#alabama anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks - February 9th

cool name anon (new), mocks anon, therapist anon, alabama anon, uni anon

Cool Name Anon

I'm new to Tumblr as a whole so hi. I'm 14, male and have attended this amazing high school for about 8 or 9 months. My girl best friend recommended Tumblr as a community. She gave me a list of blogs to look at and this was on here. Hello.

The anon advice stuff you do is amazing. I wonder if my girl best friend wrote any. (I'm too lazy too look, there's a lot). So I guess I do need help with one thing.

I kinda promised my girl best friend that my mum would tutor her but I live in a house with my 3 siblings, parents and grandparents. That's a lot of people. She also gets overwhelmed a lot and hates having people watch her fail. I've already run it through with her and she said she'll try but I'm praying it goes okay. I'd love to invite her over again if the tutoring works. I did promise we'd watch my favourite show together too so there's that.

I know she's had issues in the past and more recently having nightmares about future events that could happen one in a million and I want her to feel safe somewhere.

Can I have a cool sounding anon name?

Hi! I hope you like your name lol. Honestly, I think you're doing exactly what you should be doing for your friend. Be reassuring, be there for her, and remind her that he's safe and you care. That's all you can do, but sometimes it means a lot more than you would think, you know? You're being an amazing friend and I'm sure she appreciates it.

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Mocks Anon

hey it's mocks anon

I don't actually have much to say, I just wanted to tell you I've decided to talk the counsellors at school

Also I've tried researching a little about methods to help me study and i haven't found much (unsurprisingly) but hopefully I will soon

I'll update you soon (if you don't mind?)

Hi! I'm so glad you decided to talk to them! Yes, please keep me updated if you think of it! <3 I hope they're helpful!!

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Therapist anon

Hi cas! Therapist anon here (again I'm sorry)

Basically my school is shit, yeah? I live in the UK so that means gcse which kinda are the same as sats just a bit idk more? Or less? Whatever

I was really hoping to do biology as an a level in sixth form (essentially the same as college just most schools have high school AND sixth form which makes life so much easier) and I got a low b which was good hello! Higher than average! But not good enough.

They wanted a low a and I said in lessons I was at an a, a* but fumbled in the exam because MATH IS A COMPLETE BITCH OKAY

Teacher wouldn't hear of it (also didn't help she had been away on mat leave for the past two years so she didn't even know me!) We tried to get a trail but, again, she wouldn't hear of it.

Got my old teacher to email who was beyond suprised at my grade cos I was doing really well but last year's gsces were beyond mathsy and disgusting and when he emailed, the email he got back essentially said I'm not good enough for the school image and my grades were good

Let me reiterate, my grades were FANTASTIC HIGHER THAN THE NATIONAL AVERAGE I JUST GO TO ONE OF THE HIGHEST ACHEIVING SCHOOLS IN THE FREAKING CITY so it made me look atupid

I'm not stupid math is disgusting and deserves to die :)

But yeah the teacher said the highest i would get was a d and there's no point in taking me BUT PEOPLE OF THE SAME GRADE WITH SLIGHTLY HIGHER MARKS WERE ABLE TO DO IT SO WHY NOT ME

They took people from other schools and this school fucking knew mw ans my abilities but this stupid teacher wouldn't budge cos "omg the image of the school, we're all gonna die if we take on a student with a low b😱😱😱😱😱" also I genuinely think I could have done well I freaking loved biology and what they're doing now is stuff I know from gsces!!!!

