#and acknowledging it is necessary for his growth and healing

[cosmics-beings]

I think another thing I like about starscream, yet hate that the fandom fails to acknowledge about starscream is that, a lot of his rotten personality and his nastiness comes from way before he meets megatron and way before he was a deception.

That’s not to say that a lot of the ways he acts doesn't mirror megatron and the mistreatment he went through. and that impacts how starscream heals, makes friends, etc., idw - like what megatron did still badly affects him and that's not something to be ignored, and it's still not fair that he doesn't get the same happiness megatron did.

But, I think that people do tend to act as if Starscream was perfect and uncorrupt before Megatron.

That's not true...starscream was also a rotten, manipulative and bad person before that. and a lot of that was in response to how he was treated and hating his own body/existence, and the caste system, etc. We see how a lot of people in transformers react to oppression and I think starscream is such an interesting case of someone who is so angry and furious at the system he was created in that he takes it out on others yet still fights for himself and only himself. It is sad, and it’s awful to see how his own existence and the caste system does destroy him, but I think its important to note and to understand to just see how oppressed people still have to fight through their own oppression and sometimes, because of that, because of the trauma they go through, turn rotten. And Starscream did terrible, sneaky, and awful things. He did shitty things to climb to the top and he hurt those around him, he hurt people he trusted him, and he was happy to be that way. No one made him evil, manipulative, or untrustworthy, he did that on his own.

I don’t like that a lot of the fandom tends to tie Starsream’s negative and problematic behavior and personality to megatron because it also takes away from a lot of growth, agency and discussion about starscream’s personality and why he is the way he is.

He wasn’t a perfect, innocent and shy person before he met megatron, or before he became a deception. He still did awful things and while becoming a deception was a way he could grow past the system that created him, he still did very much do so for power. Starscream was an ambitious yet a morally ambiguous person before megatron and he had to be to survive in his own mind. His life wasn’t perfect and happy before megatron, he was still fighting and he was still scheming to survive.

I really don’t like how people kind of take that away from him, and act like everything he does and every shitty way he acts is *because* of megatron. I know it’s not fun to have to admit that he wasn’t a good person before megatron met him, but I think it’s necessary to understand his character, and not a lot of people do. And when you don’t do that, you have people misinterpreting his character and being genuinely shocked when he does villainous things. Like for instance, sky bound starscream’s actions shock a lot of people because they don’t think that he is a villain - I remember a lot of ES critique is that earthspark starscream doesn’t need a redemption act- he just needs people to love and accept him. And I think you guys forgot that he was also a space fascist and enjoyed killing people on his own accord. And while megatron himself does impact how starscream acts and treats others - starscream still was an extremely problematic person eons before he met megatron.

I don’t think this negates just how badly Megatron’s treatment fucked him up, and made it so that it was difficult for him to form relationships even after, or find happiness. And I think that’s just something that cannot be ignored. But I also think starscream is more interesting as a character if the fandom acknowledged that he was this way before, that he wasn’t perfect or innocent, and that he reacted that way because he was unhappy with is life, his station, his caste, etc.

this also isn't a chance to come and try to excuse how megatron treated him, so pls don't do that on here.

[hrizantemy]

“Nesta said bad things about Feyre in the cabin and slut-shamed her for being with Isaac Hale.”

• Nesta’s attitude towards Feyre in the cabin was indeed dismissive, but context matters. Nesta was deeply resentful of their father, who abandoned his responsibilities, and she projected that resentment onto Feyre, the youngest sister, who had taken on the family’s burdens.

• Regarding slut-shaming, there is no explicit moment in the text where Nesta shames Feyre for being with Isaac. Any judgment Nesta showed was rooted in her own insecurities, societal expectations, and strained relationship with Feyre, not a moral condemnation of Feyre’s choices.

“Nesta wasn’t helping with house chores and didn’t want to chop wood.”

• While Nesta may have voiced her frustration, it’s explicitly stated in A Court of Thorns and Roses that she did, in fact, chop wood on more than one occasion. Her complaints stemmed from her upbringing in luxury, which made such tasks foreign to her, but she ultimately took on the work when necessary.

• Nesta expressed a willingness to hunt to contribute to the family. This demonstrates that Nesta wasn’t wholly unwilling to help but lacked the capability and was overshadowed by Feyre’s expertise in survival tasks.

• Nesta was willing to sacrifice her own happiness and future to ease Feyre’s burden of providing for the family. She accepted an offer of marriage from Tomas Mandray, not out of love but as a practical solution to their dire circumstances. By marrying Tomas, she intended to remove herself as a financial strain, ensuring Feyre had one less mouth to feed.

“Nesta was entitled and spoiled.”

• Nesta’s “entitlement” stems from how she was raised—she was conditioned to expect a certain life. However, labeling her as merely spoiled ignores her complex character. Nesta showed glimpses of care, such as her attempts to protect Elain from harsh realities and her desire to avenge Feyre when she went to Prythian.

• Post-transformation, Nesta’s behavior (anger, isolation, and lashing out) stems from her trauma rather than entitlement. It’s not a justification but an explanation that deserves compassion.

“Nesta stole money from Feyre to buy clothing.”

• While Elain casually expressed a desire for a new cloak, Nesta identified a genuine need for new boots, as hers were falling apart. This is supported by the scene in A Court of Silver Flames where it’s mentioned that her boots were in poor condition, highlighting her practical decision to replace something essential for her survival rather than indulging in luxury.

• Feyre provided for her family willingly, including essentials like clothing and food. Nesta’s request for boots was not theft but a necessity, given their shared hardship and Feyre’s role as the primary provider. At no point does Nesta take money without Feyre’s knowledge or consent in ACOTAR.

“In real life, Nesta stans wouldn’t want to meet someone like her.”

• This point oversimplifies why people relate to or admire Nesta. Many see her as a flawed, multi-dimensional character who mirrors real struggles with trauma, guilt, and self-worth. While no one is excusing her mistakes, her journey of redemption and growth resonates deeply with those who have experienced similar challenges.

“Justifying Nesta is equivalent to justifying being mean.”

• No one is excusing Nesta’s past behavior or denying that she was mean at times. However, her actions are understood through the lens of her trauma, mental health struggles, and personal growth. Feyre herself forgives Nesta and acknowledges the complexity of her pain.

• To say that acknowledging Nesta’s redemption equates to condoning meanness is reductive and dismisses the importance of character growth, which is central to Nesta’s arc in ACOSF.

Final Thoughts:

• Nesta’s flaws are undeniable, but they make her relatable and human. Instead of painting her as purely “bad,” her story demonstrates that even deeply flawed people can grow, heal, and become better. To dismiss her as merely a narcissistic villain undermines the nuance of her character and her journey.

[pennyellee]

preview of chapter VI

LACRIMOSA | MYG MAFIA YANDERE AU

pairings: mafia leader!yoongi x f!reader genre: mafia!au, yandere au, historical au

summary: Their interlocking gaze served as a butterfly effect on his heart, stirring it to the core. She, in turn, only dreams to find a way to escape. But perchance, over time she might forcefully learn to love the man who has taken so much from her.

