#SHUT THE FUCK UP RADFEMS!!!!!!!

[joestarkisser]

tw// radfem, abusive language, rape mention, bio essentialism, bordering if not plainly transphobia

everyone make sure to block this weirdo (@/lagoonadelray) radfem who hate reblogged my stuff lol

Anyone whos wondering why I say radfem the reblog literally under this:

"""""male moment""""" yeah we know what this is lol. Radfems are literally on my DNI fuck off you pieces of shit

[autistic-katara]

god i hate the amount of times i’ve seen a nice trans post that just had some slightly weird vibes so i look up “trans women/men” on their blog and oh my god all of it’s infighting

[countessdankula]

r@dfems keep tawaif culture critique out of your mouth, there are many many things to criticise bhansali about in re heeramandi but do not try to use this advocate for anti-SW practices

courtesan culture in the subcontinent has been linked to etiquette, high culture, and arts for centuries. do not speak about what you don't know.

[atopvisenyashill]

Are there are asoiaf takes you find so rancid or annoying that you’ll block on the spot?

okay so first of all - i use the block button so loosely on here bc there’s no mute function and blacklisting a url would just bog my blacklist down. once again. pls staff a mute button for when it’s not that serious. but i will block someone, then feel bad because i notice my moots reblog them a lot and i'm like "oh they're not that annoying i was just in a bad mood" and unblock. there's only one (1) take i leave someone on permablock for. every other take i find particularly rancid or annoying is all stuff i just check before i follow rather than blocking over (which is why if u don't have searching on your blog, you'll see me liking your stuff over the span of months before following. i have issues!!! aldjf).

i specifically check for that one gifset that’s like “the direwolves predicting their starkling’s fate” that has sansa getting her head chopped off. if they have it on their blog, it's like 99% likely i'm about to permablock. it’s not only a silly prediction, it’s one made by people who are deeply projecting onto sansa. as she’s my favorite, i think that’s dumb obviously lol. BUT i check for it bc like. U All Know That Group of Arya Stans. i know you know because they’ve commented on at least two of your posts with the most bizarre take you’ve ever seen. i reply when they comment on my stuff (usually just once tho & the people who delete right away are valid) but i’m not out here LOOKING for them lol, i’m actively avoiding it, and That Specific Gifset is a good litmus test for whether a Crazy Stan Groupie just hate followed me or something. also, One Of That Group, as in not just a groupie, has me blocked on this blog AND my main one which i know bc i can’t reblog from half those source blogs they run aksjdj so if i notice someone’s real involved with that group, i just pre-emptivly block bc if i can’t even reblog half of what someone is posting what’s the point there ���🤧

but what do i check before following/what opinions have annoyed me enough that it's lead to me "muting" aka blacklisting a url? well-

curtain of light and it’s offshoots which include “targ incest baby will save the world.” lol, lmao. they’re not right but if they’re right i’m deleting my blog and never talking about the series again and i’m so serious. i have my dignity!!

people who go on frequently about rhaenyra being entitled, evil, not worthy, "oh well the LEGALITY," or hyper focus on her violence (esp if they’re also an aemond stan🤧). i absolutely Do block people who say shit like “rhaenyra is unfeminist because she doesn’t want to marry laenor but wants to marry daemon.” tho. why? clearly zero critical thinking skills lol i think u can joke about her having bad taste in men without All Of That.

i avoid people who are hardcore into the belief that dany is the unambiguous hero for obvious reasons. if they think she’ll be queen of westeros, if they actively shoot down criticism of her actions in the bay & towards mmd and irri? nah, and i've muted and blocked people for this one if they're particularly nastie. i DO follow idk three or four dany stans but they're generally not out here actively beefing with people and also they tend to hate emilia’s acting too lol, like they’re not Targ Nation.

(which, related, but people who stan dany but are tg? THEE most obnoxious people in this fandom, i NEVER follow those people).

rhaelya. even my fellow “well i like it BECAUSE it’s toxic” shippers don’t get into this one. it’s like people who swallow dany rewriting drogo/dany in her head to me. no critical thinking skills.

i really am just obsessively reading people’s stark tags before following BUT anything on ned being an enabler, being too honorable to shit, “oh would he even save lyanna from robert if robert started physically abusing her." why? it just annoys me aksjdj , we spend an entire NOVEL rolling around in that man’s psyche and we shouldn’t be missing the point like this.

