#actuallyasexual

[cat-doggy]

I feel like me being aroace is connected to my autism but I can't find the right terms for this feeling-

I just know the way I experience attraction...isn't neurotypical

Idk if I'm explaining this right augh I'm sorry

[pawsteps]

sorry (not sorry) but as an asexual person, i will never accept the whole "aces can have/enjoy sex" thing. if you enjoy sex, you are allosexual. idk why this is such a controversial take when it's literally just true. ppl who lack sexual attraction do not go looking for sex bc they don't have that drive to, it isn't something they want which means they don't enjoy it. anyone who claims they're ace but enjoys/seeks out sex is literally just allo and in denial for some reason. "ohhh, but what about aces who have sex just to please their partners?" that is extremely bad and i genuinely cannot fucking believe this is something ppl encourage; you are encouraging rape culture. why the fuck would someone want to have "sex" with someone who doesn't enjoy it and is only doing it to please them? major red flags there, run from that relationship asap. it is terrifying to me that we're at a point where we can't have a label that clearly states no sex without ppl trying to make up a million different reasons as to why actually, we can/should have sex. it's disgusting and i wish ppl would stop bastardizing the asexual label and trying to make ace ppl feel like they have to have sex. i've spent years in denial about my asexuality bc i felt broken for not wanting sex, i do not need this shit from my own community and neither do other ppl like me

[canon-asexual-poll]

Here is our bracket! Polls will be live tomorrow, Nov 14 at 10AM and will last for one week. Propaganda will be reblogged on this blog, but please put it on the poll posts or the character interest posts. Don’t submit propaganda through asks.

All round 1 matches will be linked below the cut after they go live

Caduceus Clay (Critical Roll) vs Diane (Lumberjanes)

SpongeBob SquarePants (SpongeBob SquarePants) vs Jughead Jones (Archie 2015)

Ca$h Piggott (Heartbreak High) vs Isaac Rydle (Val & Isaac)

Gwenpool (Marvel) vs Mousefur (Warrior Cats)

Todd Chavez (Bojack Horseman) vs The Professor (Gilligan’s Island)

Kale Romero (Monster Prom) vs Sakuko (Koisenu Futari)

Jonathan Sims (The Magnus Archives) vs Lore Woodwind (Val & Isaac)

Dr. Grissom (ARS Paradoxica) vs Coach (Monster Prom)

Lilith Clawthorne (The Owl House) vs Argent Adept (Sentinels of the Multiverse)

Maya (Borderlands) vs Luffy (One Piece)

Green Arrow (DC) vs Count Orlo (The Great)

Peridot (Steven Universe) vs Jody Marsh (Zombies, Run!)

Perry the Platypus (Phineas & Ferb) vs Alex (AJ & Magnus)

Bill Cipher (Gravity Falls) vs Fitzroy Maplecourt (The Adventure Zone)

Isaac Henderson (Heartstopper) vs Nellie (Rain)

Mordecai Heller (Lackadaisy) vs Takahashi (Koisenu Futari)

[autistic-angel]

Saying that people aren’t asexual because they aren’t amoebas is like saying “that’s not a bat. It has wings and doesn’t hit a baseball”

[feekins]

no no, you don't understand. I'm so asexual, the last time my atoms had any interest in getting any was the Big Bang.

[hungarianmudkip69]

thinking abt the time i explained the meaning of the colors of the ace flag to my dad and when i got to "white is for non-ace allies" he excitedly and loudly declared "I'M WHITE"

[vergess]

FWD (no, I am only now asking this, maybe): "Vergess are you ace!"

I don't know!!!!!

I don't personally think of myself in such terms because they aren't of political value to me.

In an absolute sense, yes, I am "asexual." I experience NO sexual attraction to any person.

But in practical terms, I have no connection to asexual culture. Even in the Before Times of 2012 when being ace hadn't yet been shat on by TERFs, the term just does little for me.

