#Rips hates transphobes

[l0stw00d]

cohost is shutting down. i am very, very, very sad about it.

It's been a long time since tumblr felt like my online "home" the way it used to. Cohost wasn't just my favourite tumblr alternative, but my favourite place to hang out online, End Of. I'll miss it a lot.

Because it's shutting down, I've made my new personal website public early! You can see pretty much all the various places I post - some more active than others. I'll add more stuff eventually, but right now, this is what you get. You can find it at Lostwood.art ! (it's best viewed on desktop, but Should work on mobile.)

RIP cohost. RIP eggbug. I will miss u

[bataddictedloony]

Define a woman!

I’m gonna rant this here cus this argument keeps returning on the clock app and one day, I’m gonna be stupid and leave a comment in the wrong thread or smthn so I’m just gonna get it out of my system:

“How do you define a ‘woman’?”

Answer for idiots: you can’t.

You cannot possibly make a definition for the term ‘woman’ without excluding someone from the group when they clearly ARE part of the group (even if you’re a piece of shit transphobe and don’t want to include trans women). A woman is someone who has the potential to give birth? You just excluded every child before puberty, every infertile woman and every woman on menopause, next. A woman is someone who has a uterus? You just excluded a bunch of intersex women and all women who had a hysterectomy, next. A woman has a period? Excluded the millions of women who never get their period for various reasons AND all the women who take continuous birth control AND women who are pregnant AND again, little girls and women on menopause. A woman has to have XY chromosomes? Are you gonna check that for every feminine-looking person you’re gonna meet? How? Do you not think women with down syndrome are women?

Decades of feminism working so hard to make sure women are more than their genitals and potential to give birth, all flushed down the drain because you refuse to believe trans women are more than men in wigs? You’re weak as shit.

So answer for people who actually want to use their brain:

Woman is defined through experiences. Which experiences? Entirely up to whoever defines themselves as a woman.

The ‘female experience’ is so broad. You cannot possibly define it in one sentence and stick it on everyone who calls the word ‘woman’ their own.

You feel feminine and empowered by doing your nails? Congrats, that’s the female experience and makes you, therefore, a woman.

You feel feminine and empowered by wearing plaid and splitting wood in two with a giant axe? Congrats! Female Experience. Woman.

You feel feminine in a dress? Woman. You feel feminine in a tux and suit? Woman.

You feel empowered as a mother and love being pregnant? Woman! You despise the idea of being pregnant but find empowerment in your career? Woman! You feel like your period makes you more in tune with your femininity? Woman. You feel like your period makes you less than human and getting a hysterectomy makes you feel more comfortable in your body? Woman.

you love long hair? Woman. You love short hair? Woman.

You love loving men? Woman. You love loving women? Woman. You love both? Woman. You love everyone? Woman. You don’t feel like love is your thing? Woman!

Sitting at home with a good movie and a bottle of wine? That’s a woman. Getting bloody in a game of soccer? That’s very woman! Taking a walk with your dog? How very woman! Going to the gym? Such woman! Eating out with friends? Friend woman. Shooting a gun in the yard from the patio you built yourself? All woman!

Whatever the fuck makes you feel in sync with your femininity is your female experience, and if you have female experience and you like it, you are a W O M A N ✨

Same goes for men and the male experience btw! Since the question “what defines a man” is never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever EVER asked for SOME 👀 reason. (We all know the reason….) Also same goes for my fellow enbies and the non-binary experience. If painting your nails bring you closer to your enbie side, you’re non-binary.

Gender is such a deeply personal experience, it’s just dumb to define it for someone else, let alone the entire human species. It’s like asking to define a chair, like, you KNOW what it is but you can’t possibly define it without excluding some chairs (“has at least 4 legs”, that’s a horse also swivel chairs exist).

