#Transphobia m/

[letitrainathousandflames]

Okay, so when my course's teacher - let's call him Richard, didn't show, his substitute said he wasn't there bc he was sorting things out with sex change, and that his new name would be Rita and he'd go by they/them pronouns. A narrative I found plausible. Next class, when the teacher was back, I tactfully asked 'so you go by Rita now?' which made him go '??? No??'

Upon being explained why I thought he had new name and pronouns, he laughed and said it was just a joke the sub teachers do, to come up with some crazy reason when teachers don't show.

Now, that doesn't happen often, but at that moment my autism turned off the filter I have to keep me from being too blunt and I just said:

Sorry, I'm autistic so I have a hard time getting jokes, especially when they're not funny.

Which made everyone instantly very uncomfortable. Like, an entire minute-long worth of silence uncomfortable. And, as painfully awkward as that was to me, it was very much worth it. I should turn off my politeness filter more often.

(Also I'm gonna write a complaint over this transphobic "joke" on my next class evaluation, of course)

[letitrainathousandflames]

Again: there is no "miku wrote this", no "separate art from the artist" no "waah, but it's my beloved childhood franchise!"

Supporting, making excuses and buying stuff by Rowling is supporting, advocating for and funding transphobia. There is no in-between.

another reminder to stop buying/watching/reading anything JK Rowling associated

[nicenight]

thinking about that jubilee clip of the trans man steamrolling shapiro about how abortion rights affect him directly as a man and all ben could do was (impotently) attempt to fall back on the tired "i don't think you're actually male" sex essentialism debate that's the furthest most transphobes will engage in the topic of transexuality.

we can have existential arguments all day about whether trans people are ~really~ this or that with transphobes who won't listen to or believe us no matter what information is presented, or we could instead say "this is who i am regardless of your personal or political bias, these issues affect me directly, this is how they affect me, and what are we going to do about it?" because trans people aren't philosophical/conceptual debate pawns but Real people with Real problems worth addressing in this Real material world, and no amount of debate to the contrary changes that fact.

like if you don't think trans identity is legitimate, or you think we shouldn't exist or be part of the conversation, uuuhhh too fucking bad. we're here, always have been, and always will be. so what now?

[trans-androgyne]

I’m sick of being called an MRA so I used an old account to pretend to be a cis guy & ask actual MRAs how they feel about trans men using the term “transmisandry” and synonyms/related terms. Here was the top comment:

They generally consider us women pretending to be men and feel we are taking away from Real Men’s issues:

Here’s someone being “charitable” towards us:

Anyone who agreed we experience issues said we shouldn’t attribute any of our oppression to transphobia, it’s all because it’s harder to be a man than a woman. They glossed over where I brought up misogyny against us (except for downvoting my comment stating we generally believe cis men oppress cis women). The one and only similarity was the belief that it can be lonely to be a man as people don’t typically care about issues men experience. The difference is that they don’t think male privilege exists, while trans men and mascs agree it obviously does but many of us point out we don’t have the access to it that cis men do on account of not being respected as men under patriarchy.

Here’s your reminder that what makes MRA rhetoric is the idea that women are privileged above men, NOT the idea that many men are policed under patriarchy.

[genderkoolaid]

i think trans-affirming cisfeminism's problem is that it views trans people as a way of analyzing cis gender relations, so trans women are going from the status of cis men to cis women, & trans men vice-versa. there is no appreciation for "trans" as its own status, because that would require viewing transphobia as something the patriarchy does on purpose instead of like. something it trips into on its quest to oppress cis women exclusively. and this is also why by and large feminism (including trans feminists) has fucked sucked at talking about NB/GQ people's experiences without binarizing them

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

up until recently i ran a pretty popular radfem blog (stay with me, this ask is in good faith) but after i took a social media detox, i realized i don’t share those beliefs anymore and in fact i might be trans myself. i just kind of abandoned the blog, but i’d feel bad if i didn’t tell my followers what happened. i’m scared of telling anyone because i feel like i’d be a bad feminist if i transitioned. (i know, you can be trans and a feminist just fine, but that’s just the kind of thing radfems tell you.) even worse, i’m scared of posting about it on my main or radfem blog because radfems and trans people by and large hate each other (obv), and i’m scared to mention i’ve been in both groups because of the hate i’ll get

Lee says:

When I first started as a mod, I would have told you that you need to immediately post on all your blogs to disown the transphobic beliefs you had previously expressed to try to make up for the harm that you may have perpetrated as a radfem.

Now that I'm a little older, my feelings on the topic have shifted a bit. Before anything else, I think you need to slow down and make sure that you ensure your own safety and mental health.

