#Lesbian dating

[junkdyke]

do you like fat butches?

do i like sunshine and puppies and the smell of freshly baked cookies

[sunflowersandgoldenhour]

Here’s a pic of me from my first date this past weekend with a super cute and sweet masc 🥰🥰

Yall she literally was so sweet and we had the most adorable date. We met up for drinks… and sat at the bar. I couldn’t really look at her at first bc I’m such a shy baby and I don’t want to be perceived lol but then I couldn’t help but look at her tattoos bc omg I think hand and neck tattoos are so fucking sexy.

Then when we left to walk around, she immediately holds her hand out to hold my hand 🥰🥰 she was the perfect gentle lady all night. Opened all the doors for me. Pulled my chair out for me to sit down. Then when we were walking around she would guide me and always have me switch sides so I was further from the street.

It was after midnight by the time we got to the skate park so we had it to ourselves which was nice but also a little scary… thankfully she had a knife. We sat with our feet hanging off into the bowl while we talked. Next thing I know we are having a hot and heavy make out session at the skate park… that then continued in the car. It was the perfect little date 🥰🥰🥰

[spaceshipellie]

why do all the best, sexiest, sweet lover girl/boy lesbians seem to only exist on tumblr I WANNA FIND YOU IN THE WILD PLEASE

[thesapphiclibrary]

[spaceghostswim]

day 1 in a new city and the cutest girl wants to take me to a concert oh my god i think sapphic travel is my passion

[femme4theages]

Flirting isn't enough I need to go on a world ending quest with my crush where we finally confess our feelings before the final mission

[bikerbutchbait]

mascs go through soooo muchhh it makes me wanna cryyyy (i’m a 5’4 stone top femme dom who will buy you whatever you want)

[messylesb]

okay so i’ve matched with a few ladies on dating apps and i don’t know how to start the conversations???? i don’t mean to be a loser who doesn’t know how to talk to people, but like i’ve never genuinely flirted with someone a day in my life and i don’t wanna start it off with a boring “hi!” or “hey” LMAO. i’m sure you’ve had your fill with people asking basic questions about flirting and sparking convos with people you find attractive, but please i beg

this will be long so I'll put the cut right here and there's some topics. so first is the sparking conversation and creating opportunities for talking, then i talk ab the flirting

if someone else has more tips, helpful information, any corrections to what i said, please put in the comments and tags, i absolutely will be grateful bc i can't give an answer to this that would be conclusive 😭😭

listen, I'm not the best person to answer that. for context: because with the autism and being demiromantic (and demisexual in some level) and all, it's hard for me to develop a real contact with people which leads me to mask even over text sometimes - that's not to say I don't have good, fun and nice conversations with people, i absolutely do, but i truly need the other person to be into this so i can fully get into it over time and get used to it. not only that, but online contact is not the same as in person stuff. here i can have sexual conversations more easily because i have no irl contact. irl i need more physical moments with the person, being around them, having in person conversations - quality time if you will - and i have dozens of dozens of external factors I can't control (light, weather, sounds, the amount of people around, where i am exactly) and that will impact my mood, my expression, the level of masking; essentially everything in my social exchange. so it's harder.

with that being said, there's some things i usually ask/talk ab, because i genuinely want to get to know people and I'm interested on them as humans overall. don't be afraid to say "hii", be cliche or something, that's not as bad as it seems. you can say "heey i saw we matched, do you want to talk?", idk, be polite and express interest (I don't do dating apps and i know 0 about dating apps social conveniences, I'm saying based on what i usually do in regular conversations). if you're meeting them irl, there's nothing wrong in making small talk. other things i do, both irl and online:

- asking ab interests! music, movies, books, shows, hobbies, studies, job. i love getting to know that, bc i express a lot of myself through these things and i learned that others do the same. that's not a rule but it can happen, and sharing interests always gives more opportunities to other conversations and interactions, like exchanging memes, inside jokes. irl i also like to spend time doing something together: museum dates, library dates, movies, park; there's hundreds of possibilities. i truly enjoy the museum/library if the other person is into it because through talking ab these things you can learn a lot about them, their responses and ways of thinking, beliefs, etc.

