#Sex tips

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

Just a reminder that aftercare can mean the difference between someone feeling safe, satisfied and sexy after a scene, and feeling shamed, gross and at worst, traumatized. Sex is a vulnerable thing for everyone, and no matter how casual, people deserve respect before, during and after. Dom or sub, kinky or not, take good care of your partners! The emotions are more important than the sex.

[certifiedsexed]

i dont know if this is the right place to go but im so lost why do i have crying meltdowns when my boyfriend turns down sex? it makes me feel disgusting and like im pressuring him to sleep with me, but i would never and thats not my intention. I just get filled with an overwhelming feeling of rejection and disappointment that it hurts physically

I know this may sound hurtful. That's not my intention. I mean this genuinely, in the kindest way possible but it may be that one of the main reasons you have crying meltdowns when your boyfriend turns down sex is that you are not in a space where you should currently be having sex.

It sounds like you have a very strong reaction to what you view as a rejection. I don't know if that's a general thing or just a sex thing but clearly, it's an issue you need to work on. It's not an unheard of issue-What you're describing is word-for-word something that plenty of people who have RSD [Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria] deal with regularly.

But if it's causing you to have meltdowns when your boyfriend turns down sex, it might be a good idea to stop putting yourself in that situation until you've got a better handle on all of it.

That should definitely start with sitting down with your boyfriend and thoroughly discussing with him, "Hey, I have this issue but it's not me trying to pressure you," and listening to his feelings about it and seeing where to go from there.

But from there, you have a lot of options. Therapy, generally exposing yourself to rejection to build yourself up, learning more about how to manage your reactions, etc, that's up to you.

I can't tell you exactly why you have those meltdowns but I can tell you that some people feel things very intensely. And sometimes we can't control our exact reaction to those feelings.

That's not something that makes you evil. Often, there's nothing wrong with feeling things strongly, even if you express them in ways other people view as "inappropriate" or "strange."

But sometimes, it's something you need help with! Like when it's so intense you're feeling physical pain because of something repeatedly! Or when it might interfere with your boyfriend's ability to consent properly. That's definitely an issue you need help with. But it doesn't make you evil.

Not sure how helpful this is, Anon. But let me know if you have any other questions. <3

[koreanbums]

Sex Ed with Bang Chan

[bootleg-nessie]

This is what my dick sounds like when erect

She pulls down my pants and SPROIOIOIONG

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

You are not a creep if you find yourself sexy with your disability aids. full stop. If your partner is disabled, you are not fetishizing them if you find them sexy when they're in their wheelchair, or wearing their diaper, or have braces on, etc.

Disabled people are allowed to feel sexy and people are allowed to find them sexy. People with facial/limb differences and other physical differences are allowed to feel sexy and people are allowed to be attracted to them.

The problem comes from lack of consent and dehumanization. Expecting all disabled people to fit your sexual fantasy and sexualizing them openly without their consent (i.e. posting/reblogging normal pictures of a disabled person on your fetish blog or sexually harassing a disabled stranger) is fetishization and horrible. Asking us how we have sex or taking secret photos of us to jack off to later is creepy and crossing the boundry into dehumanizing fetishization. Seeing us and our sexuality as an oddity or a funny joke is not okay.

Reminder, sex toys were first and foremost created by and for disabled people. We have always been having sex and have always been seen as attractive by our admirers, without them fetishizing us. Having sex with a consenting disabled person isnt rape, and yes it is possible for us to eagerly consent! While some disabilities make it hard to consent, that isn't true for all of us.

We get horny, we have sex, we jack off, we wear sexy clothes and show off our bodies. We aren't freak shows for abled peoples amusement nor objects for fetishization. We aren't poor innocent virgins who don't know what sex is, we are a diverse and beautiful community all connected by our disabilities.

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[mistermoon11]

Nos tomamos fotitos así después de de culear?

O vamos a culear antes?

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

hi mr sex witch! i was wondering if there is a reason for disconnect in arousal (yknow, like when you are suddenly super wet for no reason or turned on mentally but showing no physical signs)

hi anon,

GREAT question!

arousal in a complicated process, and it takes place on two distinct fronts: both physically and psychologically. the two are connected in intricate ways and can definitely feed into each other, but as anyone who's ever gotten a boner in the middle of math class can tell you, it's 100% possible to experience one side of arousal without the other.

the physical side is, largely, basic response to stimuli. a seam in your jeans rubs your clit and you get turned on even though you're in the middle of a deeply unsexy work meeting. the temperature in a room might plummet, leaving your nipples hard as a rock while you're trying to give a presentation. the jets in the hot tub are a little too bubbly and now you're rocking a boner surrounded by a bunch of random elderly people. none of that is on you; sometimes your body just feels the tiniest hint of stimulation and immediately assumes that means it needs to get ready to fuck, because your body is so SO good at so many things but it critically lacks the skill of social discernment.

meanwhile the wonderous meat of your brain sometimes can come up with nastiest, hottest shit possible without getting a peep out of your body, because it's simply not always going to react the way you want it to - as anyone who's ever experienced the frustration of trying to jack off only for their bits to remain bone dry and completely soft can attest. the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, and all that. there can be any number of reasons for that, ranging from stress to hormones to medication to your body just giving you a big ol' shrug emoji for no immediately obvious reason.

bodies: they're miraculous, and also just totally unpredictable.

