#and also fandom is a lot more available to me than irl friends ofc

[sickgraymeat]

when we agree on smth for once 😩

[aeipathic]

1-9 honest meme!

munday honesty || accepting || @miranyutu​

What would prevent you from following someone?

a few things! if their writing style doesn’t seem to jive with mine is a big one -- that is, if i see myself having difficulty coming up with responses or parsing theirs! i also like to go in knowing what to expect, so if you’re an oc but don’t give much info about your character/verses/etc, i might not follow. and also just if, by looking through the blog, the mun displays an attitude i don’t think i’d get along or i don’t think would be healthy for me to have on my dash. also if you’re from a fandom i know nothing about i probably won’t follow because i’d feel out of my depth, lol. 

Are aesthetics important to you? If they are, why?

not really! i used to go in for aesthetics more -- i’d make my own theme backgrounds and promos, and was proud of a few of them -- but i really just don’t have the energy for it now? i still like having pretty aesthetics around (hence why i’ve fallen back into the icon-making pit a bit despite swearing up and down i wouldn’t lmao) but i’m not going to prioritize them over just. writing. 

What current rp trend do you hate?

lord, i’m not sure i’ve been back long enough to know what the current rp trends are. (i was gone from tumblr rp for a couple years.) i’ve talked about this to friends, but i guess maybe i’ll say that i remember when reblog karma first started to be a thing, and i think it’s spread farther now than it used to? like, i totally get “hey don’t reblog a bunch of memes from me and never send one in, that doesn’t make me feel great,” so in regards to ask memes and stuff it makes sense. but now i feel like -- and maybe i’m wrong -- but i feel like some people don’t want you to reblog anything from them that isn’t an ic interaction? i’m constantly worried about whether someone’ll be annoyed if i reblog a musings post or art or anything non-rp from them, and try to go from the source just to be safe, but it feels a lil like walking on eggshells when i’d much rather.....just feel fine interacting freely with the people on my dash without worrying about committing some infraction against this new etiquette that i don’t fully understand, lol.

How do you explain rp to someone in the real world?

i used to never talk about rp irl, because i was worried i’d just come across as weird, but i tended to call it “collaborative writing with people online” when i did. now it’s a little easier to talk about it, because a lot of my friends either play or know about tabletop rpgs, and it’s a lot easier to feel okay talking about written rp when someone already understands the concept of tabletop rp.

Do you prefer interacting with male muses or female more? Why?

i don’t think i have a preference? i think it’s a sad truth that i end up playing and interacting with more male muses than female just because of the fandoms i’m in (you try being into sports anime and finding a lot of girls to interact with, and ofc shows like cql are 90% men), but it’s not because i prefer it! 

Do you prefer writing male muses or female more? Why?

sort of same answer as before, that i end up playing more male muses because there are more male canon characters available in the media i consume, but it’s not that i prefer them necessarily! i love writing women. some of the characters i play that i love and respect the most are my women muses. but idk, i just don’t. think about it in terms of preference? maybe bc i myself am nonbinary, but i don’t think what gender a character is necessarily influences my desire to play them. i’ll play any gender.

What’s your opinion on call out posts?

i’m wary of them. i recognize the importance of bringing attention to genuinely dangerous presences, and i have had friends participate in writing callout posts for people who really did need to be called out, and the rpc was a better space after those people were gone. but i also think the mob mentality behind callouts can be a dangerous thing too. i’m not gonna get into like, the Whole Complex Issues around cancel culture in general, but for my own comfort i tend to just not engage with call outs unless i have personal knowledge in what has happened.

Name any three things about the rpc that bother you.

okay uh. 1) idk if people still do this, but the trend of making things Really Small. like, double-small/superscript text and icons that are about five pixels wide and so high contrast that you can’t see what’s in it? like, obviously i use small text ‘cause i like it, but not that small. actually, i might just expand this to lack of accessibility in general, like when themes have so much going on you can’t find the links to anything, or the colors are so badly contrasted i can’t read the text. i would just like to be able to see please!

