#and 2 of the three where after they entered more of a situationship then still dating dating

[elisedonut]

oooh Yeah all of that is so fair jdaskfls

They way i see it is now he can be hung up about his previous love of two people also a whole vibe of you know Twos almost a pattern that could nag at him

stepdad Percy is always so so much fun regardless of the kid in question its just so fun to me ksdajhfkds

They are at their worst love that for them

So... this is your fault. Post war Remus/Percy fic, all deaths except Remus happened and I'm still unsure if Teddy exists (opinions?) Everything is very bitter and dark. Remus is being Remus, Percy is being Percy, everyone is grieving. Excerpt (still wip, I'm not happy with it lol):

Remus looks at Percy's body and he wants to cry. He wants to cry at the weariness he carries in the way he moves, wants to cry at the smooth curve of his back, the sharp jut of his ribs, the lines painted across the skin of his thighs. He wants to cry because it mirrors his own, and he can't reconcile himself with that.

OOHH!

Lets goooo!!!

I love to be a bad influence

Also keeping Teddy around is always fun with both post war Tonks or Remus ships because it adds an extra layer to it that's fun with Remus in particular it puts him in a situation where he either has to own up to his own decisions or fall back into his same habits (aka leaving the Baby with their grandmother) Also it adds an easy thing for Percy to be helpful with since Remus doesn't seem like he has much experience with Children while Percy very much does

I'm also just weak to step parent/parent dynamics and kid-fics so I'm biased

. Remus is being Remus, Percy is being Percy

fjhksdjfhd so everything pretty much sucks then got it got it

Also oooh nice!! seeing yourself in someone else in a way you don't like is always a fun dynamic that sounds very interesting!

[renazuku]

forever and always.

a collection of stories based on the songs featured on folklore and evermore by taylor swift.

gosh! i am so excited to start this up! if you would like to be added to the taglist, please REPLY TO THIS POST. do not send in an ask! all works will be gender neutral!

my hero academia and lyrics used belong to their rightful owners. in no way am i claiming ownership to the series or taylor's lyrics.

right where you left me; aizawa shouta (coming soon!)

after the death of his beloved spouse, aizawa just isn't sure what he should do now. eat, teach, sleep, repeat. aizawa is on autopilot, but there's one thing he never forgets to do every week; visit your favorite restaurant. he's right where you left him. "help, i'm still at the restaurant. still sitting in a corner i haunt."

the 1; takami keigo (coming soon!)

breakups always hurt, especially when the two of you never went further than a situationship. it only hurts more when you see each other again 2 years later, and you realize that things could've been different. maybe, he would've been the 1. "rosé flowing with your chosen family. and it would've been sweet, if it could've been me."

cardigan; dabi (coming soon!)

contains spoilers for season six. if there was one thing you remember about your childhood, you remember a certain white haired boy. most of your memories with him were happy, and filled with puppy (or maybe real) love. well, until the incident. so imagine your horror when you turn on the tv for the night, and there he is. "i knew you'd haunt all of my what-ifs. the smell of smoke would hang around this long, 'cause i knew everything when i was young."

mirrorball; kaminari denki (coming soon!)

why is everyone making fun of him? why is everyone laughing? his head is pounding from overusing his quirk, and they're laughing? maybe he is useless after all. or maybe, with a little bit of your comfort, maybe he can see what you see in him. "and i'm still a believer, but i don't know why. i've never been a natural, all i do is try, try, try."

this is me trying; bakugou katsuki

bakugou hasn't had the brightest past. in the moonlight, his regrets seem to cut a little deeper than usual. after failing to get his hero license, he can't help but feel lackluster to everyone else. he just wants people to know that he's trying. "i was so ahead of the curve, the curve became a sphere. fell behind on my classmates, and i ended up here."

august; todoroki shoto

the summer before shoto entered U.A, he met someone and had the time of his life. unfortunately for him, summer loves don't always last. "so much for summer love, and saying us, 'cause you weren't mine to lose."

invisible string; midoriya izuku (coming soon!)

you and izuku have been attached since your toddler days. no matter what happened, the two of you knew that you'd always have each other. "isn't it just so pretty to think all along there was some invisible string tying you to me?"

champagne problems; iida tenya (coming soon!)

it's been three years since you and your classmates graduated from U.A. your longtime boyfriend decides to throw a dinner party. you didn't know he was popping the question. he didn't know that you'd answer like that. "love slipped beyond your reaches. and i couldn't give a reason. champagne problems."

illicit affairs; shigaraki tomura (coming soon!)

maintaining a secret relationship with one of japan's biggest villains is hard. knowing that you'll always go back to him only makes it harder. "don't call me kid. don't call me baby. look at this godforsaken mess that you've made me."

