#In the same way I don't think adults are superior to children but I acknowledge puberty does crazy things to the body

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

I wish women did not feel so strongly about the fact men, on average, are physically stronger than them. I feel like women have such negative feelings about this that it drives them to ridiculousness. Listen, I get it. I get it, I get it, I get it. The fact men are stronger is frightening. It’s scary to know that if a man decided to physically attack you then you are probably fucked. The USWNT, women who have spent years honing their skills on the field, lost to teenage boys who—when compared to the women—were basically just beginning to develop their talents. I understand how demeaning that can feel to every woman who hears this fact. I can imagine how demeaning it was for the USWNT. I’m sure every woman has been in a situation, playful or threatening, where they have tested their strength against a man and lost miserably. I’ve seen videos where women hit and slapped men with genuine rage and fury and the man barely even flinched. I understand how embarrassing and scary it can be to come to terms with the strength disparity between men and women, but you simply must come to terms with it. Far too many women have taken to pretending that it's not there—this is not a good approach.

Women choose to pretend it's not there because acknowledging that it's there makes them feel inferior. I ask women to remember that this world was built with the ideals of men in mind and to cater to their specific strengths. Men value strength and violence so of course the world is going to seem like those two things are all that’s valued in it. It's no coincidence that many male heroes are physically strong/easily able to cause harm—such as Naruto or John Wick or the Avengers. Of course it feels shitty, as a woman who inhabits this world, to have to acknowledge that your biology generally prevents you from being able to have the ‘can beat anyone in a fight’ type of strength that gets constantly praised.

However, I implore women to consider that men being physically stronger than them is no more of a significant fact than women being able to give birth while men cannot. Women also have biological advantages over men but when was the last time you saw a man calling himself inferior because of them? Imagine if the world was built with female advantages in mind. Imagine a world where the ability to give birth was seen as some sort of pinnacle of human worth. I mean, the ability to give birth is crazy. You are literally creating a whole new life. The female body is capable of providing the necessary tools to bring about a whole new person. Every brain that has thought of something life changing and every hand that has built something new was brought into existence by a woman’s reproductive system. Every single person that has ever so much as breathed was brought to life by a woman, but men never think women are superior for this fact.

Oh, but women couldn’t get pregnant without men, right? No. IVF exists. But even without it, the correct thing to say would be that women cannot get pregnant without sperm. A woman can get artificially inseminated. She never has to go out and find a man to have sex with. Is that not an advantage? Because, I mean, what can a man do if he wants to have a child but no woman is willing to give him one? Hire a surrogate? That comes with a list of complications, is far more intimate than artificial insemination, and is incredibly expensive. How is that not a disadvantage of being male? You may be thinking that you, as a woman, never want to become pregnant, but that is not the point!  The point is that it's arbitrary to look at biological advantages as anything other than completely neutral.

Women also survive famine better and live longer than men. Imagine a world where women held this over men’s heads? But we don’t live in that world. In this world, I’m certain a man would say that they die sooner because of being braver, taking more risks, and doing dangerous jobs. However, if it were women putting themselves in danger and dying as a result, men would not be quick to call us brave; they'd call us the opposite. Idiotic. Foolhardy. Too stupid to take the necessary precautions to keep ourselves alive.

It is just so painful to see women lamenting over the physical disparity between men and women. Let it go. Consider being neutral on the subject of biological advantage. Consider that male strength isn't something to pretend doesn't exist and isn’t something that proves women are inferior.

I understand that acknowledging vulnerability is against the survival Instinct—I get it—but come on. How can we let this get to a point where we’re saying it’s okay for males to enter female sports and beat the absolute crap out of/wipe the floor with women? Them being stronger is neutral! It does not mean anything! But it’s fact. Pretending it’s not only serves to put women in a losing position. Pretending it’s not only serves to make women into a laughing stock. Men will gladly collect medals that belong to women—they’ve been doing that forever. If there was no reason for male and female leagues then there wouldn’t be any. You cannot deny your way into something being true. I also wish it were true that the average woman was evenly matched against the average man, but it’s simply not reality. In the same way that it’s not reality that the average woman is taller than the average man.

I am begging women to think neutrally about this topic instead of being in such deep turmoil over it that they open the door for men to walk all over us.

[edai-crplpnk]

Torune or Kakashi (character list)

For this character ask game

I'll start with Kakashi cause he will probable be easier 😆

favorite thing about them: ... Gai? More seriously, I like their plotline of self destruction and martyrdom and being forced to overcome that, but I don't think I like it so much each individually as I like them together.

least favorite thing about them: Don't touch children's butt even in a fight, Kakashi.

favorite line: chose between "I need to protect him." in Shippuden 288 or "He's nice, isn't he?" in Konoha Shinden (he's a simp)

brOTP: Idk if that really answers the question, but I like his relationship with Team 7 when they are more grown up and he is less their teacher and superior, and more like an older friend to them. I'm soft about teens becoming adults, and I like their dynamic!

