#QTIPALS

[clinically-not-straight]

Alphabet Mafia (derogatory)

[sealbf]

A Breakdown Of Why QTIPAL+ Is Total Horseshit 

For context, the QTIPAL+ (pronounced “cutie-pal” 🤢) image was posted by @UnicornMarch on twitter 15 hours ago as off the time this post was made, August 6th 2020. 

This is infantalising, unncessary, sterotypical and overall fucking stupid. Analysis of the problems with each letter (except for T) and the pronunciation will be under the cut. I am a nonbinary bisexual, so if people of other sexualities and genders want to comment on the issue then go for it

Q, QUEER/QUESTIONING: I want to make one thing absolutely clear which is that I honest to god do not care if you call yourself queer, all the more power to you. However, many LGBT individuals have been called that as a slur and do NOT feel comfortable being called queer, calling themselves queer, or being classified as queer in any capacity. Therefor, classifying those LGBT people as Queer in this new acronym is BEYOND insulting, insensitive and rude.

I, INTERSEX: Time and time again intersex people have asked not to be included in LGBT acronyms because being intersex does not make somebody inherently LGBT, as it is a medican condition. For the sake of clarity because this site’s reading comprehension could use some work overall: This is not to say intersex people CANT be LGBT, just that being intersex does not make them LGBT. As I am dyadic, it is not my place to speak further on this. if any intersex people would like to comment, please feel free. 

P, POLYAMOROUS/BI/PAN: Lumping polyamory and multi-gender attraction together is NOT a good look, its stereotyping bisexuals and pansexuals. There’s a very well known stereotype that bisexuals are slutty, will fuck anything that moves, and are always down for a threesome. This is like common knowledge. By putting polyamory and bi/pan together under the same letter, UnicornMarch has implied that all bisexuals are polyamorous which is, you know, a biphobic stereotype.

A, ACE/ARO/AGENDER/ALLY: Why the hell are the ‘allies’ considered LGBT now? They’re not! If they’re allies to LGBT people, they are not LGBT. Thats like the whole point of being an LGBT-ally. You support being LGBT while not being LGBT. Like this one is just common sense but im wrting it down anyway (Also, not as big a problem as EVERYTHING ELSE, but “agender” is a nonbinary label, and therefor falls under transgender.)

L, LESBIAN/GAY: Gay people and Lesbians need separate labels because their experiences are unique to them. While there is overlap because each lable is just same-gender attraction, women loving women and men loving men are two entirely different things. Having them both under the same letter, L, makes absolutely no sense in the slightest. It’s reductive to the experience of both gay men and lesbians. Additionally the L stands for Lesbian, why the hell are gay men being put under ‘lesbian’ like theyre not. theyre men. 

+ ALL OTHERS WHO NEED IT who the hell else is there? youve already included people that should in no way be included in the LGBT community. this is a rhetorical question for the love of god do NOT start shit with me about this.

The Acronym QTIPAL+ and Pronunciation To me it is very VERY clear that UnicornMarch wanted to make a cutesy UwU acronym and pronunciation more than they wanted to make an inclusive, functioning acronym (because LGBT is already inclusive and functioning. what a fucking surprise! /s). UnicornMarch most likely thought up the cute name and added letters to fit what they wanted, which led to frankly nonsensical and insensitive ‘groupings’ of sexualities into letters. This was done to be trendy and fun without fully thinking about the ramifications of their actions, and the effect it would have on LGBT people. 

Furthermore, the actual pronunciation of “cutie-pal” is infantalising and infuriating. It’s ridiculous. Calling LGBT people “cutie-pals” would make us look immature and silly- there is NO other way I can explain this like I’m mad about this. What the fuck? Like if you would willingly call yourself a cutie-pal then sure I guess! Good for you, like genuinely. But it should under no circumstances be used to categorise an extremely diverse group of people just because it ‘sounds cute’

In Conclusion

[prisonhannibal]

shoutout to twitter for another new lgbt acronym but without gays this time

[spidergvven]

polyamory is not tied to any one sexuality. straight, gay or bi people can all be polyamorous and im so so tired of the incredible biphobia of acting like bisexuality/pansexuality are synonymous with polyamory. its literally just the age old stereotype of bisexuals being cheating sluts but dressed up in fake woke lingo and im over it.

[oppressed-opossum]

I haven’t posted any “anti SJW” shit in years but there have been some things that have been driving me crazy. Let’s walk through this giant mess together, shall we?

Queer and questioning- is important enough that the letter stays the same. Works with the forced acronym. Put it first.

Transgender- works with the forced acronym so it can stay. Keep it in its own category. (As it should be.)

Intersex- should also be in its own category of course. All of them should.

Bisexual- is the same as polyamory because if you like men and women you want to be with both at the same time. In fact, it’s the same as pansexual anyway!

Aro/ace/agender- I don’t know quite enough about these things to say if they should be together or not. They should be included obviously. But my biggest problem with this one is ALLY. why is ally included in the LGBTQ flag? This is OUR FLAG. that’s the point! To represent US!!!!

Lesbian? Gay? Same fuckin thing. Put em together.

+all others who need it- what else even is there???

This person is trying so hard to do some sort of infantilising acronym that they had to change way too much. Lol I hope this doesn’t catch on. And just to reiterate, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with identifying as any of these. That’s not my point. My point is these are all different sexualities (or lack thereof) and should be recognized as such.

[coolxatu]

if i see anybody else out there lumping polyamory and bisexuality in the same category im gonna beat them w their own spinal cord

[susiron]

I cannot stress how infuriating it is to see the A for ace/aro included in an acronym that is trying to be inclusive, and yet having “ally” listed as part of its meaning.

It’s bullshit like this that makes me okay with the A being left out of these acronyms because people ALWAYS try to shove allyship into the mix like it’s some sort of fucking club they belong to for being supportive.

Ace/aro people have enough trouble being respected in our own fucking community without cishet allies trying to shoehorn themselves under the same letter

[starscreamhecatoncheries]

Making a queer nation in EU4 thanks to some help on tumblr!

Check out the build!

[starstuffandalotofcoffee]

Something that frustrates me a lot is that a lot of people who write stuff about gender neutral language are actively really bad at understanding like, language concepts I first learned about in middle school. I mean I’m no expert but even I can tell you that if someone’s looking for a gender neutral term for sir or ma’am that ‘pal’ is not on the same level of respect, and also I did, while looking for said term, run across the word “theyspouse” which made me just give a thousand-yard stare at my wall

[gmos]

what is it with young people online thinking they need to rebrand the lgbtq community

[witherbee]

if you know you know

[yangganju]

A new acronym for LGBTQIA+!

Poop+ - Pan/bi/polyamorous, Omnisexual/Asexual, Otherkin/transgender, Polysexual, + All others who need it

Pronounced “poupuh”

(this is obviously a joke abt qtipal goodnight)

[prisonhannibal]

going to the cutiepie bar to drink juice boxes and flirt with other gays until 9pm

[corpsefaking-moved]

people will lump lesbians and gay men together as if we face the same type of oppression and have the same experiences (we dont)

people will lump bi and pan people together as if pansexuality isnt biphobic + transphobic and then also lump them together with polyamory which isnt even remotely comparable

[drywalldust]

That qtipal+ nonsense really has aphobe blocklist vibes

[thembofication]

queer is a necessary word