Sidenote: If some idiot tiktokker shoves a microphone and a camera in your face and goes “WHAT IS A WOMAN” or “HOW MANY GENDERS ARE THERE” just go along with whatever dumbass scenarios they come up with. “How many genders are there?” “My dude, as many as you want!” “Oh so like 40??” “Yep!” “Can I identify as a helicopter lol?” “Sure, who cares, do it!” “Should I demand everyone at my job calls me a helicopter” “You can go to your local townhouse, request to change your name to ‘helicopter’ and they’ll most likely let you. You’re an adult, you can do whatever you want as long as it’s not hurting others.” “You don’t think it would be dumb of me to do that?” “Why would I care, I don’t know you?”

[craycrayimagination]

Justice for Nex💛🤍💜🖤

Say their name.

CW AND TW: CHILD DEATH

Say.

Their.

Name.

Nex Benedict was a indigenous trans nonbinary teenager. Their head was beaten against the floor in a bathroom stall. Less than 24 hours later, they died, most likely from undiagnosed head trauma. Conservatives say they want to, "protect the children", where was the protection for Nex? That's the thing. There wasn't any. Nex died. And many more trans, queer, and nonbinary minors will if we don't step up and do something. What happened to Nex has and will happen to queer folk around the globe. Say their name.

Edit: I didn't expect this to get much attention, but thank you everyone. What alot of people, "forget" to mention was that Nex was two spirited, which means they were indigenous. The fact that I wouldn't have heard about this if I didn't have Tumblr is absolutely revolting. News needs to be covering this. But what are Republicans doing? Sucking their thumbs and crying about how, "trans people shouldn't be able to piss". What are Democrats doing? Twiddling their thumbs and groveling to an old geezer that somehow falls up the stairs and supports I$r3@l. It's disgusting and America needs to do better.

Edit 2: Any and all hate/saying that Nex Benedict wasn't murdered (they were) will immediately get deleted, just because you don't like trans people doesn't mean you can be an whiny little bitch. A child was murdered. This has nothing to do with politics, a child was murdered.

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Please report "Bryan Livingstone" to Facebook for racism, hate speech, mocking the Titan tragedy and other offensive and hateful/bigoted and abusive content.

[vintage-bentley]

It’s so hard for me to not feel devastated about the state of LGB acceptance.

I’m gen Z, so I was lucky to be raised with a positive attitude towards same sex attraction. I distinctly remember seeing those posters about how gay isn’t an insult, before I even knew what gay was. So by the time I was old enough to understand what sexuality was, I kind of just knew I was gay and was fine with it. I was supposed to be the lucky generation—the first to be raised in a world that generally felt positively towards same sex attraction.

And then in comes gender ideology and all of its rampant homophobia. And in a way, it feels like the world I was promised was ripped away from me. I used to think I’d be out and proud as a lesbian, but now I’m scared to even mention it to anybody because I know that I don’t have to just worry about the people who think same sex attraction = sin, but now I also have to worry about the people who hear “lesbian” and translate it to “evil terf bitch”. And the people who hear “I’m only attracted to women” and translate it to “transphobic and closed-minded”. And people who say “I’m gay too!” But actually aren’t.

I used to dream of going to pride events, but now I know it’s not for me. It’s for people who have built up entire identities that would crumble without their homophobic and misogynistic foundation. Every time pride month comes up, I feel almost a sense of grief. Because that was supposed to be my time to be with people like me. Now it’s for the people who’ve always hated us, and found a way to take over all of the minimal things we had just for us.

It’s lonely enough to be gay, especially a lesbian. And it’s just gotten worse. And it keeps getting worse as more people grow to at the best not give a shit about us, and at the worst hate us passionately and do everything they can to let it be known.

It really feels like the LGB positive future I thought I’d been born into was stolen. And the worst part of it all is that I can’t even talk about this without being dismissed as a bad person.

