#Self-Awareness & Growth

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Sixty Shadow Work Prompts #3

Sixty Shadow Work Prompts #3

Write about a time you felt let down by someone you’d previously looked up to. My manager disappointed me. She always reassured me I was never alone, and that she supported me. When I reported a supervisor who was inducing massive anxiety attacks, she sided with the supervisor and humiliated me. I thought she was a better, stronger woman; and I defended her when people bashed her. I can…

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Rebirth & Renewal (Part 2) - Positive Reflection Of The Week

Part 2: Rebirthing & Renewing Yourself Mentally Mental rebirth and renewal are essential for nurturing a healthy mind and fostering personal growth. Our thoughts shape our reality, and by releasing negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs, we can create space for new possibilities to emerge. By practising mindfulness, meditation, and self-reflection, we can cultivate a positive mindset and…

[gothicdicordia]

Getting bask creativity after Bipolar Trauma

Many people stop taking medication or fear taking medication that actually helps them because it makes it harder to create and have the borderline/manic energy that fuels our particular areas of talent.

HOWEVER, it does come back, but it takes a little work because you are re-learning to access that part of you, that is STILL there, w/o the rush of Bipolar mania biochemicals (and drugs to amp that up you probably shouldn't be taking.)

We have to develop causal pathways to develop intuition. It is a series of progressive choices and actions (or inaction) toward even the smallest goal. And it all starts with a sketch, or notes, or writing in a journal or a blog.

You have to take in creative content and educational content that fuels your interests. Content creates causal manifestations of your spin on ideas. It shows what is possible.

You have to engage with commentary on the subjects you are talented/educated in and explore new concepts through discourse.

You have to take baby steps to create - we all know we often don't take time to sketch out or note out our flights of fancy in their infancy. So these steps help us progressively build up to a project. Even if we write 10 things that aren't viable or do 50 designs that just don't quite fit the mood of the costume or feel constrained we might not be able to afford the supplies, we are STILL building projects in our mind and developing causal pathways.

Getting through the acclimatization to Seroquel took me 2 years. But my creativity is back w/o mania.

Stop focusing on not being able to do what others do or being as good as you were during some manic phase. Be good as you are now and embrace the variation and growth in your style, but know it as YOUR STYLE.

Be you now vs you of the past. Past you is over. Past you dealt with some shit and we can't dwell on the fact we can't get back what past you lost. Be you now. Make choices of you of the future as a gift to your future self.

The best gift you can give yourself is sanity, self-awareness, and a healthy routine with medication, a doctor, and someone to talk to. Everything else is what it is, but you can't be there for the world, if you don't take care of you, first.

[priyablog26]

 Robot Depalletizer Market May See a Big Move 2024-2030

 Robot Depalletizer Market May See a Big Move 2024-2030

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Why you should consider life coaching in Atlanta

There are times in life when you are at crossroads, maybe due to a difficult situation or a personal ongoing crisis. During those times a listening ear is something that helps the most, even if they cannot contribute to the solution of the problem. But who do you go to in this kind of situation? A therapist, or for a life coaching in Atlanta, and if you go for a life coach, then how does it differ from therapy? Let’s find out.

What is an Atlanta life coach?

A life coach is someone who encourages clients through their personal or career-related challenges and crises. They help clients in re-evaluating their goals, setting attainable goals, improving productivity, and reaching their ultimate goals. Life coaches help people from various sectors of life and each coaching is different because each individual comes with their own set of challenges and own set of goals. Now, life coaches can counsel clients in personal areas, as well as their professional matters and this depends entirely on the subject the client brings to their life coach. Personal and professional areas include grief from the passing of a loved one, personal development, divorce, career, and even financial wellness.

Benefits of Life Coaching in Atlanta

When you are looking for an Atlanta life coach, you can rest assured that your problems are going to be slightly less than before as these coaches have a deep positive psychological impact on their clients. Here are some of the key benefits of reaching out to an Atlanta life coach:

Improved self-confidence: More than 80% of people as per IFC reports have shown a boost in self confidence after they have reached out to a life coach with their personal goals.

Improved self-awareness: Self-awareness is natural and a lot of people inhibit themselves because they get conscious regarding their goals. A life coach helps you in reflecting on your progress, making sure you take small, but steady steps toward a stable future.

Improved communication skills: A lot of people have seen their relationships highly benefiting from coaching classes and this is because life coaches help you understand and ensure better communication. With proper communication skills, you not only improve your relationships but also excel in the work atmosphere.

Better clarity and purpose of life: The entire reason for going to a life coach is so that they can guide you at your crossroads. People who have taken up to life coaching have seen a higher sense of purpose and meaning in their lives.

Lower stress levels: A life coach makes you understand your worth and helps you amp up your productivity. With better communication skills and interpersonal growth, stress levels are also seen to significantly decrease.

Conclusion

Life coaching in Atlanta might sound a little overwhelming, but it is one of the best things you can do to yourself when you are overwhelmed with the situation and overcome with self-doubt. Atlanta life coaches work hard in establishing transparency and trust between their clients so that they become a safe space for their clients to open up and talk about their challenges. The counselors greatly help in improving their lives and helping them live happier lifestyles.

[shaanicreates]

Lunar Placement Resources

Lunar Placement Resources I discover patterns & cycles in my life, strengthen my intuition and expand my awareness by observing lunar placements during a monthly cycle. I observe my daily experiences, emotions and interactions as they relate to the qualities, properties and traits of the moon and astrological placements. I harness the energy of the moment for facing whatever comes my way in life.…

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Day 22: Discovery

@oc-growth-and-development

(Yeah, yeah, Saren’s not mine. Again, his POV worked for this)

“I’ve got Mav. Nival… it looks like he tried to dissect him. Mav’s holding on but he’s going to need real medical help very, very soon.”

Nival had left abundant tracks. Booted footprints in the snow, skids through thin layers of ice. He was running, darting into doorways and alleys looking for somewhere to hide. The Spectre could hear him panting, gasping... He heard the rogue agent slip and fall, his curses and ramblings.

A nebulous little tendril of biotic power leapt from the Spectre’s fingers and Nival was pinned to the ground where he had fallen. He screamed, high pitched and terrified when the Spectre stepped in front of him. Saren’s mandibles twitched along his jaw.

“You’ve two options. Would you like to hear them?”

Nival shook, his cybernetic eye rolled back in his head and he spat more of the nonsense Saren had overheard as he’d pursued him. Old gods and Spirits, sentient Geth, Mav and mayhem, blood and destruction. There was no true awareness of self left in that misshapen skull. The Spectre sighed and drew his weapon. Nival didn’t fight the inevitable. 

“Spectre!” Mav’s partner in his ear again, the voice increasingly shrill in a way that made Saren grind his teeth and rub at the tension around the edges of his amp. “Spectre.”

“I’ve retrieved Nival. I’m heading toward your position now.”

