#WhiteTape

[whitetape]

The inherente intimacy in reading the injuries inscribed on your lover’s bones.

[whitetape]

This bitch got two 5+1 buddie bedtime stories for the price of one because my autism is beating my ass with a stick.

husband is telling me a bedtime story about my favorite show, of which he has not watched, and only knows anything about bc I have told him/he saw on the tiktoks bc I fucked up his algorithm

i am entralled

[whitetape]

Given that we never actually get a solid answer on what happens to most of the (evidence) animals Hodgins keeps to help him with the case, and he’s an incredibly eccentric and Uber rich weirdo, I like to think he takes all of them home. We know about the rats, but what about the hawk and the snake? They’re all just members of the Hodgins-Montenegro family.

[irregular-child]

Ok so...

me and @whitetape were hanging out the other day, and all of a sudden he pops up and asks me...

"Is it taboo to have a picture of an omega in their nest?"

Yes, my loves, we're discussing the omegaverse!

We chatted for a while and came to the following conclusions

TABOOS:

It is not taboo to have a picture of an omega in their nest, if the omega consented

An empty nest without an omega in it , with the omega's consent, is ok but looked at weird

It is ok to post a picture of an omega in their nest, but is seen as nsfw and more conservative types think its not ok, irregardless of the omega's state of dress

It's seen as never ok to post an empty nest outside of a nsfw/fetish context

BUT

There are parts of the internet where people post nest pics in an aesthetic way

Advice columns/reddit asks/etc

Though these are usually nests posted by the omegas that own them

There are some exceptions, such as non-omega parents with omega children

These are usually asking for advice or help with helping their children build nests

BEHAVIOR:

Nests were traditionally seen as an omega only thing, and kinda still are, but as time goes on, acceptance grows for non-omegas building nests

There are usually children of omegas who miss the sensation of nesting with their dams, or people very close to their omegas with the same motivation

The acceptance exists but non-omegas nesting seen as different to omegas nesting

The act of nesting for omegas is inherently instinct driven behavior

While the act of nesting for non-omegas is seen as more of a comforting act, the same as a child sucking their thumb

CULTURAL NORMS:

The typical timeline of an omega inviting their partner into their nest varies from omega to omega

But culturally in the west, the typical expected timeline is 3-4 months into the relationship

There are some non-omegas, generally alphas, who are pushy about it since its commonly seen as a trust thing

Though the real shitbags will twist it into a "you don't love me" thing

This 3-4 month mark is where a lot of people end relationships

For those who make it past that, the 2 1/2-3 year mark is usually when the omega allows their partner to start referring to it as "their nest" instead of just the omega's

This could happen as early as 1 year into the relationship, some couples go 10 years together without talking about it, but 2 1/2-3 years is the norm

Most omegas take the subtle approach of slipping it into conversation, as to not spook their partners for various reasons

Though some do prefer to have a conversation about it

NESTS:

Typically, nests are made of the basic materials of blankets, pillows, and scented clothes

The scents may be from a romantic partner, close friends, family members, pack members, etc

It just has to be from someone the omega holds dear

Other materials/nest behaviors vary on an omega to omega basis

Some omegas like having stuffed animals in their nest, some see it as childish

Some omegas keep any important items, no matter the material (laptops, notebooks, water bottes, meds, etc), others have a strictly soft items nest

Some omegas eat in their nests, others don't even drink water in their nests

Some omegas clean all nests materials at once, others stagger different materials at different times

Some omegas allow pets in their nests, others keep them out

These preferences can also cause the end of relationships, especially in omega/omega relationships

A good portion of omega/omega relationships sleep in separate nests/beds/rooms

Other than partners, generally only dams and younger, non-omega siblings are allowed in an omega's nest

However, behavior towards non-omegas being in nests are finnicky in general

Betas are generally ok, up to presentation

Alphas are generally kicked out around age 7, since its the age when gender roles are more heavily cemented in children

We will be back folks! Next time with presentation worldbuilding! :D

[irregular-child]

I read this to my partner and my sister and this is what followed

my sister: there are other things you could call them, "baby boo"

me, to my partner: I'm not calling you baby boo

my partner @whitetape , absolutely devastated: why not 🥺🥺🥺

me: because we will have to be in a professional setting--

my partner, interrupting me: am I not your baby boo boo thang??? 🥺🥺🥺 shoutouttoblackpeople 🥺🥺🥺

everyone: 😂😂😂😂😂

I keep thinking abt this comment and giggling

[whitetape]

[irregular-child]

Personal follow-up to this post

I thought it'd be fun for me and @whitetape to share what dynamic we believe we are based on behaviors/vibes and what specific above actions we identify with/exhibit already. I will be referring to our bed as "our nest" when referring to the bed we share and will call it "my bed" when referring to the bed I slept in before Tape moved in/my own personal preferences. I will also speak as if we are in the omegaverse, currently. Tape will be referring to it mainly as "my/our nest" since he's the omega and nest-holder.

