#Openness

[philosophybits]

Through laziness and constancy the mind keeps to what it finds easy and attractive; this habit is constantly limiting our knowledge, and no one ever takes the trouble to extend his mind and lead it as far as it could go.

François de La Rochefoucauld, Moral Reflections

[thirdity]

What is frequently appreciated in many so-called symbols is exactly their vagueness, their openness, their fruitful ineffectiveness to express a “final” meaning, so that with symbols and by symbols one indicates what is always beyond one's reach.

Umberto Eco, Semiotics and the Philosophy of Language

[ksjanes]

As we experience this big blue space, we begin to have this feeling of openness, limitless potential. We get a sense of timelessness as we connect to this vast open space. We can get the impression of accommodation and inclusiveness. This can include us being less afraid of circumstances and less frustrated or upset. We end up  with sensing that there is more than enough space for our thoughts and emotions as well as others thoughts and emotions. With this sentiment space can bring comfort to us in times of trouble as we  recognize that even our troubles and the chaos  in our lives arise and pass away within the blanket of our awareness of space.

K.S Janes

[serenityquest]

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[848ellie]

Ready to Receive 💜 I am ready to receive from the universe, accepting all the good things and opportunities coming my way. With an open heart and mind, I trust in the endless possibilities around me and know I am in alignment with growth. Each day, I move forward with confidence, ready to manifest my dreams and welcome the abundance that the universe has prepared for me.

[blueeyedvirgo89]

WHAT IT TAKES TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN TRUST IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE:

Building And Maintaining Trust In A Relationship Or Marriage Requires:

*Foundational Elements:*

1. Honesty: Transparency and truthfulness

2. Integrity: Consistency between words and actions

3. Communication: Open, clear, and respectful dialogue

4. Emotional Intelligence: Empathy, self-awareness, and self-regulation

5. Reliability: Following through on commitments

6. Vulnerability: Willingness to be open and susceptible

7. Accountability: Taking responsibility for actions

8. Respect: Valuing each other's feelings, needs, and boundaries

9. Consistency: Predictable behavior and follow-through

10. Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and resentments

*Trust-Building Behaviors:*

1. Active listening

2. Keeping promises

3. Showing appreciation and gratitude

4. Being dependable and reliable

5. Demonstrating empathy and understanding

6. Apologizing and making amends

7. Respecting boundaries and privacy

8. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and desires

9. Supporting each other's goals and dreams

10. Celebrating milestones and successes

*Maintaining Trust:*

1. Regular check-ins and open communication

2. Continual learning and growth together

3. Addressing conflicts and issues promptly

4. Practicing forgiveness and letting go

5. Cultivating emotional intimacy

6. Fostering independence and interdependence

7. Embracing vulnerability and openness

8. Setting realistic expectations

9. Prioritizing quality time together

10. Seeking help when needed (counseling, therapy)

*Challenges To Trust:*

1. Infidelity

2. Dishonesty or deception

3. Emotional or physical abuse

4. Neglect or abandonment

5. Substance abuse or addiction

6. Financial secrecy or manipulation

7. Lack of communication or emotional intimacy

8. Unresolved conflicts or resentments

9. External stressors (work, family, health)

10. Personal insecurities or traumas

*Rebuilding Trust:*

1. Acknowledge and accept responsibility

2. Seek counseling or therapy

3. Communicate openly and honestly

4. Reestablish boundaries and expectations

5. Focus on emotional intimacy and connection

6. Cultivate empathy and understanding

7. Demonstrate consistent behavior

8. Make amends and work towards healing

9. Practice self-reflection and growth

10. Foster a culture of forgiveness and understanding

*Remember:*

1. Trust is built incrementally.

2. Maintaining trust requires effort and commitment.

3. Forgiveness and understanding are essential.

4. Communication is key.

5. Vulnerability and openness foster deeper connection.

By prioritizing these elements, you can:

1. Build a strong foundation of trust.

2. Maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

3. Overcome challenges and conflicts.

4. Foster emotional intimacy and connection.

5. Create a lifelong, loving partnership.

[angelaeleni]

Whenever I feel blocked or stuck, I start to ask myself these questions through my day:

How can I be the most loving person to myself and others?