[personalcoachingcenter]

Understanding Comparison vs. Confidence

New Post has been published on https://personalcoachingcenter.com/understanding-comparison-vs-confidence/

Understanding Comparison vs. Confidence

A Coaching Power Tool By Aleksandra Kowalska, Business Coach, SPAIN

Comparison is a thief of Joy. Theodore Roosevelt

It’s normal to wonder how we measure up to other people. According to social comparison theory, this drive is part of our basic desire to understand ourselves and our place in the social world. But dwelling too much on these judgments has a cost. Juliana Breines, Ph.D. Psychology Today

The Difference Between Comparison vs. Confidence

Comparison

The Comparison Trap

You know those people who have more than you; money, acclaim, looks, whatever? The spike of envy they trigger is natural, and social media is primed to amp it up. But in a world where followers and likes can seem like rock-solid proof of a person’s worth, you don’t have to take the bait.

Compare and Despair

Thought Experiment.

Imagine yourself on a sunny day, on the beach, strolling, life is good, you are relaxed, happy, you feel good about yourself, your body satisfaction is a solid 8. Now, you see two models walking in the opposite direction towards you. Your body satisfaction plummeted to 2. What happened? The models existed before you saw them, you were just not aware of them. You use them to create the whole set of negative, critical thoughts about yourself.

What made you compare and despair? Why is this a problem? What can you do about it?

We use comparison to criticize ourselves and find ourselves wanting and lacking.

Sometimes we compare downward to someone we consider worse than us a sense of self-validation by putting the person down in our mind, but it is a part of the same problem because if we criticize ourselves when compare to others, we feel that the only way to feel better is to compare ourselves to someone worse.

According to Juliana Breines from Psychology Today, US research suggests that we’re more likely to make downward comparisons when our self-esteem is threatened—for example, if we’ve just received negative feedback—because these comparisons give us a boost, enhance our own perceived standing, and reassure us that things could be worse.

On the surface, downward comparisons may seem harmless, even healthy, but they have several drawbacks. First, to the extent that these comparisons form a basis for self-esteem, it’s a fragile one because they depend on the continued misfortune of others. Downward comparison can also put a strain on our relationships. When we focus too narrowly on others’ negative attributes, we may miss the complete picture of their strengths and successes, which limits our ability to empathize and support them in good and bad times.

All in all, constant comparing has a bad effect on our mental state.

The solution is the understanding of why do we compare ourselves constantly, what happens to our brain when we do this, and what we can do to change it.

First, we live in a capitalized society where we are encouraged to see competition as healthy and normal. The problem with the competition is that we are constantly comparing ourselves with others to see where we stand. It can be quite easy to spot the winner when you run a 10K race, however, when it comes to all nebulous aspects of our modern life there may be no clear winner or loser, and yet we absorb the ideology that there are winners and losers everywhere. The brain tries to figure out where we are on the spectrum by comparing ourselves to others all the time. What is more, the brain is taught to give importance and weight to these differences.

Capitalism also teaches us to treat ourselves as a commodity. We are used to thinking about ourselves in the series of marketplaces, where you can be looked at as in the market and compared with others, as a result, we end up seeing ourselves as a series of attributes that can be of value to others.

The comparison itself is not that bad, but what makes it harmful is that we have within us an existing belief system about our own lack of worth. We already believe that we are inadequate, and the brain is just looking out for evidence to support what it already believes. When we compare ourselves to others, we just ASSUME they are better, and it affects our happiness. Consequently, we think that because somebody seems to be prettier, have more money than us, they are happier. We look at them, and we would rather be them because we think that it would make us happier.

However, external circumstances do not cause our feelings.

Our thoughts determine our happiness.

How can you change your thoughts to be happier?

What kind of mindset can eliminate such comparison and bring peace, acceptance, and happiness.

Confidence

True self-awareness and self-confidence don’t come overnight. Being self-aware means that you know yourself and that you’re aware of all your strengths and weaknesses. It means you will be able to trust in your abilities and qualities and to stand by yourself despite your perfectly imperfect personality.

Real Self-Confidence Is Built Through Positive Experiences

Genuine self-confidence results from a series of positive experiences which lead us to the realization of who we are. This means that we are more ourselves than the copy of a so-called role model.

You will recognize the difference between genuine, authentic self-confidence and a mere mask as soon as the first uncomfortable or difficult situation arises. Because then this mask will fall very fast.

Let’s take a Closer Look at the Various Terms That Are Usually Used in This Context:

Self-awareness means knowing as much as possible about yourself and being aware. Someone who is self-aware knows their strengths, abilities, and quirks.

Self-esteem means recognizing one’s value. Although nobody is perfect, everyone has valuable qualities and strengths. Everybody is a unique, perfectly imperfect personality.

Self-acceptance means to accept and love oneself with all the strengths and weaknesses we have. It’s the awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses, the realistic (yet subjective) appraisal of one’s talents, capabilities, and general worth, and, feelings of satisfaction with one’s self despite deficiencies and regardless of past behaviors and choices. From these abilities, real self-confidence arises. It is the ability to trust yourself and to perform safely even in difficult situations.

Let’s Be Honest. We All Know These Situations Where We Could Use a Real Confidence Boost:

Maybe you sometimes perceive others’ traits and gifts as being superior to your own — even “heroic,” and therefore unattainable?

Maybe you believe that no one cares what you think, how you feel, or even what you have to offer?

Or do you have difficulties getting motivated and taking action? “I’m going to fail anyway, so why bother?”

Or maybe you’re a “people pleaser” who’s not able to say “no”, have problems representing your interests, and find it hard to forgive yourself?

Some Questions That Can Help the Client to Move From Self-Criticism to Self-Awareness and Acceptance:

What would be different if you didn’t compare yourself?

What makes you believe the negative thoughts when you compare yourself with others?

What makes you value others more than yourself?

What could you be missing here?

What makes you – you?

If you were to let go of X belief/comparing, what might be possible?

What new perspectives could you explore/stand-in/engage in?

How will you amplify your core value of X today?

Which values can you draw on as you meet this challenge?

Who are you when you give yourself full permission?

What inner critic messages are you listening to and letting hold you small?

What does your inner sage know to be true?

What would be different if you chose to listen to/believe/honor your inner sage?

If you absolutely believed that all life was organized around your success, what would your decision/action be?

Where do you hesitate?

What strengths can you draw on?

What is it to have a growth mindset?

What can you trust about yourself (regardless of external praise)?

How would you grow if this succeeded?

