate being fucking weird and unabashedly enthusiastic with self awareness. If you love a ship or headcanon or plot point that's fucking out there or clearly not happening, fucking go for it! Make or enjoy all the stuff for it you want. That said, maintaining awareness that the story doesn't need to go there in order to be good, or that there's not a lot of plausible grounding in canon, can be important especially if you want to connect with other fans.

Like CHET is my pet theory that has also been wildly fortunate enough to get a life of its own in the TDP / Rayllum fandom(s). I've been prepared to drop it three times. I think more than ever that's where the story is going in S7, and that there's a lot of continued setup for it / Something Like It, but I could be dead wrong, and I'm sure I will love if not prefer whatever route S7 would take instead. I love it, and I have a certain amount of attachment, but the story doesn't owe it to me, similarly to how I'm not owed in fandom to have people Like what I make or make what I like

Like respect should be given for sure unless I make a routine ass of myself, but again, I've been very fortunate that some stuff has caught on as much as it has because it clicked with other people who were already thinking the same thing, or found xyz idea made a lot of sense. And that's really nice! I think it's those things that help build a community. But in fandom you kind of have to be willing to be an Island first, and then if you get stuck being an island permanently, it may be worth reflecting on why sometimes — whether it's because of aggression, shyness, preference, or no real reason except your people haven't shown up yet

[seachelous]

to the feelings yakuza showing up in the danny phantom main tag, thank you for showing your whole ass and telling everyone you don't know what blocking and filtering is. i'll put together an in-depth tutorial for you.

Blocking

First, you go to the person's blog that you want to block. I'm using staff as an example.

Next you want to click on the three dots in a circle, next to the gift button. It'll bring up the menu you currently see here. You'll want to click the "Block" button.

Tumblr will ask if you're sure you want to block, as well as list what will happen if you do block the blog. This includes the person being unable to follow you, send DMs, find you in search results, or interact with any of your posts. This also means you will never see their posts. You'll want to click the "Block" button.

When you've clicked the "Block" button, you will see a confirmation that the person has been blocked. You can now click the "Close" button or close the tab you have open to go back to browsing.

If you would like to unblock this person for any reason- perhaps learning the distinction between real morality and "personally, i don't like this"- you can do so in your blog settings under "Blocked Tumblrs".

Tag Filtering

First, on the left sidebar click "Settings".

Next, scroll down to "Content you see". There are two sections here: "Filtered Tags" which will hide posts with specific tags, and "Filtered Post Content" which will hide posts that have specific words. This is to help catch posts that are either mistagged or not tagged at all. So like people venting about something in a main fandom tag that can trigger people, but not using the tag specifically made for that topic.

Type in whatever word(s) you'd like filtered under "Filtered Post Content". Then click the "Add" button. You can even add usernames if you'd like.

For "Filtered Tags" you want to click the little pencil icon, and a similar box to type in will appear, along with an "Add" button. Repeat the process of typing in what you would like to be filtered. You can even add usernames if you'd like. Finally, refresh the page.

When you are done, this is what a post with filtered tags will look like. I'd love to give an example of a post with filtered content, but I was scrolling for a good while and could not find any for this specific topic.

You have the option to click the "View post" button, which will show you the post being hidden, but understand that this is an acknowledgement that you know what this is and you are Choosing to look at it. No one has forced you.

Harassment is never okay. Anon hate is never okay. Suicide baiting is never okay.

Take some time, curate your experience, and maybe lay down on a blanket under the sun.

[tortoiseshelltheresearcher]

Greetings, my friends!

Welcome to my blog! This blog is all about disabilities, disorders, and systemhood. Please read this if you're new and enjoy your stay!

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Greetings. This blog is centered around educating others about disabilities, disorders, and systemhood. Anyone asking for advice, certain things, or just talking or venting is okay. But please keep in mind that I'm not a professional. These are just what I learned and what I know firsthand.

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About my system

I come from a traumagenic, polyfragmented, and fictive heavy DID system. We are mentally and physically disabled. And we are a RAMCOA surivor. Please be patient and mindful.

Disorders: Autism, CPTSD, ADHD, anxiety, OCD, undiagnosed DID, NPD, and schizophrenia. We also have brain damage.