[glasyasbutch]

playlist: the sloppy seconds au

its MY spotify profile and i'll make a serious playlist for a porn au of my d&d campaign if i WANT TO

link to playlist on spotify

explanations below the cut

ok before we get too into it. you're probably wondering. hey girl. why's it called the "sloppy seconds au". well.

ok anyways here's the playlist

1. In the Middle by Dodie

You said you're into closure, shake hands like you're supposed to / I'll be in the middle while you two get along / You've got so much in common, talk about your taste in women / I'll be in the middle while you two get along

To quote bekah, "enter kez, looking to be the filling in a big paladin sandwich"

This one's ALSO on the Daykez good ending playlist, mostly to represent the fact that this is an AU but only so barely. I described it as like that episode of Star Trek where there's two Voyagers existing at the exact same point in spacetime and they have to blow up one of the Voyagers in order for the other to survive. That's what was happening with sloppy seconds vs. the canon daybreak confession and sloppy seconds just happened to be the one that got blown up.

2. You're Sexy, I'm Sexy by Eric Nam

It could be simple as, it could be simple as / Loving on each other with no strings / It could be simple as, it could be simple as / We got more in common than you think / You're sexy, I'm sexy, You want me, I want you too / We all need somebody and mine is right here for you

wheeeeeee kez likes to have fun

3. Fuck Up the Friendship by Leah Kate

Let's fuck up the friendship, come, get in my head / Baby, cut the tension, I'm hung by a thread / Maybe it's something, but let's not pretend / Or maybe it's nothing and this is the end

daybreak, abnormal: yeah man let's both have sex with this person who thought we were dating and wanted in on that. we can be so normal with each other about it

4. Girls / Girls / Boys by Panic! at the Disco

I don't wanna hear you've got a boyfriend / Sometimes, you're better off alone / But if you change your mind, you know where I am / Yeah, if you change your mind, you know where to find me / 'Cause I don't ever wanna be your boyfriend / And never did I think that I would be caught in the way you got me / Push another girl aside and just give in

You will never get away from the sound of the woman band who loves you got you through middle school

Anyways enjoy this song about Brendon Urie's first threesome that's the only reason I put it on here

5. Somebody Told Me by The Killers

Well, somebody told me you had a boyfriend / Who looked like a girlfriend that I had in February of last year / It's not confidential, I've got potential

there's a lot of gender happening in all three of them

6. Jessie's Girl by Rick Springfield

You know I feel so dirty when they start talking cute / I wanna tell her that I love her but that point is probably moot / 'Cause she's watching him with those eyes / She's loving him with that body, I just know it / And he's holding her in his arms late at night / I wish that I had Jessie's girl

Yes, okay, it's another memed up song. Except it's real. It's real. You just have to listen to it and imagine with me. Sometimes things that are bits can actually be SO. That's what happened with ... this entire au to be completely honest.

7. Post-Break Up Sex by The Vaccines

To think I'd hoped you'd be okay, no, I can't think of what to say / Maybe I misunderstood, but I can't believe you're feeling good from / Post break-up sex that helps you forget your ex / What did you expect from post break-up sex?

To be SO clear. Just in case you somehow got to this playlist without the context of any of the other ones. Day and Break were basically married for several hundred years and then got divorced and in this version of the story, the kez situationship happened to pop up after they had caught feelings for a second time, but before they had told each other they had feelings and were both still convinced it was one-sided.

8. Jolene by Dolly Parton

Your beauty is beyond compare / With flaming locks of auburn hair / With ivory skin and eyes of emerald green / Your smile is like a breath of spring / Your voice is soft like summer rain / And I cannot compete with you, Jolene

I'm a FIRM believer in Jolene being a gay girl anthem. She wanted to fuck Jolene so bad it made her look stupid. Anyways Day and Break are each other's Jolenes.