Thus unfolds a twisted tale of love and loss, of hope and despair, of life and death. The music reverberated through the dimly-lit streets. Tears of sorrow, weeping symphony - reflects the hurt, the scars that linger deep within and the wounds that never healed. Lacrimosa.

chapter warnings: minors dni 18+ | mafia au, dark!yoongi, mafia!yoongi, yandere, manipulation, possessive/obsessive behaviour, angst, mentions of God, mentions of alcohol, manhandling, mentions of murder, gun use, abduction, attempted non-con, gaslighting, vomiting, anxiety, choking, decapitation, strong language, smut, loss of virginity

beta read by @chaoticpuff17

word count: 844

disclaimer: this story is purely fictional, it does not depict real-life events or involve any actual members of BTS. This story will contain depictions of violence, blood shed, death, mentions of abuse, smoking, alcohol drinking, illegal activities, old social norms and traditions, which we do not condone.

m.list CHAPTER I CHAPTER II CHAPTER III CHAPTER IV CHAPTER V CHAPTER VI

“Do we?-” She interrupted, praying for a change of his mind, though fully aware of the inevitability. He needed to ensure no loopholes in their marriage for others to exploit or for her to negotiate over. She knows this is mandatory.

“Yes, we do,” he acknowledged after some thought. Knowing what she had been through that day, he recognised the potential impact, but he also saw it as a way to fully claim her. It was a selfish desire, perhaps, but one he had long awaited. 

Yoongi longed to feel her skin to skin. It was indeed selfish, he knew that much. Some would say it is careless of him to demand such an intimate act to happen after all she has been through. But he wanted to show her that this is a part of their marriage she can truly enjoy. Yoongi wanted to give a final full stop to their relationship by solidifying the union rightfully, as the tradition goes.

The flickering flames of the fireplace danced in the dimly lit room, casting a warm glow upon Y/N and Yoongi. Consummating the marriage was a private but necessary measure.

His selfishness had not gone unnoticed by the syndicate elders, who questioned his insistence on not just any hotel room but the house where generations of memories had been created. He deliberately wanted to spend the night in the house he grew up in, where his father started a family, and his grandfather, and his grandfather and so on down the history line.

Yoongi, having lost his parents at a young age, yearned to start his own family. He wanted to witness the growth of his children, their marriages, and their own families.

Y/N knew this day would come, sooner or later, and as a young woman, she had learnt to protect herself from unplanned consequences. She understood his desire for a child, though he never explicitly discussed it with her. But she was far from being ready to surrender to the life fate had planned for her, not just yet.

Heaven had given her a sign, a slight hope when she found a particular herb in the garden before the first snow fell. Y/N had kept it discreet, asking the maid to dry the flowers and serve them as tea in the morning. Tonight, she was calm, knowing it could not happen, even if he wished otherwise.

Yoongi observed her hesitance, her eyes reflecting a mixture of fear and resilience. The room, with its walls that held generations of memories, seemed to echo with the weight of tradition and expectation. But as he reached out to touch her cheek gently, his eyes softened.

The sharp sound of a loud whistle from the tea kettle startled them both, tearing them out of the cocoon of their thoughts. The iron kettle hung gracefully over the open flame, steam rising in wisps as if trying to escape the weight of the night. Yoongi carefully prepared the tea, his movements deliberate and unhurried. The aroma of freshly brewed leaves filled the air. The porcelain teapot, an heirloom passed down through generations, sat patiently on the wooden small table that was next to them. As he poured the tea into delicate cups, he eyed her small physique yet again, searching for any signs.

She accepted the cup he offered her, the warmth seeping through the delicate porcelain. Her mind briefly paused when she recognised the familiar scent. She chuckled and Yoongi raised his eyebrows in surprise, awaiting her words. Y/N took a few careful sips from the cup, accepting what it offered.

“Are you afraid, Kkangpae?” She asked, taking another sip. Yoongi put his cup on the wooden table and looked directly in her eyes.

“Me? No,” he pointed at himself, hiding a smile.

“So why did you choose to make tea from Valerian root?” Her studies that surely included herbalism had escaped Yoongi’s mind.

“I knew this night would be difficult for you, and I — I wanted to ensure it went as smoothly as possible,” he confessed.

“Considerate,” she muttered, more to herself than to him. Yoongi’s gaze faltered, and he looked away momentarily.

“I want you to enjoy it—”

“Then make me enjoy it,” she interrupted him yet again, gulping down the contents of her cup, setting it down with a gentle clink next to his almost full one.

“I intend to,” he said. The complexities of tradition, the weight of the syndicate expectations, seemed to press down on them like the heavy beams of the hanok. Yet, he was thrilled at the prospect of laying her down and making love to her, while she tried to make peace with the path ahead.

A mixture of emotions played across Y/N’s face, the tension in the air made her anxious. The tea flowed in her system, calming her. The steps were set, and she cannot back down now.

His hands cradled her face, a gesture that held both tenderness and an unspoken understanding. But Y/N knows he will never understand. And thus, the night unfolded.

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[princessamericachavez]

My thoughts about the Ted Lasso finale (no particular order)

The end montage was obviously Ted’s dream for the future and not even subtly so jot that down

Actually just gonna add that this is the show’s way of telling us the potential these characters have and what Ted wishes for them but without his presence it’s up to them now

Roy mouthing alone to Goodbye, Farewell broke me because he’s clearly the one who put together the choreography

Also Dani singing? My most beloved

Jaime and Roy clashing one last time might have pissed some people off but this was always a rock in their shoe that they needed to address and we see that their relationship can and will survive it

I like Rebecca’s romcom ending even if I wanted her to end with Ted.

Ted going back to his son was necessary and the whole point. He always blamed his father for abandoning them. When he came to Richmond he was all but running away from his family in hopes things would magically fix themselves. Instead, he put in the work and healed. But his biggest triggers were always connected to him missing his son’s life. In the end, Ted’s growth was the point so he could go back to them and be the best version of himself for them and for himself.

Ted not talking while Rebecca rambles was actually perfect. Old bitter Rebecca would’ve never opened up like that. But old Ted would’ve also rushed to reassure her or try to make a joke or cheer her up. This time, Ted lets her speak and then sticks to his guns, even if the truth is uncomfortable for others. He allows himself to do this for himself and not to please others.

Beard staying for Jane was foreseeable given the toxic codependent nature of their relationship. Happy perfect endings don’t exist. His story is still developing.

Furthermore, the real growth came from Beard letting himself choose something regardless of what Ted is doing and breaking himself free from a cycle of guilt and feeling in debt.

I know it was in the dream but god I hope Roy gets therapy. We did see the roots of him wanting to change and be better and accept the help he needs so he’s in the right path.

Keeley/Roy/Jamie is still endgame in my heart. Eventually. Once all three are in the right place.

The himbos singing made me cry. A lot.