Now! I'm beyond stuck cos i was really hoping to take biology and psychology (which I am taking and loving) but the only stupid careers I can get into is into freaking mental health and I genuinely cannot bring myself to do that (I went to therapy and couldn't imagine being a therapist/psycholigist)

So what I'm basically venting about is:

School wouldn't take me cos of THEIR IMAGE

I cannot go into my dream career

I hate this stupid ass school WHY WOULDNT YOU JUST TAKE ME IF I WAS DOING BADLY YOU COULD HAVE DROPPED ME AFTER THE TRIAL

I'm more mad that they wouldn't even consider a trial like? It actually does nothing to them whether I take the trail and pass or fail, it's literally all on me

Oh! I was also forced to take sociology instead (either that or physical Ed. Or IT) which is actually so beyond boring because the answer to absolutely everything is sexism or racism. Differential ethnic achievement? Teacher racism. Differential gender achievement? Tescher sexism

So basically with my a levels that I'm doing now I actually csnt really go into my dream career, my only choice is law and you cannot force me to become a lawyer I WANT TO GO INTO FREAKING MEDECINE OR PSYCHOLOGY BUT NOT THE MENTAL HEALTH SIDE AGAGAGAGAGGAGA

have an absolutely wonderful day :)

(ps also if anyone knows any careers that go into psychology that don't need a doctorate degree and don't go into the mental health aspect that would be much appreciated xoxoxo)

(Ps.s also the uni I want to go to doesn't care that much about gsces bur you need a 3.0-4.0 or higher to get in cos it's in the top 100 in the world but I'm actually praying they'll still take me. Worst case scenario I do a year or two of biology and then they'll take me but I don't really wanna be going into uni two years late all cos my stupid schools image is more important than me :/ )

Hi <3

I'm SO sorry this happened and it's so frustrating. I feel like education has become so political and like...customer service-y, and it's no longer about the individual student, and that's not fair. I'm glad to know you have other avenues to your dream career if you need it, but its annoying to know that will take more time.

Honestly, I'm not sure what else you could do with psych, mostly because I don't live in your country. Maybe something in research? Does your school have guidance counselors that might be able to help you think of some options?

Either way, that's so infuriating and I completely get why you're mad. I wish there was something I could do.

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Alabama Anon

hello again, Alabama anon here. I suppose I didn’t really say hello last time, but whatever. There’s nothing quite like being stuck in a house with people who make queer phobic comments so easily. By this I mean my parents. Sometimes I wonder what they’d think if they knew their daughter liked women too. Luckily, I’ve only got three more years. 

I appreciate the advice from my last ask. I will definitely try that idea out with my friends. Most likely not with my parents though. I do not feel like something happening to me because of who I like, I don’t think they’d, like, lay hands on me, but still. I may run it by my brother too. I’ve thought about anonymously coming out to my science teacher. She’s got this, like, box thing you can put things you want to tell her in (not sure about this one yet tbh).

one of the guys in my grade is so outwardly homophobic and supportive of trump. I actually want to punch him so bad. If this country keeps going like this I’m actually going to move to England. Especially since the thing about the people in Idaho wanting to get rid of same sex marriage. I’m not sure when this happened, but I just heard about it.

if I can’t marry my future partner because they may potentially be a girl, I’m actually going to crash out. I honestly can’t wait till I turn eighteen. I’m going to try to hint to my friends that I like girls too if the running it by them thing goes well. 

side note, I just found out about this woman, she was in the Olympics for some sort of climbing. She is so beautiful I actually can’t. I just can’t.

again, sorry for the rant and I apologize for the length. Thank you for reading this. I really do appreciate you taking your time to do so

Hi <3

I definitely feel like you're being smart by being more cautious. As awful as it is, prioritizing your safety is important right now.

I do want to say, as far as your teacher, I would look up the laws in your state as far as what teachers are and are not allowed to say and do. Many southern states are passing laws that make it so teachers can get fired if they talk about queer issues. So your teacher may react a certain way just to keep you and herself safe, you know?

I'm really sorry that I don't have better advice or that I can't do more, but you're always welcome to vent in my inbox <3

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Uni Anon

Hi <3

Okay so a couple things. First of all, I completely understand how you're feeling. It's a horrible feeling and you DO NOT deserve to feel like that. You deserve help.

Please, please, sign up for the waiting list for therapy. You have a right to be on there just as much as anyone else, and yes it's a long list, but you certainly aren't going to move up the list if you don't sign up.