2) when clique-iness gets out of hand. like okay, lmao, i’ve been accused of being part of a “clique” before just for interacting with my friends on the dash, so sometimes it’s a baseless thing to talk about, but i’ve also been in rpcs where you were made to feel that if you weren’t part of a certain already-established group of writers, then people wouldn’t want to write with you. i’ve also been part of very divisive rpcs, where you were either in one “group” or the other, and always had to know who was okay to interact with and who wasn’t, and it was exhausting and drove me out of that community altogether.

3) when people are Weird about dupes. like, i understand duplicate anxiety -- i’m duplicate-friendly, because i’m a lot more anxious feeling that i’m Not Allowed To Acknowledge The Existence of dupes, i’d much rather just be friends, but i very much understand wanting to avoid duplicates and i’ll always respect that. but. what i mean is when you have people who act like they’re okay with dupes -- but then get visibly jealous when people interact with other versions of their muse, or feel the need to remind people that they’ve been here longer so they must have a better understanding, or any number of other ways of subtly making duplicates feel unwelcome and unwanted just for existing in the same space as them. 

What is your opinion on exclusivity? Do you practice it? Why / why not?

occasionally! i think i’ve only ever been ship exclusive, and not fully exclusive. i’m much more likely to have mains than exclusives. if i go ship exclusive with someone, it’s because we’ve spent a long time developing that relationship and our investment has defined how i see that ship, and because i feel close to that writer and trust them. and i think it’s kinda special, to have one writer you develop this relationship with, because you can go so deep with it and build up so much.

but in general, no, i won’t go entirely exclusive, because it’s fun seeing different people’s interpretations of characters and i like having the chance to rp with a number of different people! and i know it can feel a little daunting to come into an rpc and feel like everyone’s already exclusive with each other, so i think not being exclusive opens up space for people. but yeah, i totally understand why exclusivity is a thing, and it’s definitely something i’ll practice with ship partners at times.

[theseoks]

hi, everyone! today (31/03) marks the 2nd anniversary of this blog~ /screams into the void bc that’s soooo long w o w that’s like 730.5 days!!!/ this is gonna be a really long post bc i would like to talk about: 1) this little project of mine and 2) my second anniversary (which is under a read more bc it got sooo longggg) so pls bear w me ;v;

theseoks’ followers appreciation project

in order to celebrate my blog’s 2nd anniversary, i’m bringing back my appreciation project (which i started back in 2015). the project has been revamped to better fit my idea for 2017 and i’ve updated the the official sideblog for my project for this year and you can find it here: @felfaproj. (ps. you don’t have to follow the sideblog, it’s mostly for me and my organization tbh + so i can save all the lovely things about you in one place ;u; )

what is the project about?

the basis of this project is for me to get to know you (the precious people who’ve given me love & support) better. not only will i get to know more about you, you will also be able to get to know me better as well. this project also serves as an interaction stater between you and me as i will be replying to you through the project’s sideblog in the form of a text post.

the project is form based where i will be collecting both super duper basic information about you & feedback regarding my blog. this form can be completely anonymous, apart from an identifier (i.e. a name/nickname/anon name/alias) for me to address you with in my replies. on top of replying to your responses, i will be taking the time out to write a personalized thank you message for your support towards both my blog and this project.

also, i know the title of the project says ‘followers appreciation’, however, the change in 2017 is that i’m opening this to both followers & non-followers! (tho i would most def appreciate if u do follow this blog ofc) this is because i feel that non-followers =/= non-supporters since ppl can still show support through liking/reblogging of my content despite not following this blog.

the form can be found HERE (available on mobile and web). it won’t take more than 5 minutes to fill in and i really appreciate all responses~ (^v^)

(p.s. i’m still toying with some ideas and balancing out the logistics of stuff for a little something extra. i’ll have an update regarding this should it come to happen so yup!)

how is this project gonna work?

i will be responding to all responses to this project ASAP (once i am done collating results for each individual) on the sideblog and you would be notified through me tagging and mentioning you in the post.

