#INSGHT

[olderthannetfic]

During the NPD discourse, someone mentioned that terms like "X abuse" are important for victims finding connection.

I can sympathize with that. In communities for children of NPD parents, I've found insghts that really helped me understand the cycles of abuse in my mother's side of the family.

But here's the thing.

I have also stumbled upon communities aimed at people of specific Myer-Briggs personality types where people connected around things like "typical INTJ experiences" and relationship woes and some offered advice like "find a [compatible personality type] friend/SO".

And the Myer-Briggs stuff is... well, it's pseudoscience. It's one step above astrology. It's like communities aimed at connecting Gemini or whatever. But that didn't stop the people in the community from thinking they had something in common in a way that was specific to this personality type, even though it very much wasn't.

People can find community and connection in such places even if the underlying science is bad, because finding connection is what people do. But a LOT of it is confirmation bias, echo chambers and self-caricature, and can actually get in the way of properly understanding yourself and your relationship with someone. You start filtering everything through this armchair diagnosis lens and it can warp your perception of reality.

If things like "NPD abuse" form the basis for victims finding connection, support and solidarity, then that makes it more important for "NPD abuse" to be a real legitimate thing, not less.

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[sunstranded]

INTJ: Advise each of the types have given me that I actually found insightful

I am still surprised I actually am thinking of someone each time I write about each of the 16 personalities. I suppose I am breaking my stereotype...

NOTE: I am actually not quoting them exactly... at this point I don't remember the exact details already

ISFP - "Don't take advice from those that don't get you."

This is a different but an insghtful way to say don't trust anyone so easily.

ESFP - "Thinking that I'm not the main character makes understanding and being kind easier"

I know these guys are the center of attention inevitably so something like this to come from them says A LOT

ISTP - "If you want help, you would ask."

We're so low maintenance, literally only contact each other when necessary. Mad respect. Especially since this is a rule we both apply to e/o and ourselves.

ESTP - "Let's just find out."

We are not close for obvious reasons. I worked with them once and when my Ni and their Ti connect, their Se and my Te just start getting to work. Best type for trial and error.

INTP - "It's too nuanced to say."

Given I tend to say stuff a little too simplified, they slow me down to think of accuracy and details more

ENTP - "You can just ditch it, they don't always have to matter"

INTJs have Fe trickster, so when I tried to work on myself to be more... considerate and aware of others and the norm, I fall on the slippery slope of caring too much.

INTJ - "Work on your weaknesses. That includes your strength."

If there is a cryptic or ominous line contest, Ni-doms take the cake. Those who get it get it.

ENTJ - "Better now than later."

This was in the context of confessing or admitting our feelings either romantic or honest hurt between friends.

ISTJ - "If you can do it now, do it while you can still fix mistakes."

I either butt heads or synergize so well with ISTJs thankfully it's a great balance of both. This advice really helps me stop overplanning the menial tasks.

ESTJ - "Be kind and loving to anyone you can but do not love and trust everyone you can."

Shocker to have this type be so insightful in this way but it's true, better be too kind than too trusting.

ISFJ - "You can just give it a try, you won't lose anything"

I needed this type of soft encouragement. As much as I hate to admit it.

ESFJ - "What drink do you want?"

This is one of the weirdest acquaintances I remember and it's not even advice but I witnessed how actions can say things words cannot.

INFP - "Does that mean to you?"

In simple conversations, in anything, they help me shamelessly acknowledge silly little things that just matter to me.

ENFP - "Objectivity isn't always meaningful."

It wasn't said this way, I just summarized it but again, the Fi and Ne users just give me a safe space to be a little incoherent in explaining my Ni and Fi.

INFJ - "It sucks that our plans aren't always going to work. No matter how much we try."

It makes accepting that all my FAILED meticulous, realistic, and executable plans and their backup plans easier because they don't feel like a grave failure when someone just gets it.

ENFJ - "Yeah, it's better, you did great."

Generally don't like it when Fe users compliment me because it feels like they're too focused on my present emotions but when they reassure me I realize how important it is to be focused on addressing present emotions.

Don't mind how my explanations got longer in the end... I know the xNFx will always appreciate a little more wordy things that have more feeling-inclined stuff...

[tazkiyaja]

Ngga fokus

Tadi malam abis deeptalk sama temen-teman baruku di @careerclass, ngobrol nya lumayan lama dari jam 8.55 sampe mendekati jam 11 malam. Banyak sekali insght yang di dapat dari penjelasan mentor kami @kurniawangunadi, dan itu sangat related dengan kehidupanku dan mungkin kita saat ini.

