#The Norm Can Conform

[fjordfolk]

i don't even think one has to go as far as to unravel the whole idea of breed, registry and stud books, because i know for a fact that in other animals one has managed to have all of these things without going fckn batshit

[patroclusdefencesquad]

twn is so funny because they'll write amazing scenes like jaskier singing about burning all his memories of geralt because they're too painful for him to even think about and then him literally being tortured for those memories of geralt. and then they'll turn around and write whatever the voleth meir shit was

[fitzrove]

The situation I posted about is mostly funny but I do think it makes me feel alienated from some people (largely certain women because it's my main reference group) dkkdld. Like oh you guys truly have never had to contemplate your gender/enforced gender norms/gendered choices and gendered benefits/punishments, you truly think that all of your choices and actions are simply personal and not societally steered and socially rewarded/punished 😅 like y'all are comfortable with your conformity to an extent where you don't even notice how little freedom there is sometimes dkkdksks

[vampacidic]

have i ever said ranma 1/2 is genuinely one of my favorite manga ever

[frereamour]

heterosexuality is so ugly why are john and paul writing christmas songs. their post-beatles discography is suicide inducing.

[crypt1dcorv1dae]

Metalheads who don't like/respect Babymetal bc their "look" isn't, what? Traditionally metal? are so cringe. Like bro it's an alternative music scene we're supposed to say FUCK tradition????? What's wrong w y'all... Embarrassing

And also they are missing out bc Babymetal fucking rules

[curlyharru]

Cis women Larries stop misgendering Harry challenge 😍

this strong of a reaction over me calling him a 'disney girlie'? omg please go outside

[aromanticannibal]

something that will always be funny to me is how widely different my reactions to girls cutting their hair and guys cutting their hair is. one of my friends cut her hair very short some years ago and she's the most beautiful girl in the whole universe actually and she's so pretty with her short ass hair I love it. and then there's a guy in my class who has long hair he doesn't even really take care of but the time he cut it I was so outraged. I live in constant fear he will cut his long hair again

[quibbs126]

At some point I feel like I’m hearing a worship of Buddy Bolden

Like I’m sure he was a great musician, but come on, this is getting a little ridiculous

I haven’t actually read Coming Through Slaughter, this comes more from my professor

[gender-euphowrya]

cracks me up when t€rfs go for "haha colored hair" to mock trans people as if "haha colored hair" wasn't/isn't used by conservatives to mock feminists

[miwakags]

gender performance w people you’re out to but who don’t see u as queer is so wacky & headhurty

[cosmic-kiwi]

So close and yet so far.

Because the thing that you're getting brainwashed about is thinking that 'nonbinary' needs to exist at all and should be defined by a resistance to social norms.

A woman who doesn't follow the 'expected' social norms is still just a woman. A man who doesn't follow the 'expected' social norms is still just a man. I don't know how anyone can think otherwise (without being incredibly sexist).

There is no "correct" way to be a man or a woman, or to dress as a man or a woman, or to act as a man or a woman. "Man/Boy/Male" and "Woman/Girl/Female" are simply biological states. Nothing more. Those labels don't tell you *anything* about another person beyond which gamete their reproductive system should theoretically produce.

You people keep talking about this 'gender binary' when none actually exists. Sex is binary in the vast majority of cases; that is true. But the way "gender" is defined (if you can even define it) is so vague and meaningless that it seems to just mean personality/style, which is, of course, not binary and never has been in the first place.

Yes, societies have and do (either intentionally or not) had/have a way of promoting or outright enforcing certain behaviors among men and women. But I thought that kind of thing was the very thing so-called progressives were supposed to be fighting against, not reinforcing. Societal norms don't actually provide accurate information with regards to reality. For instance, a woman who insisted on wearing pants in the 50's was not 'nonbinary'. She was just a regular woman who wasn't a fan of the fashion norms of the time.

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The real reason "so many autistic folks" are "trans"/nonbinary is because autistic people tend to see the world in black and white rigid categories. Including concepts like "boy" and "girl". And so if you're a girl who feels you've never fit in with the other girls (because you're autistic) you're more likely to mistakenly think, "well clearly, I don't fit in this category -- that means that I *must* belong to the other one or some brand new other one that I must make up." (Hence "nonbinary" and all the other supposed 'genders').

But... that' so obviously not how anything actually works. Being a girl in no way means you automatically fit in with the other ones or do all the things you think that they do.

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"the current binary definition of gender" --- which is WHAT? Can anyone explain to me, a woman, what 'identifying' as a woman apparently specifically entails without sounding incredibly sexist or relying on stereotypes (which most likely would not be accurate in my case)? Because I don't see how you could.