Other Tools and Practices:

If you want to boost your self-esteem, it’s a good idea to keep a regular diary: Focus on your daily successes and the positive things in life and record them

You can keep a gratitude journal to focus on the positive things that happen to you daily

Use a thought questioning tool “The Work” by Byron Katie, The Work of Byron Katie

Use Socratic Questions to challenge the client’s perspective Socratic Questioning in Psychology: Examples and Techniques (positivepsychology.com)

References

27 Focused Questions to Boost Your Clients’ Confidence! | By Delaney Tosh CPCC, PCC | The Launchpad – The Coaching Tools Company Blog

The Perils of Comparing Ourselves to Others | Psychology Today

The Comparison Trap | Psychology Today

How the use of social media and social comparison affects mental health | Nursing Times

Why comparison is the thief of joy and how to stop comparing yourself to others – Madeleine Shaw

Social Comparison Theory in Psychology (verywellmind.com)

Social Comparison: An Unavoidable Upward Or Downward Spiral (positivepsychology.com)

Socratic Questioning in Psychology: Examples and Techniques (positivepsychology.com)

Original source: https://coachcampus.com/coach-portfolios/power-tools/comparison-vs-confidence/

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Braving the Wilderness

January 27, 2021- Personal Development Daily Journal (Day 1)

Wilderness means an uncultivated region and uninhabited by human beings. Today, I compared the wilderness to ourselves. As people as we are, we don’t wholly knew who we are as beings in this fast changing world and with our subject today which is the Personal Development, I learned how substantial for us to know our own selves. Braving the wilderness means we should allow ourselves to fathom ourselves more. Most especially with the environment we are in, people around us and other factors to the extent that we solely recognize who we are as a person.

Source : https://www.google.com.ph/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/6qlhoh/self_awareness/

Self-concept is the vibrant representation of who we are. It is our personal perception to our own self, our own definition and understanding. This is significant to us since this is a stepping stone for us to know ourselves more before validating other’s perceptions towards us. We should be able to describe ourselves in physical aspects, our personality traits and even with the social group we are in. On the other hand, self-awareness is the ability of someone to know himself/herself deeply. This is very vital to every people now since this is one of the topmost factors for our self-development. We should attempt to be non-judgmental and unbiased in assessing ourselves since we are entitled to our own decisions in life. Moreover, we should also consider the ideas or feelings of other people towards us— if how they see us as a person, their perceptions to us.

These concepts today made me realize that no matter what we do in life, whatever decisions we make and whoever we are mingling with, it is only YOU who can make an impact for your own betterment. We must know who we are as a person since we are authorized to our own actions. We should assess whether the things we’ve done is for our self-growth and as well with others or we are just adding burden to the progress we aspire for our own self. I will use these things today in braving my own wilderness. It takes deep understanding and courage to stregthen your own wilderness.

You can also do it!

@krishavanessa

#PersonalDevelopment #12STEM13 #BravingTheWilderness #SelfConcept #SelfAwareness

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For the kuroko personality thing, I can't remember how to spell it avabbdnf Hear me out Akashi and to give you something you actually want to talk about Aomine and Kise

Rachel honey sweetheart the actual love of my life do you know I would die for you

Akashi:

He  vibes like an xNTJ to me, probably more of an INTJ. They can be kind of  self-important, self-reliant and highly individualistic; they’re just a  Tad Bit less annoying than their feeler counterpart, but if you know  someone who’s a Ni dom or has high Ni (INFJ, ENFJ, INTJ or ENTJ) it is  Likely that they will one day get on your nerves. They’re annoyingly  perceptive, and talking to them feels like they have a window right into  the most hidden, deepest, darkest pit of your soul. They instinctively  Know things about you without you noticing that they even paid attention  - it is freaky. ^ That up there is the combination of dom Ni and aux  Te. Ni in a way is a “psychic” sort of function (see as: Akashi’s  ability to “see into the future”) and Te is the function to take in the  surrounding work and make a systematic framework out of it in your mind.  With INTJs, there’s always a degree of smugness about this skill of  theirs, which I feel a lot of in Akashi’s constant feeling of  superiority. For his enneagram, I wanna saaayy.... type 3? They’re the type to be most concerned with “image”, I don’t really know how else to explain but the song ‘Dollhouse’ by M*lanie M*rtinez really covers it (”We’ll be a perfect family” “Don’t let them see what goes down in the kitchen” “Everyone thinks that we’re perfect // Please don’t let them look through the curtains”), the need to appear to be one thing even though it’s hurting them.

Aomine:

Iiiii’m going to break it up into two parts because someone else also asked for Aomine just now, and I’ll only talk about his Enneagram: type 9 (with a possible 8 wing). The thing about Nines is that they’re that one particular gut types (meaning that their core emotion is anger) who inherently deny their anger, and bottle up everything until, well - until it explodes (see as: Aomine lashing out on people, my most prominent example being Momoi, when inconvenienced). I’m gonna shamelessly advertise here and rec you my friend @theshinsun‘s fic Ain’t No Rest because first, it’s *chefs kiss* and because certain scenes and the insight into Aomine’s character really solidified my belief that he is a type 9. They’re inherently kind, sweet and nurturing, but as it often is with gut type, they have a certain way of feeling the love they continually express to others, and that way is possessive and vicious. (This is really fuckin well portrayed in the fic above.) Nines in growth are more prone to self-actualization and actually appear more balanced and in tune with their emotions (type 3 being their integration point) but they become jittery and anxious under prolonged periods of stress (type 6 being their disintegration point).

Kise:

Kise is really as textbook an ESFP as it gets; he has the temperament, the overexcited puppy put on speed and sunshine amped up to 200%. ESFPs are highly social, they need to be surrounded people at all times to feel comfortable, and they’re naturally good at being the life of the party and making connections. Dom Se is a very straightforward perceiving function, extroverted sensing makes people more hands-on and physically aware, they’re always seeking out new sensations (my Se dom buddy is the biggest partygoer I know) (also, Kise and his “Please light a fire in me” much?), and aux Fi processes emotions internally, as well as acts as a moral/emotional backbone. As a result, ESFP can often appear as honest and genuine, but since Fi is an introverted function, they give the feel of “I might confide in you but you must not perceive me”, internalizing a hell of a lot of emotions, especially negative ones they feel like they mustn’t burden others with. As for enneagram, I really wanna say 3w4, especially after this bit I read about them that expresses how they’re afraid of failure (Kise breaking down multiple times after losing) and how their basic desire is to “succeed and feel valued”.

[hsmagazine254]

The Essence Of (The Holy Month Of) Ramadan (Part 3) - Positive Reflection Of The Week

Physical Essence Of Ramadan Ramadan’s physical aspect includes fasting from dawn to dusk and abstaining from food, drink, and other physical pleasures. This period of self-discipline and self-control is intended to cleanse the body and soul, allowing for a more profound connection with one’s spirituality. It is a time to reflect on one’s actions and intentions, to cultivate patience and…

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how do we feel about bellamy abandoning a suicidal octavia in a toxic forest in the name of monty, 'monty gave his life for us so we could have another change, and im not going to let you destroy it' who repeatedly made it clear in his final season that he wished he did more to save jasper

…we don’t feel great about it. Lol.

Got a little carried away. Apparently I had a stronger opinion on this on this than I thought I did.