If you believe that revealing this change to your followers could result in backlash online that would affect you emotionally, it's crucial to prepare by turning off anonymous asks and muting notifications from social media apps.

You should also make sure you have a non-online place to turn for support. If they used to be your community, you may feel like you've lost online friends, so make sure you don't become too isolated. Instead, lean on your IRL connections and seek support from trans-friendly people in your community.

You may even want to consider looking for a therapist-- questioning being trans can be difficult for anyone, and adding a layer of internalized transphobia doesn't help.

When you're ready to share your feelings on your blog, you should write a thoughtful post explaining your journey. You don't have to justify your identity; rather, focus on your personal growth, how your views have evolved, and how you came to understand yourself better. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation and that you're still learning.

These people were once your buddies and there's a chance you may be able to make some of them question their beliefs too if you don't lash out at them and trigger that instinctual defensive us-versus-them mindset, so I would try to keep a friendly tone even while noting that you no longer support them.

So thank your followers for their support and engagement over the years, but tell them you aren't comfortable staying part of their community now that you've realized that the beliefs underpinning the group are doing damage and you are trying to unlearn that type of thinking.

Gently challenge any misconceptions you once held or promoted. Clarify that being trans and feminist are not mutually exclusive and that everyone deserves respect and equality, regardless of their gender identity.

If you're comfortable, share resources that helped you on your journey. This could be educational materials, support groups, books you found helpful, or contact information for trans-supportive LGBTQ+ organizations. If there's anything you'd recommend to others who were once in the same place as you were on getting out, this is the time to share your advice.

Understand that reactions will likely be mixed. Some followers may feel confused, betrayed, or angry, while others might be supportive or even share their similar experiences. Remember, you're not responsible for their reactions and you don't need to respond to them if you don't want to argue and they aren't willing to have a respectful conversation.

Be clear about your boundaries. Let your followers know what kind of comments you're willing to engage with and that hate or harassment won't be tolerated. You can even stop engaging with the account altogether if you don't think you can deal with the hate that you may receive.

You don't have to post about this immediately. Again, it's okay to take as much time as you need to feel ready. It's okay to wait until you're in a safe and stable position before making any announcements.

If you do post about it and get hate, remind yourself that you're doing the right thing by letting go of that community, and that you're not only making the right choice for your own life in allowing yourself the freedom to explore your gender identity but you're also doing the right thing overall since you're now standing up for the trans community (late is better than never!) and no longer encouraging transphobic narratives.

If you feel that your current blog is no longer a space where you can express yourself authentically, consider starting a new blog or platform where you can write freely about your experiences and beliefs. Or just get offline altogether-- your digital detox is what started this, so maybe it's healthy for you to continue it for a while!

If you tell someone "I support trans folks" and they send you hate, that person is not your friend anyway. This is an opportunity to meet nice people who you can be yourself with. I would really encourage you to connect with IRL activists who are actually regularly volunteering and doing something concrete for their community if you have the opportunity.

When I was in high school, I volunteered at my local library's teen advisory board, and when I was in college I volunteered at a local hospital and through my college. This weekend I'm starting training for volunteering in-person for my town's emergency preparedness group which also does things like help to unload trucks for the food pantry, and I also volunteer remotely for two organizations online.

I'm really pushing for you to get out and volunteer (online or IRL) because I know one draw of the radfem community is feeling like you're an activist and that you're supporting women's rights and protecting and defending women. And it is important to support women's rights and protect and defend women! But there are other ways to do that beyond running a hateful blog attacking trans women.

I have a friend who works at an organization for survivors of domestic violence, for example, and she works with volunteers who help staff events, answer the hotline, etc. You can look around and see what local initiatives there are in your community and if you can't find the thing you're looking for you can start a group yourself or look online and join a national or state-wide cause that you care about, like pushing the legislature to support access to abortions.

Giving up the radfem community doesn't mean giving up feminism, and this is a good opportunity for you to take a look at your own time, your values, and think about how you can take this chance to start working to be a more effective feminist. Not everyone has to be an activist, but if you want to be one, think about how you can start doing good in a way that will actually affect people in a positive way.

I've also often been involved in doing events like conferences and workshops and panels IRL from my time in high school to the present day to try and educate folks on the community, but I also know that sometimes you need to take a step back and prioritize yourself. If you think you're not ready to jump into making change that's also okay. Just join something. A soccer team, a book club, anything hobby-related, to have something else to do and talk about and think about and stay tethered to feeling part of something.

