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Has 2020 taken its toll leaving you feeling tired, doubtful, overwhelmed, and questioning your choices? Do you ever feel alone and left wondering if what you’re being told is the ‘right’ way after all? The reality is, we’re bombarded with conflicting information every single day, from the time we wake up and take the first peek at our phones. But the truth is, you don’t need to ‘find’ the answers. You are the answer. This is why parenting is often more about healing and transforming ourselves - stepping into our power and innate wisdom and becoming strong leaders. The good news is...my friend, Tracy at Raised Good has been working on a new (and free) online summit for parents just like you, where she’s brought together a group of well-respected experts, friends, and fellow parents to share conversations on all things responsive, natural and gentle parenting. Over the next week, I’ll be sharing articles and videos from the experts featured in the Raised Good summit. Want to know who’s going on this journey with us? Tracy has an amazing star studded line-up of the top experts in gentle, attachment and responsive parenting. This FREE summit includes... 30 conversation-style interviews in total, including chats with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe @dr.vanessalapointe Dr. Shefali Tsabury @doctorshefali , Dr. Peter Gray, Dr. Laura Markham @drlauramarkham_ahaparenting , Pinky McKay @pinkymckay1 , Tracy Cassels , Rachel Rainbolt @sage.family , Kim John Payne @simplicity_parenting_official , Suzanne Tucker @suzanne_tucker , Maggie Dent @maggiedentauthor , Dr Deborah MacNamara @drdeborahmacnamara and too many to list!  It’s launching on October 22nd and this is your invitation to join the conversation! You can attend totally free for the 5 days of the summit. Will you join me at the Summit? Follow the Link in my BIO, or in my stories, to the registration page, sign up, and Tracy will email you all the details. And please share this far and wide as we normalise responsive, gentle, respectful, connected parenting. #responsiveparenting #raisedgood #jmilburn #attachmentparenting #gentleparenting #conciousparenting #ahaparenting #drshefali #pinkymckay https://www.instagram.com/p/CGUzj04nooJ/?igshid=1r2tsi2lkhu6w

[daddydocs]

Great blog post by #AhaParenting that can help a lot of parents struggling to keep it together these days 🙌 love you all and hope everyone's safe 🙏 https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/how-to-calm-corona-pandemic-lockdown #parentsupport #parentingishard #fatherlife #dadsofinstagram #blogs @dadbloggers https://www.instagram.com/p/B-0roclgKcX/?igshid=ijiu8reipqb8

[mykidibank-blog]

Sweet Sundays successes! Sharing family goals #awesomekids #parentingeasier #ahaparenting #app #kidsapp #kidibank #kidstagram #positivevibes #positiveparenting #reimagineeducation #parentingeasier #happyfamilies #happysunday #4dads #4moms #womenwhowork #sharethelove #winparenting #healthylifestyle

[nourishmentformama]

I think it’s quite funny how much I thought I knew about parenting before becoming a parent. Anyone else just laugh at their former pre-child self and the ideas you had about what it would be like to be a parent? ... I’m so glad that I have found a parenting style that speaks to me. It has many names and is similar to attachment parenting but takes things quite a bit further I believe as far as emotional development for the child. #awareparenting #gentleparenting #peacefulparenting #ahaparenting Those are some common names used around this very gentle approach to how I treat my child and most especially when he is feeling emotional. One of the main big ideas with this style of parenting is that when your child is having big emotions like a tantrum, it’s handled very differently than conventional parenting styles. ... The research shows that allowing your child to feel their feelings and simply be an empathetic listener will help your child has very strong emotional awareness and emotional IQ. ... I’m happy to chat with anybody who would like to know more! 💖 (at Tucson Placenta Encapsulation)

[mywonderfulbaby]

LoveParenting: How to calm down when you're triggered ft Dr Laura Markham ahaparenting

LoveParenting: How to calm down when you’re triggered ft Dr Laura Markham ahaparenting

Get your free POSTER and PHONE SCREEN SAVER download here: http://www.theparentingjunkie.com/stop-drop-breath ❤️ Leave me a comment! LEAVE A COMMENT:What calms you down? How do you stop triggers in their tracks? What did you love most about Dr Laura’s approach? Give me a LOVE in the comments if you, too, have found her work AMAZING ❤️ Go to full blog post for NOTES:…

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To Raise Resilient Kids, Be a Resilient Parent

To Raise Resilient Kids, Be a Resilient Parent

But parents who are unable or unwilling to confront that messiness may view their child’s outbursts as a problem that urgently needs to be solved.