There’s an LT;DR at the bottom if you don’t feel like reading the whole thing :)

The Blake relationship is a really complicated one. And I think how you see this event in particular depends on how you interpret this dynamic during the rest of the show, and how sympathetic you are towards Octavia as a character.

I want to start with this: the second chance was Monty’s to give, and only Monty’s. Bellamy doesn’t get to dictate who that message does and does not apply to, because Monty made it perfectly clear he holds no grudges, and wants the best for what’s left of the human race regardless of who they’ve been in the past or what they’ve done. That’s the whole point of ‘doing better’. He just wants everyone to do better than they did, whichever way that is. Monty didn’t specifically say ‘oh but not Octavia she can choke’ so therefore Bellamy had no right to be cowering behind Monty’s words.

He’s telling them to try a bit harder to be more understanding, compassionate, and rational. He wants them to choose to be farmers rather than warriors- to rebuild rather than destroy, to grow rather than deforest, to choose peace over war no matter what. It means a lot more than just ‘hey! maybe don’t go on another genocidal rampage?’

And by abandoning/banishing Octavia, Bellamy did the opposite of what Monty wanted. It almost felt, as i was watching, like he’d sentenced her to death. Like Clarke was banishing Murphy all over again. Or like he was Clarke abandoning him to die in the fighting pits. And I don’t know…repeating old mistakes doesn’t exactly scream ‘doing better’ to me.

Maybe this was Bellamy’s way of ridding the toxicity from the group?

But deciding she’s a lost cause and leaving her there, a clearly mentally unstable woman (and not only just some ‘woman’, but the baby sister he’s shared his life with), on an alien planet that none of them even know is safe at this point, or if it’s inhabited with hostile entities, from some moral high horse/manpainTM point of view is so low. It’s unearned at this point in the series.

Our attention was drawn to how hard it was for him. How upset he was after he did it. Rather than to Octavia and how she felt about it. It brought me back to that moment in season five, to how the camera focused in on Clarke’s pained teary-eyed expression while the child she was electrocuting was a blurry spot the background. Just what the fuck? Is all i have to say about that. He was very much Clarke in this moment; pulling a lever, leaving someone he loves on the outside *for the people* and feeling a bit ashamed but justified about it regardless.

She was trying to do the S1 Bellamy thing and stowaway to an alien planet to protect the one she loved. But the emotional fallout of season five was immense and both of them were way too amped up for any of it to go as planned. Which makes me wonder why the writers even attempted it in the first place?

But let’s just take a minute to think about how reckless and borderline insane this whole decision is from Bellamy- this is the girl who started out an illegal child, unwanted by the people she was born into, who assimilated with the indigenous people, earned their respect, found belonging with them until ultimately she became their leader. Like, if you really thought she was this much of a hazard, throwing her adaptive ass into the wilderness ready to meet another set of warrior people maybe isn’t the best idea you’ve ever had?

HOWEVER

I’m not actually opposed to a detail like this. Because of the unhealthy and sometimes poisonous nature of the Blake sibling relationship. And because they both absolutely needed time apart if Octavia were ever to grow out of Blodreina.

No matter what Monty never gave up on Jasper. But Jasper was usually self-destructive and didn’t act out emotionally using violence like how Octavia does so naturally. He could be a pain in Monty’s ass from time-to-time, but Jasper was never a threat to anyone but himself.

Bellamy cast Octavia out because she killed those guards unnecessarily. She hadn’t yet reflected on what became of her, nor had she processed any of the trauma from the bunker and following battle for Eden, in which some of the heaviest casualties were her most important relationships, with Indra, and with Bellamy. As convinient as it was to utilise violence as a tool for maintaining power, law, and order within the bunker…they aren’t in the bunker anymore, and she is no longer someone with a crushing responsibility.

Was any of that Bellamy’s fault? No.

Was it Bellamy’s job to ‘fix’ her? No.

(Do I think Monty would encourage him to mend their relationship anyway after losing his best friend and brother? Yes.)

But as her big brother and psudo-father, someone that spent his entire life protecting and taking care of her, the bare minimum i’d expect from him in a situation like this is for him to show some empathy, listen to the whole story from her point of view rather than basing his entire livelyhood on the biased accounts of a couple of Wonkru defectors, and make an attempt to understand why she is no longer the baby sister he remembers her being. If anyone was in the position to understand her- her behaviour, her mindset, the weight of leadership and how it shapes a person, and the pressure of making potentially morally corrupt decisions to ensure the people’s safety putting your humanity on the line for it- it’s him.

This was just cheap drama in place of where they could’ve written a meaningful conflict between them.

It was an oppurtunity to address Octavia’s past treatment of him, their co-dependence, their mother, Bellamy deeply believing his life was stolen from him and Octavia feeling she never had a chance to begin with, Bellamy’s inclination to make himself smaller so Octavia can take up as much space as she possibly can, both of their perverse insecurities that manifest in equally debilitating ways, Bellamy’s skewed sense of self pushing him to orbit around her, Octavia’s identity issues and lack of socialisation and resulting narrow black-or-white mindset, I could go on and on. There’s so so much content here to explore. There’s so much stress and pain in this relationship. It’s a shame that despite all that they decided to go omg cannibalism!!!!!!!!

Octavia took forever to forgive Bellamy for what happened to Lincoln, she demonised him, she attacked him over it in one of the most grotesque and unhinged displays of violence i’ve ever seen, and that wasn’t even his fault. I think we can afford Bellamy the same amount of room.

If this ‘banishment’ was the long-time-coming storm of past trauma of their intertwined existences that has long since been buried, if the time of physical peace spent on the ring building a family of his own pushed Bellamy to make a realisation or two about love and family, and the stressful draining qualities of his relationship with Octavia began to morph into resentment of her, and all this abandonment is, is just a beautifully crafted, carefully maintained facade collapsing between them, I WOULD LOVE IT. It’s understandable. But I need to see them have it out with each other first. If nothing is addressed, if they still go on carrying those things around and never find closure, not only is that hindering Octavia’s growth, but Bellamy’s, too.

But none of that happened in season six. Instead i got to see yet another female with her autonomy ripped from her and i got to see manpain.

Over time she supressed any parts of herself that would make her appear weak. It was always going to take time to pull herself out of that dark place and find a way to shape an identity that isn’t based in something that can easily be ripped away from her. So removing her from the group to find ‘the self’ is a good choice. But it had to be her choice.

I think if everything had blown up and Octavia had chosen to leave on her own volition because she recognises her own tragedy and calamity and wants to do what’s right, it would’ve been the perfect place to begin a redemption/reflection arc for her. With self-awareness. What do they say? The first step to fixing a problem is admitting you have one in the first place?

In an answer to another ask I said it would make some sense for Bellamy (and Clarke & Spacekru) to be unintentionally hypocritcal and judgemental considering the time distance between their last violent experience and how long they’ve had to make peace with the past. While Octavia was in the most stressful position she’s ever been in, and right in the thick of things for the six years that everyone else spent healing and maturing in.

