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6 Things Every Girl Should Know About Feeling Alone

1)  When you feel alone it’s a reminder that you are human, everyone feels alone sometimes although many people feel too ashamed to admit it. Whenever we are abandoned, ignored, misunderstood, rejected, let down or devalued we are very vulnerable to experiencing the horrible pain of loneliness but that’s ok, all pain is temporary right?  We’re strong, we will survive!  

2) “But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary (all alone) is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

3) The loneliest moment in life is when you have just experienced that which you thought would deliver the ultimate,and it has just let you down.”- Ravi Zacharias

4) “Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone to experience, appreciate, and love yourself.” – Robert Tew

5)  Online communities are an expression of loneliness. —Joanne Harris

6) Not everyone you lose is a loss. Standing alone is better than being around people who don’t value you.

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B is for Boundaries

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6 Things Every Girl Should Know About Decision-Making

1) The Oxford Dictionary defines a decision as a conclusion reached after consideration.

 Question:  Are you spending enough time thinking and considering before you make important decisions???? The decisions we make today are likely to affect our lives tomorrow, so it’s important that we always spend time thinking and considering before big decisions.

2) “Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions, let your emotions subside then decide.”

3) "Many people think that if they haven’t yet made a decision, the decision has not been made but that’s not the case, plenty of indecision becomes a decision with time."

4) Be careful not to base your decisions completely on the advice of people who don't have to deal with the result.

5) Sometimes you know you’ve made the right decision, simply because of how hard it is to make.

6) Every personal, educational and career achievement,starts with a decision to try!

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#FaveQuote

“Fences are boundaries, they enable us to know where our yard begins and our yard ends and our neighbours yard begins. ...boundaries include our own thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams , fears, values, and beliefs. These things set us apart, reminding us of our separateness as individuals. When I let someone, for example, pressure me into something I don't agree with or don't want to do, I allow my boundaries to be crossed...Skin is an example of an important  personal boundary. Your skin and everything in it, belongs to you and no one else. You are to respect it and make sure that others respect it...In addition to establishing and enforcing our own boundaries, we must respect the boundaries of others. We do this by valuing differences. When our opinions or ideas are different, we must respect the choices others make, even if they are vastly different to ours . We do not belittle or demonize them. We violate the fence of separateness when we tell others what they should think and feel. “

 Geri Scazzero author of The Emotionally Healthy Woman

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6 Things Every Girl Should Know About Feeling Under Pressure to Do Things You Don't Want To Do

1. Everyone has felt pressure to do things they don’t truly want to do, this type of peer pressure is part of life. But here’s the thing: it’s not the pressure that’s the problem, it’s often how we choose to respond to the pressure. There are some people who find that they weaken under peer pressure and do and say things that are not their true desires, while others stand firm, fight the pressure and remain true to their desires. 

2. Always remember that just because we feel under pressure to do something that we don't want to do that doesn't mean we must do it . No, we choose how we respond to the peer pressure, no one can choose for us.

3. It doesn't require maturity, strength or fierceness to follow our friends into the badness that we may feel pressure to do but don’t really want to do - anyone can do that.  However, it’s a sign of true maturity, strength and fierceness to walk away when our friends going in the wrong direction. "Stick to your morals. They will be put to the test, but i promise, it's the best way to go." Josie Loren

4. Saying and doing things that we don’t truly want to do can lead to us feeling full of regret, shame, powerless, self-hate, low self-esteem, helpless, guilty and depressed. All of these temporary feelings remove our girl power which isn’t good.

5. Every day thousands of girls secretly feel under pressure to drink alcohol, smoke, take drugs, change friends because their other friends don't like them, bullying others, bunk off school, get a boyfriend, have sex, give oral sex, text naked photos to boys etc. Our conscience will often warn us that something is wrong before we do it. So don’t allow anyone to control you or your choices by forcing you to do things you don’t truly want to do. You have your own mind and thoughts for a reason. If you feel under pressure to do things that you don’t want to do and you need help, speak an adult who you can trust, get help and get support. Let's not allow pressure to remove our inner girl power, let's stay strong, lets stay fierce! .

6. Deliberately putting pressure on our friends to do things that we know in our hearts  they don't truly want to do is really cruel.  Let's love our friends and be kind to our friends, let's not be cruel.

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15 Things Every Girl Should Remember in 2015.

Remember: You are valuable so value yourself as you would value other things you treat with care.  Remember: Every day of 2015 may not be a good day but there's something good in everyday. Remember: Choices really do shape your life so do your best to make good healthy and positive choices. Your actions today will affect your life in the future.

Remember: Regularly count your blessings and all the good things in your life. For example, clean water, family,friends, food, clothes, iPhone etc

Remember: Friendship should not be painful don't be friends with people who are intentionally cruel to you.

Remember: To exercise your body --> see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tj9d6aBOzDo

 Remember: School is important, of course it's not always enjoyable but good GCSEs are valuable . Strive to get the best grades you can, why? Because having school, college and university qualifications on your CV is the best way to avoid unemployment and life struggling in poverty with hardly any £££.

Remember: "When you stumble, keep faith. And when you're knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can't or shouldn't go on." -- Hillary Clinton

Remember: To read http://team-fierce.com  and follow us on twitter @teamfierce15 and Instragram @teamfierce15

 Remember: Don’t let feeling uncertain about your future stress you out and upset in your present, focus on what you can control not what you can’t - what will be will be!

Remember: To hold on very tight to your personal moral values. "Right is right, even if everyone is against it; and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it” William Penn

Remember: School teachers not your enemy, yes, some of them not brilliant at their jobs but that doesn’t give you the green light to daily disrespect them. 