Remember, it's okay to grow and change. You're not betraying anyone by being true to yourself. It's a courageous step to admit when your views have changed, and it's an integral part of personal growth. Be kind to yourself during this process.

Whether or not you end up identify as trans, you still will be doing the right thing by separating yourself from that community. I know it may be difficult because they were a place where you felt supported and part of a movement, but I really believe that you're taking steps in the right direction by letting go of that ideology and just living your life!

Followers, if you have any experiences unlearning toxic beliefs please reply with your advice for anon!

[shamebats]

Over the years in my various capacities as an advice columnist and trans person who knows other trans people I’ve had repeat encounters with a family dynamic I call “Just To Be Safe, Let’s Transition By Committee.” [...] Say a transitioner comes out and announces their intention to start going by “Kat.” Rather than respond with, “No, I reject this, you must not transition,” which has no corresponding countermove, a relative (usually but not always a parent) suddenly becomes deeply invested in the long-standing family tradition of passing down the same name with Jr, III, and so on appended to it. [...] You thought you’d done the full rounds of your Top Surgery Apology Tour when you get an email saying your great-aunt’s sister has some feelings about it, and that starts the whole process over again. Much like a new assistant attempting to deliver a birthday card to a departmental colleague in a large company, there is always a surprise new person whose signature is required before proceeding. [...] Relatives who never previously evinced the barest awareness of your gender are suddenly saying shit like “I’m so proud of the woman you’ve become” and “To A VERY Special Nephew” and “But your breasts are such an integral part of what it means to be cousins, I’ve always thought.”

[lesbianshepard]

the difference between the two reddit subs for tumblr (r/tumblr and r/curatedtumblr) is actually so jarring, especially when you compare it to actual tumblr.

r/tumblr used to be filled with bots so r/curatedtumblr was created as a more moderated version of the sub. but r/curatedtumblr has, for some reason, turned into an absolute cesspit of transphobia and misogyny. like, look at any post that mentions trans women and it's just people chomping at the bit to be transphobic and only stopping short of using actual slurs.

meanwhile, the mods on r/tumblr at least try to crack down on bots, and you can say positive things about trans people without cissies having a nuclear meltdown.

[serenefreakgeekao3]

Fear of Falling ... Masterlist

HICCUP HORRENDOUS HADDOCK III x FtM!Reader

(can be read as just masc!reader except for the end of part 2 )

You’re a carpenter in New Berk, a town you’re helping to build. You live alone, eat alone, and- well, you’re fine with it. Really. Even in a town this big, constantly expanding with more people, you couldn’t feel more alone than you do. Having recently been disowned by your family, you’re now trying to build yourself a new life in the one place you knew they wouldn’t go. Why? Well, the dragons that seem to be everywhere for starters.  Chief Hiccup was someone who, for the longest time, hardly ever could be found around old Berk. He was the closest to his dragon, to all dragons, and took to the air like a Viking to sea. However, building a new town from the ground up required a certain amount of responsibility. That, and you’ve heard rumours of his dragon taking some time away to get to know his new mate. With Hiccup now forced to stay in town, where would he go to get away from all of his Chiefly duties now? Somewhere unexpected, where no one would guess to look. Who were you, anyway? A slight-AU of after the third movie. Instead of making it to the edge of the world, and letting all the dragons leave to go live there, the dragons instead decided to stay with the people they’ve grown close to. Nothing can come between the bond of dragon and rider.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Archive of our Own

CHAPTER ONE

CHAPTER TWO

CHAPTER THREE

CHAPTER FOUR... (coming soon)

TAG LIST: *lecoindetobi , *gored-to-be-here , *am3nic , *ohdeersthings , *l4te-n1ght-c4t

[whencartoonsruletheworld]

Okay so since there’s soooo much fucking transphobia rampant, here’s a post for those of you who either are Christian and/or surrounded by Christian queerphobes. Here’s a list of rebuttals to when they start talking about how being trans is ungodly.

Most of these rebuttals are religious as that is the base they will be arguing from; however I did include  bit of a science to make their heads spin.

“Genesis also says that God made morning and evening. Are morning and evening strictly binary? Is there nothing inbetween? Can you define 'morning'? How about the binary of darkness and light?”

“So if we're born the gender we are, what are intersex people?” [when they inevitably say there's just "so few of them"] “There are more intersex people than there are redheads. 1.7% of the population are Intersex, while roughly 1.5% are redheads. Does that mean that redheads do not 'count' when discussing hair color?”

[to “God doesn't make mistakes”] “Yes, of course. They just do impossible things. After all, if God could put a baby into a virgin, or could bring life to the dead, why could they not put a boy's soul into a girl's body, or vice versa?”

