#against transmisogyny
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when transfems talk about how we live in a society, we mean that US culture only recognizes two sexes and two genders, and then equates them. male = man and female = woman, and its despises anyone who steps outside of those bounds (intersexism and transphobia). so when we talk about how you cant be perisex afab and then call yourself a transfem, what we mean is that society has (whether you like it or not) treated you as a girl/woman because thats what it said on your birth certificate. you cannot transition to be a gender you already a part of. and there are already plenty of nonbinary labels for people who have a feminine gender but dont feel 100% like a woman. and to imply that you can suggests trans women are not the same gender as women. so at best third-gendering us or at worst saying we're not real women. and when it comes to intersexism, listen to tma intersex people about it and not tme perisex people. and i mean actually listen, dont just use them as hypothetical talking points.
#raven.txt#im sick of this. pull your head out of your ass.#we dont live in the perfect world where gender and sex mean nothing. they mean a lot. bc we're discriminated against on those grounds#its like people want to just say 'ew why do you care about the binaries so much?' i dont. i need to be able to talk about them#to articulate my oppression. if you have a problem with that its bc you have the privilege of not dealing with transmisogyny#ok to reblog btw
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imagine concluding from this that transfems have disproportionately bad opinions, instead of tme people being disproportionately blind to transmisogyny
#jeady rambles#transmisogyny#theres genuinely ppl in the ntoes of that post sayin transfems arent educated enough about queer history and shit#instead of waiting one second and thinking oh maybe drag can perpetuate transmisogynistic ideas and the concept of drag#is often used as a cudgel against tma ppl. so we'll feel negatively about it. but as always transmisogyny just doesnt real i guess#lol. lmao
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don't wanna derail the post I saw this discussion on- it was all in the notes anyway, so it certainly isn't op's problem. I'm gonna say this with so much love:
Calling somebody a 'theyfab' is not punching up. If someone's being transmisogynistic, say that, or call them a bigot. Naming the tangible harm done to you will always be the most effective thing to do.
The cis people who created that term made it with the explicit intent to mock and insult people's identities. No matter what you mean when you say it, this is its origin and to most people, its only meaning. It describes nothing about the discrimination you face.
People afab are marginalized, especially if they're queer. You cannot "punch up" on a fellow oppressed group. I understand the specific vitriol that they inflict on you hurts.
You don't need a word to call somebody, you need and deserve adequate justice for the tangible harm done to you; and my heart aches that nobody queer- especially trans women- ever seems to receive that.
I'm aware I can't make anybody do anything, so I'm not gonna try to tell you not to use that word. I just want to say it can't ever address, undo, or heal any harm done to you. It can only redirect it.
#da#the og post was about transmisogyny and transfeminism and that was an important discussion I did not wanna elbow into#I'm addressing the people in the notes who were saying they 'NEED' this word in order to 'punch up' to their oppressors#I do feel for every trans woman and transfem having to exist on the internet rn. everyone's being awful to you all from every side#Dearly sorry that fellow afab people are making all your lives such hell#just also know that nothing about the word theyfab describes a bigot. nothing about it explains what harm was done to you.#it serves solely to mock an aspect of someone's identity. because hateful cis people created it to do that#you don't 'need' a targeted insult to use against someone directing hatred towards you.#cannot stress enough that the only group who can reclaim a harmful term is the one it's used against#i completely understand afab people can be particularly awful with their transmisogyny#calling them a theyfab will not help anything. I know. I'm sorry. you're hurt and it sucks. name calling cannot change that
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Being transfem does not exempt you from being transmisogynistic any more than being transmasc exempts you from being transandrophobic. If you believe in male socialization you are transmisogynistic for it, no matter what your identity is. I've said it before and I'll say it a million times more: there is no one male/female socialization and if you think you can cleanly assume someone's life experiences from their assigned sex, you are a transphobe and a bioessentialist (parts -> specific personality traits? really?).
#how are you going to reblog something about how the concept of male socialization gets weaponized against trans women and then say that shit#yes this is about a specific transfem asshole who decided to stick her nose in the transandrophobia tag and both say that#'saying theyfab is ok if you do it right' AND 'transfems are amab socialized & if they don't do personal work they're the MOST evil people'#transmisogyny#transandrophobia#intracommunity issues tag#rb
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so much of what is frustrating about the way tme people on here will talk about trans women is that you can tell they only think of trans women as this aesthetic category, an abstract identity collected through memes and porn posts and the vague knowledge that when you say "fuck terfs" it involves trans women somehow. its a culture which will pat itself on the back for how trans-inclusive it is while at the same time parroting transmisogynistic lines that drive tgirl circles to become increasingly isolated.