So we have Bellamy as his most reassurred, most contented self- and he comes to Earth, he comes face-to-face with an unhinged Octavia, and is overwhelmed immediately with biased and incomplete information recapping the last six years during an erratic situation with enemies. I’d be confused and paranoid, too tf?

Bellamy loves Octavia more than life. But she’s morphed into a woman he no longer recognises and it could even come as a personal betrayal to him. He’s been disconnected from her for six years. He’s no longer intoxicated by his love and devotion to her. And he’s having a hard time accepting that the baby sister he thinks the world of is capable of such cruelty. So he’s having trouble forgiving her for it. I think it makes a lot of sense. Except, again, they never addressed anything like this.

Season five Bellamy I get. I’m sympathetic to him just as I am Octavia.

But in season six he appeared, not like he was acting on years of supressed emotional turmoil, but like he was on some moral high horse looking down on her from it.

The end of season five left things open, and there was a lot of potential there for things between them to improve, but season six took it and threw it out the nearest window. And we saw Octavia crawling on her hands and knees begging for forgiveness from a man that 1) doesn’t want her, 2) doesn’t respect her, 3) refused to listen to her, and 4) only accepted her once she was the woman he wanted her to be, who was now no longer traumatised.

TL;DR: I’m not opposed to the whole idea of them seperating in season six, with Octavia being the castaway, but it should’ve been Octavia’s choice, not Bellamy’s. And I think Monty might be disappointed that this was what (season six) Bellamy took away from his video on ‘doing better’. To ‘do better’ he decided to choose just one person that can represent all the evil that exists within both his people and himself and throw her out the dropship door. Problem solved! But there are many ways in which I think the writers could’ve done a lot more with this idea, and a lot better, too.

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Sloppy Firsts Book Review

By Megan McCafferty

2/5 stars

**spoiler-free but read at your own risk**

In this first book to a long early-2000s teen drama series, Jessica Darling is dealing with her best friend, Hope, moving away and having to deal with the annoying every-days of high school life. That includes friends to be fake towards so you aren’t lonely, new girl to pretend not to like, weird drug dealer run-ins, annoying family members, and boy trouble. In diary format, with some email entries to Hope, Jessica details her drama-filled days as a angsty sophomore in high school.

There were... Many things that I didn’t like in this book. Normally, I don’t start out with what I disliked because I have more good things to say than. bad but I can’t do that for this one. My biggest pet peeve, which I’ve noticed I dislike a lot in writing recently, was that Jessica was so oblivious to her own downfall and problems. She claimed to be self-aware, and in some situations she was, but then continued to whine and complain about why she hated everything so much. Every problem was amplified so much when there could have been simple solutions. Simple solutions to simple problems, am I right? I’m sure it was to feel the angsty teen lifestyle, but instead it came out as so naïve and white-suburban-teen problems that I was angry at Jessica rather than siding with her. I want to side with the main character. Feel as the main character does. And I couldn’t connect with her.

What I enjoyed the most, and what kept me going, was the amazing pacing of the plot. Despite disliking many things, I still gave it two stars because I couldn’t stop wondering what was going to happen next. About half-way through I told myself that I probably wouldn’t continue the series––even though I was rereading to read the second book that has been on my shelf for nearly two years––but by the time we got to the cliffhanger at the end, I told myself I had figure out how everything was going to end up. The drama in this book is always large and Megan McCafferty does a great job of amping up the stakes. Hopefully, in the second book and on, we’ll see positive character growth rather than fluctuating character growth that leads to overall maturity of the book.

Lastly, what I feel is very important to touch on, is the heavy use of y2k slang. It’s like the author found a thesaurus for any normal word and replaced every word she could. With this, comes offensive language like the f-slur (among other slights that I forgot to write down) that was just trashy and unnecessary but, sadly, I think was probably excused due to the publishing date of the book and setting of the plot. There really is no excuse or explanation for this, and although only used once, is still there and harmful.

With all that being said, I do believe lovers of teen dramas would enjoy this novel. And by drama I mean exaggeration and dramatics. That can also be in film because I think this would come off a lot better as a movie since it isn’t one character telling rather than showing the drama.

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Episode 126: The Good Lars

“Maybe I should be trying to fix my life.”

The Good Lars is a massive bummer, and it makes me so, so happy.

Lars has always been a character with a ton of potential that, in my mind, is muted by his inability to learn. Pretty much all of his focus episodes have been about him taking a big step towards his character growing, but then resetting to his typical jerky self in his next episode instead of actually continuing that growth. On a rational level I can appreciate the realism in a stubborn character’s inflexibility, but even if it’s by design, it’s super frustrating to watch. The Good Lars shows that he still has a long way to go, and pointedly lacks the Lars Learns conclusion that Lars episodes like to bait us with, but this is where it finally feels like his story is going somewhere.

The New Lars was apparently the first step that stuck: seeing everyone, including his parents, prefer Steven-as-Lars to Lars-as-himself must’ve been a wake-up call. I love his final speech in that episode about hating how weird Beach City is, as it casts a surprising new light on his surly attitude, but after so many false starts we need some follow-through to make that speech fully land, and The Good Lars fits the bill.

Right off the bat, we see Lars take a genuine risk and put his food out there for Steven to try. We’ve known since all the way back in Lars and the Cool Kids that Lars’s apathy is a practiced act, and it’s hindered him again and again and again in every relationship he has. And we’ve known since Island Adventure that he’s a skilled cook, so it’s not a stretch that his abilities extend to baking. That he’d hide just how much he likes making food is totally in line with what we know about him, so it’s gigantic that he opens up about it here.

Steven is a terrific test subject for Lars’s food, as beyond his general kindness and enthusiasm, we’ve already seen him praise Lars’s food before in Island Adventure. The problem is that Lars is aware of this, which allows his self-destructive nature to undermine his sense of accomplishment in seeing someone love his baking. There’s not much critical value in praise from someone who only ever provides praise, and when presented with an opportunity to take an even bigger risk by letting the Cool Kids try his food, Lars flounders.

He may be growing, but he’s still cagey and irate. He takes a big step, but he’s too afraid to leap. But because he might move forward at last, because he might change his status quo on a show where the status quo is more than capable of changing, Steven and Sadie and the audience are given room to hope. Just enough room to hurt us when he can’t go through with it.

That fragile sense of hope radiating throughout The Good Lars is amplified by its status as the calmest episode in the show’s third act. It’s just so quiet compared to its surroundings, with no major confrontations by virtue of Lars’s pivotal moment of cowardice occurring off-screen. Our happy scenes are tinged with melancholy, and our sad scenes have glimpses of joy, and it’s the perfect tone to set for our last moment of peace before Steven’s life falls apart again.

All of my issues with Lars over the past 120-odd episodes are given new meaning as we see him waver back and forth in The Good Lars. Yes, it’s annoying that he refuses to retain lessons he learns throughout the series, but we see here that his dismal self-confidence doesn’t allow him to trust that he’d be accepted for who he is, so of course he falls back on prickliness over and over again.

