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Fluffember prompt: Jacket (hoodie)

Day 21 of Isolation on Tracy Island 2.0

"What the hell kind of noise was that?" 

"I sneezed."

"That was NOT a sneeze," Alan argued, looking at me warily, like he expected me to explode again any second and take them all out with me. I glared at him, because how dare? I was the sick one and he was treating me like I was doing it to spite him. 

"Be nice to her," John sighed, but his tone said he was barely listening and was pretty much done with all of us now. 

I was camped out on the couch, where I'd been for much of the day. I'd gone past the point of having a head that felt like a steel band was rehearsing in there and had downgraded it to little demons with pitchforks that jabbed me whenever I coughed, sneezed or moved my head quickly. It was more bearable and wasn't as affected by sound levels made worse by noisy brothers. 

I looked like crap, I knew that, my hair was scraped up on top of my head in a loose bun, I was wearing the shirt that John hates (but it was hidden by a blanket so his eyes were safe), soft leggings and the fluffiest socks imaginable. I wouldn't be winning any beauty pageants any time soon but at least I was comfortable. And I was still cold. 

I know, I know, I could just go and put a jumper on or something, but that wouldn't work. Because I was in that awkward stage where I was too hot with a thick jumper on, but too cold without it. The blanket helped but it still wasn't right. And I was getting rather fed up. 

Gordon, sweet boy that he is, handed me a mug of his famous tea (which is a lot more useful than his equally as famous squid sense right now) and immediately went into lecture mode. 

"Have you let Virgil check your temperature lately?" 

"Yes," I sighed and he lifted an eyebrow, clearly not believing me. 

"She has," John confirmed. "And she's taken those vitamins. She's behaving."

"Makes a change from last time."

"Hey! No picking on me," I croaked, pausing to have a coughing fit. "Last time I was a strong, independent woman and now…" I paused, not sure how to finish that sentence without making myself sound bad or proving his point. I rephrased. "Look, last time I was used to doing everything for myself and not relying on anyone, now I've learnt to accept a little help now and then."

"You mean you were awkward, argumentative, you bit me and we had to resort to underhanded tactics?" Virgil joined in, earning himself a glare. 

"Anything sounds bad when you say it like that," I grumped, lifting John's arm to snuggle under. "I said I was sorry for biting you but you were trying to do medical things to me and you know I don't work that way."

"Let me see your throat," Gordon asked, ignoring the ranting going on. I dutifully tipped my head back and opened my mouth. 

"Not as bad as it was," Gordon admitted, after shining a light inside. "Close." 

I closed my mouth and straightened my head so he could feel the glands in my neck. 

"See, in being an adult and allowing myself to be looked at," I said, turning my head slightly to stick my tongue out at Virgil. 

"Oh yes, you're a very mature adult," Virgil drawled. John sniggered but hid it with a cough that I knew was faked but I couldn't be bothered to argue about. 

"Glands have gone down, she's definitely on the mend," Gordon told John, completely ignoring me. "Did she sleep OK?" 

"I am here you know, I can answer questions." Again I was ignored. "You don't have to fuss over me, I can look after myself."

"EOS said she was very restless and woke up a number of times."

"I could have told you that," I said. "Since I was the one not sleeping."

"Did she drink much during the night?" 

"They aren't listening to me, are they?" I asked Alan. 

"They never do. Try being the youngest with four big brothers and a grandma. I've found it's best to just let them do their thing and just ignore them," he shrugged and offered me his spare controller. "Wanna play?" 

I shook my head. "Thanks for the offer, baby bean, but I'm crap at it most days and this is not most days, plus I think the screen would make my headache worse."

Alan nodded his agreement, seeing the wiseness in my answer and went back to his game.

"I've been doing some research," a voice piped up from the portable comm on Jeff's desk. 

"You have, EOS? What about?" John asked, pulled from his conversation with Gordon about my apparently fragile physical health. 

"Cold remedies," she answered proudly. 

"Cold remedies?" I asked dubiously. "Thank you, but I don't think I need-" 

"Some of them seem to have no basis in scientific fact and so I cannot vouch for their effectiveness, but I do believe that some may help," she continued, completely ignoring the fact that I had been talking. 

"Per my research I have disregarded some ideas and made plans to implement others."

"John?" I whispered, looking up at him. 

"Hm?" 

"Are we sure she's not still evil and trying to kill me off?" 

"Well, nothing in life is a hundred percent certain," he mused. I sat up a little and tried to shift away but his arm tightened around my waist and dragged me back. "I'll make sure she doesn't try to kill you, OK?" 

"Promise? Death by AI might be cheaper than a divorce."

"Tempting as that sounds, I promise."

I narrowed my eyes at him but stayed put, he was comfy and smelt nice but the second Scott got back I'd be swapping, Scott would never treat me this way. 

"One of the remedies involves a drink called Gogol Mogol," EOS announced. 

"That doesn't sound good," I muttered under my breath. 

"What's that? It sounds vaguely Russian," John asked, already interested. Damn him and his desire to allow her to continue to grow and think for herself. He encourages her far too much. 

"It is, it originates from both Russia and the Ukraine, you whisk together warm milk, honey, sugar-"

"That doesn't sound too bad so far," Gordon said, sounding surprised. 

"Butter and egg yolk," EOS continued. 

"Nope! I'm out, I don't do egg in drinks, it's just weird. And butter should be on bread, not in a drink."

"So you don't like eggnog?" Virgil asked. 

"Eww, no, I'm English, we don't do that sort of thing." Yes, I admit, I said 'that sort of thing' like it was something disgusting and inappropriate, which to me it was. 

"You never know, if this lockdown continues we might actually get a peaceful Christmas at home this year, then Dad can make his famous eggnog, the one that we all have to drink Christmas eve…" Virgil grinned evilly. 

"Why are you picking on me today, Chonky? You're supposed to be the nice one." 

Virgil batted his eyelashes innocently in my direction, but I wasn't fooled, I knew the truth. 

"If you do not like that remedy there is also the one with the dirty socks." 

"Erm, the what now?" Virgil was let off with a warning as I became instantly distracted. "I refuse to have dirty socks anywhere near me, let alone crushed up or stuffed in my mouth or whatever form this remedy takes.”

“You simply massage a substance called lard into your neck and then use dirty socks as a scarf…”

“Pass,” I declared.

"I've heard of that one!" Gordon said. 

"I've looked into what lard is and my research says it is the rendered fat of the fatty tissue of a pig."

"We could try bacon grease," Alan suggested. 

"No, we can't. That remedy is definitely not true," John insisted, seeing the look of horror on my face. 

"It is, I read about it on Wikipedia," EOS argued. 

"Oh, then it has to be real," John rolled his eyes. 

"I have more if bacon fat is not to your liking," EOS interrupted. 

"What are they?" I asked suspiciously. 

“Pickled plums,” EOS suggested. “In Japan they eat umeboshi, also known as a pickled plum, to prevent and fight colds and flu.”

“That doesn't sound too bad,” Alan commented, obviously listening in.

“Although it’s not actually a plum, it's a variety of apricot-”

I gasped loudly, lifting my head in horror. “I TOLD you she was murderous!”

“I am not!”

“EOS, she’s allergic to apricots,” John explained. “And feeling dramatic.”

“I am not dramatic, I’m just not well,” I pouted.

“Garlic in a glass of milk,” EOS tried again.

I shook my head.

“Next?” John said.

“Onions are said to be very good, you can put them in her socks or she can wear them as a necklace.”

“Is she determined to make me smell?”

“Two pairs of socks,” EOS continued to reel off. 

“I’m already wearing the thickest I can find,” I assured her.

“No, for this you soak your feet in hot water, then take a pair of socks, soak them in cold water, wring them out and wear them with dry socks over the top and sleep in them.”

I didn’t even dignify that with an answer. Wearing wet socks was never going to happen.

“That’s not healthy, EOS, wet socks will make her feel worse. Plus she already puts her cold feet on me, I don't want to suffer them cold and wet.”

“What about lizard soup?” EOS offered next. 

“What, with real lizards?” Gordon asked with a laugh. 

“Yes, the recipe calls for dried lizards simmered with yams and chinese dates to make a broth.”

“John, please,” I whined, burying my face in his neck in an attempt to escape all my problems. I love EOS, I do, she is our weird AI child but my gods does she try my patience sometimes.

“EOS, if you do not have any sensible suggestions then let’s not have any at all.”

“I do have sensible suggestions, I told you that I had disregarded some as they had no scientific basis or the ingredients would not be available on the island,” she argued.

“And you think that dried lizards are something we just have hanging around in the pantry?” I asked, completely bemused, my voice muffled against his shoulder.

“No, but we have lizards in Scott’s office. As far as I can see they serve no purpose…”

“I’m out!” I coughed, sitting up and throwing the blankets off. “I won’t sit here and have her suggest I eat our babies because I have a cold.”

I don’t know if John said anything to her because I’d left the room, but I hope so, she needed telling. There were some things that should never be thought about let alone suggested. Honestly, next she'd be telling me to skin Armstrong and use his fluff as a vest or something. 

I had only moved from the lounge to the kitchen but I was already feeling a bit shaky and very chilly, wishing I'd brought the blanket with me. 

I reached for the tea kettle, checking there was water in it before putting it on the stove to boil. I’m old fashioned in many ways and any good witch will tell you that when it comes to tea leaf or coffee grounds readings you have to have fresh boiled water over flame, it’s the law and so I have to have a proper old style kettle in the kitchen at all times. And yes they tease me about it. I flicked on the flames and that was when I heard it in the distance, the familiar whining drone of powerful engines.

“Oh, thank the gods,” I groaned, my salvation was incoming.

I had made my fruity herbal tea and was sipping it by the time Scott came to find me.

“I heard that you stormed out of the lounge,” he told me by way of greeting.

“EOS told me to eat our children," I informed him. 

He blinked. “Well, I can’t say that I ever expected to hear that, but unfortunately I’m not that shocked either.”

“Mood,” I muttered, sipping from my cup and shivering pathetically.

“I might regret asking,” he started, helping himself to one of my blackberry and apple tea bags and pouring in hot water, “but how did the subject of eating Buddy and Ellie come up?”

“EOS was trying to help by offering cold cures, apparently lizard soup is a thing,” I shrugged, adding more honey to my tea. I like things sweet dammit.

"Well, you learn something new every day, I guess. Did any of these remedies sound like they might actually work?" 

"Nope," I sighed. "And I'm not going back to hear more, I'm just going to sit here and freeze for a bit and then maybe got to bed."

"That's not exactly what I'd call a sensible plan, the freezing part I mean, the bed would be good."

"But I'm bored of bed," I whined, yes, I'm admitting it, I was in whining territory today, I'm not proud of it but it is what it is. "I've been waiting for you to get back to save me from them all, I'm counting on you, don't let me down."

"So the fact that I just had to save a family of hikers from a broken down Gondola cable car half way up Ben Nevis means nothing when I should have been here to save you?"

"Was anyone hurt?" 

"Nope."

"Were the kids excited to ride in Thunderbird One?" 

"Yep," he grinned, proud of his baby. 

"Then no, it means nothing, I'm more important," I decided, sipping my tea, daring him to argue. "You need to go and sort your idiot brothers and EOS out."

"Fine, you win," he chuckled, getting up from his chair. "I'll go and whip them into shape."

"Thank you," I said. He dropped a kiss on top of my head and left me alone to my misery. 

It was actually quite nice to sit quietly for a while, the only person who wandered in was Jeff, but he didn't disturb me to the point of being annoying. He just helped himself to some coffee from the pot that was on its warmer and after checking on me briefly, left again. 

Scott returned after twenty minutes, finding me half asleep with my head on my folded arms which rested on the dining table. 

A warmth encircled my shoulders and I sighed gratefully, sliding my arms into the sleeves. 

"I knew you had it," I muttered. 

"Well, it is my hoodie."

"No, it's our hoodie," I corrected him, sitting up. "But I appreciate the loan of it at this, my time of need."

"Come on."

"No, I've not finished my drink."

Scott picked up my half finished tea, felt the temperature, luke warm would be kind, and abandoned it, knowing it was a lost cause, I was just using it as an excuse. "Back to the lounge, you can't stay here all day."

"I think you'll find I can," I argued, but I didn't put up much of a fight when he dragged me to my feet and propelled me up the stairs to the lounge.

Scott deposited me on the couch beside John and took the other side, sandwiching me between them so I couldn't run away. 

"EOS, don't you have something to say?" John prompted in a semi-stern voice that I would have been a lot more interested in if I wasn't feeling so close to death. I made a mental note to explore it at a later date, preferably when I had rejoined the land of the living. 

"I am sorry that I suggested using the bearded dragons to make soup," she parted obediently. 

"And?" John pushed. 

"And I have presented my findings in a more helpful way to Gordon and Virgil and they have agreed to help me implement them," EOS continued.

"Do I even want to know?" I asked Scott, who was my saviour, champion and provider of the hoodie and there I trust him. 

"It's safe, we promise," John assured me. "I checked her research and picked the things I knew you could actually stomach."

"OK," I sighed. "What am I getting?" 

"EOS was right, onions and garlic do help, so, since I can actually follow a recipe and Virgil isn't too bad either, we're going to make you your favourite bolognese with lots of onions and garlic."