“dornish people aren’t non white” takes. that’s directly contradicted by the text, i don’t give a shit about any casting, there’s so clearly an ethnic and racial difference at play here with how the rest of Westeros treats Dorne. you either understand that or you’re a moron.

[zanderism]

I just want to make something absolutely ABUNDANTLY CLEAR.

My target audience does NOT INCLUDE Radical Feminists, far-right extremists, Nazis, and TERFS. And FUCK your feelings about it. There’s tons of other blogs out there for you if you subscribe to vile, hateful, exclusionary shit like that; my blog is NOT a safe space for you.

Where I come from, we make space for and take care of people who may be different than us. That means non-cishet people. That means sex workers. That means non white people. Non Christian people. If you have a problem with that then don’t bother following me or ANY of my friends or mutuals. We don’t want you here.

And if you don’t fuckin’ like it, then by all means, don’t let the door hit you where the good Lord split you, scum.

[queerasaurus-rexx]

what's absolutely wild to me is that terfs rail so hard about inclusive language being 'dehumanizing' when most of that language is like

'people who menstruate'

which is a specific subset of the population, even amongst afab people? like not every woman or girl menstruates, even discounting trans women from this discussion. some women are post-menopause. some haven't experienced puberty yet. some cannot have periods because of issues in their uterus, like cysts or cancer. some women had hysterectomies.

'people who menstruate' is very clear and precise language regarding the demographic the statement is applying to.

but terfs will see shit like that and go

'people who menstruate? dOn't yOu mEaN WoMbYn?'

and like

do they hear themselves? they call themselves feminists but then chain the fundamental signifier of womanhood to the ability to have children.

[redditreceipts]

my feminism is for men as well

it is for men to shut up

[hussyknee]

you're one of those ugly white bi women who hates lesbians kys

Ah yes, that thing I'm most known for. Being a white woman.

[raw-bean]

getting really annoyed with the preoccupation with intratrans issues as opposed to the bigger issues affecting the whole trans community irl rn. Transmisogyny and transandrophobia are real, actual issues with significant overlap, not just buzzwords to use when you’re trying to tell someone in the other binary group that they’re wrong about their own experiences

[takashi0]

I know going into tumblr tags is a mistake, but I'm just fucking flabbergasted how I've managed to find no less than three people claiming that everyone who's not liking the MAWS version of Lois is "the sexist dudebros who would have no problem with a maaaaaaaaaaaan doing the same thing"

Like the bar is so fucking low, how do you manage to be even STUPIDER than the people bitching about Lois in the first place oh my fucking GOD

[autistic-katara]

most normalest terf tagging their post

[missbaphomet]

Hey like I'm sorry bad things happened to you but these aren't all universal experiences. Girlhood is absolutely not about molestation and abuse. Girlhood isn't about anything other than growing from an infant into an adult, and I don't feel there needs to be any special significance attached. If you were hurt during that time, it's not because "that's what Girlhood is", it's because unfortunately you crossed paths with people willing to do you harm.

Many women, myself included, have never had an issue with being cat called. Even then, this isn't violence.

This is called puberty. I would go as far as saying bleeding through your pants is something every woman on the planet has experienced at least once. This is not violence— it's growing up.

Breast pain during development comes from the fact your breasts are developing. Are you really not familiar with the colloqialism "growing pains"? I promise a teenage boy who is also going through puberty and experiencing all the discomfort and pain that comes with it.is not sending brainwaves that make your boobs hurt.

Girls can and do assault boys in the hallway. A lot of my male friends have stories of being groped or touched inappropriately, as do many of my female friends. I also have friends that have been assaulted by their same sex. This is not a 'women's only' issue.

Also not a universal experience. I have never had a 'rape talk', nor has anyone I've known, even friends of mine that have actually been raped.

What does 'girlhood is invasive' even mean? Are you doing the encroaching, or are you being encroached upon? Is it the mere concept of being a child?

You are not obligated to use tampons, alternate methods exist (pads, period underwear, diva cups, etc). I'm assuming by 'fingers' you are leaning into being sexually assaulted (which again is not an inherent part of being a young girl)? People are going to make comments that make you uncomfortable or upset you, and not all of them are going to be sexual. Self advocate, enforce boundaries, and avoid people that make you uncomfortable.

This isn't part of 'girlhood', this is a symptom of trauma.

