#Treat. Each other. Like. People.
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When loving a vulnerable and marginalized group of people, please remember first and foremost that they are people. They are people, which means they won't be perfect. They'll be unique and individual. In the best ways, and the worst ways. You cannot deny them of their identity or personhood if they start to show they aren't part of that Perfect [Blank] idea you've cooked in your head. Don't convince yourself, either, that these people can do no wrong all because of who they are.
And when propping up their personhood, please don't try to allocate that personhood from a different group of vulnerable and marginalized people.
#Jean mumbles#I really feel like some people in the queer community seem to think that#Loving and supporting everyone just isn't feasible#Like you HAVE to dedicate all of yourself to propping up one or two identities#And telling everyone else that they're the cause for why this is happening#Or to just go fuck/kill themselves#Like I don't know what to tell you but everyone in this community matters#We all have our own unique issues and struggles#We all have our own weak spots in all sorts of various ways#Like okay cool you support this person because of their identity#Or do you just support their identity and only tentatively see them as a person#So when they end up stepping out of line you'll be one of the first people to dehumanize them#Literally just treat each other like people. Treat each other like people.#Treat. Each other. Like. People.
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appreciation post for the second half of dungeon meshi where senshi clearly starts treating chilchuck more like an adult. and also how the two of them start looking incredibly married
#you don't need to tell me they're just standing next to each other. I know <3#listen. I tried to be selective.#like obviously OBVIOUSLY these panels were never meant to be romantic or anything I'm just having fun here#but I do wish people would appreciate how much senshi treats chilchuck like the adult he really is as the series goes on!!#I love how often laios says Some Shit and they just make eye contact#looking at each other like they finish each others sandwiches#dungeon meshi spoilers#chilshi#chilchuck tims#senshi of izganda#photos
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I mostly think this poll is hilarious (and some people are taking it way, way too seriously) but it’s starting to get really weird how often people on the opposite side are dismissing Gundam — a giant of science fiction that remade a genre in its image — and quite literally lying about Suletta and Miorine. I’ve seen people claim they were canonically married to men, people claim the show’s ending was rewritten by interns, claim they never hugged, and other claims regarding them not being canon.
While Bandai and Kadokawa did censor one interview, and Bandai released an “open to interpretation” statement, these no longer hold true. Official material has henceforth referred to them as married. One instance of censorship and a statement they’ve clearly walked back on does not erase the fact that the show itself heavily emphasizes their wedding rings, refers to Miorine as Eri’s sister-in-law, and makes it abundantly clear that they are married.
“I knew I was going to make an epilogue, but it was a while before I decided upon the exact number of years that should pass in-between. The ending itself follows “The Tempest,” and depicts Suletta and Miorine getting married and becoming partners.”
- Hiroshi Kobayashi
They are completely and unambiguously canon, and arguably were never decanonized to begin with given the literal text of the show.
An addendum to this: I’ve also seen a strange dismissal of the history that G-Witch pulls from.
The original Gundam inspired Revolutionary Girl Utena, with Lalah Sune in particular (the creator of an iconic Gundam archetype) serving as the inspiration for Anthy Himemiya. Gundam has had a queer fanbase for decades, and has had gay characters (with Yoshiyuki Tomino himself confirming this) since the 1990s.
G-Witch draws from Gundam’s extensive, genre-shaking history, classics like Utena and Rose of Versailles, and Shakespeare’s The Tempest. It brings Gundam and Utena’s connection full circle, and is in conversation with every Gundam series that came before it.
It’s unfair to dismiss it as just some random show, or — as I’ve seen some do — credit its open queerness to the influence of completely unrelated American media, as if Japan is utterly devoid of gay people.
