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[stuckinapril]

By God I am never consuming any celebrity product ever in my life. Never

[wlwcarries]

i'm becoming more and more convinced that charlie's dms are real. i’m going to give you guys the evidence there is so far, for you all to make your own conclusions. personally, as much as i hate to say it, i think the dms are real.

i want to preface this by saying that i hoped as much as everyone else that the screenshots were fake. i honestly debated even posting about it at this point because everyone seems to have made their peace that they’re fabricated and moved on, and i don’t want to start or rehash anything. i promise you, i hated making this post as much as you guys are probably going to hate reading this. but i feel like we as a fandom deserve to know and address the truth, and choosing to ignore this will only do more harm than good.

there are two tiktoks showing proof of the messages: here and here

it’s pretty clear imo that charlie sent those messages in that group chat. there’s publicly available information proving a lot of what i’m going to talk about, but i’m not going to expose anyone especially since a lot of the people involved are minors. if you want to talk more about it, feel free to dm me but i’m not going to post anything publicly beyond those tiktoks. 

so yeah. charlie talked about smut in a group chat with at least one confirmed minor as far as we know. in the screenshot you can see that someone explained what smut was to him, and then he continued on talking about the explicit fic. 

i know that a lot of us on here, myself included, love to harp on l*lex shippers, and while the racism involved with the ship should by no means pushed aside that's also not my biggest concern at the moment. a lot of these people are young teenage girls and there’s a clear power imbalance involved. they’re fans, and he’s an adult man who they look up to. yes, they shouldn’t have sent the fic to him in the first place, but charlie’s an adult and should have known better than to encourage this. this is on him. he really can’t see that interacting and talking about sexually explicit material with minors isn’t alright??? is he that scared of his fans turning on him if he doesn’t act like he’s their close personal friend???

he needs to realize that he’s not going to lose his fanbase if he establishes boundaries with them. honestly, there’s more of a chance that he’ll lose them if he doesn’t establish boundaries. other people said this better than me (i’d like to link chloe @willexx’s post here which makes a lot of really important points regarding this as well as discussing madi, and this post by @reggieshairflip which goes really in depth into a lot of great points), but this is really concerning. 

i also went on twitter last night to see what people were saying on there, and i’m beyond words. the majority of the commentary seems to be along the lines of “protect charlie from the smut!!” 

y’all. charlie isn’t the one who needs protecting. regardless of the legal situation, if he wants to read fanfic he’s gonna find ways to read it. he’s a grown man, he’ll be fine. that’s so far removed from the actual point, i don’t know how else to explain it. charlie will be fine. we don’t have to be worried about him. 

maybe people should focus on the fact that he’s talking about smut in a group chat with minors on it? like first off, don't be in a group chat with fans of your show, but especially don't talk about smut with minors, what the fuck. and the fact that he doesn’t even seem to realize the issues with what he’s doing is troubling in and of itself.

charlie has been involved in various other groupchats with fans for a while (this isn’t a new thing by any means), and i will admit that most of those interactions thus far have been innocent and harmless. regardless, the fact that he’s in group chats with fans at all worries me. these people are largely young, teenaged girls who idolize charlie--they’ve practically developed a parasocial relationship with him, and that’s not healthy in the slightest. 

he’s not their “bestie,” he’s a celebrity. he keeps up with the innocent and harmless things, and encourages them, but doesn’t establish boundaries--and that’s what leads to people thinking that doing more is okay because he hasn’t said otherwise. people meeting him at the airport at 2am, fans showing up to owen’s house at midnight and then charlie entertaining them. that’s what this kind of behavior leads to, and i fear that it will inevitably lead to much worse in the future. i’m not trying to take blame away from the people who did these things--fans have to respect boundaries, set or not--but as a public figure charlie has a responsibility to set clear lines.

the point of this post is absolutely not to “cancel” him or anything. that wouldn’t be productive at all, and one of my favorite things about the jatp fandom on tumblr is our ability to have actually constructive conversations about things like this. this is tumblr, and i know i’m basically speaking to an echo chamber here-- but i feel this is important enough that it has to be said, even if nobody outside of this site will probably see it. 

he needs to be held accountable and made to realize that what he’s doing isn’t okay. i get that this is his first experience being at the center of a large fandom like this, and i understand that he’s probably really excited about all the fans and wants to connect with them as much as possible. but he would do well to take notes from jeremy (and hell, madi, and she’s sixteen and didn’t have any prior acting experience at all), and engage in a healthy, responsible way like they do. i’m not going to speak about owen because i don’t really have much info or knowledge about how he interacts, but this potentially extends to him as well.

this is a really complicated and messy situation, and i get that. feel free to share your thoughts, but please be respectful. sending love to all of you guys rn 💜💜💜

EDIT: TO CLARIFY. i have seen this post making the rounds on twitter. i’m okay with that as long as it’s not a screenshot and the post is directly linked HOWEVER charlie did not straight up send smut to that group chat. they sent him the title, and he looked the fic up and sent the link in the group chat to clarify it was the one they were talking about. he was informed that it was smut, but it wasn’t just him sending the fic unprovoked. everything i said above still applies, he should not have engaged or encouraged the conversation but please don’t spread false information. 