Even if it was in the dream, if Jamie actually chose to reconnect to his dad somehow I think it wouldn’t be the end of the world. He would get to do it on his terms and only because he chose to have him in his life to some degree. Which might simply be being civil and talking from time to time, so long as his father keeps putting in the work to better himself and takes steps to make amends and apologize and acknowledge all his wrongs. Who knows. It’s an open ending.

Loved everything about the match.

Glad Van Damme got closure from Rani Dojas and that Dani acknowledged his part in what happened and tried to make amends.

CANT believe they made me feel sorry for George.

The cold open was a tease but I loved to see what could’ve been (and who says Ted and Rebecca didn’t find each other while running away from all that noise and one thing less t another…)

I wish we’d seen Sam’s restaurant and his cute chef one last time.

Actually wish we’d had a little bit of all the other himbos.

And finally

Finally

I… don’t think it was the series’s finale. I don’t know. I might be wrong but lately all interviews from the cast suggest deep down they hope something else will come and maybe they’ll be like “you know what, this story isn’t over” or something.

That last scene and the musical cue with Ted’s final shot felt so dissonant to me. Like there’s something still unfinished there.

I, like Roy Kent, have all my fingers crossed.

[robfinancialtip]

David Whelan stresses the profound impact of his disability on his road to healing and enduring life, drawing on his own experiences for inspiration. He recounts how his injury-related issues now act as doses of strength during tournaments, providing a motivational viewpoint on conquering barriers. David acknowledges his discomfort and negative thoughts but sees them as necessary components of his path, allowing him to confront and defeat them during his endurance sports undertakings. For him, remembering his trauma during these times becomes a valuable tool for moving ahead in life.

David considers the endurance necessary in athletics and life, acknowledging that adversities are unavoidable and serve as fuel for progress. He emphasizes the significance of learning to withstand and negotiate obstacles rather than chasing a relaxing lifestyle. This viewpoint implies a more profound understanding of resilience and human development, in which setbacks are regarded as motivating chances for strength and advancement. David indicates that accepting these obstacles might develop resilience and tenacity, valuable skills in athletics and life.

The connection between endurance sports and life emphasizes David's conviction in the importance of confronting and conquering challenges as a source of inspiration. He contends that surviving adversity entails enduring bodily suffering and overcoming the mental and emotional challenges that life throws at you. Individuals who learn to deal with these situations might progress despite hurdles, eventually becoming stronger and more resilient. David's perspective provides a remarkable insight into the attitude necessary for success in sports and life, motivating others to view setbacks as chances for progress.

Dave's comments convey endurance, tenacity, and progress, encouraging those experiencing similar problems. His story of overcoming pain and tragedy exemplifies the transformational power of endurance, inspiring others to go above their boundaries. Individuals may build the strength and resilience required to flourish in sports and other undertakings by accepting obstacles and learning to overcome them. Dave's prompts thought on how hardship may be transformed into chances for growth and personal development, inspiring others to begin their journeys of self-discovery and accomplishment.

[canonizzyhours]

the canyon are really on one the last few days in the tags. calling ed an abuser, whining about izzy dying being unfair and cruel. i've been going on a blocking spree. it's obviously in desperate response to the surge of reason from this blog and other meta takes that properly represent canyon izzy in their analysis of s2.

personally i am super grateful to this blog and everyone's anon takes and other posters' metas. i've been a victim of relationship abuse and have struggled with reacting to triggers for years since that experience, because my trauma responses often hurt others, in ways that i fear are me being abusive. it's done major damage to my sense of self-worth because i have blamed myself for hurting others and felt ashamed of my difficulty controlling myself when triggered and when traumatized. this is even after years of therapists reassuring me that i'm not an abuser (doesn't absolve me of responsibility for my behaviors, and i can recognize the difference in myself versus my abusers when i acknowledge the thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours i have spent on therapy over the years to work on myself and my relationships).

i really identify with ed as a character with similar struggles, and with the fear that i'm unable to change, the fear that i am just as bad and dangerous as my abusers and thus possibly deserving of the abuse in some way. OFMD depicts this aspect of surviving family and relationship abuse that is otherwise rarely (never?) shown in mainstream media, and it does it so thoughtfully and beautifully and in a way that feels HEALING and like it gives me hope. i wish the canyon folks could have the empathy they so clearly have for izzy, a pretty nasty and harmful dude, for ed as well, so that they could feel some of the healing and hope from this show that they clearly are in search of. or that they could recognize the healing and hope present in izzy's arc in s2 instead of centering his character over ed's. i do think their inability to do so stems from (unconscious) white supremacist bias that they aren't willing to acknowledge. props to the writers for killing off the white guy to advance the indigenous person's character growth for once, as it's clearly necessary as a wake-up call and challenge to audiences who are used to white supremacist ways of seeing and aren't happy that they're not being coddled with that shit. i just hope they don't get cold feet about it in s3 after all the canyon backlash online and take that as representative of the core audience. it isn't.

#143.

[hisui-dreamer]

ode to the two of spades

Pairing: Deuce Spade x gn!reader

Synopsis: he had many flaws, he himself acknowledged that, but you loved him regardless

Tags: drabble, fluff, slightly poetic hehe, reader is a simp for deuce, bot proofread

Word count: 601

Notes: deuce's birthday fic is finally here!!! so sorry this took so long :⁠'⁠( i can't believe i've gotten even more busy now that i have an internship, but i hope to write more during said job hehehe

Your lover is straightforward, with a no-nonsense approach to life. There's a refreshing honesty in his words and actions. He doesn't play games or hide behind facades. What you see is an unadorned reflection of his soul, and you find solace in his genuine nature. In a world veiled by facades and secrets, he is a breath of fresh air, offering a rare glimpse of authenticity and transparency that you cherish with all your heart.

Your lover is a relentless flame, burning with diligence and illuminating the path of hard work and dedication. He pours his heart and soul into everything he does, whether it's studying late into the night or striving for excellence in his pursuits. The fire within him never wavers, casting a radiant glow that inspires you to stoke your own ambitions.

Your lover has an undeniable affinity for mechanics and fixing things. His hands, calloused from countless hours spent tinkering, possess a touch that can bring life back to the most broken of devices. You love the way his eyes light up when faced with a mechanical challenge, the way his brows furrow in deep concentration as he dissects and analyzes every intricate part. It's mesmerizing to watch him transform a pile of metal and wires into a functioning masterpiece, each movement deliberate and precise. You can always rely on him to be your personal mechanic when items you treasure have become worn out with time.

Your lover is a fighter, not only in the physical sense but also in his desire for justice. He despises cruelty and injustice, and he's not afraid to stand up for what he believes in. When he witnesses others being mistreated, he becomes a fierce protector, using his fists if necessary. It's both exhilarating and humbling to witness his unwavering sense of justice.

Your lover has a slight struggle when it comes to solving simple math problems. It's not for lack of effort or intelligence, but rather a quirk that reminds you of his unique nature. You adore the moments you share when you're studying together for the latest exam, and you can help him solve the questions he struggles with.

