#Imposter Syndrome Explained

[successalchemist]

The Comfort Zone Trap: How to Break Free and Manifest Your Dreams

Do you have goals and dreams that you want to manifest but you’re afraid to step out of your comfort zone? Believe me, you’re not alone. It’s a common problem and one that is a major block to achieving success. What is the Comfort Zone? The comfort zone is where you feel at ease and in control and experience low levels of anxiety and stress. It’s where you perform tasks and activities without…

[sygneth]

I have had a lot of thoughts on the original story after listening to the Sherlock&Co "Gloria Scott" and a new headcanon just dropped.

Chapter 1: part 1 - part 2 - part 3 - part 4 - part 5 - part 6

Masterpost (Index)

AO3

thoughts, if you're curious:

As far as gay Victor Trevor absolutely got me, I don't think there was anything serious between him and Holmes. This all comes down to my reading of Holmes, who is (to me) too aroace-spec to get involved in a regular relationship (althouuuughh about Holmes, his sexual and romantic orientation and him discovering it I have had so many thoughts I could write a whole essay). He likes to have a default person though, someone who will take him as he is, and maybe even admire a little - now that's Watson, earlier it was Trevor.

And yea I think Victor got a crush straight away after their first meeting, maybe they even talked about this at some point. Maybe Holmes said that he won't be able to reciprocate this affection but if Victor is fine with keeping things as they are, then he is too. I like to think they stayed pen friends even after Trevor's leave.

I feel like I should emphasize this? My intention in the comic was to make Trevor visibly flustered because he didn't expect a young attractive boy (he's hopeless in my head), while Holmes simply didn't expect to see someone his age and so sincerely sorry.

[heartonthejindow]

100 days of kim seokjin (79/100)

[curiosity-killed]

reading bookmarker comments on my fics (as u do) and getting mildly emo abt the people who've read multiple fics and treat them as like an ouvre and have very sweet comments ;=;

[oceanic-vampire]

my celebratory ice cream :3

what am i celebrating exactly??

i got referred for a formal cptsd diagnosis today !! it was totally unexpected but im really happy that im actually getting taken seriously and (trying) to be proud of myself for finally speaking up about it. complex post traumatic stress is something that's consistently been ruining my life in its entirety but even more so once i started recognising my symptoms and triggers and trying to heal them without help,and it feels oddly nice to have my struggles acknowledged and validated after so long :>

also if you're reading and i haven't responded to you these past few days im sorry ! this is why ! im still not doing too great and emotions take a lot of energy for me so once again it isn't personal,i just don't wanna subject you to me being a zombie,there are also like. five other commitments battling for dominance in my brain so there's that too

[umemiyan]

it is fucking moron monday at work today y'all because aside from me there is not a single brain cell in sight istg

[castleofravens]

being multicultural & multiracial is wild bc people love to try to break you down into fractions but they also don’t want to take fractional efforts at being (x) culture and (y) culture.

i have to be twice as mexican and twice as american, because not doing so alienates me from both, but it’s not even enough then because they still tell you to pick a side, still do that thing where they lean in and analyze your features, playing guessing games at where you come from.

it’s a weird in between and simultaneous total outcast, it feels like being in limbo or something?

[arsenicflame]

no bond stronger than the one between the only two competent coworkers

[autumncalls]

have a job interview tomorrow, so why am i already super nervous today? it's still more than 24 hours to go

[ughgoaway]

I definitely get the imposter syndrome bc I feel like everything I write isn’t good but I can assure you you’re stuff is AMAZING and I would die for the teacher au. If teacher au has one fan it’s me. If it has no fans I have DIED

I think to be a writer you just must also have imposter syndrome- they seem to go hand in hand and tbh that's evil...

I am so in love with your love for my silly little au. like olive, you are committed to this fictional child and her bumbling idiot of a dad and teacher and I admire that!!!

I LOVE YOUUUUUU <33333

[unladielike]

I think the whole reason Vivian often feels like a sham of a sapphic is because she's on the aromantic spectrum, meaning due to the fact she has never fallen in love with another woman besides Alex, her attraction towards women is more frequently sexual, making it seem shallow and invalid. It also doesn't help that lesbians often frame love between two women as a 'pure, wholesome thing', to the point where she gets the sense they think her sexual attraction towards women is dirty somehow... which in turn makes her feel very isolated from the sapphic community as a whole.

Honestly, she doesn't even like all women either, because compared to 2D ones at least, real women tend to be harder to get along with and would usually conclude she's a loser based on her hobbies and fictional tastes, to the point where it's rare to come across one that matches her at her freak, let alone one that supports her wholeheartedly. To that end, Vivian cannot really bring herself to relate whenever a fellow sapphic proclaims, 'God, I love women!', because at the end of the day, she's used to only being fond of Judith until Alex came along; in fact, the one other girl I can think of that Vivian was canonically able to form a close friendship with is Anita, and even then, it should be noted that the women she gravitates to are those who are either unconventionally attractive or share some similarity to her *coughs* Rina *coughs*, meaning it's no coincidence most of her interactions have been with men thus far.