Feel free to also say “God literally made such a mistake with all humanity that they flooded the planet.”

This line is from a Jewish source, Something That May Shock and Discredit You by Daniel Mallory Ortberg: “As my friend Julian puts it, only half winkingly: 'God blessed me by making me transsexual for the same reason God made wheat but not bread and fruit but not wine, so that humanity might share in the act of creation.'”

Galatians 3:28: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.“

If they're using the Deuteronomy verse (22:5, about not crossdressing or w/e), know that line is mistranslated. Quoting https://hoperemainsonline.com/index.php/transgender/, “A more literal translation from Hebrew reads 'The weapon of a warrior shall not be on a woman, nor shall a warrior put on the robe of a woman, for all who do these things are a hateful thing to the LORD thy God.' The word “robe” is translated from the Hebrew word simlah, which was a garment worn by both sexes. Clearly, this cannot be referring to cross-dressing. What could it be referring to then? A much more likely answer to that question is that it is about ritual purity and the mixing of blood. Both warrior’s swords and women’s garments would get blood on them, one from battle and the other from menstruation. To have a man wear the robe of a woman, or vice versa, would mix blood, which was considered an abomination under the law.”

Similar mistranslations result in the homophobic verses they spew as well. just browse through hoperemains for some inspo

This last one is long, but it talks about how all humans, including women, were created in God's image; therefore, God is both male and female. If it's wrong for humans to be, why is God enby themself? 

From The Africana Bible, edited by Hugh R Page Jr:

“The term occasionally translated as 'human beings' in the NRSV and generally as "man" in most other English versions is  'adam or ha'adam. Now this is clearly not a personal name (that is, Adam) as the KJV ill-advisedly begins to indicate at about Gen. 2:19. A better translation of this term, however, would be “the earthling” since the term is derived from the term ‘adamah, meaning “land” or “earth.” Such a translation clarifies better than “man” or even “human being” that the original intent of the author is to emphasize that God made “earthlings” as a whole, not just males, in God’s image[...]”

[...]“Such a translation takes into consideration that the term ‘adam is meant to function as a collective term referring to both the male and the female. Thus, we should note that ‘adam here is not a name or an ascription of gender but a collective term for “earthlings” in general; this is emphasized by the author’s choice of the plural pronoun ‘otham, and the use of the plural verbs veyirddu and urdu, meaning in 1:26 and 1:28, 'let THEM have dominion,' further reiterates the inclusive nature of the term ‘adam. [...] In Genesis 1 and 2, both genders were created with equal expressions of God’s image, equal authority over the earth, and equal value as human beings.”

[letitrainathousandflames]

given tumblrs current management its probably not gonna end up on anything but it sure feels good to report a terf for violating the hate speech policy

[idkimoutofideas]

If anyone has the time to write a quick message speaking up against transphobia, the Tewksbury MA library is hosting an online event called ‘Males And Females Are Different In Sports And That Matters’. Obviously this is complete bullshit, and what’s worse is that when they first announced they event they got enough pushback that they canceled it, only to quietly delay it a day and then host it anyways.

If you have the time you could send a message through their contact page here. Please don’t be aggressive or hateful, as the library is claiming they’re getting bullied by LGBTQIA+ people.

A simple message saying something like: I am very disappointed in the Tewksbury Library’s decision to host the ‘Males And Females Are Different In Sports’ event. Trans lives are not up for debate, and promoting hate speech like this is doing a disservice to your LGBTQIA+ patrons.

Again, don’t be hateful and don’t sign up for the event (even to try and spam the chat, events like this just look at statistics of how many people register and show up without looking at context).

Again the link for the contact page is here

[juney-blues]

i am MORE than willing to admit that this specific issue that i have is entirely inconsequential, and that i care far too much about it because i have turbo autism and a sense of priorities divorced from reality

but i'm gonna keep talking about it anyway, it's my blog, you cannot make me log off and touch grass, i will never touch grass.

why is it that people are so weirdly intent on headcanoning june egbert as Literally anything other than a trans woman y'think.

why is it that after the june egbert plot spoiler was revealed there was just a massive influx of "j egbert" "enby any pronouns genderfuck" egberts lmao, like even when you're making the character transfem you have to keep in that masculine edge, never make her a pure trans woman. "don't worry it's okay you can still call him a guy"

like i don't wanna be mean to people who genuinely take joy in that interpretation of the character for any reason, but also i do not trust this fandom's track record with being normal about trans women specifically lmao

[seriousbrat]

This is so insidious. "Be aware of your language because you might unknowingly be spreading Evil ideology!!" basically just means "don't talk about this at all because it bothers me". It's so so transparent. If I'm constantly having to be careful about what I say about female characters (regardless of my actual intended meaning) because this Supreme Arbiter of Truth might randomly decide it's Terf Rhetoric Actually how can I ever have any sort of meaningful discussion at all? Notice how it's framed as "unknowingly"– if I have no possible way of knowing HOW I'm using Evil Language, how can I possibly avoid it? By shutting up is the answer.