There really isn't an easy way to tackle this, because a situation like this has so many moving parts and missing context and there are a million and one different ways this could turn out with one or both parties being in the wrong. However proper sexual education and classes on things like birth control, consent, and self advocacy would solve so many of these cases.

Again, men can and have been also touched and groped inappropriately without their consent. Speculums and doctor's offices are part of being a healthy person. Your obgyn using a speculum during any number of procedures isn't for their own sick sense of pleasure, it's because it is a tool designed to make treatment easier.

This feels like demonizing medical care. I had extremely heavy cycles. It was almost guaranteed I was going to have an iron deficiency each month. I got cysts. Birth control was an option presented to me (that I originally denied, mind you) that I was allowed to choose or not choose. Ultimately birth control has been one of the best decisions I have ever made for my health. If it's not something you want, you don't have to take it. If it doesn't work for you, you don't have to keep taking it. You are not obligated to take any medicine or treatment you don't want to.

Girlhood is a period of time during which you grow up, nothing more.

Girlhood is a period of time during which you grow up, nothing more.

If trans women feel joy in expressing femininity and find happiness in feminine things, then by God I hope they find the spinniest skirt available and spin until they can't stand anymore. I hope they feel comfortable and safe as their most authentic selves.

Stop demonizing growing up. Stop pretending that being a little girl is inherently traumatic. Stop dramatizing being young. This is real life, not a season of Degrassi or Pretty Little Liars or whatever other youth drama.

[boyslugs]

tumblr stop recommending me terfs challenge! yes i am a feminist, but i am also hugely trans and believe intersectionality is the only way forward. yes i believe in deconstructing gender and gender roles but i also know how important gender is to people's sense of self, and that it's impossible to try to categorize gender more specifically than "a [gender] is defined as someone who identifies as a [gender]" without excluding someone, just like when in metaphysics my professor asked "define what a chair is" and then pulled out so many examples of "okay, by your definition a stool isnt a type of chair" and "what about bean bag chairs" or "that could be a table, which implies that all tables are chairs"

terfs and swerfs could be fighting for and with everyone against the oppressive systems we live under but they're so set in their ways that they refuse to see how the patriarchy harms men too, or how even if the porn industry has a lot of problems, many people of all genders enjoy sex work and are fulfilled by choosing it as a career path, or how a lot of the things trans people are fighting for would result in a better world for everyone- but it's easier to just say "rights for me but all men are evil oppressors and trans people are either traumatised or are evil and anyone doing sw is coerced or damaging our fight"

i could go on about this for way longer but i already have a bad feeling this might end up spreading further than i'd like so TO REITERATE:

TERFS AND SWERFS FUCK OFF. THERE IS NO LIBERATION FOR ONE UNLESS WE UPLIFT EVERYONE. INTERSECTIONALITY IS KEY. ok bye

[venusdryad]

The way men see themselves

[autistic-fuckwad]

at this point i am genuinely not going to be subtle with it: if you genuinely believe trans men and transmascs experience no or little to no oppression OR experience privilege by being a trans man please take the next exit on ramp 7 to Get The Fuck Off My Blog <3

tags because i know you some damn terf is gonna run in here pretending to be a trans ally and start screaming that i hate trans women so you are now forced to read them in the main post body

[queerasaurus-rexx]

would just to remind all the terfs that andrea dworkin said in her 1974 book 'woman hating':

'There is no doubt that in the culture of male-female discreteness, transsexuality is a disaster for the individual transsexual. Every transsexual, white, black, man, woman, rich, poor, is in a state of primary emergency . . . as a transsexual. There are three crucial points here. One, every transsexual has the right to survival on his/her own terms. That means that every transsexual is entitled to a sex-change operation, and it should be provided by the community as one of its functions. This is an emergency measure for an emergency condition. Two, by changing our premises about men and women, role-playing, and polarity, the social situation of transsexuals will be transformed, and transsexuals will be integrated into community, no longer persecuted and despised. Three, community built on androgynous identity will mean the end of transsexuality as we know it. Either the transsexual will be able to expand his/her sexuality into a fluid androgyny, or, as roles disappear, the phenomenon of transsexuality will disappear and that energy will be transformed into new modes of sexual identity and behavior.'

in 1977 she stood before a group of radical feminists and called them out for their exclusionary bullshit.

dworkin was a fucking trans ally.

fuck off with your shit.