Salah satu poin yang pengen aku bahas terkait “ngga fokus”, dalam bahasan itu kadang kita terlalu “serakah” untuk banyak hal, pengennya semua di lahap, di cicip, dan pada akhirnya ga ada yang benar-benar kita seriusin.

Padahal salah satu hal yang mungkin tidak kita lakukan saat ini adalah mengambil banyak kesempatan tapi tidak mempertimbangkan kebutuhan dan prioritas yang ada. Termasuk diriku, yang kadang dan saat ini ngerasa masih belum concern di satu bidang atau satu pekerjaan.

Maka mulai lagi dan terus menjadi pembelajar sepanjang masa, bahwa mencoba banyak hal itu sah-sah saja bahkan dianjurkan, tetapi memfokuskan diri pada satu hal akan lebih memudahkan kehidupan, kita jadi punya branding diri yang lebih jelas dan nyata dan terarah

Resume singkat deeptalk tadi malam.

[2024trying]

hoje eu acordei completamente frustrado comigo mesmo. não quero responder mais perguntas, as quais eu decidi a menos de 7 dias que não me são mais úteis. problema de ter grandes insghts é que as mudanças nem sempre - provavelmente nunca, acompanham o que está dentro da mente. faz sentindo... será que o espírito consegue mudar completamente no instante que percebe que quer mudar? ou será que ele também tem que obedecer uma cadeia de pessoas e eventos pra conseguir fazer a mudança que quer? provavelmente ficaria com a segunda opção também, talvez com uma evolução muiro acentuada, essa mudança de estado seja mais rápida, até porque talvez seja pela segurança de todos?

seila... eu construi a realidade que eu vivo hoje e recentemente eu descubro que eu construi meio mal... tudo bem, tudo bem, não tinha como prever que outras coisas me aconteceriam no meio do caminho, eu não sabia o que mais me tinha pra ter de novidade. e talvez seja exatamente esse o problema: eu nunca acredito ou nunca confio plenamente que com toda certeza coisas novas e melhorem me acontecerão. e ai eu fico dentro do meu quadrado, como se aquele realidade fosse a que eu vou viver pra sempre e aí passa um tempo, eu felizmente descubro novas coisas e me sinto completamente frustrado de perceber o que eu estava errado, que existia coisas melhores, que eu não precisa me contentar com pouco...

não sei, minha cabeça hoje está em parafusos, eu queria sair andando rua afora chorando, talvez me lamentando, depois eu encontraria algumas figuras que não tem pé e nem cabeça, tomaria algumas decisões ruins e depois voltaria pra onde eu estou agora, pra fazer como é preciso.

no fim, embora não seja muito bom pra ninguém admitir, estar aqui "preso" no corpo é absurdamente útil, porque se eu não tivesse, eu não me permitiria viver nem 1% das minhas frustrações, que só acarretariam mais frustrações.

também me chama muito atenção ultimamente como eu sempre fui um médium muito ativo. muitas coisas que eu só fazia, pensanva, agia e eu achava que seila, na verdade não era "seila" era diretamente a presença e a influencia de outras pessoas. porque agora eu tenho alguns insights muito parecidos em termos de padrões e agora eu consigo ver que não sou bem só eu que estou enxergando...

bom, eu só não queria me sentir tão culpado por tudo que eu faço, como se todos os erros fossem uma grande vitrini de mim mesma, como se for curioso ou experimentar o mundo fosse apenas um grande mal... eu aceitei e ainda aceito muito só pra não ter que ouvir nada, então é mais fácil só obedecer calado, do que tentar que alguém me entenda, mas isso já está demais, não porque é realmente muito, só faz parte das mil realizações que eu tive agora e ai subitamente tudo parece mais grave...

e toda essa frustração me faz querer construir uma torre enorme e impenetrável, mas no fundo eu enxergo também que é uma solução que pode acontecer, mas não vais ser isso o melhor, só não é mais esse o objetivo agora

[taysandias]

INSGHT VALIOSO

Para cada situação

Posso ver de diversos ângulos

E escolher e decidir qual melhor me adequo

Posso escolher ver pelo ângulo que mais trás benefícios

Pelo ângulo que me acrescenta mais

E descartar ângulos que não trazem nenhum benefício

POSSO FAZER ISSO PRA CADA SITUAÇÃO DESCONFORTÁVEL QUE POSSA ME ACOMETER :)

Exemplo

[oldgrimnir]

"The ghost that made me feel alive."