Your lover's love for his mother knows no bounds. He cares for his mom with a tenderness that is both gentle and fierce. From the way he talks about her, with respect and consideration, to the countless small gestures of kindness he offers, it is clear that his mother holds a special place in his heart. He goes above and beyond to ensure his mom's well-being, taking care of her with unwavering devotion. Whether it's running errands, helping with household chores, or simply being there to listen and offer support, he is a pillar of strength for her. The love he has for his mother is a testament to his character, a reflection of the deep-rooted values he carries within him.

You love how he carries the weight of his past actions, knowing that his rebellious choices left his mother sleepless nights and countless tears. The memory of her unwavering love and concern fuels his determination to be the son she always deserved. Every stride he takes towards self-improvement, every accomplishment he achieves, is a step towards healing the wounds he inflicted upon her heart.

Your love for him surpasses his past and looks forward to a future filled with growth and shared dreams. Together, you hope to navigate life's ups and downs, supporting each other, and cherishing every moment. With him, you've found a love that is raw, authentic, and true.

Your lover, is none other than Deuce Spade.

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[doerot]

My frustration with Jason Peter Todd is that there is a universe out there where he was given a decades-long character arc; one where he could learn from his mistakes, and make amends where necessary, all the while still acknowledging the pain both caused by himself, his actions, his decisions, as well as the flipside, the harm he has personally lived through intentional or not.

This is a character that will always have his motives and ideology shaped by the trauma he lived through and died for, but the way it feels like current comics interact with that trauma is just one big bad event that everyone else has gotten over and yet he is never allowed to move on from. All he is ever allowed to be is the self-proclaimed black sheep, the one who died, but he's not able to deconstruct what all that meant for him, his morals and foundational beliefs as a character, because we had to shove it all aside way to quickly to make room for big happy bat family.

His entire existence feels like it is there to either serve as a punchline or surface level angst when needed. No one knows what to do with Jason anymore because they never gave him the space for real character growth when it was necessary.

I feel like I'm always like haha yeah Jason Todd, I wish he was worse. I wish he was in more pain. I wish he was alone, and he hated everyone again and vise versa. But it's more that I find his personal morals and ethics fascinating, I just wish they were properly fleshed out and given the time and consideration to evolve and expand along with his growth as a person. I want him to be wrong. I want him to fuck up, and fuck up again. His passion is what makes him interesting!!

I also want him to learn and grow into his skin without throwing away everything he stands for. That he could actually become a solid argument to the status quo that mainline comics can find themselves falling into, one that you get the sense he was originally brought back to be. But instead, he's the angry one that is insane and kills people, or swing way too hard in the opposite end, and all of his claws have been filed off— he's just a sad boy with no real poignant internal dilemmas anymore.

Idk, maybe I like the idea of a guy being able to heal over time. Maybe the idea that you are doomed to relive the mistakes of the past forever is exhausting. But what we have right now is so boring and lame that I'm out here advocating for them to just kill him off again.

[faibleprompts]

An Unexpected Reunion

Dramione fic based off of today's Faible prompt:

The grand ballroom of the Ministry of Magic sparkled under an enchanting array of floating lanterns. A palpable excitement wound its way through the elegant crowd, mingling with the melodic sounds of the orchestra playing. Hermione Granger stood by the vast marble staircase, taking in the scene before her.

As a key figure in Magical Law Enforcement, her presence was expected at a ball like this. The past few years had been a whirlwind of change and healing from the war. She had gotten used to her mostly quiet life working at the Ministry - only big public events like this made her heart lurch.

Drawing a deep breath, she smoothed the front of her midnight-blue gown and steeled herself, prepared to navigate the sea of familiar faces. Harry and Ginny were entwined in a slow dance while Ron conversed animatedly with Luna. Everywhere she looked, there were echoes of the past intertwined with the present.

It was during her usual walk around the ballroom that her gaze froze upon a figure by the refreshment table. Draco Malfoy - tall, poised, and carrying an air of quiet reflection that seemed so at odds with the brash boy she once knew. His hair gleamed under the lantern light, his expression detached yet contemplative.

Before she could reconsider, Hermione found herself walking towards him, curiosity and unresolved emotions driving her forward. As if sensing her approach, Draco's gray eyes met hers, widening slightly in surprise before settling into a guarded calm.

"Hermione Granger," he greeted, his voice carrying a mix of nostalgia and wariness. "It's been a long time."

"Draco Malfoy," she replied, her tone carefully neutral. "Indeed, it has."

Draco's gaze softened as he turned to the refreshment table, a small but polite smile tugging at the corner of his mouth. "Would you like a drink, Hermione? They have quite an impressive selection."

With a hint of reservation still lingering in her eyes, Hermione nodded. "Sure, I'll take a glass of sparkling elderflower wine, thank you."

Draco poured their drinks with ease and handed her the glass as he raised his own in a tentative toast. "Here's to … new beginnings," he said softly, almost hopefully.

Hermione's gaze softened, touched by Draco's version of an olive branch. "To new beginnings," she echoed confidently, clinking her glass gently against his. The gesture felt significant, a quiet acknowledgment that the past, no matter how riddled with darkness, could be left behind.

They moved to a quieter corner of the ballroom, where the ambient noise of laughter and conversation softened. Draco leaned against a silk-draped column, his demeanor now surprisingly relaxed. "It's quite the event," he remarked, eyes scanning the room. "I must give the organizers credit as it is for a worthy cause."

Hermione took a sip of her drink, the subtle bubbles tickling her tongue. "Yes, the conservation of magical creatures is something I've been passionate about for years." Her voice warmed as she glanced towards the rest of the party goers. "Events like this can make a real difference."

Draco nodded, a flicker of admiration crossing his features. "Your dedication has always been commendable, even in Hogwarts. I've been contributing here and there. My focus has mostly been on reformation projects, trying to undo some of the damage caused by... well, you know."

A shadow briefly crossed Hermione's face, but she quickly replaced it with a softer expression. "It's good to see that you've found a way to make amends, Draco. I know it's not easy."

He sighed heavily. "No, it's not. But it’s necessary. For my own sanity."

They fell into a contemplative silence, allowing the weight of their shared history and now their present growth to settle around them. The orchestra's tune changed to something more upbeat, and the laughter from a nearby group interrupted their thoughts.

Breaking the silence, Hermione smiled softly at Draco. "Would you like to continue this conversation somewhere quieter? The night garden is absolutely beautiful this time of year."

Draco raised an eyebrow, a hint of surprise in his eyes, but he quickly nodded. "I'd like that."

They made their way through the crowd, excusing themselves past old classmates and colleagues until they reached the French doors leading out to the night garden. The cool evening breeze greeted them, bringing the sweet smell of flowers as they stepped onto a stone pathway illuminated by golden glowing fairy lights.

"This place is always so calming,” Hermione remarked as she wandered along the path. "It makes you forget, even if just for a moment, all the chaos."