[genderqueerdykes]

hey anon saying "my abuser was a trans man so trans men hate trans women" I just want you to know I'm a transmasc person who was literally abused horrifically on the basis of sharing a similar pronoun and gender identity to my then-girlfriend's ex. she used the abuse of an entirely unrelated person as an excuse to insinuate I never respected her and would regularly scream at me and even invalidated my trauma over a relative dying using her own trauma.

she also, unsurprisingly, was a rampant transandrophobe, calling me horrible and transmisogynistic because I challenged her as a trans woman over saying blatantly transphobic things about trans men and transmascs (myself included).

because it was never about truth, it was about being on top and being the most inconvenienced and being in control of the conversation of suffering (this went beyond us fighting over my gender).

think why you feel that way, that you need sole dictation over the conversation and can't let anyone else breathe their words about experiences that may challenge how you feel, anon

if I were to do what she did, and say I was uncomfortable with trans women because they can be abusive, I would rightfully be ripped limb from limb for the transmisogynistic notion that trans women are remotely a monolith or are abusive based solely on my experience

but I guess trans men aren't owed that same equivalence. they are forced to live a double standard there. because you don't respect us enough for it. why is that.

"because it was never about truth, it was about being on top and being the most inconvenienced and being in control of the conversation of suffering,"

"if I were to do what she did, and say I was uncomfortable with trans women because they can be abusive, I would rightfully be ripped limb from limb for the transmisogynistic notion that trans women are remotely a monolith or are abusive based solely on my experience"

i had to highlight these bits in particulare because good god you worded this so perfectly. i am so sorry you have had this experience but you knocked the ball so far out of the park that i am genuinely in awe of how well you conveyed this, and how absolutely fucked peoples' double standards are when it comes to abuse and how people think that trans men and mascs have it "so much easier in life". you're dead on the money. NONE of this has to do with talking about oppression and looking out for one another.

this behavior is about control.

it's about controlling the narrative. some people literally get so insecure when the conversation turns away from them for even a moment, they think it means that everyone is their enemy. yes, trans women have an absolutely awful time in cisheternormative society. so do trans men.

i have been emotionally and sexually abused and harassed by 3 separate trans women. one of which struck me with an object, another who stole something out of my purse while i was asleep and continuously kept trying to get in my pants after she found out i had a vagina despite me repeatedly turning her down, and another who mocked me for my psychotic episodes and repeatedly swore up and down that i didn't have DID and just in general gaslit and emotionally abused the fuck out of me. the woman who hit me also constantly kept insinuating that penises are what make a man a man, and would not stop making me feel bad for not having a biopenis.

once everyone found out i had a vag, suddenly, i was a cishet woman in their house and i was public enemy #1. i had to deal with my cis gay male roommate shrieking about how he's gay, boobs and vaginas are disgusting, he's a MAN attracted to MEN. meanwhile, my ex girlfriend (the one who hit me) made me feel like shit for being a man without a penis almost every single day. she would guilt trip me about how she missed being with partners with biopenises and would spend all day telling me that she loved me, but then would turn around and scream and yell at me and tell me that i'm an evil asshole.

the transandrophobia i have had to deal with at the hands of other trans women has been absolutely fucking staggering. we need to stop fostering a culture where this is okay because it's genuinely getting people hurt. like you said, if a transmasc were to say "i hate trans women, they're all mean and shitty and abusive," they would literally be torn limb from fucking limb. and rightfully so, because it's a dogshit thing to say. but we HAVE to start telling people who do this to trans men to fuck OFF and stop it.

i am very sorry you went through that. i hope things improve for you, and that you're able to spend time in company that treats you with respect. nobody should have to deal with literal profiling just because of their gender.

is that what we're doing now? profiling people based off of their gender? how is that progressive? how is that liberating? how is that trans rights? it ain't.