[surveys-at-your-service]

Survey #428

“there’s more money in tragedy, more net worth in self-pity  /  so you’re doubling down inside of your screen, hiding behind attention you seek”

Have you ever told someone, besides family, that you love them and meant it? Yeah. I've told friends that platonically, and I've said it to two people and romantically meant it. Are the blankets that are on your bed now made by someone you know in life? No. Have you seen all The Lord of the Rings movies? I haven't even seen one. How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had in 2014? I had one. Can you walk in heels? I mean I can, but I don't like to. What does your mom say about the pictures on your Myspace? First the '14 question, now this... I don't think Mom ever had a Myspace, but I can answer for Facebook. She's always the person to "heart" react them and say something about how "beautiful" I am or something. ;x; What was the last thing you and your parents argued about? Idr. Do you feel your life is at its best? Fuck no. There better be better times than this. What do you worry about the most? The most? That's hard to say... but probably my career future. Or really just the future in general. Have you ever let someone be your everything? "Everything" still feels like an understatement. He was my source of happiness, a massive part of my own identity, and my promise for a better future. It was so, so unhealthy. Think back to the last person you kissed, how many times have you cried in their arms? Two times, I wanna say? What are some things you do when you’re mad? I get snappy and try to isolate myself to cry it out. How do you feel about your hair right now? I hate itttt. It's getting too long and just boring. I'm hoping I can get up with my hairdresser soon for a trim. What’s an interesting fact about you that not many people know? Uhhhh... I guess that I was a dancer for many years. I feel like I don't really fit the general "aesthetic" of dancers, so people have definitely been surprised to find out I was one. Do you do anything embarrassing when no one is home? No. Just because no one ELSE is there, I'd embarrass my damn self lol. If you had the chance to move to a completely different state/county, would you? Fuck yes I would. Could you ever be friends with someone that broke your heart? It's funny, because that's what the traumatized, overly-attached part of me wants (at the bare minimum), but my common sense knows that's dumb as fuck. I could never healthily be friends with him. Are you scared of fireworks? No, but others are terrified by them, so keep that in mind. Does anyone know every little detail about you? No. You woke up one day and discovered that you were only able to see in black and white… as well as one other colour. What colour would that be and why? I guess red? It sounds morbid for it to be the first thing my mind goes to, but that way, I'd be able to see blood and therefore be able to detect a symptom of danger. What is your favourite soundtrack for a film/video game/television show? (Though feel free to name as many!) Silent Hill 2 and Shadow of the Colossus have fucking LEGENDARY soundtracks. What is your favourite Pokémon? Ninetales! I also really love Espeon and Umbreon, too. And Charmander. And Pikachu. And Skitty. And... well, too many, ha ha. What is something your best friend of the opposite sex does that you can’t stand? He calls me "kid" a lot. Is the last book you read a really well-known book? It's not world-famous or anything, but it seems relatively known by teens/young adults. At least, I follow a lot of artists who make fanart for it. Do you have anything besides just songs downloaded on your iPod? No. When at the beach, do you spend more time on the beach or in the ocean? In the water. I hate the beach itself. Do you have any siblings you absolutely despise? Why do you despise them? No. Have you ever babysat before? Did you enjoy this job? Yes, and no, not at all. Have you ever busted a window before? Why did you bust it? No. Do you still get scared watching old horror movies? You watch them alone? Horror movies pretty much never scare me, never mind old cheesy ones. I don't mind watching them alone. Do knives scare you? Is it from watching scary movies? I'm terrified of big knives, and it has nothing to do with movies. It's a fear that started after Mom stopped me from a suicide attempt where I was going to slit my throat with one. They just radiate danger for me. Have you ever tried to sing opera? Did it work out for you or no? No. What was the last piece of furniture you purchased? I've never bought any furniture, and I don't recall the last thing Mom bought. Have you ever broken up with someone for a reason other than lack of feelings (ex. moving away, etc.)? Yeah; we split because we were essentially two shaky towers leaning against one another. We have to learn to straighten ourselves up independently before that relationship even becomes a "maybe" again. Has anyone ever told you that you are too picky when it comes to the people you date? What about not picky enough? Neither. Was there anything unusual or unique about your birth? Nothing really, besides being born in an icestorm. My birth itself was totally normal, as far as I know. Mom considers it pretty extraordinary though because according to her, I took one look at her and smiled so big. Says a lot about our relationship now. What was the best conversation you’ve had recently? *shrug* What is the next book you are going to read? The book that comes next in the series I'm reading. Who was the last person to do something nice for you? My mom does nice things for me every day, like making dinner, letting me live under her roof... a lot of stuff. Is there any artwork in the room you’re in? Yeah, some of my stuff. Have you ever made out on a couch? Yeah. Someone asks you what you want; what do you say? Happiness. Direction. What was the last thing you complained about? Just being incredibly sore. The gym's kicking my ass, but it needs to, so I'm fine with it. How do you feel when you hear other people complaining? It depends on how frequently and about what. It can become overwhelming sometimes, especially if it's over something truly trivial. Has your name been in someone’s Facebook status lately? No. Do you own any Sims games? Which ones? I have the original animals one, as well as the African animals one (which I surprisingly like less). What was your first job? I was a sales associate at GameStop. Do people praise you for your looks? Yeah, definitely not. Do you like your eyes? No. I wish they were bluer and wider. Tell me what your back pack looks like: My last one was a galaxy texture. What celebrity do you think is hot? HMMMMMMMMMMMM I DON'T KNOW????????????? NEVER SEEN ONE IN MY LIFE O: O: O: Last movie you saw in theatre: The The Lion King remake. Has someone you were dating ever cheated on you? No. What’s the cutest thing someone’s ever done for you? I'd rather not dig through the memories to find what I'd consider the "cutest." What was the last thing you heated up in your microwave? A chicken pesto bowl for lunch. Did you ever watch Phil of the Future? Occasionally, but I was never big on it. Do you have an online game that you play often? I play World of Warcraft pretty much daily. Do you prefer regular or electric toothbrushes? Electric. What was the last thing to piss you off? Truly piss me off, I'm not sure. When and where was the last time you took a picture of yourself? Months ago in my room. I want to take a new one to update my Facebook profile pic, because I think I'm ready to return there. Who was the last person to pay you a compliment or praise? The first day at the gym, Mom told me she was extremely proud of me, and it meant a lot. I truly think I can stick to this, and it's a fucking phenomenal feeling. What’s one thought you have regarding the subject of love? It can be the most beautiful thing in the world, yet simultaneously has the capability to be one of the most painful. Do you think that it’s possible to fall in love at a young age like eleven or twelve? Who am I to say, honestly. I lean towards no because at the age of puberty, you're really all over the place with your hormones and emotions, and I just don't know if it's possible for two pre-teens to have the maturity level to grasp what it truly means to be in love with someone. But again, what do I really know? Everyone is different. Are sex and sexual activities something you enjoy? Yeah sure, if it's something I'm in the mood to engage in and I'm in love with the person. What’s an interesting fact about the state in which you were born? We're the home of Pepsi products. I know, of course I would share a fact about soda, ha ha. What’s one aspect of your life that did not turn out as you expected? Where I am now as far as "adult development" goes. I don't drive. I don't have a job. I still live with my mother. I could go on and on... By this point, I definitely expected something much, much different when I was younger. What was the last event to cause you any sort of heartache? Hm. I don't know. What was the worst phase you’ve ever gone through? *shrug* What excuse did you use most often to skip school? There were times I'd pretend to have a really bad cough. I could fake a nasty cough, man. Are you shy about singing in front of people? Very. Honestly, do you put your elbows on the dinner table? Yes, because why the fuck would that matter. I don't get how something so simple and harmless is "bad manners." Have you ever taken a picture in a public bathroom? No. Yes or no: corsets? I. FUCKING. LOVE. CORSETS. UGH I wish I could pull one off, omfg. In your opinion, is money the root of all evil? All evil? No. There are some horrible crimes people can commit that have nothing to do with money. Do you own a pair of overalls? Ew, no. I hate overalls. What is the best game to play while in the car? Uh, idk. Has a movie ever made you jump in fear? I'm sure at some point. Jumpscares are hard to be unfazed by; it's just a natural reaction to something sudden. Yes or no: pickles? Bro I LOVE pickles. Yes or no: strawberry ice cream? Ugh, no. Do you know what your mom’s favorite movie is? No, actually. Are you a role model to anybody? No fucking way I am. Do you know how much you weighed at birth? Somewhere around six or seven pounds. Look outside the nearest window. What can you see? From where I'm at, I can just see the shed. What are you interested in that most people would be surprised to know? Cutesy, pastel stuff, probably. How many bathrooms are in your house? Two. Do you prefer stripes or polka dots? Polka dots. Are you considered a very sensitive person? Very. Have you ever told someone you never wanted to speak to them again? Yes. What’s the weather like today? Is it nice enough to go outside? It's hot as fuck outside. You will NOT see me outside today. What does your last text message say and who is it from? It's just a thumbs up emoji from the woman who works at my psychiatrist's office. She schedules my phone appointments with him. Do you listen to any podcasts? How do you listen to them? No. Why did you leave your last job? It was WAY too fast-paced with lots of responsibilities that I just couldn't handle. Have you ever eaten at a restaurant and left without paying? No, that's awful. What’s your favorite scent of air freshener? Probably something floral and subtle. Are your hands and feet in good condition or could you do with a mani-pedi? Ugh. I pick my fingernails off badly, so they're a mess rn. I also DISDAIN my feet because they are horribly callused from when I used to walk like crazy. It's so weird how I can exfoliate the area and scrub (... and sometimes tear) them off, but they're pretty much immediately back. When was the last time you played a board game? What did you play? A couple years ago with Girt and Sara, I think. We played Scrabble. How old were you when you first became sexually active? Do you mean like, doing anything sexual? In which case that would be 16. I woulda been 16 or 17 when I actually lost my virginity, though. Do you know anyone who has been through a divorce? A load of people. Does anyone not know somebody? Have you ever done a juice cleanse? No. Do you have to pay for parking in most places in the town/city you live in? No. That's a foreign concept here. It's one of the very alien things I experienced in Chicago; I don't really think I knew it was a thing (save for massive attractions, like Disney Word and stuff) before then. Can you hear lots of traffic from your house? Does it bother you? No. We live in a cul-de-sac, and our road is further into it, away from the main road.

