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mymanskabu · 5 years ago

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Kabu One-Shot:

A Kiss in Ten Seconds

Anonie requested: ❝Idk if I can req anything for the holidays or if it's too late but, just in case. Can you do something for Kabu finding out his champion!s/o will be too busy on New Years Eve and New Years Day bc of all the events that are going on? Then how would he react, when people are literally doing the 10 second count down right before midnight and he sees his s/o burst into the room/wherever he is, panting, out of breath, looking for him just so they could be there to kiss him when the countdown's over?❞

× IM UPLOADING THIS AT 11:59PM Or at least that's the time it is for me as I post this! I know its 2020 already for many of you! I wish you guys a good New Years!

× sorry some of y'alls requests will have taken a year to get done. Please don't unfollow, I am a hard-working person with one brain cell.

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No one told you just how tedious and time consuming being a Champion would be. No wonder the former one appears much less stressed, the poor guy barely had time for his family on this schedule. You were constantly on the move and everyone wanted to talk to you. Leon came around to check on you after you had sent him a text saying, "Help, why are they coming for my life, I have a shit to do."

"Your schedule is very full," He said, looking at you apologetically. "There should be a warning before people try to become Champion, this is a workload that would surely scare off a lot of trainers."

"I don't even have time for my hobbies!" You flip the page to your schedule and half of next month was already full. "I'm lucky enough to manage a call to my mom and one of the only times I see Kabu is when I am going home in the middle of the night." You were surprised the man hasn't decided to leave you. You would completely understand if he couldn't handle being with someone so busy.

"I was undefeated for a very long time," Leon starts explaining. "Your schedule is much fuller than mine was because you beat someone that no one else could for many years. Even those older than me and with perhaps more experience couldn't defeat me."

"You're telling me your schedule wasn't this hectic?" You stared down at the calendar, realizing that talking to Leon was going to get cut short anytime soon.

"It was hectic definitely. Not like this." Leon gave you a comforting pat on your shoulder. "The workload will lessen later on, not sure by how much but you can only repeat a story for so long before people get bored. Then you have to worry about people trying to force a story to happen. At least you have off time when the Gym Challenge is not at large."

"I'm going to lose to the next challenger on purpose," You said. It got a chuckle out of Leon who raised a brow at you, questioning the honesty of your statement. "Or not." You sighed. "Too many benefits outweighing the negatives right now. Well, I'm happy you're able to have more time for other projects Leon!"

"Thank you... Champion."

You were getting many challengers nowadays. People who couldn't defeat Leon come back thinking they can defeat you, plenty of Challengers coming for your title, and new ones in the making. You had a lot of paperwork as well, surprisingly enough. A lot of interviews, so many damn interviews, and your privacy? Almost completely gone. You were grateful for having been with Kabu since before you even challenged the Gyms to attempt being Champion.

Unfortunately your relationship with him was outed rather quickly because of that though. Even if it was a secret, the ring on a specific finger would have also given you away. That was quite recent, it was his surprise for when you became Champion so now wedding planning is somewhere quite far in the schedule. Your management didn't consider it as important as you did, it's something you had to force into your schedule. They only care about managing your public image, personal problems don't rank high on their list of priorities when they're organizing your calendar.

Champions also have to be very involved with Galar and it's people. You had to understand the public opinion, the government opinion, and manage almost any incoming threat. That was terrifying, they sent you to anything just because you happen to be strongest around right now. You had to suck it up and protect the people, show them that their Champion can do probably anything.

You read over your schedule with Leon for a bit longer until you saw something in it that was irritating. "Leon. Why in the world do I have interviews for both New Years Eve and New Years. They can't take those days! I wanted to... I need to be..." You were fuming. You told them not to fill the holidays and they didn't for the past ones, but for some reason they filled those two dates.

"There isn't much you can do about that," He says. "You can try but I remember trying and they... if its urgent, its unlikely." Leon continued with saying that they probably gave you the prior holidays so that you didn't have room to completely complain about your management.

Your phone started ringing. You hesitated to pick up the phone knowing that it'll be someone to take you away for another interview, photoshoot, or fan meet. You didn't hate the people that wanted to meet you, your anger was mostly directed towards the people that were stuffing so much into your schedule. Leon was right though, they can't keep this up forever and hopefully later on it will get more tolerable.

"Are you alright?" His familiar voice caused your shoulders to ease up. You were crossing your arms on the table with your head laid on them. You had came home tired of socializing and still having to do some paperwork having to do with former Chairman Rose.

"Yes, I'm fine. I'm tired though, mentally tired to tell you the truth." You stretched your arms upwards then felt two arms wrap around your shoulders when you put them down. "Kabu, I can't be with you during New Years Eve or New Years. It says its urgent but I very much doubt these Talk Shows need me that badly."

You didn't hear anything from behind you for a long moment. He was most likely thinking, you were too, and depending on what he says, you might just consider the idea of letting him go. It hurt you to ponder upon such a thing, but there's other people out there that could give Kabu much more of their time.

"I understand," He finally said, "I'll open up the Stadium for those that need a warm place to be on those days and I will be thinking of you when the countdown starts."

"You don't have to be like that, you know? You don't have to understand, you can be mad at me, you can be frustrated at me, I won't... I won't blame you!" You got up from where you were sitting to face him. He held your hands and promptly shook his head in response.

"I'm not sure you knew this, love but you do not plan your schedule." He kisses your knuckles to comfort you. "If I am to be frustrated at anyone it will be whoever made you busy on those two days. Was there anything you could do about it?"

"I tried, but they just repeatedly tell me that it's an urgent thing I need to be at," You reply, a frustrated sigh escaping past your lips.

"You do what you have to, and think of me as I will think of you during the countdown." With a hand gently on the back of your neck he guides your mouth to his in a much needed relaxing kiss that made your body melt.

"Of course, you're right... you're right," You mumbled. Your eyes remained closed for a bit after the kiss before you were able to open them without feeling like they held sadness in them. "I love you, you know that?"

"I love you too."

Your stylist dressed you up nicely for the interviews, these events to celebrate a new Champion and a New Year. This is wrong, why does it feel like you were just rubbing it in everyone's face that you were now Champion? You were backstage waiting to be introduced, slouching in a nearby couch with your elbow on your thigh and your hand holding your chin. Finally you heard your name, you could see the crowd cheering on the screen, all anticipating your presence through the hall that all guests walk through.

Kabu opened the Stadium as he said he would, a lot more people came than he thought would. He had announced that it would be open to celebrate the New Year and there would be food and drinks. It wasn't going to be like that at first but you offered the funds and he couldn't say no. It was open for people and Pokemon alike and that brought his heart a pleasant feeling.

He missed you a lot though. He understood that you had things to do but he didn't realize just how attached he had grown to you for your lacking presence to impact him so much. His Stadium was playing the interview for everyone to see and the people that came; majority of them knew Kabu was engaged to the new Champion of Galar. He wondered if you were going to complete your end of the promise and think of him.