To be fair, it’s hard to tell where he stands with Buck, who seems to enjoy messing with Lars but who also seems to genuinely appreciate Lars, but who also might only genuinely appreciate Lars out of irony because that’s totally a thing Buck would do, but who also might love irony so much that his ironic appreciation of Lars might wrap back around to genuine appreciation. It’s awesome that we see Buck in his Shirt Club tee showing off the guitar skills he picked up from taking lessons with Greg; referencing an episode that explored the downside of Buck’s allergy to sincerity paints Lars’s own attempts to hide how he feels in a damning light. Even we the audience can’t be sure if Buck thinks Bingo Bongo is “transcendent” because he likes it or he thinks it’s dumb and that it’s funny to say that it’s great. I'm pretty sure it’s the former, but from the episode alone there’s just no way to be sure.

So it makes sense that Buck, whose mastery of the detached facade is undeniable, is an aspirational figure for Lars, who’s uncannily bad at playing it cool. As much as I’ve praised the Cool Kids for being far more delightful than the Cool Kid trope often allows, they’re not without their flaws: it’s a little stinging that they still use terms like “Donut Kids” and “Donut Girl” instead of real names with their ostensible peers (but then again, they’re often referred to as “The Cool Kids”). Nobody, not even Lars, is fully to blame for Lars’s insecurity, but Buck’s affected demeanor sets a poor example for a kid who puts him on a pedestal.

Lars’s wavering consumes the first half of the episode, and throughout the baking montage we get shots like the above, where Steven and Sadie are capable of relaxing but Lars is obsessed with getting things right. It’s refreshing to see him so passionate, but this obsession is just another manifestation of his insecurity, his need to be perfect so that he’ll fit in. There’s a subtle cultural element to his ordeal, as ube is a traditional Philippine dessert that Lars writes off as “my family’s weird purple cake”—while I somehow doubt the Cool Kids are racist against Filipinos, it tracks that a kid who’s desperate to fit in would fear anything that sets him apart.

Still, it’s a pleasant sequence where Lars lets his guard down, first in the joy of baking and then as he opens up to Steven. His opinion that baking is lame is perhaps the most adolescent aspect of this very teenagey episode, because it’s an absurd notion which he believes so strongly that he can’t seem to fathom that it’s about the coolest skill you can bring to a group whose idea of a good time is a potluck. Lars thinks he’s lame, and he loves baking, thus he thinks baking is lame. His lack of self-worth even extends to people who like him, as he casually asserts that nobody knows he likes to bake when Sadie and Steven are right there; it’s a rotten thing to say, sure, but it comes from a severe confidence shortage.

Lars’s attitude is simple to understand early the series: he’s insecure, so he acts like a jerk to hide his soft interior. But The New Lars and now The Good Lars thrive by diving deeper and showing just how bad his self-esteem issues really are. This isn’t run-of-the-mill teen angst, it’s the kind of depression he describes in Island Adventure, and when we understand how much he’s suffering he suddenly fits right in with Pearl and Lapis Lazuli at their worst. This is what we needed of him for his big moment in space to hit home, so thank goodness we get it right on time.

Steven’s pep talk seems to do the trick, and we move into our third act with that bubble of hope just waiting to be popped. It becomes clear pretty quickly that something’s gonna go wrong when Steven excitedly amps up the ube, and seeing Sadie alone hammers the hard truth home, but before we make it official there’s a lovely moment of Sadie, who’s no stranger to awkwardness herself, quickly winning over the Cool Kids. I’ll never get tired of how great these kids are, and even Sadie will talk about it soon enough.

The search scene is a fascinating montage, showing Steven failing over and over but accompanied by a jaunty score that keeps our hopes alive despite what’s now an obvious conclusion. Steven’s leap into the air is the first big moment of the episode that involves weird Gem stuff, and its sudden appearance highlights how down-to-earth our little adventure has been; in the same way, his instinct to use mind powers is soon trumped by the human pragmatism of just calling Lars. It sets the stage for an all-too-human resolution to Lars’s story, as Steven’s phone call ends with him finding the ube in the trash right outside Buck’s house, right as he’s imagining aloud a reality where Lars lets himself be happy.

Which leads to our story’s greatest trick, the aspect that cements it as one of my favorites: despite the name and the deep focus and the new insights we gain from that focus, The Good Lars was never a Lars Episode. It’s a Sadie Episode, and it’s a beautiful one.

Sadie, like Lars, is afraid to branch out. But unlike Lars, she’s brave enough to try anyway, and shares her hidden love of singing with the Cool Kids. She’s so invested in helping others that she forgets that she’s allowed to help herself, and if that sounds familiar it’s because it’s Steven’s entire character arc. When the mood dips to its lowest point with the ube in the garbage, we could’ve had an ending that matches the sadness of a hurting kid failing even when his friends believe in him. But instead, we get a scene of quiet grace as Sadie shares her voice and is praised in the way Lars strove for. She hears that he’s not coming, and takes a deep breath, and lets it be. She can’t control his night, but she can control hers, and she chooses her own happiness instead of letting his issues ruin her evening.

She and Steven have both accepted Lars for who he is, and while both want him to move past the barriers he’s set up, the lessons of Sadie’s Song return with a vengeance in a way that makes me wish so badly that I liked Sadie’s Song. Steven has traces of his worst self from that story by wondering if they should’ve pushed Lars even harder, but as Sadie starts to agree with him, she realizes that no, they shouldn’t, because it’s not up to them to make Lars happy. They can try, and they should, but friends aren’t failures if their friends can’t take steps for themselves. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but it’s one last reminder that Steven shouldn’t put the world on his shoulders before Steven goes and puts the world on his shoulders.

I call this a Sadie Episode because she’s the one that grows in it. Lars is in his rut of inaction, just as Steven is in his rut of misplaced responsibility, but Sadie gains the confidence boost of new friends and a new perspective into her relationship with a guy who came this close to admitting that he loved her to Steven. Lars is about to fail her through his cowardice in the same way Steven is about to fail Connie through his hubris, and like Connie, Sadie will use the opportunity to stand up for herself. And let’s not forget that this is the episode where Sadie Killer meets the Suspects.

The cliffhanger from Doug Out goes unacknowledged until the very end of The Good Lars, especially because Sour Cream seems unfazed by Onion’s disappearance for now; perhaps some viewers watched the episode waiting for the other shoe to drop, and I imagine such a lens colored the whole story in a way it didn’t for me. I wasn’t surprised by the reappearance of the two Gem silhouettes, but it remains a spine-chilling way to end such a human-centric tale. And even this provides us with hope, allowing us to imagine that Lars didn’t bail after all and was simply kidnapped by aliens. Stuck Together soon snatches that hope away, which is par for the course for Lars’s arc, but it’s a powerful episode that can make a character’s kidnapping seem like a good thing.

