#I'm not tagging or engaging not only bc they blocked me but like... i'm less mad and more baffled atp

[thescreamcorner]

people always twist what I say to fit their narrative when discoursing about mental health and at some point it just becomes funny, like bro I am Also Autistic, and what I meant is Exactly What I Typed not some secret other thing you're interpolating out of it

[horrorshow]

Can you talk about why you think blocking and moving on is a bad thing? I thought it was a way to curate your space and avoid drama

idk maybe i'm too idealistic but fandom is a much more friendlier, welcoming, supportive, creative, engaging, active, diverse and interesting space when it's treated like a community where people are encouraged to participate and talk about their interests and where there's space for niche or more unpopular opinions without these people having to worry about being blocked and feel unwelcome by the majority of the fandom they are in. i can't stand how blocking everyone you disagree with has become the first thing to do.

you say its 'to curate your experience'. but blocking people does not only curate YOUR experience. you're also forcefully curating other users' experiences. and not for the better.

people say 'i will block you for literally anything' and then those same people wonder why engagement is down, why no one sends asks, why no one reblogs, why rarely anyone talks in the tags anymore and why this place feels so dead and boring and quiet. i wonder why!!!!

people treat real people as annoying ads they can dispose of at their whim. but that's not how a fandom or a site like tumblr works. (besides, if you really care about people curating their own experience you wouldn't block people. you can filter and blacklist and never see them again while still granting them the same freedom instead of actively making their experience worse.)

you say its to avoid drama. but seeing a post you dont agree with is not 'drama'. and blocking is not solving anything except for you personally. fandom was more fun when we remembered that every user is a real person you share a space with, and probably some mutuals as well, so you find a way to live with each other. starting with a restraining order seems a bit excessive and is not contributing to anything. it's not that hard to be respectful and tolerate others and acknowledge people have different opinions and interests and still co-exist in peace. its not that hard to be nice to people and try to find common ground with them and interact with the stuff you DO like. you do this in every aspect of your real life, so why not online?

i hear you say: 'but that requires WORK and i don't NEED to do any of that bc i can just block them'.

yeah, you can try to create your own bubble and only hang out with like minded people but you wont EVER fully achieve that (no matter how much you block, social media WILL keep feeding you posts you disagree with bc it makes them money). social media WILL pressure you into an 'us vs. them' mentality where you constantly feel like everything online is a threat or an argument you have to win and where being mean and unnuanced gives you the most notes and where you don't even see, let alone be able to treat, other users as people anymore bc you don't interact with them anymore other than to block or fight them. that's not how i want it to be online. it's not fun to me. and maybe i'm a pessimist but i think it will eventually be the death of online fandom and sites like tumblr. look at the state of twitter right now. DOES blocking give you a better experience in the long run? i doubt that it does. overall, i think it makes people even less tolerable and more vulnerable to hate and fear mongering, and social media an even more hostile place.

it's everything i hate about social media and everything i want to fight against and WILL fight against. i won't pretend my meager contribution will change anything, but i LIKE to just scroll past posts i don't vibe with and not see every argument online as a personal offense. it keeps me curious. most posts aren't that bad when you know the person behind it. i mean, you do you, i'm not gonna say what you should or shouldn't do bc that's up to you, but i recommend it: free yourself of the block button and bring back supportive user communities based on a shared love for the same thing and focus on what you have in common with people, just like you would do in real life. save the block button for the rotten apples who DO keep trying to pick fights and exclude others.

(which is, now that i think about it, probably the main difference: most people see the block button as a neutral way to prevent worse. but. that's only the case on an individual level. and treating everything online as an individual choice to which there are no further consequences, especially if they happen on a larger scale, is already a loss.)

[diminuel]

"My corner of the SPN fandom has been very quiet and most of my inspiration has always come from interaction with others." just a small warning to add to this.. there's also the risk of your spn fans unfollowing or becoming less interested bc of all the OP stuff. it's kind of a catch-22 situation. like i get the hype and excitement of a new fandom, but i for instance unfollowed you bc it became too much. i still check your tumblr regularly!! but i'm only here for spn.

Whether people unfollow or follow me is not within my control, so I try not to worry too much about it. Because what am I supposed to do? Not post my non Supernatural things out of fear that people will unfollow? I want to share the joy I feel about OP and there are some people at least who like both too!

For those who are here only for Supernatural I've made an effort to tag so that my One Piece content can be blocked~ I also made a separate fanart tag for OP stuff so it doesn't fill up my SPN fanart tag. If that's not enough then unfollowing is always an option. I'm not here to judge and you don't have to tell me either.

The thing is that I cannot control how inspiration works and, as I said, it's quiet in my SPN corner and I mostly find inspiration by getting excited about scenarios with other people. I just haven't had that in a while with SPN. A lot of artists are feeling a bit burnt out because the engagement just isn't what it used to be. Many people are moving on, many things have already been explored, we are waiting for something to lift us up again. Well, I am.

That can be a continuation (and I hope for it) or it can come from the community.

