#ageism for ts

[justanotherfacet]

this is me NOW. i used to be able to walk 15 minutes down to the local park, walk a lap on their trail, and walk back. these days i probably couldn't walk a long city block without my lungs hating me (also where i live NOW has way more stray dogs than my old neighborhood.)

walkable cities also means sittable cities send tweet

[joealwyndefenseattorney]

He'll be absolutely fine.

Nobody in the film world cares about his ex relationship. And let's be honest, men don't face the ageism that women do, so if he has to wait a while, then that's no problem.

We know his ex won't leave him alone - she never stopped harassing her other exes either - but the more she embarrasses herself with her silly pr relationship with that semi-literate, violent thug, the more distance she puts between herself and Joe. And of course when they 'break up', she'll start attacking him instead lol

Like you say, Joe looks better and is doing more than he has for years. It will all work out. And even if it does affect his career, that's still better than being stuck with an unhinged narcissist. You only need to look at him to see he's healthier without her.

He looks so relaxed and free. I don’t think it will affect him with directors who know him- it may with some people who have doubts about the impact ts has. I love that we have seen him lately and he looks like he did back in 2019- glowing, happy and healthy!

[5ivebyfive]

I’m not here to judge my friends who like TS. But I do judge these fans.

One is…ridiculous, and the other pure ageism.

I’m not saying everyone has to know Fiona Apple (maybe I am), but…to infer that someone you haven’t heard of, or maybe a lot of people haven’t heard of, automatically is not as good as your fav? As though…popularity is what matters to make someone good? And then bringing age into it with…no real point but to say someone is older? No. Just no. Do not be these people.

Sure, we shouldn’t compare artists, each artist is different and unique, though that is not what this tweet is saying. But don’t assume someone you haven’t heard of isn’t better than your fav. And never bring age into it. That has zero effect on if someone is good or not. Some of the greatest musicians of all time are (gasp) over 50!

This really ticked me off and is one of many reasons I hate Twitter.

But yes, I’m also offended and aghast at people who don’t know who Fiona Apple is.

[hellsbellschime]

Okay, this talk of things you have no patience for in media reminds me of one that’s been bugging me - ridiculous age gaps between male and female leads. Has Tom Cruise ever had a love interest near his age? I was baffled recently watching Eurovision that I was supposed to buy that Rachel McAdams was only a few years younger than Will Ferrell. Maybe it’s because I’m older now and realize that contrary to what Hollywood has always told me, 35 and 25 don’t look that different.

Yeah I hate it too, it’s idiotic and weird and it places a premium on age that doesn’t really exist. It’s also idiotic because, quite frankly, while there are plenty of people who look just as good at 35 as they do at 25 (especially if they’re actors and have access to all of the skincare and fitness/health services that they have access to), however when the leading man is 55 then casting a 25 year old instead of a 35 or 45 year old woman just makes the man look even older. I legitimately just think it’s a narcissism fantasy, because the film industry is run by men and these men clearly want to believe that 25 year old women will still be interested in them when they’re nearly elderly, but if there were more equal gender representation in the industry I think that the perspective would change a lot. 

[brsb4hls]

Oh btw, to the "omg so many SPN fans are middle aged women, lol" crowd: You do realize the main characters are "middle aged" right?

The actors are "middle aged".

So "middle aged" SPN fans are watching a show about "middle aged" characters, played by "middle aged" actors, written by "middle aged" writers.

We belong here.

We are the f*cking target audience.

Just a PSA.

(I mean every one old enough is welcome to enjoy the show, but that weird ageism that just applies to fans and not actors for some reason is just annoying...)

[thelegendofclarke]

all these low res Jophie wedding pics got me like:

[tinkdw]

My thoughts on yesterday’s Mobby drama on my blog as I think it’s important for those anons who still don’t understand my point to understand how I got there and why.

1. Anon calls a relationship “creepy” and is uncomfortable and weirded out by it in my inbox.

2. I (quickly in a short reponse) point out that this relationship is in fact completely lacking imo in any problematic element at all eg. toxicity, dependency, brainwashing etc. and the fact that they find it creepy and weird is likely a result of long standing judgmental preconceptions and assumptions that it must have these elements involved when it doesn’t and is perfectly healthy, just different from the norm. Much as this knee jerk reaction has been in the past thrown at queer people as an example for comparison on how times change and people can get over these preconceptions with a little thought process, so I don’t like this negativity and framing of being problematic about something that’s not problematic just “different” and actually seems to be very lovely and healthy so far in my inbox thanks.