#its the most plain when 'protecting trans women' is invoked as a defense against accusations of transmisogyny#eg 'actually if you make egg jokes YOURE the one whos weird about trans women'
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threatening FBI intervention over a tom and jerry-esque “we would have beat ET with hammers” type joke post is the kind of thing a grown adult only does either if they’re being deliberately hyperbolic to save a bruised ego or if they’re so genuinely terrified of a minority that their frontal lobe shuts down completely
#i try to stay mostly neutral on here but this is different#i’m just now getting a lot more attention on this platform#and it would be wrong to stay silent on the fact that ceo photomatt is a googoo gaga bitch boy#who threatened police violence against a trans woman over a meme#that kind of fear only comes from severe debilitating bigotry#bigots are always more afraid of you than you are of them. that’s what makes them so dangerous#tumblr#photomatt#predstrogen#transmisogyny#o
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btw if you think "no one is transmisogyny exempt" thats just denial of transmisogyny existing and minimizing our opression. hope this helps
#jeady rambles#yall literally just hate trans fems and other tma ppl :)#and yes fhis includes transfems 'against' tme/tma too you have a lot lf internalized transmisogyny to unpack
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“Guys, come on, it’s not blatant radfem rhetoric. See! They didn’t say that they hate trans women. They said they hate trans men! So like it’s basically awesome now, because so many people don’t see you as actually transphobic if you take it out on any trans people who aren’t trans women!”
#trans#transandrophobia#transmisandry#transphobia#btw this is about transmasc nonbinary people too#and the last part is for all nonbinary people#so many people fall into that weird rhetoric of ‘all transphobia is just misdirected transmisogyny! they don’t hate you privileged mfs!’#and this is not against all trans women or transfems. Obviously.#it’s about how people who claim to hate radfems but then be like#‘stole their (extremely blatantly radfemmy) post but now it includes trans women and excludes trans men!’
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if you make posts about, e.g., trans men being seen as the worst of both men and women, denied the right to speak on either experience, and tag it as transandrophobia or something similar, you are making it very clear that when trans women talk about their experiences you either do not listen or do not care. Trans women also experience these things. It's not because you're a trans man. It's because you're trans. I know you're trans because you're a man but that's not the point, the point is all trans people are treated like this. Unless they either go stealth or gain high levels of social acceptance. Guess which subgroup of trans people that's easier for.
#Stop trying to act like there's institutional prejudice against men for god's sake#It's transphobia and misogyny esp oppositional sexism#I know there's a lot of discourse about transmisogyny but like. You don't need to coin a unique term for your experiences with transphobia#For them to be valid and worthy of discussion. You can just acknowledge that trans men are treated badly for being trans#I'm not interested in arguments either I don't care what the fucking imperialism defender said ABT it
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Trans people are not each other’s oppressors. That falls squarely on the shoulders of cis* people. We are all capable of harming each other; we can all weaponize or perpetuate exorsexism, transmisogyny, and transandrophobia. All of us. And we should talk about it together. We should talk about the different ways we are hurt both inside and outside the queer & trans community.
The community accepts us all only conditionally. Transfems cannot be masc or have kinks without being harassed and painted as a threat. Transmascs are ostracized for being too masc and misgendered, called fake for being too fem. Non-binary people are accepted so long as they can perceive you as and treat you like woman-lite. Any genders/experiences that fall outside or between these categories are mocked. And more. We all have stereotypes of us based on thin, White, perisex, gender conforming or neutrally androgynous, relatively privileged trans people. We all need to recognize and address these stereotypes. They are not representative of the diverse trans experience.
None of us are accepted on a wide scale by broader society. We are all in the fight against transphobia together. And it is a fight. Tensions are high and only mutual respect and support can relieve them. We can address intracommunity issues without power-jacketing each other or eating our own. No group of us has cis privilege. No group of us has male privilege. Nothing like cis men do. We need to listen to each other and overcome our assumptions to better understand trans experiences. I invite you to tell me how you perceive your oppression and I hope you’ll listen when I do the same.