9. Girl Crush by Little Big Town

I don't get no sleep, I don't get no peace / Thinkin' about her under your bed sheets / The way that she's whisperin', the way that she's pullin' you in / Lord knows I've tried, I can't get her off my mind / I wanna taste her lips, yeah, 'cause they taste like you

Oh you wanted the porn au to be horny? You wanted it to be horny? FUCK YOU. pining and feelings.

In this au Day and Break did end up falling fully for Kez and becoming a proper poly relationship like they did in canon, it just happened in a slightly different order. This is the first, really shoved down, inklings of feelings for kez happening Real

10. Becky's So Hot by Fletcher

And I don't really blame you 'cause / Damn, the waist, the hips, the face, this is awkward / Are you in love like we were? / If I were you, I'd probably keep her / Makes me wanna hit her when I see her / 'Cause Becky's so hot in your vintage t-shirt / Ooh, she's the one I should hate / But I wanna know how she tastes

insane horny dyke shit

11. Unholy by Hey Violet

I'm having thoughts all the time, you and I, and they won't go away / But I kinda like what it's like in my mind and I don't wanna be saved / Every night I'm undressing with him and I'm thinking of you / Yeah, I know it's the wrong thing to do, but I kinda want to / Say your name while our tongues are tied, getting shivers all down my spine / We're in bed, we're embedded in my mind

insane horny dyke shit

12. Better Kind of Best Friend by Xana

Can't stay away from each other, don't have the power, you know I'm a sucker / Watch as I swallow my pride along with you tonight / She tastes like heaven and she knows it, loves me and she shows it / Grinnin' up at her like damn, I could be a better kind of best friend / With my hand down her waistband, baby, I'm a fan / I don't die for my women anymore

insane horny dyke shit

also "I don't die for my women anymore, I kill for them" is something that can be SO paladin romance

13. she calls me daddy by KiNG MALA

Says she likes when I play king, little play thing / Yeah my girl likes the way I wear my crown / You should see their face when they finally realize / That she plays with the boys, but she comes home to me / Want to change her mind but I think it unwise / 'Cause she might be your girl but she’s calling me daddy

insane horny dyke shit

Also, it's a canon fact about Day that she likes being bossed around during sex. ESPECIALLY when its him (6'6ish, insane CON, literal slab of brick) being put in his place by kez (5'0 flat, 8 CON, 98 pounds soaking wet). I said somewhere the hottest thing you could say to Day is "you couldn't do a thing to stop me"

14. 20 Questions by Zolita

Was she sweet? Did you cry? Was it everything you wanted? / Was she drunk? Were you high? Did you fuck her in the closet? / Did she say, "I love you" like the way I used to? / Was it quick? Was it long? Did you do it how I like it? / With the lights kinda on, was she loud or was she quiet? / Did she say, "I love you" like the way I used to? / I got twenty questions for you

THEEEEEEEEEEE song of the entire playlist. The one that started it all. It's not actually about confronting about your cheating partner, it's about getting in bed with the person who was just in your ex's bed 10 minutes ago and the entire time it's just “you wanna know what we did?” it’s “you wanna know what they felt like? it's "tell me what she said to you, tell me what she did to you, tell me what she said about Me and let me take it out on you" it's “she told me to give you this”

15. I Get Off by Halestorm

There's so much left unspoken between the two of us / It's so much more exciting to look when you can't touch / You could say I'm different and maybe I'm a freak / But I know how to twist you to bring you to your knees / I get off on you getting off on me

At first, it was just them getting off on hearing kez say what the other one did or just straight up hearing it. tents not particularly soundproof. But eventually, that wasn't enough.

Day was always the more impatient one, so, she uh. She just walked into Break's tent in the middle of it and took off her clothes, sat down with his bare thigh less than an inch away from Break's, refused to acknowledge Break, and instead grabbed Kez by the jaw and said "I'm here whenever you're ready, darling."

And then THAT stopped being enough and they started fully having sex with kez at the same time but refused to touch each other or talk to each other or say each other's names. Kez had to pass all the messages back and forth (RIP her ability to kiss or give head ever).

Very normalstyle.

