#and That’s Okay!

[traumasurvivors]

A lot of people focus on saying how strong you are. And they mean well. And sometimes it’s the reminder we need.

But sometimes… it’s the exact opposite of what we need to hear.

So, here’s a reminder if you need it. It’s okay to be weak. It’s okay to need to take a break. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to crumble. Your worth does not change. It’s okay if you don’t want to be strong. You are worthy whether you’re weak or strong.

[i-like-forcefem]

so i know this guy and he's very cute,, and i kinda wanna forcefem him, but don't know where to start 🥺🥺

/hj

Awwww that’s wonderful!!!

Well one of my favourite techniques is by allowing the target plausible deniability for dressing up

Maybe do a bet and the loser has to wear this dress Or maybe make it real ambiguous and reveal the dress part later

Or maybe make a bigger social event where everyone dresses so cutely so you might as well join in

Be kind, be accepting and patient, love every single step “he” takes and be very vocal about your encouragements

Truly love bomb “him”, make “him” associate feminity with happiness (if that association isn’t there already), make every step made “wonderful and lovely and you’re doing so great and I’m so so proud of you and I just want to gobble you up and and and” don’t give “him” any time to doubt

“He” is adorable and you’re so so so glad “he” is letting you do “his” nails, you know this color would fit so so well, and regardless of how well painted the nails are, they do add so much and make “him” look so good, and we should really try purple next!

That’s another crucial step, once you make progress don’t let it go

You paint his nails? Wonderful! If they get chipped and “he” asks how to remove it als to it for “him and instantly apply a new color

“He” let you do some basic makeup? Make “him” feels so so pretty and set a time next week when we can try the different mascara! And maybe even dress up a little to match the make up!

“He” puts on a skirt for you? Well it’s gorgeous it fits so so well it’s really “his” color! And maybe just take it with you? And if not let’s go clothes shopping next week! I know this lovely second hand store where we can get you so many beautiful clothes for cheap! It’d be a shame if you didn’t own at least one skirt yourself!

And, I kind of forgot what I was saying there! Just get “him” to agree to one minor point, make “him” feel so so loved for it, and always set up the next point, which can be either more of the same or an escalation, but never give her time to doubt, herself always pin down a “next-time” for her to look forward to, and always make her feel so so loved for showing up every time!

People aren’t nearly vocal enough about how they feel towards those closest to them! Be the exception!

[aimseytv]

when it comes to gender stuff the best way to explain it for me is i wanna look as androgynous as if a man and a woman had a baby ❤️

[mixedstyles]

oh! uhhh hmm. I see, I see. Interesting.

[maybe-in-another-universe]

i see in a lot of fics about how during the red robin run dick mentioned that he might consider sending tim to arkham due to his seemingly instability. i’ve read the whole run and im like 94% sure that it’s something the fandom made up but i wish someone would write a fic where that actually happened. i keep seeing it written as a wedge between dick and tim but never acted upon.

i just couldn’t fathom or even conceptualize what that would look like? for angst reasons yeah but like, would he be be there as strictly tim? that might be too dangerous; he has bat training. is he there as strictly red robin? would that not compromise his identity and therefore the rest of the bat’s identities? what does containment even look like for someone of his abilities? would it compound on other traumas like joker jr? or the whole ra’s and his sister thing? (depending on what you consider cannon) i remember seeing jason in arkham during another run but i haven’t read it so i don’t know the details of it, but i think about this so so much 😭

[sadlittlecountess]

to all the weirdo Alicole fans who are being lesbian phobic, being problematic, and harassing rhaenicent fans in the fandom… I hope you fucking rot. Spewing such hate and relentlessly insulting people who enjoy the content differently… you will be dealt with.

Purposely mocking and harassing writers on ao3 and fans on twitter is wild behavior. Sad to see even straight women bother queer fans online —- like wow…. The internalized misogyny, and homophobia!!

[searchingforbucky]

Writer: writes the most amazing, well thought out and executed, tragically beautiful fanfiction you’ll ever read

All of the comments: Part 2 with smut? 🥺

[formulaaone]

watch any race where Nico Rosberg commentates and you will change your mind about the Nico-Logan relations lmao he doesn’t like him much

[romanceyourdemons]

the translation of condor heroes i’m reading now translates hong qigong’s name “count seven,” and i have to say. this is doing horrible things inside my brain. that’s almost the name of a significantly worse guy i know

[fredersen]

reddit comment from 7 years ago that has a permanent place in my mind

[darrys-laundry]

sorry, but to me and my delusions ‘poignant pic as it will be one of the last times we are all together’ is the same as ‘one small suggestion. i’d change the title. it’s not about me, it never was.’ like…sorry, but to me, they’re so back. like, jason is in that picture, not everyone is returning, it’s about ted moving forward…

[ghost-proofbaby]

my brain writing a new fic idea that only appeals to me and is to satiate my own need to see a hyper specific version of eddie in a hyper specific au

[dipperscavern]

Idk why but Jon just doesn’t do anything to me

-🍞🧀

well have u locked the door and given him a chance cause lemme tell ya

[milky-tales]

Am I the only one who feels left out of the “I’m just a girl” meme because I’m nearly 40 and feel that “Girl” label doesn’t suit me cause I’m actually a Woman?

[60000beesinatrenchcoat]

There’s literally no ornate natural order, baby. The universe is only entropy. Love it then die <3