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[renewyourheart]

It’s a process. One step at a time. If you’re having a challenging time forgiving, that’s okay. Start with cultivating self-compassion. Because if you don’t have compassion for yourself, it’s going to be difficult to have compassion for another.

[renewyourheart]

[renewyourheart]

No, love is not enough.

Because love isn’t enough. Let me clarify, love, in the way most of us define it, isn’t enough.

Love isn’t what makes you decide to not act out your desires when someone attractive starts showing you attention (and you haven’t had sex in months).

Love is not what makes you apologize and give your partner a hug after an argument (even though inside you know you’re 100% right).

Love is not what makes you weather the storm when disaster strikes (which it will). Love is not what makes you decide to treat each other with kindness, respect and empathy during a breakup or divorce (you’d be surprised how quickly love can feel like hate at that time).

No, it’s not love. It’s commitment. It’s the responsibility to keep your commitment not just to the other person, but to yourself.

[renewyourheart]

Chase dreams, not people.