Irregular-child: Beta

TABOOS

we both have so many pictures of each other in our nest

mostly of just funny things that have happened in it

and funny ways tape sleeps for me personally

would never post one without tape's consent

BEHAVIOR

so my bed was never really a hub of activity before Whitetape moved in with me

I prefer to keep just blankets and pillows in my bed

though I have SO MANY stuffed animals that lived in the bed with me

(unfortunately, most had to be moved to other places in our room since tape moved in) (I wasn't too cut up about it though)

my room in general has never been a great reflection of myself as a person

this is likely attached to the amount of times we moved when I was a child

so when tape moved in, he was largely allowed to semi-redecorate our room to his tastes (which I don't dislike and like helping him with)

CULTURAL NORMS

in our relationship, irl, we spent most of our time in tape's bed when spending time at his house, pretty immediatly

I asked him about whether or not I'd have been allowed in his nest had we been in the omegaverse

NEW NORM: most omegas have some comfy chairs/a couch in their room for people to sit, as opposed to their nest/bed. If not, they don't allow people in their room

he said he likely would have been very lax with allowing people into his nest, mostly close friends and I definatly would have been allowed in pretty much immediatly

so not much different from irl

this also means that we'd breeze by the 3-4 month milestone

tape moved in with me when we had been together a couple months shy of our 2 year anniversary

this was due to personal reasons and necessity

so we also didn't adhere to that milestone either

but for irl standards, we have moved extremely fast in our relationship, even though we were friends for 3-4 years before we got together

it works for us, but if we heard about one of our friends moving as fast as we did, we'd judge the hell out of them lol

NESTS

so currently, all nest control has been given to tape

with the exception of every stuffed animal we own being in the nest rn bc we're in the middle of rearranging our room and tape is very upset

though the issue there is more about overcrowding in the nest than anything else

when we clean our nest, we stagger the materials

so we'll start small with pillowcases, next is blankets and then sheets/duvets (yes we have more than one) (mine has a scantily-clad fairy on it, her name is anastasia) (she was a christmas gift from my dad the year I came out)

my sister (alpha) also lives with us along with our 2 dogs

she often comes in and hang out with us in our nest

tape deliberated this to me, bc while he and her are really close, she's not a threat

this is bc she's 5 years younger than us and a teenager and not really a threat to me in term of tape being "my omega"

Whitetape: Omega

TABOOS

would definatly have a nest aestetic pinterest board

a moss blanket has been a need for a WHILE (hint hint, nudge nudge to child)

while we have many pictures of us in our nest, it depends on what is in the picture

for example if its a close up or you can only see a blanket or two, it's fine to post

anything that shows more than that, I would not be ok with posting

BEHAVIOR

my nest is very important to me

I spend 85% of my time in my nest

CULTURAL NORMS

I am much more lax about allowing people in my nest

my boundary for entrance into my nest is I have to know you well

so loose friends and people I've only met once or twice would not be allowed in my nest

when I lived alone, my best friend (@spaceyhiyyihlight beta) came over all of the time and we would exclusively hang out in my nest

since, I moved in with child, that doesn't really happen anymore

equal parts, child lives farther from her than I did and now we share the nest

NESTS

some omegas will put/do anything in their nest

I am one of them

for example, painting a ceramic goose, eating a large bowl of ramen that is 85% broth, keeping 2-3 notebooks with correlating pens in their nest or 1 of 5 water bottles we own

also child's laptop and several phone chargers

the star of our nest however is pinky!

he is my stuffed dinosaur I've had since I was itty-bitty

I cuddle him every night and will search for him in my sleep if I don't have him anymore

(child is very jealous)

[whitetape]

Jordan Fisher? In my early 2000’s comfort crime procedural? It’s more likely than you think.

[irregular-child]

I did the "text ur partner 'i want a baby'" trend w @whitetape

[whitetape]

If I had a nickel for every time Cam got into a relationship with someone with a weird pseudo sexual connection to Angela, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot but it’s weird that it happened twice, right?

[irregular-child]

Shoutout to my bf @whitetape for writing 7 of the 11 fics for the obi-wan/cody/qui-gon tag on ao3

[irregular-child]

@whitetape

[whitetape]

Been so anxious these last few episodes because of Christine aging up and I was just totally caught off guard by the “Uncle Sweets is taking me to the park today” line.

[irregular-child]

Introducing Steph and Eddie from @whitetape 's fic Unknown Number!

[whitetape]

Ideal man. Asking his girlfriend if she wants to see the engagement ring he got her, assuring her he’s not proposing yet because he knows she’s not ready for that, he’s just so excited to show her and wants to know if she likes it 🥺

[irregular-child]

@whitetape

I've never played a more perfect card in the 10 years I've been playing this game