Draco walked beside her, his hands tucked into the pockets of his elegant robes. "Yes, it's almost like... a sanctuary," he agreed, his voice thoughtful. "It’s a stark contrast to what we’ve been through, isn't it?"

Hermione stopped by a marble bench, nestled beneath a canopy of flowering vines. She gestured for Draco to sit beside her. "It is," she said, lowering herself onto the cool stone. "We've all had our battles… But here, in the peace of this garden, I hope for a better world."

Draco sat, his posture relaxed but his eyes intense as they met hers. "I've been thinking a lot about the past lately. About how we were - how I was." There was a raw honesty in his tone that caught Hermione off guard. "I'm trying to be better, Hermione. I hope … I hope people know that."

She laid a tentative hand on his arm, her eyes softening. "I know, Draco. And I see that change in you."

A comfortable silence enveloped them as Hermione’s hand lingered on Draco and they listened to the distant hum of the ball and the quiet chirping of magical insects.

After a quiet moment, their conversation still lingering in the air, Hermione and Draco slowly walked back toward the grand ballroom. The soft murmur of the night garden faded away, replaced by the lively sounds of the ball. As they re-entered, the vibrancy of the event enveloped them.

Almost immediately, they were swept into the flow of attendees making their way to the dance floor. The orchestra played a captivating waltz, its melody both haunting and beautiful. Hermione turned to Draco, their eyes locking with an understanding that transcended words.

Before they could utter another word, a pair of dancers gracefully parted, leaving a space right in the middle of the dance floor. Without thinking, Draco extended his hand. "May I have this dance?"

Hermione hesitated for a moment, then placed her hand in his. "Yes, you may."

They moved to the center of the floor, becoming the focal point of curious gazes. As the music swelled, Draco's arm encircled Hermione’s waist, guiding her effortlessly into the rhythm of the waltz. They moved gracefully, their steps surprisingly in sync despite the years of distance between them.

"You've learned to dance quite well," Hermione noted, a teasing smile playing on her lips.

Draco smirked, his expression softening with amusement. "Ugh, so many lessons as a child. I'm practically a professional ballroom dancer." Draco teased as he dipped Hermione slightly.

Hermione laughed, a genuine laugh, as Draco brought her closer. The closeness brought an unexpected comfort, the past seeming to fade with every graceful turn. The crowd around them blurred, leaving only the two of them in their bubble of dance and unspoken words.

As they twirled, Hermione allowed herself to relax into the moment, feeling the strength and assurance in Draco's movements. The past now completely dissipated, replaced by a tentative but genuine connection.

"This feels... different," Draco admitted quietly, breaking the silence between them.

"Different, but good," Hermione agreed, her voice equally soft. "I never thought we'd find ourselves here, like this."

Draco's gaze grew serious, his gray eyes searching hers. "Neither did I. But maybe that's the beauty of it. We've changed."

The waltz reached its peak, and they moved as one, their hearts beating in time with the music. When the final note played, they paused, breathing heavily, still holding each other close. The applause from the surrounding dancers brought them back to reality, cheeks flushed from the dance and perhaps something more.

As the crowd began to disperse, Draco leaned closer, his voice barely above a whisper. "Thank you for this dance, Hermione. It meant more than you know."

She smiled, a warmth in her chest that she hadn’t expected. "Thank you, Draco. For tonight."

As the orchestra began a new tune, Hermione and Draco slowly released each other, their hands lingering for just a heartbeat longer. With one final nod of acknowledgment, they turned and walked in opposite directions, each returning to the familiarity of their friends.

Hermione found Harry and Ginny. Harry raised his eyebrows in curiosity as he saw her approach. "Well, that was quite a dance," he commented, his tone light but his eyes probing.

Ginny grinned, nudging Hermione playfully. "I didn't know you and Draco Malfoy had such grace on the dance floor."

Hermione blushed slightly, grabbing a glass of punch to occupy her hands. "It was... unexpected, to say the least."

Harry’s expression softened, a hint of concern edging his voice. "Is everything alright, Hermione? You seemed - alive out there, lighter than I've seen you in ages."

She looked at her best friend, appreciating his always-insightful nature. "I think it's been a night of surprises, Harry. Talking to Draco, it was like realizing I've stepped into a new chapter of my life. He's changed, we both have."

Ginny placed a reassuring hand on Hermione’s shoulder. "Change can be good. It's clear you two have found some common ground."

Hermione nodded, her thoughts drifting back to the warmth of Draco's hand in hers, the genuine connection she felt. "Maybe it's time to let go of old grudges and see where … this leads."

Meanwhile, Draco made his way to a secluded corner where he spotted Theo Nott and Blaise Zabini. They greeted him with a mixture of surprise and curiosity.

"Well, Draco," Blaise drawled, a knowing smirk playing on his lips. "I didn't expect to see you dancing with Hermione Granger of all people."

Theo raised an amused eyebrow. "Especially not in the middle of the dance floor, like a scene from a fairy tale."

Draco sipped his drink, attempting to maintain a nonchalant demeanor. "We're not the same people we were at Hogwarts. Tonight was... an opportunity to explore new beginnings."

Theo nodded thoughtfully. "Seems like you're both trying to move forward. Good on you, Draco."

Blaise leaned in, his tone serious but his eyes twinkling with amusement. "You know, Malfoy, I think this might just be the start of something interesting."

Draco's gaze drifted back toward where he had left Hermione. "Yes," he said softly, almost to himself. "I think it just might be."

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Read on AO3: https://archiveofourown.org/works/56815894 OR continue the story on your own on Faible: https://app.faible.ai/#/story/200b356b-a102-41a1-bde7-a931c97d0235/9

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Thoughts About Last Twilight Finale as I watched it

One part of me is happy to seeing them flirting and getting along, but the other rage-filled part of me that has not healed from episode 11 is honestly kind of upset about them being able to do that again like the breakup wasn't as painful as it was. Like obviously its been several years and i'm glad they aren't holding onto any of the pain from it because that wouldn't be healthy but just.....it hurts a little seeing the characters be okay when i'm still not. (And like it was a painful breakup and we're seeing no trace of that with their interactions).

I appreciate Night and Porjai little attempts to get them to talk and Mhok being a bridesmaid makes me happy.

Ok so they've talked about the breakup and Mhok's thanking Day for it? And saying he was right? So we just aren't going to discuss that fact that Mhok's actions were a combo of things besides pity? Like his trauma with his sister? I want it to be addressed gosh darn it, they haven't talked about it enough in this show. They spent this whole show talking about how Mhok didn't pity him and now you're saying that in an instance where Mhok's actions could be explained by a couple different reasons, you went with "actually he does pity him" as the reason? I just feel like there were better ways this could have been addressed but they had limited time.

"I can't believe its been three years" 

*me, upset, staring at my screen* "Me too"

(You went three years without talking?!?! After breaking up over one argument!?!?)