It's based on NOTHING. It's a strawman. There is not a single Lily fan that thinks that Lily is just a mother and nothing else. Seeing Lily as more than a mother and recognising motherhood is important to her story are not mutually exclusive. Furthermore, in what world is pointing out that women are sidelined in fandom terf rhetoric? This person is just deliberately conflating discussions about misogyny in fandom with hate groups because they know that's an easy way to get people riled. They're pretending the main argument against Lily's exclusion in fandom is about motherhood (it's not) and then doing a further mental backflip to stir up moral outrage about people defending female characters.

Be absolutely clear about this- this person KNOWS, deep down, that there is a reason why they only engage with male characters, and this bothers them. Instead of being honest with themselves about it they are inventing a bullshit faux progressive reason to silence any and all criticism and convince their own conscience that they're in the right.

There are no laws, obviously, saying you can't change lily's story or make her a side character if you want. I myself once made her a side character in a prongsfoot fic. The problem is when this is an overwhelming tendency in fandom, which IS significant and IS, in my opinion at least, worth pointing out. When arguably the most important character in the Marauders Era is routinely sidelined in favour of male characters who are literally irrelevant, that does actually say something about what sorts of characters fandom likes to engage with and why. When she's routinely bashed and hated for not really doing anything wrong while male characters who range from bullies to murderers are excused and idealised, that does say something.

It's never pleasant to have to critically examine your own interactions with fiction and accept that your preferences might be rooted in deeper-held beliefs about the world. But it is important, and one way to do this is to facilitate open conversations between different points of view. One way to NOT do this is claiming that everyone else but you is "accidentally" "unknowingly" using evil language so they might as well shut up about their opinions and about women in general.

[genderkoolaid]

I'm not of the mind that all marginalized men are oppressed because of their gender, but rather that gender always plays a role in oppression and it's irresponsible to only focus on that when discussing marginalized women. gender is a huge way of exerting control over people's bodies, personal identities, and personal relationships, so it's always going to be shaped by marginalization + marginalization also gets shaped by the gender of the person experiencing it in any given situation

[socialised-female]

The concept of who is being 'targeted' by a type of discrimination is often misunderstood. It can be illustrated by the following example of a transmisogynist policy: If a violence/abuse shelter/refuge has a policy of only allowing people with vaginas to stay, (as many "women's refuges" do) they will usually sexually harass every client they know is transgender by asking them about their genitals, to determine if that person fits their policy.

Transgender men might not contact the kind of refuge that has this kind of policy in the first place, especially because this kind of refuge is usually labelled as a 'women's' refuge. Transgender women also might not contact this kind of refuge, especially because they might expect to be excluded by policy. But both groups could choose to risk sexual harassment and worse and attempt to access shelter or a bed.

Trans men would be sexually harassed, and trans women would be sexually harassed. This would be harmful to anyone it happened to.

This is a transmisogynist policy, because it specifically excludes transgender women. Transmisogyny is also always transphobic, so the policy is also a transphobic policy. Transgender men experience transphobic sexual harassment because of the policy. Transphobic sexual harassment is sexual harassment just as much as transmisogynist sexual harassment.

Now we can talk about targeting: In this instance, the person who is "targeted" is the person who cannot go inside the building.

A transgender person who is not targetted directly by the transmisogynist policy would still be sexually harassed. This would be immeasurably harmful to anyone it happened to, no-one is "winning." We're all losing.

Because transmisogyny is transphobic, and because transmisogyny is part of transphobia, every instance of transmisogyny sits within transphobia in a way that undermines transgender men's legitimacy, including in ways that very seriously harm and injure transgender men. But transgender men are not targeted by transmisogyny, and do not experience transmisogyny. Transgender men do experience transphobia in very serious and very harmful ways, including if/when they choose to attempt to access women's refuges/shelters.

Everyone's getting sexually harassed. Everyone's being judged on their appearance, and would maybe be seen as a "scary male" if they did enter the building. But one group is being told they have a right to enter the building, and the other isn't.

The difference between these two things is usually what people mean when they say that one person is "targeted by" a type of oppression and another person isn't, even when the person who isn't targeted is seriously harmed or even killed by it.