16. she knows it by Maggie Lindemann

Yeah, it's like ecstasy when you're next to me / Think that you should leave him and stay with me / I like a girl that's got a boyfriend / Can't seem to get her out of my head / And she knows it should be me in her bed / Yeah, she knows it, she knows it, she knows it

back on my kez pining bullshit. Is kez the boyfriend? or is kez the girl they like. teehee.

17. I Go Crazy by Orla Garland

Three words, two hearts, one maybe / Say something before I go crazy now / And my tears, your tears, don't phase me / Say something before I go crazy now

there came a point in the sloppy seconds au where day and break were so clearly pining for each other and fucking kez so insane style about it that they went. look. whatever's happening here has been great and fun but you NEED to figure your shit out. and gave them a date and time for the next threesome and then no-showed and hoped (correctly) that the horniness would be too much and day and break would just fuck each other instead.

18. Her Too by girli

So you came along when I needed more time / And I'm glad you did, but that doesn't delete her, so / I'm crying at weird times, and I can't keep carrying three hearts inside / If the old love said she wants me back, but the new crush has me in her hand / I don't know who I'd run to 'cause I'm loving both the views

as a known girli girly, i had to put Something of hers on here. and "more than a friend" is insane horny dyke shit but we already had xana better kind of best friend. so instead take one of the only two good songs on her new album

20. Would You Mind by Friday Pilots Club

While she's wasting away she'll say there's no meaning / To his touch, his love, but she still needs to blame it on me / Did you need someone else to help you forget the reason / That you fell for me at all in this hell of a season / If I spend the night in the gaze of strange eyes / Would you mind, dear, oh would you mind?

Courtesy of bekah/the rallie playlist: I can barely even listen to this song it makes me so uniquely unwell.

It's just. It's SO! All of it, all of it, was about pushing the other's buttons, to make them realize how bad they still wanted you. Would you mind if I did that with someone else? Would you mind if I touched them the way I used to with you? Would you mind if I talked to them the way I used to with you? Would you mind if they looked at me the way you used to? Oh, I know you'd mind.

20. It's Only Sex by Car Seat Headrest

Okay, so I’ve been reading all the sex blogs, and they all talk about how okay it is to be gay and straight and bisexual and asexual and have sex however you like. But I don’t care about hundreds of hypothetical people and their hypothetical sex deals. I care about me, and my sex deal! What about my problems?

don't worry about everything else i wrote on every other explanation the sloppy seconds au is so normal and regular and cool and normal. Of course it doesn't mean anything serious. Haha.

Would you mind? No, It's Only Sex.

You have now reached the end of the true playlist. However ....

BONUS TRACK: Pink Panther by Scene Queen

Please don't call, I need another hour / Three more girls are piling in the shower / Don't call, you know I can't answer / Getting pussy like Pink Panther

I couldn't find a spot in the main section that including this didn't feel like like i was doing a bit. but kez pov

BONUS TRACK: Do Not Disturb by Halestorm

I think we should make out, in a few hours I'm getting on a plane / There's a pretty safe bet you'll never see me again, yeah / I love your accent, I wonder what it'll sound like when you cum / Let's see if Blondes or Brunettes are more fun / I'm on the very top floor room 1334 / There's a king size bed, but we can do it on the floor / Turn your cellphone off, leave a sign on the door that says "Do not disturb" / And if I were you I'd bring your girlfriend, too / Two is better than one, three is better than two

If I wasn't already attached to In the Middle a normal amount, this would've been the playlist opener. Really captures the energy of, not quite 48 hours after meeting for the first time, Kez asking Daybreak if they want a third.

BONUS TRACK: Sick Bitch - River Moon Remix by LSDXOXO, River Moon

I'M A SICK BITCH AND I LIKE FREAK SEX IF YOU WANNA TEST THE LIMITS OF MY GAG REFLEX IF YOU WANNA PUT IN WORK YOU GOTTA GO BERSERK YOU GOTTA MAKE IT HURT IF YOU WANNA MAKE IT SQUIRT, UNH

morgan loves this song - she practically begged me to put it on the playlist, so, you know, i let her twist my arm

[kingstonjael]