"Here's our new magnificent Champion, (Name)!" The cheers were loud, the "I love you's" came from all directions, and so did flowers. Roses, vibrant red roses that reminded you of Kabu. You sat down, a big smile on your face that only managed to be genuine knowing Kabu would see it. "How are you on this beautiful night, Champ?" The interviewer asked.

"I'm doing great, thank you! I actually have somethin' to say real quick, is that alright?" The interviewer furrowed his brows and pointed towards the camera you should speak to.

"Let's hear what (Name) needs to say folks! I wonder what it is! Sounds mysterious!"

"Perhaps it would be mysterious if paparazzi didn't exist," You responded. "I want to say I'm thinking about you, I'll see you soon!"

"Would my guess be wrong if I say that message was for your to-be husband and Fire Type Gym Leader Kabu!?" The interviewer raises your hand, the one that had the ring. "How is the wedding planning going anyway? Any progress?"

"Its somewhere in my schedule, we have ideas we hope to bring to life." The answer was simple and clearly not to the interviewers' taste. They had to remain unaffected though and continued smiling.

"We have a few fan questions we would like you to answer! First one being, would you date a fan?!"

"Absolutely not. I'm engaged, are you people not getting the memo?" You said this sarcastically, but with a tone of seriousness. It got you a laugh from the audience and you laughed along with them as truthfully as you could. "Not to be inappropriate or anything but I think— no. I know I'll be with Kabu for the rest of my life."

Kabu was almost as red as Gym outfit shirt, hearing the "Aww" from both the crowd in the Stadium and the ones where you were. In all honesty though, he would have said the exact same thing about you.

"A curious fan has asked: Do you sing in the shower?" You didn't think for long and answered it with a brief nod.

"I do sing in the shower, Kabu says it sounds good but I think he may just be losing hearing." Once again, the crowd laughed. "Who knows though, only he has ever heard me sing and no, I'm not singing!"

"You and Kabu live together as you've implied multiple times, has there been any mishaps in the kitchen by one of you?" You pondered on this question for a few seconds.

"Not yet, Kabu is a pretty good cook and surprisingly good baker!" You tried to think of an incident once again but nothing came to mind as of now.

"Have you used the 'Is your Dad a baker' pick up line on him yet?" You chuckled at the question and so did the crowd. You covered half your face as you nodded, confirming that you have used a pick up line on him. "I didn't expect that! How'd that go?"

"He still has no idea what I meant by the line and I suppose now is a good time to get it out in the open." It took you a moment or two to compose yourself. "When I said you had a nice set of buns, I was talking about your butt, Kabu!"

He was sitting in the middle of his Stadium, on the ground and when you said that, he fell back laughing much more than he usually would allow himself to in front of a crowd. He should have known that's what you meant then, all he wished to say in response was that he felt the same way. He knows you would have playfully hit him on the arm or something and thank him for the compliment.

A few more questions passed until it was getting close to the countdown. There was an ad break a few minutes before it started. You didn't want to be here, your heart was telling you to leave, take a flying taxi, find Kabu, find home, and be where you know you want to be. You slowly got up from the waiting area, ignoring the calling security, interviewer, and anyone else you just left.

Ten.

You ran, forgetting you had a flying taxi even though you thought about it moments ago. You only had one thing on your mind and that was reaching Kabu before the countdown was over. You ran, your legs wanting to stop but you wouldn't allow it, your lungs trying to take in all the cold air, and the fancy shoes on your feet making it even more difficult. You stopped and took them off, hastily picking them up then running again. No rock on the ground was stopping you from being where you wanted to be tonight.

Nine.

When the show came back on, you weren't there and he was confused. Apparently you had left abruptly, this caused him to worry and tried getting a hold of you through a text then called you.

Eight.

Kabu didn't know you ran off, leaving your items behind with only one goal in mind. His destination was within your line of sight and it made you push forward much faster, pushing your legs harder to make it before the time ran out.

Seven.

He wanted to be able to at least to see you through the screen as the countdown started. Where did you go? Why did you leave? Were you even okay? Now all he could think about was your well-being.

Six.

You were jogging past the hair salon, the many small stores on the sides, some which had people. People watching the Champion run to the elevator that would take you to Motostoke Stadium.

Five.

No one asked questions as you walked in, your legs almost wanting to give in. You continued, waving off others that wanted to help you walk towards the doors to the Stadium itself.

Four.

You stood in the tunnel for a couple of seconds, your eyes searching for Kabu. He who was watching the screen, hoping for your appearance or any news on your location.

Three.

The crowd spotted you first, the loud cheers startling Kabu as his eyes met yours when he turned his head in your direction. He never felt more relieved to see you there, why you had disappeared made much more sense to a lot people now that you were here.

Two.

With all the strength you could muster in your legs, you practically limped forward. Absolutely tired by the run and feeling like a whole idiot for not using a taxi when you could have at any point on your way here. He saw you panting, no shoes on your feet, you looked like quite the beautiful mess.

One.

No words are exchanged as you throw your arms around his neck, holding him in a tight embrace before your lips passionately meet his. He was slightly taken aback by the roughness of the kiss, you had his body right against yours, and a hand clutching the hair on the back his head. How long had it been since he has had something like this? He had forgotten how amazing this physical contact could feel and experiencing this made him feel as if it was a first kiss. Then the clock strikes twelve, your hold on him loosens, and its just you and him.

Your forehead was on his, you two were sharing breaths because of how long and sudden it was. Embarrassment hit you randomly when you realized there was a crowd, you left an interview, and Kabu was probably staring at you while you didn't dare open your eyes. Not until you could look at him and say something that didn't sound like you didn't know how to form sentences.

You could hear the crowd now, the whistling, the clapping, the stomping of their feet, any form of cheering the could make they did it.

"Another year of you and me," He said. "I am looking forward to another one." He gave you one chaste kiss for his own pleasure and you smiled.

"I look forward to another one too."

#request #happy new year #!!#kabu swsh #swsh kabu #pokemon kabu #kabu #kabu is all i need lmao #kabu pokemon #pokemon sword and shield #pokemon shield #pokemon sword #pokemon #sword and shield #swsh #pokemon swsh #drabble #oneshot

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cloviaglade · 5 years ago

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BLOG TALK #3... I think

Yeah... I'm probably going to close up the meme factory for a bit

So!

I can get back into writing. I still have asks in my ask box for drabbles (I'm still gonna do every one of them) and I really REALLY wanna get started on that celestial war fic I wanted to write as well and some more smut.

Like I shitpost so much most of ya are here for the memes and dont even know I write. Reminder ma smut tag is "obey me lewd" so hurry up and filter that out if ya dont want any of that. I am Sorrelglade on Ao3 if anyone is over there.

I basically always accept drabble requests but whether or not I can actually get them done anytime soon is up in the air. I have classes and other adult responsibilities that get in the way.

Anyway... I'm like way more hecking popular than I could ever dream to be. Imma gonna use that for good dammit. I reblog cool fanart whenever I see it. Basically what I am saying is if you see some cool fanart here: go follow and support the artist! Like they making a pretty pic and they need to feel loved for that. I wanna signal boost some cool artist and shit.