[victusinveritas]

[the-black-manor]

How do you prepare for pegging?

First and foremost, lots of foreplay. They should be throbbing before you even think of moving to their ass. Lots and lots of lube. If you think you have enough lube, you don't, use more. Start with one finger and insert it slowly. Curl it JUST A BIT to get them used to that pressure. Ask them to squeeze as hard as they can, then curl it some more, gently. Tell them to relax, add another finger, clench again, but this time, separate your fingers like scissors. This is what will actually stretch them. Repeat until they've taken three or four fingers, then you can use a toy or your cock, depending on size. You don't want to go straight from fingers to your biggest. You need to work up to it, so start small. If you have an average-sized cock, you can use that, but go slow. Press the head against your ass and slowly start to apply pressure. Again, depending on size, it might slip right in, or they might need time to slowly stretch around it. Once the head is in, don't think you can go all out and start thrusting, you have to get the rest of it in first. Slowly apply pressure, tell them to clench and relax. Each time they relax, you should feel them pull you in a bit more, until you're as far as you can go depending on your and their anatomy. From here, let them adjust to the stretch, then rut into them gently, not pulling out, just moving inside. Once they're comfortable with that, pull out almost all the way - leaving the head inside - and then push back in all the way. Let them adjust to that, and then you can start going harder.

[ast-n-kat]

ASTRID has her glass cock fully up KATRINA’s slutty pussy. She pinches one of KATRINA’s perfect nipples, twists it and tugs it up.

KATRINA moans mouth open.

ASTRID: Don’t you fucking cum, you cunt. Did you fuck my wife?

KATRINA: Astrid, I didn’t I swear.

ASTRID pumps her glass cock in and out of KAT’s sloppy wet slit 3-4 more times.

KATRINA is visibly fighting a cum.

ASTRID: Don’t you fucking do it, bitch. You did something to her. Or she did something to you. Or both. Spare me lies; you have her goddamn cum in your hair.

KATRINA: (quickly, still fighting a cum) She came on my face a bunch.

ASTRID: A bunch? You bitch.

ASTRID pumps her big glass dick in and out of KAT’s whimpering pussy four full thrusts.

ASTRID: (one word per pump) Don’t. You. Fucking. Cum.

This is the most ASTRID has ever spoken during sex so KATRINA knows she means business.

ASTRID: Why was she cumming on you a bunch?

KATRINA: She said it’s because I make her so horny. That the expressions on my face fills her balls with fresh cum.

ASTRID: What was she doing when she said talked about her fresh cum?

KATRINA: Jacking herself off on my face.

ASTRID: And what were you doing while she was jacking off her cock and cumming on your bitch face?

KATRINA: I was sucking her balls a bunch.

ASTRID: When did you start sucking her balls, Katrina? Before the jacking off? After she started stroking it or was it like at the same fucking time.

KATRINA: (afraid to say)

ASTRID: Tell me the truth, Kat, and I’ll let you cum on this dick?

KATRINA: (dying to cum on that dick) It was before any of that. She definitely started jacking off because this whore mouth was sucking on her big beautiful ballsack a bunch please make me cum now

ASTRID pumps her cock once into KATRINA and KAT cums super hard on it.

KATRINA: (can’t stop cumming) GODDAMN GODDAMN!!

ASTRID: Stop cumming so hard.

KATRINA: pullitoutpullitoutpleasepullitout

ASTRID pulls it out.

KATRINA: (still cumming a little) Show me.

ASTRID is pissed but she shows KATRINA the mess she made on ASTRID’s glass.

KATRINA: You said it was okay. You said I could cum and you said that we could fool around.

ASTRID: I know what I said and yes you had my consent.

KATRINA: Do we still?

ASTRID: Yes of course.

ASTRID doesn’t say anything but she can tell that slut just got wetter.

KATRINA notices the same about ASTRID

KATRINA: Are you wet right now?

ASTRID: Yes of course.

KATRINA: Can I eat your pussy out right now?

ASTRID doesn’t speak but nods yes.

KATRINA kisses on ASTRID’s perfect pussy and fingers her out a bunch. ASTRID enjoys it but doesn’t cum.

ASTRID: Ok that’s good. Thank you for telling me. Only tell me when I ask okay?

KATRINA: Yes, of course, honey. I know. Can I kiss you?

ASTRID nods yes as she and KATRINA meet at the mouth. They kiss a while.

KATRINA: You can put that dick in me again and I’ll cum.

ASTRID shakes her head no.

KATRINA: Can I make myself cum while you kiss me?

ASTRID nods yes and kisses KATRINA deep on the mouth as KAT puts two fingers up her own needy pussyhole.