Give me inspiration, ideas, excitement, a pass to draw whatever even if it's OOC if you want art.

[estrel]

For anyone else trying to Not be chronically online...

i watched a video (by lrnjulie) the other day and i'm thinking of doing some digital minimalism and only having:

tumblr

youtube

a website

from now on. here's why...

[I posted what is essentially a vid format of this on tiktok as a final goodbye if you want to watch that here instead]

i think it'd be beneficial for me as an artist to detox from being /so/ influenced by other people's styles and what other artists are doing (generally). so anyways here's why i'd keep those 3 specifically and nothing else:

tumblr - blogging with text AND images feels healthier than most social media, imo (there's twitter but i'm A. not on it and B. have only heard toxic things). like a public diary and brain dump all at once. also the ability to block tags is really nice, and i can better choose what to/what not to engage with. and bc im primarily on mobile, i can set time limits so im not on here *all* the time. i need somewhere to high post tho & most importantly, a special interest of mine is fandoms, and tumblr is THEE fandom website where I can engage w my interests. also my friend's in there (^:

youtube - i have dissociation and, along with other methods of helping with it, i think it'd be neat to document my life and put it on a platform. also another place to share my special interests in video format! and my art (:

website - my "long term project" as lrnjulie calls it. a place for my portfolio and my art/writing/creative stuff. might even incorporating blogging into here, and definitely a place to put my shop

so that's the triumvirate i'm gonna try out, at least for now. i'm not sure i'll always be off social media, but i think i need to be for at least a while for my mental health. i once took a yearlong break off tiktok and my life was so much better then, i was less in my head and went out more. so, i'm sharing in case anyone else who struggles with mental health/anxiety is wanting to do the same. maybe we can do it together? i'll keep a tag for updates if anyone is interested in my progress or following along: #detoxinitiative2024 but yeah, i figured it was worth sharing (:

thanks for reading! remember to hydrate and eat if you haven't in a while (:

[kaztheghost]

just discussing PvP and the issues people r having with Blue hiding !! tagged discourse and crit to be safe but it isn't intentioned with either it's just me rambling

Okay I mained bads perspective yesterday but I keep seeing people say that Etoiles and Roier couldn't find anyone to kill for nine hours--and listen . Is it that they couldn't find ANYONE or that they didn't find who they WANTED to kill, because they did see Foolish and Cellbit didn't they? Two people in nine hours is SUPER ROUGH yes but they did run into red more than once and just didn't kill them so idk I'd be more into it if they really didn't see a single player for any time whatsoever but like. Just because they didn't see bad more than once ISNT the same; I think I just mainly take issue with the fact everyone is trying to give bad a hard time for not fighting while refusing to acknowledge the entire server wanted his head on a platter, why should he 1v12?? Like that's ridiculous how is that even content when he'd get curbstomped against that many people, every time people want to fight him it's only AFTER they gather at least four to six people to take him out like be realistic if you want to 1v1 id be like fuck yea but he knows that where there's one there's the rest of y'all not too far away I just do not get it he's not a coward he's using basic common sense (plus even when people offer a 1v1 they're ALWAYS in a vc telling their team where to go to jump him) that is there's One of him and An Entire Server who wants him Dead good as he is (and tbf i also disagree with etoiles calling their fight from the other day a 1v2 because it wasn't--it started as a 2v2 and fit ran because he almost died (I'm aware of the miscommunication btw I don't blame either of them!!! It really really sucks bc I'm sure etoiles could've escaped) but regardless it WAS a 2v2 that bad didn't even Want to take on initially, it would've stayed that way if fit had stuck around because he was going to die anyways ykwim but to say it was unfair when it didn't start off that way is eh 2 me mostly bc it sounds like they jumped Etoiles off guard as if Etoiles and Fit didn't engage them first) HOWEVER saying all that I think they really should try to encourage PVP in different ways than just "everyone go hunt down this one specific player" because then it's kind of just . Like that encourages that player to just hide because why would they fight that many people? Boosting the kill percentage helps but manhunts don't imo they'll just stay underground the whole time and I don't blame anyone who does outside of even Blue--like when Blue and Green were hunting Red, of course red is going to stay hundreds of blocks away to avoid PvP it's just numbers ykwim idk it's purgatory but when you being killed will set your entire team back because there's significantly less of you then everyone else I don't blame them really and I hope the admins can come up with a different way to try and get fights going

[gendercosmos]

Hello!!!

Welcome to my kinky blog!! If you know my main or know me irl, no you don't! I post cute & kinky pics on here and hornypost, so if you like that feel free to follow and say hi!

About me:. I'm a 20yo genderfluid goober with a dream, man, idk. I'm pan, I like art and nerdy things and strive to be queer presenting as fuck. I only started using Tumblr awhile ago so the etiquette is still coming to me I'm getting the hang of it I think tho lol, but I hope you like your stay here! xoxo

Kinks in no particular order:

breeding, bondage, petplay, hypno, bimbo stuff, degradation, praise, roleplaying, light cnc, somno, knifeplay, sadism, masochism, pred/prey type stuff, dollification, being owned, training, anal, dumbification, feminization (<<tread very carefully there is a lot of baggage around this kink I avoid but I do like it in theory), edging, feet, humiliation, religious stuff, and much much more probably. (and also vanilla tho I would hope that's a given since I've listed all these others lol.)

there's probably way way more, if it's not listed in hard limits but it's not listed in kinks either, I may still like it but you'd have to ask.