Actually being trans is in no way about 'not following society's rules' or whatever. It is an actual (very rare) medical condition or mental illness (the science isn't settled on this) that very few people have. And I think a lot of people are getting sick of people appropriating it and pretending like they have it when they clearly don't as if all it is is a way to say 'FU' to society.

terfs keep mentioning the % of autistics who are trans/nb and that we're 'brainwashed'

and because i'm an asshole, i decided to look into why so many autistic folks are trans/nb. it's not an inaccurate statement, at least the first half, but terfs lie through their teeth so i decided to get to the scientific root of it.

the answer blew my fucking mind.

the study on gender and autism i found said two very specific things about autistic people: we are more mentally resistant to things like social conditioning and binarism. we like our secret third things, y'know.

an excerpt:

“The finding that non-binary identities are most elevated seems to support hypotheses focussed on autistic resistance to social conditioning, which are consistent with existing evidence of the same effect with respect to self-description of sexual orientation. Perhaps elevated rates of trans identity in autism might result from a rejection of the binary cisgenderist norm, which combined with a below-typical concern for social norms could promote the disclosure of the identity.”

94% of autistics surveyed for that paper identified themselves as non-binary.

other studies have found autistic people have higher levels of critical thinking, and require more evidence to maintain or convert to a belief system (hence why many of us eventually fall away from religion) than allistic people.

which means, at least from my perspective, that:

a) the 'brainwashing' terfs are accusing the trans community of inflicting on autistic folks would likely not even work if they tried.

b) the current binary definition of gender flies directly against embedded autistic modes of thinking to begin with.

you cannot brainwash someone into thinking something they already believe.

[dungeonmeshimybeloved]

Low key I wanna make a Playlist for chilchuck and his wife bc even tho I don't ship it myself and I see them separating, they have so much potential

Speaking of I should probably rename her instead of using jaylark bc idk who originally made that name but gdi I love that name sm

In their enstrangment era

When they were still childhood friends

[allylikethecat]

In my mind supernatural!fictional!hann had to be either like a faerie elder who has lived a thousand lifetimes or the straightman himan of the group who is long suffering with the idiots around him. But I actually LOVE the idea of succubus!hann!

Vampire!Fictional!matty (who i imagine is at least a LITTLE bit of a brat) would be soooo jealous it would be sooo fun.

Vampire!Fictional!Matty who is terrified of blood: WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU GET TO FEED OFF OF SEX AND I HAVE TO CATCH A BUNNY AND THEN DRINK ITS BLOOD. DO YOU KNOW HOW FAST BUNNIES ARE?! I AM NOT FAST FICTIONAL!HANN (There is a whole fridge full of ethically sourced blood, Vampire!Fictional!Matty does not need to go catch a rabbit however he fainted the first time he opened the fridge and threw up the second time when he then tried to open one of the jars so the reason he is hangry is because he has to CATCH HIS OWN DINNER FICTIONAL!HANN and not because he's squeamish!)

LOL I apologize Fictional!Hann will not be a member of the fae, I for some reason have a huge mental block when it comes to faeries and all that jazz, it's why I haven't read any of the Sarah J Maas books. I just can't do it. I also considered him being descendent from a long line of Vampire hunters a la Guillermo in What We Do In the Shadows lol

All of my Fictional!Matties are at least a little bit bratty when the situation allows for it (sorry ATKH Fictional!Matty you are the only one that doesn't get to show off your bratty side) - and Vampire!Fictional!Matty is getting bitchier and bitchier the longer it takes for Vampire!Fictional!George to ask him out, it is honestly getting a little bit ridiculous he's starting to feel unwanted and now FICTIONAL!HANN is the one having all the sex and NOT HIM?! NOT FAIR.

Thank you so much for indulging me with this ask omg I am having so much fun with the Vampire75 brain rot I'm basically just going !!!! nonstop lol The google doc has been opened the outline is venturing onto the actual page lol I hope you continue to enjoy my other fics in the meantime and that you are having a wonderful Tuesday and a Fantastic rest of your week!

❤️Ally

[a-s-fischer]

One of the things that really stuck with me from Bob Altemeyer's research on the psychology of authoritarians was that he asked people who had already been tested as to their levels of authoritarianism, what they thought the level of authoritarian traits was best to have. People with low levels of authoritarianism said it was best to have low levels of authoritarian traits. People in the middle said it was best to have low levels of authoritarian traits. But highly authoritarian people said they thought it was best to be average.

In modern Western public thought authoritarianism as a trait is viewed as a negative, so people who grow up in that environment typically take that view on. Having authoritarian traits is bad and it is good to have as few as possible. But an emphasis on conformity is a key component of the authoritarian follower mindset, and it's more important for these authoritarians to be average, to be normal, than to be better than average. They would rather be normal than good.

edited because I misremembered the research slightly. The post now reflects the research conducted more accurately.

They really hate being called 'weird,' huh?

[aceaceace144616]

How am I supposed to be bisexual AND trans?

Someone please give me instructions