Also, Vivian is a tad... touchy, making it incredibly harder for her to maintain relationships with woman as opposed to men (hence why I would usually throw my male canon muses at female OCs/muses instead). Why, despite not always agreeing with Hayate's viewpoints, I'm sure Vivian is able to partially understand his annoyance towards other women due to the fact she has unfortunately seen them at their most vile; in fact, her mother and older sister happen to be women who have both let her down and frustrated her, so she unfortunately has this 'not like other girls/queers' mindset, which is further exacerbated by the fact women continue to treat her as if she weren't one of them.

Heck, knowing Vivian, I could even see her straight up decking one in the face for spewing transphobic remarks about Alex... and Alex having to stop her before she ends up pressing further charges against her. Regardless, my point still stands that while I wouldn't be opposed to shipping her with more women, Vivian herself is complicated and someone who is easy to set off; therefore, she's selective, regarding which woman she wants to date, much less befriend.

[tarpitbell]

8:04

Maybe the reason why I think I might be a bleeding heart dovekin, is because of the fact that sometimes I feel a very REAL hole in my chest. Always to bleed. But not really there,, not on this body. Or on the bird's actual body.

And sometimes it also feels like that (along with having some major wing shifts that range

[theros]

i wish my main three fictotypes, the ones that aren't ever seen on this blog, were easier to talk about. i can only really talk about two of them with a very small group of people (four), and the third i can only talk to one person about.

such an intrinsic part of me. and knowing those three characters even in a passing way can give a person a very strong understanding of who i am. and i guess that's part of what makes them hard to talk about. (the other part is the obscure sources). if someone knows those characters well enough, they know me. without any masking, without any of the defense mechanisms i have to keep at least a single layer between me and other people. and that's a hard thing to let myself accept.

mortifying ordeal of being known etc etc.

[autistic-katara]

one minute i’ll be like “idk most people with chronic fatigue also have another physical disability or chronic issue to go with it am i actually physically disabled bcz i feel like im faking” and then the next ill be remembering how it completely tore my life apart and is still making living incredibly hard like yeah bro i think ur actually disabled

[cynicjovial]

Announcement. I'm thinking about my son again so here's my whole characterization for him

[beevean]

What bothers me about how forceful/unbased some neurodivergency/LGBT+ headcanons are is how they give off the vibe only neurodivergent or queer characters are allowed to have anything going for them. Not even anything special! Let's take TMOSTH: Tails feels empathy for many things? Autistic! Espio speedread a book to spoil the ending for Knuckles? Autistic! Or what you pointed out in Archie, with Shadow stating he likes his motorcycle? Autistic! As someone who only recently found out they might not be entirely neurotypical, I recall quite disliking and feeling somewhat hurt that every single thing a character did immediately gets spun around to fit the OP's projecting, with the attached "fuck the straights and the neurotypicals only gay people would ever do this" that tends to come along with it (where the thing "only gay people do" 99% of the time is the most basic thing in the world). It's almost like people don't want to consider that the most normal, down-to-earth, "boring" (used in the way such OPs tend to use it: as an easy jab) neurotypical cishet person can feel empathy for many things, speedread, or like a motorcycle. I feel like there is more behind that due to the state of the world at large, but it's annoying to see have to come across it in fandom all the time, and then have the "proof" be complete nonsense or entirely taken out of context to "support" the statement. Not to mention the "joking" accusations of bigotry if you do not share such headcanons that occasionally get added as well.

Another example I thought of the moment I hit the "ask" button: Surge getting revealed as Sonic's "clone" and the ENTIRETY OF TUMBLR immediately deciding this meant Sonic was trans. The fact they aren't even the same species nor look alike in the slightest and the fact I thus promptly got very worried about the biology knowledge of the entirety of Tumblr aside, thank god that shit died down when it got revealed Surge legit was just some rando Starline plucked from the streets with no relation to Sonic.

You hit the nail on the head.

When autistic headcanons are created from the basis of "X has a passion for Y!", I'm here like... do you think autistic people are the only ones who can feel any sort of love or attachment over something? Do you think neurotypical people can only blandly tolerate things? Isn't hyperfixation something much, much more intense than a passion? Isn't autism much more than "being shy and with something they love", and isn't ADHD much more than being excitable? This shit makes legit harder for people to realize if they're neurodivergent or not because I swear that literal human nature is deemed to be "divergent". If "neurotypicalness" is associated with being an emotionless, insensitive asshole, no wonder no one would want to identify as, or call their favorite character, neurotypical!

Don't get me started on how for some people "straight" is a synonym for boring and "gay" is a synonim for fun and quirky. Shocker: love and fun are not limited to non-cishet people. It's not a "weird", exceptional state of humanity. Cishet people can have a personality too.

lmaooooo I remember that headcanon, good times. Speaking of which, while the headcanon "Sonic is trans because he doesn't have chest fur" is... something, I side-eye people who headcanon Surge as trans. Oh, you think that the nasty, aggressively masculine bully is trans? It doesn't look good in either direction :) (same for the people who headcanon her as a lesbian, despite her having 0 meaningful interactions with female characters, solely because she's "butch". I wouldn't want to do that, but I may be biased lmao)