Hard limits (you can interact with me and I may interact with you still if you're into these things but I will not partake.)

pee, detrans stuff, sissy stuff (I'm uncomfortable with a lot of the weirdly racial and transphobic baggage of it, but am less icked about just liking dressing fem and being humiliated), findom (obv doms can get their bag I get it's a living, I just already am incredibly poor so it's not something I can do. As a switch who enjoys to sub (a crazy combo, ik :/) it's disheartening when I'm basically paywalled from talking to ANY dom just bc I'm poor.), etc.

DNI: (if you're into these/if I see you engaging with these things on your page I'll likely block you, if I talk to you and you're into these it's bc I didn't know/notice. )

minors, transphobes, racists, MAGA, sissies that fetishize/exploit trans people and/or POC (which is unfortunately quite common :/ ), anything diaper/scat related, beastiality, puke stuff (not as deplorable as some of the things on here it's just a big ick of mine), amputation-likers?? idk man sometimes u think you've seen it all, etc.

Also little disclaimer, I'm not really looking for a serious relationship on here or anything, I'm in an open poly relationship IRL, but here is not the place to look to join. I'm a freak and engage in freak behavior on here, and I enjoy to message and meet people, I get excited at the thought of people liking my pics and posts, but it won't be anything serious and you'll likely never learn my real name. (Unless I'm revealed one day to like, be a public figure or something but you'd never know >:) I'm certainly not lol )

Also also, I use the tag #me to show my pics, #my thoughts for my thoughts, so if you're looking for those in particular, click the tag from here. ;)

[prismatoxic]

you know, I was joking about the m/f thing, because it's my burden to bear--if those ships make me uncomfortable, I need to make sure to block their tags and not engage with the content, bc there's nothing morally wrong with it or the people who enjoy it. the times I've brought it up are me venting about my own annoying feelings, but I don't want to give the wrong impression. if you ship m/f of ANY kind, dunmeshi or otherwise, I support you! I hope you're having a fun!

and the reason I felt compelled to say this is that I have now seen the absolute horseshit "there's too much yaoi in this fandom" take cross my dash and I do not want anyone thinking I'm perpetuating that bullshit mentality.

maybe the op was a joke, but the people in the tags were not joking. like calling m/m ships "heteronormative" or boring or whatever. being rude about shippers. that is the sort of toxic garbage I want to avoid, and I'm sorry if I only contributed to it by joking about my own tastes, bc I feel like I kind of did.

if you think some ships are inherently better than others, or that some shippers are stupid or unimaginative or, heaven forbid, less queer for shipping certain things, get the fuck out! I want nothing to do with you. you're wrong and you make fandom a bad place.

I have weird hangups about m/f with my fave characters in a lot of fandoms, and those issues are personal in nature and unrelated to the quality of the ship. I'm begging more people to recognize the same thing within themselves. people shipping more m/m than whatever your fave is are not fucking hurting you, and whatever your issues are, they're YOURS to deal with. same for any other dynamic, or headcanon, or whatever. stop resenting other fans for enjoying the series differently than you do.

[havent-thought-of-a-name-lmao]

hiya.

you can call me v, like the english letter. i'm 24 and a professional user of they/them. i'm black and an nb aroace lesbian. which is a mouthful, so i just like to say queer dyke or eldritch lesbian. they're synonymous for my identity.

this is a blog for talking about my physical shit, neurodivergence (autism + adhd), mental illness (C-PTSD, DID, OCD), and my experiences being black and queer. it was originally just gonna be for physical shit (and still mostly is tbh) but y'know.

i've got funny b

i might talk about S, L, A, and M a lot on here. S is my therapist, L is my previous case manager, A is my current case manager, and M is my APN :)

uhh idk what else to put here. my pfp was emu otori for a while but now it's rui kamishiro bc he vibes with me a lot tbh.

i also sometimes post general project sekai shenanigans here; it's less fandom stuff (i have Anxiety), and more gameplay. proseka is smth i can see visible progress in and therefore gives me comfort. i also just love vocaloid and have since high school. if you're curious, i'm at a point of practicing Expert difficulty, getting through 23s easily and learning 24s and easier 25s :)

likes come from elsewhere.

boundaries + fyi

if you don't wanna see my vents, you can filter "#v is venting". that's my neg tag.

i don't have a dni because the kind of people i'd have in my dni wouldn't respect my dni anyway. but i do not have the time, energy, or fucks to give to people who engage with me in bad faith in any sort of meaningful way. you'll probably just get ignored. i also block liberally.

sorry if i tricked you into thinking i'm a pjsk acc i just hurt a lot and enjoy the viddygame and think i'm funny. v unfortunate combination

respect my banners please lol. i really don't like when my posts get derailed and like it and blocking are the only ways to get around that and i'd rather TRY being polite first lol

any posts that have any emoji other than 💛 (which isn't a sign-off) are me keeping track of who was present with me/who i was when i made a post, just because it's helpful for me. no, i will not be giving specific information about those parts. it literally makes no difference to you.

more stuff will be added and removed as needed.