#alex.txt#they refer to each other as bride and groom from episode one onwards.#gundam the witch from mercury#g witch#suletta mercury#sulemio#miorine rembran#racism and misogyny absolutely factor into this#as well as a disturbing trend of western centrism#are most of the people opposing sulemio like this?#of course not. most are just voting for the pairing they enjoy.#but for the minority i’ve seen being truly vile?#and being hideously dismissive?#please examine why it’s the interracial lesbian couple#from a japanese production#that you’re treating as lesser#compared to two white american men
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The "Sansa reminds Sandor of his sister" motive that some people try to hitch to his character really just flies in the face of his actual attachments to her, doesn't it? Sansa reminds Sandor of himself. He sees the little boy who used to love knights in this girl who's been swept up by the same romanticism. He sees his abuser in her abusers, the much larger knight(s) beating on the helpless child. He sees how she is betrayed by every level of authority that should have saved her and remembers his father's neglect and Tywin and Robert's apathy for Gregor's crimes. He's protective of Sansa because he was Sansa.
And GRRM's design, that one of the strongest warriors in the series, a fearsome and cynical 6'8" guy who's "muscled like a bull" and has the face of death itself, sees himself in this soft and effeminate teen girl, and empathizes with her because he was an abuse victim too, is INFINITELY more compelling than "Oh yeah I bet she just reminds him of his sister," who he's never mentioned and who we know literally nothing about. Way to unnecessarily water down a character, you couldn't have ignored the black and white text more efficiently if you tried.
#sorry for the rant i saw this sentiment in a yt video recently#sansa stark#sandor clegane#sansan#asoiaf#asoiaf meta#and this is only one facet of why he has so much affection for her too#these people act like his attachment to her is limited to projection and not also bc she treats him like he's an actual human being#or that they can be themselves when they're with each other -that he can openly show his weakness to her and be comforted and validated#or like even just the physical attraction aspect - which is so obvious that you'd have to be willfully ignorant to miss it#how do you read him trying to kiss her and come away thinking “he thinks of her as his sister” lmfao#things that make me feel like people dont actually read the books
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a bit of my postcanon vision
i heart people arguing
#hfjone#bryce hansen#amelia euler#my art#i have beef with post-canon one stuff that just insta-fixes everything without really hashing out how some of these people could#get horrifically angry at each other... not that i think their relationships can or should be ruined forever i would just like to explore#how badly the boys treated amelia IF YOU THINK ABOUUUTT ITTTTTT#sure stone was the one to intentionally exclude her from the team but bryce+liam dont really do much to actually bring her in the loop#even when liam had months and months to tell her. he simply didnt tell her at any point what stone said about the votes being fake#and i dont knowwww i want to see amelia's tendency to lose herself in really maladaptive acceptance butt up against bryce and his like...#eagerness to leave everything behind. You understand me. you get it. anyway i have a few thousand words kicking around that will probably#never be finished or published but trust me I THINK ABOUT IT. A LOT
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day 356
yall remember arasolfef?
i remember arasolfef
#day 356#year 5#sollux captor#aradia megido#feferi peixes#homestuck#arasolfef#the og poly trio for 15yo me#the first time i looked at people treating three characters like a love triangle and went#'hold on now i think there is another solution here'#momentous for my personal development honestly#and for the fandom youths Yes back in the day there was a not insignificant amt of fancontent#that pitted aradia and feferi against each other for this shit#or at the very least a lot of like...#'ohh poor ghost aradia must feel so very sad and dejected bc sollux has CHOSEN FEFERI OVER HER....'#and i for one am glad we as a fandom have moved past this#to be entirely fair to everyone back then tho. it was 2011. i think we were all just a little bit worse in 2011#yknow due to it being. 2011.
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fun detail I only put into context after seeing the post-fade jail romance scenes with all the companions: lucanis is the only one where rook is surprised when they realize he's there as he starts talking, because they didn't hear him come in haha. (Bellara and Neve knock before entering, like relatively normal people fhsda. Harding's scene starts in medias res but from the staging my vibe is that she and Rook entered the room together. Taash walks into the room ahead of Rook. Davrin comes in through a door left open for him -- Rook is standing with their back turned but they clearly expected him, they just smile a bit and don't seem surprised. Emmrich of course takes you to the Grand Necropolis for the top goth hookup since Mary Shelly fucked on her parents' graves, the man quite simply never misses.)
lucanis has also closed the door behind him without rook noticing. old assassin habits die hard I suppose lol. he totally still accidentally jumpscares the others without meaning to all the time because he moves around quietly when he doesn't think about it, I know this in my heart. I wonder if he was just... looking at them for a while before he spoke up.