"Whatever problems you have, talk to each other" where was this advice during episode 11, it could have saved a lot of time and heartbreak

You know what, I'm tired of being upset, bring out Poomjai, i want to see her and have Mhok see her

ok she's out of focus but she looks very sweet

the problem here is that I can't tell if Day is just hesitant to try again with Mhok or actually doesn't want to, so every time Mhok references it I feel awkward. I know its supposed to be a romance show so they'll probably end up together but.....

ok Day made a joke about it so I guess he's not too uncomfortable but still...

Poor mhok.....I honestly hope that if they do decide to get back together, its because Day went after him and told him that he really did want to get back with him because I feel like too much of the show has been Mhok taking the steps forward with their relationship

looks like i get my wish....ah the classic airport scene

I highly doubt he actually left on the plane but you know what, maybe its good to let them sit with this emotion for a little while (I'm sorry, I'm still so mad)

So it was a setup...but how????? like???? what???? If you knew Mhok would be in there, when did he let you know, because there was no point in running around the airport if you knew he would stay....

Honestly I feel like the breakup was pointless now... like yeah they had the conversation about growth and whatever but it feels like Mhok acts the exact same so I don't feel necessarily if he can differentiate between he role as a caretaker and as a boyfriend, which was a legitimate problem. And I also kind of hate that he is apologizing. It just feels like Mhok is once again focusing on others feelings and not his own, and so they will run into the same issue as they did before.

As you can probably tell from all this, I now feel very protective of Mhok and it makes me upset that he hasn't gotten the chance to work through some of his issues. I know he is more the type to pretend everything is okay, but there has to be a limit. Like at the least acknowledgement of his pain

They're having a baby!?!?

We get a happy ending

Final thoughts: 

It was a good show and I enjoyed it for most of it. I understand why they did the breakup (though I don't think it was entirely necessary), and yes it may have been good for them as a couple, however I wish it had either happened earlier or they made the show longer because it felt very quick leading up to it, and I felt like the last episode just didn't have time for them to discuss it in a more meaningful way and actually show why it was beneficial for both of them. I also think it would have given more time for the audience to process everything (it resulted in me thinking too much about the breakup to be able to be happy at some of the good things about episode 12). We got one conversation about why breaking up allowed them to grow, and I just wish we had a bit more than that. I also would have liked it if it had discussed Mhok's troubles and emotions a bit more. It led to the relationship feeling a little bit unbalanced some of the time. Overall (!) I enjoyed it (with the exception of certain storylines that I have already discussed). I don't think I can ever classify as a comfort show again (as I did before episode 11). It was definitely not perfect, but it wasn't an awful show, and so I am going to try and remember the good parts of it.

[1solone]

Until a man heals himself, he will be toxic to every woman who tries to love him. This profound statement highlights the importance of self-reflection, personal growth, and emotional intelligence in relationships.

When a man is struggling with unresolved issues, such as past traumas, insecurities, or unprocessed emotions, he may unintentionally project his pain onto the women in his life. This can manifest as toxic behavior, including emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or even physical abuse.

Healing is not just a personal journey, but also a necessary step towards becoming a healthy partner. By confronting his demons and working through his struggles, a man can develop emotional resilience, empathy, and a deeper understanding of himself and those around him.

Only when he has faced his inner battles and emerged stronger, wiser, and more self-aware can he truly be present and supportive for the women in his life. Until then, any attempts at love and connection may be tainted by his unresolved issues, causing harm to both himself and those he cares about.

This message is not meant to vilify or shame men, but rather to encourage them to take ownership of their emotional well-being and to recognize the importance of self-healing in building healthy, loving relationships. By acknowledging and addressing their own wounds, men can transform themselves into the partners, friends, and family members that women deserve.

[redjadethewriter]

"You're Brave To Choose 'Not' To Forgive"

While watching an ex-therapist discuss the concept of forgiveness, their perspective intrigued me. They argued that forgiveness can sometimes serve as a way to dissociate from our true feelings. It was a refreshing take, as we often hear phrases like “You need to find forgiveness in your perpetrator” or “You’re brave for being so forgiving.” However, I believe there is a distinction between apologizing for our actions and genuinely working on personal growth and emotional maturity.

Apologizing involves taking accountability for the harm we have caused and actively striving to become a better person. It requires self-reflection and understanding of the root causes of our destructive actions. It is not about seeking forgiveness solely to repair relationships or improve our image in the eyes of others.

In the past, I apologized with the expectation of forgiveness, without truly learning from my mistakes. I yearned to have that person back in my life or to enhance my reputation, rather than sincerely addressing the underlying issues that led to my harmful behavior. I now realize that I needed to take responsibility for my actions and focus on personal growth, rather than seeking forgiveness as a means to move on.

It is essential to delve into the reasons behind our uncontrollable emotions and the destructive actions they may trigger. By understanding the root of these issues, we can work towards genuine personal growth and emotional healing.

The guy spoke about his decision not to forgive his parents, explaining how it saved his life. This choice helped him grieve, reconnect with his emotions, and ultimately recover from his trauma. I can completely understand why he needed to do that, and it made me reflect on my own experiences. Why did we spend so many years constantly forgiving those who hurt us the most? In his case, he had to forgive his parents because he depended on them. He talked about feeling trapped, having nowhere else to go, lacking the financial means to leave, and being too inexperienced to navigate life on his own. It’s devastating when forgiveness becomes the only option, leading to dissociation and enduring constant issues, all while trying to cope with the trauma of being stuck with the very people who caused it.

I have spoken to many people in my life who describe feeling like orphans, despite having parents. These individuals have endured neglect, deficient parenting, and various forms of abuse. Some of them even argue that certain individuals should never become parents in the first place. I deeply admire those who openly admit that they do not want to have children to spare them from inheriting or experiencing trauma. It shows their recognition of the flaws within the current system.

Occasionally, my mother has expressed her wish that she had never been born when overwhelmed by life’s challenges. It’s an unsettling sentiment, but it’s a rare occasion where we find common ground. These conversations may not be healthy, but then again, mentally or emotionally healthy individuals did not raise us, nor did we grow up in a safe environment.

I even had to tell my mother that she doesn’t have to forgive anyone, but she should acknowledge that our entire bloodline is dysfunctional. This dysfunction stems from centuries of accumulated issues and challenges. However, it doesn’t mean that we must subject ourselves to toxicity any longer. Instead, let’s wish them well and distance ourselves from the negativity.

Of course, there are some individuals who choose to believe in forgiveness as a virtue and expose themselves to a lot of nonsense, even when they have the means to separate themselves from it. On the other hand, there are those of us who don’t have that luxury and must find a way to survive by any means necessary.

As for me, I cannot bring myself to forgive anyone for their actions. I simply acknowledge that we are all products of the accumulated nonsense that has plagued our bloodline and society. However, it is crucial that actions are held accountable and not excused.