[sapphire-weapon]

I used to draw for other small/rare ships (apparently I'm drawn to those kind of ships lol), only one of them got huge enough after they were given some time alone in the manga which got the ship more talented and known creators and amazing fan art.

Unfortunately it also got more hate on since it was a ship that "got in the way" of other huge popular ships and going through the tag got annoying bc the haters tagged every post shitting on the previously rare pairing, plus if you reblogged or made content for it they would harass you. I just blocked everyone sending me hate lmao.

Lots of people now hate Leon/Ashley but I think this increased hatred also shows how the haters can see that it is a thing now unlike before. They see it as a real threat. You can see the insecurity in some of those antis, it's too obvious and also just sad imo. I don't get why antis take shipping too seriously like they're not even having fun anymore and that's supposed to be the point, no?

Truth is I've seen so many Leon/Ashley fans online and even irl, Reddit for example loves it and Remake Ashley is a fan favorite now. A lot of them are more casual fans that maybe don't engage that deeply with fanon (which tbh is the smart thing to do).

Finally I have to say your blog and the amazing fic writers have inspired me to go back to drawing fan art and just creating content for Ashley/Leon or EagleOne. :)

Since this is my new otp and the only thing I love shipping rn I'm also just creating a new blog for that purpose. I'm not an amazing artist I'm just an amateur but I'll try to do something soon when I'm less busy. I'll absolutely tag it as EagleOne. Hopefully I can motivate others to do the same.

anon what the fuCK i got all emotional reading this wyd 😭

i know that the antis are coming from a place of insecurity, which is why their arguments are so disingenuous (i finally found the "the devs went out of their way to make sure that leon and ashley weren't seen as romantic" tweet and hoo boy the desperation is stinky) -- and that's also why i don't engage with them. as easy and perhaps fun as it would be to just QRT it and be like "oh it makes sense now, you're all using text to speech because you don't actually know how to read" there's no point in doing that.

i said it a while ago, but i want to say it again for good measure -- i don't want us to become them. my humble goal for eagleone fandom is to be a haven for ppl. we've been the black sheep of this fandom for so long, and aeons are still accusing us of being predators or someshit (idk i'm only semi-fluent in delusional) that i feel like we all have an obligation to stay humble now that capcom's given us a fairy tale version of RE4 where our ship is the front-and-center romance and people are finally actually being drawn to the ship. no one knows how bad this fandom can get better than eagleone folk, so it's on us to not do unto others what has been done unto us.

idk maybe that's just my whole jewish "because you were slaves in egypt..." mindset coming out but

i want us to be a place where people can just come and hang out and make friends over our shared love for resident evil. i know that i have serennedy and cleon and chreon and metaltango people all following me, and i love all of them dearly and i'm happy that we've all found each other. i feel like that's what fandom should be.

that's why i don't fight with aeons out in the open. i don't want to become them. i'll swing back if they ever come here (though i hope valuable lessons were learned the last time someone tried to come in here swinging and i took them out in exactly two responses LMAO), but i don't want to go out picking fights and i don't want any of y'all to do it either.

so it makes me feel really warm and fuzzy and happy to hear that i've inspired you in some way. i know that our little corner of the fandom over here on tumblr is small, and i know that i don't exactly have the kind of welcoming personality that will give me any sort of real platform in this fandom (at least, not like the one i had back in the day when i was a fake ass bitch LMAO), but to know that i've made at least a little difference is everything for me.

[toyintrance]

When I say "(insert group) DNI," I mean I don't want the group of people interacting with me or my posts/blog in any way whatsoever, and if I notice someone crossing this boundary, I block them immediately. I feel like other people take a less agressive approach, though, so I'm curious.

[thegeminisage]

i am STILL getting asks about my bio. i have three in a row and they are downright HATEFUL. this is incredible. i am driving this person CRAZY because i refuse to disclose my personal history to them. what fucking right do you have to any of that, dude? like...it’s 3am. go to bed. cuddle your cat. play some tetris. find your inner peace. you’re not being the person mr. rogers knows you can be right now

[dreaminginvelaris]

A Response to a Feyre Anti

I made a post recently explaining the dread of having to watch Feyre be abused by her sisters and father, in the Tv adaption. And a Feyre anti made a response, to something that should not be criticized at all considering what I said was just the truth? Feyre was abused. Not only that but they went on and completely twisted the narrative to fit their own ideas and in the process made Feyre out to be cruel and Nesta a saint. complete bull.

I will not be tagging the anti bc they have me blocked (shocker), but also I do not want anyone to go after them, if you come across the post, I don't want it to be through me. it's as much respect I can give to them.