I understand the irony of me saying that an episode about Lars going nowhere is the episode that finally sees Lars going somewhere, but as Mindful Education (and therapy in general) suggests, acknowledging the problem is the first step towards solving it. Lars is about to become a major player, and Sadie is about to earn a new arc of her own, and I can’t think of a better way to set up both of these threads than The Good Lars.

Future Vision!

Beyond the reveal that he trashed the ube before his capture, Stuck Together generally acts as a direct sequel to The Good Lars.

“Bingo Bongo” was magical from the start, evoking Root Beer Guy’s equally magical “Bingo Bango” from Adventure Time. But seeing Lars own it as a badass space pirate is great shorthand for how much he’s grown.

Steven’s pep talk to Lars about going to the party is echoed in his pep talk to Lapis about returning to Earth in Can’t Go Back. Not only because both speeches are good advice, but because unfortunately neither succeeds to make the listener move past their anxiety by the episode’s end.

A story about Steven trying to help someone hellbent on sabotaging themselves and hurting others? That sounds like a good idea for a movie!

We’re the one, we’re the ONE! TWO! THREE! FOUR!

As always, I’m a sucker for tone, and The Good Lars gets that feeling of teenage dreams grappling with the nightmare of depression just right, both for the victim and for friends of the victim (some of us got to be both!). It’s not overwrought, and we’re still allowed some joy, but it sucks to be so stuck in your head that you can’t move, and this episode captures that sensation way more succinctly than, say, Hamlet. Am I saying it’s better than Hamlet? Not really. But I heard somewhere that brevity is the soul of wit, and it’s certainly briefer.

Top Twenty-Five

Steven and the Stevens

Hit the Diamond

Mirror Gem

Lion 3: Straight to Video

Alone Together

Last One Out of Beach City

The Return

Jailbreak

The Answer

Mindful Education

Sworn to the Sword

Rose’s Scabbard

Earthlings

Mr. Greg

Coach Steven

Giant Woman

Beach City Drift

Winter Forecast

Bismuth

Steven’s Dream

When It Rains

The Good Lars

Catch and Release

Chille Tid

Lion 4: Alternate Ending

Love ‘em

Laser Light Cannon

Bubble Buddies

Tiger Millionaire

Lion 2: The Movie

Rose’s Room

An Indirect Kiss

Ocean Gem

Space Race

Garnet’s Universe

Warp Tour

The Test

Future Vision

On the Run

Maximum Capacity

Marble Madness

Political Power

Full Disclosure

Joy Ride

Keeping It Together

We Need to Talk

Cry for Help

Keystone Motel

Back to the Barn

Steven’s Birthday

It Could’ve Been Great

Message Received

Log Date 7 15 2

Same Old World

The New Lars

Monster Reunion

Alone at Sea

Crack the Whip

Beta

Back to the Moon

Kindergarten Kid

Buddy’s Book

Gem Harvest

Three Gems and a Baby

That Will Be All

The New Crystal Gems

Storm in the Room

Room for Ruby

Doug Out

Like ‘em

Gem Glow

Frybo

Arcade Mania

So Many Birthdays

Lars and the Cool Kids

Onion Trade

Steven the Sword Fighter

Beach Party

Monster Buddies

Keep Beach City Weird

Watermelon Steven

The Message

Open Book

Story for Steven

Shirt Club

Love Letters

Reformed

Rising Tides, Crashing Tides

Onion Friend

Historical Friction

Friend Ship

Nightmare Hospital

Too Far

Barn Mates

Steven Floats

Drop Beat Dad

Too Short to Ride

Restaurant Wars

Kiki’s Pizza Delivery Service

Greg the Babysitter

Gem Hunt

Steven vs. Amethyst

Bubbled

Adventures in Light Distortion

Gem Heist

The Zoo

Rocknaldo

Enh

Cheeseburger Backpack

Together Breakfast

Cat Fingers

Serious Steven

Steven’s Lion

Joking Victim

Secret Team

Say Uncle

Super Watermelon Island

Gem Drill

Know Your Fusion

Future Boy Zoltron

Tiger Philanthropist

No Thanks!

     6. Horror Club      5. Fusion Cuisine      4. House Guest      3. Onion Gang      2. Sadie’s Song      1. Island Adventure

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NSFW Alphabet - Infelix

These are all personal opinions of mine. Of course, others might see it differently, but I hope you all enjoy the read no matter what!

(Re-post! The original got removed because I had an actual sex gif in here, so now there’s just a link!) @foxgivenblank originally collaborated with me on this and was the biggest help in getting this together! <3 

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

Infelix is incredibly responsible for his partner. He instills amazing aftercare, ensuring they’re cleaned up, hydrated, and calmed. He doesn’t necessarily cuddle or get sickly sweet; He leaves it with some kisses once he’s sure they are not lost down the rabbit hole of subspace.

B = Body part (Their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

He’s not vain in any sense, so he prefers a practical part of his body; hands. Infelix is extremely crafty and loves to work with his hands, as well as enjoys the things his hands can do to his lover.

His favorite body part of his partner correlates perfectly with his love for his hands. He’ll never get over just how utterly well his capable fingers fit around your throat, how he can feel your life force under his palm- how human you are compared to him. The blank canvas of skin is the absolutely perfect place for him to mark you with love bites, as well as place the collar that leaves no question in mind; you belong to him.

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person)

Since you are his, he claims you in the most intimate way possible. He wants you filled with his cum, where it can’t be wiped away or cleaned off.

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self-explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

Infelix is nearly obsessed with giving oral to his partner. He gets the deepest satisfaction from controlling your pleasure and being the one to make you squirm and scream. It also gives you the perfect leverage to pull his hair, which only serves to drive him more insane.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

He is the oldest of all the egos, by both invading his host first and also being the oldest demon. He’s been around for centuries. He’s had many, many experiences under his belt to hone his craft. He is skilled and proud of it.

F = Favourite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual)

InfelixFavoritePositionGif

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

Infelix is an intense lover. He might tease, but it's done in such a way that it just adds to the controlling airs about him, with a low rumbling growl right in your ear.

H = Hair (How well-groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

When Infelix inhabited Felix’s form, it naturally stressed out his body, and in reaction, the hair on his head turned a white blonde. The roots stay a natural light brown, as does all the rest of his hair. He is just as in control of his appearance as every other aspect of his life, and thus keeps his beard and pubic hair trimmed.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

Infelix is dedicated and passionate. You’re made acutely aware of his emotions for you and the depth of his feelings during sex by just how ardently he pleases you. He’s not emotive or extremely affectionate, but he shows his care in other ways.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

He refuses to jack off since he has you, and will always use his partner to obtain his pleasure.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Domination/Submission, quite obviously, is his biggest. He needs absolute control of his lover, even if that means coercing it out of them.

Marking up his lover is another big kink for him, especially placing love bites on their throat and leaving behind abrasions from his beard on the most sensitive places.

Choking and breath play. He’s very careful and controlled when your life is in his hands, with all his years of practice, and he knows just how to push you to the edge without going too far.