Memes made by me are free to repost ON OTHER WEBSITES. Basically if you have a facebook or Instagram and wanna share some of the meme edits I MADE to it you can as long as you credit my tumblr. Like all you gotta do is say "CloviaGlade: tumblr" on the post somewhere and bam you got my shit meme on your page/profile. PLEASE DON'T DO THIS TO ANYTHING THAT I REBLOGED. THE ORIGINAL ARTIST/CONTENT MAKER MAY NOT WANT THAT. PLEASE MAKE SURE I'M THE SOURCE.

Main reasons I'm so ok with my meme edits being reposted is because I dont own the images to begin with. All I did was slap some demon bros name on a viral meme and posted it here.

However I'd hate for some dingbat follower to think I somehow made all that fanart in like 500 different styles both digitally and traditionally and make me have to stop reblogging really cool shit because you somehow think I made all of it like some kind of nebulous art pixie. IF YOU ARE THIS DINGBAT UNFOLLOW ME! DONT RUIN MY FANART SIGNAL BOOST!

#obey me #shall we date obey me!#obey me memes #blog talk #i like fanart ALOT!#low key want to be DMed cool fanart #but like link me the post #i wanna give credit #i can only draw cartoony chibis

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multimuse-rp-archived · 5 years ago

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RULES:

Basics:

1. Be respectful. Don’t be a jerk, don’t write my character in threads, don’t send anon hate, don’t be rude to anyone. Use common sense and common courtesy.

2. Thread replies typically come within two weeks. I know it seems like a long time, but I have a lot going on, and a lot of muses. If I have replied to many other threads and it has been over two weeks, you are free to remind me about our thread, as long as you do it in a nice way. Given, of course, I’m not on a hiatus.

3. Though I consider myself a nonselective blog, there are some simple things that will make me hesitant to roleplay with you. They are:

• Hating my muses or the way I portray them

• Roleplaying in the first person/second person

• Rushing me

• Godmodding

• Refusal to interact OOC, pestering me for a thread idea after I say no, and/or breaking any other one of my rules

• Leaving extremely short replies when my replies are longer

That being said, you do NOT have to match length for a thread! I will not roleplay with people who write one-liners for me, and I may unfollow you if you clutter the dash. However, I will still roleplay with you.

4. REBLOG MEMES FROM THE SOURCE. If you reblog it from me, send it to me. This has become a huge annoyance to me. Breaking this rule multiple times will earn you a softblock. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Things I LIKE:

1. Multiple threads!

2. Crossovers! Just ask me!

3. Random asks, plots, memes, starters, and interactions!

4. OC’s! As long as you have a background page.

5. OOC interactions!

Shipping:

1. Ask me first. You can straight-up ask me, and I won’t be offended or weirded out. You do you!

2. If I say no, accept it. Don’t fight me. And who knows? Maybe chemistry will come with time, but I’ll let you know if that happens.

3. I do write smut, but not with anyone under the age of 18. And don’t lie. I’m 19, so I’m still young, but I will write NSFW content.

Triggers:

1. I don’t really have any triggers, but I will put trigger warnings on my post. If you have any specific triggers, please put them in your rules or tell me directly.

Extras:

1. Mun DOES NOT equal muse! If our muses hate each other, it doesn’t mean I hate you. If our muses are in love, it doesn’t mean I’m in love with you.

2. All memes and starter calls I post are PERMANENT! You can like them anytime or send them in anytime, and I will reply! However, I am not a meme source. Either reblog the meme from the source or reblog it from me and send it to me. This is extremely important!

3. Just because one of my muses is “very selective about threads” doesn’t mean you can’t send in memes to them! But I may not be able to reply to all of them. If this happens, I will contact you directly through IM.

4. I would prefer it if you would let me know if you’re dropping one of our threads. That being said, I understand people are busy, and this is not a “make-or-break” rule. It would just be greatly appreciated.

5. I’m currently iconless. I’m working on getting icons soon, but right now, I’m iconless.

6. Some of my muses (Ramsay Bolton, Crowley, even Anakin Skywalker, etc.) are EXTREMELY POWERFUL. One of my pet peeves is when people write characters that purposefully provoke them. Listen, if you’re going to insult and/or disrespect one of my powerful characters, be prepared for the consequences against your character. And don’t do it often, because some of my muses would gladly kill your muse for saying these things. I’ll drop a thread if you do this - just saying.

#rules

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chaosbcrne · 5 years ago

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little... update, i guess, on some things concerning this blog

first off apologies for the decrease in activity the last couple days, stressful stuff is coming up at work, the ‘im responsible for this but also powerless to deal with it’ variety and its contributed in making it difficult to get my head together for writing

that being said a couple other things came up over said past couple days that i want to address, in a way. not explicitly, but still.

first off i want to remind anyone concerned that if we’re mutuals, you are more than welcome to call me on my shit when it comes up. whether its because you find my attitude passive-aggressive, because i forget to tag stuff, because you’re made uncomfortable by something i say or do, please don’t hesitate to let me know. im a flawed person hoping to keep growing and that wont happen if those around me let me believe the problematic stuff i do is tolerable. i know i can be blunt and defensive (especially @ anons), but again, if we’re mutuals i assume there’s a minimum of mutual respect and thats more than enough for me to hear people out

that being said, some things might change a bit over the following week or so. ive had this nagging, reoccurring feeling about the rpc over the summer, and while it’s dimmed a lot during the past couple weeks it’s still very much there and i think i’ve come to a realization. months ago i revamped this blog in an attempt to open myself up to the community, as i felt i’d backed myself into a corner of it. and i tried, and it worked for the most part, especially recently

but for a while, i felt like it had done me more harm than good, leaving me to feel left out even though i was in fact trying to show interest to more people. it took me some time, but i realize now that its merely the result of opening myself up to a community that’s not all sunshine and rainbows. it’s not nearly as bad as in some others, but i find there’s still a bit of underlying clique culture in this community, enough that every now and then i’ll be hit in the face with the sudden feeling that i don’t belong

which isn’t the case. i know, on a good day, that i have a place here. unfortunately, it doesn’t change that sometimes, intentionally or not, some people contribute in making me feel like i don’t. now that im content with what i have going on this blog, that i have plenty to look forward to and a lot of great people to plot and write with, i think it’s time i consider taking a step back and going over what’s really healthy to expose myself to and what might not be.

what does this mean objectively ? im not sure yet. i don’t plan on dropping anymore threads than i have already recently (not yet anyway). i will very probably unfollow some people, however. people i dont see myself interacting with anytime soon, for one reason or another. it’s not personal, more so for my own comfort and peace of mind, as i’d rather avoid feeling left out of things i was never gonna get in on in the first place. im sure most of you can understand

#✮ ☾ sealed inside the pod ☽ ↳ ooc #pltblt #this is difficult to put into words #.negative #not really but just in case

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maisjetaime · 5 years ago

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Sorry if this is too much but what steps did you take to cure your ed? apart from therapy...unless you didn't see anyone. I'm unsure :/

Hey, i’m sorry for not replying to this one sooner…to be quite honest, my eating disorder is a subject that made me feel very uneasy for quite a while; but I thankfully turned a huge corner in the past few months and I feel more comfortable talking about my recovery process now. x

I became sick really young and I didn’t really have any support from my family or friends as I had pushed everyone away in fear that they’d get sick too or that they’d try to stop me from “reaching my goal”…so we all kind of lived in denial until I decided, by myself, that I wanted to start recovering. I didn’t reach out to a therapist, or any other specialist, because the cost of them are not covered by my country’s public, or private insurance; therefore, I truly couldn’t afford one. Plus, I don’t think I was mentally ready to explore the root of my ED just yet as it would’ve been too much.