“Taking Responsibility For Our Own Unhappiness” I have written several blogs on taking responsibility for my own happiness. This one has the same theme but from another viewpoint. Yesterday, I briefly spoke with the Ex Factor. I contacted him after asking for some space a week ago. Needed time to think. Needed time to clear my mind. I do not agree with a lot of things he says and does but two things I cannot deny: 1. He has been trying very hard these last couple of months to make me happy and 2. Being with him now (and for the last couple of years) has been my choice. With that being said, I needed some serious ME time to regroup. I blew up my own house when I was all smiles and did so unapologetically. 😳 Yes his lack of serious commitment to me is selfish but it is also true that he isn’t forcing me to stay. I mean...he’s made it clear that he would like me to stop pressuring him and stay in this moment with him but he isn’t holding me hostage! My big issue is with forgiveness! I struggle with how long I have loved him and turned up with very little in return. Most folks say GET OUT and RUN but truth be told many say that because they believe I am wasting my childbearing years on him. If we had children and/or were married, I promise many would be singing a different tune and I would be called the selfish one for always wanting a break. Our situation is toxic at times but name one couple together for more than 5 years that never entered dark phases in their relationship? The only folks I can think of are still in the “newlywed” phase and have no clue what long term looks like yet. The funny thing with me is I’m not sure about marriage and children. I have said that from the beginning. I see what a serious commitment takes and some of it I frown upon. I know folks who have their heads so far up their husbands or wives’ asses that they have lost friendships and even family. Even more tragic...they have lost themselves. 😳 Everything is just about their spouse. That’s fucking scary to me. If anything ever went wrong, they have now isolated themselves from the support systems they have had for most of their lives! ✌🏾When I see men doing this...I find it to be so odd. Society does not require them to lose their identity to be married but unfortunately us women are expected to. I have friends that I use to consider brothers and sisters that are now strangers to me. They only know about my life by reading my blog! 😳 And since I’m cracking down on continuously supporting people who no longer support me...I now keep them on the surface as associates! ✌🏾Now that’s not to say I don’t have some married or long term commitment friends who do a great balance of embracing their spouse while maintaining their own identity but they are really far, few, and in between. Shout out to them for giving me hope! 🙌🏽 I do not want the Ex Factor nor any other man to be my sole source of happiness. Brings me to another point....I’m fighting with the Ex Factor to do something we both feel is unnatural...being each other’s all! 😳 I mean his ass can always do more but I can also let go of the fucking past and appreciate how many obstacles we have overcome. Now I know some of you are reading this and are thinking I’m seriously smoking some shit by thinking about continuing this situationship (I actually haven’t made a decision yet) but hear me out. What your goals are and what mine are...may be different. The fact that I’m open to having children but they aren’t a must already puts me at odds with 99% of the women on this earth. I’m in the minority...I get it. If I was sure...this would be different. Leaving would be easier and make good sense but I’m almost positive neither marriage nor children are for me. The side of me that does not want to be a mother is stronger than any side the Ex Factor awakened to motherhood. And what if one day he wants children and I’m too old to have them? We have to cross that bridge when we get there. Many people got married thinking it was forever and got divorced. Some thought children were always in the cards and they weren’t. All we can do is deal with what’s right in front of us NOW. I have to let the weight of my age go. I look fucking amazing for my age! Also, I am so proud of the life I live. It’s just for ME. 🙌🏽 That was always my plan. To travel, to explore, and it be just me. That was the original plan. So knowing all of this...I have to ask myself if I can do without having the types of relationships I see around me? Can I stay emotionally independent? Can I accept responsibility for all the risks I’m taking? Can I stop with the blame game for my own unhappiness? If we are having a good moment...we should just enjoy that moment. Can I fall in love again with myself and my life and not make it all about where the Ex Factor and I are not going? Can I do these things? Because if not (and I stay)....I am now responsible for every tear I cry and all the heartache I feel. If I’m standing by him...by us...then I can’t complain he is wasting my time. Three and a half months into dating, he wasted my time by not being upfront about not wanting anything serious but after that I knew and I stayed anyways. And even the two years I left and moved to Richmond, the Ex Factor was in my heart. I have been choosing him for years....knowing his limitations. Is it fair to me? NO! But neither is me staying and pressuring him to be serious before he’s ready to. Truth be told, I love my freedom. I love kicking it with Harmony when I feel like it without being worried about a man. I like loving him but still being ME. And check it...I love my maiden name!!!! I am in no rush to tag a man’s name behind that bad boy...if ever. 🙌🏽 There’s so much about how I’m living my life that I love. I just want to feel somewhat normal but we aren’t ever going to be normal! That’s our truth! I think the Ex Factor loves me in his own way. The fact that he doesn’t ever ask for a break speaks volumes but we both acknowledge that I currently want more than he can give. Lots to think about here but the one thing I’m clear on is...I would only do even a semi form of commitment for LOVE. No other man would get all these chances and all this understanding. And I am not the kind of woman that would be satisfied with just any man that can commit...especially if I am not attracted to him. Maybe I am breaking my own heart but I never even knew I had one until I met the Ex Factor. Everything before was just puppy love. Not a love that has gone through hardships and is still going... ~KJM on Throwback Thursday. Shout out to all my friends and family who have listened to me whine and complain about this issue for years: My brother, Junior, and my sister, Brenda and my friends: Grace, Nicole, Lioness, and Harmony. Love you guys like some good stew peas and rice! Thanks for supporting me/us. 💜