When that happens, Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist and editor of the site AhaParenting.com, said: “We ridicule kids, we blame them, we tell them it’s their own fault; we isolate them by sending them to their rooms.”

The nature of the parent’s…

[karma-is-blind]

NAP Time: Rights =/= Wants

NAP Time: Rights =/= Wants

You won’t understand the Hobby Lobby situation until you understand the definition of rights and how they differ from wants. Rights are inherent (NOT granted). Wants are not. Living is a right no one has permission to take from you. Birth control is a want. Controlling your business (aka your property) is a right. Benefits from your employer is a want, a want you discuss when creating a contract…

[drlauramarkham]

10 Stress Busting Strategies for Parents

“I'm stressed, we're rushing, and before I know it, I'm yelling. When I see the look on his face,  I feel awful.  He was just being a kid.  And I was just stressed out.” -- Dana As every parent learns, you can't be a good mom or dad when you're stressed out, no matter how positive your intentions.

It's true that modern life creates stress, but it's also true that what stresses out one person may just roll off the back of another.  So stress is partly what happens to us, but mostly our reaction to it. Each of us has a responsibility as a parent to manage our own stress.  After all, do you want your kids to have the best of you -- or what's left of you? A three pronged approach works best:

Pare down the stressors in your life.

Keep your cup full so that you have more internal resources to deal with the curve balls that life inevitably throws at you. 

Retrain your attitude so you notice as you slip into stress-mode and can make the choice to shift gears.

Here are ten stress-busting strategies you can use starting today.

1.  Pay attention to breathing, calmly and deeply, as often as you remember, all day long. Late for an appointment?  Breathe.  Kids just dump their toys in the toilet? Breathe.  Breathing deeply lessens stress -- it actually reduces the stress hormones circulating in your body.  Breathing brings us back into the moment so we stop catastrophizing and can choose a better way to handle things. Remembering to breathe may sound simple, but it will change your life. Put post-its up all over and train yourself: Breathe!

2. Pare down your schedule.  Much of the stress we feel comes from routinely over-scheduling. That's a choice, and it costs us. Kids thrive on connection, so when we get too busy to just hang out and connect with them, they act out. Prioritize your kids and your relationship.  Then drop anything else you can.  Your house can stay a mess a little longer.  Serve scrambled eggs and raw carrots for dinner. You don't have to prove anything; you're more than enough exactly as you are.

3. Sleep. Sleep is an essential stress buster. Your body uses your sleep time to heal and restore a better biochemical balance. This is hard, because sleep often feels out of our control. But you can get more sleep, even if it means going to bed when the kids do. Just do it.

4.  Move.  Exercise is the best stress reducer there is, after deep breathing and getting enough sleep. Twenty minutes of sweat inducing activity every day will cut cortisol levels, put you in a good mood, and burn fat. What more incentive do you need?  Turn on the music and get your kids dancing with you! (Want more ideas? See tomorrow's post: Let's Get Physical: 15 Easy Exercise Ideas for Parents and Kids.

5. Cut your kid some slack. You don't need to stress about every little mis-step from your child. The fact that Michael clobbered his playmate or Jillian smeared poop on the wall doesn’t mean they’ll be psychopaths.  Most childish behavior is developmentally appropriate. Most acting out can be cured by your reconnecting with your child and getting some real laughter going between you, which heals both your stress. On those days when you're ready to tear your hair out, remember that moment when you first held your child and how lucky you felt. This is your baby, showing you as best he can that he needs your love and understanding.

6. Postpone anything but love. What about those times when you really do need to intervene to set some limits with your child?  Go ahead. But first, remind yourself that it's not an emergency. You don't have to teach your child a lesson this very moment.  In fact, all you have to do right now is keep everyone safe and return yourself to Calm. Anything you need to say to your child, you will say better once you're calm and able to re-connect with love. This eliminates the stress of feeling so pressured and powerless in that moment to say the right thing to your child (or, in most cases, to come up with the right threat!). It also prevents saying things you're sorry for later, so it makes you a more effective parent.

7. Give up your perfectionism.  Sure, life is messy, but is that any reason to postpone happiness? You're more than enough, just the way you are.  There are no perfect people, and there are no perfect parents. Trying to be perfect is a huge source of stress. It tightens a vise around your heart. Loving yourself – really feeling your love for yourself, even though you aren't perfect – may be the single most important thing you can do to de-stress and help your child thrive.  Practice positive self-talk.  Find ways to nurture yourself.  If you simply have to evaluate yourself as a parent, never judge yourself by your child's behavior, but by your reaction to it.