Also, I need you to pick one club to join. Even if you don't make friends, doing an activity that makes you happy is something that can make a HUGE difference in your mood.

I want you to know that people care about you. I care about you and your family cares about you, and things will get better. But I need you to do those two things (put yourself on the wait list and join a club). I promise it'll make a difference.

[dylanisdazed]

What’s something worth doing in Alabama? Im planning on visiting all the states and can’t decide where to go. Should I stay south and explore near the beaches? Or stay up the north half and explore Huntsville and Birmingham? What do you think of if you think of your home state?

Well, I think of Alabama Crimson Tide and good food 😂

Despite our many failures, Alabama has some cool things. The food scene in Birmingham is one of the best in the country. I’d also recommend the Civil rights museum and art museum. Orange beach is beautiful and there are many pretty natural wonders and nice hiking spots all over the state. Huntsville has space stuff and isn’t far from Nashville. If you like sports, a visit to Tuscaloosa is fun.

The best thing to do in Alabama though….is me.

😂💚😏

[grecoromanyaoi]

every once in a while I lament how the austria hungary imploded before they could fully fedaralize as the united states of greater austria. not bc I love the hapsburgs but bc it would've been so fun to have two USAs

HFIDIDIRKRKRK god imagining what an austrian usa would look like is sending me into hysterics

[abchavenforanon]

So pissed Alabama /Texas (LoneTide) isn’t a bigger ship in the fandom, I want fanart of them so bad, losing my mind when thinking of them

-🍺

lonetide is an absolutely impeccable ship name. and like I always say- if there's no fan content of them, put some out there for others to enjoy! /lh

[snowyroads]

I loved the Paris fic so much. Your writing is so good!! Have you ever thought about writing a Sweet Home Alabama AU with Joe'marr? The exes to lovers trope, the sexual tension, the bickering, the jealousy would be so good!

WAIT A GODDAMN MINUTE!!!! 😧😧OMFG!!???

literally LOVE that movie too!!! 🤭🤭

see this is why i love y’all and y’alls beautiful huge lovely brains 🥹🥹💗💗💗

im about to just make a whole series about Joemarr movie AU’s😭😭

SUUUCH a good idea anon!!!🥰🥰💗💗💗

id probably make it like ‘Sweet Home Louisiana’ and have Joe go back to Louisiana from Ohio because he needs Ja’marr to sign the divorce papers (which is what happens in the movie if you’ve never seen it) cuz he’s getting married to someone else (who should that be btw???) and then blah blah blah, the rest of the movie plot, ect.

also do we want football mentioned at all??? cuz clearly football isnt in the movie at all lmao😭😭

lmk your thoughts!!!🥰💗💗💗💗

[divinituscaptivus]

M’lord why did you rename a planet “Birmingham”

(Not a joke. There is canonically a planet named Birmingham and it’s on par with Nostramo and Necromunda)

"I was not responsible for the naming of this world; its inhabitants were. If it is anything like the Birminghams of old, that name is an insult!"

[pissditching]

How are you shitty towards other countries when you probably live in the fuckass swamps of Alabama with an education of a 5th grader. You know what? That would explain a lot about you actually.

BRITISH ALERT 🫵🫵🫵🫵🫵

[janeway-lover]

abby I had a dream I was lucifer and adopted you

but also you were chloe and adopted me

Ro. Ro that wasn't a dream. I'm your mom now and you're my dad. We're also siblings and partners.

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks - February 5th

midnights anon, infinite anon (new), chickfila anon (new), outlet anon, Alabama anon (new), ⭐️ anon

Midnights Anon

Okay so I know I've gotten a couple messages from you in the past few days. I'm gonna try to answer all of them

For your oldest message- I'm so sorry your parents aren't very supportive. As far as your gender, remember that even if you choose to do nothing about it, it doesn't negate who you are. And it also doesn't change that you have time to figure yourself out. there's no rush.

For the message you wrote on Sunday - Honestly listening to your body and not listening to diet culture is SO hard. I still struggle with it every day. I'm proud of you for trying your best! And as far as your dad...he just sounds so picky! Did he ever work in the military? But yeah you're not stupid, that's....a lot.