#*conditions & nuance apply as always. I don’t tend to see intersex cis folks out there writing laws against us#I love you transmascs & transfems & enben & transneutrals & every other trans person out there. we are siblings. I will stand by you.#intracommunity issues tag#trans issues#transmisogyny#transandrophobia#exorsexism#transmultiphobia#transfem#transmasc#mine#long post
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i'm sorry, but if you (not trans woman) was read as a trans woman and suffered transmisogyny and your biggest problem with that is that trans women are not willing to accept you as transmisogyny affect then you kinda are part of the problem here
#zero interest in fighting against transmisogyny#full interest in fighting against the evil trannies that don't acknowledge the complexity of your existance
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i fully believe that some gay men view their gayness through their hatred of and dehumanization of women rather than their attraction to other men. you put your hands on your female friends without consent, you dance up on them and grope them when you go out, you make disgusting sexual comments about them, and then you degrade them to their faces and talk about how disgusting vaginas and breasts and periods are. why is a core facet of your sexuality how much you don’t like women instead of how much you like men
#also this isn’t equating breasts and vaginas and periods to being a woman I’m a trans man and have or have had all 3.#their flavor of misogyny directly intersects w transphobia/misogyny against trans men and transmisogyny against trans women#does any of this make sense#x
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is the unpopularity of transfem headcanons compared to transmac headcanons due to transmisogyny or is everyone just unenlighted
#i fear its the transmisogyny#to be clear i have nothing against transmasc headcanons its just that everybody will slap top surgery scars on a guy but no one will join m#in transfem headcanon heaven. sad
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and if I have to hear transmisogyny-exempt lesbians waxing nostalgic and pining to RETVRN to their precious bar scenes of yesteryear one more time, one more fucking time
#“things were so much better when we overwhelmingly kept trans women out at the door or they wouldn't dare try to show up in the first place”#(this isn't anything against bars or clubs or nightlife as pertains to lgbt people!!#it's the reactionary nostalgia and disregard (or let's be honest—Intentional Longing) for the transmisogyny of those specific scenes)#my posts#transmisogyny
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I'm still not completely onboard with the term (and the little existing theory around) "transandrophobia" and I'm hesitant about discourse surrounding it. I've spent a while now just combing through discourse about it, and specifically I never see people engage with the actual points he (the coiner) makes about what transandrophobia is and isn't. Or at least that one specific post I come back to, I dunno. I've searched "transandrodorks" even for it and I've never seen a comprehensive rebuttal that these things don't specifically impact trans men and transmasculine people.
But one thing I see a lot about is how people don't like the term because it implies "androphobia." But doesn't that indisputably exist? Like the term in of itself, the literal meaning you could take out of it. Fear of men/masculinity.
Granted, I believe the literal definition is that a phobia is irrational, but I don't necessarily believe that of "androphobia." I think someone could be completely justified in their fear. But having that fear even in a completely rational and reasonable way doesn't change the fact that it can manifest in ways that harm people.
Also, even if "androphobia" implies that men are/masculinity is oppressed (i.e. how homophobia relates to homosexuality, homophobia not always being caused by literal fear), would cisgender men really adopt a term used by transgender men and transmasculine people like this? Am I not conceptualizing the doom that would be upon us if "transandrophobia" were even a little bit known? I don't know.
I'm still reading about transmisogyny and just the idea of transmasculinity at all, so this is not my #1 concern right now. But everytime I see a post about trans male and transmasculine specific oppression, I often feel it's written in bad faith. Could this be my own transmisogyny and unwillingness to give transfeminists the benefit of the doubt? Am I tone policing in my head? I don't know.
I'm not incredibly knowledgeable about theory at all. This topic has only been on my radar since I started following twitter discourse but I think it started on Tumblr.
#transandrophobia#discourse#anti transmasculinity#i hate the term transmisandry honestly#it's so loaded#like actual crypto twerfs and transmisogynists have a field day with it#The last paragraph isn't to argue that transandrophobia proponents have been uniquely kind or anything#or uniquely in good faith#transmisogyny is still a huge issue in these spaces#but the person who coined it specifically doesn't seem to have this problem#and the posts by transandrophobia posters#i don't expect them to change my opinion generally#when i read ones by people arguing against transandrophobia as a concept#im consciously trying to be unconvinced#like transandrophobia posters on twitter are annoying and often problematic as all hell#do i feel attached to the concept and am therefore more unwilling to be “unconvinced” of it because i want it to be real#I LIKED ST-DIONYSUS' POST ABOUT IT#i dunno#textpost#my post
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It is crazy how much time some TME trans people spend trying to prove that TERFs hate us too. Like yeah okay whatever, they hate us too, we know. But do you think the fact that TME trans TERFs exist maybe tells you something about the primary target of TERFs. Which is to say. Not us! Like do you think perhaps the amount of time TERFs spend harassing and talking about and thinking about trans women maybe says something important!!
#like just get your fucking focus right#sometimes it's not about you#get over it and start fighting against transmisogyny if you want an end to that movement
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