#harding's romance is SO so cute. none of my planned characters have the vibes to match it I don't think but fereldan girl has GAME#top 3 companions with rizz: emmrich (!!! indisputably. no debate just the truth) davrin harding.#bellara. you're doing wonderfully sweetie rook likes you just as you are. it's only a fumble if it doesn't work fdhksaj#neve would have more rizz if she wasn't constantly being jumpscared by her own stupid inadvisable longing I get the sense#like the actual post-fade jail scene with the door closing? she's right up there with the main three. and yet she is Afraid (oh neve)#lucanis has that ineffable such a profound lack of rizz it loops around to irresistibility element that speaks specifically to me.#so I cannot be impartial about this. you should know my biases by now I wear them proudly on my sleeve#and taash is more in that category too and I would die for them#all the people complaining that lucanis doesn't flirt back enough... you have misunderstood the vibes profoundly.#that guy was for me. and the disasters like me#what *you* really want is harding. she knows what she's doing AND she'll treat you right#she'll winky face emoji you right from the start and on her own initiative CONSTANTLY and it's so good#rook and harding even have the rogue and gambit 'can't touch each other's bare skin' tension heightening thing#bellara's scene when she gets blighted that apparently kicks in at the end of the game also. really special to me. babygirl.#I want to give you the world. it's okay that you tried to kill me we all have off days#dragon age#dragon age: the veilguard#dragon age: the veilguard spoilers#dragon age spoilers#lucanis dellamorte#rook x lucanis#rookanis#I suppose I should have done a proper separate post of this instead of a tag rant. but here we are lmao#for good or for ill i remain myself
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So, I think as a fandom it would be better if we understood that in Jaya it's not that one of them loves one more than the other, but that one of them is more selfish than the other.
I wish this aspect was acknowledged more and not interpreted as "Nya doesn't need Jay or loves him as much as he loves her" but rather both characters have different priorities. Nya is a protective person, she is much more selfless in her actions, when Lloyd asks her to stay at the tournament, she does it because she knows she is needed, she knows Lloyd needs her and counts on her and of course no matter when she wants to go find Jay, she will always be there for her little brother like it happened in S9 and all the show tbh. And also because the tournament was a priority for the team at that time.
Now I'm not saying that Jay isn't capable of selfless sacrifices but I think there's a reason why this happens to a lesser extent with strangers and with MUCH more consistency with those she loves. And I'm not even talking about Nya. Jay dropped absolutely EVERYTHING without telling anyone in S7 to go save his parents, or in S6 the guy said "fuck the low profile" and summoned a dragon in the middle of the street in S6 to go see Ed in case he died.
Jay is much more prone to ignoring the greater good and putting absolutely everything aside for his close circle of loved ones (I actually love this about him a lot and it sets him apart from the team as one with the most questionable morals). One of Jay’s themes is family, again, and it’s not limited to Nya, but to his parents and how he always rushes in to save them without thinking, or how when Wu was in danger in S7 the guy jumped off the bounty against Lloyd’s orders to fight a mysterious stranger. I could go on, but it’s important that this aspect isn’t limited to Nya, but that Jay always puts his close circle of loved ones over the greater good. If you asked Jay to stay and complete a mission instead of going to save a loved one (be it Nya, his parents, or anyone on the team), the guy would do whatever he wanted, sorry.
And instead, Nya, from her role as a zamurai, has the theme of protecting, of taking care of others. Not only as a warrior, because she is genuinely kind supporting others like Lloyd or Sora. Nya SHOULD be allowed to be more selfish but ever since she was a child she's had to accept a very harsh reality where you can't afford to be "selfish", she's been forced to accept roles that people put on her, ever since s5 she was accepting something she didn't want for the greater good of becoming the water ninja. Of course she loves her family but she's also more analytical than Jay (who's going to react in the most impulsive/explosive way when you corner him) in order to know where she's most in need.