[johnwaynegayscene]

hi hi hi! wanna help a girl get back on track with getting a shitload of extensive dental damage from a transphobic hate crime repaired? cuz boy howdy i could sure use the help!

i had an appointment today finally after ages, and with needing to get all the teeth left ripped out and replaced with dentures and all the fun that goes with that, there's a lot that my insurance isn't going to be able to cover. im working two jobs right now and scraping by best i can but fuck, times are fucking tough, and they're tough for everyone but if you can help with even the slightest amount it'll be saving my life and giving back my ability to eat and smile and speak properly, and it'll be huge to me. my c@$h@pp and v3^m0 are both punkyrooster, and i'm gonna get a proper fund set up after another appointment or two and we have a solid clear idea of a number, but for right now im just fuckin desperate to get started on moving towards this and inching my way towards a functional face 🖤💜🖤💜🖤

[narcissistcookbook]

just watched one of my favourite comedians drop a full terf bingo

1. transwomen are basically wearing blackface

2. trans lesbians are just hetero dudes

3. i'm not being transphobic i hate everyone equally

4. my friend is queer / i was raised by lesbians so i can say these things

rip jordan jensen, things were good while they lasted i guess

[solangeloficawards]

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[velvetvexations]

I understand the instinct behind it to a degree but it really does worry me how fast people in progressive spaces are willing to buy into conspiracy level thinking about there being shadowy groups of transphobes plotting to freeze other trans people out or like, that every big news story or movie/tv/book release is planned to distract us from Sudan or Gaza, cuz like quite often things are just coincidences? The most insidious thing about systemic oppression is that it's so self-sufficient it doesn't NEED people to conspire to fuck over xyz demographic, it just does that on it's own. The instant you buy in to conspiratorial thinking you're in danger, and that includes painting a large group of queer creators as active, intentional transmisognists who should be shunned forever and ignoring the realistic read which is that it's clearly an unfortunate coincidence that can be fixed! It's the whole "if the building was designed to be inaccessible even if everyone working there loves disabled people the building is still inaccessible" thing, for a lot of reasons not a lot of trans and queer people end up even in the line to possibly be front and center in a show or two, and Dropout is clearly working to change that and include queer people, but it's slow going and the system is stacked against trans people and no one is perfect and Dropout is also still a VERY small company all things considered trying to build themselves up from almost nothing, they need support so they can offer space to more trans people and transfems! Like what good does spreading a bullshit rumor about the main cast all being closet raging transmisognists do aside from tear down one of the only queer platforms we have??

When College Humor got bought by Sam they could only afford like ONE employee, do we want to have to wait years and years and years for another new platform to arise that has the money and power to represent us?? I'd rather uplift and push to be better a platform that is run by queer people who want to do better for all of us even if they don't always succeeded than sit here begging Disney to acknowledge that we exist while spreading horrid rumors about every legit queer creator who wants to platform us secretly being a huge bigot in disguise.

It's so awful, I hate how every time someone works their ass off to make a fucking difference for queer people all the terminally online progressive queers have to rip them to shreds for not being 100% perfect in every way until we have nothing but sanitized corporate overlords who don't think we deserve to be on screen at all. Every progressive queer creator gets put through this eventually and I'm so sick of it. The Vlogbrothers, The McElroy Family, Nightvale Presents, She-ra, Steven Universe, Chappell Roan, Becky Albertalli, it KEEPS happening!! And we will never get anywhere if the slightest misstep or honest unfortunate coincidence is enough to deem the only people who are trying to represent us, many of which ARE us, as irredeemable bigots who should be crucified in the town square.

Imo this is just a massive case of people always falling for conspiratorial thinking out of a refusal to actually understand how systemic bigotry works in favor of the "everyone is always secretly intentionally conspiring against us" lie and refusing to give queer creators/allies ANY grace or room for error or the benefit of the doubt because like. I guess destroying other queer people and our allies is what some of us do best. The fact that it's only ever queer people and allies who get this treatment makes me sick. We can't let ourselves have anything, it's perfect or it's evil. What the fuck is even the point of queer rep anymore if all of it is going to get treated like this eventually?