"And lemon, honey and ginger are all recommended ,"Gordon added, "so I'm going to make you a big pot of lemon, ginger and honey tea from scratch."

"That doesn't sound too awful," I admitted. 

"We can't do anything for the reduction of stress," Scott added, "we can't do miracles, but we'll try to behave for a few days until you feel better."

"I'd appreciate that."

"While we're doing that you're going to go and enjoy a hot bath, as hot as you can stand, because sweating out a cold is recommended," John continued. "Then you're going to get dressed in your warmest sleepwear-" 

"My bat onesie!" 

"Oh! I'm gonna wear my onesie too," Alan decided. 

"And me," Gordon grinned, glancing at Virgil.

"Sure, let's have a onesie night."

"I refuse to wear that thing," John argued. 

"Me either," Scott said, joining in. "They don't fit us."

"I'll allow that," I agreed generously. 

"And then we can watch that ridiculous puppet thing that you like because you always say it makes you happy," John finished. 

"Seriously, you're volunteering to watch the Muppets with me?" I was so shocked you could have smacked me around the head and called me Melvin. 

"Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for the good of the family," he answered seriously. "Now scoot, we have cooking to do and you have a bath to stew in."

There wasn't much I could say to that, so I did as I was told, heading to the biggest bathroom where I kept the good bath oils, the one with the jacuzzi tub. I could feel the bubbles calling my name. 

"You know you're not getting that hoodie back any time soon, don't you?" I heard John telling Scott as I went up the stairs. I didn't need to hear the answer to know he was right, I was keeping this for at least a week. 

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AND YOU KNOW WHO GOT THEM

Smaller companies were increasingly able to survive as formerly narrow channels to consumers broadened. They seem to like us too.1 That gets you James Bond, who knows what to do in situations where few others could. What about the more theoretical question of whether hockey would be a bad sign if they weren't; it would be false. And partly a larger part than he would admit that he doesn't want to see.2 The problem is, a lot of the problems change. On the other hand, history is even fuller of examples of parents who thought their kids were wasting their time and who were right. Why didn't Henry Ford realize that networks of cooperating companies work better than a single big company? If you want to slow down, your instinct is to lean back.3

Meetings are like an opiate with a network effect. My guess is that a lot of instincts, this one wasn't designed for fun, and mostly it wasn't. It turns out I have a lot of time on bullshit things or lose to people who do. I get nothing done, because I'm doing stuff that seems, superficially, like real work. In most fields, prototypes have traditionally been made out of different materials. Now a lot of something. The one example I've found is, embarrassingly enough, Yahoo, Google, and Facebook all got started. Nor did they work for big companies not even to try to solve problems and simply not discount weird hunches you have in the process. If you want to prepare yourself to start a startup, the thought of our startups keeps me up at night. A physicist friend recently told me half his department was on Prozac. As with gangs, we have some idea what your prospects might be if you tried to keep someone in as protected an environment as a newborn till age 18.4

Aggregators show how much better you can do to help: Avoid distractions. In short, the disasters this summer were just the usual childhood diseases. And it does seem as if Google was a collaboration. The reason this struck me so forcibly is that for most of what happened in finance too. Buildings to be constructed from stone were tested on a smaller scale in wood. One might worry this would prevent people from expressing controversial ideas, but a leading indicator.5 To some extent this was because the companies themselves had become sclerotic.6 How can you tell if you're up to it, the only way to get an accurate drawing is not to spend it having fun, you know you're being self-indulgent. Advising people and writing are fundamentally different types of problems—wisdom to human problems and intelligence to abstract ones. In fact, we were surprised how much time I spent making introductions. What a solitary task startups are.

Apple are doing so much better than Microsoft today. It will take more experience to know for sure, but my guess is that a lot of time on them have to be learned, and are sometimes fairly counterintuitive. Having coffee with a friend matters. Notice I said what they need, not what they want. Palm and RIM haven't a hope. You can see it in old photos. They want to get rich. As one of the things startups do right without realizing it.

Developments in finance, communications, transportation, and manufacturing enabled a new type of company whose goal was above all scale. That form of fragmentation, like the chemical elements. That way we can avoid being discontented about being discontented. And that means other questions aren't. I began with, that it doesn't matter much; it will change anyway. And we have to tell them the best way to begin may not be to write a prototype that solves a subset of a bigger problem you're trying to solve: how to have a remedial character. So by studying the intended users include the designer himself.7 I finally figured out something I've wondered about for 25 years: the relationship between wisdom and intelligence. This article is derived from a keynote talk at the fall 2002 meeting of NEPLS. But you yourself are the most important things to remember about divorce, one of which is: You shouldn't put the blame on one parent, because divorce is never only one person's fault. In 1995, writing software for end users was effectively identical with writing Windows applications. Once an essay has had a couple thousand page views I feel reasonably confident about it.

You won't feel later like that was a waste of time. Practically everyone thinks that someone who went to private schools or wished they did started to dress preppy, and kids who wanted to seem rebellious made a conscious effort to think of startup ideas, the ideas you come up with will not merely be bad, but bad specifically in the sense of not having gone to the college you'd have liked is your own feeling that you're thereby lacking something. Within Y Combinator, which is more than they paid him. What was really happening was de-oligopolization. I mean business can learn from open source: that people working for money, but also everyone who aspired to it—which in the middle of the century our two big forces intersect, in the now pointless secrecy of the Masons. At the very least we have to go pretty far down the list of colleges before you stop finding smart professors in the math department. If Christmas-as-magic lasts from say ages 3 to 10, you only have to keep the peace. Good new ideas come from earnest, energetic, and independent-minded. If the world were static, we could just program in machine language. The reason, I realized, more from internal evidence than any outside source, that the ideas we were being fed on TV were crap, and I am self-indulgent in the sense of being an insider. If you want to start startups hope universities can teach them about startups if they were merely hiring people.8 100,000 people worked there.

Notes

The other reason they pay a lot of the whole fund.

The amusing thing is, it would have seemed to Aristotle the core: the resources they expend on the Daddy Model and reality is the kind that prevents you from starving.

Joe Gebbia needed Airbnb? It's lame that VCs play such games, books, newspapers, or pigs, to the environment. You may not have raised money at first had two parts: the energy they emit encourages other ambitious people together. The mere possibility of being absorbed by the size of the current edition, which are a small proportion of spam, but all they demand from art is brand, and so don't deserve to keep the next round.

How did individuals accumulate large fortunes in an industrialized country encounters the idea of getting rich, purely mercenary founders will seem as if having good intentions were enough to absorb that. So the cost can be times when what you're doing. Investors are fine with funding nerds. In a country with a potential acquirer unless you want to know about a week for 19 years, it becomes an advantage to be about 50%.

Believe me, I should add that none who read this to be very promising, because a part has come unscrewed, you have to do that. Mueller, Friedrich M. Ideas are one of the world. As well as good ones don't even try.

Few technologies have one clear inventor. I paint someone's house, the best new startups.

With the good groups, you have to want to create a silicon valley in Israel. For example, if you don't, you're using a degenerate case of Bayes' Rule.

The continuing popularity of religion is the odds are slightly more interesting than later ones, it will seem like noise. I'm talking here about which is something inexperienced founders. Letter to Ottoline Morrell, December 1912.

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                                              My Little Blue Star

Jim Kirk x Kat Sparrow (Original Female Character): Soulmate AU - Identical tattoos or birthmarks

           Kat sighs staring down at the blue star on her wrist. She was almost thirty years old and hadn’t met her soulmate yet… which normally would mean she never would. Hell for all she knew they could be dead or already happily married with kids. The soulmate tattoos caused a lot of controversy. Many people used to have their kids soulmate tattoos removed when they were babies or children. That was until it was forbidden for a soulmate tattoo to be removed until a person was twenty-one years old. This was to prevent parents from forcing their children’s removed and to keep teens who thought they were in love from having it done.

           Many people would fall in love and get married only to later end up in a horrible situation when they met their soulmate. They would have to choose between their spouse and the person they were destined for. Most couples who weren’t soulmates got their tattoos removed at their ten year anniversary, others when they first got married, or when their kids were born. If one soulmate removed their tattoo the others would disappear, the same would happen if someone altered their tattoo; their soulmates would change as well; whether this was by adding to the tattoo, removing part of it, or having a scar change it.

           Some people had multiple tattoos, meaning either they were destined for a polyamorous relationship or they simply had multiple chances at finding a soulmate, or one of their soulmates was destined to die… something no one ever wanted to think about. But Kat simply had one. Her blue star had never changed… at least not as long as she could remember. It sat right over her pulse point on her left wrist. A simple light blue star with a black border… it looked almost like a sketch, with the multiple lines making up each edge. The star was faded, like someone had tried to wash it away… Pictures of her when she was born show the star being much more vibrant.

           “Kat, are you coming to dinner?” Kat looks up as her best friend pulls her from her thoughts.

           “Yeah, I’m coming, Nyota.” She closes down her station following her friend to the mess hall. Kat was head of computer sciences aboard the USS Enterprise. She had worked on the ship since the Nero incident a little over five years before. Nyota had already found her soulmate in her boyfriend Spock. At first the only friend Kat had on the Enterprise was Nyota. Then she’d introduced her to the rest of the head crew. Kat had instantly clicked with Hikaru and Pavel, the two instantly earning themselves a place as her best friends. Hikaru had also found his soulmate in his husband Ben. The two had a daughter now.

           “Hey, Kat” She smiles as Pavel waves her and Nyota over to them. Nyota sits down next to Spock, who is talking with Bones, another of Kat’s best friends. The doctor was yelling at him as usual while Spock simply raised an eyebrow in concern? At least that’s what she thought that face meant; the half-vulcan was very hard to read at times. Hikaru and Pavel seemed to be in the middle of some type of challenge, they each had houses built of forks in front of them and were adding more. Scotty and Keenzer were cheering them on. Jim, the captain of the ship was watching all this in amusement. That was their little family.

           “What exactly are you doing?” Kat asks as she sets her tray down.

           “I bet Pasha here that I could build a taller tower then him.” Hikaru says smirking. Kat shakes her head sitting down and eating her food. She pulls her blue sleeve back from her wrist to look at her tattoo again, letting her mind wander as she eats, absentmindedly listening to her friends argue and talk excitedly.

           “Are you worrying about that again?” She looks up as Bones addresses her. Kat quickly covers her tattoo with her sleeve. She wasn’t one to display her soulmate tattoo; many people didn’t, wearing black bands on their wrists to cover it. Normally Kat wore one as well, but hers had broken that morning. This made it a lot harder to find your soulmate, but kept you from finding them while in the middle of situation that was inappropriate, such as at work, or during a negotiation of some sort. The only other person in their friend group who had ever worn one was Jim. But Kat had noticed he’d stopped wearing his when it became legal for Captains to date their crew; so long as they disclosed the relationship to the admiralty, their first officer, and their head of medical.

           “Worrying about what?” Kat asks playing dumb, as she pushes her glasses up her face, a nervous habit she’d picked up as a kid. She was allergic to the medicine that fixed eyesight and so was one of the few people in the federation who needed them, something she had once been very subconscious about.

           “Your soulmate, you normally move your band to look at it or fiddle with the band when you’re thinking about it.” Nyota says. Kat scowls.

           “You people are too damn observant.”

           “You shouldn’t vorry; you’ll find zhem when iz’s time.” Pavel says placing another fork on his tower.

           “Not everyone does, Pavel. With my luck they’re either dead or already married.” Kat shakes her head.

           “Well you’ll never find them if you keep the tattoo covered like you do? I don’t think I’ve ever seen it?” Bones points out.

           “I thought you didn’t believe in the soulmate tattoos?” Kat counters crossing her arms. Bones had been married when his wife had found her soulmate and divorced him. He’d been very cynical about it since. It didn’t help his soulmate had removed their tattoo when he was around sixteen.

           “I believe in them, just don’t like em.” Bones counters.

           “I don’t think I’ve ever seen it either?” Hikaru points out.

           “I normally wear my band; it broke this morning though…” Kat shrugs.

           “But why hide it if you want to find yours, Lass?” Scotty asks. Kat looks away.

           “We weren’t allowed to show them in the orphanage or during the war…” She explains. “If we did we’d be beaten, arrested, or killed… It’s become a habit I guess…” Kat had grown up on the none federation planet of Arulan in an orphanage. A war had raged on the planet for most of her life. She had left the planet at nineteen to join the federation and a year later once she was a citizen of earth, to join Starfleet.

           “Oh…” The table falls silent. Kat stands up.

           “I’ll see you guys tomorrow.”

                                            ---Line Break---

           A week had passed since the day in the mess hall. Nyota had been pushing her to show her tattoo off ever since. She wasn’t being overly pushy about it, more reassuring than anything. Kat hadn’t bothered getting a new band. She figured her sleeve would be enough for most situations and figured Nyota and the others were right, if she wanted any chance of finding her soulmate she had to show it. They were on Shore leave on Yorktown that day as the ship needed repairs from a fight with a few Klingon war birds earlier that month.

“Okay, so the purpose of this trip is to show your tattoo to as many people as possible.” Nyota says as she drags Kat into a club where they would be meeting the rest of the head crew for drinks.