3. A few other people with the same longstanding preconceptions and assumptions come into my inbox accusing me of calling everything problematic, they think it’s valid to have an opinion on someone else’s perfectly healthy relationship and call it creepy because of no real reason whatsoever, they can’t give any, they just don’t like it and have missed my point about thinking about the reason why they think it’s creepy and problematic by a country mile.

Okay. Onto my thought process.

My knee jerk reaction to a queer couple kissing on tv 10 years ago was “oh weird!”, my knee jerk reaction to a possible big age difference here when I read the ask literally moments before I answered was “oh weird!” and you know what I did? I educated myself about life and people in general over the last 10 years and yesterday re this ask I just sat down and thought about it for a minute before responding.

I asked myself: Why do I think it’s weird? On what basis? Is it actually rooted in something genuinely problematic for society and the people involved or is it just a knee jerk reaction due to my upbringing and environment telling me that something different is bad and thinking it’s ok to have an opinion on other people’s lives? Is there any actual valid reason at all that this is actually genuinely problematic and therefore creepy? Are there non-con elements involved etc as per the above?

Conclusion: No. It’s two consenting and fully capable adults with no problematic elements that I can see involved at all. Sure it’s different and not something I’m hugely used to seeing but there’s no reason I should call it creepy or weird. I shall write that as a response.

That’s all it takes. I’ll always admit when I’m wrong but the floods of people agreeing here show me that this is a healthy way to look at things you don’t understand or just aren’t used to seeing. Just breathe and think for a second before having an opinion on others. I’ve had both sides in one day, I’ve apologised profusely for one thing I said in a knee jerk reaction and later realised was not what I really think and I’ve also sat down and thought about something else and come to a logical, positive conclusion. It really doesn’t take much to see that pausing for thought and really thinking about why we think things helps us grow into better people with a wider understanding of the world. We all have hang ups from our past, we can all make mistakes, we can however pause and think and attempt to do a little better each time.

I am by no means perfect, this post is to explain that I am obviously not and make mistakes too, I just hope that explaining the “pause and think” option helps those who don’t to understand why I came to this conclusion and who knows perhaps it’ll be a reminder to someone else one day to do the same and they can grow too.

I know it’s my exposure to others here on tumblr discussing things in this way that meant it took less than a minute for me to pause and think yesterday and realise that in my knee jerk reaction I was being ageist and had negative preconceptions on something I rarely think about and don’t have a lot of exposure to, it took less than a minute to realise my error and turn it around and I’m very happy to share that to hopefully encourage others to do the same on any topic.

[tinystudentstranger-me]

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[makeitquietly]

No matter what our opinions on, say, blackface and womanface are, I think we can all agree that nothing is more reprehensible than childface. Of course Laurel and Hardy are guilty of that too. One can barely dare to guess what went through their minds when they posed for this mocking photo depicting them as children in the nastily titled Br*ts. Both men must have had very low opinions on children, just look at how they even appropriate a toy for their juvenile *shudder* joke!  😛

Also, can you believe there are fans who eagerly recommend the movie in question, especially to children?! Surely this sort of thing must be traumatizing and potentially leaves long-lasting scars on the souls of innocent, defenseless kids. Which reminds me of the fact that many Laurel and Hardy fans, for reasons best left to imagination, aren’t even trying to hide their ageism, using expressions such as “childlike innocents” and “overgrown children” to describe Stan and Ollie in movies where they aren’t doing childface. I hesitate to generalise, but seems like there’s a big problem in the fandom that should be dealt with posthaste. Vulnerable children with no platform obviously don’t have much chance to object to ageism but what about grown men? Where are the protests against having their favourite fictional characters misidentified? Blatant misandry! 😛

[shedontlovehuhself]