And for the message you wrote on monday - you are NOT going crazy. But you do need help. Forgive me for needing a reminder, but is there any adult besides your parents you can talk to? A teacher, coach, therapist, anyone? I just want you to have a support system, you know? Also remember there a hotlines you can text and call, there's a list of them on my pinned post! And it's absolutely okay to vent to me, please don't worry about it.

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Infinite anon

Hi cas,

I really don’t know how to start writing this (it’s the first time I right an anon, idk why I’m so nervous, but either way).

So, imma give first some context cuz I feel it’s needed.

So let’s just say that I’m not the most affectionate person to exist. And well, we were having lunch, me and my family, and my father brings out that I’m not affectionate. I’ve listened to this just way too many times, normally I can control myself, but today I’ve just not been able to and I just get up and go to room and start crying. Then my mother comes and tries to console me and she doesn’t stop touching me. I’ve told her infinite times -emphasis on infinite- that I don’t like touch, I don’t know why but it just repulses me. And she doesn’t stop touching me, so instead of getting better, I’m worse. And through this, she keeps saying that I should be more affectionate, warm, loving and everything. But I think she should understand that she’s asking for me to be someone that I’m not. And I don’t how to communicate this more clearer as I’ve already done so and it has no effect.

Some time passes and suddenly she says. “Are you like this cuz you’d think that I wouldn’t accept you if I knew that you like girls?”

Ok, so this happens and I’m like, what? Like, ok, she accepts it, but how does she know? I mean, around the internet I’m really open so maybe she’s read a comment on a TikTok or something like that. Maybe she’s seen my Pinterest. But she doesn’t know what my TikTok or Pinterest accounts are. Does that mean that she somehow controls everything that I do? I more or less suspected it but I prefer to not think much about it. And also, anywhere that may say that I like girls it says that I’m pansexual. So she must know that. And I feel that she made the comment before with reluctance as if she didn’t want to admit that I’m pansexual. As if if she just said girls and didn’t say the word pansexual it wasn’t real. And I’ve spent a lot of time fighting with myself to come to terms with it. My family’s really conservative and I’ll never forget a New Year’s Eve that we watched first dates -idk if it airs anywhere else, but in Spain it is, as the title indicates, about first dates- and there was someone who was bisexual. So, point is, all of my family was making comments such as “all-terrain”, “2x1”,… And this now lives rent-free in my mind cuz if they thought that bisexuals were that, what will they think I am?

And I also just couldn’t feel more outed. I thought that one day I’d be able to say it and be brave, now I’ve lost the opportunity. I must admit that I thought that if people just discovered it it would be easier, it isn’t. Though I’m still not out to anyone else, so maybe I can do so to them. But that’s also a problem as my brother and my father make too many homophobic comments and then sometimes my friends, although they like to look like allies, they say things like “they’ve appropriated of many things that now I can’t use”, “why do they act like that?” and shit like that.

So now I’m just a pansexual-outed(I wouldn’t consider it outed but the fact that my mother knows and not because I told her makes me feel outed)-mess who also doesn’t feel completely aligned with being a girl, demigirl maybe, but I’ve never told anyone, except the internet. And I feel that if anyone knew, then I wouldn’t be supported in any way and I would lose everyone.

And I don’t know what to do cuz I already censored myself way too much around my family and now I’m doing it even more. Also, I feel that in the upcoming elections from my country my father'll vote to the equivalent of Trump here and I don’t know how to face that -i really hope he changes his mind-. And also, I’ve really started to doubt myself if I’m allowed to want to have boundaries regarding touch. Am I entitled to have sensory issues? I mean, I definitely don’t like having them, but there are parts of my body where I just can’t even fathom a light touch. I feel like my culture is too warm, and I just don’t enjoy it at all, sometimes I feel it too overwhelming.

So, all in all, I don’t know what to do with all of this and I just don’t know how to feel.

