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[srnevergivesup]

Discovering and accepting myself.

This year, I want to be myself more than I have ever been before without ever again apologising about who I am . It took me so long to realise that I was bi-sexual and I want to experience this part of me that has been in the dark for so long so,a week ago, I decided to subscribe on a Lesbian dating site.

I remember the first time I had strong emotions for a girl. I was a teenager and she was my best friend in class. I told her how I felt about her but she didn't feel the same way. I was devastated. She stayed friend with me. I kept telling her I loved and asking her if she felt the same. Our friendship deteriorated and somehow the entire school knew I was "gay". People were looking at me and shouted "Lesbo!!" Lesbian in French. I was bullied constantly until I changed school.

So it wasn't something I wanted to explore further. It is something I tried not to share with my male partneres for fear of having to listen to childish fantasies: "Are you a lesbian?? Can I watch? Can we have a threesome? So you have sex with women?"

All my romantic relationships were with men. Everythime I was single, I wondered if I should go with a woman but I was very seldom single and got swept away in another disastrous relationship after another - my desire to have a relationship with a woman forgotten.

I had other crushes but they were taken or emotionally unavailable. Same pattern as with the men in my life!! I was really confused everytime I felt something for a woman. "Am I gay? But I always end up with men!!" I only saw it as I am straight or gay... Then, talking with my close friend M, I was able to express these feelings of attraction towards women. M is bi and this is by talking to her that I discovered something that me sense to me: bisexuality!!! Being friend with people who love and support me ,just I am, has helped me to accept my sexuality. I finally felt safe to talk about it.

So I decided to go on this dating site. I haven't been on it every day. I try not to get sucked in. Been there, done that. I only send a message to someone if she feels right. I listen carefully to my "gut" feeling/ intuition, how my body responds. I also read Natalie Lue's Tips for Online dating on Bagage Reclaim. I love this woman, she is amazing. I only signed up for a month to see how it goes first. I really don't put pressure on myself. AND if I don't meet anyone within a month? Well, I will have a break from it and enjoy my life as I am now.

Natalie Lue's tips: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?s=tips+for+online+dating

Check it out it is a great read.

Please feel free to get in touch in order to share your own experiences of bullying because of your sexuality as well as what is fabulous about being you.

Take care Sylvie

[butchesandfemmes]

So I've recently accepted my sexuality and am trying to get on the dating scene. Are there any apps or places you think would be particularly lesbian friendly? I live in a small town in East TN so I feel kind of lost as to where to start.

Congrats on accepting your sexuality, that's always such a new and exciting time! ☺️🏳️‍🌈 Hmm, I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are above the ages of 18, (which seems to be the mandatory minimum age) online dating is a wonderful way to go in terms of meeting girls in your area that you wouldn't normally be able to find! A few websites I recommend that seem to be pretty legit are, • pinksofa.com• pinkcupid.com•girlfriendsmeet.com• her.com • soulmates.theguardian.com• onescene.com• okcupid.comJust to name a few, hopefully these are semi-helpful! Another great way to meet other gay ladies is through LGBT events in your area. Check out lgbtcenters.org, they have a huge database of LGBT events going on everywhere. Stay tuned on this blog for future matchmaking events, maybe we can find you a girl near you. Most importantly, put yourself out there and talk to new people, which is the most important step. Best of luck out there, and have a good time meeting new people! 💕☺️

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