[trujillostanley91]

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[theconservativebrief]

The conversation surrounding Kanye West’s mental health during his visit to the White House raises some of the same issues of how the public scrutinizes celebrities with mental illnesses.

A Twitter user known as @cakefacedcutie tweeted out a photo in late June of Saturday Night Life star Pete Davidson arm in arm with his new girlfriend, the pop star Ariana Grande. Davidson’s face is obscured from the camera by the hood of his plaid jacket; Grande, licking a lollipop, gazes at him with adoration. Printed over Davidson’s face are the words “Men that need therapists”; Grande is annotated with the word “Me.”

The photo struck a nerve, rapidly racking up more than 30,000 retweets. It wasn’t hard to see why. Davidson, who has been open about being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and Grande spent the month of June in the news as their relationship progressed from new romance to cohabitation and engagement. Given that Davidson is open about living with borderline personality disorder, many found it easy to interpret his whirlwind romance as the product of mental illness.

Davidson isn’t the only celebrity with a mental illness who’s been in the media spotlight of late. A few weeks before Davidson and Grande got together, the openly bipolar Kanye West drew attention for a frenzied burst of Twitter activity and some shocking political statements. And in early June, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, two celebrities who suffered from depression, died by suicide within a few days of each other.

As someone who lives with mental illness (specifically, a well-managed case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD), it’s frustrating to watch when the behavior of celebrities grappling with their mental health is treated as fodder for the celebrity gossip mill. Few outlets show any consideration for how their coverage contributes to misunderstandings and misinformation about mental illness, let alone how it affects the lives of the people who are the subjects of the articles.

Covering mental illness will always be a fraught endeavor. Most of us are more familiar with the stereotypes about mental illness than the facts, and people who live with mental illness deal with a stigma that positions them as unfixable, untrustworthy, and totally broken. As a result, coverage of mental health is often problematic.

But so long as celebrities’ personal lives are considered newsworthy, it’s a challenge we’ll have to deal with. So how do we in the general public and in the media talk about the mental health of celebrities in a way that’s respectful and thoughtful, and, above all, doesn’t actively harm both celebrities and everyday people dealing with mental illness?

When their antics are deemed entertaining, they’re egged on and encouraged; when they turn self-destructive, they’re chided for not taking better care of themselves. Mental illness most frequently enters the conversation in the wake of violence or suicide, reinforcing a bleak, simplistic portrayal of what is often a complex collection of conditions.