And even in S2 you can see how she puts aside her mourning for Kai (and the righteous anger she would have with Ras and Cinder) and tries to calm Wyldfyre at every opportunity.
To sum it all up, it's not just that Nya and Jay have very different ways of expressing affection to their loved ones (I beg you to stop using "I love you" as evidence because Nya hasn't said it to Kai either and I think we all know how much she loves him) but they also handle things very differently in complicated situations.
I think if the roles had been reversed in DR, would Jay have gone to look for Nya after she lost the tournament? Tbh yeah, most likely, but that doesn't mean he loves her more than she loves him. It's just that Jay is generally a more selfish person who will react more impulsively before thinking about the pros and cons or doing what is asked of him for the greater good. It's notable that the greatest act of love Nya does for him (which is sacrificing her humanity in s14) is not only for him, but also to save Ninjago. Again, getting into the subject of the sacrifices she makes to protect others, accepting decisions she doesn't really want to make.
#i think people should stop downplaying the love these two have for each other even if you don't like jaya#i'm not even a jaya fan but the love jay has for nya is still important to his character and viceverse#you CAN criticize how the ship downplays one character or the other instead of treating them equally#(like i will give my soul to the writers if they give jay an arc that doesn't involve nya for the first time since... s1)#but to say that nya doesn't love jay that much or doesn't need him is reducing her entire character to being independent and that's it#instead of acknowledging that they both have VERY different motivations for doing what they do and that they will act differently#i'm patiently waiting for the moment when nya snaps and acts selfishly because of all the shit that happened in dr#pls i need that#ninjago#ninjago nya#ninjago jay#ninjago jaya#ninjago dragons rising#jay walker
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don't listen to ttpd because once you start relating it to your life it's so over
#and i don't miss what we had but could someone give message to the smallest man who ever lived#cause once your queen had come you treat her like also ran you didn't measure up in any measure of a man#not me relating so long london & smallest man to two different people who fucked me over within 5 months of each other god save me#txt#taylor swift#the tortured poets department#ttpd
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Scenes from The Baby Wars Part One: The First One
[Hibrides never wanted to be a mother (though the concept of childbearing has always occurred to her as 'inevitable and necessary'), underwent very severe post-partum depression, never really bonded with the infant, and was extremely uncomfortable with nursing her (they had a wet nurse who covered most of it).
Brakul ended up being the Designated Housewife throughout Erubi's infancy and was effectively the only member of the household providing parental care, was Extremely bitter with Hibrides for not really wanting anything to do with her daughter (among other things), and was raised in a context where fathers allowing their infants to comfort nurse on them is a standard practice (which is not widely conceptualized as a Thing men can do in the Wardi cultural sphere and comes off as bizarre to the rest of his household).
These combined factors lead to tense standoffs where he looms behind Hibrides trying to guilt her into Feeding The GodDamn Baby while looking, from her perspective, like he's trying his absolute hardest to breastfeed.]
#(Not treating men comfort nursing as a joke here btw I think it's fucking absurd that people get freaked out about it#Completely normal thing to do. Not weird or gross.)#Hibrides bonded with both of her children more when they got older and started walking and talking and being unavoidable but#she's never felt like a mother ''''should'''' and feels a heavy background layer of Gnawing Guilt about it#She was very close with her own mother (who had a pretty good marriage) so a lot of the advice she got was like#that these things take time and patience and a lot of pain but Someday she'll settle in and be happy with her husband and kids and etc#And now she's like 'well I no longer feel like I'm going to fucking hurl with terror when I notice my features in my daughter's faces.#And my husband and I sometimes go on hunting trips alone where we verbally abuse each other in ways that Almost come#full circle into being friendly banter. Is this it. Is this how it's supposed to be. Have I Fucking Made it.'