I once had a friend who desired her parents to take responsibility for their actions. I had to explain to her it’s highly unlikely that she will ever receive that accountability from them, and the same may be true for the rest of us. The individuals who have caused harm would first have to acknowledge to themselves that they have done something truly terrible that has hurt us. Unfortunately, I doubt their ego will allow them to do so, as it would mean they would have to confront their own flaws and potentially view themselves as less than good people, especially if they hold that belief about themselves.

Hence, I concur that forgiveness may not be the most effective approach in life. As he remarked, “It’s courageous of you to choose not to forgive,” and I fully agree. This is true when you have been raised to believe that forgiveness is an empowering act, when in reality, I have never experienced a sense of empowerment or liberation when uttering the words, “I forgive you.” Instead, I would much prefer to witness individuals taking proactive steps to improve themselves as human beings, without expecting my forgiveness. Merely recognizing their struggles and acknowledging that they have personal issues to overcome would suffice.

Thank you!

[themuselesswriter]

Guys I’m wheezing, I asked chatgpt to write me a Supernanny x Otto family episode and it’s hilarious so y’all need to read it 😹 I did it twice, cause I was having a lot of fun! And can we just appreciate how AI got Troy right? Like, they are all talking about improvement and Troy is like "I just wanna be free" xD Anyyyyhoo, enjoy! Lemme know who to do next!

Supernanny's Intervention - Bringing Hope to the Otto Family

[Episode begins with Supernanny Jo Frost driving up to the Otto family's residence. She steps out of her car and walks up to the front door, ready to make a difference.]

Supernanny Jo Frost (to the camera): Today, I'm heading to the Otto family, where the challenges go beyond just parenting. It's about survival in a world gone mad.

[Supernanny rings the doorbell. Tracy Otto, looking tired and stressed, opens the door.]

Tracy Otto: Hi, you must be Supernanny. I'm Tracy.

Supernanny Jo Frost: Hello, Tracy. Nice to meet you. I've heard you've been through a lot. May I come in?

[They enter the living room where Jeremiah Otto is sitting.]

Jeremiah Otto: Who's this?

Supernanny Jo Frost: I'm Supernanny Jo Frost, and I'm here to help your family. Can we talk?

[They sit down together.]

Supernanny Jo Frost: Tracy, Jeremiah, I've heard about the challenges you've faced since the world changed. But despite the circumstances, it's important to ensure your family's well-being. I understand it's not easy, but we need to address some issues.

Tracy Otto: We're doing the best we can, considering.

Supernanny Jo Frost: I'm sure you are, Tracy. But the boys, Jake and Troy, they need guidance, structure, and a safe environment. Jake's had to grow up too fast, and Troy, he's been on the brink.

Jeremiah Otto: We're survivors here. We're teaching them to survive.

Supernanny Jo Frost: I get it, but surviving isn't enough. We need to thrive, especially for the boys. Jake's been through trauma, and Troy's been neglected. They need a supportive home, not just a survival camp.

Tracy Otto: We've been through so much. We can't be the parents we used to be.

Supernanny Jo Frost: Tracy, I know it's tough, but it's time to heal. It's time to address the abuse and neglect that's been happening here. It's time to make a change.

[Supernanny talks with Jake and Troy, learning about their struggles.]

Supernanny Jo Frost: (to Jake and Troy) You both deserve a better life. You deserve safety, love, and a chance to be kids. And you, Jeremiah, need to stop perpetuating the cycle of abuse.

Jeremiah Otto: (defensive) You don't understand what it's like out there.

Supernanny Jo Frost: I understand that the world has changed, but your family can change too. It starts with acknowledging the issues and working together.

[Supernanny works with the family to create a plan for healing and growth.]

Supernanny Jo Frost: (to the camera) Over the next few weeks, we're going to rebuild this family. It's not going to be easy, but it's necessary for their survival as a family unit.

[The episode shows the Otto family going through counseling, learning communication skills, and creating a nurturing environment.]

Tracy Otto: (teary-eyed) I want my boys to have a chance at a real life.

Jeremiah Otto: I know I've made mistakes. It's time to change that.

[The episode ends with a heartwarming moment where the Otto family comes together for a family meal.]

Supernanny Jo Frost: (to the camera) Change is possible, even in the most challenging circumstances. It's about choosing to be better, for ourselves and for the ones we love.

[Supernanny leaves the Otto family with resources and support to continue their journey towards healing and growth.]

Supernanny Jo Frost: (to the camera) It's a long road ahead, but with dedication and love, this family can overcome even the darkest challenges.

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Supernanny: Reclaiming Hope

Narrator: On this episode of Supernanny, Jo Frost visits the Otto family from Fear the Walking Dad, a family battling not only zombies but their own internal struggles. With Jeremiah's abusive behavior, Tracy's dependence on alcohol, and the emotional scars carried by Jake and Troy, can Jo guide them towards a better future?

[Opening scene]

Narrator: In a world dominated by the undead, the Otto family fights battles within their own home.

[Jo Frost's arrival]

Jo: Hi, I'm Jo Frost. I've come to help you rebuild your family. Let's find a way to create a healthier and happier life for all of you.

[Meeting the family]

Jeremiah: Our world has turned upside down. I've tried to keep us safe, but it's taken a toll on our family.

Tracy: (tearfully) I don't know how to cope anymore.

Jake: I've had to be the parent for too long.

Troy: (holding back tears) This place is suffocating.

Jo: I'm here to support you all in making positive changes. Let's work together.

[Addressing Jeremiah's abuse]

Jo: (firmly) Jeremiah, your anger is hurting your family. We need to find healthier ways to communicate and resolve conflicts.

Jeremiah: It's a tough world out there. I need to be tough too.

Jo: Toughness doesn't have to mean aggression. Let's learn how to create a safer environment for everyone.

[Dealing with Tracy's alcoholism]

Jo: (sitting with Tracy) Tracy, alcohol won't make the pain go away. It's time to face your struggles and seek healthier ways to cope.

Tracy: I know I need help, but I don't know where to start.

Jo: We'll take it step by step. Your family needs you to be present and sober.

[Supporting the children]

Jo: (speaking with Jake) Jake, you've taken on too much responsibility. Let's work on restoring your role as a son.

Jake: It's been overwhelming, but I miss being just a kid.

Jo: (speaking with Troy) Troy, you deserve a life free from fear. Let's help you find your own path.

Troy: I want out of here so badly.

[Healing and rebuilding]

Jo: We're going to focus on open communication and building trust. Your family needs to work as a team to overcome the challenges ahead.

[Breakthrough]

Jeremiah: (apologizing) I know I've been too hard on you all.

Tracy: (hugging Jeremiah) We can't let anger tear us apart.

Jake: (tearfully) I want to be a brother again, not a father figure.

Troy: (finding his voice) I want to find my own way in this world.

[Family activities]

Jo: Today, we're going to have fun as a family. Strengthening your bonds through positive experiences.

[Final thoughts]

Jo: The Otto family has been through hell, but they're making strides towards healing and unity. Remember, there's always hope for a better future.