Frustratingly, most of the public demonstrates only the most superficial, sensationalistic understanding of what mental illnesses even are, one that’s frequently informed more by stereotype than by fact. (I may have OCD, but I’m not, as many believe, obsessed with counting or cleanliness — my OCD manifests as obsessive violent thoughts and worrying about social situations.) Because so many Americans follow celebrity news closely, these depictions are crucial in shaping how we all view mental illness generally.

It’s not hard to imagine that there must be a better way to write about these issues. But what might that look like?

Jenn Brandel, a social worker, thinks that a little bit of media training could go a long way. In media coverage of celebrity antics, it’s not uncommon for terms like “manic episode” or “borderline” to get thrown around as a shorthand for bad judgment and wild behavior, reinforcing negative stereotypes. Taking the time to define these terms, as they are used in a clinical context, can help chip away at this stigma.

Brandel also advises against presuming that every unconventional decision a person with mental illness makes is automatically connected to their diagnosis. Is Davidson’s whirlwind romance driven by some borderline personality disorder–influenced impulsivity, or Kanye’s Twitter meltdown an indication of a manic episode? Perhaps. But you don’t have to have a mental illness to engage in impulsive behavior, and plenty of people living with mental illness are thoughtful, kind, and well-behaved.

Treating someone’s mental illness as their primary decision-maker is reductive, and fuels the notion that people are defined by, and incapable of overcoming, their diagnosis — when it’s just one part of a multifaceted identity.

Because of this, it’s wrong to assume that someone is living with a mental illness just because you think they’re acting oddly. Casual armchair diagnoses of “bipolar” or “OCD” may seem harmless, but they rely on stereotypes that reinforce the stigma around mental illness.

People with mental illnesses are not curiosities to be observed and studied. Giving them — especially celebrities who have a large platform — the chance to share their perspective can offer much-needed nuance to our discussions of mental health.

Beyond the discussion of mental health, there’s a larger question of why we love to turn celebrities’ darkest moments into entertainment. It’s possible that writing off these public “meltdowns” as the byproduct of mental illness allows us to feel superior to the people who seem to have it all, that dismissing the powerful and wealthy as “crazy” helps us feel more secure in our own lives.

But that kind of attitude comes at a cost to our empathy — and our understanding of mental health in general. Perhaps it would be better if we stopped treating celebrities’ personal lives like a reality show, obsessing over every detail of their potentially unhealthy antics. You don’t have to have a mental illness to go on a Twitter rampage or make rash decisions about your romantic life, but if you do have such an illness, having those behaviors amped up by the media isn’t going to help.

It’s probably best for celebrities’ mental health if we stop treating them as an essential part of the 24-hour news cycle. It would also be better for the mental health of readers for whom that bit of celebrity gossip hits a little too close to home.

Lux Alptraum is a writer whose work has been featured in the New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Hustler, and more. Her first book, Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal, comes out this November.

First Person is Vox’s home for compelling, provocative narrative essays. Do you have a story to share? Read our submission guidelines, and pitch us at firstperson@vox.com.

Original Source -> The damaging way we talk about celebrities and mental health

via The Conservative Brief

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Social Media, Personality and identity constructions

Personality

Success

Influencers

Social media influencers (SMIs) represent a new type of independent third party endorser who shape audience attitudes through blogs, tweets, and the use of other social media (Freberg, Graham, McGaughey, & Freberg, 2010). Research shows us that 4o percent of Twitter users had made a purchase as a direct result of an influencer’s Tweet (Newberry, 2017).  For marketers this is great opportunity. On Instagram brands are spending 1 billion dollar per year on influencers.

Celebrity endorsement could be seen as the first form of influencing. But anno 2017 a SMI could be anyone because of the digital age of online connection. Regular people can become “celebrities” with powerfully engaged social media followers (Newberry, 2017).

Marketers are making great use of this. Newberry tells them to think of the SMI as another arrow in their marketing quiver. Take for example DJ Khalid who has over 6 million followers on Snapchat and is dubbed “King of Snapchat” by The Washington Post. The DJ was hired by The Las Vegas Convention and Visitors Authority for an account takeover that brought in more than 350.000 views in the first two day alone. By this they’d reached a far more wider audience and segmented their efforts in ways that would never be possible without the influencer DJ Khalid.

Other influencers could be vloggers on Youtube or bloggers on Instagram. It is a convenient way of marketing for many brands and they are making great use of it.

Failure

Millennials and their identity crisis

“Millennials also are the most attached to social media, with the amusing dichotomy existing in the statistics where the group is the most inclined to post a selfie online, but also the most likely to declare that people share too much on the internet (Moore, 2014).”

Moore wrote an article about the identity crisis of the Millennial, which is caused by a lot more than only Social Media of course but he is right when saying they are very attached to social media. More than other generations born before 1980. Millennials have to put up with a lot of influences and high speed changing technologies. Are they capable of changing alongside with it? A group of researchers found that the use of Social Media has consequences for one’s psychological, emotional and physical well-being and social development (Bolton, Hoefnagels, Migchels, Kabadayi, & Gruber, 2013). Depression and loneliness can be both consequences and antecedents of Social Media use and could lead to internet addiction. This group is also more likely to engage in risky online behaviour and expects their social community will help when things go south.

Identity

Success

Anonymous Listener

This might seem odd whereas the topic is about identity, meaning who a person is or its qualities that makes him different from the rest (Cambridge Dictionary, 2017) but now is anonymous. Its identity is unknown. Precisely this is what could be helpful to many who are surfing the World Wide Web.

An amazing example is the web community 7 Cups of Tea who offer Listeners for free to the ones who need an ear. Found by psychologist in residence Glen Moriarty who came up with the idea of the web community when talking to his wife about how sometimes someone just need someone to listen (Winsby, 2015).

These Listeners are special trained individuals who want to offer their help to people who want or need emotional support. There are special chatrooms for anxiety, depression, disability support, LGBTQ+, relationship support, Share Your Story, family support and teen chatrooms. Listeners jump in and help the discussion stay productive and supportive. Anyone can join.