OTP: KakaGai ofc, we all know the truth

nOTP: outside of the obvious Kakashi/any Team 7? not much tbh. But there's also not really any ship I'm enthusiastic for outside of KakaGai

random headcanon: I'm not sure the man can read. He left school at 5. I think 10yo Kakashi thought if he held a book in public at all times no one would realise he's barely litterate, and by the time he realised what the content of the book was, he already had a reputation made and so he's been "the guy who reads porn in public" for the past two decades because there was no coming back. His writting is that of a 6yo kid and someone has to write all the official paper for him once he's Hokage.

unpopular opinion: He works paired with Iruka but only if you acknowledge his inherent patheticness. KakaIru sucks as long as it's "cool and strong and mysterious military man and his soft and nice teacher boyfriend". But I can get behind "overworked and tired middle school teacher has no patience left for whiny boyfriend who has forgotten how to interract decently with other human beings".

song i associate with them: I'm not very good at songs but I'm thinking maybe Veux-tu danser ? by Gris. For the lyrics much more than the song itself. "You cannot touch me because I carry the worst of infections. I spread it to the ones I love at the whim of impulsions. I never wanted to propagate this heineous bacteria. Plese forgive, I should have staid stuck in your lives. Why do I have to bear this terrible curse? And most importantly, why did you have to love me back?"

favorite picture of them: I have to give a shout out to Kishimoto's iconic double pages

The details in the eyelid and lashes? The concept of him only crying from Obito's eyes and never his own? Excellent.

Now Torune!

favorite thing about them: His sacrifice for Shino is obviously touching, but it's also pretty fucked up and sad too. It makes mewonder about his father and their relationship. Presumably Shikuro died when he was little, if he was raised alongside Shino by Shibi? I wonder how much Torune got to know him, if he's grown up at least for a while with someone who had the same type of hive as him, what their place was inside the clan and how he's been raised to come to think of himself that way.

least favorite thing about them: Too little screentime 😔 and also tbh not the greatest fashion sense of all Aburame, but he gets a pass for being naked half of the time

favorite line: He doesn't have much lines in the manga, and while he may have some nice ones in the anime episode with the flashback of his childhood with Shino, I don't have access to it and I don't know it very well.

brOTP: Shino seems like an obvious choice! We need a "Danzou doesn't exist and all is well" AU

OTP: It's gotta be Fuu. I can happily see them as friends to but if he had to be with someone it'd be him.

nOTP: I think the truth is, I never really have any big nOTP

random headcanon: I assume Torune isn't his birth name. Loosing your name when entering the Root is shown as a big thing for Sai and Yamato. I like to make myself sad thinking about Shino only knowing his birth name, and not recognising it when people who have seen him, for example at the Gokage Summit, mention him by his Root name. Maybe Shino calling him his birthname when they meet during the war and Torune hearing it for the first time in over a decade.

unpopular opinion: I don't think there's enough fandom opinion about him for any to be unpopular haha

song i associate with them: I'm not sure it makes any sense but I thought of Isara by Eluveitie

favorite picture of them: Him carrying Fuu in piggy back just makes me soft. More generally they seem to have a love of trust and affection for each other. I like it.

[weebsinstash]

BRO AND GROWING UP AS BAKUGOU’S FIANCÉE??? KNOWING HOW MUCH OF A BRAT HE WAS AS A KID??? TERROR. HE JUST BULLIES YOU YOUR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD AND THINKS THAT BECAUSE YOU’RE ENGAGED HE’S ENTITLED TO IT. POSSESSIVE AF EVEN WHEN HE STARTS BEING COLD.

And omg the fiancée probably grows up being a meek little thing because of his bullying and aggressive behavior, as well as very cruel/insulting remarks like he did with Deku, also being told that she just has to endure how Bakugo treats her and be the perfect calm collected lady to balance him out because that’s her duty as his wife and empress??? Good food. Then the fiancée gets tired of his bullshit and just tries to break the engagement/divorce and he’s like “wait what no you’re not supposed to do that”. Idk just having to deal with child Bakugou would’ve been a hard NO from me 😭

I've been having multiple ideas for this specific scenario and pairing but it seems to be popular with you guys too 😳

But no I absolutely agree, I think being raised with him and knowing what a little prick he's always been would be terrible, and I personally wouldn't have the patience for a bratty little kid, even AS a kid. I can see it so stereotypically: Reader and Bakugou both children, brought to the same location but allowed to wander before the official meeting. Reader is just minding their own business, being the Saint/ess or mage or whatnot that enables a low-born person like them to be treated with prestige, just walking in the garden and being cute and curious about all the plants, here's the Crown Prince, demanding you tell him your identity and reason for being in his palace. You're trying to be polite but he just mocks you for no reason? Says your role is stupid and weak since it doesn't involve fighting? (Perhaps he's feeling a little inferior to you since you have a superior and useful skill he can't obtain, hm?) And maybe you lose your patience and get chest to chest with the little punk and even start to have a physical fight before some adults, like say your guardians, have to pry you apart