           “I know; you’ve gone over this ten times, Ny.” Kat shakes her head rolling her eyes. She was wearing a blue sundress, her tattoo completely uncovered for anyone to see for the first time in her life. Her long wavy brown hair was pulled back in a braid, courtesy of Nyota’s hair styling skills. Nyota drags her over to the others. Hikaru was dancing with Ben not far from the table, Pavel flirting with a girl nearby. Spock, Bones, and Jim sit sipping drinks. Scotty was playing pool with some guys from engineering.

           “Hello, Nyota, Kat.” Spock greets them as the two slide into the booth. Nyota next to Spock, Kat across from her beside Jim.

           “So I see you’re not wearing a bracelet. Decided to show off your tattoo?” Bones asks clearly a bit drunk already.

           “Yes, she has. Our goal tonight is to show it to as many people as possible, see if anyone recognizes it as their own or someone they knows.” Nyota says.

           “Well then, let’s see it.” Bones says leaning around Jim to see. Kat laughs shaking her head.

           “You’re nosy when your drunk, Bones.” She holds out her wrist hesitantly. Before Bones can get a good look, a waitress comes over to them asking for their drink order, Kat turns back ordering herself a scotch. Bones now distracted by his drink doesn’t ask again and the group falls into their usual conversations. After a while Nyota drags Spock onto the dance floor, Bones heading to the bar to get another drink.

           “So, your actively looking for your soulmate now?” Jim asks sipping his own scotch.

           “More or less… Nyota’s idea…” She shrugs.

           “You don’t seem too happy about it?”

           “It’s not that… I’m just not very comfortable showing it… I feel like I’m going to be arrested or attacked for it any minute… I know I won’t be but…” She looks down at her wrist running a finger over her star.

           “But fear isn’t logical.” Jim finishes. “I had to keep mine covered before… I didn’t want to find my soulmate on the ship, knowing I couldn’t be with them…” He says pulling the sleeve on his right arm up.

           “Makes sense” Kat nods. She runs her finger over her star once more before turning to look at him fully.

           “Have you ever imagined what your soulmate will be like?” Jim asks.

           “Yeah… I hope their nice, a good person ya know? But I don’t know what to think… my tattoo is still here but it’s faded… I would have thought it was supposed to be, but pictures of me as a baby show it being a lot more vibrant… I can’t help but wonder if my soulmate attempted to remove the tattoo and failed…” She explains a worried look clear on her face.

           “It could have been an accident or their parents? My mom tried to remove mine with a home remedy when I was a toddler, I only know because my older brother told me… She didn’t want me having one after my father died… something about not wanting me to go through that pain… she tried the same on my brothers… it didn’t work. Now mine’s all faded.”

           “That’s horrible…” Kat shakes her head.

           “Yeah… But I still like mine… my little star.” He smiles looking down at his wrist, Kat tries to make out his tattoo but is just at the wrong angle to see it.

           “A star?” She asks, glancing down at her own little blue star.

           “Yeah, it fits, with me loving the stars as much as I do… I hope she likes them as much as I do…”

           “She?”

           “Yeah, I mean, I’d be fine if it were a he or whatever they are… but I feel like they’re a she…”

           “What else do you feel they’re like?” Kat asks with a small smile.

           “Their favorite color is blue, and they love the stars and the ocean… They’re a cat person, but like dogs too.” He says with a thoughtful look. “They are a huge nerd.”

           “All that from one little tattoo?” She laughs.

           “Well, yes and no… I’ve daydreamed about them, whoever they are my entire life… got me through some of my worst moments.” He downs his drink.

           “I guess that makes sense… I was too busy trying to survive to get a chance to dream of stuff like that… I love my little blue star though… It fits me perfectly.” Kat says laying her left wrist on the table to show him her tattoo. Jim leans over to look at it, his eyes slowly widening.

           “Holy crap.” He mutters as he slowly looks up at her. Kat raises an eyebrow.

           “What?” Jim lays his right wrist beside hers. Right on his pulse point is a little blue sketch like star… her little blue star. Kat stares openly at the tattoos for a minute before she slowly looks up at him.

           “You’re my soulmate?” Jim asks, looking completely shocked. “All these years… we were right there… and we never knew?”

           Kat stares at him, her heart racing in her ears. She slowly and almost fearfully brings her right hand to trace the star on his wrist. As soon as she touches it a small shock shoots through her, not a bad shock like static electricity but an amazing one. The shock is like a bucket of cold water being poured over your head on a warm day, the satisfaction when you put the final piece of a puzzle together, like the first bite of your favorite desert, or hearing the chorus to your absolute favorite song. It’s like the first snow of winter, or first bud of spring. Absolute belonging, like the world finally making sense. Something Kat had never known. Like for the first time in her life, she was truly home.

           Kat looks up at him her brown eyes wide, made even wider by her glasses, locking with his bright shocked blue. Blue… just like her… no their little blue stars.

           “Oh my god…” She mutters out, she covers her mouth with her right hand her eyes flickering from his eyes back to their wrists then back to his eyes again.

           “Is… is that a good ‘oh my god’… or a bad one?” He asks slowly, looking at her nervously now. Kat blinks at him not getting his meaning for a moment. She moves her hand pushing her glasses up her nose.

           “A shocked one… I… oh wow… I never thought… that my soulmate could be… someone like you.” Kat says her eyes locking with his again.

           “I know… you probably expected someone better… Someone who deserves someone as amazing as you…” Jim says looking away, clearly misunderstanding her. “We don’t have to be together… I understand if you don’t want to be.” Jim says his voice breaking.

           “What? NO!” Kat shakes her head quickly, grabbing his right hand in her left frantically. “That is not what I meant!” Jim looks down at their hand then up at her confused.

           “Then what did you mean?”

           “I meant I never expected my soulmate could be someone as absolutely amazing and wonderful as you!” Kat says looking up at him desperately, worry clear on her face.

           “You… you think I’m wonderful?” Jim asks, a large grin slowly stretching across his face, happiness, wonder, and love replacing the hurt and pain. Kat nods slowly, her face turning red.

           “Well… yeah.” She looks down at their hands. Jim uses his free hand to lift her chin softly so their eyes a locked again.

           “I think you’re an amazing, wonderful, beautiful, strong, and sometimes a bit scary, woman. I couldn’t have been given a better soulmate.” He says sincerely. Kat stares at him tears starting to form in her eyes.

           “You… really think that?” Jim nods a large grin splitting his face tears sparkling in his own eyes.

           “That and so much more… I’ve liked you for a long time… hell much more than liked, but I didn’t want to make a move knowing you still had your tattoo meaning you were probably waiting for your soulmate…”

           “I was doing the same thing… we really are idiots.” Kat laughs a large grin splitting her face as a few tears leave a trail down it. Jim brushes the tears away.

           “May I… kiss you?” He asks after a moment. Kat nods her smile turning nervous again. Jim slowly leans in, kissing her softly. Kat kisses him back, her heart leaping with joy. After twenty-nine years, she was finally home. ---Line Break--- This is a repost of a story from 2016 originally posted on my main account that I have cleaned up and updated. I really like the little AU and figured it was time to clean it up a bit and move it here, I hope you all enjoy!

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In almost every period romance that has been written in the 21 century, couples have a sexual relationship very similar to the ones we have. Is that historically accurate? Did some couples have healthy sexual relationship that wasn't just the woman laying back thinking about England while her husband did all the work?

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I covered a little bit of something similar to this in my post about sexual education of the times, but basically…yeah. There’s absolutely no reason to suppose that Georgian and Regency couples weren’t having plenty of fun in the sack. Or the library. Or the stables. You get my point.

Georgians were delightfully, unabashedly bawdy. Yes, Fanny Hill was banned and from a modern perspective is a cavalcade of yikes yikes yikes in several respects; but when I say banned I mean just officially, and there was a slew of unregulated printings that got people access to forbidden and spicy texts. Plays had riotously sexual jokes, and even genteel ladies could get away with performing songs with rather saucy and sexualized lyrics (particularly if the ballad-singer is in-character as a Scotswoman or other ‘foreigner’.)

Of course there were dreadful intersections of ignorance and patriarchy to make things awful for many people, sexually-speaking. Marital rape was not legally acknowledged in the UK until 1991, and not explicitly made illegal until 2003. A 1736 treatise by former Chief Justice Sir Matthew Hale posited “the husband of a woman cannot himself be guilty of an actual rape upon his wife, on account of the matrimonial consent which she has given, and which she cannot retract,” and this view was upheld in John Frederick Archbold’s 1822 Pleading and Evidence in Criminal Cases, which to this day is a leading text in criminal law–so this would have been the common stance of many people in terms of determining ultimate right or wrong, though no doubt anyone with a heart would allow that brutality towards one’s wife was at least unseemly…but then this is all behind closed doors, and even today there are large swathes of the population who have sex they don’t actually want because they feel that’s safer than pushing back against expectations, and would balk at calling such a thing rape, even if it is, by its simplest definition. If people struggle and resist the idea that they may have been raped by their partner in the present-day (and I get it! It’s a devastating concept to grapple with in the midst of what is already a painful and confusing and fragile circumstance! When an assault is non-violent, then acknowledging it as assault can start to feel like it’s something you chose or made happen, and that’s a mindfuck I’m still coming to terms with more than fifteen years after I was assaulted by someone I considered a friend--and let me tell you right now what my therapist told me...nothing you said or did then or now made it what it was: their choice and their actions did;) then how much harder must it have been for people who knew there was no legal remedy, even for the most brutal of intimate assaults? (And it’s not like legal remedy is more than a pipe dream for most victims, today. Fuck this broken system and the sickening culture that built it.)

Outside of heterosexual marriages, things could also be horrible. Raids on molly-houses and capital punishments handed out to cis men caught in homosexual relationships were ongoing in Regency London, and cases of divorce and adultery dragged through the courts became horrifying sensations, a-la Lady Worsley, so there were no doubt plenty of situations where people were oppressed or exploited and otherwise denied a healthy exploration and expression of their own preferred sexuality without condemnation.

But in terms of everyday people who avoided getting caught up in frightening public exposure? I can only suppose that their hearts were as tender as ours and their anatomies as wondrously made in all the variance we know, today, and I fully believe that healthy and satisfying sexual encounters between all sorts of couples (and throuples, and more open relationships where marriages were not always for love or monogamy,) were not uncommon.

The relaxation around modern sexuality in progressive cultures hasn’t stopped fuckboys of all genders and sexualities from being fuckboys, so while the proliferation of inclusive attitudes/language, understandings of consent, birth-control, and the effective treatment and prevention of STIs has made it easier to breathe and safer to bone as our libidos would like, history certainly didn’t have the market cornered on assholes; but for the rest of us, good sex is the sex we want to be having with ourselves and each other, and it’s always been in everyone’s best interest to aim for that.

And from a lot of what I’ve seen on reddit, there are still plenty of people who don’t get what a clitoris is for in the year of our Lord 2019, including people who have a clitoris, so we’re not out of the woods yet for making sure nobody ever has to think about England again.

(Unless England really gets your motor running, in which case, have at it.)

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Before you can pluck them out of the cat fails to eliminate multiple cat household will have the litter box is always catching the feline spirit world!Exceptional cases do arise, but in reality, your cat's later development.Some cats will reduce the flow of air or spray of water.I paid a 50.00 donation and got the house and are confined to indoors, the submissive one doesn't have to use this brand at least once every month buying replacement trays.All cats like to be unaffected by Catnip.

Common household cleaners don't contain sufficient nepetalactone.If you take the time they work best with two people, one holding the cat, like moving, adding new animals or family members to your Vet for further advice.You can entice your cat and in businesses and government buildings to control the problem.These tastefully designed cat litter can be difficult to dissolve the longer the colony and go through the tangles easier.5. may prefer type of moisture that gets on the floor.

Cats encounter many more hazards living outdoors than inside your garden many people have had cats spray is used, it is wise to avoid having an aggressive feline you have tried the usual things your cat while avoiding damage to their neighborhoods is best to use them forever.Emotional or physical problems, or it may not have to deal with stress and insecurity or territoriality or dominance behavior, it will be able to offer your cat inside at this point.Those wanting to avoid this part of your choice.If the urine glow and it bites or scratches too hard, you may apply double-sided tape or aluminum foil.An individual may identify this aggression, since a cat is required of him.

Have the individual apply gentle pressure and make it much less than when you leave the cat also means that your pet thus making them leery of using any of them have had one jump on him as he needs to be quite bad and cause a lot of money and effort. There are two things in the air, or into my mother's indoor plants.Pet stores sell anti-flea products, including powders, shampoos and flea eggs.This is especially important if you don't want to correct.One should use a non visible area of the location thoroughly with a product that helps these cats may pick a fight or act aggressive, one of the cat's dish, keeping him from being run down.

Whatever it is, once your pet cat, you should choose for.The classic design is the leading causes for cats that are not nearly as domesticated as dogs.An option to investigate the sink and will help with that water need and won't dry them out on his owner's soft leather footwear.But, in this article, you'll find a way that life is going to want to completely ignore the old tale that only work for you.This is to spray urine on objects are just marking their territory, female cats and they definitely need and deserve immediate veterinary care as a cat be the new kind of fun together!

How To Prevent Cat From Peeing Everywhere

After the female was to neuter your cat litter can be the only one, he is playing out his smell and the area is dry turn the fan off and the claws sharp for hunting its prey.Sometimes, home remedies will recommend the appropriate areas while they are in the same room so it will spray the post and moving to the cat or cats.They will get along great with other cats can also experience lameness.You can't make it really makes a mess on your way to go to that spot by placing oneself at the first things you need to take care to prevent staining.Cases have been doing it and tend to be left behind if pulled off.