Being anonymous is what makes this community possible to reach out to when in pain.  Being a Listener means having a great skill, which is used in real life therapy as well: actually hear what the client has to say and give them support to keep going.

Failure

Is it really aunt Marge?

The last time you’ve seen her was at your cousins boyfriends uncles wife her birthday. 6 years ago. You all had a blast. Or was it last week? It doesn’t really matter to the fact that she just send you a message on a Social Network Site:

Help! I’m so sorry to bother you with this and I know it’s been a while since we spoke, but I need your help here. The other day I decided to take a trip out of the country just to brake my routine for a moment. So I went and I’ve been out here for a week, I’ll tell you all about it when I get back, but my bag got stolen!  My phone, cash money, passport! All is gone. So I need your help! Could you please please please wire about 500,- to me so I can get home? Please! You’re an Angel!

Oh poor aunt Marge. What an inconvenienced situation she got herself into.  Or was she? Spoiler: it wasn’t aunt Marge. This is a (fictive) scam message. A Fraudster would hack a Facebook account and send messages to friends or family. Simple phishing software or malware can swipe users’ account information without their having ever known that they were targeted, thus leaving all of the user’s friends and family vulnerable to such attacks (Velasco, 2016). As we have seen in the previous blogpost in the last video (yeah, you’ve watched that one, did you), you were warned on what to do and don’t on the internet. Giving personal information cam seem harmless but is in fact pretty dangerous and can lead to the scamming of your own friends.  

There are many examples of Facebook scams, from suggested job offer posts to secret sister (after secret Santa) scams. All with one goal: purchasing money from unknowing innocent Social Media users. The important key here is the fact that scammers use a fake identity to mislead their victims. Looking from the scammers point of view many cases where a success. Where they did manage to receive money from “friends and family”. But being one of those goodhearted loved ones this is quite a loss.

[mwheelerbooks]

Something to Celebrate?

“Titties, gentlemen?” 

 A disembodied masculine voice barks from the periphery of the crowded herd of tourists pressing forward on the northbound side of the South Las Vegas Boulevard walkway. Oddly the obscene comment doesn’t draw a single foul look or comment signifying offense. Well, I guess it’s not that odd; this is Sin City, right? In fact, amongst the male faction, several singular eyebrows rise in the name of curiosity.

Truth be told, the disembodied voice may have publicly proposed an obscene question, but for any heterosexual male, it’s an offer that cannot be dismissed out of hand and demands some level of consideration. I’m certainly not in the market for said offer, but even my initial reaction is to search for the source of the broadcast as to scrutinize this street merchant of mammary glands for any glimmer of reliability. I scan the crowd and a few steps later I hear a clap as if fingertips have just slapped a palm, followed by the sound of a deck of cards being riffle-shuffled, followed by a pause — long enough to mislead you to believe that the random racquet has been terminated — followed by another loud, sobering clap. 

Slap!

This chorus of disruptive sounds come from a short, round, brown-skinned woman standing directly in front of me. Her obstructive presence calls for an immediate halt of my forward progress.

Slap!

She slaps a stack of promotional card across another stack of cards in her left palm and exhorts, “Come get a free drink and lap — “Before she can finish the sentence, yet another disembodied voice surfaces from the crowd and then makes his presence known with a poke to my lateral right bicep with his own stack of cards. He says, “AVN Awards, buddy?” while shaking a stack of rebate cards to the upcoming award show.

With my hotel behind me — no turning back — a tightly packed crowd to my left and the two “porn slappers” to my north and east, in an annoyingly harmless manner of being cornered, I felt trapped. The solicitor’s eyes follow my lanyard from my neck to the attached ID badge dangling over my belly.

He recants, “Oh, you’re good. Right?” I say, “Not going. I’m not big on ceremonies.”

He offers me a puzzled look and disappears into the herd. I shake past my northern obstacle and stop at the next curb where my west-bound Uber awaits. The driver recognizes my press ID as well and inquires if I’ll be attending the award show. Again I give a somewhat short answer that illustrates my disdain for ceremony.

I then sit quietly for some time during the short drive before my compulsion to explain overwhelms my desire for a moment of introspection.

“It’s a convention mostly. The award show is the last day. I don’t plan on attending. I have never been a terribly ceremonious person. Honestly, I don’t understand them and they make me gravely uncomfortable. The idea of dressing in special outfits and acting in way that is inconsistent with everything we know as normal is unsettling to me. It’s like grown-ass adults playing make believe in front of other grown-ass adults who are encouraging the entire production. It feels like the twilight zone. It’s discomfiting to be a part of such activities and even more uneasy to watch. Ugh… The whole demand of the spectacle, you wear this and they will wear that. Stand here! At this time she will sing this. Walk here at this time! Start the music at this point!”

The driver giggles a bit and offers, “But I heard it’s quite the event.”

“An event of this type is generally overly scripted in an attempt to appear as if it flows freely and naturally, when in reality most ceremonies are an orchestrated circus performance of uncomfortable stops and starts and awkward transitions that leave the engaged observer and participants with anticipatory gut bubbles. The entire performance is nerve wracking for those wishing it goes well and those hoping they do well. All of this to mumbles of, ‘Oh, this is so beautiful’, ‘they’ve done a magnificent job’. While I am typically surprised no level-headed individual dares break the fourth wall to turn to someone and say, ‘This is ridiculous. Someone should stop this modern day minstrel show before the children who actually believe in make believe get offended.’”

We arrive at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino before I finish my dissertation on why ceremonies suck. I feel no need to continue for, without his knowledge of my conversation with the male street solicitor, in the rearview mirror I see the driver issue the exact same look of confusion as the porn slapper offered minutes earlier. I exit the Uber without furthering my protest.

The Hard Rock Casino, basically a modern-day Sodom or Gomorrah. The temporary home of the Earths’s scantily-clad exhibitionists, degenerates, perverts and sex workers. And those are just a few of the positives. The walk though the casino is a trip through the spectrum of human emotions. My route to the entrance of the convention carries me through pockets of tension, enthusiasm, elation and despair. But once I arrive at the entrance of the AVN, there is nothing but unencumbered delight and appreciation emitting from the faithful.