My recovering process began with me acknowledging the fact that I was indeed anorexic and that my relationship with food was not normal. My first step was to make a list of all the foods that I was afraid of, and then making it my mission to eat them; even if it was just a few bites. I won’t lie, that whole process was incredibly difficult, but I felt stronger as time went by.

I think the most important thing is to surround yourself with positive, and encouraging people: both in real life, and online. Unfollow the pro-ana blogs, unfollow the fitness gurus (even if they’re not promoting unhealthy eating habits per se…your priority needs to be recovery, and although being fit is a nice goal, your ED will grasp onto it and mask itself under it…so unfollowing them is quite important) unfollow any blog, person, and influencer who self-depicts or spreads any type of negativity. You cannot allow yourself to be surrounded by that kind of energy, especially when you’re recovering. Only accept to be surrounded by people who encourage self-acceptance, self-love, and healthy lifestyles (both for the mind and the body). I know this is difficult because we cannot choose everyone in our life (i’m thinking of our family for example) but we can choose to block their access to us…or at least make it less frequent/easy. Also, the fact that we cannot choose our family is the reason why I think it’s absolutely crucial that we make sure to be surrounded by inspiring, soulful, and overall positive people online and in our friendships.

The next step is to change the way you see food and realize that it is, first and foremost, fuel: for your body, your mind, and your soul. Let go of all the numbers, the calories, the grams, etc. those things truly don’t matter…even if they feel like the whole world revolves around them. Start seeing food as fuel, and shared memories with those you love. No matter how corny it sounds…it truly helps to start seeing it that way. My best friend and I (who I met at the beginning of my recovery) started cooking, and baking together. We would prepare meals for our friends and we’d bake cakes at 1AM only to eat it in my room. We would never talk about the sugar, the fat or the calories of it all…we would just enjoy it and whenever ED would creep in, i’d remind myself that I was living a moment, that would quickly become a memory, and that I was going to cherish it forever. It didn’t stop the ED from controlling me a bit, but it did help.

It’s quite difficult for your body and your mind to reconnect after an ED as your body feels “betrayed” that you starved it. The hunger cues are out of whack and it’s easy to start binging, and essentially fall into another eating disorder. To be fully honest, that’s exactly what happened to me. I think that, looking back, I would’ve approached it differently and I would’ve had more of a ‘baby step’ approach rather than jumping into it and eating everything that I possibly could and falling into this pattern of excessively exercising to compensate for the huge amount of food that I was eating. So my advice would be to take it easy and to not punish yourself if you eat too much…it’s okay and it’s normal as your body is in full survival mode.

As you start to gain weight, the ED thoughts are going to creep in a lot; but try your best to not listen to them. Donate your old clothes that no longer fit, and go thrift shopping for more. I actually saw this as an opportunity to re-invent my style and it really helped me get through it all. Don’t weight yourself, and don’t measure yourself…you don’t need to know those numbers. Actually, for a very long time, I told my doctor, and other medical professionals who needed to weigh me, that I didn’t want to know the numbers; and so i’d step on the scale with my back to it. It felt a little extra, but I knew that it’s what I needed to do to protect myself; and I’m glad I did it. I still don’t weigh myself to this day, and I don’t see myself doing it anytime soon.

This brings me to my last point: understand that recovery is not a linear process and that there will be bad days, and there will be good days. Don’t let the step backs discourage you from waking up the next morning and choosing recovery again. It’s a hard battle but it’s so worth it. I started recovering 6 years ago and I still have bad days once in a while..but it’s not nearly as bad as it used to be; and it keeps getting better as time advances and as I keep choosing recovery every morning.

I’m sending so much love your way (assuming that you have an ED) and I truly hope that you get better as soon as possible 💘💘💘

#vulnerability hour again: not sorry about this one #also don't be afraid to talk about it and be openly vulnerable about it #looking back I think I started making a lot of progress when I started talking about my ED openly and breaking the stigma around it #It made me feel like I was in control and that it wasn't a secret that held power over me #you got this (again assuming you have an ED) xxxx #ask #Anonymous

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planet-among-stars · 5 years ago

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An open letter about my first love

I was in love with this girl. My first time being in love ever. I’ve never felt more vulnerable and insecure but at peace at the same time. I kept it a secret for so so long. And it pained me to hold it in. To not tell her I loved her. It hurt like hell. I just wanted her to know I cared. One day I told her. After months and months of keeping it in and it was fine. She said nothing would change. Of course I believed her. Things did change though, overtime. We don’t talk anymore. I miss her like crazy. Everything reminds me of her. Ever since I told her my whole life changed and I can’t separate whether it’s because I miss her so much or if something else is haunting me. Regardless I want her back in my life. Sometimes I just sit and think am I absolutely insane for caring about someone I didn’t even date as much as I do. Someone who had absolutely zero interest in me other than platonically? Does that make me crazy? It scares me to think that. But everything I do reminds me of her. I still dream about her. I’ve thought about her everyday for almost 3 years, yet I still can’t bring myself to let go. And I’m so afraid that makes me crazy. But this girl was my first love and she could do anything to hurt me or to love me or whatever. And I would still love her back. My love for her would never run out. I can confidently say I’ve fallen out of love with her but that doesn’t mean I don’t want her still. Or that I don’t love her. Because with every piece of my being I do. I want her so badly and in every way. Ever since we stopped talking properly the way I am is just different. Early on I found myself missing my old self. But now I don’t even know who that is. I’m different. I’ve changed. I don’t think she knows just how much I cared. Sure she knew I loved her. But I don’t think she knew what love meant. She certainly didn’t understand how I could love her if we weren’t together anyway. She also didn’t understand it because we were both so young. Honestly I don’t know how I loved her that much when I was so young either. Feelings for her come and go. I used to be just depressed and resentful all the time because I felt horribly about liking her. And I felt horribly for being gay. I suppose that was a big part of why she affected me so greatly. Because before her I never knew I liked girls. However nearly three years later I still feel so strongly about her. I’ve never felt like this for anyone else. I miss the little things the most I think. Sometimes a little memory will pop up in my mind of her. Mostly good things. Like how she smiled when she talked about the necklace her mom gave her. Or when she told me she loved me when I said happy birthday. Or how she was so accepting when I came out. And how she smiled. The way her eyes turned to pool of honey when the light hit them. The way she turned her head when you talked to her, a tell tale sign that she was really listening. How passionately she loved her friends. As good as these things are though she had her flaws just like anyone else. She can’t commit to anyone. Even though she’s still very young and should just be having fun. All the boys who liked her fell hard and she wasn’t there to catch them and she knew it too. She knew she wasn’t going to fall in love anytime soon. She’s a picky eater too if that counts for anything. She has a hard time acccepting the truth. And brushes you off if something is too much to handle. She can be cold and callous when things don’t go her way. I’m sure some of the things she said were heat of the moment. But it doesn’t make it hurt any less. All these “bad” qualities I never saw in the beginning. As they say “love is blind” I see them now though and I feel so sorry for my past self who didn’t see it. I wish sometimes that I had never told her I loved her because of all the hypotheticals that could’ve played out. Like what if we were still friends? What if she’s actually gay? What if the crush just went away? Would it have all been okay then?