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so I'm working on the outline for the "sam hunts in college" au because I have no self control/am cursed and like
a huge chunk of the support structure of this fic is the constant comparison of dean and jess and what each means to sam. and it's obvious and visceral and constant since she's not a dead concept but a living person stealing dean's fries
and it was supposed to be gen but at this point it's like. this is way more creepy and uncomfortable if they don't want to fuck actually
#why does your gf look like your brother#oh she has his birthday#that's.... normal#oh these are the 2 people who bring you the most joy#you are constantly balancing them against each other in your mind#yeah no its totally normal to model your behavior towards your gf on how your brother treats you (????)#uh huh no he taught you what it was to love somebody your one stable well of affection and comfort your whole life this is totally hinged#(jesus christ)#this is your grandma talking
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Maybe it’s my experiences with my culture and having relatives who are immigrants, but the conflict between humanity and the eliksni reads more to me than just a message on xenophobia.
To me, it’s also about how groups who have experienced oppression are often pitted against each other by the circumstances created by their oppressors to keep them stuck in a cycle of violence and mistrust with one other. This cycle keeps groups who share similar pain and plights from extending mercy to each other and joining forces to fight against the systemic forces that brought them both into a hostile state, which is exactly what those forces want as it keeps those groups powerless and unstable.
#destiny 2#destiny#destiny the game#d2#destiny eliksni#eliksni#destiny revenant#dude the beef between groups of people who need to stand up together over grievances that can be overcome needs to be talked about#i have experience with family who refuse to cooperate with people who look and struggle like ours bc of holding grudges#and who does the benefit? the people we are trying to liberate ourselves from#everytime the eliksni and humanity fight the witness rubs it’s hands together#we must stand together or we all will fall#both sides have valid pain that should be respect but more pain is to come if we don’t learn to be better to each other#just some poc thoughts#also stop treating species like monoliths to judge how they should’ve been treated thats witness behavior#eliksni vs humans is not exactly blanket oppressor vs blanket oppressed or Vice versa#it reads more like two desperate groups in two desperate circumstances who continue violence due to prejudice and misunderstandings#we are both two species who are victims of our circumstances and circumstances with ptsd Can make people irrational and desperate
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Thank you all for voting in the poll to decide who was going to be the leader of the band! It turned out to be such a close race!
#poorly drawn mdzs#better drawn mdzs#mdzs#madam lan#A-qing#Band AU#(Reminder that Madam Lan's design inspiration goes to Qourmet!)#Madam Lan may have been the winner per vote count but there were so many strong advocates for A-Qing!#I played around with a few versions of what the 'poll winner' art was going to be and ultimately decided I wanted them both.#As any good theater love knows though - The battle for leadership was a ruse. They *all* get a chance to be featured.#Cooperation was the real end goal! However I do think these two have the best frontman energy of the group.#Or at least 'crowd favourite' energy. I also really loved hearing what people thought their vocal styles would be like!#This was probably one of my favourite polls to do and I love drawing these characters a lot B*)#I'd love to spend a bit more time in this AU so count on me bringing it back.#One thing I keep feeling like I need to redeem myself on is Madam Lan's Translucent skirt. I have *not* done the concept justice yet.#It is such a crack-platonic ship but I want to think Madam Lan and A-Qing would enjoy each other's company.#Possibly also with JYL as well. They can be like mutually beneficial therapy dogs to each other.#Madam Lan never got to see her kids grow up into teenagers after all. She only had sons. Never daughters.#Even if she saw her kids once a month we do know she treated them with so much love and kindness.#She would bite the shit out of YZY for yelling at JYL. What a sight to see. A-Qing would also start biting (for fun).
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I used to believe that bugs were little robots. Lots of people do, it’s the prevailing opinion next to “i’ve never thought about it”. Then I watched a mother wasp mourn her child. An animal who stretched after a nap and did little dances when her daughters returned from flight. Now she is opening her fourth capped hexagon and finding a pale white stillborn. She grasps the baby gently in her jaws and does not put it down for over 24 hours. Carries her loss, pacing back and forth the length of her enclosure. It is not the behavior of a robot.