It’s like a euphoric oasis in the midst of a desert of faceless vessels of uncertain sentiment whose emotional liability is predicated on attaining financial gains against unfavorable odds. The convention’s atmosphere reeks of the Christmas Day feeling of grateful children and adoring parents. But this family is composed of individuals that hold love, not between mom and dad and son and daughter, but between grateful adult performers and their adoring fans. You see, like Christmas, the joy the convention brings can be felt just by witnessing the atmosphere of the celebration, yet its significance is much more than just the camaraderie and love held by the individuals who attend and participate in it.

It takes me a few turns around the convention before I truly grasp the meaning of what it is that I am attending. This is a pornography convention! Sex on camera! The apex of inappropriate. The pinnacle of taboo. And these perverts are on the loose. Half-naked doms and DP queens are out in force and pulling slots right alongside your blue-haired granny.

An industry, in some form or another, that has seductively danced along and across the periphery of legality and sacrilege since the dawn of man. To civilized society, it is either the faucet or the drain depending on who you ask, or at least depending on whether the setting you ask is in public or private. But here in this Biblical city from the book of Genesis, this blight on civilized society is celebrated without conscience. Celebrated by the performer. Celebrated by the viewer. Celebrated by the accessory manufacturer. Celebrated by the tech folk who make it all possible.

In the immortal words of Dave Chapelle, “It’s a celebration, bitches!”And nowhere, and at no time, can you find so many cheerleaders for recorded and live sex entertainment in one place. During these four days, in these halls, the cerebral real estate in the minds of industry workers and fans that questions why porn isn’t as socially acceptable as let’s say… violent movies expands outside of the individual’s own reality and grows to the size of three grand halls located in the Hard Rock Hotel. And once it has expanded and filled the halls with the imagination of infinite perverts, the final result is an undeniable shit-show carnival of sex.

This space is where the concept of the obscenity of pornography is no longer valid, and the industry is no more offensive than a Facebook post of a bikini-strewn bachelorette party posing seductively poolside at the Elara Hotel. Like the Facebook post, it happens, it’s real life, and someone just happened to record it and now folks are enjoying it.

Upon crossing the threshold to the first convention hall, the performers’ hall, I feel the vibe and the challenges to the socially-acceptable began instantly. My head snaps to attention as the announcer’s voice roars over the loudspeaker, “Come one, come all! Don’t be shy, ladies and gentleman. It’s all here for you! There is pussy here, in amounts that can’t be calculated due to the limits of modern arithmetic as we know it!”Like all conventions, the hall is split between small, large and mega booths; production company displays decorated with still images while barely-clothed entertainers sign photos in front of their likeness and webcam performers are involved in live shoots from their laptops. The uneven flow of unholy Xmas Day celebrators packs the hall and halts my progress. I am aggressively bumped by an obnoxiously-endowed woman, with an audacious makeup job, dressed in black stretch pants and no top other than black electrical tape X’s covering her areolas.

Oh yeah, and she’s pulling a leash at the other end of which is a woman wearing an authentic dog mask. So authentic, and so alive, you would think Buffalo Bill from Silence of the Lambs has just killed, skinned and fashioned a mask out of the facial skin of a French mastiff in the casino, then sold it to this ultra-breasted woman and her sub just before entry.

The weirdest thing about my feelings toward the ridiculous scene is that the woman on all fours sporting the Turner and Hooch mask doesn’t initiate my contemplation as much as the size of the dog owner’s breasts. My only thoughts are, “Damn, it’s amazing what bags of saline, makeup and complete disregard for what normal God-fearing humans consider taboo can create.But what do God-fearing people know anyway? We are all disillusioned.

Maybe this girl gets it. Maybe this busty young lady has decoded the Matrix. Shit, she’s the one with an awe-inspiring physique and the smarts to have a dog that can clean up its own mess and double as a designated driver/babysitter/errand runner if she is ever in a tough spot. Yeah, she gets it. Down with the disillusioned!Maybe I’ve lived too long or seen too much, but the human on a leash doesn’t even move me to thought until after the fact. I cast my mind back to the disembodied voice soliciting “TITTIES,” and I guess the answer is, “Yes.”I moved though the entertainer’s hall to tech hall then to the accessory hall. The accessory hall was of note due to cutting edge equipment of debauchery on display. Everything from squid tentacled dildos to a motorized female perineum. The female grundle is particularly impressive. It undulates and has an internal peristalsis directed at using vacuum suction to draw out the masculine products of meiosis. Genius. One has to think if the engineers who designed this machine were ever set to purpose in the name of water purification, northern Africa would have so much excess potable water countries currently under critical water stress could start franchising Aquatica water parks across the Sahara.

I must have walked that convention front to back a hundred times and each time I’m as amazed as I was on my first walk through, not by some perceived overload of indecency but by the good-natured feel that the fraternity fills the place with. The contiguous thread through each hall is the talent and the fans. At every turn, there is a barter exchange of goodwill from grateful fans for the genuine appreciation from welcoming performers. This symbiotic relationship is consistent from hall to hall and day to day.Celebrities, the handicapped, tech geeks, midgets and their adult entertainment icons all together celebrating their holy holiday with true appreciation for each other.After a long few days, I sit at the center bar of the Hard Rock, just outside of the convention halls. Strips of vertical hanging light fixtures on the ceiling of the center bar encircle the inner periphery of the counter. And although in reality, the lights pulsate from the top to bottom of the fixture, in their reflection on the bar top video slot screen they virtually radiate from its top to deep inside, racing to some sort of infinity that exists deep within the flat screen, beyond sight. It’s enough to put you into a trance. I sit at the bar, allowing my mind to wander to within myself, eons away from the organized mayhem of the AVN Convention.