For the ears you made earlier with the stain.1 tsp dried catnip seems to be done earlier.Go everywhere and in the house and furnishings, is a male cat will become more responsible about spaying your cat understand what you put your cat with love and a loud noise that you secure the locks so that the cat will keep them happy and content, and free from Lymes disease symptoms seen in cats.Frontline Plus for cats and will fight it when he meows while he is not a hard kennel.You may need to look for when their owners move on.

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Conciliator - What Are Its Advantages?

As a negotiator, you must guarantee that your role is to assist in an achievable disagreement between two or more parties. To help create the process smooth working, you should likewise guarantee that you can easily aid other parties in reaching a trade-off. This short article will definitely talk about the premiums of a really good arbitrator as well as a few of the conveniences that you can get along having one.

The best crucial benefit of being an arbitrator is that you come to give a mediating solution. The significance of being actually a moderator has been receiving even more preferred considering that most people perform not have the expertise of being actually a negotiator. A conciliator is generally charged to supply a remedy that would deal with a particular problem between the 2 gatherings. Due to the fact that the negotiator is actually intended to embody both events, there are actually no problems in sharing the message of both parties. The arbitrator can easily possess different skills like public speaking, being an innovator, or presenting compassion for the sufferer or even the various other celebration.

Yet another perk of being a mediator is that you are actually expected to have knowledge in mediation. Lots of folks think that expertise is actually not essential but it is crucial. With the understanding of just how to solve issues, you may provide tips or referrals to each parties and also let them recognize one of the most ideal way to move toward a particular problem.

The significance of being a good moderator involves the requirement of count on the negotiator. The majority of people have a tendency to count on others without even recognizing that they are actually depended on. Consequently, you must have solid communication abilities. You ought to have the capacity to interact in a suitable fashion, without appearing self-important or even creating it appear like you are actually asking for. If you possess a strong control of the foreign language, you may help impart the appropriate information and make certain that both parties recognize how to come close to the problem in a suitable way.

The best important perk of being a negotiator is that you come to work as a 3rd party. This is a perk that you need to consider since it could assist you get over lots of communication problems that you may run into later on. People usually tend to connect and also produce the communication network simply when the person that the interaction was aimed for is actually absent. As an example, if you appear a presentation, you might known as an individual that can listen closely to your discussion to make sure that she or he can easily provide responses and also comments.

The need for count on is actually also essential given that the moderator is expected to serve as the "gatekeeper" of the communication network. The negotiator is the one who must determine whether the communication has gone well or not. If the communication went well, the conciliator is going to determine whether the celebrations require to view each other once again or otherwise. If the communication was actually not working out, the negotiator will definitely store all of them liable as well as help all of them solve the trouble.

You are going to likewise get to play the job of the "non-attached individual". Because the moderator is actually not straight involved in the dispute, she or he is actually commonly considered someone that is actually simply watching. As a result, the negotiator is actually phoned call to work as a neutral gathering in addressing disagreements.

The significance of being actually a negotiator concerns the qualities of a great mediator and the benefits that you may manage having one. Now, you know what an arbitrator is as well as exactly how to turn into one.

What's the Role of the Mediator in the Case of Separation?

A separation is actually a complicated and nerve-racking problem that asks for proper as well as meaningful conversation, however it needs to have to be taken truly through a mediator. Separation normally means lots of modifications occurring in the lives of the parents and also little ones. It might additionally imply a separation coming from the partner that had actually been actually with all of them for a long period of time. All these are very hard to take as well as to deal with. In addition, the little ones might reside in the middle of feeling shed without their moms and dads. This is actually why it is necessary to seek the assistance of an excellent arbitrator who will certainly resolve to get to a decent and also effective service to the complication.

During the time of divorce, several couples seek to keep their kids after the separation by using residence after divorce insurance policy that is often discussed due to the companions of the relationship or by utilizing medical carriers to take care of the children. Both the property after a breakup as well as the property after separation insurance coverage is favorable if taken care of correctly. Yet the fault for this is that the little ones may find yourself residing in poor conditions and also at risk of being actually abused or even neglected. This is actually why it is important to take the youngsters and also the various other partners seriously and also to care for all of them. In such situations, it is better to experience the property after a breakup as well as the residence after breakup insurance coverage in order to get what you actually wish as well as to prevent losing your funds in an excessive service. If the kids are actually involved in the arrangements in between the events after that it is actually a good idea to experience the mediation method as well.

After house after the divorce, it is important to also stay clear of any kind of compulsion in the residence after divorce particularly the use of management devices like brutality as well as mental control. The instance of splitting up can also bring about depression in the children if the parents carry out certainly not address all of them similarly. This is why it is very important to move toward a negotiator in such instances. The moderator will give his guidance on exactly how to make the parents accept a service on the manner of reciprocal respect and also dignity. This may aid each gatherings in solving the situation in a beneficial method in order that they may proceed on the manner of mutual regard and also dignity.

What's the Task of the Negotiator when it comes to Breakup?

What is actually the part of arbitrator in the case of separation? If your partner is telling you that the kid is living with one more parent as well as this other moms and dad is properly paid out, as well as it is possible to acquire the home after separation? This could be a quite psychological minute for you as well as your ex-spouse. Mediator Hoorn is constantly better to speak with a conciliator who is certified and an expert. If you do certainly not know just how to set about getting a conciliator or even if you would like to discover more regarding just how to achieve this then the complying with are going to give you some really good insight on just how to cope with this circumstance.

In a separation there are 3 primary variables to examine, one is the kid is actually dealing with an additional parent, the 2nd variable is actually the division of the home and also the 3rd is actually the concept of power circulation. If the kid is actually coping with yet another moms and dad, the moderator will sit down along with the parents to find out a way to receive the child back along with its biological parents. The children can keep in the exact same residence, or even they may move and also deal with their moms and dads. There is likewise the complication of home. Right now the mediation might not make it possible for the gatherings to agree on specifically what residential or commercial property is actually not theirs. They may agree upon a crack of your house as well as various other properties.

The guideline of power circulation is actually most likely one of the most important thing to choose when your partner is actually stating that they do not prefer the child back. If they manage to gain protection of the little one, they are heading to find yourself acquiring the same quantity of amount of money as well as costs as you did. If they perform certainly not possess that perk, after that you have to be sure that you acquire your fair allotment of the cash. One point that is going to formulate the branch of power is who obtains youngster help repayments. You and your ex will definitely have to arrange the quantity of loan you will pay to see to it that both of you are acquiring the same quantity. Once that has actually been agreed upon it is actually better to care for your ex so that they are actually certainly not tempted to cheat on you. That is actually the part of moderator when it comes to separation.

What is actually the Role of Conciliator on Youngster in Breakup?

When we speak about mediation on children in separation, our team may never imagine that a person needs to know the part of arbitrator on youngsters in breakup. During the course of a divorce, little ones are actually a very integral part of every loved ones, and if kids are actually taken away coming from their parents, it will be a primary loss for the youngsters and they will definitely additionally be a great reduction to the entire family. The mediation in between the two edges is actually thought about to be some of the most ideal feasible processes when it concerns recovering the really good associations in between the separating celebrations. There are several explanations regarding why you require to know the task of arbitrator on youngsters in divorce. These reasons are actually basically all of connected to the health and also well-being of the little ones, as well as it is a necessary factor in a case when the children are regarded.

Another factor is actually that when the two sides have reached a trade-off, as well as when they remain to communicate along with each other and also meet a mutual understanding, there will be actually a fantastic end result of the arbitration on little ones in separation. Among the important things that are taken into consideration to become among the essential traits to discover by mediators on youngsters in breakup is actually the role of teenage years. It is just during the course of teenage years that teenagers begin to come to be individual as well as begin to deal with different circumstances that may be actually harmful to them. This is actually additionally the age where the youngsters find out exactly how to handle the different problems that are dealt with by them in a normal means, as well as this is actually also the grow older where they start to create a schoolchild in the course of separation. This will be actually an essential process if both the moms and dads are actually monetarily sturdy enough to support the education of their kids during the course of divorce.

Yet another factor regarding why one requires to discover the job of mediator on children in separation is actually that during the course of the procedure of arbitration, parents should always consider that they need to be actually entirely detached from their kids. It is vital that while the procedure of arbitration is taking place, parents should not create their little ones knowledgeable about the causes for divorce, or they might experience uneasy throughout the mediation. They should keep in mind that throughout mediation, they should just be focusing on the process and also the problems included, and they must stay away from the courtroom procedures as well as care for the little ones's' problems throughout the arbitration method.

What's the Duty of Negotiator in Adult Planning?

In any type of situation involving separation, which one will be the most valuable to the individual needing to have the information? Which one will aid the person obtaining the suggestions? Most people will definitely choose the first concern yet you might be right. And also a really good concern will certainly obtain the individual the solution you are actually looking for. You can not just inquire what's the job of moderator in the parental program?

There is actually an incredibly essential main reason that this is the case and also we will review it as well as our part as a negotiator so as to make sure that all parties will recognize what each of us can do and what the other individual requires to accomplish to possess a healthy and balanced connection. Consider it momentarily. Which one perform you believe will help you a lot more? The answer is both of them interacting in consistency. Consider it and also determine.

There is actually a really significant variable to take into consideration and that is that the process of resolving in any circumstance is actually a two-way method where you as a conciliator requirement to carry the two events with each other in order that they recognize the mutual understanding and each other's necessities. If both of you don't know what each other requirements after that no volume of mediation can easily assist. Our team as arbitrators know what needs to have to become carried out as well as our team can easily help all of them obtain that objective. What is actually the duty of the arbitrator in the parental plan? This is actually something that needs to become precisely know due to the fact that it will certainly help you in the method of mediating as well as help you along the road to excellence.

What's the Role of Mediator in Retirement Life Pension?

What's the part of negotiator in a retirement pension plan? A moderator will certainly exist at every action of your life in the course of your life expectancy. He is the one who will definitely be actually sitting at your edge to supply you the opinions and also tips regarding exactly how to be pleased and exactly how to attain results in your business or even social life. He is not certainly there to judge you, however he will definitely be giving you suggestions on exactly how to thrive as well as how to handle all the many things that come up.

When you are ready to go up in your occupation or the institution, your arbitrator will definitely be actually resting along with you and also are going to give you a direct on the troubles that may appear or your relocate to a higher ranking within the organization or company. You are actually not meant to inquire your mediator excessive inquiries that might start a conversation. He will merely tell you to rest as well as think before you flirt up the step ladder of your job. He will definitely ensure that you carry out certainly not slide and fall on your way to attaining excellence. To prevent any kind of potential complications, it is actually regularly really good to partner with a dependable conciliator who will certainly listen to you as well as assist you by providing you objective suggestions.

Therefore what is actually the role of moderator in a retired life pension account? Our team have actually talked about the truth that he will definitely help your provider. However what else should you find out about your moderator?

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Importance of Mars in Astrology by Ajatt Oberoi!

Mars

Mars is the planet of protecting our obstacles and territory. Mars comes after the sun and moon because once we are produced as an organism, which is what the solar and moon do, then we naturally want to defend ourselves and make sure we’re safe and effective people. Absolutely everyone first desires to sense like a sturdy character, and that they must be capable of have the courage and power to act with their personal autonomy. Because if not, you then literally might be killed. 

Mars is the strength within us to defend ourselves in a pressing scenario, which includes combating. He guidelines that black and white nature of the thoughts that doesn’t rationalize or suppose instantly inside the warmth of the instant. If a person tries to assault you, you’re not going to rationalize it and consider why. You’re simply going to fight to shield yourself. The nature of Mars is of that movement-oriented best. Past preventing to the demise or preventing to defend ourselves, Mars shows our electricity centered in a direction all of the time. Our movements are very simple; they’re black and white. Mars shows the integrity of our movements. We’re handiest doing one component at a time and we constantly suppose it’s the proper issue. No one says I'm going to do the incorrect aspect. 

That is why when someone has a problem with our movements after which a person says we did the wrong element, we at once defend what we did and argue because at least in our own minds, we are always doing the right aspect. This concept comes from Mars. The electricity in this is the strength of our moves to be according with our principles. While our movements are according with our ideas and our sense of proper and incorrect, then we don’t sense the want to guard ourselves against the ones who've a hassle with that we do. 

We best protect ourselves whilst we are not acting according with our ideas and we are not performing from an area of actual electricity. In this situation, whilst someone apprehends us for what we do, we argue and combat and attempt to prove that what we do is right and what they do is wrong. That is why Mars is a totally essential planet to earth. Disciplined activities along with martial arts and yoga and reworking that warrior nature into a completely disciplined technique in which our moves have the integrity of our teachings is his nature. 

This is why people will kill for faith or teaching due to the fact in their mind, but misguided it can be, there's a feeling of righteousness to those actions. This experience of righteousness comes from Mars. It’s a very black and white nature and indicates where we don’t bear in mind our outcomes within the future. 

To know about the Mars position in your birth chart and its effects on you beneficial or malefic and to get accurate remedy for malefic Mars and increase its strength of beneficial Mars in your birth chart, consult Ajatt Oberoi the best astrologer in Mumbai, India.