How can I keep my heart open?

[heart-songs]

The one where I confess that I am unapologetically soft

how my heartbeat mimics the wind, invisible but far-reaching. With gossamer fingers I braid my hair, brew the tea, knead the bread. On obsidian nights, I gather dried lavender and listen for the willow. I have cradled newborn heads on the crest of my collarbone patched wounds with rose petal kisses, unwound the deepest of aches with worn-out denim and bare skin. I have carried the dead, cried my weight in tears. I am soft, and my hands are small but I would hold the sun for you, blister ‘til you no longer wish to be a burn. I am soft, and my voice is softer. It was made to breathe poems into the scruff of your neck to lay the ghosts of your worst fears to rest eternal. I am soft, and we are only a moment but my love will linger long after the willow stops weeping.

- Cora Finch

[the-healing-mindset]

It might be time to let go of what you think you know, and open up to what the world has to offer you.

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[philosophybits]

Attention consists of suspending our thought, leaving it detached, empty and ready to be penetrated by the object. It means holding in our minds, within reach of this thought, but on a lower level and not in contact with it, the diverse knowledge we have acquired which we are forced to make use of. Our thought should be in relation to all particular and already formulated thoughts, as a man on a mountain who, as he looks forward, sees also below him, without actually looking at them, a great many forests and plains. Above all, our thought should be empty, waiting, not seeking anything, but ready to receive in its naked truth the object which is to penetrate it. All wrong translations, all absurdities in geometry problems, all clumsiness of style and all faulty connection of ideas ... all such things are due to the fact that thought has seized upon some idea too hastily and being thus prematurely blocked, is not open to the truth. The cause is always that we have wanted to be too active; we have wanted to carry out a search.

Simone Weil, Waiting on God

[gennsoup]

It is a terrible thing To be so open: it is as if my heart Put on a face and walked into the world.

Sylvia Plath, Three Women: A Poem for Three Voices

[spankingtheatre]

"It's never cheeky or bold to ask for what you want. Without someone taking initiative, nothing exciting and unexpected would ever happen."

I love when you explain things- the tone, the sincerity, the guidance- it's just incredibly attractive.

"seen by others passing"

Oh my, I can already feel myself flush and get super shy and quiet every time someone passes by, or is close enough to hear us

"It would indeed excite me to hear your confessions"

It's so hard to pick one favourite out of so many wonderful ones. 'Moral philosophy' has stood out to me for the concept and storyline. 'Kitchen table' is a story I'd want to shift from fantasy to reality.

I've never been spanked. I long to be.

I'd definitely study extra hard to earn a gold star from you.

Would you be okay if I messaged you privately to talk further, instead of anonymously asking? Thank you

Of course you may.

I tend not to initiate conversations because, like a vampire, I feel I have to be invited in first, and I've never wanted to come across as that creepy guy who pesters. So to all who've been following this blog for absolutely years and years, and to whom I've never even said hello, that's the reason why. Love you all.

So consider this is an invitation to everyone, DMs are open, say hello if you've always wanted to. We should put the social back into social media, saying hello doesn't imply beginning long conversations, it's just an opportunity to become aware of each other's presence.

Connecting with others reminds us that the digital spaces we inhabit are populated by real people with real feelings, not pixels and bots. Life is just better the more connections we add to it.

And speaking of connecting with strangers, that's exactly the theme of Moral Philosophy! Delighted to hear you enjoyed it, I think that wonderful story deserves much more attention!

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

In Solitudine et in Tenebris

[blueeyedvirgo89]

It’s not the amount of time you spend with someone that makes you open up, it’s the connection you share.

You can be around someone for years,

and still never feel safe enough to be vulnerable with them.

But then, you meet that one person and suddenly,

it feels easy to share your deepest thoughts and emotions.

It’s not about the clock ticking, it’s about how your hearts align.

That soul-to-soul connection is rare and when it happens,

it feels like you’ve known each other forever.

True openness doesn’t need years, it just needs the right person

who makes you feel seen, heard, and understood.

When you find that connection, it changes everything. 🌹