Even now though I still think there’s a future for us. Maybe In a year or two when the dust has settled. I hope that she’ll be willing to reconcile with me. I think I’ll always want her in my life. One of the last times we talked she told me that she doesn’t think of me anymore, and I admit that hurt. Because I think about her everyday. I suppose I understand where she’s coming from. She still views my Snapchat story. But we both unfollowed each other on Instagram. We both see each other now and then but we never say hi. Or smile. Or nod. Or anything. Just like we don’t know each other. Admittedly, that hurts too. Wherever she is tonight. I hope she’s doing well. I mean that so genuinely. I hope she’s okay. I hope she’ll find someone who loves her. I hope she one day might think of me again. And then maybe speak to me, not letting our past mistakes and harsh words cloud her judgement. I really just genuinely hope she finds what she’s looking for. Regardless if I’m there or not. I hope her life is filled with joy and love and happiness and people who love her and people she loves. Forever and always

-J

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a-fluffer-nutter · 6 years ago

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The Real Lovelies

A/N - Hey guys, sorry for the delay on Game Grumps fics for the week, but here is fic 1! Now, I wasn’t prompted this one, but after watching the video of Arin apologizing, I knew I had to write this. What happened in the GG community is horrible and if you were one of the people that bitched at Arin, please fucking unfollow me. You’re actual scum and making someone feel bad about something they can barely do anything about it fucking disgusting. But for everyone else, The Real Lovelies, who supports Arin, thank you for being a good person and I hope we can all agree he is doing his best and we love him to death. Now I hope this fic makes everyone see what scummy people can do to a person, but also shows that there is some happiness to be found in our friends. I hope you all enjoy this and I hope you have a good day. Thank y’all!

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The room was completely dark, save for the laptop resting on the desk. A video was buffering before being uploaded to YouTube, very little edits made to this one, which was very strange for the man. Firstly, he never edited a video by hand, normally paying his friends to do it for him, the business life never ending. It had been a few years since he edited a video himself, but he felt the need to do it, just this once. Secondly, the man never filmed videos alone, especially when the audience could see his face, a one on one experience. It was strange not to have one of his friends by his side, making crude remarks about literally anything, but this was different. Arin was pouring his heart out into this apology.

Resting his head into his hands, he sat at the lone desk, closing his eyes in sadness. It wasn’t his fault that everything was happening at once, that his mental health had hit a wall with no warning. It wasn’t his fault that he didn’t feel like doing Ghoul Grumps, it was his exhaustion, his mentality, his busyness, but here he was, issuing an apology to all his fans. He didn’t want this to happen, to not do Ghoul Grumps, but it just happened. It wasn’t his fault really, but yet it was. It really was, and there were so many fans reminding him that it was his fault.

All his fault.

The words of many comments filled his head, filled it with sorrow, a dash of anger, and a lot of grief. He ran Game Grumps, he ran everything. He should’ve been on top of things, he should have been in control of what was being recorded, what was going on, but he wasn’t. He let something slip, and now his fans hated him. The Lovelies were against him and it was all his fault. And what else could he do but apologize to them all, then sit alone and hate everything about himself. It was all his fault and he knew it, and all these god damned emotions were making him feel even worse.

The door behind him creaked open just a sliver, a hazel eye peering into the dark room. Arin didn’t move as the door opened just enough to let a thin man to slip in. His footsteps were quiet, but sounded like thunder pounding in Arin’s head, silencing as the other man loomed over Arin’s folded over body.

“You didn’t need to apologize,” Dan grabbed the back of the chair as he leaned in closer, eyes scanning the screen as the video was nearly done uploading. His eyebrow shot up when he saw the timestamp on the video, it being significantly longer than he thought it was going to be. Sure, Arin told him he was going to make this video, but Dan thought it was going to be something short. With the run time of just over eleven minutes, Dan knew Arin bore his soul into this video that he didn’t even have to make. “It really wasn’t your fault. All of us were fine with us not doing Ghoul Grumps, we had so many other things to do. It’s okay.”

“But all the Lovelies are pissed,” Arin said, voice cracking, his head still in his hands. “So many of them were upset we didn’t do Ghoul Grumps and it was all my fault. I should’ve managed time better, I should’ve done so many things differently. It’s all my fault, and they’re all fucking pissed at me because of it.”

“Dammit Arin,” Dan’s tone made Arin flinch before he felt the chair turn around, having to lean back so he didn’t fall over. Slouching against the back of the chair, Arin looked up at Dan, his eyes fleeting off every few seconds. Dan pointed at the laptop behind the chair, the faint light illuminating half of his face. “Fuck those guys. The people that are complaining are not fans and definitely not Lovelies. They’re all a bunch of horrible people that want to make you feel bad for not doing one thing. Forget about them. If they were real fans, they would understand that everything you are doing for Grumps is a privilege for them to see, not a right. You don’t need to do Game Grumps, but you do because you love it, and no one should blame you if you need a break from everything you’re doing. Hell, I love being on tour, being on the stage, but I have to take breaks. You deserve breaks too and all the real Lovelies know that.”

Arin wore a weak smile that trembled ever so slightly, a crystalline film of tears blurred his vision. He wanted to believe Dan, but all those comments. They got under his skin more than he thought they would.

“But…”

“No buts, Big Cat,” Dan interrupted his best friend, not wanting Arin to go off on a self-loathing tangent. Instead, Dan quickly grabbed Arin’s hand, pulling him to his feet and into his arms in one swift motion. Arin didn’t have any time to think before he pressing his face into the crook of Dan’s neck, letting the tears finally flow. Dan held Arin close to him as he watched the video go live, ready for the world to see it. He was tempted to delete it before anyone could watch it, but he knew that would upset Arin even more, so all he could do was comfort him to the best of his abilities.

“Hey, Arin,” Dan broke the long silence, shifting his weight from one foot to the other. Arin had been nuzzling his face into Dan’s neck, which was fine at first, but it was starting to tickle like hell.

“Mhm,” Arin hummed, moving his head as if to meet Dan’s gaze, but his eyes were shielded by both Dan’s and his own long hair. This movement made Dan flinch, making him wiggle a bit, taking a short step back. “What’s wrong.”

“Tickles,” Dan said quietly, rolling his eyes as he heard soft chuckles rising from Arin’s chest.