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[roach-witch]

Peep my stress homies lmao

Okay If like me, you are a stress nibbler and a pwhl fan I would recommend wearing gloves or something to the last finals game if your team is playing (losing) or else you may, like me, end up with very painful teeth marks in the back of your hand that will take at least a week to heal because you may, like me, unintentionally break skin

[dragon-communion]

Miquella textually destroying himself to become perfect, as a queer person falling into the trap of perpetuating the cycle of abuse because he doesn't see any option other than to conform to the status quo to achieve what he wants, thereby also destroying any chance of reaching his REAL goal, is going to haunt me forever.

There's a lot of interesting and heartbreaking potential in writing Miquella as a transphobic trans person, not out of any malice but because he's trying his absolute best. He's trying so hard he ripped his own arm off. He just wants to help, who cares what he has to destroy to make that happen? Himself. His sister. The world. He lost his way, somewhere along the line, puppeted by the steam of his own goals until there's nothing left of goodwill or love. Just ambition. Kindness without the empathetic comprehension of what it means to be cruel. He means well, after all. That has to be enough.

Something about the opposite of love not being hate, but indifference.

[olderthannetfic]

https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/765221485179731968/writing-about-my-favorite-characters-as?source=share

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this, anon. I'm even sadder that it's not an uncommon story.

As another trans writer (trans woman, in my case) that's stumbled into other people eviscerating her works for "fetishizing" and being "het in f/f's clothing" I really sympathize with you, dude. The way I look at it is that you cannot try alter who you are for these people. They will always find a way to dislike you because you are their ideological enemy. They dislike seeing trans men in what they see as their ship tags, not yours, so they will always find something they view as a flaw and flog you for it until you either conform or leave.

I've had a similar experience to yours, though not a literal thread dedicated to me. Ouch. I write f/f and sometimes that features non-op/pre-op trans characters because I am personally non-op after many years on E, and I'm always astounded by how it obviously upsets people that otherwise claim to be progressive. I also tag things extensively and I even include some terminology clarifications at the beginning of smut fics so that everyone knows what they're getting into. It doesn't matter to them. It'll never matter to them what you or I do, so why bother trying to coddle them?

There are readers that like my works, but after walking into a fandom Discord's NSFW fic channel, I saw how many people assume that my fics are written by a cis person or the fabled Dirty Fetishizer. It's one thing to intellectually know this happens and another to see your own work - something that you as a trans person created to talk about some part of yourself - ripped apart as this nasty tripe that no "real" trans person would write or read.

To make matters worse, I saw all that after I went through a rather nasty spate of transphobic anons when the fandom was very young. It was so tiring. I was exhausted. Seeing virulent hate in the real world and then having it thrown in my face for writing characters in a way that people disagreed with was just too much for me.

My way of dealing with this was disengaging from my own fandom, turning off anons on tumblr, and blocking anyone I even felt slightly annoyed by just in case it boiled over into something else. It sucks, but it's how I continue to have fun with writing for my ships. I basically never go into my ship tags on Tumblr now, I curate whose fics I read carefully, and I only hang out in one Discord server that's very small. I still read and comment on others' works when I have the mental bandwidth for it, but I avoid most other writers, especially those I don't know just in case they're part of that -phobe segment, and keep the most vocally unpleasant authors permanently muted for my own sake.

Frankly, it is what it is, as thought terminating as that phrase can be, and I gave up trying with these people/this fandom. You could keep trying to interact with the greater fandom, but you should block the assholes that disregarded your lived experience for your own mental health.

It's an isolating process for sure, but that's why I supplemented it with seeking out other fandom friends, most of whom are trans. Maybe we disagree with headcanons, and in a lot of cases we're polar opposites, but we all stick together because otherwise we're all thrown into isolation. That, and I always try to focus on the folks that do like what I write.