I usually do not respond to those who have something to say with a post of mine or are blatantly talking about me on their blog, unless they're just spreading absolute lies about me or what i "said", it's usually a waste of time to do so. but this post attacked Feyre with outrageous lies and a complete backward interpretation of what actually happened in acotar, so as respectful as I can be, I will be analyzing the anti-response and what truly happened in acotar.

"the audience will only see two sisters fighting-not abuse" "it’s not Nesta you need to worry about. It’s audiences calling Feyre a big dumbass and a bitch" -from anti

if the audience has basic human compassion and empathy for humans IRL or fictional, they will see what's obvious from the start. Feyres abuse. how is it going to look, when they see Feyre walking through the woods, shaking from the cold, starving from hunger, and struggling to find food for her family? only to later see Nesta's treatment of Feyre?"

in the anti's post, they said Feyre was just as "heinous" to Nesta.

is Feyre the one calling Nesta a pig? a smelly pig? ordering her to take her clothes off?

no, it's not, it's dear Nesta. the text goes as "I took my time, swallowing the words I wanted to bark at her" oh yes... how cruel of Feyre. how heinous of Feyre to...stay quiet... at the verbal abuse.

in the same image we see Feyre ask Nesta to do something (kindly might I add) and then inquire why she didn't chop wood like she needs to.

what does Nesta do? acts like a brat and insults Feyre...once again.

considering I'm going off by the story and not the actual screenplay, and assuming they stay true to the story; will the audience not be disgusted by Nesta's behavior? I mean they just saw Feyre struggle to find food and they expect Feyre to go home to a family happy and appreciative of Feyre but instead, they get this familial abuse.

the anti said Feyre basically tells Nesta this:

"If you keep bitching at everyone like this no one will want to be around you or you can’t marry this guy because you’re a waste of space to me"

but what do we see?

"Believe me... the day you want to marry someone worthy, I'll march up to his house and hand you over. But you're not going to marry Tomas."

the word worthy, did that not catch your eye? Feyre said Nesta will have to marry someone worthy, someone, who will treat Nesta kindly and give her the life Feyre thinks her sisters deserve. bc Feyre does think that IDK why anti feyres think Feyre despised Nesta so much, Feyre loved her sisters.

what the anti fails to realize here is that Nesta marrying Tomas would have been actually pretty great for Feyre. in the sense that, Feyre would no longer carry the burden of her sister. Feyre would not have to worry about feeding one more mouth. or worrying about Nesta's constant stealing of Feyre's money. Feyre does not think Nesta is a "waste of space" to her, if she did, it would have been easy for Feyre to discard Nesta, and allow her to marry Tomas. the anti has that twisted.

but that is not even the worst part of the scene. did you see the shameless slut-shaming that came out of Nesta's mouth? how will the audience take to that? do you think most of the younger generation will take it lightly to see a sister slut-shame a sister? a woman putting down another woman? in this social climate? where the feminism movement is alive and flourishing. will they be okay with it? will they still blame Feyre and be mad at her the way the anti says they will be? I hope not otherwise I'm losing faith in humanity.

Lovely words Nesta spews at Feyre. I admit Feyre should have told her then and there that Tomas is abusive. but let's think: Feyre is 19 years old, the youngest, has never had any raising by a parental figure, has been neglected by her whole family, where would Feyre learn to calmly talk to an overgrown brat like Nesta? Feyre telling Nesta who Tomas truly is the duty of a parent, not a sister. I will not condemn Feyre for not knowing that was the perfect time to tell Nesta who Tomas is. especially when Feyre is being tormented and verbally/emotionally abused, its kinda hard to think about something else while you're being told all these horrible words. to us its easy to see where Feyre went wrong but unless you're in the exact position Feyre was in. no one has any room to talk. and even then, every person is different in situations like these.

this part was me analyzing the interactions between Feyre and Nesta since anti had reasons to believe Feyre was just as bad to Nesta and that the audience would see that and hate Feyre. I am now going to respond to the second part of the Feyre Anti's response.

"How will an audience of non-fans react to her not reaching out to her family to tell them she was okay after the reconciliation between her and Nesta? Or not inviting them to the wedding?"- from anti

moving onto acomaf now.

Idk maybe the audience will see Feyre, a depressed, lonely, individual in an abusive relationship while being manipulated by other individuals she called friends, and understand and empathize with her. all throughout the beginning and half of acomaf, Feyre is in critical depression. she wholeheartedly believes she should not be alive. that she is not worthy. she doesn't eat, all she does is sleep, self-care is not important to her or others so why would letting a family know she's okay, a family who BARELY ever cared about her, be a priority? it doesn't seem like Nesta or elain or her father was really fazed by Feyre's lack of communication. her father left on a trip, elain got engaged and Nesta, well we didn't see a tearful welcoming to Feyre on Nesta's part did we?

anti, where is the outcry of her "family" not even really caring if Feyre was safe or not, of what happened to her? it's not like they thought she had died, otherwise, where was the mourning or funeral? no, they just didn't care.

see this is where I know when anti is just full of bullshit. why, WHY, would Feyre invite her family to wedding full of fae? the creatures elain and Nesta fear and hate? for all the talk many anti's spew about Feyre being inconsiderate to Nesta, to her family, you would think Feyre maybe just knows a fae wedding would be the last thing they would want? even then, does Feyre owe them an invitation to her wedding? does she owe them an update on her life? nope. Feyre owed them nothing.