“But I’m finally starting to feel better,” Arin said, his fingers drumming against Dan’s ribs, smiling as the older man started to giggle, trying to get away. “And it sounds like you’re feeling better too.”

“I was already feeling fine,” Dan said with a squeak, folding into himself as Arin skittered his fingers over his belly while still trapping him in the embrace. Arin inched backwards, wanting to see Dan’s bright smile.

“Well, now you are extra fine,” Arin beamed, the happiest he had been in hours. He had quickly reduced Dan into his hysterical, wheezy laughter, a few squeaks and squeals thrown into the mix. However, Arin was definitely not expecting Dan to reciprocate so fast. “H-Hey, wait!”

“You’re the sad one here,” Dan cooed, going for Arin’s belly, listening to the laughter completely overcome him. Arin couldn’t help but fall into Dan, hiding his face back in the crook of his neck, but this time to hide his laughter, not his tears. This position was not very good for Dan, as Arin was inadvertently tickling the shit out of his neck again, but now he was more focused on making Arin laugh like a mad man that he was able to resist the temptation to get away, though a few sharp giggles escaped his lips from time to time.

After some time, Dan let his arms go slack, dangling at his sides as Arin still hugged him, residual giggles shaking his whole body. He smiled down at the younger man, knowing he had done his job well.

“How’re you doing?” Dan asked, softly as Arin took a step back, standing a bit straighter.

“Better,” Arin ran a hand through his hair, glancing down at the floor. “Thank you so much.”

“Anytime, Big Cat,” Dan smiled, pulling him back into his embrace. He looked over at the laptop and saw the number of comments climb exponentially. He could barely make out words of encouragement and apologies coming from a few people. These were the real Lovelies that loved and cared for all of them. And no matter what happened, Dan knew the real Lovelies would have their backs and that he would always have Arin’s back.

#game grumps #tickle fic #arin hanson #dan avidan #ticklish!danny #ticklish!arin #Happy Game Grumps Week

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ihavenoside · 6 years ago

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Rules for mobile users.

Because I thought I’d done this months ago, under readmore is just my rules that I have on my blog so mobile users have access to them too since tumblr is dumb. Mad respect for anyone stuck on mobile and actively uses it as there rp source because I sure as hell can’t lol.

The mun

The mun and muse are both 21+.

I don’t have anything that needs to be tagged other then NSFW. This regards pictures only, mostly related to smut. If you reblog a lot of shipy pictures and don’t tag it appropriately, I’ll have to unfollow you. I live in a small house, eyes can be on my screen at any given time. Otherwise, I wouldn’t care as much.

Considering the theme of this game, if it’s expected, I’m not likely to tag it. HOWEVER. If it’s related to pictures, like blood. I will tag it (tw: blood) and any darker themed rps will likely fall under readmore. If something does need tagging, please let me know and I’ll do my best to tag it.

Mutuals & Non-Mutuals may message me using the IM system anytime for ooc chat, plot, thread discussion, character and headcanon questions. Don’t be shy, I’m really nice and would love to chat! Chances are I’m more afraid to talk to you then you are to talk to me. With respect, I wish you to reply to any messages I send you at your convenience with reminders a day or two later in case they have been forgotten. In return, I wish for the same respect. Whether we’re active on the dash or not.

Regarding personals, I don’t mind you liking my threads/openers/OOC/IC response or dash commentary but do not reblog them if it is not for the purpose of rping or the rp is not with you. Unless told otherwise, otherwise I’m going to soft block you.

I’m not the greatest when it comes to socializing. Regarding irl there isn’t much for me to say but I do enjoy people coming to talk to me about characters, threads and anything. If we’ve talked/rped for a while, you can ask for my discord but threads will remain on tumblr.

Following

I’m Canon and OC friendly.

Please have a bio and rules page available. It’s much easier to get to know you and your character that way.

I will not follow personals nor will I roleplay with them. There is only one person exempt from this rule. However, personals can send in asks directed at both mun and muse if they like.

Just because I don’t follow you, doesn’t mean I won’t RP with you. I have my reasons for this and in no way reflects poorly on you as a role player. I’d like to rp with everyone but I’d like to keep my dash manageable.

If we’re mutuals, I want to roleplay with you but it’s okay if you don’t want to rp with me. You can tell me no just as I have the right to tell you no.

If you’re a person of the same muse or face claim as me, I’m still willing to rp with you. I’m also willing to roleplay with more than one person of the same character, just sorry in advance if I get you guys mixed up lol. Muns of the same character can yield different results. If you see me rping with a muse you have, I’ll still rp with you too!

Threads

I’m AU/Crossover/Multi-verse friendly.

I like plotting beforehand but random rps are okay too. I have wishlists Here and Here full of idea’s that I’d love to play out. Most idea’s can be interchangeable with muses and oc’s but should be discussed.

I tend to do paragraph rps but I’ll do one-liners and all that. I also use icons from time to time, you never have to match my length or use icons if you don’t want to. As long as you give me something to work with, it’s all good.

Any RP blog can reply to my OPENers, Joke RPs, IC or Dash Commentaries unless it’s stated otherwise (like its mentioned mutuals only). If you see an opener you like and it already has notes on it, you can still reply to it or make a new thread and @ myname in it. With or without my permission.

I’m okay with violent rps, simply be realistic. (Talking to me first is preferable.) If you put my muses life in danger, expect them to fight back.

If you ever send me an ask or vice versa and wish to turn that ask into a thread. By all means do so, with or without my permission. All I ask is that use the @ myname so I can see it.

If I’ve not liked a thread or responded to it in a few days at first, please let me know, I might have missed it.

If I’m rping with you and haven’t replied in a while, remind me. I might have forgotten/lost the thread. If said it’s in drafts, then I’ll get to it. Sometimes I have a hard time, other times because of life I don’t have time too. I like putting 100% into my threads and would rather not half-ass it because I’m tired. I’m also always willing to do more than one thread with you but I can be slow at replying.

If you ever want to drop a thread with me, you can let me know and we can plot out something new when you’re ready. If you don’t want something new, that’s cool too. Rping is made to be fun and if a thread no longer fun then why stress?

My thread tracker can be found in my navigation page. I will do my best to keep it up to date. If you see our thread is missing, let me know, please. If you’ve not responded in 3 months, the thread will be archived but it doesn’t mean you can’t respond to it a year later.

Shipping

I like shipbuilding. I would much rather our characters interact and be friends before starting a ship. I feel slow burns give more content to rp and chemistry is important. I don’t want it to be all fluff either, people disagree and fight but this should never turn into an abusive thing. (Unless we want it that way.)

My level of comfort really varies when it comes to shipping characters. The muns will have had to be in communication for a bit and rules discussed beforehand if we really want to dive into it but in general, while shipping is fun it’s not something I outwardly seek.

I have no problem with your muse expressing romantic feelings towards mine but if I’ve not discussed this, i’m going to turn it down but unrequited love is a thing.

