#achieving financial

[elodieunderglass]

does Killie manage to be a flat-and-jumps jockey all the way up to retirement/greyuncle era, or does injury (and Derek) force him to find some other occupation in between the two? fascinated to know what the second-choice job would be since jockey is so much what Killie IS

(Killie the jockey OC)

I don’t actually know! You’re very right! I have no idea!

The average retirement age for a flat jockey is 31 and jump is 33. Of this, the tough little lightweight jockeys, mostly of the previous era when people were smaller, seem to keep going for much longer than you’d think, many riding well into their fifties - which is actually quite old for any athlete. There seems to be a relationship between generational jockeys and longer careers/older retirements, too, though that’s probably combinations of family support, as well as possibly passing down the especially wiry/muscular builds that do a bit better in the context. It’s a topic that gets danced around a bit, but it’s known that being more muscular and better fed, with better bone health, means you can take more damage and bounce back faster. Also, jockeys frequently retire in their late twenties without injury or being forced, because they’ve achieved their natural adult size and it simply becomes incompatible with the job. So shorter ones do seem to last longer in the job; and as a bonus, turn into those wonderfully wiry little tiny old people that stump around the place in big boots and giant coats, muttering about their allotments. Killie is set up to be one of those.

I want him to be forcibly retired, though, and I DON’T want him to go the predicted trajectory of training racehorses OR raising another generation. Even though I find it a personal Special Interest and highly absorbing, it is such an incredibly STUPID sport. I think he’ll get dragged out of it by Derek by the scruff of his neck and maybe simply kept as a Kept Man. And there might be an interesting story to explore there in itself. Who the HELL is Killie without his job? (Crisis.)

We know he’s patient and kind with children, good at nature, excellent at mental arithmetic, and somehow ends up strangely wealthy (they’d probably settle in the UK, where keeping horses in the UK is NO cheap hobby.) maybe he simply earns and saves a true fortune of prize money, from tackling a career’s worth of astronomical purses, and retires honestly to be a surprisingly pleasant house-husband.

I think @eldriwolf has fond memories of a retired jockey who was a kind and patient beekeeper and science educator. Maybe he could do that. Maybe as a nod to Tark, Diana Wynne Jones’s retired jockey, and my own interests/hobbies, he could get violently competitive about village fetes/allotment shows, and enter his increasingly serious show tomatoes or something. Killie with his own Jam Saga going on, silently fighting psychic battles with his many enemies at parish council meetings that Derek drags him to because they’re doing their Civic Duty 😌 and Killie’s having a full wizard fight on the astral plane with That Bitch Agatha-who-strategically-shoved-his-Victoria-sponge-cake-off-the-table.

Who knows!! What do you think?

[katabay]

bayek, doing some exploring :)

[notbecauseofvictories]

as much as I love history and Chicago history especially, I do sometimes forget how recent everything here is. I was at the Hull House Museum with a friend of mine the other day, and we had a wonderful time listening to the curator talk about the birth of social work, the women who drove it forward, and the ghost stories that haunt their stomping grounds despite no one really dying there.

As we were walking around after the tour, my friend pointed out that Jane Addams' dress (the one on display in that room, black and small and otherwise unremarkable) had an uneven hem. "Oh, good eye!" the curator, who was walking alongside us, exclaimed. "Addams' tuberculosis left her with some spinal curvature, even after corrective surgery. She had most of her dresses altered to ensure the hem would be straight when she wore them---but on a standard dress form, the hem looks uneven."

"I always forget that having a tailor or dressmaker was considered typical back then," I said.

"No, by that point it was much more common to buy a dress from Sears and have it altered," the curator replied cheerfully. "That's what Addams did."

The whole exchange was maybe a few seconds, but it sticks with me even now. The idea that Jane Addams bought a dress from Sears---where I have also bought dresses, where my mother bought dresses---makes me feel insane. And yet, we're only talking about a hundred years ago or so. Is it so unreasonable that I, as a disaffected teen, was drifting through racks of mass-produced garments, just as Jane Addams did a century before? The exact location of the hands making those garments has changed of course; the workers' protections that Addams' contemporaries fought for have resulted in offshoring that work to less-guarded parts of the world. But it gives me a strange sort of fellow feeling to think about it, all these many decades later.

[shakingparadigm]

horrendously sick and twisted btw

[gideonisms]

Does a podcast ever release a take you disagree with so strongly it makes you question everything you heard on it up to that point

[ellipsiseffervescent]

Oliver's "I loved him but I hated him" speech is so monumental because the camera work tells another story in the second half of the speech.

