#The Norm Can Conform

[grecoromanyaoi]

ik i said being autistic wasnt necessarily easier or harder in the past, just different, but being autistic in the german speaking world during the high middle ages was either pure hell or pure joy. yes there r specific, grave social meanings to every single body gesture n things u can say n that sounds exhausting but also. there r literally countless books listing just those gestures n explaining them n their meanings in detail. which u can read

[proustianrevelry]

loving the Longyue custody battle. Lesbian divorce was actually invented by straight* Chinese women in the 18th century.

[fjordfolk]

i don't even think one has to go as far as to unravel the whole idea of breed, registry and stud books, because i know for a fact that in other animals one has managed to have all of these things without going fckn batshit

[morningstargirl666]

Love that you made Klaus bi in TBBW! Just asking, will we see any of his past romantic relationships with a guy in flashbacks?

Answered this is the last asks. There is implied Klefan, but as for flashbacks, there won't be any because it isn't relevant to the story. It's just another little detail of Klaus' character.

[tirfpikachu]

Must be nice 2 still be able 2 hold ur boobs like baby birds... Detrans Blues 😕👍🏽

AW MAN 🫂 i hope you can hold boobs someday... even if it's not your own... flat tiddies are also very good tiddies honestly 👌

[vampacidic]

have i ever said ranma 1/2 is genuinely one of my favorite manga ever

[crypt1dcorv1dae]

Metalheads who don't like/respect Babymetal bc their "look" isn't, what? Traditionally metal? are so cringe. Like bro it's an alternative music scene we're supposed to say FUCK tradition????? What's wrong w y'all... Embarrassing

And also they are missing out bc Babymetal fucking rules

[dungeonmeshimybeloved]

Low key I wanna make a Playlist for chilchuck and his wife bc even tho I don't ship it myself and I see them separating, they have so much potential

Speaking of I should probably rename her instead of using jaylark bc idk who originally made that name but gdi I love that name sm

In their enstrangment era

When they were still childhood friends

[curlyharru]

Cis women Larries stop misgendering Harry challenge 😍

this strong of a reaction over me calling him a 'disney girlie'? omg please go outside

[astros-turf]

Listen, y'all are laughing (cuz it's hilarious his pure desperation in trying to understand lmao) but I LOVE these kinda questions. Like in general yes ask me all the things but also like, this is how you KNOW someone actually cares! Like he is trying so damn hard to make sure he is saying the right thing and is asking his trusted "in" to the situation (the sibling recording) all his questions now so he can be more confident in his next meeting with the they/she in question!! I also LOVE that he noticed "wait hold on, you corrected the order of the pronouns so the order is important, but I don't know why. Because using he/him... The difference in what pronoun you use is the sentence structure. So what matters here?? How does that equate to she/they versus they/she??" And I ADORE it.

When people make no efforts to learn, to change their language, or whatever... I always squint at them a bit and I'm gonna need more modifiers to know if my loved ones and I are actually safe around that kinda person. Whereas this guy?? If this guy misgendered my spouse or I it would break his damn heart! He might play it cool at the time because he's learned to not make a big deal about it... But i just feel like he'd be like NO D: internally lol. And anyone that acts like that I just wanna give them all a cookie lol thank you so so much for being cool and wanting to learn. I may not always know the answer but let's find out together ya know? Top tier allies, absolutely my faves and we could all learn from people like that

this man is the one true ally

[allylikethecat]

In my mind supernatural!fictional!hann had to be either like a faerie elder who has lived a thousand lifetimes or the straightman himan of the group who is long suffering with the idiots around him. But I actually LOVE the idea of succubus!hann!

Vampire!Fictional!matty (who i imagine is at least a LITTLE bit of a brat) would be soooo jealous it would be sooo fun.

Vampire!Fictional!Matty who is terrified of blood: WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU GET TO FEED OFF OF SEX AND I HAVE TO CATCH A BUNNY AND THEN DRINK ITS BLOOD. DO YOU KNOW HOW FAST BUNNIES ARE?! I AM NOT FAST FICTIONAL!HANN (There is a whole fridge full of ethically sourced blood, Vampire!Fictional!Matty does not need to go catch a rabbit however he fainted the first time he opened the fridge and threw up the second time when he then tried to open one of the jars so the reason he is hangry is because he has to CATCH HIS OWN DINNER FICTIONAL!HANN and not because he's squeamish!)

LOL I apologize Fictional!Hann will not be a member of the fae, I for some reason have a huge mental block when it comes to faeries and all that jazz, it's why I haven't read any of the Sarah J Maas books. I just can't do it. I also considered him being descendent from a long line of Vampire hunters a la Guillermo in What We Do In the Shadows lol

All of my Fictional!Matties are at least a little bit bratty when the situation allows for it (sorry ATKH Fictional!Matty you are the only one that doesn't get to show off your bratty side) - and Vampire!Fictional!Matty is getting bitchier and bitchier the longer it takes for Vampire!Fictional!George to ask him out, it is honestly getting a little bit ridiculous he's starting to feel unwanted and now FICTIONAL!HANN is the one having all the sex and NOT HIM?! NOT FAIR.