And then the adults pull you both aside and scold you and get you all dolled up to see each other again and it's like, haha you're gonna have a political marriage :) sure, the future Emperor just received a black eye from his future spouse but, no this is fine, let's not correct the little monster in any way, you two are definitely going to learn to get along over the years :) obviously you just kind of consider him a huge bully and dread finally marrying him and having a wedding even if it helps your home country to form an alliance at the cost of your freedom 😩 and also imagine, having healing powers and him asking/demanding you heal his soldiers snd himself for certain battles and wars but he won't let you like, go into the villages and treat the commoners suffering from, demon flu or something that you could purify, like he's just using you as a health pack for his army but not letting you perform your duty of helping the people and you resent him and think he's selfish (which he is, but, he also wants to keep you close and far away from any unpredictable subjects)

Just sorry, if you think of how teenage Bakugou treated Midoriya, and even just vaguely transfer that over, I would hate him, think he's rude, worry for the future of his country, AND imagine being stuck in a political marriage and you know you have to share him with not only other women but also just, one specific dude for some reason? Which you suppose isn't, impossible but, not exactly common to you; surprising, but you aren't rejecting it.

I feel like the constant pressure to be absolutely perfect and regal and holy yet the one who is 'the most important' never acknowledging those traits and efforts would be emotionally and psychologically draining. So many other people would just come off as fake or trying to suck up to you, and Izuku... his praise doesn't count; you don't know what's wrong with this boy but sometimes he's stuck on you like glue and wants to spend entire days together, consecutively. And he technically isn't doing anything too sinister, but it's how he does it, the execution. Wanting to spend time with you is one thing, wanting to spend every waking moment is another

Bakugou would probably be one of those where, you tell him you hate him and never loved him to his face and he'll tell you that it isn't your job to love each other, stop being stupid, but the second he has you escorted off he's isolating himself for deep meditation because WHY DOESN'T MY FAVORITE WIFE LIKE ME 🥺 and over the course of the next week he's sending gift after gift to your palace, never coming himself though, and he thinks you've forgiven him when you accept everything and then he finds out you were just doing it on courtesy and everything he gave you was just put into a storage room to not be seen or heard

[leandra-kinard]

I just think it’s unfair to absolve Shannon of all her clearly ableist statements based on the fact that she may be struggling. I completely understand psychological breaks, as I’ve had a few myself, but that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to be ableist or offensive. If someone has a mental break and they suddenly start being racist, there would be no defense. No one gets a pass for being offensive or prejudiced. Not when they’re educated on the topic.

I think it's not fair to compare ableism (or the type of ableism you're pointing out) and racism in this way. While both in their forms that are clearly aimed to put others down are rooted in a similar kind of belief of superiority, being worried for/feeling guilty/seeing negative impacts on someone's well-being is not rooted in any kind of negative judgement.

And what counts and does not count as ableism is also differently perceived by individuals. We can all agree that being condescending to people with disabilities is a clear and malicious type of ableism. We can also agree that people being patronising of disabled people - even when they mean well or think they mean well - is definitely rooted in prejudice, in a belief that people with disabilities can't fend for themselves, are less capable and need someone to make decisions for them.

But that's already where it starts getting difficult, because depending on the disability that may even be factually right. Here, it's of course the approach and attitude that matters. Like when parents make decisions for their children when they're not old enough to make them for themselves, and some do so well by including their kids in the process and asking them for their opinions, while other parents just dismiss their kids and go "you're too young for that, I know better."

But what Shannon did and said is even fuzzier than that, and while I acknowledge that you read it as ableist, I don't. I have a different interpretation and think there was a different underlying intention/feelings towards the topic than those you are seeing here. So I don't feel this is "giving someone a pass for being ableist". Also, I'm not giving her a pass. I'm saying what she did was bad. Leaving your child is just not a good thing to do, but I can understand it. I just believe there were a ton of other issues that were a far bigger contributor to her acting the way she did than Christopher's disability.

But speaking of education on the topic, I have a genuine question. (this is gonna be long).

So my ex-neighbour's son has CP. He's nearly my age (close to 40) now, or even already 40. His motor skills are moderately affected. He doesn't need crutches and is quite active (he started indoor 'rock' climbing a few years ago, and that still improved his mobility, even in his age). His mental development was somewhat affected, though. He's fun and confident, but - according to his mother and how I perceived him - he struggles with some things. He needs some extra help with things like bureaucratic stuff and other things adults usually take care of themselves. He legally is categorised as physically and mentally disabled.