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[foxglovepng]

Ace Headcannons 1 🥀

Requested: NAW

CW: Ace being Ace, headcannons you may disagree with me on, fox goes a little insane.

A/N: I have 2 headcannons in which I turn into that one meme from Brooklyn 99 with the lady and dog the grip these headcannons have on me is INSANE. NOt even in death can you rip these headcannons out of my cold dead hands.

If you liked reblogs and likes are appreciated <3 (Not Proofread)

We already discussed I headcannon Ace as Japanese. So I will leave that here and move onto the next ones.

Trans (FTM)

You can't take this headcannon away from me. YOU CAN'T. RAHH

Okay so the way I headcannon him is I wanna say he comes out to his brother (I named him Danny). And his brother was like "Kewl what name do you wanna be Called?" His brother is his no 1 supporter and gets him through his transition and days when he feels dysphoric.

Using a personal experience from an old friend his brother and his mom help him get on pubery blockers so he can eventually get on Tesosterone.

For some reason since we don't hear jack shit about his parents I headcannon his mom is supportive, but his dad a homophobic transphobic piece of shit.

I also headcannon him as Bi so he's Bi and Trans.

The first person he comes out to at NRC is Deuce because well him and Deuce are the closest I feel like Deuce wouldn't get it at first but he'd be supportive. (Cater overhears now the whole school knows)

He has a male cat named Kiki

Do I know where I got this headcannon from. No.

This is said Cat btw

Kiki hates anyone that's a man but love's women. He's also just little shit in general.

(This is an intercation Ace had with my OC)

OC: have you considered doing the kiki dance to your cat?

Ace:...That's genius

He also has a nickname called the kikster

Small one's I don't really have an explanation for

He plays genshin and gambles his 50/50s away.

If he's playing around or mad at someone he will speak only Japanese to them.

Said Skibidi toilet once and got jumped by Floyd

If Deuce invited him to the festival he would have hit on Deuce's mom.

Has a hoodie that says I <3 milfs

"WAIT! Does the queen have that gyat??" He said once before getting punched in the face

Says "Where my hug at?" Jokingly to his close friends.

Insane bromance with Deuce

Special mention of my oc with Ace

Ace: You act like you're in love with me so much

OC: I am

Ace: WHAT??

OC: Respectfully tho you have an IQ of a middle school boy who says sigma 24/7

Ace: Respectfully I'm blocking you

[butterflyinthewell]

A reminder:

Proship in fandom doesn’t mean liking all pairings or only liking really gross morally badwrong pairings. It means you don’t harass people for what they ship no matter how much you hate it.

It means you say “Ew” to yourself and block to avoid things you don’t want to see.

Someone ships a ship you think is disgusting? Fine! Block them! Now it’s gone. Buh-bye!

Yes, this applies to any pairings, don’t give me any “except for” or “unless it’s” crap. No excuses!

Proship has never meant condoning criminal acts or abuse irl.

If a proshipper sees a real life person in an abusive situation that matches to something they read or wrote in a fanfic, they won’t sit and think it’s sexy, they will be appalled and try to help the person escape.

The key here is proship means fiction is fiction and observing what someone engages with is not the only way to judge their moral character.

Because if that were true, why are fantis who engage with wholesome fandoms some of the most cruel, hateful people on the internet?

How come all their rage is towards sex and never looks twice at violence? They’re fine with violence until there’s sex involved, then all of a sudden it’s wrong. Fantis don’t speak on violence because they know they condone it and attacking it will rip apart all their baseless accusations and arguments.

Btw fanti arguments look identical to transphobic conservative arguments. Think about that. And I see so many of them do it with trans pride flags in their bios. 🙄

If a site gives you options to filter out content you don’t want to see and you won’t use them, and choose instead to harass people because you’re mad that your NOTP is everywhere, you’re nothing but a pathetic bully who brings nothing of value to fandom anywhere.