I’m multi-verse / multi-ship. I reserve the right to stop our ship just like you have the right to tell me the same. Things happen, muses don’t work out. It’s cool to stop or try and work it out. I don’t want this to be a stressful thing and would rather the muns remain friends but if that can’t work out. it’s cool too.

I’m pretty open to the idea of shipping him with anyone he has chemistry with but Hank and other Connors. I would also prefer the RK Series to see each other as siblings but it’s not a requirement.

#rules #Software Glitch Detected: OOC #For Mobile Users

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declansmitheram5555-blog · 6 years ago

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Top 10 internet memes

What is going on guys? It’s Declan here and in today’s post we will be taking a look at the top 10 internet memes of all time. This list is completely subjective, but I only care about my opinion so that doesn’t matter. Before we begin, make sure to like and share this post with all of your meme loving mates, or just strangers on the internet. Either way let’s jump straight into the list.

10. Grumpy cat

Kicking it off at number ten is a meme we have all been subjected to at one point in our life, maybe without even realising it. Since 2012, Tardar Sauce, (as her friends call her), blessed everyone’s feed with the perfect blend of cuteness, and relatable disapproval towards typically mundane or aggravating situations. Recently, Grumpy cat has passed away at the age of 7, so it is only right that we all pay our respects in the comment section. F for Grumpy Cat. A pioneer of the internet meme will stay in hearts, and in our meme library forever.

9. Why the f**k you lyin?’

When Nicholas Fraser uploaded this video to popular video site Vine in 2015, there was no predicting the impact it would have on online entertainment. The video, that shows Fraser dancing to the tune of ‘Too close’ by ‘Next’(1997), gained fame due to his inclusion of his own lyrics incorporated into the beat. This parody includes the Viner’s now famous lyrics that continuously repeat ‘why you always lyin’?’. This video highlights the extent to which a generation will glorify such a meaningless video… and we love it!

8. Jordan Crying face

By now you have probably seen this image circling around your google machines and mobile cellular devices, but do you know its origins? The photo of NBA star Michael Jordan crying at his 2009 hall of fame induction ceremony is ironically placed over those who have failed… sometimes epically. The beauty of this meme is that it is so easily applicable to our own personal experiences. Oh come on we have all been this meme before. If we aren’t busying applying this meme to ourselves, we can use it to add insult to injury to our friends, or you know people on the internet, who are more famous than us.

7. Mocking SpongeBob

‘Spongemock’ as you hipsters refer to him, was the result of a 2012 episode of the hit Nickelodeon show, SpongeBob SquarePants. The image did not receive widespread attention until 2017, when Twitter user @OGBEARD uploaded it, accompanied with a mocking text. The internet quickly absorbed (Like a sponge hehe) this meme and produced some of the finest pieces of meme art history. The meme has been used to mimic stereotypical expressions and sayings in a way in which we can all relate to, sadly.

6. Who is she?

For our first video appearance on this list, was there really any other choice? This video by Chloe Lmao gave us one last flash of greatness from the dying site ‘vine’. Don’t worry, if you had already given up on vine at this point, there was no escaping this viral video in which the Viner turns to face the camera, as Riff’s ‘Take on me’ intensifies. Although her face is intentionally made to look unappealing, there is no denying the true beauty of this video. Relatable to anyone who values their dance moves more than their outer beauty, this vine is one that will not be forgotten anytime soon.

5. Kermit the frog

Talk about a meme that has been with us from the start. This green frog puppet is arguably as important to meme lords as it is to 3 year old learning the alphabet. Kermit has undergone many meme transformations from the iconic sipping tea meme, to the recently popular evil Kermit. A refreshing break from internet drama, and world problems, Kermit will always be there to remind us of who we really are. There is a Kermit in all of us, and it is safe to say that there is no end in sight to this frog’s leap to internet fame.

4. Confused Nick Young

Following our trend of NBA players and their parodied facial expressions, is a man who has played for more basketball teams than I have fingers. One thing that will never change though, is Nick Youngs history of being a meme both on and off the court. To summarise the now unsigned baller, all you have to do is take one good hard look at the confused Nick Young meme. The result of Youtuber Casey Athena’s video titled ‘Thru the lens’, we were blessed (or maybe cursed) with this image that has all thinking one thing… What happened to you Swaggy P?

3. Double rainbow

Within the mix of funny cat videos, and epic fails that filled up YouTube in 2010, a new contender emerged. Uploaded by Paul Vasquez, AKA Hungrybear9562, this video portrays the man gazing upon two rainbows over the Yosemite National Park. What makes this video so memorable is the ecstatic manner in which the man addressed the very common phenomenon. Throw in an appearance on the Jimmy Kimmel show, as well as a music parody that is still better than modern rap, and you have a recipe for viral sensation.

2. Bad luck Brian

Adding to the collection of golden era memes, is this meme uploaded to Reddit by Ian Davis. Unfortunately for Ian, it was his friend Kyle, or bad luck Brian, who received the attention for this fine year book photo, turned iconic meme. I guess bad luck Kyle just didn’t have the same ring to it. regardless, we all know a Brian. Sometimes we are Brian. He was sent by the meme gods to remind us that our school photos could well and truly be much worse. Bully him all you want, chances are he is more famous than you… sorry, please don’t unfollow.

And finally, at number one, the reason for our very existence, the meme that is in desperate need of a revival, Ri-

Yes, you just got rick-rolled. Tag your friends so you can totally rick-roll them too! And no, i do not regret wasting 5 minutes of your time.

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hello!

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⋆ a reminder to take a good care of yourself! when the world is already pretty harsh to everybody, it’s a good reason for you to treat yourself well. it’s the least you can do for yourself, it’s something that will surely help with everything.

⋆ stay hydrated. it does sound easy and simple, that’s why it’s an obligation! i don’t have to explain further for this one, do i? ;]

⋆ be kind to everyone; and in this matter, to yourself too! your feelings are valid so i hope you don’t question your worth thinking it’s never enough. you are you, you are the one who knows yourself best, you are the one who decides your value. do yourself good so you can treat everyone well too!

⋆ be happy but not to the point where you force yourself to. it’s okay to do it little by little in your own pace. you’ll get there eventually, so trust yourself enough for it!

⋆ spread love! <3

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PLEASE NOTE THIS TOO: i am not following anyone randomly, so if you would like to be friends, do let me know! i don’t follow anyone i never talked to before if it's not from menfesses or fcvs, so i hope you understand that i don’t give followbacks to strangers unless i’m being asked to─which i will also ask you back about how did you end up following me.

ALSO, cyber account is a place where i am me, as myself, not my rp personas nor the image i put up as someone in real life. if you’re uncomfortable with my tweets or medias, you are always free to do mute, unfollow or even leave a hard block. i might do a lot of tmis regarding my real life but despite so, please refrain from asking personal information unless we’re close enough and you’ve known me for long.

FEEL FREE to point out when i make mistakes, though! i'll really appreciate it if you can let me know in private about things that i do wrong. i'll be very delighted to know that i can always improve to be a better person; even better will thank you for correcting me if there's anything about me that doesn't sit well with you.