Thank you so much for indulging me with this ask omg I am having so much fun with the Vampire75 brain rot I'm basically just going !!!! nonstop lol The google doc has been opened the outline is venturing onto the actual page lol I hope you continue to enjoy my other fics in the meantime and that you are having a wonderful Tuesday and a Fantastic rest of your week!

❤️Ally

[aceaceace144616]

How am I supposed to be bisexual AND trans?

Someone please give me instructions

[raisinchallah]

the het shipper experiences self denial far greater than the fujoshi does i find it fascinating how many like popular m/f relationships defined by their like camaraderie and like viewing each other as equals in a job or profession where they have separate yet entangled lives and like its a drawn out subtextual tension or whatever like in many ways this is straight yaoi like the introduction of women into the professional workforce in jobs previously reserved for men gives this chance to have the fantasy of the woman treated with the same level of respect as the man and like to see this flavor of like the buddy trope now envisioned with its full romantic subtext when one of them is a woman or whatever but the het shipper denies themselves their true desires and works to make sense of this through basic romantic milestones like why do so many people want mulder and scully to get married or cohabitate or have kids like ur fully insane the operative fantasy is the fact scully never has to wash mulders socks you know like its that its entirely divorced from the home and allowed to be an equal partnership and you can literally see this break down in the show itself like the well loved amongst shippers episode where they go undercover in suburbia and its like normal mulder and scully goes out the window for bad jokes about domestic work and wanting scully to take care of certain things like in many ways the romantic fantasy of their relationship entirely disappears if u try and make it conform to these specific milestones but like they literally can be in a relationship but live in separate places they dont have to get married like you could open your mind and realize what you actually like and desire about this fantasy and thing about whats necessary or unnecessary here but people are so trapped in their normative ideas of romantic relationship milestones they cant imagine them both respecting each other and having sex and also choosing to prioritize each other forever without like marriage and children entering the picture which again completely defeats what people find desirable about them in the first place and this is a place of imagination you know anyways the ideology of the heterosexual mind..

[sky-scribbles]

My book on aromanticism and asexuality comes out in a month! Shout-out to my publishers for just... giving me free rein to ramble about:

How amatonormativity hurts absolutely everyone

Why there are so many nonbinary and gender non-conforming aspecs

Why asexual awareness is essential in pushing back against incel culture (because men and boys deserve to know that manhood is not defined by sexual desire or prowess)

Why coming out as aspec can be so incredibly complicated, espeically for aspecs of colour

Advice from aspecs on how to navigate sex and relationships as an ace and/or aro person

A really wonderful bunch of stories from aspecs on what their non-normative relationships and families look like, from queerplatonic partners to poly aspecs to best friends raising kids together

How refusing amatonormativity can help us fight the loneliness epidemic, by encouraging people not to retreat into two-person units and instead invest in multiple close relationships of every kind

What steps we need to take to challenge aspec discrimination in medicine and the law

Why all you aspec people out there are an indispensible, revolutionary force that helps us all explore and create new models of love, relationship and family

So uh please do check it out if you think it might be up your street (or just because it'd really, really annoy a certain children's author who's decided aphobia is the new big thing)

[a-s-fischer]

One of the things that really stuck with me from Bob Altemeyer's research on the psychology of authoritarians was that he asked people who had already been tested as to their levels of authoritarianism, what they thought the level of authoritarian traits was best to have. People with low levels of authoritarianism said it was best to have low levels of authoritarian traits. People in the middle said it was best to have low levels of authoritarian traits. But highly authoritarian people said they thought it was best to be average.

In modern Western public thought authoritarianism as a trait is viewed as a negative, so people who grow up in that environment typically take that view on. Having authoritarian traits is bad and it is good to have as few as possible. But an emphasis on conformity is a key component of the authoritarian follower mindset, and it's more important for these authoritarians to be average, to be normal, than to be better than average. They would rather be normal than good.

edited because I misremembered the research slightly. The post now reflects the research conducted more accurately.

They really hate being called 'weird,' huh?

[bunnyinatree]

“… sex assignment is not simply an announcement of the sex that an infant is perceived to be; it also communicates a set of adult desires and expectations. The infant’s future is often being imagined or desired through the act of sex assignment, so sex assignment is not a simple description of anatomical facts, but a way of imagining what they will mean, or should mean. That imagining comes from elsewhere, and it does not exactly stop after sex has been legally or medically determined at birth. The girl continues to be girled; the boy continues to be boyed; and these practices of girling and boying are repeated not just by parents, but also by a range of institutions that greet the child with boxes to be checked and norms to be embodied. In a sense, sex assignment does not happen just once. It is an iterative process, repeated by different actors and institutions, and depending on where one lives, it can be reiterated in ways that are not always in conformity with one another. Sex assignment is not a mechanism, but a process.”

— Judith Butler, “Who’s Afraid of Gender?”