He has a collar for his lover as well. It causes emotions similar to pride to bubble up when he sees his claim laid so boldly on your throat.

To him, you are his pet, just as he is your master to you. “Sir” or “master” is met in return with ‘good pet’. He’s also been known to dabble in positive degradation; terms such as good slut are common when he’s keeping you on the edge or when he’s acknowledging how well you take him.

With his incredible stamina, he’s able to go many rounds in a row, which leads to much more cum than normal. Over time, he’s developed a liking to seeing how much cum his lover can hold, stuffing them full until it’s dripping from their holes as another claim.

He has an obsession with oral sex, controlling your pleasure, and even edging you so you’re begging for him to finally end it. Having you shaking at his mercy flames his fires something fierce.

Toys are an occasional treat for you both. He’s got handcuffs, a remote-controlled vibrator, and even a crop for when he wants to treat or punish you.

L = Location (Favourite places to do the do)

He’s quite open to most places, as long as there’s a semi-comfortable place whether it be a bed or table, but you should always be aware. He’s fond of catching you off guard in places you wouldn’t expect, both to give the element of surprise and as a reminder of just how much hold he has over you whenever he wishes.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

Infelix just loves when you call him sir or master, and being good for him and proving your submission sets him off in the best ways. Just showing off your recent bite marks or collar has him ready to claim you again. There are also times he enjoys battling you into submission; when you’re being flippant or just not thinking of the repercussions of your actions, he’s more than happy to remind you just why he is your master.

When already in the middle of sex, pulling his hair and biting or scratching him are sure ways to amp up his intensity. Sure, he would never allow you to use as much force as he does, but the light sting is as alluring to him as the pain of his bite is to you.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn-offs)

Slow sex, or lovemaking. He reserves the only bit of sweetness for important moments such as aftercare, and even then it’s doled out only as needed.

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

Infelix has the tongue of a devil. He’s incredibly skilled in giving oral and absolutely loves it. He loves getting it as well because then he can use you, choke you with his cock, and feed you his cum.

P = Pace (Are they fast and rough? Slow and sensual? Etc.)

He is always fast and rough. Slow and sensual makes simply turns him off. He’d rather show his passion through fucking your brains into mush.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

He prefers proper sex, but quickies are fun for him because he uses them to tease you. Get you all riled up, fuck you so hard it hurts, and leave you with his cum leaking out as soon as he finishes; the only explanation you get, if he gives one, is that he wants you aching for him, needing him.

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

Risk is the name of Infelix’s game. He doesn’t necessarily experiment because he’s fully in control of everything he does, but there’s always the slight risk that something could go wrong.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

Infelix pretty much has endless stamina. He can go for as many rounds as he would like. He can fill your mouth first, then turn right around and fill your other holes in the same session. This ends in cum stuffing to an extreme when he’s in the mood.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

He owns quite a few toys to use on his partner, including a crop and handcuffs when the occasion calls for them. He’s also keen to tease you with a remote-controlled vibrator, often sneaking it off and on when you’re in public together and enjoying the reactions that you can’t control.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Infelix is an incredible tease. From edging you and keeping you just on the brink of orgasm, to fucking you only for his pleasure, he’s always got the upper hand.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

He’s not shy to let you know just how good you make him feel. Your noises and screams turn him on, and he knows he does the same to you. His growls, grunts, moans, and groans go unchecked and unfiltered.

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

Although he is completely possessive of you, he’s thrilled with the idea of sharing you on his terms; Quite possibly with Anti since he’s no doubt willing to bend to Infelix’s demands. He directs everything from right beside you, how to touch you, how long to fuck you, but the ultimate rule remains no matter what: they may not cum in or on you, and you may not cum from them. You’re to save that for when Infelix takes over. No one is allowed that pleasure other than himself.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

Whether it’s from his demonic energy or just natural growth, Infelix is on the large side of the spectrum. Topping about eight inches when fully excited and thicker around than average, he fills his lover almost more than they can handle. He curves up just enough to hit every sweet spot you could beg for.

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

He has an incredibly high sex drive, but it doesn’t control him. He can ignore it even when he has the urge.

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterward)

Infelix doesn’t need sleep. He will, however, stay on the bed with you, with some space, until you fall asleep. He knows his presence is comforting, as he exudes protection and safety.

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BAME Resources

Kerissa Nelson is a certified Mental Health Counselor with the National Board of Mental Health Counselors in the USA, Online Educator in Jamaica and a PhD candidate in the UK exploring the research topic: UNDERSTANDING THE PSYCHO-EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES OF SECONDARY SCHOOL STUDENTS WITH DYSLEXIA FROM STUDENT AND TEACHER PERSPECTIVES.

So being from the Caribbean I never heard the term BAME (Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic), the first time I was introduced to the term I was sitting in a presentation by fellow PhD candidate Suparna Bagchi whose research is entitled 'Enacting and Experiencing Multiculturalism in Primary Schools in Plymouth'. I was very intrigued but never thought about it too much, however, now in the media I see the term used repeatedly and realized this term has meaning. I had an interesting conversation a few days ago with Louisa Joseph founder of BAME to Boardroom, as an inclusive leadership coach/trainer/mentor she helped to broaden my understanding of the term. Below are a few BAME opportunities:

Future pilots this one is for you. Fantasy Wings will be funding the cost of training and Private Pilots Licenses for 3 BAME (Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic) Young People on their 20/21 programme which commences this October. 50 additional BAME students of their 20/21 programme will receive a trial flying lesson fully funded by Fantasy Wings. Young people must be between the ages of 13 and 25. For more information on the programme visit https://fantasywings.co.uk/ .

Leadership training and mentoring for the BAME community for more information these and more exciting opportunities for self growth visit https://bametoboardroom.com/

House of Commons opens applications to find next generation of BAME leaders for more information visit https://www-keepthefaith-co-uk.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.keepthefaith.co.uk/2020/05/15/house-of-commons-opens-applications-to-find-next-generation-of-bame-leaders/amp/

Participate in this research Enacting and Experiencing Multiculturalism in Primary Schools in Plymouth. This study attempts to answer questions about the inclusivity of the education system for children belonging to ethnic minorities in the UK. This issue is particularly pertinent in areas of historically low diversity like Plymouth, which have more recently experienced a rise in its minority population. Her aim is to explore cultural awareness at primary schools in Plymouth with the hope that this research may contribute to the ongoing studies supporting a multicultural curriculum by looking at the different themes like diversity, inclusion and multiculturalism.  Kindly contact Suparna Bagchi for more information about this study and how you can participate via email: suparna.bagchi@plymouth.ac.uk .

Keep posted for future blogs that will share more BAME opportunities and if you’re from the Southwest area and a student with dyslexia 16 years and above or teach secondary school students with dyslexia let your voice be heard and contribute to my research, you can contact me by email @ kerissa.nelson@plymouth.ac.uk