"How about her shit-talking Nesta to a bunch of strangers then having the audacity to ask her to get involved in a war. Oh! This is after she comes into her house and insults their hospitality." - from anti

I hardly think Feyre confiding in individuals who she learned to care about and laying out all the trauma Feyre endured with her family is "shit-talking" but for argument's sake, let's say it is. I still don't see what's wrong? after years of pent-up anger and hurt, would you not let go of everything you withheld inside and explain what was done to you? how you felt? Feyre telling the IC her life story, which contains Nesta's abuse and her family's neglect, was a form of therapy for Feyre. I never read a line where Feyre calls Nesta a "cold-hearted bitch" or called elain "a lazy ditz" she just said the truth. no added embellishments. Cassian was the one who shit-talked Nesta during the dinner scene, never Feyre.

I still don't understand why antis are so against Feyre asking her sisters for help? like the war didn't involve them? they're humans, and you know what the war was about? Hybern wanting to take control of the human lands like they once did and turn them into slaves. those humans included Nesta and elain.

"They could have left the continent" correct, except elain was engaged and refused to leave Grayson. which meant Nesta refused to leave elain. but even so, isn't it the duty of humans to band together and work to overthrow a race of people who want to torture and keep them as slaves? the queens certainly weren't doing their jobs. Feyre asked to use "their" house to meet the queens bc where else would they do it? the queens trust the fae less than Nesta or elain did. but even so, Feyre asking to use their house was a courtesy, that house is rightfully Feyre's. she is the one who sacrificed herself to leave with Tamlin. she did it bravely, courageously, and they got that house thanks to her. they owed Feyre everything. and the only one who acknowledged that was Elain.

that war involved elain and Nesta whether they or Feyre or the anti's liked it or not. not even considering that Nesta and elain are Feyre Archerons sisters, yeah, their family name alone puts a target on their back.

How did Feyre or the court insult Elain's and Nesta's hospitality? You mean when Feyre realized human food differed from fae food? something she did not know about bc she's barely been turned to fae and only had eaten fae dishes? Feyre's grimace towards the human food was an involuntary reaction to someone who is still learning their new body. or was it when Cassian called out Nesta for her cold treatment towards Feyre? if that's the case then fuck decency, I would call out a fake bitch in my presence from minute one. you cant call what Nesta did "hospitality" when all she did was insult Feyre when she didn't even care that Feyre had died, or lost her love bc of abuse, or that her body was changed against her will.

hospitality: the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.

did y'all read something different bc this for sure was nothing Nesta gave to her guests?

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the rest of the anti post moves towards Rhysand and his actions UTM which I won't go into because I'm mainly just addressing the false interpretations this anti had to say about Feyre and her family.

I'm not sure how to sign off now lol, but I guess just that I hope this was enough to show how this anti's arguments were completely ludicrous and have absolutely no compassion for Feyre, and instead all the compassion for Feyre's abusers. This anti had a real spin on what the actual story was, and I hope the evidence I provided was enough to show that. Anyways yeah my brain is fried, and I'm done arguing with Feyre anti's for a while now, I need to go praise my queen Feyre so I can receive some semblance of peace.

anyways, stan Feyre for clear skin xx

[lostcauses-noregrets]

hi lost! i’ve been lurking around here for quite a while now because your blog brings me such a calm when i start feeling confused or angry when it comes to this fandom. things have quieted down now that the anime is on pause again, and i think that a lot of people left after the manga ended. but it’s also sad bc it’s hard to find blogs that are still active. tumblr only recommends me ones that haven’t posted in years so i’m just hanging around the tags, but even they are pretty non-eventful. i only hope the fandom starts buzzing again once the anime continues, but considering how toxic everything became last time scares me. i love your blog because eruri is pretty much the only reason i’ve stuck around for so long but it’s hard to find active blogs that would be like yours :(

Thank you so much Anon ♡ I'm glad you enjoy my blog and that it's a place you can come to chill and relax.

There's no denying that the Eruri fandom here on tumblr is much smaller and less active than it was about 5 years ago. Some fans moved on after chapter 84 when Erwin died, a whole wave of people left the platform after the porn purge, while others hung around until the manga ended and then drifted off or left in frustration. It's always a bit sad when fandoms start to dwindle and people move on, especially if you're still invested. To some extent it's inevitable though, fandoms are always in a state of flux and they all wax and wane over the years.