I was a teacher's assistant at lower school. I sat on a bench to watch the kids play and make sure nobody got hurt. Until I felt this feminine presence sitting by my side. I was already familiar with the supernatural and started a conversation with that unknown being.

"Who are you?"

"I used to be a student here, but I died three years ago. I was in seventh grade."

"Three years? Why do you still come here?"

"It reminds me of when I played like those kids. Now that I'm dead, I wish I had enjoyed more of that phase of my life."

"Well, you would wish the same if you were still alive."

We both laughed. I was trying to be discrete to not trigger the curiosity of the kids playing around, as it looked like I was talking to myself. But I never had such an organic conversation with a ghost before. I wanted to keep it going, even if it looked crazy.

"So, what's your name?"

"It's Sarah. Nice to meet you."

"Nice to meet you too. It's strange talking to a dead person that makes me feel lighter and more alive. Thank you for that."

"Well, it's the first time someone alive talks to me. Thank YOU for that. But I feel you have a heavy presence."

"It's called growing up, adulthood and responsibilties."

"Hm... maybe you are not enjoying that phase as much as you should. But unlike me, you are at least getting that chance."

Not long after that, Sarah said she had to go. Of course, this conversation left me really insghtful. And this is just an attempt to register how meaningful it was for me.

[innonurse]

Survey: 93 percent of US seniors intend to age in place and make greater use of health tech

- By InnoNurse Staff -

The senior housing technology boom is apparently here to stay, and a new survey is quantifying its influence on seniors' lives as they age in place.

According to a research conducted by U.S. News & World Report's 360 Reviews, 93% of US adults intend to age in place, which raises the need for health-related products.

Read more at McKnight's Senior Living

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Other recent news and insghts

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Esaote North America has announced the availability of a new, artificial intelligence-enhanced MyLab X90VET ultrasound machine (Esaote North America/PRNewswire)

[mccarthymolly]

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[stormqueenofthegarden]

She let him in. Hearing the knock, for a brief second she thought it was Nikolai. She wasn't disappointed, to say, when she heard David's voice, yet her shoulders drooped. She forced them back into the straight-backed posture that she never let down.

He entered the chambers, disheveled and messy, as usual. She allowed herself to crack the smallest smile.

"David."

"Are you worrying about Nikolai again?"

Since when was David insghtful? Zoya thought angrily. She brushed it off. She had questions.

"Take a guess, David. Why is he spending so much time away? What's going on with the Grisha experiments? Why do we have to do this?" Surely David could answer at least one.

Zoya was starting to worry. Nikolai had always spent time away from the palace, she could respect he needed space. But now she barely saw him, just got notes telling her he'd be back in the evening. He was always tense and on edge when she did see him. She knew him well enough to know something was wrong.

"Be back around 8. Taking Punchline with me," he'd written this time, a messy heart signing it off. Maybe she was overreacting. Wouldn't Nikolai tell her if there was a problem? Maybe she shouldn't wait by the door, pacing, whenever he was a few minutes late. It reminded her horribly of those days when she worshipped the Darkling.

She shrugged off her worry. Nikolai would be fine

[plebcoder]

Programming languages

Whats neat about programming langauges are that they are “portable” in the sense that they can be installed on multiple arhitectures. Take python for example https://docs.python.org/3/library/platform.html, works on both linux, windows and mac. The “portability” aspect of general purpose programming languages might vary in feature-completeness between platforms.

[addanarticle]

Saudi Arabia leads OPEC decision to drop IEA data as US ties fray

Saudi Arabia leads OPEC decision to drop IEA data as US ties fray

Issues include global demand revision in February IEA report on energy transition rankled OPEC + members question watchdog’s independence DUBAI, April 12 (Reuters) – A decision driven by Saudi Arabia that OPEC + should stop using oil data from the West’s energy watchdog reflected concern about US influence on the figures, sources close to the matter said, adding to strain on ties between Riyadh…

[worldservicedirectory]

For foreign fighters, Ukraine offers purpose, camaraderie and a cause

For foreign fighters, Ukraine offers purpose, camaraderie and a cause

LVIV, Ukraine, March 7 (Reuters) – Michael Ferkol, who once served as a supply specialist with engineer battalions in the US Army, had been in Rome studying archeology when he heard the Ukrainian president’s appeal for foreign fighters. Within days, Ferkol said, he presented himself at a military recruiting office in the western Ukrainian city of Lviv, hoping to be taken on as a frontline…

[psicologogerson]

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[gatoazulys]

Por eso siempre como dos, uno para invitar y el otro pa mi solo l Gatoazul