I begin to think of my aversion to ceremonies. I begin to think how I have a high school diploma and three degrees and I have only attended one graduation ceremony. I begin to think of how I avoid weddings, quinceaneras, bar and bat mitzvahs like the plague. Again I question the celebration of things that came to us without effort (birthdays and turning some age), things we accomplish without choice (try living in this country and graduating high school and some type of college), things that society demands or expects (weddings or accomplishment awards). Everyone who lives ages, everyone who wants to provide for themselves or their family pursues some level of education, anyone one born on Earth is expected to marry and every industry has to have an employee who performs relatively better than other employees despite the level of performance of the said employee. But year in and year out, we celebrate pedestrian accomplishments.But imagine you were part of a multi-billion dollar industry, you loved what you did, and you were good at it, but the discipline you have chosen to excel in is subjectively deemed to be lacking morality, substance, talent or social acceptance. Think about if you were truly one of the best at what you do but you could never sashay into career day with your admiring child, your mother could never casually brag about her child to friends and family and your religious leader or the political party you support could never publicly support you. If from day one of your existence, everything taught to you and the people around you was directed at you resisting the execution of something you loved and excelled at? Where would you go for your recognition but to the people who recognize and accept you for what you do and who you are?It is for these people, it is for this struggle, and it is for these reasons, that the adult entertainment industry deserves its ceremony and it is for this reason I will attend.

M.Wheeler

Also by M. Wheeler Books: The Preceded by Chaos Story follows Mitchell, a young Emergency Medicine Doctor from Volume 0 to the plus volumes, as he and his views of the world around him change; as well as, following him retrograde in time through the minus volumes as the reader explores the chaos that cultivated the need for Mitchell to transform into something better…

[theconservativebrief]

A Twitter user known as @cakefacedcutie tweeted out a photo in late June of SNL star Pete Davidson arm in arm with his new girlfriend, the pop star Ariana Grande. Davidson’s face is obscured from the camera by the hood of his plaid jacket; Grande, licking a lollipop, gazes at him with adoration. Printed over Davidson’s face are the words “Men that need therapists,” Grande is annotated with the word “Me.”

The photo struck a nerve, rapidly racking up over 30,000 retweets. It wasn’t hard to see why. Davidson, who has been open about being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and Grande spent the month of June in the news as their relationship progressed from new romance to cohabitation and engagement. Given that Davidson is open about living with borderline personality disorder, many found it easy to interpret his whirlwind romance as the product of mental illness.

Davidson isn’t the only celebrity with a mental illness who’s been in the media spotlight of late. A few weeks before Davidson and Grande got together, the openly bipolar Kanye West drew attention for a frenzied burst of Twitter activity and some shocking political statements. And in early June, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, two celebrities who suffered from depression, died by suicide within a few days of each other.

As someone who lives with mental illness (specifically, a well-managed case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD), it’s frustrating to watch when the behavior of celebrities grappling with their mental health is treated as fodder for the celebrity gossip mill. Few outlets show any consideration for how their coverage contributes to misunderstandings and misinformation about mental illness, let alone how it affects the lives of the people who are the subjects of the articles.

Covering mental illness will always be a fraught endeavor. Most of us are more familiar with the stereotypes about mental illness than the facts, and people who live with mental illness deal with a stigma that positions them as unfixable, untrustworthy, and totally broken. As a result, coverage of mental health is often problematic.

But so long as celebrities’ personal lives are considered newsworthy, it’s a challenge we’ll have to deal with. So how do we in the general public and in the media talk about the mental health of celebrities in a way that’s respectful, thoughtful, and, above all, doesn’t actively harm both celebrities and everyday people dealing with mental illness?

When their antics are deemed entertaining, they’re egged on and encouraged; when they turn self-destructive, they’re chided for not taking better care of themselves. Mental illness most frequently enters the conversation in the wake of violence or suicide, reinforcing a bleak, simplistic portrayal of what is often a complex collection of conditions.

Frustratingly, most of the public demonstrates only the most superficial, sensationalistic understanding of what mental illnesses even are, one that’s frequently informed by more stereotype than fact (I may have OCD, but I’m not, as many believe, obsessed with counting or cleanliness — my OCD manifests as obsessive violent thoughts and worrying about social situations). Because so many Americans follow celebrity news closely, these depictions are crucial in shaping how we all view mental illness generally.

It’s not hard to imagine that there must be a better way to write about these issues. But what might that look like?

Jenn Brandel, a social worker, thinks that a little bit of media training could go a long way. In media coverage of celebrity antics, it’s not uncommon for terms like “manic episode” or “borderline” to get thrown around as a shorthand for bad judgment and wild behavior, reinforcing negative stereotypes. Taking the time to define these terms, as they are used in a clinical context, can help to chip away at this stigma.

Brandel also advises against presuming that every unconventional decision a person with mental illness makes is automatically connected to their diagnosis. Is Davidson’s whirlwind romance driven by some borderline-personality-disorder-influenced impulsivity, or Kanye’s Twitter meltdown an indication of a manic episode? Perhaps. But you don’t have to have a mental illness to engage in impulsive behavior, and plenty of people living with mental illness are thoughtful, kind, and well-behaved.

Treating someone’s mental illness as their primary decision-maker is reductive, and fuels the notion that people are defined by, and incapable of overcoming, their diagnosis — when it’s just one part of a multifaceted identity.

Because of this, it’s wrong to assume that someone’s living with a mental illness just because you think they’re acting oddly. Casual armchair diagnoses of “bipolar” or “OCD” may seem harmless, but they rely on stereotypes which reinforces the stigma around mental illness.

People with mental illnesses are not curiosities to be observed and studied. Giving them — especially celebrities who have a large platform — the chance to share their perspective can offer much-needed nuance to our discussions of mental health.

Beyond the discussion of mental health, there’s a larger question of why we love to turn celebrities’ darkest moments into entertainment. It’s possible that writing off these public “meltdowns” as the byproduct of mental illness allows us to feel superior to the people who seem to have it all, that dismissing the powerful and wealthy as “crazy” helps us feel more secure in our own lives.

But that kind of attitude comes at a cost to our empathy — and our understanding of mental health in general. Perhaps it would be better if we stopped treating celebrities’ personal lives like a reality show, obsessing over every detail of their potentially unhealthy antics. You don’t have to have a mental illness to go on a Twitter rampage or make rash decisions about your romantic life, but, if you do have such an illness, having those behaviors amped up by the media isn’t going to help.