Having said that, reports of the Eruri fandom's demise are very much premature. Against all the odds the fandom survived the death of Erwin, the tumblr purge, and the end of the manga and it's now more active and creative than I've seen it for years. NSFW Eruri week was huge this year, there’s the Eruri wedding zine in the works and there are new artists and writers appearing out of the woodwork every week. It's just that most of this activity is on twitter rather than tumblr. I know a lot of people dislike twitter as a fandom platform, me included, as it’s a wide open public platform that really lends itself to drama, harassment and dogpiling. I don’t think there’s any doubt that fandom has become more toxic as it has moved out of closed curated communities, such as LJ (though gods know that was no fandom utopia), to open social media platforms, such as twitter, where it's much harder to control who interacts with your content and on what terms. Having said that, there are always ways that you can curate your fandom experience, even on twitter, by liberally blocking and muting accounts and topics that you don't want to engage with, or by locking your own account.

Personally speaking I have a foot in both camps. I hang out on twitter on a daily basis, but I have no plans to leave tumblr any time soon. I've got too much content here to simply abandon it, and I still enjoy answering asks from other fans. If you do want to follow me on twitter, I’m @losteruri over there. And of course I'll always be on AO3 at Anteros / Lostcauses.

I have no doubt that when the final season of the anime airs the whole SnK fandom will explode into life again, and I expect the ending of the anime to be just as divisive as the ending of the manga was, so my advice would be to block out as much of the toxicity as you can and just focus on things you enjoy, like Erwin and Levi and their amazing, inspiring relationship.

Have a good week Anon ♡

[storytellering]

Hi :) was coming back to your blog again and again (mostly by accident and bcs I'm following your here). And I had your sad thoughts about your more explicit art stuck in my head and I don't even know why. I love your artstyle and portraits very much. Even the concept of your mpreg art and other stuff is interesting. I don't respond to nsfw/explicit art anymore on any social media bcs the any fandom is super toxic towards those topics. But your last postings made me do

"-I'm sad to hear that you can't find a place to post and enjoy the audience and can only do the "right" for the big community. Even I got put into a hate-list on twitter and I don't even draw nsfw. Bcs of this I unfollowed mostly any dmc artist there (and also you). Saying "don't keep track of numbers" won't work bcs I also do this and get encouraged if people unfollow me for posting personal thoughts there. Sorry for writing so much and we don't know each other at all ^^; It's just that I had your sad thoughts about art keep stuck in my head for days. I hope you don't feel offended or anything. Maybe you'll find the right place soon :) (have you tried twitter circle? apparently you can post personal stuff/explicit art for a few selected people and other art etc for everyone). Hope you're doing well and have a nice day :)" Hey there! Thank you so much for the compliments, and I'm so sorry you had that experience :( though that's not exactly what I was talking about in my post ;; Honestly, for the most part, I've had a great experience in the dmc fandom, especially on twitter - I haven't even gotten that much shit from antis aside from the odd "wtf that's his dad!" comment on some of my VN art (which always makes me chuckle because like. yeah, i know? that's half the fun about the ship lol) (though that might be because I've always been into "problematic" fiction so I was well into the practice of blocking antis on sight, it's very possible they simply can't see my account, lol) - and I do have a nsfw twitter for explicit art that I post to quite often! (or at least used to, I haven't drawn anything worth posting there in a hot minute but that's more because I haven't had the energy and inspiration for it, not because I don't want to) What I was talking about wasn't explicit/nsfw art, as much as art depicting more "controversial" subjectes, that might make people uncomfortable - like, say, mpreg, noncon, shotacon, watersports, period kink... that sort of thing, it's not that I don't feel comfortable posting nsfw, it's just that I'm afraid about certain types of it (and not even just nsfw, because honestly almost all my mpreg art is sfw, I'm more into it for the feels and the angst than it as a kink) are a bit contentious, and I would hate for people to follow that account for "normal" nsfw and then get ambushed by stuff that might make them uncomfortable, or even trigger them - it would be tagged for, obviously, but you never know... so, my issue is less not finding a place for my art, and more knowing that no matter what, some things will make people uncomfortable/hurt them to see, and not wanting to take chances with that ;; So sorry your experience in the fandom was a negative one, from what I've seen it depends a lot on in which time period you got into it, and who exactly you end up engaging with - at one point I almost quit because I had ended up in quite a bad place where everyone around me was negative and only feeding more negativity, but once I cut those people out it was all even more fun than it was before. Hope you manage to find your little corner like that!

[itsclydebitches]

Ive blocked like 3 people today for the kylo ren shit takes lmao theyre just trying to start shit. i feel like if you're going to flatten "character who becomes a nazi-allegory space wizard and is proud of it, and then kills his own father on a good vs evil space opera" and "pirate romantic comedy antagonist who doesn't actually achieve his goals even Once and doesn't do anything too far from the moral baseline of the main characters", and then put it in the character tag, you cant be surprised when people ignore you.

Is kylo ren the only popular villian they know (what rock do they live under) or just the one they know scores the most disgust points out of the gate bc of the morality crusade the sw fandom went on over his fangirls??