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Hi, I'm Tortoise Shell, but you can also call me Dr. Seek whatever you prefer. I am a fictive from a DID system.

In my source, I specialized in history, medicine, and mental health. I've lost my calling for a bit since I formed, but then I had an idea about this. So I'm giving it a shot!

My Introduction, boundaries, and more!

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[stardust-falling]

坠星落尘 / Zhuixing | He/They | Adult™

writer, artist, musician, and connoisseur of tragic little men

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I post and reblog everything on this blog, from fandom to art and writing projects to general life things. By following me you accept the risk of getting infected with whatever new fandom or hobby I end up collapsing into.

Shy and anxious around people, but very passionate about my interests. Feel free to chat with me in 中文 or Español as well if you'd like! Discord is also available if we've been chatting for a bit, but I can't promise I'm very consistent with that.

I'm basically in a constant financial struggle, so if you enjoy my writing/art/posts/general nonsense, any sort of support is always appreciated.

Due to my mental health, I can't reblog donation or fundraising posts right now.

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CURRENT WRITING PROJECTS

Ghosts of the Heart (Original Novel) | Updates Tuesdays Read the first book/current chapters free on Patreon, AO3, or Royal Road

The Scum Villain's Loss-Prevention Opportunity (SVSSS) | Semi-Hiatus Read on AO3

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Main fandoms are EPIC: The Musical/The Odyssey, Genshin Impact, and SVSSS, but this is always subject to change, and others may appear from time to time.

Though I enjoy debating characterization and literature, I don't really like to mess around with any sort of discourse/shipcourse/anything like that where there's implications being made about real-life people and their real-life morality. HOWEVER, if you're someone with "pro-ship dni" in your bio, I'll probably block you because I don't want anything to do with anti rhetoric, thanks.

I tag all ships with the most common ship tag when they appear on my blog. If you don't like a ship but still want to follow me, feel free to just block whatever tags you feel like. Same with fandoms/characters, though I'm not always as consistent with that. If you need a post of mine to be tagged, please let me know!

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zhuixing’s empty wallet — tag for my mutual aid posts when I need money badly

[unproduciblesmackdown]

Hi!! So this is an honest question so i hope it doesnt come off as rude or anything- but doesn't the thought that everything you post here can be reblogged make you more reserved or anything? Idk how to explain it but whenever i wanna post something here i think about doing it for a super long time to be sure i want it to possibly be on the internet forever- but i see you're comfortable with sharing pretty personal stuff so i was just wondering if it affected you any way or maybe it was just me?

lmaooo it’s cool!!! there’s an unending AMA going on here and off the top of my head i can’t think of anything off-limits to ask about

it’s definitely not just you!! out of the ppl i know off the top of my head i’m probably really far and away doing the Most airing my bullshit. if you ultimately don’t like the idea of stuff just kinda sitting around to be seen by Anyone, that’s valid and there’s no problem with feeling like that makes you wanna Not Post some stuff

like this is especially true for young teens on the soche media…hell i just entirely threw out the blog i’d had from like 14 -18, and not because i was particularly embarrassed or anything, it just felt mostly obsolete. you can become someone so different in even one year and that’s fine and you might not want Old Venting and the like just sitting around out there. it’s definitely okay to be real private about that kinda stuff

i know sometimes ppl having sorta Compromises where maybe they’ll create a second blog / account specifically for talking abt personal stuff, and then only maybe allow friends (or nobody) to access it; or people will just tag everything with Delete Later and then go back and delete it later so it’s not out there forever, or just because they find it embarrassing soon afterwards lol