Btw, just an aside, I hate most of the same ships fantis hate and I don’t make that creators’ problems. I block and move on. I defend content I abhor in fiction because I know censorship will trash works by queer and marginalized people first.

Censorship is a steamroller, not scalpel.

Just look at what queerphobic conservatives are doing to queer content in schools and libraries. We don’t need that in fandom too. Get outta here with that.

[slay00ryu]

Ronin x AMAB Reader who is unsure of their gender identity ? Like, reader knows they’re not cis but they don’t know what they identify as and they’re not sure they wanna come out because they’re scared of how they’ll be perceived by people? If you feel uncomfortable, feel free to skip this ask! I know it can be uncomfortable to write about gender identity dysphoria and stuff ❤️

Bird imprisoned in its own cage.

You were sitting on your bed, hands clasped together as you looked at the mirror facing you, or rather at your reflection,

This man... he doesn't feel like you. He is some what distant, like you're looking at a complete stranger, as if he wasn't there your entire life, watching you from the mirror.

You knew that you weren't a man, at least you didn't feel like one. But what were you then? You couldn't quite place it, your identity was a foreign concept for you.

And even if you would love to experience more with it, you were scared. What will people do? What if someone will attack you? You were so anxious about it, but the pain in your chest, the discomfort, the hate you felt every time you saw your face. You just wanted to rip your skin off, you wanted someone to take you apart piece by piece and rebuild you. Rebuild you in a way that you could accept yourself.

Well, there was someone like that. His head was currently resting on your shoulder as he looked at your reflection.

"What's the scowl for darling?"

Ronin asked, his plum hair tickling your neck.

You looked at his reflection, finding his eyes and focusing on them. Ronin was so perfect in your eyes, yes he's a crazy bastard, but he doesn't care. He lives his life how he wants, no one matters, nothing matters.

"Ronin, what if I'm not a man?"

You asked, immediately asking the question. You must've sounded so weird, you wanted to tell him to forget about it, but Ronin was faster. He straightened himself and turned your face to look at him.

"If you're spilling your guts open, do it to me not to my reflection, baby."

He said, that annoyingly confident smirk glued to his lips, never leaving his face.

You sighed. You started it, so you can as well finish it.

"I don't think that I'm a man, but..." You paused, taking a deep breath. "... I don't know who I am. I can't place it. Am I woman? Am I non binary? Am i someone else entirely?"

Your hands were sweating, you tried to wipe them into your pants, but the sweat was still there. What if he wouldn't understand? What if Ronin thought that you're weird?

"Oh god, that's it?"

He asked, you looked at him and he was there just chuckling. Why was he laughing? Really, Ronin is such a confusing person.

"What's so funny?"

You asked with a huff, your brows narrowing.

"Awh, nothing. It's just cute how you're so scared."

He said and took your hands in his, rubbing their backs with his thumbs.

"You're not the only one with confusing gender history darling."

He said, like it was the most normal thing, like he was talking about his lunch and not something as big as gender identity.

You blinked a few times.

"You're... trans?" Wow, how could you never see that? "And you never told me?"

He titled his head to the side, pulling you closer.

"You never asked, plus why does it matter?"

"Oh, right it's not really that big for me."

You said realising that you could be understood as transphobic.

"Exactly. Don't worry baby, I don't take stuff personally."

He just shrugged.

"So, what should we call you now? Maybe we should try with female pronouns first? See how you feel with it. What do you think, princess?"

He asked, bringing your hand closer to kiss your knuckles.

Somehow Ronin's presence felt so comforting... So perfect.

Headcanons <3

Ronin will try out every pronoun and form you may ever need to try out. You want to be called by she/her and female marked names? He's on it, no questions asked.

He will make it his life mission to help you find your style, he was there too and he would appreciate the help, so why not help you now?

If you will anxious about testing new things, he will try to help you calm down, he's a great encouragement.

He will make a list of nicknames to call you by. He has to be prepared for every occasion.