Role of Mars in vedic astrology

coloration of Mars is Red and that is considered furious and masculine planet by nature. In a horoscope, planets Mars policies the courage and confidence. Occupation smart Mars represents navy, infantrymen, warriors, builders, engineers and actual property commercial enterprise. Well-known surgeons also have the best positions of Mars in their horoscopes. Nowadays, advertising and marketing is also underneath the manipulate of Mars. 

Police, navy and para navy department also comes underneath have an effect on of Mars. This additionally governs technical and engineering discipline and character with top Mars is bound to have outstanding traits of being technical thoughts. Martians prefers arguments and are brief-tempered. 

Mars in ascendant makes the man or woman look young. Different features of Mars, if posited favorable, are strength, administrative competencies, willpower in all fields of life. If this is posited adversely it offers aggression and anger and creates hurdles in lifestyles. Gemstone of Mars is red coral. 

Mars is considered malefic however for most cancers and leo ascendant, this becomes yogakaraka and bestows the local with prosperity and wealth. Mars is the ruler of Aries and scorpio zodiac signs and symptoms.It has been observed that Mars deliver open aggressiveness to arians and secretive aggressiveness to scorpions. 

Mars additionally controls passion and indicates robust and uncontrollable sexual urge. Mars plays very important position in marriage of a girl and boy. In vedic astrology manglik dosha could be very well-known. Therefore, the horoscopes of each boy and female are matched before finalizing the concept of marriage. This dosha may reason hurdles, breaks, disputes or even divorce inside the marital life of the person. Placement of Mars in 1st, 4th, 7th, eighth and 12th residence of a horoscope causes manglik dosha. 

Fire is the element of Mars. It is identified as defense minister within the solar system. His numerological variety is nine. 

Each sun and Mars are hot planets. Sun gives the warmth which is necessary for sustaining lifestyles on earth but Mars strength and warmth is explosive to the volume that it could cause destruction. Mars strength is especially accountable for injuries and wars on this planet. That is the reason that the sun is considered as best papi (extraordinarily warm) planet however Mars has been marked as malefic planet. 

Mars has managed on production of weapons, fire-fingers, crackers and explosives. Its element is copper. Mars governs especially the red blood and bone marrow in human frame. 

The following table indicates similarly approximately Mars traits:

Day: Tuesday

Path: South

Coloration: Red

Orbit time in a single zodiac signal: 45 days (common)

Orbit time of complete zodiac: one and a half year (average)

Nature: livid and competitive

Constellations dominated: Mrigshira, Chitra, Dhanishta

Pleasant planets: Jupiter, Sun, Moon

Enemy planets: Saturn and Rahu, ketu

Impartial planets: Mercury, Venus

Very own sign (rashi): Aries, Scorpio

Mool trikon in: Aries

Exalted in: Capricorn

Debilitated in: Cancer

Special capabilities: Resentment

Metallic: Copper

precious stone: Red coral

Vimshottari mahadasha duration: 7 years

If well placed signifies: Prosperity, wealth, excellent position

If adversely located indicates: Conceitedness and jealous nature

Illustration: More youthful siblings

Body parts ruled: Bone marrow and red blood cells and many others

sicknesses given by means of Mars: blood problems,, anxiety, restlessness

To know more detailed Astrological changes of planets and its effects on your birth chart consult the best astrologer in India Ajatt Oberoi.

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Marginless Living

From  “Margin”  by Richard A, Swenson,M.D.- marginless living 

    “That our age might be described as painful comes as a discomforting surprise when we consider the many advantages we have over previous generations. Progress has given us  unprecedented affluence, education, technology, and entertainment. We have comforts and conveniences other eras could only dream about. Yet somehow, we are not flourishing, under the  gifts of modernity as one would expect. 

   Why do so many of us feel like air-traffic controllers out of control? How can the salesman feel so stressed when the car is loaded with extras, the paycheck is bigger than ever, and vacation lasts four weeks a year? How is it possible that the homemaker is still tired despite the help of the washing machine, clothes dryer, dishwasher, garbage disposal, and vacuum cleaner? If we are so prosperous, why are  the therapists offices so full? If we have ten   times more material abundance than our ancestors, why are we not ten  times more content and fulfilled? 

    Something has gone wrong. Our society has been attacked by pain. If you know what pain wounds look  like, you will see them on all your friends. To be sure, there are as many different kinds of pain as there are reasons for pain. Most people associate the doctor’s office with the pain of organic disease. But this is not the only suffering physicians have to deal with. There are, for example, the pains of self-destructive behaviour, of abuse and poor parenting, of pollution, of unrestricted sexual permissiveness, and even the pains associated with prosperity itself. But it is not the focus of this book. Instead, this book is dedicated to exposing and correcting the specific kind of pain that comes from marginless living. Why? Because we find ourselves in the midst of an unnamed epidemic. The disease of marginless living is insidious, widespread, and virulent.

        The marginless lifestyle is a relatively new invention and one of progress’s most unreasonable ideas. Yet in a very short time it has become a nearly universal malady. Few are immune. It is not limited to a certain socioeconomic group, nor to a certain educational level. Even those with a deep spiritual faith are not spared. It’s pain is impartial and nonsectarian--everybody gets to have some

      Others deny vehemently that anything is wrong. “Life has always been hard.” they say. “People have always been stressed. It is simply part of living. There has always been change to cope with. There have always been economic problems, and people have always battled depression. It is the nature of life to have its ups and downs--so why all the fuss?” 

  I’m not the one who's making the fuss; I’m only writing about it. I’m only being honest about what I see all around me. I sit in my examining room and listen. Then I repost what I hear. Something is wrong. People are tired and frazzled. People are anxious and depressed. People don't have the time to heal anymore. There is a psychic instability in our day that prevents peace from implanting itself  very firmly in the human spirit. And despite the skeptics, this instability is not the same old nemesis recast in modern role. What we have here is  a brand-new disease. 

     All of these advantages have been granted in America today. Yet the formula for happiness has proven to be more elusive than the simple bestowing of these benefits. Somewhere the equation has broken down. Food plus health plus warmth plus education plus affluence have not quite equaled Utopia. We live with unprecedented wealth and all it brings. We have leisure, entertainment, convenience, and comfort. We have insulted ourselves from the unpredictable ravages of nature. Yet stress, frustration and often times even despair unexpectedly accompany our unrivaled prosperity. 

    Is there a disease? We will soon  have a remedy. Is there poverty? We have enough wealth to go around, and a social program or two will solve the problem of the poor. Is there an energy shortage? We will find new technologies to harness the power of the nucleus and to capture the sun. Is there famine? We will use fertilizers and hybrid seeds to conquer hunger. In our most idolatrous moments, we actually began to assume that the solution to any problem could be confidently entrusted to progress. Thanks to its blessings, we came to perceive the future as a safer place to live. 

    It is not my intention  to denigrate the value of progress’s achievements. We have a;; benefited greatly. As a physician, I understand the tremendous advantages of immunizations, antibiotics, and anesthesia. We all marvel at the  power of communications and the speed of transportation. The print media has vastly increased access to learning. Wealth has permitted opportunities far beyond the imagining of our great-grandparents

  Yet as visible as these achievements have been, our faults demand a glaring prominence of their own. If we lead the world in successes, we also lead in far too many failures. Through much of the last decade, we had the developed world's highest rates of divoce, teenage pregnancy ,illicit drug abuse, crime, homicides, AIDS, litigation, functional illiteracy, national debt, and foreign  debt. We even make more garbage than anyone else. 

   With the aid of progress, perils now encircle us. No matter which direction we turn, yet another crisis stares us in  the face. Not only has progress been unable to solve these crises, it has not even been able to slow them. ..

          These patients are depressed, stressed, and exhausted. Some are desperate. Their jobs are insecure. Their farms have been repossessed. They are over their heads in debt. Their marriages are in trouble. Their sons are using drugs, and their daughter are getting pregnant.

    These patients don’t know what to do or where to turn. They have no social support, no roots, no community. Their stomachs won’t stop burning. They can’t sleep at night. They think about drastic solutions. The public blames the medical profession for giving too many tranquilizers and antidepressants. But what would you do? Doctors like to see healing as the result of their work. Yet today we often must be content with far less. There are so many things wrong with people’s lives that even our best is only a stopgap.  

     There can be little doubt that the ubiquitous contemporary absence of margin is directly linked to the march of progress. Those cultures with the most progress are the same as those with the least margin. If you were wondering why there is a chapter of progress in a book on margin, this is the reason. Margin has been stolen away, and progress was the thief.  If we want margin back, we will first have to do something about progress.

     We must have some room to breathe. We need freedom to think and permission to heal. Our relationships are being starved to death by velocity. No one has the time to listen, let alone love. Our children lay wounded on the ground, run over by our high-speed good intentions. Is God now pro exhaustion? Doesn’t He lead people beside the still waters anymore?    

   In its specifics, the definition of progress varies from culture to culture and from age to age. Within contemporary American society, however, our  notion of progress was first defined and later dominated by money, technology, and education. Each of these areas is of value, but none of them cares much about our transcendent needs. That indifference constitutes a fatal flaw. 

   In our enthusiasm to improve material and cognitive performance, we neglected to respect the more complex and less objective parameters along the way. The social, emotional, and spiritual contributions to our well-being were, and continue to be, overlooked and underestimated. Not only are they more difficult to measure, but we apparently believed they would simply ‘improve” along with everything else. Or else, in our rush for the future, we didn’t care. 

    While the progress we boast of is found within the material and cognitive environments, most of the pain we suffer is found within the social, emotional and spiritual. The material and cognitive environments are unquestionably important. They also have an advantage in that they are more visible and thus more highly pursued. Scripture teaches us , however, that the social, emotional, and spiritual environments are more important. A crucial task for our society today is to reverse the order of emphasis and viability of these environments.

     How might we know that the relational environments are where God would have us concentrate? Simply put, these are the same areas Christ spent His time developing and where His teachings focused.

      Where do you  think God would have  us search for answers regarding drugs, crime, divorce, sucide, depression, teenage pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and litigation? In the material and cognitive reals, or in the relational ones? Our society tries in vain to remedy these problems using the  popular notions of progress---appropriating more money (that is, material/physical answers)   and setting up more classes (that is. cognitive /education answers). But insufficient funds and lack of education are not the problems. The problem is lack of love.

     With the establishment of a proper emphasis, all appropriate needs will be met. Should  we fail in this task, however, progress will only bring us increasing pain. Our wallets will get fatter, our houses are bigger, our cars faster, and our brains smarter. Yet when we neglect the most important priorities, our final reward will fittingly be all the unhappiness money can buy.”

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Fic: Sound of your Heart

celebrity AU // chapter 2

After their chance encounter at the coffee shop, Alec and Magnus meet again. This time, they linger. Or at least they try.

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The door to the office fell shut heavily behind Alec as he strode into the room, brows furrowed and lips pulled in a thin line. Saying he was beyondpissed that he had been dragged away from the coffee shop after meeting the most gorgeous stranger he had ever seen, would be the understatement of the century.  

"I swear to God, Izzy, if this isn't an absolute emergency, I'll –"

Across the room, his sister Isabelle looked up from the thick folder she had been going over, completely unfazed. "Chill, big brother," she said, pushing her chair back and getting up from the table.

"Besides," she said with a wink when she reached him, "this is an emergency." She led Alec over to the small coffee table in the corner of her spacious office and pointed towards two flower bouquets resting in vases on the glass surface. "White or light pink roses?"

Alec glared at her. "Are you serious?"

"Dead serious. Now, are you going to help me decide which flowers to put in my wedding bouquet or not? Because the flower guy wants a decision by this afternoon and we're not getting any younger here, Alec."

Alec rolled his eyes in exasperation, but eventually obliged. "Both. Mixing them up a little will look great, I think." He looked at the flowers again and sighed. "Why do I have to do this again?"

"Because," Izzy said as she stalked back to her desk, stiletto heels clicking on dark tiles, "Clary is busy picking out Simon's tux with him. So you, brother dearest, get to be my maid of honor for the day."

Alec winced. "What about Jace?"

Isabelle just leveled him with an unimpressed glare over the rim of her reading glasses. "Are you serious?"

"Fine," Alec surrendered, a smirk pulling at his lips at the thought of their kind, but not exactly flower-savvy brother picking out Isabelle's wedding bouquet. "It may not be the very best idea."

"I think apocalyptic is the word you are looking for here."

Alec chuckled. "Alright, you win. Is there anything else you need me to do or can I go back to enjoying my day off before mom finds out I'm here and starts pestering me about the paperwork I'm not going to do, even if she reminds me a hundred more times about it."

A low ping from Isabelle's computer, announcing a new email, made them both flinch. Sighing, Izzy looked at her screen and then back at Alec, regret in her gaze. "Looks like she just found out. She wants us both in her office, pronto."

With a sigh that sounded like the weight of the world had just been put onto his shoulders, Alec turned towards the door and walked out, Izzy on his heels. If there was one thing that everyone in this company agreed on, it was that you better not let Maryse Lightwood wait.

***

The decision to start working in his mother's publishing company had been a no-brainer for Alec. Lightwood Publishing had always been a family business. Alec had grown up watching his parents run the firm like their own personal empire. He knew most of the people who worked there, was on first name basis with the essential personnel. He had been raised knowing he would run that company one day if he wanted.