We had a boy - or young man rather - in my neigbourhood when I was a kid, and for him it was the same. Up until reading from some people here I wasn't even aware that CP could only affect mobility and not mental development. I always thought it was both (and that definitely reflects on ableism in our society because what you usually hear and learn is that CP automatically means physical and mental development issues).

I was wondering, however... Do you think someone like my neighbour's son struggles with some 'adult tasks' because a) the education system didn't (and probably still doesn't, everywhere) include, encourage and support people like him properly? I mean he grew up in the 80s/90s, and even today inclusive schools are a rare exception here in Germany. (JFC, I just looked it up, and apparently this has only been a thing for the past 12 years). and b) people around him didn't do the same? Do you think that there is a lot of untapped potential in people like him to become independent?

I know his mother often worries about what will become of him once she's not there anymore. While he does live on his own in a small apartment (very recently; before that he was always in an assisted living situation), he is still dependent on her aid in many situations. She came over the other day to pick up some flower pots she had left behind, and was telling me that he's currently fully staying with her for a few weeks because he had/has shingles. One of the things she mentioned was that he has that rash on his back and can't put the cream he needs on it by himself, which, ok, is solely based on reduced mobility which there are tools for. So something like that should not be a huge issue if he didn't have his mom. But the other stuff likely will be.

So, it does make me wonder if lack of encouragement and trust keeps people from being more independent. And also if what she learned (from other mothers, doctors, educators) and how she approached his upbringing and keeps doing it isn't also a bit sub-optimal.

(I mean, there are also parents of children who are not disabled, who still constantly feel they have to take care of stuff for their kids long into adulthood ^^ But she's not really the type. I also want to note that she doesn't meddle in his decisions or belittles any of them, but there's always that limit at some point that makes me wonder whether it's an actual, set-in-stone limit that requires certain assistance, or also an effect that was caused by his upbringing)

[natalieleenorment]

I believe that the woke and sjw culture that people claim that's a major problem in society is not the actual problem. Has anyone actually considered the possibility that some of these people are not as strong as those who understand the world from a different point of view? Did it ever occur to those anti-wokeness that the latest generation of young adults haven't been born the same time period as everyone else, not to mention that these people haven't been able to deal with the injustices around the world like those before them?

Isn't it possible that many people who want diversity in the Hollywood media is because they wish there was more than just white people in stories, especially when they're cisgender and heterosexual? That's not to say every story needs to be the same, because I understand that all stories have a right to exist individually as their own.

I'm just saying we shouldn't harshly put down SJWs as if they're the problem. Yes, I understand that many of you aren't exactly thinking that diversity can solve everything. I fully acknowledge that not everyone wants the same thing.

But we never truly consider the possibility that our kids will want representation, even if they don't ask for it, especially if it's a high possibility that some if not all of your children could be born transgender, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual or something else than what you envisioned your children to be.

And if many of you thought about that and you're interested in diversity, then you're not the problem. I understand that there are those who claim diversity is being forced, but I doubt diversity was ever the problem. In retrospect, everything we read and write is mostly just fanfiction, works born as spiritual successors of those that came before.

And for the record, I do not believe in censorship. I truly believe that people have a right to speak their minds and create anything that comes to mind, as long as they're not trying to hurt anyone. I may not always agree with certain people, but I don't believe in silencing them.

Granted, separating art from the artist is possible, but sometimes it usually works if the artist is willing to make amends for what they've done. And I don't want to consider the possibility of telling anyone what to do, but I do believe that some artists like JK Rowling are causing harm to themselves as much as they continue to create harm to those who had done nothing wrong.

Honestly, the truth is, aren't we all looking for something to relate to when it comes to storytelling? Even if you took away what you claim is wokeness, there would still be problems to deal with. The same thing if many conservatives took over everything, because there would be that one small thing that could turn into a problem for others that conservatives would have to acknowledge at some point.

You can expect things to go back to the way they were, but why do it anyway? Didn't South Park teach us to look forward instead of backwards? Isn't possible that even though we're all different individuals living on this planet, that we don't have to attack each other over some things we all can't control?

The media can change, but not overnight. If you really want normalcy, first you must understand that no one is superior. You must also realize that it's love, not hate, that conquers even the most corrupt in this world.

Hating on SJWs is not the best solution, nor is being angry at the world because of wokeness and sjws is going to solve what you want. I'm not saying you have to be like everyone else, just try to remember that we've all been in pain and had broken lives before things became different. In fact, I would advise if many people tried to understand where those people are coming from, especially when it came to 9/11 and the Trump era.

I recommend listening to P.O.D.'s Youth Of A Nation, as well as Miyavi's version of it. In the end, we were all young questioning life.

Just as John Legend said, we're just ordinary people.