#So they havent .. been wild or adventerous. They havent forged a place for themselves or a self-image | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

castingcomets · 2 years ago

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Middle-aged man who is socially awkward and very polite who has another middle-aged socially awkward polite man visiting his house for a good conventional reason (lending tools, helping him fix the plumbing in his house, dropping off something that was borrowed, etc) and the guy whose house it is offers refreshments to be polite and the other guy accepts it to be polite and now theyre drinking beer together and since theyre both so awkward and polite they constantly put out attempts to be polite and the other reciprocates immediately in order to be polite and neither see how it’s awkward in the other because they're both awkward so they don’t know how it’s supposed to go anyway (they each use politeness as a guiding rhetoric in social situations and defer on impulse) and they end up having gay sex as a polite gesture because one thing led to another and it was the polite thing to do at every turn and the first guy doesnt want to kick the other guy out becasue thats rude so he offers to let him stay the night and the second guy doesnt want to be a burden and so he politely declines at first but he doesnt want to make it seem like he’s in a hurry to leave becasue that’s rude but the first guy doesnt want it to seem like the second guy is unwanted so he offers again but tries not to be pushy and so the second guy accepts becasue the first guy has a lovely home and has been so courteous thus far. And they embrace each other through the night to be polite

#Wait actually this is really interesting bc #you have these two ppl who have lived passively their whole lives.#theyre socially inept and have always been told that so theyve relinquished their own trust in themselves on the matter.#they have been objectified in that way - their autonomy has taken a hit.#they are older unmarried men becasue theyve never found anyone to settle down with never figured out how ppl wanted them to do that #theyve just been passive and calm and they stick to the social rules that they do know -#being polite. Becasue it always works.#They habitually defer to those who ''know more'' than they do #always putting themselves at the bottom of the hierarchy & they dont even know what they want.#They do conventional guy things. Thy have guy skills. They dont know what they ''want'' or what that means or what the use is #they just chill bc it's polite #So they havent .. been wild or adventerous. They havent forged a place for themselves or a self-image #theyre disconnected from themselves and dont even know that or see the harm .. they dont know what they want #One thing they do have is that they are impervious to awkwardness when they are not the one who would feel embarrasssed #so they dance throuhg these advances with untrained feet and somehow figure it out. But what did they figure out?#Theyre neutral about all of this. It was a polite gesture #and theyre just glad that they didnt embarrass themselves

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