in the case of those who wish to stay anonymous,unfortunately there will be no way for me to inform you of having replied, so you might have to head to the sideblog to check for updates manually. :(

in order to facilitate the ease of knowing when i’ve replied (i.e. you won’t have to waste time checking the sideblog every other day), i will make a update post on my main when i’ve completed a batch of replies. all replies on the sideblog will be tagged with urls and/or the names that you’ve stated which would make it easier for you to search for my reply to you.

also, I will continue all conversations through messages or IMs on my main blog or through the sideblog should our conversation be through reblogging, messages or IMs.

if you have any questions at all regarding this project, do feel free to check this FAQ page and please don’t hesitate to contact me! ^^ thank you all once again for your love and support and i hope that you would participate in this little project of mine!

[from me to you]: second anniversary message

hello, everyone~! :D knjvkdfn omgosh it’s been 2 years since i brought this blog back to life and wow, that’s a really really long time. ;u; some of you might remember me as: daesung-ssi, xiurnins, xiumlns & minseokked over these 2 years and when 2017 came, i made the url change to theseoks. along with the url changes, the person behind this blog (aka me) have changed quite a bit as well but more on that later. as of right now, i’m very honored and grateful to be able to mark my blog’s 2nd anniversary with everyone!

firstly and most importantly, i would like to thank everyone who has/had shown both my blog and me support ever since my return to the kpop fandom back in 2015. be it followers, non-followers, ex-followers, etc., i’m grateful towards everyone because i wouldn’t be where/who i am today without any of you. all of you serve as a motivation to keep this blog running + for me to continue creating content (be it edits, gifs, writing, idek what else) bc this blog began as nothing but a place for me to reblog stuff i like and post my not-so-gr8 stuff back in 2015. fast forward to today, it’s still a tumblr is still a place for me to reblog + post stuff but in addition to that, it’s a place where people have shown their support and kindness towards me.

these years have also blessed me with the chance to meet a lot of amazing & sweet & talented people who have been nothing but patient and loving towards me. what have i done to deserve all of you tbhhhhh ㅠuㅠ i’m extremely grateful to everyone i’ve met and thank you so much for putting up with me despite my crappy doo communication skills (wow @ self bc comms graduate). i hope we will become even closer this year~ :D to mutuals who i’ve yet had the chance to talk to bc i’m an awkward shy, i do hope we get to talk to each other in 2017!

also, to the lovely people who have messaged me for advice, thank you so much for trusting me enough with your problems (be it big or small). my replies to you are always so late and slow and ahhh, idek if they are helpful tbh but it really means a lot to me that i’m someone you can turn to. i hope all of you are doing well and that you’re happy & healthy. (me: the mom friend irl and a possible mom friend online too)

it’s been a really long time coming and there has been quite a bit of ups and downs over the past 2 years when it came to this blog (in terms of fandoms, content creation, activity, etc.) but here i am. in all honesty, i haven’t been around much this year so far due to real life stuff in addition to the fact that i had fallen into the ‘obligated to churn out content’ blackhole for a while which brought me a lot of pressure (that i’ve put on myself) & made tumblr more of a burden instead of a leisure. but!!! self-awareness is the first step to getting better, which is why i’ve been taking time off to pull my life together so that i will be able to come back and enjoy tumblr once again. despite my absence/dip in activity + change in content (i.e. me stanning bts in late 2015(?) aka this blog became more multifandom), so many of you have decided to stick around and i’m so kfnvjkv thankful towards you. thank you all so much for your support.

i’ve learnt quite a lot throughout these 2 years (in terms of skill and worldview/ knowledge), i’m hoping that i’ve become a better person over the 2 years that i’ve been here maybe??? i’m still quite lacking as a person tbh. which is why... i would also like to take this chance to apologize for any mistakes i’ve made over the years and thank you all for your patience towards me in addition to the efforts you’ve made to educate me on my mistakes. i’ll do my best to improve on myself & become a better person in future.

to end off this message, i would like to wish everyone the best and also for all the happiness in the world to you. thank you so much for being such amazing people and for making my world a better place. i love all of you so much ♡