for my part, there’s definitely multiple reasons i pretty much don’t care

1. i never used to Vent post back in the early days. but one of my earliest examples maybe was this sudden essay i dumped on my blog when i was 16? 17? abt how unhappy i was at home. it took me till i was 18 to really start to realize that what i’d always lived with was literally abuse, and it was things like The Sudden Venting Essay that really helped me put it all into words and be able to organize my thoughts enough to write about it and realize that there was a lottttt of shit i was rly miserable about2. ever since then really i’ve found that when i write about something, whether messaging it to someone or just posting it in general, a ton of times it helps me kinda make connections or figure something out or just feel like i have a better grasp on an idea.3. even after i started maybe doing the occasional venting post, for a long time i was really hesitant about it, but this was mostly b/c i felt like i didn’t have ~real~ enough problems and/or nobody would really care. as for the former, well yesterday i was saying how i still have this underlying feeling that i’m an imposter / don’t count / not REALLY as ___ as other people or whatever, so i’m still working on that, but it definitely doesn’t upset me as much as it might back in the day. re: the latter—tbh i dont care if nobody cares. i write abt personal shit b/c i care. my entire blog is About and Because i care, and if other people care, great, if they don’t, ok.4. a lot of this is about having compassion for myself. i don’t look down on other people for making personal posts, so i don’t look down on myself, either. 5. more self-compassion: there’s probably olden text posts from the early days of this blog that don’t even sound like me coz my Outer Demeanor has changed a lot these past 5 or 2 or 1 yrs. but even if i stumbled across some Old Post of mine and was like “lmfao whats up w THIS loser” it’s like….well, i’m sympathetic to my Earlier Selves. this applies to like, me never deleting Late Night Sad Posts or whatever (even tho nowadays they’re never exactly like i’m upset, maybe just Melancholy or in a mood to talk abt something saddish) coz i’m like, well, even though rn i don’t feel like i Need this post, back then i did feel like venting to feel better! and that’s fine. i don’t find that embarrassing. it’s like if you’re thirsty on one day and you drink some water and at some random point during the next evening when you’re not thirsty you think back on that time you were drinking water and you’re like “wow, embarrassing.” well clearly its not a perfect analogy but the point is sometimes you might feel you need to talk, and sometimes you don’t, and both times are ok. its not an embarrassment to have been upset6. this blog is the most personal thing in the world for me lmao its my Main social media presence, goes back five yrs, and for like. well the whole five years its been what keeps me from being way more isolated than i am. irl friends have been long distance this whole time (save a couple exceptions) and mostly my way to talk to ppl has been on here. this was especially important when i was at my parents house for a couple yrs. it was fairly awful and being able to be in touch w ppl and being able to SAY it was awful was clearly important, and i became more inclined to write abt shit rather than hold myself back b/c my being able to say anything was important7. i still talk about things b/c being able to say anything here to people in the outside world is important8. i can’t be like “i cant talk abt this b/c its not important/interesting enough” coz if i did i wouldn’t talk abt anything. i just write b/c i have things to say, and this is my pointless blog9. i don’t expect i’ll ever become Well Known in any circles. for me the more likely concern is kinda disappearing either due to dying or incarceration or some other shit scenario. the times i talk on here are good b/c that hasnt happened yet and i have the option10. even if i did become well known, i don’t really care.11. also for uh…all the times i was living in my parents house thru my life i was really really isolated. for eons i was used to nobody knowing shit abt me and keeping p much all my thoughts to myself. nowadays this blog is what lets me be able to sorta Known and Seen and able to get in touch w ppl if we wanna. basically, there’s nothing TOO personal. i’m not even trying to push myself to “overshare” coz like i said, p much nothing is offlimits. i’ve just had a lifetimes worth of being very invisible and unknown to anyone12. actually i can still be very cagey abt myself in person. learning to be more open On Here is a bit helpful for that. 13. idk that anyone else would give a shit about old vent posts from me either. when i talk abt me im talking abt *me*, its really not even vaguely interesting when removed even one degree from that specific context. 14. maybe there’s the chance some shit will happen to be Relatable to other ppl and somehow helpful to them15. for example, a lot of how i realized i was actually experiencing abuse for real was thru anecdotal / qualitative posts abt it. sometimes there’s shit you think is Just You only b/c nobody else who it applies to is talking about it yknow16. maybe making it seem less a big deal to talk abt your bullshit if i unapologetically talk abt my bullshit17. i remember my younger self feeling like i didnt ~deserve~ to talk abt my own thoughts & feelings the way other ppl did coz mine weren’t as good, so i kinda do it for them / in celebration of no longer feeling that way18. i actually like to talk. i just usually can’t. irl i very very very very rarely talk at length about myself, i don’t talk much at all. for me this is where i get to talk19. hmm i may have skipped or forgotten something obvious but hey. for now, there’s this. no-limits milo they call me