#also it looks like it doesn't even resolve properly from what i've seen searching :////
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#.......if ur gay i recommend Not watching a time called you on netflix :/#actually bullshit i sat through 8 episodes of headache for rowoon's cameo and that's actually fucked#if someone braver than i has watched the whole thing and wants to tell me how it ends please just put me out of my misery#literally the most homophobic way to have done that#they took kill your gays to the next level of what the actual fuck did i just watch#i'm not tagging this for anything i'm disappointed but not surprised......#like y'all they just fucking killed a man??????? for what?????????????? so they wouldn't have to kiss?????????????????#this is what i get for looking at facebook i literally wouldn't have known abt this show but literally every other rec'd post was abt this#oooo i'm gonna kill a man >:(#(specifially whoever wrote this bullshit)#(and by that i mean i won't watch their shows)#this SUCKS#also it looks like it doesn't even resolve properly from what i've seen searching :////#i haven't even gotten to whatever the 'suicide' warning was for#kinda don't want to.......
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So, you're a system.
How do you keep a properly working (team/coop wise) collective? How can i establish a foundation for my system? How can having sys rules be beneficial, compared to the freestyle form? How can i propose and create foundations/rules to others?... Today, i will answer all of these questions. For those who are searching a comprehensive guide + awareness 'round this topic, this post is for you!
About working together..
Ofcourse, teamwork plays an important factor on how well we can tackle problems or obstacles in real life, no one can handle too much workload all at once,, so its obvious that we need help from our other parts.. but how can it be better? It could look like:
Assigning specific parts that does best at something to take over a situation, do not brave your way through if you're not great at it,, let someone else do the job for you, it keeps miscalculation and etc away.
Initiatively ask for a collective opinion if you feel unsure, it's not best to forcefully do it yourself as it might be a rash decision or missing a couple insights that's needed.
This should already be sufficient, but it can get even better if you have rules, as everything can be organized with protocols and doing work without having to be asked again, give those gatekeepers a break will ya.
Introducing the idea..
Have you ever spot some inefficiency, conflicts, and recklessness of safety and problems with switching/fronting in your system? Why not bring those concerns and tell that you have a great idea (even though its just by you reading this) by establishing a foundation, it should work.. but if it hasn't yet,, i'll tell you why having one is beneficial.
Rules are meant to be broken!.. Or actually not?
I'm not saying freestyle is a bad way to live your plural life, though, it does mean you will still have to face some consequences due to that result of freedom.. Some few examples can look like this:
Fronting without being recapped by others.
Fronting without your own notice and now you're confused.
Someone did some impulsive buying when you're away (the realest one i've seen amongst my friends)
Missing out extra details that should be important to be aware of.
The front being hogged all the time. Yikes.
Having a confusing timeline and memories scrambled everywhere.
And more..
With established rules, these problems will go away and its one more extra less headache for your life,, rebellious acts is still possible but remember that breaking them means there's responsibility to come. As a system with a great foundation for long-term efficiency and handling problems, not following the basic rules can cause some trouble in daily performance. Do you still want to be in freestyle?
Alright, how do i make one..?
To make a foundation, we'll have to encapsulate some aspects such as communication, switching and fronting etiquettes, ways to resolve, emergencies or backups, and anything else you can think of. I'll provide my system's rules in hopes you can take inspirations and grow your own according to needs!
Switching: We're gonna have to tell the others if we're done fronting. It's highly adviced to recap the person who wants to be out next, sure amnesia barriers are low enough to be aware, but the point is the person doesn't fully know of what had happened or needed to know, so this one fixes the problem.
Fronting: We have minimum and maximum lengths for someone who can be out, for the least as 3 days and max as 2 weeks. This prevents too many switches that will disrupt memory formation that will be shared for communal reasons and also means people don't have to fight for front and call dibs to have their own time, in turns.
Resolution: If it's something minor and can be done in it's own power, there is no need for intervention. We're not allowed to bail responsibility and double it to the next person, instead, a higher up will either come by itself as because its the job, or should be called to provide assistance.
Conflicts: Not like we're immune to having fights, but getting reminded by someone else that it is not the best way to solve things helps diffuse lots of unnecessary problems. This rule was made because back then my people would fight over each other and run to the front, do its thing, to spite the other.. even worse if what it did was rash and caused more issues.
Health: It is also necessary to let others know our own status (level of fatigue from being out, mental and emotional being) and depending on the situation, the person should switch out to get a break and rejuvenate,, forcing ourselves to function beyond our capacity will cause a burn out and no one wants that, right?
Backups: This is used when someone at front passed out or become distressed for all kinds of reasons, then need someone else that is safe to takeover and mask in real life, most of my system's work is internal so the one being out (external) is also an important role because they have to do the things, guided from inside.
I hope these will serve as an insight for you,, remember that we have to strike a balance between being adaptive and structured.. which means we can't rely too much on rigid rules or the lack of structure at the first place. Rules are always changed and updated depending on outcomes and leaving room for improvisation and creativity. So remember, yes you can kick the red cones on the street but never should you defy sys rules,, see you next time!
- j
#did#actually did#did community#did osdd#did system#dissociative identity disorder#plural#system stuff#sysblr#jeducates
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