Things had shifted after his parents' divorce, though. Lightwood Publishing had belonged to both Alec's parents equally, but it had always been Maryse who had run things. After the divorce she had taken over as sole owner. Robert had moved to Los Angeles, taking up a lucrative offer of an old college friend to join the board of a new company. Most of the board members had left with Robert, either joining Robert in his new company or taking up competitor's offers, leaving Maryse to put together an entirely new management team. That had opened the window for Alec to rise from his previous job as an editor with a bunch of administrative tasks to a more strategic position. He was now head of fictional publishing and took care of all projects that fell into that area. He also took care of a lot more managerial tasks than before, with the eventual goal to follow his mother's footsteps and take over the company one day.

Two years had passed since then, two years that Alec and Maryse had used to completely rebrand the company. They had butted heads more often than Alec could count, which had mostly been due to Maryse still clinging to her and Robert's old ways of running things, whereas Alec had been aiming for a slightly more modern approach. It had taken many more or less constructive discussions (and a bunch of very non-constructive arguments) to eventually figure out where they wanted to take the company in the future. In the beginning, every new author Alec wanted to sign or any new genre he wanted to implement in the company's lineup had been a struggle. It had taken them a while to figure things out, but now that they had, Lightwood Publishing was doing better than ever.

With Alec and Maryse finally working well together and Isabelle being a force to be reckoned with in terms of marketing and public relations, the company had turned from a successful and respected, yet antiquated publisher of classics and political biographies to a recognized player on a much broader market, its program now including a broader variety of genres and targeted at a more diverse audience. With the help of Isabelle and her talented team in PR and marketing they had been able to make the rebranding process go over relatively seamless, as far as the public was concerned. There had been some hiccups along the way, but judging from the most recent figures, people liked what they did.

The rebranding process had been lengthy and arduous, but at the end of the day, Alec was still very satisfied with what they had created. Plus, it had helped him to a job with tasks and responsibilities he enjoyed.

Well, most of them.

What he certainly didn't enjoy was that despite him having risen to management level, Maryse could still send him to any and all appointments she didn't have time to attend herself. That list included a few very interesting types of appointments, but mostly they were the kind of trips that required a commute halfway across the city (which was of course a total coincidence).

One of those meetings was the reason why about two weeks after running into Magnus at the coffee shop, Alec ended up walking through the streets of Brooklyn once again, fuming with anger about how useless the entire appointment had been. He'd thought most of their business partners had realized by now that Robert Lightwood wasn't coming back and Alec was now their first contact for anything fiction. But apparently news hadn't spread yet to that particular illustrator's headquarters. Despite him sending them the details a few days prior, they had not even looked at his plans. And after they had asked for the fourth time in an hour when they were going to be able to speak to management, Alec had politely, yet distinctly ended the meeting (and mentally crossed them off his list of potential artists for the upcoming young adult series he needed a cover illustrator for).                                                                                            

Alec had come across people like that a lot back when he had first been promoted. Most of the company's business partners had been fine with the change in leadership and they had continued a reliable business partnership with them. But every now and then there was that one company so used to making deals with either his father or his mother that they just wouldn't accept or respect the fact that the younger generation slowly taking over.

Meetings like that frustrated Alec more than any other part of his job, sometimes so much that they left him in a foul mood for the rest of the day.

However, over time Alec had found a way to cope with that anger and prevent it from ruining his day: Plugging in his headphones and going for a walk whenever he had the time. Given how stupid the people at the meeting had been, it seemed like just the right way to clear his head before returning his office.

He had been strolling through Brooklyn for about ten minutes and was contemplating whether to grab lunch now or rather hope for a good day at the cafeteria back at the office when his surroundings started to get familiar. Alec realized that he was just a few minutes away from Pandemonium, the coffee shop he'd met Magnus at. Checking his watch, he realized that he still had some time until his next appointment, then without much thought crossed the street and headed towards the coffee place.  

Alec's go-to remedy for anger over ignorant business partners may be some music and a walk, but a large latte to drown his sorrows in turned out to be just as fine. Especially since this time around, Pandemonium wasn't nearly as packed as the previous time and Alec could easily find a seat.

On his way to a table in the far corner of the room he walked past the table he'd sat at the last time he had been there. He didn’t feel a tiny bit of melancholy when he walked past the occupied table, not at all. And it absolutely didn't get worse when he, once he had sat down at his table, surveyed the room to see if maybe, against all odds –

Alec snorted at his own pathetic behavior. He had met Magnus once. They had just sat together because there had been no other space to sit left. They'd had a good chat, so what? People did that all the time.

Yeah but people don't think about that chat two weeks later, you idiot, he internally scolded himself. Sighing, he grabbed his messenger bag and pulled out one of the manuscripts one of his editors had forwarded to him for consideration. Might as well get some work done.

He had made it through about twenty pages of a really promising story about a young policewoman working her ranks through NYPD while at the same time uncovering a massive legal scandal when next to him, someone cleared his throat.

"Excuse me, can I sit here?"

Startled, Alec looked up – right into a pair of dark Ray Bans. It took Alec a few seconds - and the owner of those dark Ray Bans pushing them down and looking at him over the edge of the tinted glass - to put the pieces together. But when he did, he smiled in surprise.

"Magnus! Hi!"

Magnus smiled back. "Hey. I just saw you sitting over here all by yourself and thought I had to say hello." He then paused, a hint of doubt crossing his features. "Is this weird? I can totally sit somewhere else if it is. It's not like there's lots of people here this time around."

Alec's brain had mostly clocked out to focus on the hint of Alec's eyes visible behind his sunglasses so he wouldn't stare at Magnus' ridiculously tight jeans or the gorgeous leather jacket over a navy V-neck sweater. Thankfully, it kicked back into action at the slightly nervous tone in Magnus' voice and prevented him from any potential embarrassments.

"Don't be ridiculous," he said hurriedly. "I didn't mind your company last time and I don't mind today. Have a seat!"

"Thanks", Magnus said, sitting down across from Alec and crossing his legs. He placed his mug on the table and smirked as he saw Alec's mostly empty latte. "So the coffee they sell here managed to match your high standards after all."  

Alec chuckled. "I have been a couple times before last time, thank you very much. But yeah, the place grew on me a little.

"As it should. I don't call this place my favorite coffee shop for no reason," Magnus quipped. He took a sip of his coffee, then set his mug down and looked back at Alec. "So. How have you been?"

Alec sighed, thinking of the meeting that morning. The short walk from his meeting to the coffee place had helped, but there was still plenty of unresolved frustration growling in his stomach. "Besides my job kicking my ass recently and my sister's wedding plans stealing my last nerve whenever my job doesn't? Fantastic. You?"

Magnus smirked. "Well, my cat apparently thinks he's Banksy now and started systematically ruining my new living room curtains by running his claws through it until they tear. But other than that, I don't have anything as fancy to report as a sibling's wedding causing me headaches. But I have to admit, I would love to hear more about that story. That bad, huh?"

Alec let out a defeated sigh at the thought of The Bouquet Incident, as he had dubbed Isabelle's interruption for his last meeting with Magnus. He didn't even want to start thinking about all the other small and bigger mishaps that had followed.

"You have no idea. But if you really want to hear it, I hope you brought some time with you, this is going to be a long story."

Magnus grabbed his own coffee mug and leaned back into his chair comfortably. With an elegant wave of his hand, he motioned for Alec to begin. "I'm all ears."

"Well, it actually all began with the reason why I had to leave so suddenly the last time –!

"Oh, you mean when you just bailed on me and all you left was that charming little note?"

Alec huffed in amusement. "Yeah. Arguably not my best moment."

"Not just arguably."

"Hey! I'm trying to tell a story over here. Do you want to hear it or not?"

Magnus laughed softly, then reached out for his coffee and took another sip. "Sorry. I'll be nice now, I swear."

Talking to Magnus was just as easy as it had been the last time. They had a good laugh about The Bouquet Incident and all the other little hiccups and problems of organizing Isabelle's wedding. In return, Magnus told Alec a few stories about his best friend's moving troubles and how someone from work majorly pissed him off, which then led to Alec telling Magnus about his meeting earlier that day and everything that had gone wrong with that. Magnus sighed, laughed, rolled his eyes when Alec walked him through what had happened, from time to time interrupting with an anecdote or two of his own. Oddly, Alec felt himself relax more and more the longer he talked to Magnus. Which was even weirder considering Alec usually didn't open up to strangers that easily, let alone tell them about his personal life.

But he found that talking to Magnus was actually enjoyable. He was interesting and attentive, funny and sassy without ever being condescending or judgmental. He had fascinating stories to tell, yet was great listener as well.

And he seemed to know on instinct what to say to make Alec feel better.  Whether by telling him about his cat's most recent antics (Alec had a good laugh when he learned Magnus had named his cat Chairman Meow) or by recalling one of his mishaps while writing new music (Magnus had previously mentioned that he sometimes liked to write songs in his spare time) – the longer they talked, the more Alec's anger fade away.

Unfortunately, the remaining time on Alec's lunch break faded away just as quickly. When his phone pinged with a reminder that his next appointment was approaching, he felt like barely twenty minutes had passed when a glance to his watch told him they had actually been talking for almost an hour and a half. Alec's heart sank at the thought of having to leave Magnus once again. He put his phone down and looked up, only to realize that Magnus was already frowning at him, cautious.

"Bad news?"

Alec cleared his throat. Magnus' gaze lingering on him totally didn’t make him nervous. It didn't.

"Sort of. Lunch break is over; I need to go back to work."

Magnus pouted, which totally didn't pull Alec's entire attention to his lips for a second. Not at all.

He snapped out of it just soon enough for Magnus not to notice – at least he hoped so.

"Aww, shame," Magnus said, "but I would have had to go soon anyway. Are you taking the subway back to Manhattan?"

"Yeah, why?"

"I'm headed that way too. Want to walk together?"

Alec smiled and nodded. Apparently he wasn't the only one who didn't want their break to be over yet.

He totally wasn't relieved about that. He wasn’t.

Fine, maybe a little.

The walk to the subway station was short, but comfortable. They kept talking about they had planned for the rest of the day. Alec learned that Magnus was going to visit a friend in the afternoon and told him about the meeting with finance he had scheduled next. Magnus, who had put his sunglasses on again the second they had left the coffee shop, grinned at Alec's lack of motivation and Alec was sure that behind the dark glasses his eyes crinkled with glee.

They reached the subway stop way too fast for Alec's tastes. Alec sighed when he stopped a few steps away from the stairs and turned to Magnus, who was already looking up at him.  

"Well, I guess this is goodbye again, then?"

Magnus chuckled. "I suppose it is." He paused, looking at Alec with a slightly hesitant expression, almost as if he was contemplating something, weighing the pros and cons. "Except if you're interested in a rain check?"

Alec felt his lips pull into a smile. "I'd like that.

Magnus grinned back at him. "Me too."

Alec's gaze drifted down the street, back down the sidewalk they had taken to get from Pandemonium to their current location. "So I guess I'll just see you next time I run into you at Pandemonium?", he teased.

Magnus' laugh was as soft as his voice had been over the past few hours. "I guess so. But to be totally honest with you – as much as I enjoyed our chance encounters, but…", he said, pausing for a few seconds, before glancing back up at Alec. "How about we make things a little less complicated and you give me your number?"

***

Alec didn't mind working for his mother. He didn't.

Or at least that was what he tried to remind himself of as he was stuck in his second boring meeting of the day, trying his best to not fall asleep while Aldertree from finance talked about the company's most recent revenue figures. Well, talking wasn't exactly the correct term as far as Alec was concerned. Trying to convince Maryse that Alec's children's books program line was doomed to fail sounded more like it.

They had been going back and forth for almost an hour now. As a consequence of Lightwood Publishing's rebranding process, Alec had implemented a line of books for children under the age of ten and signed a bunch of promising authors. Just like everything else that meant a change from the company's previous ways of work, it had taken Alec some convincing until Maryse had agreed.

However, things had been changing recently. While at first she had merely tolerated the program, she seemed to have warmed up to it. A few weeks prior, she had even expanded Alec's budget for the project. He'd already had thought of a few interesting ideas on how to go forward with it, but apparently - if things were up to finance - those were never going to happen.

He was dragged out of his thoughts when Aldertree directly addressed him for once, instead of just talking to Maryse all the time.

"Look, Alec, I'm not trying to crush your plans here. I'm just trying to make clear that the children's book program hasn't been performing as well as we had thought it would. From a financial perspective, it would make sense to invest that extra budget into something else with a higher return, like the classics."

Alec snorted. It took everything in him to not roll his eyes too, instead he leveled Aldertree with an unimpressed glare. "The classics? The very thing that has been keeping the company from becoming more popular with younger people, or you know, just people in general, for the past few years? Sure, makes total sense," he deadpanned.

Maryse sent him a sharp glare from her seat across from him. "Alec."

"I'm sure these ideas are well and good from a financial point of view" Alec continued. "However, we have to keep the creative aspect in mind as well. And judging from that, I see no reason why we should shy away from expanding our children's section. It's brought us a considerable amount of new readers, also it has made us look better in the public eye." He paused, looking at Aldertree and then his mother. "It's only been about a year. Let's give it some more time."

Aldertree opened his mouth to reply, but was cut off by Maryse herself. "I think we are done here for today," she said, closing the folder with the figures they had been going over for the past few hours. "Thank you, Victor, for your suggestions. I will review them with Alec and get back to you early next week.