(Also while I dont like kylo ren bc i found him boring i dont actually care that people like him?? It has 0 impact on my life. What got me out of the sw fandom was all the hate if you shipped any of the main three in the Wrong Way, the kylo stans were a bit annoying sometimes but this is fandom. We're all annoying.)

(I don't even have that much of an opinion on Kylo Ren because my interest in SW is focused almost entirely on the Clone Wars era. I watched the new trilogy once lol.)

I've also seen Snape come up a couple times as a comparison, which is its own can of worms. Honestly, I knew the moment tumblr started diving into Izzy that a lot of other fans would be upset by that focus and I do have sympathy for them because I've been there. I've absolutely been the person standing on the sidelines, feeling left out of many popular conversations, struggling to find kinkmeme prompts I want to fill, all because the community has latched onto a character that makes my skin crawl. It's a sucky situation to be in, but that doesn't mean the rest of the fandom is in the wrong for catering to their preferences. Over the past 2+ months I've watched posting move from playful complaints and semi-private venting to far more serious accusations that equate liking Izzy with some sort of moral failing: as a fan who isn't writing the characters "correctly," as a viewer who isn't reading the show "properly," as a human being who is, supposedly, making a conscious choice to reject the diversity in the show to instead uphold the awful white man, so that makes you racist, homophobic, ableist, etc. And I mean, I knew this would happen because it always happens (RWBY friends, you KNOW it happens)... I just didn't expect it to start really kicking off with Kylo Ren of all things.

Ultimately though I'm an old school fandom granny who subscribes to the general philosophy of "Don't like; don't read." Everyone should be allowed to engage with the canon in the way that makes them happy. You don't like what they're creating? Ignore it! Block freely and without guilt! If you disagree strongly with a fandom stance — as I've done tonight — that should be posted on your personal blog and shared by like-minded folks; don't go throwing yourself into a tag you hate, screaming at those trying to enjoy themselves. Moral crusades against people who like villains/antagonists, or aren't enjoying them in the "right" way, is nothing new, but it never gets any less frustrating to encounter. Plus, despite my description of Izzy's popularity above, this isn't actually a fandom where the "wrong" character has taken over. AO3 has over 4,000 fics for Ed/Stede compared to 500 some for Ed/Izzy (with Lucius/Black Pete coming in before that at 604). I've already reached the point where I'm shaking my head if someone tries to seriously claim that the fandom, as a unified whole, has rejected the loving, diverse, healthy canon relationships for the toxic, white man-focused, fantasy relationships and that makes you a bad person, didn't you know? There's plenty of content for the "right" characters and the "right" ships alongside interest in Izzy. Plus, we can have both! [cue everyone's shocked gasps]. I'm writing a fluffy fake dating au AND a woobified Izzy suffering from hanahaki disease! I guarantee you the world will not end if you let people 'poor little meow meow' a fictional character once in a while.

[eventually--darling]

There's nothing wrong with complaining about notes though? Nobody really creates only for notes. They love something and want to share it with others, and it's disappointing when nobody cares about what they love. It's probably good that they are complaining because they will likely keep on creating after the vent. Just block them if they annoy you that much, but you'd miss the chance to support them unless you think they are lesser and unworthy because of the note complaints. You also can't really deny the popularity aspect of tumblr. Popular blogs will get thousands of notes while unknown ones can struggle to get even 100 within the same fandom. I bet half of the gifmakers that don't complain run more established blogs.

I think you're extrapolating a lot from my own little vent post lol

Speaking generally here, I don't think people ONLY create for notes, I just think that there's a very strange preoccupation with getting a lot of attention for your work. Which like. I get that. I wish more people would pay attention to mine sometimes, and it can be disappointing if I've put a lot of work into a gifset but it doesn't seem like many people care. But I think that the notes I get are very proportionate to the current popularity of whatever I'm giffing, so I usually go into it with realistic expectations. And I mainly do it because it's fun! So it's fine with me if it "flops." Still, I absolutely see the appeal of getting a lot of notes lol. And it can be very perplexing when it seems like you did everything right but your post doesn't get any attention.

I just don't know what ppl are expecting half the time. Even for a more popular fandom it's nobody's fault if YOUR post doesn't get much attention. The tag is probably just very full, or you didnt post at the right time, or you didnt use the right tags (though I've heard the tag feature is kinda busted. Idk if that's true or not tho), or any number of factors. And that can suck but it's not like there's a targeted attack against you.

A lot of people also make their vent posts super guilt-trippy, which is where I think my problem with it truly lies. It's not just complaining about notes, it's making people feel bad about... What exactly? Not reblogging a post they didn't want to reblog? Not engaging with something they're not into? Being offline and not seeing it? What do you want from them exactly?

Even popular blogs complain, which comes off as even more entitled honestly. They probably do it less often but I haven't kept close track. Also... They get more exposure for the same content as a smaller creator bc that's how having a high follower count works? so idk what your point is?

I think it's fine to complain every once in a while if it frustrates you. Whatever. My personal rule is that I won't (saving once or twice bc I'm human lol). This person was doing it too much for my taste so I just unfollowed them. I still like their content so I'll just reblog it stuff separately.