#Sighs. SECOND caveat that “can’t or doesn’t want to reciprocate” isn’t “is evil and terrible” | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

convoloutedinjoke · 2 years ago

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I think the thing that doesn't jive for me with J/H most of the time is that theres a lot of stuff where its made out like jean is ooooghghg Suffering because harry doesn't Care for him as much as he Cares for Harry and it rings really false to me. Harry would... care a lot? He would care very very much and in his own broken way try his best to express it? Maybe it wouldn't always come out right (see: the video game disco Elysium) but he wouldn't Not Care As Much. He would care. He would care so much it would be a major source of tension in whatever they'd call that whole situation, because (points at jean) unable to reciprocate even if he wanted to, which most of the time I doubt he does.

#ive been the black hole of self-pitying misery before man. you aren't actually the support beam of any relationship in that state.#though it sure as fuck can feel like it from the inside #idk maybe this is 100% projection on my part but whenever someone takes jeans whining at face value I want to empathy blast them #so they can see the kind of shit my equally unwell and problems having friends were putting up with when I was still Like That #he isn't the most saddest guy with the worst troubles he just doesn't respect his own pain enough to not compare it #like it is a defence mechanism and it Sort Of helps you for a while Sometimes #but at the end of the day it also closes you off to the kinds of relationships that will save your life #caveat to this also that “care a lot” doesn't equal “would be good at having a normal and nice relationship”#sometimes the more you care the worse it gets yk?#(Points at dora dreams)#Sighs. SECOND caveat that “can’t or doesn’t want to reciprocate” isn’t “is evil and terrible”#loving an addict is hard #Choosing to close off a little is reasonable especially if you are already in your own hole #though as I said at the start. That precludes some intimacy #anyway damn ! Damn (digs a hole with my paws and buried him)

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