8.  Count your blessings and cultivate optimism.  Every time you start to feel negative, find as many things as you can to be grateful for, and really feel that gratitude.  Research shows this practice reduces stress and improves health and happiness.

9.  Find support. Parenting is the hardest job there is.  We ALL need support, someone we can vent to who won't judge us or try to fix us.  If you need more of that kind of support in your life, find other parents with whom you feel comfortable and start building new friendships. Listen to parenting audios that soothe and inspire you. Find yourself a parenting coach with whom you can check in occasionally.  Even the simple act of writing in a journal is a way of supporting ourselves and coming to peace with things that bother us.

10.  Find spirit in your life.   This can mean a higher power, but it doesn't have to.  Just step away from the distractions and find the quiet that inspires you to connect with your deepest wisdom.  For some of us, it’s as simple as a walk in the woods or gazing at the stars.  Your kids benefit from quiet time in nature too.  We all need to reconnect regularly with the miracles that make life worth living.

[daddydocs]

Every parent has their bad days 😫 #AhaParenting is here to help when that happens 🙏 https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/When_You_Lose_it_With_Your_Child #blogpost #helpwithparenting #howtoparent #parenting #parentingadvice #parentingtips #fatherhood #raisingkids #garyveechallenge @garyvee @teamgaryvee @dadbloggers @dadzstew @thegrouchydad @youreverydaydad @whatthedadsaid https://www.instagram.com/p/B9Sh5-YnlfE/?igshid=xoi6gz9fvefz

[daddydocs]

An important article for parents by #AhaParenting that I thought should be shared 😊 Times can be hard but the children shouldn't have to see it 🙏 https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/Do_You_Fight_In_Front_of_Your_Kids #blog #familytime #parent #parenting #parentingtips #parentingadvice #raisingkids #children #relationship #support #share #garyveechallenge @garyvee @teamgaryvee @dadbloggers https://www.instagram.com/p/B8cM_xOHP6f/?igshid=c8gbhbiciqkw

[daddydocs]

Hope this article by #AhaParenting will help a lot of parents when dropping their child off at daycare or a carer 🙏 It has some awesome info so thought I better share with you guys 😊 https://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/toddlers/helping-your-toddler-with-separation-anxiety #blog #parentblogger #family #parents #parenting #kids #toddler #daycare #support #share #garyveechallenge @teamgaryvee @dadbloggers @brainbytesacademy https://www.instagram.com/p/B78_njAAWca/?igshid=1h2extl8nazta

[daddydocs]

Loved this article by #AhaParenting 🙏 Parents do you know how valuable 10 mins of your busy schedule is to your child? 💖 https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/How_to_Stop_Child_Whining #blog #blogger #family #parents #parenting #kids #support #share #garyveechallenge @garyvofficial @teamgaryvee @dadbloggers https://www.instagram.com/p/B763VzfHgZ-/?igshid=10vpc5ut8qmz1

[daddydocs]

I love following #AhaParenting 😊 here's an amazing article for parents to help with teaching kids about emotions 💖 https://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/talking-with-kids-about-emotions-in-daily-life #blog #parentblogger #family #parents #parenting #kids #support #share #garyveechallenge @teamgaryvee @dadbloggers @youreverydaydad @brainbytesacademy https://www.instagram.com/p/B71uwyfntKu/?igshid=1krkbg6raaat6

[daddydocs]

Read a very interesting article by Aha!Parenting that had something to say to the family when your day has just been too much 😩 I'll be sharing the article tomorrow morning 🙌 follow me to hear about all of the parenting articles DaysoftheDad comes across 👊 #DaysoftheDad #ahaparenting #parentblogger #dadbloggers #blogpost #parenting #family #share (at Hot Springs, Arkansas) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7EpCMBn1uM/?igshid=1k2l5yyould7m

[mywonderfulbaby]

LoveParenting: How to calm down when you're triggered ft Dr Laura Markham ahaparenting

LoveParenting: How to calm down when you’re triggered ft Dr Laura Markham ahaparenting

Get your free POSTER and PHONE SCREEN SAVER download here: http://www.theparentingjunkie.com/stop-drop-breath ❤️ Leave me a comment! LEAVE A COMMENT:What calms you down? How do you stop triggers in their tracks? What did you love most about Dr Laura’s approach? Give me a LOVE in the comments if you, too, have found her work AMAZING ❤️ Go to full blog post for NOTES:…

[drlauramarkham]

Family life is a bit like runny peach pie, not perfect but who is complaining?

-Robert Brault