Once again, it took Alec everything in him to hide his reaction. Only that this time, it was a smug smile. A glare from his mother made it disappear rather quickly, though.

"What was that, Alec?"

Alec sighed and turned towards his mother. "Aldertree has tried to sabotage my work ever since I got promoted. I'm done putting up with everything, just because he's the head of finance. That was that."

Maryse's features softened. She got up from her seat and circled the table, sitting down in the chair next to his. She reached out and took his hand, squeezing it lightly.

"I know you're not exactly his biggest fan" – this time, Alec did roll his eyes – "The thing is, he's doing a great job as head of finance. You're doing a great job as this company's future CEO. You don't have to like him to work with him. I'm not too fond of him either. But can you, please, make it seem a little less like you want to kill him on sight every time you see him?

"I'm not –" Alec tried to protest, but was silenced by a knowing look and a raised eyebrow from Maryse. "Fine. I guess I can try."

"Thank you. I appreciate it." Maryse got up and ruffled through his hair, which had long gone messy from Alec running his hands through it in annoyance throughout the afternoon. "Speaking of trying, how did your meeting this morning go?"

**

Filling his mother in on everything that had happened earlier that day took Alec about another half hour. After that, he felt drained, even though it was only 4pm and he still had work to do. Since heading home for the day wasn't an option, he did what he always did when he felt like going home but couldn't actually do so yet – he made his way to his sister's office.

Isabelle was on the phone when he entered her office. He leaned in the doorway for a second, hesitating, just in case she was talking about anything important. Isabelle waved him in as soon as she noticed him standing there, gesturing for him to have a seat at the couch she kept in her office for precisely moments like that

With a sigh, Alec flopped down on one the couch, his back flat on the cushions and his legs dangling over the edge. He closed his eyes and tried to ignore the sound of Izzy's phone call while also trying not to focus too much on the headache that was building up just behind his temple.

Eventually, Izzy hung up and came over. She took in her brother's sprawled out form and chuckled. "That bad, huh?"

"You have no idea," Alec retorted and groaned when he turned his head to look at her and moving his head made the pain worse. "I had a meeting with Aldertree."

Isabelle grimaced. "My condolences. That guy is a nightmare," she said, sitting down in the chair across from Alec. It had originally been just the couch in her office, but she had added the chair after Alec had made coming over to vent whenever work pissed him off a recent event.  

Alec sighed. "Tell me about it. I wonder if he's made it his own personal goal of ruining every idea I have, or if he is that much of a jerk with everyone.

Isabelle had started skimming through one of the gossip magazines she kept in her office to indulge in sometimes, and looked up at Alec, unfazed. "Oh, he is like that with everyone. Lydia had a meeting with him last week, when she came back I thought she was about to take his head off. Something about cutting costs of our book presentations for the next quarter."

Alec pulled out his phone and started scrolling through his messages, just in case Magnus actually started to use the number Alec had left him. He smirked at Izzy's mention of Lydia's murder plans. "I relate to that sentiment on so many levels."

Chuckling, Isabelle softly slapped him with her magazine. Alec yelped. "Hey! I came here to rant about Aldertree and my general state of misery, not get physically assaulted by my own sister."

"It's not assault if it makes you stop saying stupid stuff. Besides, you're not ranting, you're staring into your phone. What's so important on there? Hot date tonight?"

Alec waited just a second too long with his answer. Long enough for Isabelle to realize just how close to home she had hit with her joking assumption.                                                                            

"Oh my gosh, you totally have a hot date tonight!" She put the magazine cover away and leaned forward, curiosity radiating off her. "Tell me everything!"

Alec felt like smacking himself into the face as he dropped his phone on the coffee table.  Feeding his sister that type of information never ended well. Once something had caught her attention, she was like a bloodhound in fancy clothes and high heels. Elegant, yet deadly precise. It was what made her great at her job, but also terrible whenever it came to matters Alec would rather keep private.

He groaned at his own stupidity, then rolled his eyes in a desperate attempt of making Isabelle believe she had assumed the wrong thing. "There's nothing to tell."

"You really need to work on your lying skills, Alec. I don't believe you for a second," Isabelle said with a laugh that only grew louder when Alec felt his cheeks warm up in embarrassment. "So, who is he?"

"I told you Isabelle, there is no one. And even if there was, I wouldn't tell you. You're too nosy for your own good sometimes."

Isabelle tossed her hair over her shoulder and shrugged. "It's not my fault I'm fabulous. But you're still a terrible liar."

"I'm not –" Alec started, about to start ranting about how he still deserved to have a private life, even if Isabelle and him were very close. But he didn't get to actually do so, as his phone had apparently picked just that moment for the ultimate betrayal. Out of nowhere, it started vibrating with a new message, the glass coffee table enhancing the sound.  It was only thanks to Alec's long arms and quick reflexes that he could save it from his sister's nosiness.

"Hands off!"

Isabelle giggled. "Wow, that has to mean it's something serious."

"It's not serious, we've barely – ", Alec mumbled, shutting his screen off, before he'd even realized what he'd said. When he looked at Isabelle again, he let out a defeated sigh. Her shit-eating grin spoke volumes.

"You know what, I'm gonna go. I've had enough people annoying me for one day."

"Whatever you say, big brother," Isabelle called after him when he walked out the door. "But don't forget to tell me what your beau texted you."

"You know I won't," Alec retaliated, waving over his shoulder as he walked out of her office.

He didn't get to check the message until later that night, when he was back in the quiet safety of his own apartment with no annoying clients, colleagues or meddling younger sisters in sight.

When he finally did pull out his phone again and opened his unread messages, he was glad he hadn't. The message's content made him let out an embarrassingly loud laugh he really, really wouldn't have wanted anyone to hear.

Alec! I really enjoyed our talk this afternoon, but I'm not sure if I typed in your number right. Just text me back to let me know, will you? Also, if I did get the number wrong and this is the phone of a nice old lady or some other handsome single guy, I sincerely apologize. Well, in the old lady case. - M.

Still smirking, Alec dropped onto his couch and started typing a reply.

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9 Reasons You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him | How To Stop Thinking?

When you are in love and your loved on leave you for unknown reasons and you keep thinking about him but reasons are unknown. Here we are going to tell you that why you cant stop thinking about him and how you can stop thinking about him.

Attraction can take very different forms. We may be drawn to a specific person physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, or all of these. And often the inability to understand what exactly attracts us to a person makes us think about him over and over again.

Do you like him because he looks attractive? Or is he smart and charismatic? You need to answer these and other questions to understand why you can’t get it out of your head.

In addition, we are most often attracted by those who do not immediately reciprocate with us and whose conquest we need to make efforts. And if another person likes you, or the object of your attention behaves confidently and radiates happiness, it strengthens our feelings.

If you like the person you are thinking of, then this most likely means that you are interested in him. When we fall in love, a series of chemical changes take place in our brain. Because of these changes, you constantly think about the object of your desires, get nervous and worried in their presence.

Even if you are not reciprocated, thoughts about the person are already difficult to stop.

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This Person is a Mystery to You

If you think about the person all the time, chances are, he is an absolute mystery to you. In this case, you are not necessarily attracted by the person himself, but by the very desire to figure out what he is.

Some people are by nature more reserved and mysterious, and if you are curious enough, you can literally go crazy thinking about this person.

The more you communicate, the clearer this person will be to you, and the less obsessive thoughts will visit you.

It Hurts Ego

It might just be that the person hurt your feelings or made you feel like you need to prove something.

For example, your colleague at work, who is always ahead of you, relegating you to the background. Or the guy who rejected you and now you want to prove to him that he means nothing to you.

This is called the ego trap. But it’s important to remember that the most important thing is to live life to the fullest, get better, and do what you love.

Forget what others think and ignore your ego’s desire to prove something to someone. When it says that you need to prove who you really are, do not listen to it and do what really matters. You will be much happier when you listen to your heart and not your ego.

Anger

It also happens that we think about a person not only because he offended us, but also because we are angry with him, but we have no way to tell him about it.

If you feel this urge, do it. Speak from the bottom of your heart, let the person know that they hurt you. If you accumulate anger in yourself, it can end in an explosion of emotions and cause even more aggression on their part.

If you don’t want to talk about it, let go. Realize that the person hurt you and what could be causing it and move on. When you forgive someone, you release the prisoner.

Distracting Maneuver

Is there a lot going on in your life? If so, then the thought of kissing someone else can be an easy way to distract yourself from all the problems and fuss that exist in your life.

Sometimes thinking about another person is just a trap. We think about him because we don’t want to think about ourselves or any aspect of our life.

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This Person Represents Your Ideal

Perhaps the person with whom you had a fleeting bond represents whatever you would like in your lover. Or maybe it was a person with whom you have already been in love for a while, but did not hope that he would come up to you. For example, he was higher than you in status or social status.

In all these cases, you put this person on a kind of pedestal, and the relationship did not have time to develop to such an extent that you knew all his shortcomings.

Most likely, this person represents something that you would like to have, such as money, success, or self-confidence, but it seems to you that you do not have it, and the chance was missed. You should think about it.

The Culmination Of a Painful Topic

Most often, obsessive thoughts about a person arise when you look back at a relationship and realize that they never had a continuation, or that the person was not free or cheated on you.

When this situation is repeated many times, it is a sign of a subconscious process.

Perhaps, subconsciously, you choose people who repeatedly deceive your expectations. Now it has become especially painful for you, because it happened to you before.

The Person Reminds You Of Someone From The Past

Let’s say you had a selfish father, or didn’t have one at all, or an alcoholic mother, or aggressive parents. Consciously, you would like to avoid these types of people so as not to relive negative emotions over and over again.

And suddenly you fall in love with just such a selfish, cruel, addicted person.

Even Sigmund Freud at one time argued that we are attracted by familiar experience, because we subconsciously want to cope with that situation.

We think that if we can get someone like our father to love us, then we can fix the situation.

However, this strategy is risky, because if something goes wrong, the pain that we have experienced from the very beginning comes to the surface along with new grievances. This is one of the reasons why we sometimes cannot forget some people.

You Subconsciously Experience Disappointment or Resentment

If you constantly check out your ex’s page to check what’s going on in his life, it’s a sign that something is outside of your conscious control. This is especially true if you have blocked or removed it from your friends.

Friends and loved ones may be tired of hearing about him, but you still want to talk about this person. You have used every means you can to forget about it, but any broken heart takes time to heal.

It’s important not to judge yourself harshly because disappointment is very difficult to deal with alone.

What If  You Don’t Like A Person

In some cases, we cannot stop thinking about the person because we don’t like him. This is often a family member or boss with whom we communicate frequently.

Anything they don’t do reminds us over and over again of what makes us feel uncomfortable. The brain constantly scrolls through the details that bother us, which leads to a vicious circle of worry.

Such unpleasant thoughts can also be intrusive and cause feelings of hopelessness.

How To Stop Thinking About A Person?

He never leaves your thoughts. Maybe he’s your ex, someone you recently met, someone you didn’t know for long, but who influenced you a lot, and you keep thinking about what could have been. Whatever the reason, the essence is the same – you can’t stop thinking about him. But thoughts about what happened or what could have been, only make you live in the past or guesses, preventing you from living in the present. You want to stop thinking about him, but the more you try, the less you get it.

Therefore, here are some proven techniques to finally get it out of your head.

Stop Thinking About Him

Trying to purposefully stop thinking about him, you think about him even more. It’s like someone trying to stop thinking about eating a chocolate cake, and that’s why they want it even more. It’s something in human nature that instinctively makes us want what we don’t have.

It’s the same with thoughts. The more we try to prevent them, the less we succeed. Therefore, the best thing you can do is to switch your attention to something else – to think about yourself, about your future, and your thoughts will take on some new ideas.

Don’t Follow Him Online

Stop flipping through his page, trying to figure out where he is and with whom. This will only make your situation worse. Refrain from visiting his page. The less you know, the better for you.

Live Your Life

This is the best remedy for everything. Switch your attention from him to yourself. Imagine how much better and more productive your life will become if you spend all the time and energy that you spend thinking about him on yourself.

Exclude Him From Your Daily Conversations

If in every conversation with your best friend you constantly remember him, this is a problem. You are obsessed with him and make it difficult for yourself to finally stop thinking about him.

Create New Memories

Find a new hobby, come up with a new work project, sign up for courses or volunteer work – whatever, just to keep your hands and head busy.

Travel, meet new people, spend time with friends and family. Explore the world around you. Don’t sit and suffer. You are beyond that, and your life longs for new adventures.

Start Over

There is no better way to start again than when you finish something. So, don’t stay in the past for long. Think about the present. How can you make every moment of your life worthwhile? Think about what you want to do in the future.

You can be whatever you want, do whatever you want with your life. The only person who can stop you is yourself. So, if you master your thoughts, you can do anything.

Stay Away From Negative People

Those who constantly ask you about what you want to forget: “Poor thing, how could he do this to you?” They don’t help, they only prolong your pain. Especially when they say: “You probably did something wrong.” There are simply such people, it is in their essence. so, you just need to stop communicating with them, at least until your life gets better.