So I think about the prior odds. Scenario A, bugs are robots. Why do I believe that? Because they are so tiny. Because if they are not robots then my world [where “insect exterminator” is a job title and I can buy a can of mass death at home depot] does not make sense. They must be insignificant.
The wasp makes me reconsider. Scenario B: her kind are like mine. cry when we are sad and happy when we play. Has this feature evolved many times? Or is it common to all the children of the precambrian worm? Every shark in the ocean swimming in their own feelings. Every bird and every cat knowing the thrill of being alive? The wasp made me realize that my whole moral picture is wrong. We’re not alone on this planet,
#the prevailing thepry is bee dances communicate info#i dont think thats all#they dance because they are happy to see each other#the info is communicated by antennae tapping#I think people hate wasps because they remind us that insects are not insignificant.#If I disrespect her I can be stung - she is no longer insignificant.#bug#interesting: tunicates are closer to human ancestry than arthropods. adult tunicates have secondarily lost concsness - baby tuni r lil worms#I love wasps. I love the caterpillars who are eaten by the wasps. I no longer see a contradiction.#(The contradiction is industrial humanity terraforming six continents in 400 years)#the contradiction is 100 billion living minds in cages#the problem (when humans treat humans like animals) is that humans treat animals like dirt to step on#5AM
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girls band cry revolutionizing the depiction of female friendships by having three women whose friendship is unironically built entirely on the fact that they're comfortable being assholes to each other
#they're all three people who abhor decorum and being expected to put on a face#nina associates politeness with pity and insincerity#subaru associates it with a mask she's being forced to wear and treats it as insincere - just performance#meanwhile momoka is just a normal ass washed up punk#so their band is kinda them finding a place where they aren't expected to actually be nice to each other#there is something weirdly refreshing to see a band anime that isn't like. a friend group where they all get along and are 'friends'#but instead are all dicks to each other in a way that feels like a genuine friend group who bonded over needing a space away from decorum#that's the dynamic that makes this feel Interesting so far#girls band cry
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DCxDP Prompt
Demon Twins, but their separation was because of the Council of Spiders. Danyal sacrificed himself but promised Damian to return to him at a later date, mostly to reassure himself and Damian that he'd be okay.
Later on, Tim finds documents about brainwashing one of the heirs to the League of Assassins in Illinois. Apparently, they have a scientist couple there who's been manipulating an amnesiac and successfully researching the source of the Lazarus Pits.
Bonus: Jazz is also a kidnapped child and an experiment to see how long-term high exposure (by consumption and proximity) affects people.
Extra bonus!: A good quantity of Amity Park is part of the Council of Spiders, both relatives, people in vacation, retired members, sponsors, etc. And Jazz finds out early on when Danny comes in, worried for the both of them.
I think it would be funny if Tim just snatched them and reported the town to JLD. Like- Bruce isn't the only one who could kidnap kids. Jason adopted all of the Crime Alley kids, Batman is a serial adopter, later on Tim finds out that Damian is like Jason and Bruce but with animals, and Dick is just done with all of them.
#danny phantom#dc x dp#dp x dc#batfam#demon twins au#Was Danny also minorly experimented on because of how ectoplasm enhances emotions and therefore attachments?#Idk but it would be funny if unhinged!Tim was like Dick is to Damian#Tim is the older sibling to third parent type thing with Danny#Jazz is probably acting like Tim was to Bruce but with Dick or Jason#What if it was with Jason? Each older sibling now has a child they parent better than the legal parent#Would Danny recover his memories? Did he even lose them in the first place?#up to you#but I think it's fun either way#Phantom yes no?#It could happen if Clockwork became this antagonistic mastermind character that's after his ideal timeline#But the ideal timeline doesn't have to be the best one in other people's opinion#especially not if Danny is supposed to be a sole survivor#Maybe his future is treated like Dick's “ideal” one with being the ultimate Talon#Prophecy but not definite or the best
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