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mystiquemaple · 6 years ago

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14 Days Guide to Learning to Love your Body

I always laugh when someone tells me they think I’m confident because I feel like I am SO far from it. When I think of a confident woman, I think of Blake Lively, Deepika Padukone, Elaine Welteroth, Taylor Swift, Priyanka Chopra — you get what I’m saying. I never thought someone “normal,” let alone someone who’s had body image issues all her life, could have confidence. But I’ve discovered confidence is less about if you have a successful career, or you have six-pack abs, or you finally met the partner of your dreams; it’s about you feeling comfortable in your own skin, regardless of where your life is going in that moment.

Finding peace with yourself doesn’t have to start with some big revelation, so we’re giving you actionable steps you can take every day for two weeks to feel better about your own body image.

Day 1: Throw out your scale

The second I did this, my entire life changed. It’s a lot of pressure to have that lying around your home, and it gives this arbitrary thing, like a number on the scale, so much power over your life. If you’re worried about not being able to check your weight every so often, know that you can always ask at the doctor’s office. I personally tell my doctors to withhold my weight from me, and I don’t look at the scale even there. There’s no reason I need to know how much I weigh, and it’s truly riveting to just stop worrying so much about a number.

Day 2: Unfollow negative sources of inspiration

I consistently do Instagram audits where I unfollow anyone who doesn’t share the same values as I do, but it’s less common for me to do it elsewhere. Facebook can be a very negative space if your news feed is constantly people complaining about their own bodies or giving unsolicited advice. Unfriend and unfollow people who don’t share the same vision as you do for your body. Not only does this spread negative vibes all over your favorite space to find recipes and cat videos, it also signals to your brain that this type of body talk is okay.

Day 3: Make a list of your favorite traits about yourself

I know, I know, it sounds hokey, and it is. I’m not going to lie to you. But it puts you in a mindset of thinking positively about yourself — something we’re not always encouraged to do. Women who love themselves are often seen as conceited or bitchy. In reality, it’s totally okay, actually encouraged, to admit how much you love the way you look in your favorite jeans or how much you love your hair.

This list doesn’t have to be exclusive to physical traits. We’re all more than a body, so it’s important to understand what personality and leadership traits you feel confident in and proud of.

Day 4: Make a list of what you’d like to change and decide how you’ll change it

Now that you’ve made a list of everything you love about yourself, make a list of the aspects that you can change or improve about yourself. Make sure these are actionable, attainable goals, and decide the steps you will take to get there.

For example, I want to eat healthier. (Don’t we all?) Instead of constantly saying I want to eat healthier and still getting Swiggy tonight, I can make a plan of exactly how I’m going to implement healthy eating into my daily life. I can meal prep my lunches rather than be eating out, set aside one night a week to go out with my friends, and make a new healthy recipe every week.

In this step, it’s also important to accept the parts of your body that you cannot change. This most definitely isn’t a one-day thing, but by figuring out what you can change, you begin accepting and loving your body for what it is.

Day 5: See food as fuel

Not everyone feels healthy eating a salad, just as some people naturally feel gross drinking a glass of soda. When there’s so many different diets and ways to eat out there, it can be hard to feel like you’re eating the “right” thing. Do some digging and eat what feels right for your own body. Figure out how your body likes to be nourished. Looking at food as a fuel rather than something we need to indulge in all the time allows you to understand what it is that makes your body feel good. If you just can’t get through a kale salad, that is just fine.

Day 6: Spend time with your body

) Take some time today to get in your favorite swimsuit or that lingerie you bought when you were feeling yourself. It’ll feel awkward and uncomfortable at first, but as you keep walking around, cooking dinner, and snuggling with your dog, you’ll start to get used to it.

There’s something about spending time with your body that sort of lets you get used to it. It’s easy to get dressed every morning and feel like you’re not really paying attention to your body. Taking the time to get comfortable with your body, exactly how it is, shows you just how much it can do.

Day 7: Don’t discuss anyone else’s body for a day

Imagine if we never talked about what anyone else looked like? We’d all feel a little more at ease with our own bodies if we stopped focusing so much on everyone else’s. Spend one day concentrating solely on how people make you feel, how intelligent they can be, and their values. It’s unfortunate just how much we base our own self-worth on our judgments and perceptions of someone else.

Day 8: Meditate

There’s a reason so many people swear by meditation and mindfulness. Sometimes, it’s important to get out of your own head if you want to feel good about your body. Take some time today to think about literally nothing.

Day 9: Make a list of positive body affirmations

When you just need a little pick-me-up, positive affirmations always have your back. You can journal these, post them on your mirror or just come back to them when you’re feeling a little less than in love with your body. Here are some of my favorites for body love:

I love my body as it is today.

My body deserves respect.

Food is not the enemy, and I am grateful that I have food to nourish me.

I am allowed to take up space.

Others’ opinions of my body do not affect or involve me.

I trust the wisdom of my body.

My well-being is the most important thing to me. I am responsible for taking care of me.

I choose to do and say kind things for and about myself.

My body is a gift.

It’s okay for me to like myself. It’s okay for me to love myself.

Day 10: Find workouts that you love

Yoga makes me feel sexy, and lifting weights makes me feels strong. Running, on the other hand, gives me wretched flashbacks of the pacer test in middle school, so you’ll never catch me dead on a treadmill. This can take some trial and error, but find workout routines that make you feel how you want when you’re working out. Whether you want to feel powerful, happy, or calm, there’s a workout for you.

Day 11: Donate clothes that don’t make you feel good

There’s no point in keeping clothes that don’t fit you or don’t make you feel comfortable. Those Bellbottom Pants you splurged on when you were 17 aren’t going to come back anytime soon, and there will always be another pair of cute new jeans available in your current size. Go through your closet, try everything on, and get rid of the items that don’t make you feel and look exactly how you want. Confident women wear clothes that make them feel good, and in turn, they always seem to look good regardless of what they’re wearing.

Day 12: Find your power outfit

It’s good to have a go-to outfit that always makes you feel fierce. Whether it’s a pantsuit or your go-to jeans, there’s something so confident about someone who knows they look their best in an outfit. Explore your closet and have fun putting new pieces together. Have a fashion show with your BFF. Remind yourself that fashion can be fun, and it isn’t limited to one body type or size.

Day 13: Experiment with your makeup routine

I tend to forget how confident a woman in red lipstick can look. While you can’t always rock a smokey eye to the office, you can change up products and how you apply them to your face. I’m a big fan of the whole “no makeup, model-off-duty” look this summer, but trying a wash of color on the lids, going foundation-less, or a bright lip is summer trends you can achieve with very minimal effort. Makeup is size-less. You can rock a red lip regardless of your dress size, and there’s something powerful about achieving the look you want without having to worry about how it looks on your body shape.

Day 14: Allow yourself to have bad days

Some days, I just want to wear sweatpants and eat ice cream and not think about having to put on a confidence face. That’s okay. Confidence and positive body image are a process, and you’re going to have days where you feel like your best and days where you don’t. Being able to understand that shows that you’re on your way to loving and appreciating all that your body can do for you.

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