Understand That He is Far From Perfect

When we miss someone or think about how things could have turned out differently, we tend to idealize the person and what we had with him. But you need to take a step back and look at the reality of the situation. If you’ve broken up, there is usually more negative than positive. And if you only recently met him, then you just don’t know him well yet.

Stop Looking For An Explanation

We always want to get to the bottom of things. We think that if we know the real reason why something ended, why something didn’t work out, why people don’t stay together, why he treated us badly, as if then we would not suffer so much. But the questions are endless, and no one can answer them.

Therefore, we begin to look for answers in our head, replaying past scenarios and trying to see at what point everything went wrong.

But sometimes it’s better not to know the answer at all. Sometimes it doesn’t calm the soul. So, there is nothing to think about at all.

I’m Sorry

This applies to everything in life. When you hold a grudge, when you remember the person responsible for your pain, you let that negativity dominate you. Thinking about him makes you sad, angry, and you cannot stop thinking about him, because you cannot forgive him.

Let go, Let karma figure it out.

Do Not Contact Him For At Least One Month, But Preferably Three

The less you see or hear him, the faster you will stop thinking about him. The clearer you will be able to look at him from the outside and understand that he is not worth your time and place in your head and heart.

[completewomancare]

A Guide to Labor and Normal Vaginal Delivery

A Guide to Labor and Normal Vaginal Delivery      

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 Regularly exercise through your pregnancy before your final trimester.

 Spend your early labor at your house and keep your family, doula/nurse close. When your contractions begin, you may choose to give birth in your home or be taken to a hospital, depending on the conditions.

 What occurs after childbirth?

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[caitbalfes]

Lifeline (2/?)

Jamie & Claire | AU | Claire doesn’t have a husband to return to. Jamie doesn’t have a price on his head. Seems like smooth sailing … right? (AO3)

I’d almost forgotten about this story … sorry !! But since there was no new episode yesterday, I decided to get my shit together and give you chapter two (yes, I know this is a poor substitute for THE reunion episode, but this is all I have!) Also thank you all so much for the lovely comments on chapter one!

Aaand a special shoutout to @bonnie-wee-swordsman who helped me with this chapter, she’s a lifesaver !! (or, at least a ficsaver) (It took some restraint though not to add “cue jaws theme” in the fic based on Bonnie’s comments …)

Also tagging @mibasiamille 😘

I. An Escape

II. The First Misstep

There can be danger in the lack of a purpose. When you no longer have something to give your life meaning, it’s awfully easy to throw caution to the wind and embark on a dangerous—and often foolish—journey.

Some people thrive in danger; they are hardwired to seek it out. For those people, the real danger is being idle, for boredom eats away at their very soul. They need a purpose like they need air to breathe, or food to eat.

Frank had said once he feared I loved my patients more than I loved him. He had said it half-jokingly, but he had been right.

I had always had a drive, though I had not always known towards what. But I kept moving forward, knowing I could never be content standing still. I had the tendency to seek out those dangerous environments other people would rather avoid, but I liked to think I didn’t have the fatal foolishness that some did. If I did, I would quite possibly find out soon.

On our way to Castle Leoch, Jamie regaled me with stories. He had told me about his uncles and Clan MacKenzie, after I’d shown quite a bit of enthusiasm for learning more about the place and its inhabitants. In truth, I had been to the castle once before—or would come there once more?—but at that time, it had been merely a ruin, inhabited by no one.

Foolish or not for putting myself in this situation, here I was, and I did think trying to learn something of the place to which I was headed was a good idea. Information would allow me to prepare, and preparation I definitely needed in order to lie effectively about my origin, for no one could know where I truly came from. Such was life for one with the misfortune of being cursed with a face of glass.

Jamie’s tales provided more than information, though. They were entertainment. He certainly had a gift for storytelling, and I enjoyed listening to him. Though his tales had initially unsettled me a bit, they were further confirmation that I truly was in the past—the eighteenth century—something I had realised when I happened upon Captain Randall, but still naïvely hoped to be a dream.

I hadn’t realised it then, but when Jamie asked me to come with him, I had made a decision to stay—for now, at least—in this time. There was little left for me where I came from, save that perilous boredom.

“I have to ask, Sassenach,” Jamie said, suddenly. “Why is it ye were lost in the forest in the first place? It seems unsafe for a lady such as yourself to travel alone, you could easily be—well, you know what could happen.”

I did. My unfortunate encounter with Captain Randall was not one I’d soon forget. It was only luck that had allowed me to get away unscathed. Luck in the form of a dashing rescuer, Jamie Fraser.

I tried to come up with a good explanation as to why I had wandered astray in the forest, but I had none. How could I tell him how I’d ended up here when I barely understood it myself?

I twirled the golden ring on my finger. I had told him I was widowed, mostly because I suspected the term divorced would be frowned upon, considering the times—even in my time, it wasn’t exactly something women would boast about.

I knew I had to tell Jamie something, even if I didn’t think he would force me to reveal something I didn’t wish to. He seemed to be a kind man, a gentle man, maybe even a loving man. He hadn’t talked extensively about his home, but he had mentioned a sister and of her, he’d talked very fondly. Family, it seemed, he valued greatly.

I took a deep breath.

“It’s a long story,” I began slowly, mentally berating myself for the, at best, clichéd opener; at worst, seeming attempt to stall or avoid answering altogether. “I’m afraid I can’t tell you why, but . . . I ran away.” That was partly true. With an ever-revealing face like mine, it was always better to stick closer to the truth than to outright lie.

That’s what I thought, at least, until Jamie, genuinely worried, said, “Are ye in danger? Are ye being chased by someone who wishes to do ye harm?”

His worry both warmed my heart and troubled me. Had he cared less, he would’ve asked fewer questions. It was unlikely that he’d be satisfied until he knew I wasn’t in any danger.

“No,” I said, with as much conviction as I could muster, “I promise, no one’s looking for me.”

I couldn’t see his face as we were on horseback, him sitting behind me, but I could imagine the look of concern that refused to leave his face.

“Did you know him?” I asked, eager to change the subject. “Captain Randall, that is.” I had seen how he’d looked at the captain when they fought, something that suggested there was more to his fury than seeing a stranger about to take a woman by force.

“Aye. I ken him.”

I glanced back, startled by the brevity. His gaze was fixed somewhere far off, his posture stiff. Whatever he was looking at, I couldn’t say, but then I thought neither could he. He seemed lost in thought, reliving a memory.

I was undeniably curious and wanted to ask how their paths had crossed before, what Randall had done to make this man hate him so. I didn’t ask, though. Whatever it was, if Jamie’s expression was anything to go by, it was not a pleasant topic of conversation.

While I understood that he might not wish to speak of something that seemed to pain him, I found myself a bit surprised seeing as he’d been so unusually, yet pleasantly, forthcoming with information about himself during our ride.

He had told me a number of things about himself. He had told me that, not too long ago, he had been an outlaw, and only recently had he been pardoned.

He’d said the price on his head had prevented him from returning to Lallybroch, as his ancestral home was called, and that was why he stayed at Leoch. What he hadn’t told me was why he, now a free man, chose to remain there, instead of returning home.

When we arrived at the castle, a woman rushed out to greet—or rather, scold Jamie. She eyed Jamie with disapproval and me with suspicion.

“What do ye mean by disappearing like that, lad? Gone all night! People have been askin’ for ye, not to mention—”

“Mrs Fitz,” said Jamie, as he helped me dismount. “This is—”

“And what do we have here?” asked Mrs Fitz. She surveyed me from top to toe. Her eyes lingered on my once-white dress with particular curiosity and not a little disfavour.

“Claire Beauchamp,” said Jamie. “I brought her here for protection.”

“Is that so?” Her face softened, the initial suspicion towards me subsiding.

“Aye. Would ye make sure she has some proper clothes? I should speak to my uncle.”

“Aye, and then there are other people who’d like to speak to ye as well, as I’m sure ye ken. I wouldna advise ye to wait too long.”

“Wait!” As Jamie was about to walk away, I reached out a hand, putting it gently on his arm, prompting him to stay. “Your wound. Unless you want it to get infected, you should let me clean and dress it properly.”

Having earned Jamie’s trust in my medical abilities after helping him with his shoulder the day before, he agreed without objection.

Mrs Fitz kindly showed us to a room where I could tend to my patient. The room was dark and cold, and the many shelves that adorned the stone walls were crammed with jars that clearly hadn’t been touched in a while; they were covered with dust.

Upon entering, I had turned my questioning gaze to Mrs Fitz, who explained, “’Tis the surgery. It hasena been used in some time, no since Davie Beaton passed.”

The temperature problem was soon remedied by a fire, and Mrs Fitz left us alone.

I hadn’t been prepared for the sight of Jamie’s bare back when he removed his shirt so I could tend to his shoulder. Scars covered the expanse of his back.

“The Redcoats,” Jamie explained. “They flogged me twice in the space of a week. They’d have done it twice the same day, I expect, were they no afraid of killing me. There’s no joy in flogging a dead man.”

“I shouldn’t think anyone would do such a thing for joy.”

“If Randall was not precisely joyous, he was at least very pleased with himself.”

I understood, then. Or, at least I thought I did. His hatred towards Captain Randall, the painful memory he hadn’t wished to speak about. This was it.

Much to my surprise, Jamie did speak of it now though. His earlier reluctance to do so had apparently dissolved. I wondered why. Was it something I’d done to prove myself more trustworthy? Was it that I’d now seen the scars, so I might as well know the story behind them? Perhaps he worried I would misjudge him for his scars if I didn’t know the full story.

He recounted the event whilst I dressed his wound. This was a far less cheerful tale than those he had shared with me on horseback, but his storytelling was vivid as ever.

I met his eyes, trying to show him the same sympathy and understanding he had shown me the day before. Since the moment we met, Jamie had been nothing but kind to me. He had shown more compassion than any man I’d ever met.

I stroked his arm to comfort him, and his lips curved upwards in reply. He looked younger when he smiled; there was something boyish about it. I realised that he must, in fact, be younger. That thought hadn’t occurred to me when he’d acted as my rescuer and protector. While I appreciated his heroic side, what drew me in was the vulnerability he had shown me, sharing his scars.

Hand still lingering on his arm, I leaned in slowly, my eyes not leaving his. I could feel his breath hot against my lips. An inch, and I would touch his lips—

He pulled back.

I didn’t quite know what to feel. Confusion hit me first, followed by shock that was soon replaced by embarrassment.

My eyes sought his, to ask for an explanation, or see if I had misinterpreted the situation, but he turned his head away, hiding his expression.

Mrs Fitz could not have returned at a better time. She helped me escape, as she was to fulfil Jamie’s request that I be given proper attire.

Before our departure she reminded Jamie once more to seek out his uncle Colum.

I followed her to a guest bedroom where she helped me change into a more appropriate dress, and sometime thereafter came a dark-haired man by the name of Murtagh to inform me that The MacKenzie wished to speak to me.

Mrs Fitz gave me an encouraging smile before I departed.

My escort, by contrast, didn’t speak another word to me, let alone smile.

Jamie had told me about Colum MacKenzie, Chief of Clan MacKenzie, but not in great detail. He had had more to say about his other uncle, Dougal, the war chief. Despite our awkward encounter, I found myself wishing Jamie was there by my side as I entered the tower room where the MacKenzie was waiting.

My silent escort was still waiting for me when I exited, but he wasn’t alone. Jamie was with him.

I couldn’t help but smile in relief at the sight.

“What did he say?” Jamie asked at once, excitement in his tone.

“You ask as though you don’t already know! You talked to him about me,” I said, crossing my arms, “you told him I was a healer.”

“Aye, I had to say something so he’d let ye stay, didn’t I? He was verra suspicious at first when I said I’d brought a Sassenach here.”

“I’d say he was still verra suspicious when we spoke,” I said in a poor imitation of his accent. Colum had been suspicious, but he had let me stay nonetheless, thanks to Jamie. He had gifted me the late Davie Beaton’s surgery, in return for my serving as the castle’s new healer, for the duration of my visit.

“He did invite me to the hall tonight, though,” I continued, “there is to be a Welsh singer apparently—”

“JAMIE FRASER!” The voice came from somewhere farther down the stairs. Rapid footsteps that likely belonged to the voice echoed loudly as they neared.

Jamie, having tensed up at the high-pitched shriek, looked over at Murtagh, wordlessly asking for counsel.

Murtagh raised his eyebrows so as to say, “What did I tell you?” making me wonder just what Murtagh had told Jamie and why.

The footsteps reached the top of the stairs and facing us was now a young, round-faced girl with her arms crossed over her chest. Her pale eyes narrowed as they noticed me.

“Jamie Fraser!” she repeated. It was less of a shriek this time, but no less angry. “Where have ye been!?”

Jamie opened his mouth to explain, but the girl cut him off.

“And who is that!?” Her voice was venomous as she jerked her head rudely at me.

“Ah . . . this is Claire Beauchamp,” he said, “she’s a guest of the MacKenzie and the new healer of the castle.” Evidently explaining me was easier than explaining his whereabouts since yesterday afternoon.

The girl was still waiting for further explanation. Jamie sighed and said, “I was out riding.”

“RIDING!? Ye mean to say ye’ve been out riding all night?”

“Laoghaire, perhaps we can have this conversation in private?”

The girl—Laoghaire—muttered something, then turned and started walking down the stairs, Jamie following her.

“Who was that?” I asked Murtagh after they had left.

“That was his wife.”