#altho the post that inspired this was not from a mutual. or anyone who had ever been a mutual or interacted with me at all ever

[flashhwing]

sometimes I think about that time I posted a mild complaint about a pattern of behavior I had seen at large in a particular fandom and someone I considered a friend assumed I was vagueing them directly and cut off all contact. that was fun

[bisluthq]

You mentioned porn in a previous response to an anon to get you in the mood ring the doorbell. I dunno,.. I’ve had some crazy experiences in the sheets and more variety than most that I’ve met. However I have found along the way that porn ultimately had more cons thanks pros.. here me out.. reading, fantasising and making love with a person all share that common trait of connection. Whether it be connecting to an experience, another person or yourself. However, porn does the opposite after a while - it disconnects you. It disconnects you from reality because it’s unrealistic, it disconnects from mutual womanhood because of the objectification/fakeness cast on the woman, not to mention the stereotypical narratives portrayed of woman in the films. It disconnects from others because it’s addictive so when your in a relationship, it leads to demeaning the worth, desire and attention of your lover eventually if you continue to watch it. It disconnects from yourself because long exposure trains your brain to have your door open to that type of doorbell stimulation which often exits you from the narrative. I don’t cast shame on ANYONE who is pleasured by it - it’s made to pleasure. But it’s effects on our lives are much more determental when sustained. All I’m saying really is, there are so many ways to find pleasure that revolve around self or shared love, that training your brain to be fulfilled by that in the long term, rather than lust love, will mostly likely lead to a healthier and happier love life. From being a previous porn addict, I can definitely assure you there is brighter ways to make your day💕 Not a judgement post, just trying to inspire us all to learn together x

These are fair points.

I am personally not v into porn either - altho like I have found some really sexy videos/scenarios before but I just don’t need it usually and like my imagination is pretty wild lol - but I think as you say. Zero judgement and especially if you’re paying creators (and especially queer creators) for content that’s... pretty cool.

Like there are as you say pros and cons to it.

Watching adult content, especially when you’ve paid the people who made it, is pretty cool.

But as you say there are counterarguments.