Just noticed how much I wrote. Well, if you just read it I’ll be forever grateful, I just had to write it somewhere and i feel that clicking the button ‘ask’ will make me feel much better.

So, thank you for reading.

Hi! First of all, you are ABSOLUTELY entitled to decide when and how you are touched, even if you didn't have sensory issues. You have a right to have absolute control over your body!!

But as far as what your mom said, that wasn't cool. Your sexuality is a separate issue. If you feel comfortable, I think you should tell her that upset you and you wish she brought it up at a different time. But if you don't, just know that that was not okay.

But YES please know your boundaries are ABSOLUTEY okay. Don't doubt that for a second!

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ChickFilA Anon

am i a bad person for wanting to live (a little bit) ignorantly so i won’t feel guilty about giving money to not good people?

(ex. I watch Disney still and eat chick fil a and listen to Taylor swift)

My brother is like a super activist and always gets mad when I mention liking those things. I do what I can like buying book secondhand but sometimes it’s just so much work and I would rather order it on Amazon.

I feel guilty when my brother points it out to me, but other times I just don’t care.

Am I a bad person for that?

Here's the thing. I love the people who are able to have the time, dedication, and resources to be super activists all the time. But honestly...and this might be a hot take...activism is only a PART of my life. I try to make informed choices wherever possible, and I think other people should too, but I also have to do my job, take care of myself, be in a relationship, etc. I am a thousand percent supportive of people who can put activism first always, but I can't always do this and I don't just people who don't, either.

Also I think there's a difference between some of these things...like yeah Taylor Swift has a private jet but she also donates millions to food banks. Chick Fil A donates to charities that are anti-lgbtqia. So to me, I feel fine listening to Taylor so I do, but less great about giving money to Chick Fil A, so I actively avoid it. It's relative, ig.

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Outlet Anon

Hey cas, outlet anon here. Man have I had an eventful day. So I ride horses, and today I was working a diffiult horse who's been on stall rest (bed rest) for a while due to some back and hoof problems. He did really well all things considered, and I'm really proud of him! I was able to give his owner a few pointers on riding him in the future and I might get to do it again next week. Anyway, I was riding in a western saddle, which is basically just the ones with saddle horns (the things cowboys hang ropes on), and I hit my thumb on the horn at just the right angle that a small piece got wedged under my nail (not at all the horse's fault) and fell apart when I tried to take it out. I put a bandaid on it anf finished my ride since it hurt a little bit but didn't constitute getting off early. My mother was with me (she likes to watch me ride) and she took one look at it and drove me straight to an urgent care. We waited for an hour (honestly, 'urgent' care? Please. The day those people are 'urgent' is the day I turn straight) before I got called back. Long story short, the doc couldn't get it out (he dug as far uder my nail as he was willing to) so he numbed up my thumb and cut a portion of my nail off (about a centimeter or so). I now have a bunch of shit wrapped around most of my thumb and have to replace the bandages every morning for a week. I get home and my service dog is like "wtf did you do? See, this is what happens when you leave me" so I let him sniff my thumb and the fucking maniac tries to EAT IT. Like... my dog is crazy, I've known that. That's why I bought him. But trying to eat my damn thumb, which is covered in some antibacterial shit that doesn't even smell like anything, is a new level. He chose my thumb over food. That dog loves food more than literally anything. I had to put his shock collar on so the gremlin would stop trying to devour me. So yeah, fun day :):

Honestly the fact that you managed to do that is impressive. I hope your thumb feels better soon! Also it sounds like your dog was rightfully concerned lol

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Alabama Anon

you know that feeling when you’ve got something you really need to tell people? Like you’ve known something for so long and you just want to tell the people you love and get it out into the world. But you don’t. Because you don’t know what they’ll think when you tell them. How could you possibly know what they’d say? Or if they’d still stick around? You know how that feels?