[Closing scene]

Narrator: With Jo's guidance, the Otto family is on a journey to rebuild their lives. As they face both the living and the dead, they're learning that their greatest strength lies in their ability to support and love each other.

[leomonwell]

Addressing Mental Health in the Black Community

Today, I’m excited to bring you a conversation that’s as powerful as it is necessary. Dave Tucker, joined me on my podcast to share his journey through the medical system, particularly his experiences with depression.

Dave’s story is a reflection of what many of us go through, especially in the Black community, where mental health often takes a backseat. We talked about the highs and lows of his journey and, most importantly, how he found a way forward. His insights are not just eye-opening but also a call to action for anyone struggling silently. Watch the full episode on YouTube OR continue reading below:

Depression: The Unseen Battle

One of the first things Dave opened up about was his struggle with depression. It’s something that doesn’t just come and go—it can linger, especially when left unaddressed. For Dave, the loss of his grandmother triggered a deep sadness that morphed into anger. He explained how, in our community, this often gets dismissed as just another instance of the “Angry Black Man” stereotype. But the truth is, the anger often masks a deeper pain—a wound that never had the chance to heal because no one was willing to ask the right questions or provide the right support.

This brings up a critical point Dave made: when people ask, “How are you?” the expected answer is “I’m good,” even when we’re not. He’d prefer people ask, “What are you?” because it invites a more meaningful conversation. It’s a simple shift that could make a big difference in how we connect and understand each other.

Mental Health and the Black Community: A Tough Conversation

We explored why mental health struggles often go unspoken in the Black community. From a young age, many of us hear dismissive responses like, “What do you have to be depressed about?” This minimizes our feelings and teaches us to suppress our emotions rather than express them. Dave pointed out that this dismissiveness often extends into adulthood, making it hard for Black men, in particular, to seek help.

The importance of representation in healthcare also came up. Dave shared how much more comfortable it was for him to talk to someone who understood his background and experiences. While he acknowledges that anyone can offer support regardless of their race, there’s something reassuring about seeing yourself in the person helping you. It’s not about exclusion but about comfort and trust.

Finding a Way Out

Dave’s turning point came when he realized his unhealthy coping mechanisms—excessive drinking and other destructive behaviors—were only making things worse. It took a visit to a doctor who listened, understood, and didn’t jump straight to medication. With the help of therapy, Dave began to turn things around. His therapist didn’t just treat the symptoms; she helped him find healthy ways to cope, without immediately resorting to medication.

Dave’s therapy journey wasn’t smooth at first. Like many, he was skeptical about opening up to a stranger. But over time, he found that therapy was a safe space where he could be himself without judgment. He emphasized that therapy doesn’t have to be forever. It’s about growth and progress. Sometimes that means moving from weekly sessions to bi-weekly ones, and eventually to a place where you don’t need therapy as often—or at all.

Advice for Those on the Fence

Dave’s advice to anyone on the fence about seeking mental health support is simple: Recognize the signs, listen to those who care about you, and find what works for you. Whether it’s virtual therapy, a chat board, or in-person sessions, the key is to start somewhere. He also highlighted the importance of holistic approaches—methods that focus on the whole person, not just the symptoms.

Mental health doesn’t have to be a forever battle. With the right support, we can all move toward a better, healthier future. As Dave said, “You don’t know what people are going through. Every step forward, regardless of how small, is progress.”

This conversation is just the beginning. We must continue to break the silence around mental health, especially within the Black community. Because at the end of the day, caring for our mental health is just as crucial as caring for our physical health.

If you’re struggling, know that it’s okay to seek help. As Dave’s story shows, it’s never too late to turn things around.

[high-priestess-house]

Hi, I hope you're having a nice day :)

I was wondering if I could get a reading on what the rest of this year could have in store for me as I've experienced some endings in my life that have left me confused about my path and not sure where to go from here, thank you! - ZL

Hi!

There is indication of healing, clarity, and renewed energy. There’s an image of a bridge connecting two shores, suggesting a transition period where you are moving from one phase of your life to another, finding new paths and opportunities.

Your guides are encouraging you to view the recent endings as opportunities for growth and transformation. They emphasize the importance of remaining open and trusting in the journey ahead.

There’s a soothing, warm sensation in your solar plexus area, indicating a need for confidence and self-assurance. You may feel a mix of relief and anticipation as you think about the future. This suggests that your guides are providing support and encouragement, helping you to rebuild your confidence and find your direction. Your energy feels steady and hopeful, aligning with the positive changes coming your way.

Card 1: The Death

The Death card symbolizes transformation, endings, and new beginnings. This card acknowledges the recent endings in your life and signifies that you are going through a period of profound change. It suggests that these endings are necessary for your personal growth and that they are paving the way for new opportunities. The Death card encourages you to embrace this transformation and to let go of what no longer serves you.

Card 2: The Ace of Pentacles

The Ace of Pentacles represents new beginnings, prosperity, and the manifestation of goals. This card suggests that the rest of the year will bring new opportunities for financial growth and personal development. It indicates that you may start new projects or ventures that have the potential to bring stability and success. The Ace of Pentacles encourages you to take practical steps towards your goals and to make the most of the opportunities presented to you.

ZL, the energies and cards suggest that the rest of this year will be a period of transformation and new beginnings for you. By embracing the recent endings and viewing them as opportunities for growth, you will pave the way for positive changes and new opportunities. Trust in the process and take practical steps towards your goals. The universe is guiding you towards a path of prosperity and personal development.

Wishing you clarity and success on your journey ahead!

[hopeafterharm]

The comments section on social media in connection to this article reflects a misunderstanding of trauma's true nature. Many don't realize that trauma comes in various forms - both 'Big T' and 'little t'. These experiences, ranging from the overtly catastrophic to the subtly distressing, significantly shape how we learn to integrate into life as adults. Our perceptions, beliefs about ourselves, and our ability to form relationships are often deeply rooted in our childhood experiences. As parents, we are fallible; we err in ways that can be profound or minor, yet these missteps are part of a legacy inherited from generation to generation.

It is commendable that this issue is being brought to light. The tendency to hide our struggles, to sweep them under the rug, does a disservice to our collective growth. The reality is stark: humans and parents are not infallible. We have the capacity to inflict considerable harm upon one another, often inadvertently. Acknowledging this is not an indictment of our character but a necessary step towards healing. Only by confronting the root causes of our behaviors can we hope to break the perpetuating cycles of trauma.

Replacing shame, blame, judgment, and guilt with awareness, accountability, grace, acceptance, forgiveness, and communication is imperative. These are the tools that can transform our interactions and foster healing. Everyone, at some point, has encountered trauma, but the divergence lies in our response to it. There is a profound difference between leveraging trauma as a crutch to excuse our actions and choosing to heal from it, striving to act differently and better.

By embracing our past, understanding its impact, and working through the pain, we can chart a new course. This process is neither easy nor swift, but it is the foundation upon which we can build healthier relationships and a more understanding society. Let's continue this conversation, break the silence, and support each other in our journey toward healing and growth.