- asking ab their day. i know it seems lame and basic. but you can talk abour what they do, if they have pets, if they like this or that;

- to me this is when I'm more comfortable with the person irl, which takes in consideration many things that I'll spare details, but inviting them over your place. to play some games, to spend time, to talk;

about the flirting: i think generally being comfortable with the person helps me. if we're talking ab a situation where both of you know there's an sexual tone and intention and interest, it's way easier (like around here, for example, if you slide in my DMs with a sexual tone, I'll suppose you want sexual conversation). but not everyone feels comfortable with the advance, or maybe they like to talk first and go tipping the waters slowly. if it's a situation where the sexual intention, or second intentions in general, isn't clear, I'd say talk a bit first and try to fit some things here and there. talk ab them being pretty in that photo, about them looking good while talking about their interests, about your reaction to them (does that way of talking make you feel things? do you think it's hot how they do something? do you find something attractive?) and see how they respond. also I don't know if it sounds ridiculous, but maybe... asking what they're looking for in a conversation on a dating app? bc i also wouldn't know wkdkkdd i guess it's supposed to be flirting all around so maybe let's start from that presupposition

there's no specific formula on this, which i truly lament about. i wish there was, trust me [*sweating, gripping my clothes and trying not to freak out about social interactions in general*]. if you have specific questions, you can always ask in the comments and also i will put this on general tags so people can see it and insert their tips

this was long and i feel like i was rambling. if it's nonsense, do let me know, but i hope it was somehow helpful. I'm 0 sure about this, again, the autism makes it extremely hard but this is what i could piece together up until this point in my very humble and quiet life.

[lavenderstratosphere]

I just got asked on a date by this insanely cool trans gal on a dating app. We’ve only been speaking for 5 days AND she lives really far away. What do?

Edit: I told her I want to take it slow and get to know her before advancing to a next stage.

[junkdyke]

i should be licking dyke cunt instead of doing whatever the fuck this is

[sapphicseekingsapphic]

Hi!

My name is Lou, I'm a 22 year old lesbian from Germany. I love reading, crocheting, being creative in general and spending time outside; big love for hiking! I work full time at a camp site and study tourism management via online university. I would love to make some queer friends and am also open for a serious relationship. I don't have a problem with long distance either. I am a practicing christian in case that's a dealbreaker for anyone but I am open for, and respect all faiths and beliefs!

Let's chat and see if we vibe :)

[gaaaaaaaayypr]

As a lesbian who is attracted to soft, sensitive and maternal women I feel like that should be reciprocated both ways since we are both women but unfortunately I feel like femme lesbians and bi women are not attracted to my "softness" or stereotypical female personality. 🤔 strange since they claim to adore women.

I sometimes feel like I have to mold my personality and natural feminine traits into a masculine stereotype just to appeal to them. Just to find that balance that a relationship needs.

Its hard to find this online because pictures don't produce energy and it can make me seem like a different more femme image than what I am in real life with my masculine mannerisms...so many girls might right me off before getting to know me.

I don't want to over think this topic too much but I feel like this is relatable in lesbian dating and the reason why we all just rot in our rooms instead of taking the risk in meeting up.

I think many gay women crave that opposite more than I've seen with gay couples. Like some need that masc person to take control..but idk how to play that masculine role as a woman.

We judge too much instead of taking action. Let's let it be.

[aclaywrites]

Aesthetically? Sure! George Clooney, Jason Momoa, Julian Sands (RIP 😔). What nice faces! What beautiful hair! Such symmetrical features! I bet they smell really really good (maybe not Julian at this point). I’m not blind, I’m a lesbian. Which means these lovely faces and luxurious locks are really pleasant to look at and that’s it. I don’t want to kiss them, much less go any farther than that. If I close my eyes and make myself imagine it, it feels weird and they stop being attractive and I just want to step away. I want to gaze at them and say ‘can you believe your eyes?’ I feel the same way about Art Nouveau architecture. Can you believe the ornate carved frame of this round window?!??? I can see what straight women would like about them, but I don’t want any of that at all.

[irenetherogue]

Good: told my bestie I'm a lesbian

Good: bestie says she's a lesbian too

Good: bestie agrees to me telling ppl she's my girlfriend

Good: bestie enthusiastically agrees to monetizing our relationship (OF/Fansli content forthcoming)

Good: bestie invites me to go on a bike ride

Bad: can't go bc my body hurts too much today

Good: bestie invites me to sunset beach picnic

Good: I go, bc my body doesn't hurt THAT much

All in all, it was a *fantastic* day 🥰🥰🥰