I feel like this currently. The thing I need to tell my people is that I’m bisexual. I live in a sort of rural area in Alabama, so a lot of the people in my town are quite conservative. I don’t even know if there are other queer people at my school. There probably are, but no one has said anything and I don’t want to be the first. I really want to tell somebody though, so I’m telling you. 

I feel like I’ve got a pretty good group of people, but you just never know what people will think. If I came out to the wrong person they could tell the whole school. 

Some of the people at my school already make comments about me. And some of the things they say about the other girls are absolutely disgusting. I honestly want to punch them. 

I apologize for the length of this. It sort of turned into a rant. But anyways, I love your work. I really do like the stuff you write. It always makes me feel happy inside, if you know what I mean. Thank you for reading this whole thing, if you did. I really appreciate it. 

Ugh yes I definitely know this feeling and I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. Could you kind of 'test out' your friends first by talking about queer celebrities or something and seeing how they react? Just so you can make sure you're safe.

I hope you have a support system in your family or in other people around you. It's absolutely awful having to go figure out these things alone, so I am sending you so much love <3

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⭐️ anon

so i came out to my dad. it was kinda weird because he came into my room and basically told me that my mom knew that i thought i was bi and wanted to talk about it, basically he told me he would love me no matter what but he just wanted to know (which i was really stressed out about because he’s a pastor) so i told him that i was a girl and i think i like girls too and it went so much better than i thought he just hugged me and we watched a tv show together. i just wanted to thank you for giving me the confidence to actually come out and now i don’t feel like im hiding this huge thing from my family. i probably won’t be publicly coming out soon just because of our current leadership in America but i just wanted to thank you so so so much for helping me.

-⭐️ anon

AHHHH I'm so glad it went so well and your family supports you! I really wish we could say the same about the government, but it makes me so happy to at least know your parents have your back <3 I'm sending you so much love!

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6 anon

WE MADE IT TO STATES!!!

Also, I agreed to meet my dad for lunch.

JEY USO WON THE MENS ROYAL RUMBLE!!

AHHHH congratulations!!! That's amazing!! Keep me updated (if you want) on your dad!

[dylanisdazed]

How kinky is a man’s musk to you? How ripe is too ripe?

i think its hard to describe.

i think it depends on the man and the situation. if im horny....and the man is like Eli 🤭🤭like working outside, sweaty, but clean then it's really hot

if a man is just dirty than hell no 🚫

ripe because its alabama and 110 degrees is one thing

ripe because you dont wash yourself is a no no

[always-rolling-my-eyes]

Fave Rom Com pairings and chemistry?

Good question, anon! Off the top of my head:

Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

Jennifer Lopez and Matthew McConaughey in The Wedding Planner

Sandra Bullock and Benjamin Bratt in Miss Congeniality

Julia Stiles and Heath Ledger in 10 Things I Hate About You

Reese Witherspoon and Josh Lucas in Sweet Home Alabama

Jennifer Garner and Mark Ruffalo in 13 Going on 30

[hrina]

I have the biggest crush on you u remind me of my cousin 🥺

[abchavenforanon]

I want more silly little crack ships/rare pairs in this fandom 🍺

Ex: Oklahoma/Utah , Montana/Tennessee, California/Alabama, etc.

Do they make sense, no, not even a bit. Do they make me so happy, yeah. Like I want more people to share just ABSOLUTE crack ships they have that they enjoy instead of the more popular ships.

crack ships and rare pairs are everything to me. my current favorite is texas / new hampshire. if anyone else has more, please share!

[hollywoodsargeant]

https://www.tumblr.com/prettydangrotten/715963567148580864?source=share

reminds me of a certain... fish boy

that’s so sargewood core. my favorite (gay) fishboys … 🐟

[daddysmusicblog]

I love your music today alabama is a classic

Thank you, I'm glad you are enjoying the music.

[alonsolobotomy]

Ya know what idk. I’m in one of the states at the bottom of the country, but closer west than east

I suck at geography so idk if that counts as a southern state

-🤘

ohhhh

i'm in south carolina lol i'm guessing ur near georgia or something?

mayb to the left of GA, idk