KATRINA cums again as they kiss. She wants to cum a bunch but holds back a little.

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

'eating ass is unsanitary" wrong

[certifiedsexed]

Hello! Posting this to try and settle an argument/debate thing

Is it heteronormal to say that sex has to include some form of penetration (Penis or finger in any kind of hole) to count as sex?

I say yes but my friend says no, so wanted to get an opinion from a more informed party

Hiiiii. I don't like being involved in arguments or debates but sure, why not.

I think you mean heteronormative but yes, it is. It's very much an idea based in heteronormativity that penetration is sex and therefore sex is penetration. It's very much connected to the idea that anal sex is "degenerate sex", while anyone claiming to have sex that doesn't involve penetration is "delusional."

By that logic, that means many types of masturbation aren't sex, tribbing isn't sex, frottage isn't sex, some types of rimming aren't sex, as well as some types of general oral sex not being sex. The list goes on.

Which is a dangerous belief, by the way, because to deny that different types of sex are sex only feeds into rape culture and makes it harder to get across what exactly sexual assault/abuse is.

The idea that sex must involve penetration to "count" as sex is tied to so many bigotries, if I'm honest. Ableism, homophobia, lesbophobia specifically, misogyny, etc. It's not just heteronormative but it is explicitly heteronormative and tied to rape culture, as heteronormativity often is.

Not sure how helpful this is but I enjoy rambling about things I have a passion for, so thanks for involving me. Let me know if you have anymore questions! <3

(Or even if this is remotely helpful T_T)

[priyankathakur]

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[bootleg-nessie]

Sexy carrot.

Either way, tasted very good.

Pretty sure I saw one of these at the sex shop I went to with my girlfriend the other day

[mistermoon11]

Ahora soy el único que busca sexting y todas esas cosas? 😔 Se perdieron los valores

[inya-rose]

How to Masturbate Without a Vibrator

If you find yourself without a vibrator or simply prefer to explore other methods of self-pleasure, there are plenty of alternatives to consider. While it may be a little disconcerting at first, you don't necessarily need sex toys for a fulfilling solo experience. However, it's also important to keep safety and effectiveness in mind when looking for alternatives.

Today we're going to explore some proven ways to masturbate without a vibrator. Whether you're a novice or looking to expand your masturbation repertoire, these techniques can provide a satisfying experience depending on your preferences. Let's dive into the world of pleasure without sex toys and discover what works best for you, now!

Your fingers are your most reliable companions

The seemingly innate skill of using fingers to masturbate is simple, but it has to be said that it is a classic and reliable method. For some, it may not provide the same instant gratification as a vibrator, but when done properly, it can still provide incredible pleasure.

Different techniques are vital when you try to explore manually.Instead of immediately resorting to vigorous rubbing, consider gentle circular motions, up-and-down strokes, or even light tapping around the clitoral area. Everyone's preferences are different, so take the time to discover what feels most enjoyable for you.

Also lubricant is a good companion to masturbation, so don't skimp on yours. Apply generously to your fingers and vulva to ensure a smooth and pleasurable experience. Ultimately, experimenting with different techniques and sensations can lead to a fulfilling and enjoyable masturbation session without the need for a vibrator.

Try a pillow

For many vulva-owners, clitoral stimulation takes center stage during masturbation, and grinding can be an excellent technique to explore this sensation further.

Try grinding, this is when pillows can play an unexpected role. You can sit across the square head, choose an upright or flat position, whatever is comfortable for you anyway. Experiment with different grinding movements, such as moving your hips back and forth or side to side, until you discover a rhythm that feels pleasurable.

If you prefer something even firmer, consider using a rolled-up towel instead of a pillow. For additional stimulation, slide your fingers down to your clitoris and grind against them gently. Adding some lubricant can enhance the experience, ensuring everything feels smooth and comfortable.

Creative shower heads

This is one of the proven and effective DIY masturbation methods. Hold the shower head and aim the jet of water at your clitoris until you find a comfortable angle. Adjust the water pressure and temperature , it is recommended to start with a lower water temperature to avoid discomfort caused by overheating.

Masturbating in the shower offers privacy and discretion, making it a preferred option for many. However, be mindful not to let too much water enter the vagina, as this could disrupt your natural pH balance and potentially lead to infections.

A Massager

If you are missing a vibrator, then you can look for some of life's items as a replacement. However, it's essential to prioritize safety and avoid potential risks associated with certain objects, such as electric toothbrushes or phones.

While most household items are not suitable for sexual stimulation due to material composition or hygiene concerns, there are exceptions. For instance, a vibrating silicone face cleanser, crafted from body-safe materials, can be repurposed for clitoral or G-spot stimulation after thorough cleaning. To enhance safety, consider covering the massager with a condom before use. Additionally, ensure that any item used for penetration is made from a non-porous material to minimize the risk of bacterial contamination.

It is possible to masturbate without a vibrator, but the sensations that a vibrator brings are hard to match with these methods. And it has no health risks. If you decide to purchase a vibrator now, click here.