Note: all pictures are listed chronologically as the speech shows them

At first, when he talks about Felix, we're reminded of the moments the camera just love him:

Then Oliver admits that he loved Felix

And as he continues to confess his feelings, we ruminate in Felix's loveliest moments:

What Oliver describes as Love are the images of Felix in what tumblrs conveniently defined as his 'princess moments'. The camera is in love with him. He's like Aphrodite with loveliness so abundant that it's godly (Felix is often remembered with those golden rays of light shining on him). Felix is on a pedastool to Oliver.

But then Oliver starts to introduce the ambivalence of his feelings

and this is the last we will see of Felix in this speech

Look at how the camera finally introduces Oliver. Oliver was never a part of those magical memories of Felix. Oliver loves Felix superficially, those memories are of Felix as an idealozed object.

The hatred he supposedly has of Felix is paired with shots of Oliver. I don't think Oliver hates Felix's unwillingness to let Oliver in his inner circle/refusal to accept Oliver's devotion so much. I think Oliver just hates himself.

He hates himself because he could never been successful in truly infiltrating the inner circle of a noble/Britain's uppermost class. He wasn't born right. The camera focus's on all of the times Oliver was right at the barrier of Felix:

On top of that, Oliver falls to his knees and grovels at Felix's grave once again before sinking even deeper:

Finally he's not just groveling at the drain of Felix: he goes below the surface, into the water to retreive the only essence of Felix he can gather. He keeps trying to push barriers, the barrier of time, space, dirt, death, drains, leaving nothing left of the object of his obsession but their essence.

Sure you did buddy.

[lilac-nites]

I'm sorely tempted by this colorway. I wasn't interested in the Charlotte series at all last time, but they have a short version this time.

[arendaes]

Sometimes I think back on the time from ages 24 to 28 where I wasn't really active on social media with nostalgia.

Then I remember I also spent most of that time working multiple jobs and was depressed and tired all the time from working said jobs, and it goes away.

[thepersonalwords]

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[sforzesco]

it’s been a minute since I’ve made a desk post!

tbh I don’t have much to say, I finished chapter one of Trikaranos and the cave in chapter 2 is kicking my ass. every day I get closer and closer to a long form comic about whatever the fuck was going on with Ascanio and Della Rovere, but the emperor Valens is coming in hot ngl. When I got to the part of the biography that talked about how he and his brother were both ill at the same time, I spent the rest of my time reading it with the looming ghost of Caligula lurking in the back of my mind and it was a delightful experience, but I also can’t stop thinking about Valens now 🫠 RIP to my writing notebook that is rapidly running out of pages lmao

also happy lunar new year (or day before lunar new year, depending on your time zone)!! 🍊🍊🍊

[chibishortdeath]

Great googley moogley it’s all going to shit! Every day becomes exponentially more terrifying!

And all perfectly timed to just right at the start of what’s supposed to be my adult life where I get my shit together and be useful and productive!

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[mishkakagehishka]

I'm being forced to visit my abusive grandma to deal with my childhood traumas and grow up as person(already ended crying and visiting the clinic because of that) so with that said

What is it to be an adult for you ? One of the expectations is for me to be able to become an adult since I will be 23 when I get back so...

I think you shouldn't need to confront your trauma Like That to grow up as a person tbh i'm no psychologist but it feels counterproductive. Abusive people should be put behind you, not at your side. Stay safe, and stay strong, bestie, i'll be keeping you in my thoughts🫂

As for me, being an adult is a subjective thing. I'm not sure? I think "responsibility". Having more of them, and being okay-ish at keeping the strings together. -ish, i emphasise. Nobody can keep all the strings together, but trying your best is part of it. You gain a bit more independence, but you end up losing a lot of that freedom you gain to responsibilities. But i'd still say adulthood comes with additional freedoms. I hope the expectations placed on you aren't some shit like "get a (good) job" or "become fully independent, financially and otherwise" bc for me that's awfully individualist and might not be feasible for every adult (like, a disabled adult might not be able to keep a job that is exhausting, whatever "exhausting" might mean to them - could be the medical profession known for a lot of overtime and sleepless nights, could be an office job where you have to stare at screens that cause eyestrain for too long etc etc).

But i think it does include some independency. Dependant on the person. YMMV. I think i'd leave it up to the individual to define, beyond the biological "maturity/end of puberty" or sociological "minor/adult" divide

[cherrychapati]

idk why i spent so long being stressed about doing everything correctly and trying to be the best instead of just letting myself be. life got so much better once i stopped trying to force myself to want things that i thought were society's idea of success and focused on the things i wanted to do. the road is long and i have time

[smartsexystudious]

this year is all about discipline, discipline and discipline.