EDIT: 7:30pm

I wanted to add more cause peeps on that bird app working my nerves. Yes I didn't like what Misha said during his live yesterday, but folks really acting like he made multiple comments and has did nothing but fat shamed throughout the entire live. If folks are hurt that's on them (they have that right). They can unfollow and ignore his existence. Don't support his work, etc. BUT what I'm seeing are people wishing him harm, and going after his looks. Even before yesterday people were making fun of his hair, his looks and his age under his post about RandomActs last week. When people called them out on it, their response: "it's a joke! He doesn't care" but these same people want to hold Misha accountable for his words during yesterday's live. They're out for fucking blood! Which, yes, what he said was ignorant, but was not malicious. If Misha can do better then we ALL can as well. These same folks who mocked Misha's looks, his age, his needing hip replacement are actually saying in their tweets "saying I don't like his hair cut is not the same as fatshaming" sweet, yall dragged that man with memes, gifs, pictures making fun of him. And the ones who were not outright mocking him were saying "petition to have Misha hair be like Cas again" and other remarks like that. That in itself is shaming and hurtful. The idea the appearance of age equals less desirable, lesser intelligence "you're an old man being crazy take a nap". Harm is harm. Body shaming of any kind is hurtful. Misha recognized what he said and how harmful it was and has apologized. Are those folks going to apologize for the ageism and body shaming they engaged in? Want others to do better, it's needed. Calling out harmful words behavior is important, but also look within ourselves cause NONE of us are immune to bias, harmful behavior.

Tweet from WaywardReSisterMal (@wickedm)

WaywardReSisterMal (@wickedm) Tweeted:

@mishacollins psst, I adore, love, and respect you but...... plus size people can be athletes too <3 * hugs * Awesome job on the 110,000 Meals!

https://t.co/CuvaVqqhQi https://twitter.com/wickedm/status/1351685351908274182?s=20

Misha I love ya, but yeah that remark during your live today made me bristle. We need to get rid of the stereotype that plus size people cannot be athletes or run. Something you and frankly EVERYONE needs to think about.

I'm not calling for blood like some on Twitter are doing, but I will call it out. Y'all saw my previous posts. Imma call Mish out cause I love him and want him to do better. That's all I gotta say. Please read the article within the tweet it really is informative. Being plus size myself. Also follow plus sized models.

[sandraantonelli]

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[hellsbellschime]

Speaking of ageism/Ageist. How come if a older woman gets with a younger man they are called a Cougar but men don't have a nickname for taking up a younger woman -- unless of course the woman turns out to be underage or their former stepdaughter. Like the only time I see men called out is if there is something very creepy about it. Like just like to see more stories about women dating a man younger than her but not be judged or shamed.

LOL I was gonna say the word for that is “creeper”, but your point is completely valid and the way that women who date younger men is fetishized whereas with men dating women it’s normalized is bullshit.

[lunellumcas]

I actually think, if anything, it would be weirder on Bobby’s side, considering he knew Mary in apocalypse world. She never died there, so apocalypse!Mary actually would have been basically his age.

(I’m not saying the age difference makes it weird, but rather the fact that Bobby has past experience with a different Mary.)

I sincerely hope that if the show addresses the “age difference” at all, it is 1) as a vehicle for Bobby to have some Feelings(TM) about being in a different world with different people and 2) to shut down ageism.

We don’t know much about Mary’s romantic relationship proclivities, wants, needs, etc.—she was with John forever, and then she slept with Ketch, probably IMO just because he was there (and for the Drama), and that’s all we know. I don’t think there’s any prohibitive established character reason to think her starting up a relationship with Bobby is weird. I think the main underlying reason we might think it is is because we’ve been conditioned to feel so by an ageist society.

Idk. I don’t think we thought it was creepy when Karen came back from the dead and Bobby still wanted to be with her. Idk the actress’s age, but my understanding of that episode is that she would have come back at the age she died at, and she had been dead for like twenty years. I think Mary x Bobby has some similarities to that.

The primary reason imo for raising up a squick storm for age difference in relationships is possible issues for the younger party with power dynamics, coupled with the fact that it often happens in media because of sexualization and objectification of women. I don’t think either of those are an issue here. So I’d rather err on the side of fighting against ageism.

I know ppl are excited about it, but Bobby/Mary creeps me out. Given that Bobby was a grown man when Sam and Dean were little, and Mary is now (technically) younger than them, she's young enough to be his daughter. I know Jim's fiancée IRL is significantly younger than him, but its still weird.

I’m not really here for “I find this weird” when it’s between two consenting adults with no brainwashing or other actual issues involved, just literally being weirded out by age. Because it’s “different to the norm I’m used to”.

This is too close to any kind of phobia, gatekeeping and exclusionarism. This is just a step away from homophobia. Who cares what other people do? It’s not wrong or problematic. They’re both adults in complete control of their choices.

Miss me with this. No thanks.