I love sex. I seek it out constantly. It's one of my favourite hobbies. I have had more sexual partners than I can count. I will continue having more. Being a slut is my third highest calling in life.

If there are asexual sluts out there making a name for themselves, I've never met them and I'm not associated with them.

Hell, there's even that fucking quote circulating about the Barbie Movie about how she's asexual and "therefore" she can never be sexy only have sex projected onto her, and.

Like.

Okay, I get it, "asexuality" is not a term I'm allowed to use, okay, damn, calm the fuck down.

When I attend asexuality focused events and exchanges, there's nothing there for me, or for people like me. There's such an intense focus on desexualizing things that are hypersexual that there's no room left for someone like me. A freak who feels no attraction and just Loves To Fuck.

There's so much focus on recovering from the damage done by TERFs, and the damage done by SWERFs goes ignored.

I don't feel welcome, regardless of anything else. There's just not space for people like me there.

I don't consider myself "ace" because I don't consider myself a part of that community. I have little to contribute to it, and seemingly it has little to offer to me.

An ally, certainly. Asexual, yes, I suppose. But ace?

No, no, probably not I'm afraid.

Just one of many reasons that I consider myself aromantic above all else.

[charsui]

Of course he does, he's gay as shit

“ACES BELONG AT PRIDE”

a PSA for the naysayers and encouragement for those who need it. mostly the latter rather than the former, but for those who needed the PSA:

you’re welcome.

※ photos taken May 2018 at Tokyo Rainbow Pride. see more at queerascat.com.

[pawsteps]

i'm really happy that i'm not in denial about being asexual anymore. i'm really happy that i'm no longer tricking myself into thinking that i experience sexual attraction/want to have sex. i'm really happy that i've accepted that i don't want to have sex and that i don't have to have sex. i'm really happy to be asexual 🖤🩶🤍💜

[canon-asexual-poll]

Welcome to the Canon Asexual Poll, the tournament to honor what little representation we have!

I'll start in a week or when I get at least 16 prominent 32 asexual characters, whichever comes second.

Edit: I still need at least 16 prominent characters but I upped it to 32 so the little guys can at least compete.

See under the cut for more details and a submission link.

The most well-known characters will be competing to avoid crushing ones from less-prominent media. Feel free to submit less popular characters anyways since I'm considering making a separate bracket for them afterwards.

Here's a list of preliminary candidates along with other submissions and banned characters. I say preliminary because popular characters who's asexuality is prominently shown will be prioritized.

Please consider reblogging this post so this tournament gets enough traction for anyone interested to vote.

Rules

No headcanoned characters. It's nice that fans see themselves in them but let's not give their creators credit for what they didn't intend.

Submit proof of them being asexual as detailed on the form. If I already posted how they were confirmed you can just send the name.

Don't submit any banned characters. I refuse to honor their creators for blundering them.

[feekins]

oops, I made ur fav aroace :( they're completely sex-repulsed now :( and they have no interest in being in a romantic relationship :( they're living their best life with their found family :( who values their unique ways of loving others :( and now they're kissing their found family on the head bc they Care them so much :( also their found family is asexual :( sorry not sorry

[lauralot89]

Aroace nails

[dumblefork]

I just KNOW that one day, this meme will be SUPER popular

do you know anyone asexual person irl?

[our-aroace-experience]

BACK UP- hold on-

Demiromantic demisexuals count as aroace!? WH- I did not know this! (I'm demiromantic demisexual😅). Maybe I've just had some really sour experiences with the aroace community, but I didn't know I belonged! That... is both reassuring and saddening. Reassuring because hey, I don't feel like I'm just allo pretending to be 'special' (a stupid belief, I know, it was rooted into me XD). Saddening because if this is true... then there is A LOT of gatekeeping going on in this community. Tumblr's cool, it's reddit that kind of sucks (*Cough* r/actuallyasexual, r/actuallaromantic *cough*). Thanks for spreading the positivity! It... kind of absolutely made my day.

you absolutely belong in this community! i’m sorry others made you feel like you didn’t!