[kulifefall2019]

Relationships at KU

Prologue

Tish didn’t know what to expect as she unpacked her things and hung up her pictures. Next to her desk was a frame picture and a note saying “forever and always I will never stop loving you.” It was a perfect picture, as picture perfect as the frame the picture was placed in. Little did she know that just like glass, her relationship would break later on in the year. With cuffing season approaching, the KU streets are filled with all types of relationships: friendships, intimate relationships, or just a random hook up. College has many things to offer other than learning. It is a place where one can discover themselves, make mistakes, and create lifelong memories and relationships. Relationships are a very huge component in what makes a college experience memorable. Just like college, relationships are confusing and like a major they come in all different forms. We hit the KU streets to talk to some students about relationships they formed here at KU. In this blog we’ll be covering relationships at KU in three acts: Act I, “Cuffed up, They Won’t Let me out” about entering college in a relationship; Act II, “Plenty of Relationships in the Sea” which covers friendships and other intimate relationships in KU; Act III, “Best of Both worlds or is It” which dives deeper into friends with benefits relationship. Join us as your guide in navigating this wild and crazy world of relationships here at KU.

Act I: Cuffed Up They Won’t Let Me Out

My experiences in college so far has shown me things that I’ve never really thought on for example coming into college in a relationship. Before coming to Kutztown, I dated someone for a year despite my families endless warnings against the idea. The concept of being far away and not being able to see each other was a huge concern for both of us. I thought about it, and after a lot of talking we both agreed to dive right into the unknown and give our relationship everything we had. We convince ourselves that if we can just make to winter break everything would be okay. There were definitely some questionable moments, but we’re still together so there’s always hope though, it will never be easy. Usually these kinds of situations don’t come with a template or instructions on how to keep each other interested and hold the trust. It’s just a matter of going with the flow and figuring it out along the way. For some, there’s a balance of communication, but for others it’s just not in their favor and the relationship fails.

Before school started, we were inseparable, but as I moved away, the distance between us grew farther. When we went off to school, we didn’t have nearly as much free time we had when at home so this impacts the relationships communication because of our classloads. Along with the distance Relationships need communication and patience, if one or the other isn’t contributing to that balance things can get tense and that's where the relationship crumbles. Sometimes one or the other can also become overwhelmed with school. I explored Kutz’ to find others who came into school with a relationship and listened to what they had to say. I interviewed Drew, a junior at Kutztown who shares his troubles of starting college with a relationship. When I asked him if being in a relationship in college is worth it, his response was a simple “No.” He would have liked to have said yes, but “we don’t see each other as much and our schedules barely lined up so it gets tough to communicate like we normally would.” I can relate to this, having opposite schedules is harder than not seeing each other often because when you don’t see each other, we often rely on phone calls and texts to talk.

Dolores Ackerman

Act II: Plenty of Relationships in the Sea 

“College is the best part of your life, you’ll have so much fun,” that’s what many people say. So far I have had several mental breakdowns, more than 50 cry sessions a day, and have been in at least 300 stressful situations. It is clear to see that the educational part of college, though rewarding, is far from fun. However, as I have moved through college, I’ve come to realize that the interactions that I’ve had with people are what pushes me to get through the day. The various forms of relationships that I’ve made at KU have helped make my KU experiences memorable. Whether it’s laughing with my friends at Cub cafe, dying on the track from a workout with my teammate, or having a nightly therapy session with my roommate, at the end of the day my experiences here at KU would be nothing without the people I’ve met. Each and every interaction I’ve experienced here at KU, good or bad, has left an everlasting impression on me. I haven’t been here long, but I’ve seen and experienced a good amount of different relationships here at KU. 