It’s probably best for celebrities’ mental health if we stop treating them as an essential part of the 24-hour news cycle. It would also be better for the mental health of readers for whom that bit of celebrity gossip hits a little too close to home.

Lux Alptraum is a writer whose work has been featured in the New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Hustler, and more. Her first book, Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal, comes out this November.

First Person is Vox’s home for compelling, provocative narrative essays. Do you have a story to share? Read our submission guidelines, and pitch us at firstperson@vox.com.

Original Source -> Why it’s damaging to blame celebrity “meltdowns” on mental illness

via The Conservative Brief

[theconservativebrief]

A Twitter user known as @cakefacedcutie tweeted out a photo in late June of SNL star Pete Davidson arm in arm with his new girlfriend, the pop star Ariana Grande. Davidson’s face is obscured from the camera by the hood of his plaid jacket; Grande, licking a lollipop, gazes at him with adoration. Printed over Davidson’s face are the words “Men that need therapists,” Grande is annotated with the word “Me.”

The photo struck a nerve, rapidly racking up over 30,000 retweets. It wasn’t hard to see why. Davidson, who has been open about being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and Grande spent the month of June in the news as their relationship progressed from new romance to cohabitation and engagement. Given that Davidson is open about living with borderline personality disorder, many found it easy to interpret his whirlwind romance as the product of mental illness.

Davidson isn’t the only celebrity with a mental illness who’s been in the media spotlight of late. A few weeks before Davidson and Grande got together, the openly bipolar Kanye West drew attention for a frenzied burst of Twitter activity and some shocking political statements. And in early June, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, two celebrities who suffered from depression, died by suicide within a few days of each other.

As someone who lives with mental illness (specifically, a well-managed case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD), it’s frustrating to watch when the behavior of celebrities grappling with their mental health is treated as fodder for the celebrity gossip mill. Few outlets show any consideration for how their coverage contributes to misunderstandings and misinformation about mental illness, let alone how it affects the lives of the people who are the subjects of the articles.

Covering mental illness will always be a fraught endeavor. Most of us are more familiar with the stereotypes about mental illness than the facts, and people who live with mental illness deal with a stigma that positions them as unfixable, untrustworthy, and totally broken. As a result, coverage of mental health is often problematic.

But so long as celebrities’ personal lives are considered newsworthy, it’s a challenge we’ll have to deal with. So how do we in the general public and in the media talk about the mental health of celebrities in a way that’s respectful, thoughtful, and, above all, doesn’t actively harm both celebrities and everyday people dealing with mental illness?

When their antics are deemed entertaining, they’re egged on and encouraged; when they turn self-destructive, they’re chided for not taking better care of themselves. Mental illness most frequently enters the conversation in the wake of violence or suicide, reinforcing a bleak, simplistic portrayal of what is often a complex collection of conditions.

Frustratingly, most of the public demonstrates only the most superficial, sensationalistic understanding of what mental illnesses even are, one that’s frequently informed by more stereotype than fact (I may have OCD, but I’m not, as many believe, obsessed with counting or cleanliness — my OCD manifests as obsessive violent thoughts and worrying about social situations). Because so many Americans follow celebrity news closely, these depictions are crucial in shaping how we all view mental illness generally.

It’s not hard to imagine that there must be a better way to write about these issues. But what might that look like?

Jenn Brandel, a social worker, thinks that a little bit of media training could go a long way. In media coverage of celebrity antics, it’s not uncommon for terms like “manic episode” or “borderline” get thrown around as a shorthand for bad judgment and wild behavior, reinforcing negative stereotypes. Taking the time to define these terms, as they are used in a clinical context, can help to chip away at this stigma.

Brandel also advises against presuming that every unconventional decision a person with mental illness makes is automatically connected to their diagnosis. Is Davidson’s whirlwind romance driven by some borderline-personality-disorder-influenced impulsivity, or Kanye’s Twitter meltdown an indication of a manic episode? Perhaps. But you don’t have to have a mental illness to engage in impulsive behavior, and plenty of people living with mental illness are thoughtful, kind, and well-behaved.

Treating someone’s mental illness as their primary decision-maker is reductive, and fuels the notion that people are defined by, and incapable of overcoming, their diagnosis — when it’s just one part of a multifaceted identity.

Because of this, it’s wrong to assume that someone’s living with a mental illness just because you think they’re acting oddly. Casual armchair diagnoses of “bipolar” or “OCD” may seem harmless, but they rely on stereotypes which reinforces the stigma around mental illness.

People with mental illnesses are not curiosities to be observed and studied. Giving them — especially celebrities who have a large platform — the chance to share their perspective can offer much-needed nuance to our discussions of mental health.

Beyond the discussion of mental health, there’s a larger question of why we love to turn celebrities’ darkest moments into entertainment. It’s possible that writing off these public “meltdowns” as the byproduct of mental illness allows us to feel superior to the people who seem to have it all, that dismissing the powerful and wealthy as “crazy” helps us feel more secure in our own lives.

But that kind of attitude comes at a cost to our empathy — and our understanding of mental health in general. Perhaps it would be better if we stopped treating celebrities’ personal lives like a reality show, obsessing over every detail of their potentially unhealthy antics. You don’t have to have a mental illness to go on a Twitter rampage or make rash decisions about your romantic life, but, if you do have such an illness, having those behaviors amped up by the media isn’t going to help.

It’s probably best for celebrities’ mental health if we stop treating them as an essential part of the 24-hour news cycle. It would also be better for the mental health of readers for whom that bit of celebrity gossip hits a little too close to home.

Lux Alptraum is a writer whose work has been featured in the New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Hustler, and more. Her first book, Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal, comes out this November.

First Person is Vox’s home for compelling, provocative narrative essays. Do you have a story to share? Read our submission guidelines, and pitch us at firstperson@vox.com.

Original Source -> Why it’s damaging to blame celebrity “meltdowns” on mental illness

via The Conservative Brief