Remember: You have the power to choose the type of romantic relationship you want to be in. Nowadays many boys want sex, sex, sex with no commitment, commitment, commitment. Millions of girls are not happy with sexual relationships without commitment, love, trust, exclusivity, loyalty and there’s nothing wrong in that.

 Remember - To do work experience, even if your school or parents are unable help you to get it, don’t miss out! Do your research, write to the person responsible for work experience, if you don’t ask, you don’t get.

Remember: Your words have power so if you can't say something nice, don't say, tweet, update your Facebook status etc with anything at all.

Happy New Year everyone! Wishing all our wonderful readers a brilliant 2015 xxx

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6 Things Every Teenage Girl Should Know About Stupidity

1.We must learn from our mistakes, but if we keep on making the same mistake over and over and over again, then we are suffering from stupidity.

2.Whenever we choose to ignore or throw away good, useful or wise advice from someone who wants what is best for us, we are suffering from stupidity.

3.Stupidity is not a person's identity. Being naive, innocent, inexperienced, immature etc doesn't mean we're a stupid. However, continuously making foolish decisions and behaving at a level lower than you are capable of is stupidity. 

4.Stupidity is not cute.  It will disturb you when you look back at your stupidity moments .Using your common sense is so cute - like a good Brazilian weave it won't fail you!

5.The dictionary defines stupidity as behaviour that shows a lack of good sense or judgement. Pay attention to your life, think before you speak, act and make decisions.

6."Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." Martin Luther King

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This is brilliant advice!

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6 Things Every Teenage Girl Should Know About Self- Love

1)”The very definition of self-love is to treat  yourself  the same way  you would treat anyone or anything you love deeply.”

2)”It sounds like a cliche but I also learnt that you’re not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about how you are.” Emma Watson

3) “I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt”. - Maya Angelou

4)There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. People who do not experience self-love have little or no capacity to love others. Nathaniel Branden

5)You have to love yourself. That’s the single most powerful thing. Out of that springs: How are you eating? How are you exercising? How are you resting? Nia Peeples

6)"Love yourself because you deserve to be loved. Respect yourself because you deserve to be respected. Value yourself because you  deserve to be valued. Be kind to yourself because you deserve kindness. Protect yourself from harm because you deserve to be protected". Selena G

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Attitudes are more important than facts

"Dr. Karl Menninger once said, 'Attitudes are more important than facts.'That is worth repeating until its truth grips you. Any fact facing us, however difficult, even seemingly hopeless, is not so important as our attitude toward that fact. How you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. On the other hand, a confident and optimistic thought pattern can modify or overcome the fact altogether." (Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking, 1952)

No matter what difficult circumstances we are face in our lives, very often it's our positive or negative attitude towards the situation that is more important than the facts of the difficult problem.

Girls, we are not powerless, we have power to deal with the facts. We don't need to let temporary problems scare or intimidate us, we are stronger! 

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Quote Of The Day

 Sharmadean says: "Just because you're young and you're a girl, don't let people talk down to you or undervalue you."

 Sharmadean Reid is the founder and owner of  wah-nails.com

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6 Things Every Teenage Girl Should Know About Your Potential For Greatness

1)You’re full of potential, potential is the difference between what is actual and what is possible. Potential is the unexposed ability, the reserved strength, the unused success, the dormant gifts and the hidden talents that lie within us..all of us possess the hidden ability to be greater than we are today. Christine Caine

2)“THERE are countless ways of achieving greatness, but any road to achieving one’s maximum potential must be built on a bedrock of respect for the individual, a commitment to excellence, and a rejection of mediocrity.” ~ Buck Rodgers

3)"CONTINUOUS effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential” Winston Churchill

4)“MAN was designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness.” ~ Zig Ziglar

5)"Our potential in life is not determined by uncontrollable circumstances and settings, racial or gender characteristics, economic conditions or access to knowledge, or even social connections or family heritage. We must never fall victim to the fallacy that success is a result of the schools we graduated from, jobs held, awards won, degrees earned, wealth acquired, or any credential or certificate obtained. Success and potential are created, developed, and determined within ourselves.” ~ Matthew V. Toone

6)THE will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.Eddie Robinson

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People impact our lives so choose your close friends carefully.

Friends should add value and fun to our lives and we should add value and fun to theirs. If  any relationship is making your life worst then you're  probably better off without that person inside your life. 

Quote Of The Day!

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Quote Of The Day

"The truth is, no one else is in charge of how you feel. And that means, you are also not in charge of how anyone else feels. Feelings belong to the feeler....So while we can't escape feeling other people altogether (nor would we want to), we can begin to shift the amount that we let their experiences dictate ours. And we do this by taking responsibility for our own sense of well-being.The Dalai Lama has said, "Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." And I'm with him. Your inner peace is yours. Inside you. That's where it comes from. Not from him. Not from her. Yours. And when you realize this, you will be on the path to freedom."

Shelly Bullard is a Marriage and Family Therapist

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Quote Of The Day

"If you want to live with a sense of purpose and passion you have to devote yourself to one thing rather than skimming the surface of life and trying to take on too much. Shortly before Pavotti 's death in 2007 he said this,' for life I choose one chair, it took 7 years of study and frustration before I made my first professional appearance. It took another seven to reach the metropolitan opera and now I think that whether its laying bricks or writing a book whatever we choose to give ourselves to, it's commitment that's the key, choose one chair.'  He (Pavotti) had to say no to a whole load of good stuff in order to pursue the best."

@AndyTilsley

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Quote Of The Day

bell hooks says :"Striving for self-sufficiency is a worthy and necessary goal. Being economically in control of ones resources is an important aspect of healthy self-esteem."

 bell hooks, is an American author, feminist, and social activist.