Just like the university has a lot to offer, so does it’s social scene. Kutztown is a web of social interaction and many would say it is fairly easy to come across and make these kinds of connections: teammates, friendships, classmates, relationships, situationships, and even friends with benefits. There’s something for everyone for every part of their college experiences, looking or not. Taye, who is a sophomore at Kutztown University, said it best when she stated “I really didn’t know what I would encounter on when coming to KU. I was focused on just being a star student and keeping to myself, because that’s the type of person I am. Now looking back, I don’t know what I was thinking back then.” After interviewing her for a fair amount of time Isaw that she treasures each and everyone of her relationships she’s formed at KU. Taye, like many other KU students who were interviewed, came into college focusing on either academics or parties. Even though relationships are a huge part of the college experience many people tend to focus on one aspect of college relationship, ignoring the many more that are offered.

Even though we all know that friendships and interacting with each other is practically unavoidable in college, most people don’t know where that can lead them. Just friends takes on a whole new role when it comes to the college KU scene. Take for instance David whose friendship with a teammate took several wild and crazy turns. It was the cool, brisk fall weather around first semester of David’s sophomore year, “I remember it like it was yesterday. She was always on my track team and I’ve just never worked up the course to say hi. On that fateful day however, I did. I took her to Pops and we really hit it off. After talking for 2 months I thought this would lead into a relationship, I was terribly wrong.”

David poured his heart out as to how he really felt a connection with this individual. The once teammate relationship, which turned into a friendship, then a situationship, eventually died out. In college these kinds of paths happen all the time; it’s just apart of being a KU bear. It usually occurs rapidly, sometimes even slow, but as soon as you know it one trial will end and another will begin again. Since then, David and the girl are still friends and teammates but just that. He has moved on to exploring other relationships that KU has to offer. That’s how it is on the KU streets; there's not just one yellow brick road to follow. There are friendships that turn into long time partnerships which could eventually lead into marriage after or during college. There are acquaintances or just classmates that turn into a situationship or a random hook-up. The possibilities and combinations for interactions and relationships are endless.

In the long run, there’s always an intimate relationship being formed at KU. Though everyone had different stories and paths that the relationships they formed here took, one thing that was a common theme in all of the stories is that they wouldn’t change a thing. These friendships and intimate relationships can be messy, heartbreaking, and confusing, but that is what makes us golden bears. 

Jerenita Sokan

Act III: Best of Both Worlds or Is It? Friends With Benefits

It all started with a kiss, which is pretty common for the average college student. I did not really think much of it at the time. We were just platonic friends. Nothing ever happened until it did. Personally, I never really saw myself as the type to engage in that kind of activity. I once believed at a point that it was wrong, especially outside of the standard monogamous relationship but didn’t feel the need to judge those doing it. As the saying goes, “Do whatever floats your boat.” In the end, I ended up finding myself in the exact situation I once called wrong. In my time of being here, I realized that friends with benefits is the way to go.

Most people have different definitions of what this term/relationship of friends with benefits truly is. However, the common theme that everyone sees is two people that aren’t in a committed relationship but engage in sexual behavior. Friends with benefits grants many KU students the opportunity to experience two different forms of relationships without the heavy labels,  because let’s be honest, there’s not really much time for one to begin with, especially if one is involved in sports or clubs. It’s also not easy maintaining a relationship in general and college can make it much more difficult one way or another.  

In an interview with a freshman here at KU, she describes how friends with benefits gives her the best of both worlds. She says “I am emotionally unavailable, therefore I cannot be in a relationship. However, I still have other needs. Being friends with benefits, benefits those other needs.” As the conversation goes on, she mentions how they both started off as really good friends. She had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn’t looking for anything serious at the moment. Time passed and it was something that just happened. 

The journey of friends with benefits can quickly become a tricky one if boundaries are not set in place. Someone can develop feelings or lose the bond of a genuine friendship. It is better to proceed with caution, especially in the beginning to avoid any messy scenarios that could potentially play out.

Ariana Garcia